1 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:07,080 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the 2 00:00:07,160 --> 00:00:10,959 Speaker 1: time poor parent who just wants answers now. So a 3 00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:13,239 Speaker 1: quick announcement on the Happy Family's podcast before we dive 4 00:00:13,280 --> 00:00:17,479 Speaker 1: into today's I'll do better tomorrow, next week, next week, missus, 5 00:00:17,520 --> 00:00:21,320 Speaker 1: Happy Families, twenty six years, twenty six years of wedded bliss. 6 00:00:21,640 --> 00:00:26,600 Speaker 1: We were married in nineteen ninety eight, six children, twenty 7 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:30,360 Speaker 1: six years. Can't wait for next weekend where we're not 8 00:00:30,400 --> 00:00:32,200 Speaker 1: going to be talking about what we can do better tomorrow, 9 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 1: it's just our wedding anniversary weekend. Can't wait to get 10 00:00:34,680 --> 00:00:35,199 Speaker 1: away for it. 11 00:00:36,280 --> 00:00:38,000 Speaker 2: Well, I'm having a look in the mirror and I 12 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:39,600 Speaker 2: seem to have a lot more gray hairs than you. 13 00:00:39,680 --> 00:00:43,159 Speaker 2: So what does that say about our blissful marriage? 14 00:00:43,280 --> 00:00:48,120 Speaker 1: I believe it says that I've got great genes. I 15 00:00:48,159 --> 00:00:50,640 Speaker 1: have got great They reckon. I don't know how true 16 00:00:50,640 --> 00:00:53,560 Speaker 1: this is, but they reckon that your mother's father, whether 17 00:00:53,600 --> 00:00:58,120 Speaker 1: he is bald or not, determines whether or not men 18 00:00:58,160 --> 00:01:02,080 Speaker 1: will be bald. So my mum's dad ninety five, ninety 19 00:01:02,120 --> 00:01:04,480 Speaker 1: six years of age, still got a full head of 20 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:07,360 Speaker 1: hair and only started going gray in his seventies. I'm 21 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:10,360 Speaker 1: putting it down to good gens. Definitely putting it down 22 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:11,000 Speaker 1: to good gents. 23 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 2: I'll let you keep it so today. 24 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:15,080 Speaker 1: On the podcast. I'll do about it tomorrow. This is 25 00:01:15,120 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 1: where we dive into the week that was. We focus 26 00:01:17,080 --> 00:01:19,360 Speaker 1: on what we've gotten right, what we've gotten wrong, with 27 00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:21,360 Speaker 1: the intent that we are going to be better parents 28 00:01:21,400 --> 00:01:24,080 Speaker 1: ourselves on reflecting, but also because we want to help 29 00:01:24,120 --> 00:01:27,800 Speaker 1: you to be better parents in your home. I'm going 30 00:01:27,840 --> 00:01:30,759 Speaker 1: to go first. I'm going to go first because it 31 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:33,039 Speaker 1: hasn't been great. There's no other way to say. It 32 00:01:33,120 --> 00:01:36,920 Speaker 1: just has not been great for me at the moment. 33 00:01:37,160 --> 00:01:39,320 Speaker 1: We've made no secret of it. This is always a 34 00:01:39,360 --> 00:01:41,479 Speaker 1: really busy time of the year for us every March. 35 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:43,640 Speaker 1: I tend to be traveling a lot. There's a lot 36 00:01:43,640 --> 00:01:46,080 Speaker 1: of speaking, there's a lot going on. For the past week. 37 00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:49,960 Speaker 1: I've been in Perth. I've been at Melmae Catholic College. 