WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: It's illegal not to SMILE in Milan 😁 0:00:12.600 --> 0:00:19.599 Laura, come on here, we go to day girls. 0:00:20.040 --> 0:00:21.360 That is so much energy. 0:00:21.440 --> 0:00:23.680 It's my job to bring the energy because listen, there's 0:00:23.720 --> 0:00:27.520 kids in cars, there's traffic on roads. 0:00:26.120 --> 0:00:28.720 What Mitch, what else is going on? 0:00:28.800 --> 0:00:29.040 Guy? 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:29.480 Up there? 0:00:30.000 --> 0:00:31.680 Day is blue and the grass is green. 0:00:31.880 --> 0:00:33.760 Two beautiful women sitting in front of me. 0:00:35.280 --> 0:00:37.599 There's actually three because Grace our producers in the room 0:00:37.640 --> 0:00:37.919 as well. 0:00:37.920 --> 0:00:39.280 But you just left her out of the equation. 0:00:39.600 --> 0:00:41.239 Grace and I have history, so don't you worry about that. 0:00:41.280 --> 0:00:42.680 You and I am still working on Grace and I've 0:00:42.680 --> 0:00:43.680 been there dad, that old new. 0:00:43.880 --> 0:00:46.600 Speaking of turning, Mitch, I have had a big light turn. 0:00:46.880 --> 0:00:47.360 What happened? 0:00:47.840 --> 0:00:49.520 I have had a big life turn during a life update. 0:00:49.880 --> 0:00:51.720 But I feel like we're gonna hear it urge you anyway. 0:00:51.800 --> 0:00:54.000 Thank you for begging me to tell you, Mitch. So, 0:00:54.840 --> 0:00:57.400 I never thought I would say this. I am now 0:00:58.040 --> 0:01:01.240 a full blown What am I going to say? 0:01:01.320 --> 0:01:04.200 I don't know, mate, just say it meat eater. 0:01:05.280 --> 0:01:07.920 Yeah, so I before I went into the Armo celebrity jungle, 0:01:08.160 --> 0:01:10.600 you didn't really because it's a huge thing. 0:01:10.720 --> 0:01:13.000 I grew up vegetarian. I hate my first steak of 0:01:13.040 --> 0:01:13.399 my life. 0:01:13.600 --> 0:01:17.160 Not grow up vegetarian four years Laura, I. 0:01:17.120 --> 0:01:19.960 Said grew I said, grew up. I had my first 0:01:19.959 --> 0:01:21.560 steak of my life at age twenty one. 0:01:21.600 --> 0:01:24.160 Okay, I want to call your parents because I call bullshit. 0:01:24.920 --> 0:01:25.760 Okay, I want to. 0:01:26.480 --> 0:01:27.520 Please get on with the show. 0:01:27.560 --> 0:01:27.840 What do we. 0:01:29.600 --> 0:01:31.000 What does a builder have to do with this? 0:01:31.520 --> 0:01:34.679 Fielder would say, hey, honey, we have an eggplant parmesana tonight. 0:01:34.760 --> 0:01:35.240 No meat. 0:01:35.680 --> 0:01:36.319 He didn't. 0:01:36.400 --> 0:01:37.680 My whole family ate meat. 0:01:37.800 --> 0:01:41.080 I didn't, and the other biggest carnival. 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:42.280 What have we got the show? 0:01:42.400 --> 0:01:43.800 What are we go on the show? No, I'm never 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:44.600 bringing a personally. 0:01:45.600 --> 0:01:47.240 How are your iron levels? How are you feeling? 0:01:47.960 --> 0:01:48.840 I don't know, it's irrelevant. 0:01:48.840 --> 0:01:49.480 What do we got coming out? 0:01:49.480 --> 0:01:49.800 And tell me? 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:51.320 While you were away in the jungle, Laura and I 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:52.840 had to get the flu shot on there. So let's 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:54.360 take Britt's blood tomorrow on the show. 0:01:54.360 --> 0:01:55.000 From chemistry? 0:01:55.240 --> 0:01:56.560 We did? We did? Okay? 0:01:56.600 --> 0:01:59.919 Look Britt, No, I'm not finishing my story continuing. I'm cracking. 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:00.880 I've cracked the ship. 0:02:00.960 --> 0:02:03.120 I have so much energy, and that's because. 0:02:03.000 --> 0:02:03.600 She's full of me. 0:02:04.200 --> 0:02:04.840 No, I was lying. 