Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the
Speaker 1: land on which this episode is being recorded, the Komboo
Speaker 1: Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present
Speaker 1: and emerging and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and
Speaker 1: Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson,
Speaker 1: and this is the Rise and Conquer podcast. This is
Speaker 1: the podcast where which have mindset, self development and becoming
Speaker 1: your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs,
Speaker 1: plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses
Speaker 1: and being among Think of us as the perfect combo
Speaker 1: of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No
Speaker 1: matter where you are in your journey, We're here to
Speaker 1: help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical
Speaker 1: self awareness. If you're ready to get into the driver's
Speaker 1: seat of your own life and stop letting life pass
Speaker 1: you by, then you're in the right place. Hello everybody,
Speaker 1: and welcome back to the party. Today is part one
Speaker 1: of our Get Ready with Me for twenty twenty four series.
Speaker 1: Over the next few episodes, I am going to take
Speaker 1: you through some of the biggest lessons of twenty twenty
Speaker 1: three and give you my top tips and exercises to
Speaker 1: help you get ready for the new year so we
Speaker 1: can all step into twenty twenty four excited and clear.
Speaker 1: Today's episode is step one of get Ready with Me
Speaker 1: for twenty twenty four, and we are talking about the
Speaker 1: importance of connecting with your higher self and they lead
Speaker 1: you through an exercise on how you can do this.
Speaker 1: So this is really important because when we connect with
Speaker 1: our higher self, we are able to make decisions in
Speaker 1: a way that will benefit us in the long run
Speaker 1: and will give us the feeling we're actually trying to attract.
Speaker 1: So if you have kind of been feeling that end
Speaker 1: of year slump or unclear on what you want in
Speaker 1: twenty twenty four, then you're absolutely going to love this episode.
Speaker 1: And if you want to have a successful year next year, honestly,
Speaker 1: the most important thing to do is have clarity and
Speaker 1: also like clear clear any like clean the slate. So
Speaker 1: you're going into the next year with this like clarity
Speaker 1: of what you actually need and want. So think about
Speaker 1: like what do you want it to look like, how
Speaker 1: do you want it to feel? Do you have any goals?
Speaker 1: And knowing the answer and feeling confident in all of
Speaker 1: these is something that will not only set you up
Speaker 1: for success, but it's going to make you feel incredible.
Speaker 1: But before we get in today's episode a tear, should
Speaker 1: we get into Aelve Weekly Recommendations. Yes, I'm coming in
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Speaker 2: I might put you the name, but it's called The
Speaker 2: Buccaneers and it's on Apple TV. Tell me so, if
Speaker 2: you love Bridgeton, you'll love this. It's essentially this girl
Speaker 2: who lived in America and has gone to England. I'm
Speaker 2: going to say, and it's like the English season where
Speaker 2: everybody's trying to find husbands and stuff, and she like
Speaker 2: meets one guy in America, but there's another guy in England.
Speaker 2: And I'm not going to say anymore because it'll spoil it.
Speaker 2: But it's so good. It is like a little bit
Speaker 2: darker than I thought, but I am enjoying it.
Speaker 1: We love a romance, Yeah, dark romance, A little bit dark. Okay,
Speaker 1: what about you? What's your I'm actually currently reading a
Speaker 1: book right now, so it's called Waking Up in five D.
Speaker 1: It sounds so cool. It's really cool, and it's by
Speaker 1: Marie J. Saint German. We'll link it. I've probably butchered that.
Speaker 1: And it's a practical guide to multi dimensional transformation. So guys,
Speaker 1: it's a bit trippy, like you have to be ready
Speaker 1: for it. I was like absolutely lapping it up and
Speaker 1: just like loving it. But you have to be ready
Speaker 1: for it. I don't know if you've ever heard of
Speaker 1: the concept of five D a tear. I have not,
Speaker 1: so I'm not going to ruin it for you. But basically,
Speaker 1: we're living in three D and the concept of five
Speaker 1: D is basically the concept of like you know in
Speaker 1: all religions, like heaven. Yeah, so the concept of five
Speaker 1: D is heaven on earth and it's a dimension we
Speaker 1: can all get to. Bit it's like you have to
Speaker 1: be in a certain state to reach this dimension. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, it's super trippy. I love it. Super woo woo.