38 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: I've been at Peter Moy's Anglican, Frederick Irwin Anglican, and 39 00:01:54,920 --> 00:01:57,200 Speaker 1: I said Anglican. I'm really struggling to get across all 40 00:01:57,240 --> 00:01:58,800 Speaker 1: of this. It's the Red Eye doing it to me 41 00:01:59,120 --> 00:02:02,000 Speaker 1: and West Leederville Primary School as well. Just loads and 42 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:05,280 Speaker 1: loads of workover in Perth, speaking with hundreds and hundreds 43 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:09,440 Speaker 1: of families about how to make their families happier. And 44 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: that means that I just haven't been home much. Next week, 45 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:14,239 Speaker 1: I've got a whole lot of stuff happening in Sydney 46 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:17,800 Speaker 1: before we have our weekend away. These are the challenges 47 00:02:17,800 --> 00:02:19,720 Speaker 1: that parents have to make all the time when it 48 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:22,400 Speaker 1: comes to providing for a family and doing the work 49 00:02:22,440 --> 00:02:23,920 Speaker 1: that needs to be done and still trying to be 50 00:02:24,040 --> 00:02:27,320 Speaker 1: present for their kids. But on the weekend before I 51 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:29,639 Speaker 1: was going away, I had a whole lot of stuff 52 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:31,359 Speaker 1: going on, trying to get all the work done, trying 53 00:02:31,360 --> 00:02:33,960 Speaker 1: to get everything prepped. And I don't know how to 54 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 1: say it other than to say that I kind of 55 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:37,800 Speaker 1: cracked a little bit. I came into the house after 56 00:02:37,840 --> 00:02:40,560 Speaker 1: being gone all day, working my bum off, doing all 57 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:42,960 Speaker 1: the right stuff, trying to be good for everybody and 58 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:44,520 Speaker 1: do all the right things, and I came into the 59 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:47,360 Speaker 1: house and well, the kids were not doing what they 60 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:49,560 Speaker 1: were supposed to be doing. Everything was a mess. They 61 00:02:49,600 --> 00:02:52,200 Speaker 1: just hadn't done the basic stuff, and I kind of, 62 00:02:53,360 --> 00:02:55,239 Speaker 1: I don't want to say that I lost it. I 63 00:02:55,280 --> 00:02:58,760 Speaker 1: don't know if that's accurate. Kylie but I definitely wasn't patient. 64 00:02:58,880 --> 00:03:02,400 Speaker 1: I was frustrated. Rest that frustration, and I let the 65 00:03:02,480 --> 00:03:04,880 Speaker 1: kids know that I wasn't really happy. 66 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:06,399 Speaker 2: I call it a meltdown. 67 00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:10,320 Speaker 1: You got to think so much. So you know what's 68 00:03:10,320 --> 00:03:12,720 Speaker 1: really funny about this. I mean, I'm being really really 69 00:03:12,960 --> 00:03:16,520 Speaker 1: candid here. What's really frustrating for me around this is 70 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:20,040 Speaker 1: that I could feel it happening. And I teach people 71 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:22,680 Speaker 1: day in and day out what to do high motions, 72 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:25,600 Speaker 1: low intelligence. Right. I teach people how to take a breath, 73 00:03:25,720 --> 00:03:30,639 Speaker 1: step outside, touch the grass, breathe, connect, move your body, 74 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:33,480 Speaker 1: splash the cold water, really basic things as well as 75 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:36,640 Speaker 1: creating psychological distance. Imagining in ten years time, when I 76 00:03:36,680 --> 00:03:39,240 Speaker 1: look back on this, what do I want everybody's memories 77 00:03:39,240 --> 00:03:41,480 Speaker 1: to be? Imagining that I've got an audience watching me. 78 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:43,600 Speaker 1: I mean, I've I've got ten or twelve different things 79 00:03:43,640 --> 00:03:45,839 Speaker 1: in the toolkit that I can lean on to try 80 00:03:45,840 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 1: to make this work better. It's a big pile of 81 00:03:48,800 --> 00:03:51,680 Speaker 1: tools that I can select. And you know the tool 82 00:03:51,720 --> 00:03:55,600 Speaker 1: that I selected on what was it Sunday night, the 83 00:03:55,680 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 1: screaming banshee, Yeah, the hammer. I just I decided the 84 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:00,800 Speaker 1: tool that I need to know as the hammer, and 85 00:04:00,840 --> 00:04:02,840 Speaker 1: I kind of went bang bang, bang, bang bang and 86 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:05,080 Speaker 1: got everyone in trouble and it was just horrible. 