0:02:05.040 --> 0:02:06.640 I've never been a vegetarian. I don't mean Now, what 0:02:06.680 --> 0:02:09.720 do I do we'll never know how old people. 0:02:09.440 --> 0:02:11.360 Get on with their days. Okay, I bet you. 0:02:11.360 --> 0:02:12.840 I'll get a d M saying I need to know 0:02:12.919 --> 0:02:14.320 the end of the story. Actually we. 0:02:16.120 --> 0:02:19.320 Haven't asked, Uncut coming up? So something? 0:02:19.840 --> 0:02:20.519 What are you going on? 0:02:20.600 --> 0:02:20.760 Mitch? 0:02:20.800 --> 0:02:21.760 Tell me about you got going on? 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:22.000 Now? 0:02:22.040 --> 0:02:22.919 Don't care about that either? 0:02:23.240 --> 0:02:25.280 All right, Well, after the break, I'll probably talk about 0:02:25.320 --> 0:02:25.840 something else. 0:02:26.520 --> 0:02:27.800 Now we have a caller on the show. 0:02:27.919 --> 0:02:29.560 We have a caller on the show, Britt. This is 0:02:29.639 --> 0:02:30.120 very important. 0:02:30.120 --> 0:02:32.680 They need your advice or sorry, in my life, wasn't important? 0:02:32.720 --> 0:02:35.880 Okay, we can we all. 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:38.360 Right, we apologize. No, I'm not. 0:02:38.520 --> 0:02:39.760 I'm highly offended. 0:02:39.919 --> 0:02:41.840 Let's move it on to the caller who has the 0:02:41.960 --> 0:02:45.120 other problem, and this is is that they are in 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:48.919 love with their friend who's currently engaged about to get married. 0:02:49.200 --> 0:02:52.240 They need some advice, So let's concentrate. Let's bring ourselves 0:02:52.280 --> 0:02:52.800 back to the problem. 0:02:53.320 --> 0:02:55.120 Well, I hope they're servants stake at that wedding. 0:02:55.560 --> 0:02:59.400 Well you'll turn up or would I was young? 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:01.079 We will never break. 0:03:01.360 --> 0:03:02.760 Let's just go to some songs. 0:03:03.240 --> 0:03:05.520 Let's get some stake in here for Britt, and we'll 0:03:05.520 --> 0:03:06.959 have an ask gun Cut on the here at the 0:03:07.000 --> 0:03:08.119 pickup for your Thursday. 0:03:09.000 --> 0:03:11.080 It is Thursday. Let's put our therapy caps on. 0:03:11.760 --> 0:03:16.799 Ask all right, it is ask gun cut. 0:03:16.840 --> 0:03:18.040 It's our favorite time of the week. 0:03:18.040 --> 0:03:20.000 It's where you guys call up with your biggest, your deepest, 0:03:20.000 --> 0:03:23.000 your darkest problems, and we do our best to answer them. 0:03:23.000 --> 0:03:25.239 Now we have Daniel on the phone, and Daniel is 0:03:25.280 --> 0:03:30.119 in quite a little predicament. So Daniel's in love with someone. Yeah, 0:03:30.120 --> 0:03:32.880 he's in love. That's like, Daniel tell us no, but unfortunately, 0:03:33.880 --> 0:03:36.280 unfortunately reciprocated. 0:03:36.360 --> 0:03:37.840 Daniel, are you there, I'm required. 0:03:38.080 --> 0:03:39.400 Hey, I'm here, Hi. 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:41.440 Dan, what's up? Let us know what's happening. 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:45.800 Well, there's this girl, done each other for a long 0:03:45.840 --> 0:03:50.320 long time, and she's getting married in a couple of months, 0:03:50.600 --> 0:03:54.400 and I just feel like I need to tell her 0:03:54.720 --> 0:03:55.760 the way I feel about her. 0:03:55.760 --> 0:03:57.080 Well, hang on, how do you feel about her? 0:03:57.960 --> 0:03:58.560 I love her? 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:03.560 Daniel, Hey, how long has she been in a relationship for. 0:04:04.960 --> 0:04:10.080 It's been four years and we've just been friends for ages. 0:04:10.160 --> 0:04:13.320 But yeah, I just I can't help but feel like. 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:16.920 But hang on, Daniel, have you ever actually been with her? 