Speaker 1: Wait we're not using woo woo, but you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. I'm obsessed. And it's like, so she's a psychic,
Speaker 1: the author, and it's just like so it's very spiritual.
Speaker 1: She talks about guides and angels and for all my
Speaker 1: spiritual galleys, you will lap this up. Yeah, I highly recommend.
Speaker 1: I just sounds really good. I read it so quickly
Speaker 1: and I'm obsessed. So that's definitely my recommendation. Amazing. But also, guys,
Speaker 1: we have a very fun announcement coming on Thursday on
Speaker 1: our socials, so if you're listening in real time, just
Speaker 1: keep an eye out for that. You'll love it.
Speaker 2: I'm so excited.
Speaker 1: All right, let's get into the episode. So what I
Speaker 1: wanted to really chat about in this episode because I
Speaker 1: know in this series we're going to be talking or
Speaker 1: getting ready for the new year for twenty twenty four.
Speaker 1: That feels weird to say.
Speaker 2: It's a bit crazy, isn't it. I feel like twenty
Speaker 2: twenty four felt so far away a few years going.
Speaker 1: Now it's here. It is. But I'm also like really
Speaker 1: ready for it because I also feel like we've had
Speaker 1: three years and one year this year. I agree. I
Speaker 1: feel like I've lived at least three lifetimes. That's I've
Speaker 1: aged five years. I've got gray hair at this point.
Speaker 1: So I'm really ready for it. And it's as we're recording,
Speaker 1: there's still you know, a good couple of weeks to go,
Speaker 1: and I'm kind of just like, hurry up. I'm ready.
Speaker 1: I'm ready for twenty twenty four.
Speaker 2: I think I'm a little bit the opposite, Okay, like please,
Speaker 2: we'll take as long as you need.
Speaker 1: The universe well perfect, because you've got both opinions yet. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so what I want to chat to you you guys
Speaker 1: in this episode. This episode is basically for the person
Speaker 1: who maybe the year hasn't gone exactly how you thought.
Speaker 1: Maybe there has been some challenges, some roadblocks. Maybe you
Speaker 1: even just don't have clarity of like what you want
Speaker 1: next year, or like how to move forward. Like you've
Speaker 1: been thrown some curveballs, and everyone I've spoken to, that's
Speaker 1: pretty much how the year has gone, would you Greer, Yeah,
Speaker 1: one hundred percent.
Speaker 2: I feel like it's been a year of like unbelievable
Speaker 2: curve balls.
Speaker 1: And you know what's even funny. We could probably find
Speaker 1: a snippet of me saying last year, remember my whole
Speaker 1: vibe was like, it's the year's surrender and I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna see what happens.
Speaker 2: Literally, I'm not making played, I'm not making plans because
Speaker 2: I just want the universe to like just do its thing.
Speaker 1: Never saying that again, I'm taking back all the control
Speaker 1: because look what happened. No, no, no, no, we're still surrendering.
