Speaker 1: Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frimes. This is the Flex
Speaker 1: and Frooms catch up podcast.
Speaker 2: One of my goals of this year is to platform
Speaker 2: the pettiest things I can find on the Internet. Not
Speaker 2: to make you feel any better about being yourself, but
Speaker 2: just so we have a broad spread sprectrum, a broad
Speaker 2: spectrum of diverse narratives on this show. Am I the
Speaker 2: asshole forgetting hysterical in quotations over my partner's toenail clippings.
Speaker 2: I was setting up my laptop to work from home.
Speaker 2: He was going through his regular morning routine. Apparently part
Speaker 2: of that routine is to clip his toenails in the
Speaker 2: living room with no apparatus to catch toenail clippings over
Speaker 2: our living room rug. He clipped his toenails and let
Speaker 2: the clipping just fall onto the rug. They were scattered
Speaker 2: all over the carpet about twenty seconds. I tried to
Speaker 2: be calm and polite when I asked what he was doing,
Speaker 2: but his only response was, I always picked them up after,
Speaker 2: you're a liar. At this point, she loses her mind, obviously,
Speaker 2: because I'm right there with you, sus I'm arm heated.
Speaker 2: We have hardwood flaws in our living room. To be honest,
Speaker 2: our entire apartment is basically one room, but we have
Speaker 2: a decorative rug in the living room area. The rug
Speaker 2: has a red and white pattern, and it's completely likely
Speaker 2: that a lot of his toenail clippings have blended into
Speaker 2: the rug, especially if he does this all the time.
Speaker 2: I got really upset. I was crying and yelling, begging
Speaker 2: him to stoo that in the bathroom because this is
Speaker 2: my home and it's disgusting. He responded, it's my home too.
Speaker 1: This is true. So this comes down to a discussion
Speaker 1: about the far I can't do this. I'm getting heated.
Speaker 2: Okay, he says, it's my home too, So this comes
Speaker 2: down to a discussion about the nature of truth and
Speaker 2: the definition of disgusting.
Speaker 1: And he tried to have.
Speaker 2: A philosophical argue with me about the nature of disgust.
Speaker 1: This is one of my kings.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's been watching too much place Mummy.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry.
Speaker 2: The reason I feel like I was the asshole is
Speaker 2: because I was literally screaming about the toenail clippings, and
Speaker 2: he pointed out to me that this tiny living situation
Speaker 2: has been difficult for him as well.
Speaker 1: I do things that test his patients as well.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, I'm more lax about dishes, and I'm more
Speaker 2: lax about dishes and laundry, and that also gets on
Speaker 2: his nerves. Am I the asshole about the toenail thing?
Speaker 2: I recognize that this is a rough situation for both
Speaker 2: of us, But seriously, isn't clipping your toenails on the
Speaker 2: rug reason enough to get upset? Does that make me
Speaker 2: the asshole? Where do you stand for me?
Speaker 3: It's horrible? Yeah, this is an absolutely horrible situation. Imagine
Speaker 3: walking out and your partner is hunched over like Gollumn
Speaker 3: clipping and clapping. There's probably nothing more disturbing in life
Speaker 3: than walking around the house that you like share with
Speaker 3: people and coming across the graveyard of clippings. Yeah, it's
Speaker 3: like stonehenge males. Okay, and so for its sight, nothing
Speaker 3: sagod about that. So I understand her frustration and her disgust. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Does it warrant yelling and screaming? Probably not, particularly when
Speaker 3: I think something happens when you're in close quarters with someone,
Speaker 3: Like if you live with someone, it's very easy forget
Speaker 3: the annoying things you do.
Speaker 1: We're all guilty of it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so maybe take a moment, listen to what he
Speaker 3: said and just set a boundary. But also he's as
Speaker 3: you say, you're living on a shaggy rug. Ah.
Speaker 2: Look, I have had such a hard stance about living alone,
Speaker 2: and people like to think I'm the one who's insane
Speaker 2: for doing it, when when in reality, the reason why
Speaker 2: most young couples especially move in it's a financial decision
Speaker 2: because you're spending so much time together. Anyway, we could
Speaker 2: save a bit of money. That's not sexy to me.
Speaker 2: You know what is sexy living in a space that's
Speaker 2: clean and hygienic, because I will it that way. The
Speaker 2: point he made is true. Right when you are sharing
Speaker 2: a space, you are what is that sharing a space
Speaker 2: which means you both are entitled to do exactly what
Speaker 2: you want. And that's my number one issue because you
Speaker 2: have no leg to stand on. Sis I for one,
Speaker 2: I'm I'm on your side. I hate the tradear clippings.
Speaker 2: I'm freaking out, I'm flustered, But you have no like
Speaker 2: to stand on because.
Speaker 1: It's his house.
Speaker 2: No, and unless you make hold on, unless you start
Speaker 2: because the first time, because in am I the asshole?
Speaker 2: It's like, clearly she's getting super upset because she's clocked
Speaker 2: in her head that all the times that he's done it,
Speaker 2: Like she's having an accelerated response to thinking about like
Speaker 2: we've lived here for that long, and this is your
Speaker 2: morning routine. Your Toenael clippings are residing in this shag rug.
Speaker 2: So I get why she's pissed off, But realistically, people
Speaker 2: don't have tough conversations. This to me, the intricacies of
Speaker 2: everyday life is a tougher conversation than the hypothetical conversation
Speaker 2: about kids.
Speaker 1: You know, you know what I mean? Like everyone's like this,
Speaker 1: how you move in together to make sure you see
Speaker 1: where you stand on money?
Speaker 2: No talk about the day to day? What is your
Speaker 2: morning routine? Do you know what I mean? Because I
Speaker 2: was talking to my best friend and we are hard workers,
Speaker 2: like there's no doubt about it. But give me a
Speaker 2: weekend and I will not hesitate to veg out in
Speaker 2: my bed for the whole That's been a point of
Speaker 2: contention in every relationship that I've ever had because it.
Speaker 1: Seemed as being lazy, me lazy.
Speaker 2: This is why I can't live with people, because I
Speaker 2: don't need to justify my living habits as they shouldn't
Speaker 2: need to justify.
Speaker 1: Theirs absolute facts. I will sleep in point blank period.
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