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:20.680 Or are these like a romanticized sort of imagine feelings? 0:04:21.320 --> 0:04:24.680 Yeah, we've you know, been friends for ages and we 0:04:24.800 --> 0:04:29.400 sort of have cooked up and spoken about, you know, 0:04:29.520 --> 0:04:31.240 dating in the past, and then she's sort of fallen 0:04:31.240 --> 0:04:32.360 into another relationship. 0:04:32.400 --> 0:04:36.400 And how long ago it was just before. 0:04:36.200 --> 0:04:38.160 She got with her fiance. 0:04:38.839 --> 0:04:40.800 Okay, And was it love or was it it was 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:41.880 a bit of fun lust. 0:04:42.080 --> 0:04:45.640 Yeah, it just felt really natural, like the natural extension 0:04:45.720 --> 0:04:46.839 of like the friendship. 0:04:46.960 --> 0:04:50.479 Oh oh, buddy, listen, Daniel couldn't have been that natural 0:04:50.480 --> 0:04:53.720 of an extension because she went somewhere else else, extended elsewhere. 0:04:53.800 --> 0:04:55.839 I feel like you are lost in the in what 0:04:55.920 --> 0:04:58.080 it could be, in the fairy tale of it. She's 0:04:58.120 --> 0:05:00.680 clearly getting married, and that's a choice she's made. I 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:01.800 think you can't tell her. 0:05:01.839 --> 0:05:03.080 I agree with you, Mitch. 0:05:03.120 --> 0:05:05.320 I think this is just, unfortunately something you got to 0:05:05.360 --> 0:05:05.960 take to the grave. 0:05:06.040 --> 0:05:07.960 Now if I pasted a check. 0:05:07.920 --> 0:05:09.040 Let's sit in it for a second. 0:05:09.320 --> 0:05:12.640 So hypothetically we tell you to tell her, what would 0:05:12.680 --> 0:05:13.160 you say? 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:14.880 And how would you say? But taenda law is the 0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:17.240 girl say it to me? I am married? 0:05:17.279 --> 0:05:19.359 So I mean, this is why I called it. I 0:05:19.400 --> 0:05:21.720 was hoping i'd have advice on how to all right. 0:05:21.680 --> 0:05:24.080 I can help, I can help. Ready, I'll be you 0:05:24.200 --> 0:05:28.680 be the bride Laura and I'll be Daniel. Hi, Daniel, Hey, 0:05:29.240 --> 0:05:31.320 you said that it's such you so nice to me. 0:05:31.720 --> 0:05:33.400 I just didn't think we'd talk now that you're getting 0:05:33.400 --> 0:05:34.360 married to Raoul. 0:05:34.600 --> 0:05:36.640 Why wouldn't we talk. We've been friends for ages. 0:05:37.000 --> 0:05:38.840 We have been friends for ages. We have a good connection. 0:05:38.880 --> 0:05:41.640 Do you think, yeah, we're really good friends. Of course 0:05:41.680 --> 0:05:41.880 we do. 0:05:42.000 --> 0:05:45.400 Yeah, But don't have you ever thought maybe there's a 0:05:45.400 --> 0:05:45.920 bit more. 0:05:46.760 --> 0:05:49.320 I mean, we hooked at once, but like, I'm getting married, 0:05:49.360 --> 0:05:52.120 so no, I know, so you still remember that night too? 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:55.239 Stop at you too. It is making me cringe. 0:05:55.960 --> 0:05:58.720 I feel so uncomfortable. I love playing that role. 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:01.239 No, Daniel, let's be serious for a second. 0:06:01.400 --> 0:06:04.279 I think that she has made a choice and she 0:06:04.520 --> 0:06:06.560 is getting married, and I think the worst thing you 0:06:06.560 --> 0:06:10.279 can do right now is put your friendship in jeopardy 0:06:10.360 --> 0:06:13.680 and her relationship in jeopardy over a kiss from four 0:06:13.760 --> 0:06:14.480 or five years ago. 0:06:14.640 --> 0:06:16.600 Like, I know you're still thinking about the kiss. It 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:17.479 doesn't sound like she is. 0:06:18.080 --> 0:06:19.840 Just feels a bit like, I'm sorry, Daniel. 