Speaker 1: But this is who the episode is for. And also
Speaker 1: if you don't have like clarity on what you like,
Speaker 1: what goals you want to actually you know, write down
Speaker 1: and achieve and all that sort of thing. I find
Speaker 1: this exercise that I take you through so helpful. So
Speaker 1: it's it's gonna be a bit of like an interactive episode. Okay,
Speaker 1: So I want you guys to think about a low
Speaker 1: point previously where things haven't gone as planned. Life just
Speaker 1: isn't going your way, and you almost have like that
Speaker 1: come to Jesus moment of like no, it gets to
Speaker 1: be different, like I'm not entertaining this anymore. I am
Speaker 1: not I'm not like sitting in this like victimhood. I'm
Speaker 1: not sitting in I'm not like wallowing in my own
Speaker 1: feelings like you know those moments of like nah, I'm
Speaker 1: not doing this anymore. Yeah, And I see I have
Speaker 1: this key, key moment. I remember when me and Tim
Speaker 1: were trying to conceive I think in like twenty twenty
Speaker 1: one or whenever it was, and it had been a
Speaker 1: year long and it wasn't happening. We also had had
Speaker 1: a miscarriage, and I remember like sitting in my own
Speaker 1: shit and just like being sad and all the things,
Speaker 1: and of course I had every right to be. And
Speaker 1: then I just remember having this like moment where I'm like,
Speaker 1: I just choose differently, Like I just choose to see
Speaker 1: things differently and to have a shift. And then this
Speaker 1: is really funny. I'm looking out to the moon because
Speaker 1: it was a full moon, yeah, and just being like
Speaker 1: having this moment of like almost with my higher self
Speaker 1: or like you know, my next level self almostly this
Speaker 1: moment of reassurance and this moment of like clarity, and
Speaker 1: this moment of just like, yep, this is the moment
Speaker 1: when things turn around. Wow.
Speaker 2: So you decided in that moment you were like, this
Speaker 2: is it. This is the turning point. Yep.
Speaker 1: I remember smiling at the moon and just being like,
Speaker 1: this is the moment. This is the turning point. You know,
Speaker 1: when it's like you've just gone through the shit and
Speaker 1: it's like been this continuous thing and you have this
Speaker 1: moment of deciding. And I really call that like your
Speaker 1: own will, Like that is your willpower, being like no
Speaker 1: things are going to shift, things are going to change. Wow.
Speaker 2: What do you think got you there to that exact
Speaker 2: point when you were like this is it? This is
Speaker 2: the definitive moment, just.
Speaker 1: Like sick of my own shit, fair enough. And that's
Speaker 1: why in this episode, I'm going to take you guys
Speaker 1: through an episode like an exercise that you can do
Speaker 1: where you can bring yourself to this like moment of clarity,
Speaker 1: this moment of a sureness, because again, I think we
Speaker 1: have a lot of power in you know, things coming
Speaker 1: to fruition and shifting because we get to decide. And
Speaker 1: I know that's a bit controversial, but it's like stop,
Speaker 1: I don't know, It's fine. That is That's what we're
Speaker 1: going to do in this episode. So a big thing
Speaker 1: too is I think sometimes we can really get stuck
Speaker 1: in the day to day, like we can really have
Speaker 1: these like blind folds on of you know, the the
Speaker 1: what you know, what's happening here and now in the
Speaker 1: day to day, and of course you know we're all
Speaker 1: stuck in that. But something that really really helps me
Speaker 1: is like just taking myself out of the current you know,
Speaker 1: shit for lack of a better word, and being like, actually,
Speaker 1: if I could have a shift, I could see this
Speaker 1: a different way. Actually, something I've been doing right now
Speaker 1: is literally just saying the sentence I choose to see
Speaker 1: this a different way, and it's almost like stopping things
Speaker 1: because I think sometimes you know, if we're talking from
Speaker 1: a law of attraction like visualization, everything that in our
Speaker 1: reality is like a projection of our thoughts and feelings
Speaker 1: and what we're experiencing. So it's kind of like having
Speaker 1: that moment of truth where it's like hang on, I
Speaker 1: actually choose to shift and again taking our power back
Speaker 1: through that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a huge one.
Speaker 1: So most of us, like not most of us, So
Speaker 1: we all have access to our future self at any time.
Speaker 1: This is like our future self, this is our higher self.
Speaker 1: This is like the person who has like done the things,
Speaker 1: achieved all the things, has that dream life, they're on
Speaker 1: a different timeline. We all have the ability to tap
Speaker 1: into that person at any moment to gain clarity, to
Speaker 1: make choices, to know if we're on the right path.