87 00:04:05,960 --> 00:04:08,080 Speaker 2: I'm going to put it out there. I know that 88 00:04:08,160 --> 00:04:11,840 Speaker 2: you talk about all of these amazing mindfulness practices that 89 00:04:11,880 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 2: you can do when you're in that space. 90 00:04:13,560 --> 00:04:15,120 Speaker 1: Well, they're not on mind from this practices. I'm not 91 00:04:15,160 --> 00:04:18,040 Speaker 1: big on mind from us. But they're all strategies that 92 00:04:18,080 --> 00:04:20,559 Speaker 1: are useful to help you to be better in the moment. 93 00:04:21,040 --> 00:04:24,800 Speaker 2: But when I'm feeling really frustrated, I want a hammer. 94 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:27,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, well that's kind of why I went for the hammer. 95 00:04:28,080 --> 00:04:31,720 Speaker 2: And there's this need to release a whole heap of 96 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:35,279 Speaker 2: pent up energy and me going and touching the grass 97 00:04:35,320 --> 00:04:35,880 Speaker 2: doesn't do that. 98 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:39,240 Speaker 1: Okay, the problem with using the hammer is that you 99 00:04:39,360 --> 00:04:42,800 Speaker 1: never do it and go, oh, nailed it. Just God, 100 00:04:42,839 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 1: that's so right tonight, and my family's happier as a result. 101 00:04:46,120 --> 00:04:49,360 Speaker 2: But can you come up with another hammer like thing 102 00:04:49,440 --> 00:04:50,120 Speaker 2: that you can do? 103 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:52,919 Speaker 1: No? And this is the thing, And in fact, research 104 00:04:52,920 --> 00:04:57,320 Speaker 1: shows that this sense that we're going to experience cathartest 105 00:04:57,360 --> 00:05:00,320 Speaker 1: by having a meltdown and losing the plot, it's not real. 106 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:02,039 Speaker 1: It doesn't happen. Now, It's true that there can be 107 00:05:02,080 --> 00:05:03,960 Speaker 1: a release, but we can get that release in a 108 00:05:04,000 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 1: million other healthier ways that don't do damage to trust 109 00:05:07,200 --> 00:05:10,160 Speaker 1: and to relationships. And I kind of I just blew it. 110 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:12,599 Speaker 1: And the worst thing, the thing that was most frustrating 111 00:05:12,600 --> 00:05:14,120 Speaker 1: for me out of all of it, was that I'd 112 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:17,880 Speaker 1: barely seen you that day. And when I did come 113 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:19,440 Speaker 1: back in the door and say, all right, let's get 114 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:21,280 Speaker 1: things going, I'm starting to lose the plot here, but 115 00:05:21,400 --> 00:05:24,240 Speaker 1: can we just pull things together? You had to go out. 116 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:26,040 Speaker 1: You were home for like ten minutes, and then you 117 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 1: had to go for an hour and a half. So 118 00:05:27,279 --> 00:05:28,800 Speaker 1: I meant that I wasn't even going to get that 119 00:05:28,880 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 1: time that I needed with you. That's kind of what really, 120 00:05:32,640 --> 00:05:35,000 Speaker 1: I guess blew it for me really set me off, 121 00:05:35,720 --> 00:05:39,600 Speaker 1: and Kylie, it was just awful, Like I watched the 122 