0:06:19.920 --> 0:06:22.560 It does feel a little bit selfish to think that 0:06:22.640 --> 0:06:25.560 you would now after she's engaged, she's happy, she's moving 0:06:25.560 --> 0:06:27.400 on with a life that you would think now is 0:06:27.440 --> 0:06:29.040 a good time to dump that or her. I think 0:06:29.040 --> 0:06:30.400 it's going to be the end of the friendship and 0:06:30.440 --> 0:06:32.880 it's definitely going to probably end up back. 0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:34.440 And would you call her on the air because we 0:06:34.480 --> 0:06:39.240 could go to a break No. 0:06:40.240 --> 0:06:41.960 I think you need to get back out there and 0:06:42.120 --> 0:06:44.640 find the own love of your life, because they are 0:06:44.720 --> 0:06:47.000 out there and sometimes you have to go through some 0:06:47.080 --> 0:06:48.080 nuggets to get there. 0:06:48.160 --> 0:06:49.880 If you're desperately in love with someone who's in a 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:52.680 long term relationship, I think you're not really friends and 0:06:52.720 --> 0:06:54.920 it's probably going to be good for your mental health 0:06:54.960 --> 0:06:57.440 to stop the friendship to kind of, you know, put 0:06:57.480 --> 0:06:59.560 a bit of space and some separation in there, because 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:00.960 are you going to have taught yourself and you're not 0:07:00.960 --> 0:07:02.240 going to be able to move on and find a 0:07:02.279 --> 0:07:04.039 new relationship whilst you're pining over us? 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:04.440 Yeah? 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:05.920 Gay, But then she's going to say, why aren't we 0:07:05.920 --> 0:07:07.600 friends anymore than you? 0:07:07.600 --> 0:07:10.000 No, that's the whole point we're not telling don't listen. 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:13.040 To Laura genuine advice. If you don't look at those 0:07:13.040 --> 0:07:14.720 wedding photos, you can't go to the wedding. No, no, no, 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:15.960 don't go to the wedding. 0:07:15.960 --> 0:07:17.720 You can't go. You can't go to the wedding. 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:20.200 This is like love actually, you know when the guy 0:07:20.280 --> 0:07:23.640 stands up afterwards and she's married, Except it seems very 0:07:23.640 --> 0:07:25.840 sweet and romantic in that movie, and it's actually really 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:28.400 really toxic with the signs. You mean, yeah, she's married 0:07:28.440 --> 0:07:30.240 to his best friend and he's standing there with signs 0:07:30.240 --> 0:07:31.200 saying how much he loves her. 0:07:32.200 --> 0:07:34.520 I recreated that scene for someone want's was it toxic 0:07:34.600 --> 0:07:37.120 but they weren't marriedship I was trying to be kuting 0:07:37.200 --> 0:07:38.920 romantic didn't end well anyway, that's. 0:07:38.880 --> 0:07:41.760 Enough, really well, listen, if you want to get in 0:07:41.800 --> 0:07:43.880 touch DMS at the pickup on socials, you can go 0:07:43.920 --> 0:07:44.960 to the pickup dot com dot you. 0:07:45.000 --> 0:07:46.680 If you've got a question, we will answer it just 0:07:46.720 --> 0:07:47.000 like that. 0:07:47.200 --> 0:07:47.560 All right. 0:07:47.680 --> 0:07:48.760 Back after this on the pick. 0:07:48.640 --> 0:07:54.080 Up, something that everyone around the country is currently talking about, 0:07:54.120 --> 0:07:55.640 which we are extremely grateful for. 0:07:55.880 --> 0:07:57.480 We did it here yesterday at the pickup. 0:07:57.840 --> 0:08:02.640 We're speaking about the absolute of domestic violence and violence 0:08:02.720 --> 0:08:06.720 against women happening in Australia right now, right now. 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:09.120 If you haven't heard, one woman is being. 