Speaker 1: Just most of us don't take the time. We don't
Speaker 1: take the time to reflect, we don't take the time
Speaker 1: to get clear. And that's why at this time of
Speaker 1: the year we always really push to do it for
Speaker 1: your future self course, because it's just taking seven days,
Speaker 1: thirty minutes a day to really get clear and have
Speaker 1: some space for you to tap into your future self,
Speaker 1: your higher self to know what to do, and we
Speaker 1: all have access to it. Most of us choose not
Speaker 1: to tap in, usually because it's probably a little bit uncomfortable. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because again, we can't wallow in our own shit. We
Speaker 1: can't sit in that victim mentality usually because it's a
Speaker 1: reminder of like how off course we maybe have been
Speaker 1: and how much we have not been checking in with ourselves.
Speaker 1: And so this is what we're doing in this episode.
Speaker 1: I just want to bring you guys back in, tap
Speaker 1: you guys back in. So should we just go through
Speaker 1: the exercise of tea and then we can do questions
Speaker 1: at the end.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think with the course as well that I
Speaker 2: noticed that's such a big thing. Is It gives you
Speaker 2: such an interesting perspective on your life right now because
Speaker 2: it's almost very objective. And that's really hard when you're
Speaker 2: going through the shit, because you don't want to look
Speaker 2: at it and go it's just a blip in time,
Speaker 2: it's not that big a deal because at that present
Speaker 2: moment it's your whole world and it's the end of
Speaker 2: your world. But as soon as you step into your
Speaker 2: future self, you go, yes, really hard time, great lessons
Speaker 2: move on and sometimes people aren't ready for that, which
Speaker 2: is fine, but it's like as soon as you know
Speaker 2: that you want different and you're ready for the shift,
Speaker 2: or you're ready to have a year that feels really
Speaker 2: really good to you, so that you're not stuck at
Speaker 2: the end of the year going what did I even do?
Speaker 2: What did I even achieve?
Speaker 1: You're like really proud of how far you've come.
Speaker 2: You need to be tapping into your future self more
Speaker 2: often than you think.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you really need to be doing it monthly. Yeah,
Speaker 1: not exactly, not just every year, not just that news.
Speaker 2: You'll start off strong in chan and then you'll like
Speaker 2: go down there.
Speaker 1: You know what. I love that Kate Jone talks about
Speaker 1: all the time because she did do it for your
Speaker 1: future self, and she does the monthly reflections and she
Speaker 1: does it every single month. She always posts about it
Speaker 1: and takes us sweet girl, and I'm like, that's actually
Speaker 1: something I could actually get better at. It's like that
Speaker 1: monthly check in rather than leaving it longer to the
Speaker 1: point where you're like, oh shit, I have so many
Speaker 1: changes I want to make.
Speaker 2: Literally, that's my thing too, because I remember after doing
Speaker 2: do it for your future self. At the beginning of
Speaker 2: the year, I was like, I need to do a
Speaker 2: monthly audit. I just need to write my highs, lows
Speaker 2: and things I want to change every month so that
Speaker 2: at the end of the year, when I go to
Speaker 2: sit down to do do It for your Future Self,
Speaker 2: I don't spend two hours scrolling through my camera roll
Speaker 2: trying to figure everything out and what am.
Speaker 1: I going to have to do. That's literally how I
Speaker 1: do it to I go through my camera, which is
Speaker 1: like so hard for me because I'm so do you. Sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm getting off topic here, but I just want to
Speaker 1: ask you, Yeah, is is there something you remember with
Speaker 1: Do It for your Future Self at the start of
Speaker 1: the year that you had either stuck to or haven't
Speaker 1: stuck to, like something that really like stands out for you.
Speaker 2: Yeah. After doing do It for your Future Self at
Speaker 2: the beginning of the year, one of my biggest goals
Speaker 2: that I really wanted to nail was my routine. And
Speaker 2: I feel like I really got that down pat this year,
Speaker 2: Like I had really good habits and really good routines
Speaker 2: now to the point.
Speaker 1: That and that's like that's day five, isn't it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's day six, like write down your ideal day
Speaker 2: and routine. And I had that, like I was getting up,
Speaker 2: going to gym, going to work really early, finishing work early,
Speaker 2: having my whole afternoon to do whatever I wanted, And
Speaker 2: I loved that. I was also really really good with
Speaker 2: my buckets and priorities. I feel like I filled them up.