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:43,320 Speaker 1: faces of our children as they saw with dismay that 123 00:05:43,400 --> 00:05:45,320 Speaker 1: after I'd been gone for so long and was getting 124 00:05:45,360 --> 00:05:47,600 Speaker 1: ready to go again, that this was what our night 125 00:05:47,680 --> 00:05:50,719 Speaker 1: was going to be. You weren't home, so I ate 126 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:53,680 Speaker 1: dinner in silence with two of the kids while the 127 00:05:53,720 --> 00:05:55,920 Speaker 1: other two kids were out with you, And it was 128 00:05:55,960 --> 00:06:00,280 Speaker 1: just all horrible. It was all too much. The thing 129 00:06:00,279 --> 00:06:02,640 Speaker 1: about blowing up. If there is a good thing, If 130 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:06,080 Speaker 1: there's a shiny silver liningto this, is that once you 131 00:06:06,200 --> 00:06:09,200 Speaker 1: blow up, everyone gets onto their best behavior, including you, 132 00:06:09,240 --> 00:06:11,600 Speaker 1: because you know, everyone knows that it was just horrible. 133 00:06:12,120 --> 00:06:14,239 Speaker 1: And the two kids that were at home really helped 134 00:06:14,279 --> 00:06:17,040 Speaker 1: to tidy things up. We got things in order, and 135 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:18,719 Speaker 1: while we were still waiting for you to come home, 136 00:06:19,200 --> 00:06:22,880 Speaker 1: I sat down and played chess with Emily and spent 137 00:06:22,960 --> 00:06:25,280 Speaker 1: some time talking to Lily, and we just we had 138 00:06:25,320 --> 00:06:27,360 Speaker 1: time together. So it was kind of like that recovery. 139 00:06:27,480 --> 00:06:30,919 Speaker 1: But I got to tell you, sometimes, being a parent, 140 00:06:31,080 --> 00:06:34,040 Speaker 1: when you're at the end of your rope, it's really, 141 00:06:34,040 --> 00:06:36,000 Speaker 1: really tough, and sometimes the best you can do is 142 00:06:36,040 --> 00:06:37,400 Speaker 1: just sort of tire knot in the end of that 143 00:06:37,480 --> 00:06:39,600 Speaker 1: rope and hold on and keep on swinging and hope 144 00:06:39,640 --> 00:06:41,360 Speaker 1: that you can find the energy to climb back up. 145 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:44,320 Speaker 1: The good news. The good news is that I was 146 00:06:44,320 --> 00:06:46,120 Speaker 1: able to climb back up later that night, and it 147 00:06:46,160 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 1: did feel better. It felt really good to make things right. 148 00:06:50,080 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 1: But my older better tomorrow is just a reminder there's 149 00:06:53,240 --> 00:06:57,240 Speaker 1: so many strategies, and diving in with the hammer is 150 00:06:57,360 --> 00:06:59,320 Speaker 1: never the best one, even though in the moment it 151 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:01,440 Speaker 1: feels like it might be because you feel like you 152 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:04,880 Speaker 1: need it, because high emotions equals low intelligence. So there 153 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:07,920 Speaker 1: you go. There there's my bad dad confession. Even with 154 00:07:08,680 --> 00:07:11,559 Speaker 1: twenty plus years of doing this under my bell, six kids, 155 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:15,600 Speaker 1: nine books, TV show, podcasts, every now and again, I 156 00:07:15,640 --> 00:07:20,680 Speaker 1: still melt down. How about you? What's your odd about 157 00:07:20,720 --> 00:07:21,120 Speaker 1: it tomorrow? 158 00:07:21,320 --> 00:07:24,120 Speaker 2: I love having conversations with our kids because I never 159 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:26,480 Speaker 2: know where it's going to lead me. And the other day, 160 00:07:26,800 --> 00:07:29,080 Speaker 2: one of our daughters was home helping me with some 161 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:31,480 Speaker 2: of the cleaning, and she walked into the room and 162 00:07:31,480 --> 00:07:34,040 Speaker 2: she just looked at me with these kind of glassy eyes, 163 00:07:34,520 --> 00:07:38,200 Speaker 2: and she said, Mum, I'm so glad that while I 164 00:07:38,240 --> 00:07:40,440 Speaker 2: was growing up, you never talked bad about your body. 165 00:07:42,280 --> 00:07:44,320 Speaker 2: And as I looked at her, I was trying to 166 00:07:44,360 --> 00:07:49,240 Speaker 2: remember her experience is growing up and what I did 167 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:52,680 Speaker 2: and didn't say. I feel like I've been really really intentional. 