0:08:09.120 --> 0:08:12.120 Murdered every four days, and I want you to think 0:08:12.120 --> 0:08:16.720 about that. Every four days, I wanted to talk a 0:08:16.720 --> 0:08:18.880 little bit more to somebody that is in the thick 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:21.800 of it, that deals with it every day, and that is. 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:23.720 A woman named Nicole Edwards. 0:08:23.840 --> 0:08:28.680 Now she is the CEO of a company called Rise 0:08:28.760 --> 0:08:32.360 Up Australia that is a domestic violence, family, domestic violence 0:08:32.360 --> 0:08:33.920 and children domestic violence charity. 0:08:34.400 --> 0:08:36.199 And she was my charity. 0:08:36.280 --> 0:08:38.080 Rise Up with my charity when I went into the 0:08:38.280 --> 0:08:41.679 South African I'm a celebrity jungle. The work that they 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:45.320 are doing is absolutely incredible. She so far has helped 0:08:45.880 --> 0:08:50.880 furnish two thy five hundred homes for women to leave 0:08:51.280 --> 0:08:54.400 their dangerous household. And the reason I say that is 0:08:55.600 --> 0:08:58.120 domestic violence. There are so many parts of it. There's 0:08:58.120 --> 0:09:02.000 so many aspects, from the physical side to the emotional. 0:09:02.000 --> 0:09:03.679 Control, the financial control. 0:09:03.880 --> 0:09:08.040 But the most dangerous time for a woman and children 0:09:08.120 --> 0:09:12.120 to leave a relationship is the leaving part, Like when 0:09:12.160 --> 0:09:14.920 you try to leave, that is when things really go south. 0:09:15.000 --> 0:09:17.080 And also often they just don't have anywhere to go to. 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:18.160 That's the biggest problem. 0:09:18.200 --> 0:09:20.920 No money, no finances, no support systems, because all those 0:09:20.920 --> 0:09:22.680 things are taken away from you as part of this 0:09:22.800 --> 0:09:24.520 abuse work. 0:09:24.600 --> 0:09:26.120 Well, the average woman get this. 0:09:26.200 --> 0:09:28.560 The average woman will go back to a dangerous situation 0:09:28.720 --> 0:09:31.079 seven times, and that is because she's got nowhere to 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:33.280 go and no help, so she goes back. So I 0:09:33.280 --> 0:09:35.440 want to speak to Nicole today because she's living this 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:36.360 every single day. 0:09:36.480 --> 0:09:36.800 Nicole. 0:09:36.880 --> 0:09:38.480 Welcome to the pick Up Nicole. 0:09:39.160 --> 0:09:41.360 Hi Team, Thank you so much for having me on today. 0:09:41.559 --> 0:09:42.400 Nicole. 0:09:42.480 --> 0:09:44.320 I think the first thing to say is. 0:09:45.960 --> 0:09:48.599 What have you seen in the rise this year in 0:09:48.640 --> 0:09:51.360 twenty twenty four, because I feel like this epidemic is 0:09:51.760 --> 0:09:54.880 higher than ever. Are you seen and hearing from more 0:09:54.920 --> 0:09:56.200 women trying to get help? 0:09:57.160 --> 0:10:00.120 Yeah, we absolutely are. You know, as we reflect this 0:10:00.240 --> 0:10:03.680 last month has been really devastating for the women of 0:10:03.720 --> 0:10:07.640 Australia and as our country as a whole right because 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:11.000 we have a national disgrace on our hands. People are hurting, 0:10:11.280 --> 0:10:13.679 We're all being very triggered right now because we know 0:10:13.720 --> 0:10:17.880 how pervasive domestic and family violence is, and people are 0:10:17.880 --> 0:10:20.480 reaching out for help. Loved ones are reaching out. You know, 0:10:20.520 --> 0:10:24.520 we are receiving upwards of about forty to fifty people 0:10:24.559 --> 0:10:28.760 touching base with our social media just expressing some concern 0:10:28.840 --> 0:10:32.439 about behaviors that they are concerned about or they are witnessing. 