Speaker 2: Like the beginning of the year was a bit heavy
Speaker 2: on some and then that obviously dwindled at the end
Speaker 2: of the year. So my goals for next year have
Speaker 2: shifted in that my routines, I now want them to
Speaker 2: be super flexible, which is like I see as a
Speaker 2: step above where I was at the beginning of last year.
Speaker 1: You've like transcended like that structure, Yeah, which is huge. Yeah,
Speaker 1: which is Yeah, that actually is massive. I didn't think
Speaker 1: about that till now. That's my favorite thing. And again
Speaker 1: we're going off on a tension here. Is like when
Speaker 1: you transcend a structure or a routine. Yeah, so it's
Speaker 1: like you because this is a real thing because a
Speaker 1: lot of people think a routine, it's like, oh, I'm
Speaker 1: not in my routine anymore. But usually if you've had
Speaker 1: a certain routine and it served you for a certain
Speaker 1: amount of time, and then it just starts to feel
Speaker 1: like off and like it's not working. People shame themselves
Speaker 1: and they're like, oh my god, it matter a routine.
Speaker 1: This doesn't you know, feel good blah blah blah. But really,
Speaker 1: in reality, you have probably just transcended that and you
Speaker 1: need a new routine for your next level self, like
Speaker 1: your upgrading itself. And so instead of like shaming yourself,
Speaker 1: you could go into Okay, amazing, what do I need
Speaker 1: now to honor myself in this new season? And that's
Speaker 1: why it's so important to do these like reflective exercises,
Speaker 1: because again it's about being like that's and I'm so
Speaker 1: proud of you tit for like having the awareness to
Speaker 1: be like, oh my gosh, I you know, I did
Speaker 1: so well in it. And then I like transcended that structure,
Speaker 1: whas a lot of people would just go into yeah,
Speaker 1: like shame.
Speaker 2: Oh I was shaming myself.
Speaker 1: Okay, well let's not do that anymore.
Speaker 2: No, we worked through it. I was I went straight
Speaker 2: to shame. I was like, I've fallen off the bame wagon.
Speaker 2: Nothing's worky. I chose to see it differently, yes, and
Speaker 2: I went it's not that it's not me being able
Speaker 2: to do that routine. I can do that routine, but
Speaker 2: it feels hard, it feels like a chore. It doesn't
Speaker 2: feel as good as it did when I started. So
Speaker 2: it's obviously not the right routine anymore.
Speaker 1: You know what I want to do in the new year?
Speaker 1: What is just like exercise and routines that it's like,
Speaker 1: I just feel so fucking excited about them. Yes, like
Speaker 1: so happy. Yeah, Like I want to do like salsa
Speaker 1: dancing and stuff.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, mean to I wanted to start like
Speaker 2: ballet and hip hop again. Yeah, I'm fun. Like, that's really.
Speaker 1: Odd for me to say, because I'm the most disciplined
Speaker 1: person who's like, no, I'm not gonna enjoy it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm just going to fucking go to strength training because
Speaker 1: I want to booty. But I'm like, nah, I'm not
Speaker 1: fucking doing that anymore. No, So I'm scit of you.
Speaker 1: Thank you. And but we'll get more into that in
Speaker 1: the Goals episode. Yeah, that will do. We just really
Speaker 1: went on a tangent there, but I love that. Okay, guys,
Speaker 1: so let's get into this exercise and let's tap into
Speaker 1: our future selves now again. This is you're going to
Speaker 1: find so much more clarity if you do the whole,
Speaker 1: do it for your future self, cause because it is
Speaker 1: seven days, thirty minutes a day, and each component is
Speaker 1: really going to help you get clear from a point
Speaker 1: of your higher self. And again, we all have the
Speaker 1: big like the ability to tap into our higher self
Speaker 1: and honestly bypass so much of the shit, so much
Speaker 1: of like the shame, so much of like the not knowing,
Speaker 1: the confusion. You just need to create some space for
Speaker 1: yourself to do this, Okay, So I want to I
Speaker 1: want you to bring to mind something when you're you're
Speaker 1: feeling uncertain. So this could be something happening right now.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's something broad like, oh, what are my goals
Speaker 1: for next year? Maybe it's something really hot horrible going
Speaker 1: on in your life. There's a lot of like you know, pain, turmoil.