168 00:07:53,480 --> 00:07:56,400 Speaker 2: It is not how I've necessarily felt about my body 169 00:07:56,440 --> 00:07:59,560 Speaker 2: over the years. I've definitely had moments where I've really 170 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:01,560 Speaker 2: really struggled with how I look and the way my 171 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:06,280 Speaker 2: body's changed. But I've been really intentional about not tearing 172 00:08:06,320 --> 00:08:09,040 Speaker 2: my body to pieces in front of my kids, and 173 00:08:09,080 --> 00:08:12,240 Speaker 2: that one comment, it was just this one little statement 174 00:08:13,680 --> 00:08:17,120 Speaker 2: just was such a beautiful reminder of how important it is. 175 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:19,920 Speaker 2: And as she continued the conversation, she just acknowledged that 176 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:21,760 Speaker 2: over the last few weeks she's been hanging out with 177 00:08:21,800 --> 00:08:25,280 Speaker 2: some friends and even some family members and has just 178 00:08:25,320 --> 00:08:28,880 Speaker 2: been really really aware of how badly they talk about 179 00:08:28,920 --> 00:08:33,959 Speaker 2: themselves physically, and how it left her feeling not good enough. 180 00:08:34,720 --> 00:08:38,559 Speaker 2: And it clearly has made her reflect on how I 181 00:08:38,600 --> 00:08:41,640 Speaker 2: have spoken about her specifically and her body, but how 182 00:08:41,679 --> 00:08:44,080 Speaker 2: I also have spoken about mine. And it was just 183 00:08:44,120 --> 00:08:46,640 Speaker 2: this beautiful reminder to me of how important it is 184 00:08:46,679 --> 00:08:52,280 Speaker 2: that we are intentional about how we appreciate our bodies, 185 00:08:52,760 --> 00:08:55,600 Speaker 2: because at the end of the day, while ever I 186 00:08:55,679 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 2: focus on what I look like, I'm going to be miserable, 187 00:08:59,480 --> 00:09:03,800 Speaker 2: absolutely miserable, because I will never be like the pictures 188 00:09:03,840 --> 00:09:05,960 Speaker 2: in the magazines. I will never be that person. 189 00:09:06,120 --> 00:09:08,000 Speaker 1: But if you listen to people who are in those pictures, 190 00:09:08,120 --> 00:09:10,440 Speaker 1: the people who are in those magazines, they're actually quite 191 00:09:10,520 --> 00:09:13,280 Speaker 1: explicit about saying they're the most insecure people on the 192 00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:16,000 Speaker 1: planet because they're so obsessed with how they look. I 193 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:18,880 Speaker 1: was talking to one about other kids about this and 194 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:21,480 Speaker 1: she said, I just don't feel like I'm ever going 195 00:09:21,520 --> 00:09:24,200 Speaker 1: to be enough. And my comment was, no, you never 196 00:09:24,320 --> 00:09:26,720 Speaker 1: will be, because you never can be. Like what is enough? 197 00:09:27,280 --> 00:09:29,280 Speaker 1: At what point do you look at your stomach and say, 198 00:09:29,280 --> 00:09:31,360 Speaker 1: my stomach is now enough? At what point do you 199 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:33,200 Speaker 1: look at your shoulders or your arms, or your legs, 200 00:09:33,280 --> 00:09:35,680 Speaker 1: or your thighs, or your or your hips or your 201 00:09:35,679 --> 00:09:41,080 Speaker 1: face and say enough, it's perfect, It's just right. And 202 00:09:41,200 --> 00:09:44,520 Speaker 1: until you can actually do that and mean it, it 203 00:09:44,559 --> 00:09:47,360 Speaker 1: will never be enough. And it actually comes down to 204 00:09:47,400 --> 00:09:50,480 Speaker 1: this willingness to accept yourself as you are, the great 205 00:09:50,520 --> 00:09:52,320 