WEBVTT - AITA For Getting Hysterical Over My Partners Toe Nail Clippings? 💅

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frimes. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>One of my goals of this year is to platform

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<v Speaker 2>the pettiest things I can find on the Internet. Not

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<v Speaker 2>to make you feel any better about being yourself, but

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<v Speaker 2>just so we have a broad spread sprectrum, a broad

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<v Speaker 2>spectrum of diverse narratives on this show. Am I the

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<v Speaker 2>asshole forgetting hysterical in quotations over my partner's toenail clippings.

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<v Speaker 2>I was setting up my laptop to work from home.

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<v Speaker 2>He was going through his regular morning routine. Apparently part

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<v Speaker 2>of that routine is to clip his toenails in the

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<v Speaker 2>living room with no apparatus to catch toenail clippings over

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<v Speaker 2>our living room rug. He clipped his toenails and let

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<v Speaker 2>the clipping just fall onto the rug. They were scattered

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<v Speaker 2>all over the carpet about twenty seconds. I tried to

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<v Speaker 2>be calm and polite when I asked what he was doing,

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<v Speaker 2>but his only response was, I always picked them up after,

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<v Speaker 2>you're a liar. At this point, she loses her mind, obviously,

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<v Speaker 2>because I'm right there with you, sus I'm arm heated.

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<v Speaker 2>We have hardwood flaws in our living room. To be honest,

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<v Speaker 2>our entire apartment is basically one room, but we have

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<v Speaker 2>a decorative rug in the living room area. The rug

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<v Speaker 2>has a red and white pattern, and it's completely likely

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<v Speaker 2>that a lot of his toenail clippings have blended into

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<v Speaker 2>the rug, especially if he does this all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>I got really upset. I was crying and yelling, begging

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<v Speaker 2>him to stoo that in the bathroom because this is

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<v Speaker 2>my home and it's disgusting. He responded, it's my home too.

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<v Speaker 1>This is true. So this comes down to a discussion

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<v Speaker 1>about the far I can't do this. I'm getting heated.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, he says, it's my home too, So this comes

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<v Speaker 2>down to a discussion about the nature of truth and

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<v Speaker 2>the definition of disgusting.

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<v Speaker 1>And he tried to have.

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<v Speaker 2>A philosophical argue with me about the nature of disgust.

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<v Speaker 1>This is one of my kings.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, he's been watching too much place Mummy.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>The reason I feel like I was the asshole is

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<v Speaker 2>because I was literally screaming about the toenail clippings, and

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<v Speaker 2>he pointed out to me that this tiny living situation

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<v Speaker 2>has been difficult for him as well.

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<v Speaker 1>I do things that test his patients as well.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, okay, I'm more lax about dishes, and I'm more

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<v Speaker 2>lax about dishes and laundry, and that also gets on

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<v Speaker 2>his nerves. Am I the asshole about the toenail thing?

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<v Speaker 2>I recognize that this is a rough situation for both

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<v Speaker 2>of us, But seriously, isn't clipping your toenails on the

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<v Speaker 2>rug reason enough to get upset? Does that make me

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<v Speaker 2>the asshole? Where do you stand for me?

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<v Speaker 3>It's horrible? Yeah, this is an absolutely horrible situation. Imagine

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<v Speaker 3>walking out and your partner is hunched over like Gollumn

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<v Speaker 3>clipping and clapping. There's probably nothing more disturbing in life

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<v Speaker 3>than walking around the house that you like share with

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<v Speaker 3>people and coming across the graveyard of clippings. Yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 3>like stonehenge males. Okay, and so for its sight, nothing

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<v Speaker 3>sagod about that. So I understand her frustration and her disgust. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Does it warrant yelling and screaming? Probably not, particularly when

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<v Speaker 3>I think something happens when you're in close quarters with someone,

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<v Speaker 3>Like if you live with someone, it's very easy forget

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<v Speaker 3>the annoying things you do.

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<v Speaker 1>We're all guilty of it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so maybe take a moment, listen to what he

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<v Speaker 3>said and just set a boundary. But also he's as

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<v Speaker 3>you say, you're living on a shaggy rug. Ah.

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<v Speaker 2>Look, I have had such a hard stance about living alone,

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<v Speaker 2>and people like to think I'm the one who's insane

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<v Speaker 2>for doing it, when when in reality, the reason why

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<v Speaker 2>most young couples especially move in it's a financial decision

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<v Speaker 2>because you're spending so much time together. Anyway, we could

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<v Speaker 2>save a bit of money. That's not sexy to me.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what is sexy living in a space that's

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<v Speaker 2>clean and hygienic, because I will it that way. The

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<v Speaker 2>point he made is true. Right when you are sharing

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<v Speaker 2>a space, you are what is that sharing a space

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<v Speaker 2>which means you both are entitled to do exactly what

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<v Speaker 2>you want. And that's my number one issue because you

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<v Speaker 2>have no leg to stand on. Sis I for one,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm I'm on your side. I hate the tradear clippings.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm freaking out, I'm flustered, But you have no like

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<v Speaker 2>to stand on because.

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<v Speaker 1>It's his house.

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<v Speaker 2>No, and unless you make hold on, unless you start

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<v Speaker 2>because the first time, because in am I the asshole?

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, clearly she's getting super upset because she's clocked

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<v Speaker 2>in her head that all the times that he's done it,

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<v Speaker 2>Like she's having an accelerated response to thinking about like

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<v Speaker 2>we've lived here for that long, and this is your

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<v Speaker 2>morning routine. Your Toenael clippings are residing in this shag rug.

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<v Speaker 2>So I get why she's pissed off, But realistically, people

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<v Speaker 2>don't have tough conversations. This to me, the intricacies of

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<v Speaker 2>everyday life is a tougher conversation than the hypothetical conversation

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<v Speaker 2>about kids.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you know what I mean? Like everyone's like this,

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<v Speaker 1>how you move in together to make sure you see

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<v Speaker 1>where you stand on money?

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<v Speaker 2>No talk about the day to day? What is your

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<v Speaker 2>morning routine? Do you know what I mean? Because I

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<v Speaker 2>was talking to my best friend and we are hard workers,

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<v Speaker 2>like there's no doubt about it. But give me a

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<v Speaker 2>weekend and I will not hesitate to veg out in

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<v Speaker 2>my bed for the whole That's been a point of

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<v Speaker 2>contention in every relationship that I've ever had because it.

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<v Speaker 1>Seemed as being lazy, me lazy.

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<v Speaker 2>This is why I can't live with people, because I

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<v Speaker 2>don't need to justify my living habits as they shouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>need to justify.

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<v Speaker 1>Theirs absolute facts. I will sleep in point blank period.

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