Speaker 1: Maybe you're just feeling like confused, you've had certain situations
Speaker 1: with relationships, people, jobs, your routine, literally anything. I want
Speaker 1: you to bring it into your mind right now, and
Speaker 1: I just want you to become aware of your feelings
Speaker 1: like how you're currently feeling again, confusion, pain, uncertainty, shame, guilt.
Speaker 1: Guilt is such a good one and I just want
Speaker 1: you to be in this moment and you're currently sitting
Speaker 1: on a chair and you're in this room it kind
Speaker 1: of feels like a studio. I want you to really
Speaker 1: have your mind's eye on the thing that is like
Speaker 1: fucking you up right now. It's like it's the thing
Speaker 1: that's like annoying you, and really become aware of it.
Speaker 1: And then I want you to picture there's a door,
Speaker 1: and through the door your future self, your higher self,
Speaker 1: the one who has you know, moved through so many challenges,
Speaker 1: They have walked so many different paths. They have like
Speaker 1: achieved the things you want to achieve. They are like
Speaker 1: they've got the right people around them. They really have
Speaker 1: everything that you would ever desire. And that is your
Speaker 1: higher self, because you guys know, if you have these
Speaker 1: desires on your heart, it's because they can be a reality.
Speaker 1: It's just it's on a different timeline, it's in the future, etc.
Speaker 1: So through the door, your higher self walks through. They
Speaker 1: look exactly like you, and they come and sit down
Speaker 1: right beside you. Now I want you to ask them
Speaker 1: the question. I want you to ask them the question
Speaker 1: that you're currently feeling. Is it you know, what are
Speaker 1: my goals for next year? What should I be focusing on?
Speaker 1: Is it how do I get through this hard time?
Speaker 1: Ask for the wisdom and remember they have seen everything,
Speaker 1: They've gone to the end, they've worked it all out.
Speaker 1: And I want you to sit there and i want
Speaker 1: you to ask them the question and then I'm just
Speaker 1: going to give you about a minute and i want
Speaker 1: you to see what comes up for you. Are you
Speaker 1: a little bit surprised? And I want you if you're like,
Speaker 1: you know, sitting you can journal down what came up.
Speaker 1: It could just like feel a bit random, it could
Speaker 1: feel a bit off, it could feel a bit like
Speaker 1: I know this, Like of course you know this, And
Speaker 1: I want you to just sit, like just sit with
Speaker 1: whatever come up and be able to see it from
Speaker 1: a different view, from a different perspective. And again, I,
Speaker 1: like I said, I remember doing this in our trying
Speaker 1: to conceive journey and having that moment of certain in
Speaker 1: clarity when I looked at the moon and it's like
Speaker 1: I had this reassurance from my higher self just being
Speaker 1: like it's all good, it's coming, I've got you, And
Speaker 1: it was so beautiful. It's such a beautiful moment. And
Speaker 1: you know, for example, if I did this exercise back then,
Speaker 1: like right at the start, and I tapped into my
Speaker 1: future self, like I know exactly what she would say
Speaker 1: because I am her now, and I would say, like,
Speaker 1: you know your your baby girl's going to come in
Speaker 1: perfect timing. It's going to be perfect during this time
Speaker 1: while you're waiting for it, Like, enjoy yourself. This is
Speaker 1: actually the last year of freedom. It's about to get real. Shit,
Speaker 1: it's a baud to get real off in here and
Speaker 1: enjoy yourself, like, enjoy this moment, pour your energy into
Speaker 1: your projects, you know, start also like changing your life
Speaker 1: to be equipped for a child, you know, those sorts
Speaker 1: of things, like I know exactly what I would have
Speaker 1: said back then, and it's exactly what I feel now.