Speaker 1: irony of courses. Once you accept yourself as you are, 206 00:09:52,320 --> 00:09:53,800 Speaker 1: you start to feel better about yourself and you're more 207 00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:56,079 Speaker 1: likely to make the changes that are relevant and necessary 208 00:09:56,320 --> 00:09:58,520 Speaker 1: if need be. And even if you don't, that's okay 209 00:09:58,559 --> 00:10:01,440 Speaker 1: because you're enough idea that you're going to continue to 210 00:10:01,480 --> 00:10:03,839 Speaker 1: pursue and pursue and pursue until you become enough. I 211 00:10:03,880 --> 00:10:06,680 Speaker 1: don't have a problem with trying to improve. I think 212 00:10:06,679 --> 00:10:09,760 Speaker 1: that's great, but the belief that you're ever going to 213 00:10:09,800 --> 00:10:12,720 Speaker 1: get there, especially when it comes to something like physical appearance. 214 00:10:12,840 --> 00:10:15,680 Speaker 1: In twenty twenty four, with what we have going on 215 00:10:15,720 --> 00:10:17,559 Speaker 1: around us just doesn't exist. 216 00:10:18,240 --> 00:10:21,960 Speaker 2: While I've been really intentional about not focusing on looks, 217 00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:24,960 Speaker 2: the one thing I have been very intentional and very 218 00:10:25,000 --> 00:10:27,640 Speaker 2: outspoken about is all of the amazing things their body 219 00:10:27,640 --> 00:10:31,880 Speaker 2: can do and focusing on the person that they are. 220 00:10:32,480 --> 00:10:36,880 Speaker 2: And that's why I'll do better tomorrow. If you're sitting 221 00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:39,560 Speaker 2: there and feeling like I do some days and you're 222 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:41,200 Speaker 2: not really sure you want to look in the mirror 223 00:10:41,240 --> 00:10:44,360 Speaker 2: again because you're not happy with what you're seeing. Your 224 00:10:44,440 --> 00:10:49,720 Speaker 2: kids are watching and they're listening, and everything that you 225 00:10:49,800 --> 00:10:53,000 Speaker 2: say about your body reflects how they feel about their body, 226 00:10:53,920 --> 00:10:56,960 Speaker 2: and there's power in helping them to recognize who they 227 00:10:57,000 --> 00:10:59,439 Speaker 2: are not because of what they look like, but because 228 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:02,559 Speaker 2: of who they are actually are deep inside, and all 229 00:11:02,559 --> 00:11:04,680 Speaker 2: the good that their body can help them do. 230 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:08,079 Speaker 1: Absolutely love that there's research that shows that the more 231 00:11:08,160 --> 00:11:10,680 Speaker 1: we say horrible things about our own bodies or about 232 00:11:10,679 --> 00:11:13,079 Speaker 1: our kids' bodies when they're young, the more likely this 233 00:11:13,200 --> 00:11:15,080 Speaker 1: that they're going to grow up and struggle with eating 234 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:17,840 Speaker 1: and struggle with body image and all that sort of stuff. 235 00:11:17,880 --> 00:11:21,040 Speaker 1: It's such an important conversation, and I love that we've 236 00:11:21,040 --> 00:11:22,600 Speaker 1: got a daughter who picked up on the fact that 237 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:26,920 Speaker 1: that's what you're doing in your interactions with her. So 238 00:11:26,960 --> 00:11:30,480 Speaker 1: we hope that today the take on messages are useful. 239 00:11:30,679 --> 00:11:33,560 Speaker 1: Say nice things about your body, and don't below you cool. 240 00:11:33,920 --> 00:11:37,079 Speaker 1: Just try so hard to hold it together. 241 00:11:37,559 --> 00:11:41,360 Speaker 2: Just tuck that sledgehammer away next summer, right they have. 242 00:11:41,480 --> 00:11:44,040 Speaker 1: Your Family's podcast is produced by Justin Roland for Bridge Media. 243 00:11:44,080 --> 00:11:46,800 Speaker 1: Craig Bruce is our executive producer. If you'd like more 244 00:11:46,840 --> 00:11:49,600 Speaker 1: information about making your family happier, please check out our 245 00:11:49,800 --> 00:11:53,320 Speaker 1: brand new, brand new, brand new program. 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