Speaker 1: And so it's such like a moment to be like
Speaker 1: we actually all have the clarity, we all have the
Speaker 1: wisdom inside of us. Usually we're just so stuck in
Speaker 1: the doing in the now that we don't want to
Speaker 1: look because it's often uncomfortable. And this is obviously a
Speaker 1: very short and sharp exercise. Like I said, if you
Speaker 1: want more space and clarity, definitely do do a few
Speaker 1: future self because it's going to give you the seven days,
Speaker 1: and you're going to have so many realizations. But it's
Speaker 1: just so important for us to be checking in with ourselves.
Speaker 1: And I also really want you guys to write a
Speaker 1: letter to your future self. This is such a great exercise.
Speaker 1: We did this the start of do it for your
Speaker 1: future self. Write a letter to yourself. And so it's
Speaker 1: like this time next year, So it's like December twenty
Speaker 1: twenty four. How do you want to feel? Who do
Speaker 1: you want to be? What do you want life to
Speaker 1: look like? How do you want to show up? It's
Speaker 1: very very simple. It doesn't and like what things do
Speaker 1: you want to have achieved? Or it's like if you
Speaker 1: don't want to get granular like that, you don't have
Speaker 1: to do like the nitty gritty goals even just like basking.
Speaker 1: Like the energy in which you want to be in
Speaker 1: I think is so so powerful because you know, we
Speaker 1: attract what we are. So if you can't even have
Speaker 1: clarity on how you want to be, the energy in
Speaker 1: which you want to be, how you want to feel,
Speaker 1: how are you ever going to get there if you
Speaker 1: don't even have clarity on what that is? If you
Speaker 1: don't get clear on what you want in twenty twenty four,
Speaker 1: the energy, the vibe and give yourself space. You are
Speaker 1: going to have the exact same year. Your twenty twenty
Speaker 1: four is going to be twenty twenty three. And so
Speaker 1: again it's like you have to if you want different,
Speaker 1: move different. You know, it's my favorite saying ever, So
Speaker 1: just pop that into every episode ever And it's so
Speaker 1: it's like you have to get clear on the vibe.
Speaker 1: And that's why the you know, dear future self letter
Speaker 1: can be so powerful. Tapping into your future self. That
Speaker 1: exercise we did can be so powerful.
Speaker 2: And I think with this it's also important to remember
Speaker 2: like this is not comfortable. You're not going to sit
Speaker 2: down and feel amazing the whole process. It's going to
Speaker 2: be a bit uncomfortable because if you do want great
Speaker 2: relationships because you feel like yours a lacking right now,
Speaker 2: that does mean something's going to have to give, and
Speaker 2: that can be really uncomfortable to think about and not
Speaker 2: not like exciting and fluffy and wonderful and sun shining. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but it makes such a big difference in the long run,
Speaker 2: because if you are uncomfortable for a little bit, when
Speaker 2: you do start doing the work, everything else will fall
Speaker 2: into place. For you throughout the year, and you'll get
Speaker 2: to the end of the year being like, I'm in
Speaker 2: a completely different space.
Speaker 1: You know what too, A tier to add on that.
Speaker 1: You know why most people won't do this, Why because
Speaker 1: they have to take ownership? Oh yeah, and we do,
Speaker 1: like our egos do not like to take ownership. I
Speaker 1: guarantee you if you reflect on your year and you
Speaker 1: know things went to share or things didn't happen, I
Speaker 1: guarantee you ninety percent of us will blame other things.
Speaker 1: We will. We don't want to see ourselves in how
Speaker 1: we showed up in maybe not so integral ways. We
Speaker 1: don't want to see it. Yeah, and so again, yeah,
Speaker 1: this is is going to be uncomfortable. I remember doing
Speaker 1: do it for your future self and being really fucking
Speaker 1: uncomfortable mean too, and being like this actually doesn't feel
Speaker 1: that good. Sometiday, What the fuck did I create?
Speaker 2: Like the audit, I was like, gosh, I held on
Speaker 2: to some shit for no reason.
Speaker 1: Yes, oh yeah, it one hundred percent. And when you
Speaker 1: actually look what you focused on, where you put your energy,
Speaker 1: sometimes you're like, I let that thing ruin six months
Speaker 1: of my life. Yeah, yeah, and so that's why it
Speaker 1: is uncomfortable. And that's the thing, though, is there is
Speaker 1: so much power in taking responsibility and that's that's kind
Speaker 1: of that's that moment I'm talking about right at the
Speaker 1: start of the episode of like having that moment of
Speaker 1: responsibility for yourself, yeah, and being like, yeah, of course
Speaker 1: things happen and we can't control those things, but we
Speaker 1: can control how we show up and how we be
Speaker 1: and who we are. And we don't always get that, right,
Speaker 1: do we know? And that's fine, yeah, because we're human.
Speaker 1: But it's like then having reflection and being like, yeah, actually,
Speaker 1: I'm going to take some ownership and I am going
Speaker 1: to like make this shift. I am going to have
Speaker 1: this shift.
Speaker 2: And I have a question on that, Like when you
Speaker 2: said you looked at the moon and decided this is it.
Speaker 2: This is the moment where everything changes, and that was
Speaker 2: obviously after you'd wallowed in it for a while. Where
Speaker 2: do you find the sweet spot of.
Speaker 1: And when I say a while, I mean like twelve months.
Speaker 2: So the yeah, yeah, where do you find the sweet
Speaker 2: spot of having to feel what you need to feel
Speaker 2: and then going no, now it's time to make a change.
Speaker 1: I think only you can know that. Again, Look, it
Speaker 1: was twelve months for me, but it's like it might
Speaker 1: be shorter for you, it might be longer. Again, it's
Speaker 1: like only you can know.
Speaker 2: That, and you think yours could have been shorter.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I look back, I'm like, holy shit, Like mentally
Speaker 1: I was not in a good place. So but again,
Speaker 1: it all was perfect. Yeah, and I have no regret,
Speaker 1: guilt or shame around it. But yeah, that whole period
Speaker 1: of my life could have been so different. But it
Speaker 1: is what it is.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you've learned the lesson now, Yeah.
Speaker 1: It is what it is. I said that to my
Speaker 1: therapist the other day and he was like not. He's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: we need to go back, and he's like, yeah, we
Speaker 1: need to keep working on this. He's like, nope, that's
Speaker 1: not clear. Okay.
Speaker 2: So I was doing the conversation cards with some of
Speaker 2: my friends and they were like, what's a quote you
Speaker 2: live by?
Speaker 1: It's like, it is what it is. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: that's literally our generation. I cannot all right, my loves,
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening. I hope you enjoyed
Speaker 1: this episode. Do these exercise, take some space. You will
Speaker 1: not regret it, and also know that this is a
Speaker 1: bit of a funky time of year. Yeah, there's people
Speaker 1: who like absolutely like relishing in like the good and
Speaker 1: they've had the best year and they're like pumped for
Speaker 1: the new year and they're living their best lives. And
Speaker 1: then there's the other side of people being like, I
Speaker 1: maybe didn't achieve what I want this year, didn't go
Speaker 1: or it's like there's just nothing there. And it's really
Speaker 1: important to like totally honor where you currently are. And
Speaker 1: I say this all the time, but it's like we're
Speaker 1: not meant to feel good all the time, exactly, and
Speaker 1: it's really important for us to go like through these things,
Speaker 1: not bypass them. So really just honor where you currently are.
Speaker 1: But do know you get to tap into your future self,
Speaker 1: your higher self. Really encourage you to do the letter.
Speaker 1: I personally love doing an email and then sending it
Speaker 1: to myself and snoozing it. That's really really powerful. But
Speaker 1: we love you so much and we'll tach to you
Speaker 1: in the next episode. Bye bye. Thank you so much
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