0:10:33.000 --> 0:10:35.319 And you know, I think what's really important is we 0:10:35.440 --> 0:10:39.040 must keep these rallies going. We need to use our 0:10:39.080 --> 0:10:42.080 words to continue to rally every single day, you know, 0:10:42.200 --> 0:10:45.520 at work, at home, everywhere. Lean in demand change, and 0:10:45.679 --> 0:10:47.880 men must be talking to men right. 0:10:48.679 --> 0:10:51.200 Also, I guess like when we talk about how this is, 0:10:51.360 --> 0:10:53.480 I mean, it's getting a lot of airtime at the moment, 0:10:53.520 --> 0:10:57.040 and people are really angry, as they absolutely should be angry. 0:10:57.480 --> 0:10:59.559 But I think a lot of people feel really helpless 0:10:59.640 --> 0:11:02.080 and and don't know where to start, don't know what 0:11:02.160 --> 0:11:04.800 to do if somebody's out there and they think that 0:11:04.880 --> 0:11:07.720 maybe one of their friends or someone that they love 0:11:07.920 --> 0:11:10.680 could be in a relationship that's abusive, Because that's the problem. 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:13.080 A lot this happens behind closed doors without anyone even 0:11:13.080 --> 0:11:15.920 knowing it's going on. What would you say is the 0:11:15.960 --> 0:11:18.000 place to start if you think that someone you love 0:11:18.080 --> 0:11:18.840 could be in danger? 0:11:19.760 --> 0:11:22.360 Yeah, I think, lean in right and ask the question, 0:11:22.880 --> 0:11:25.839 inform yourself. I think what's what I'd really like to do, 0:11:26.000 --> 0:11:28.360 just very briefly, is to speak to those that are 0:11:28.440 --> 0:11:32.400 listening right now and who are experiencing the violence themselves, 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:35.760 and the control and the fear and their lives. You know, 0:11:35.800 --> 0:11:38.920 what we've seen across the last few weeks, is that 0:11:38.960 --> 0:11:42.480 in amongst this dark anguish that we're witnessing, there is 0:11:42.480 --> 0:11:46.319 a tidal wave of community support emerging. And that's not 0:11:46.360 --> 0:11:48.640 only for the victim survivors, but it is for the 0:11:48.880 --> 0:11:52.000 family members and the loved ones. We need to know 0:11:52.160 --> 0:11:55.480 that you know you're not alone and the community supports you. 0:11:56.400 --> 0:11:59.720 The shame is does not lie on the shoulders of 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:00.880 the victim survivors. 0:12:00.920 --> 0:12:04.000 Of course, there's incredible services one eight hundred respect or 0:12:04.040 --> 0:12:06.360 even reaching out to a service like rise Up and 0:12:06.440 --> 0:12:09.000 we can guide you to a service in the local area. 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:12.319 Do you know sometimes when we speak about victim survivors, 0:12:12.480 --> 0:12:15.199 I think what's also super important is that we need 0:12:15.240 --> 0:12:19.679 to speak to perpetrators of this violence. Right If you 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:23.600 are someone listening right now and you use power and 0:12:23.640 --> 0:12:26.320 control to abuse someone in your life, you know that 0:12:26.440 --> 0:12:27.160 you are doing it. 0:12:27.240 --> 0:12:32.199 Check yourself and get help because you also importantly deserve 0:12:32.240 --> 0:12:35.680 to be happy and right now you're not. And think 0:12:35.720 --> 0:12:38.480 about the impact that this is having on your children 0:12:38.880 --> 0:12:41.800 and they don't deserve it. Break the cycle, get the 0:12:41.920 --> 0:12:43.160 help because you can do it. 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:46.000 What about men, There's so many men who feel like 0:12:46.200 --> 0:12:48.200 they don't know how to get involved in the conversation. 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:50.439 I think women have been speaking about this for years 0:12:50.480 --> 0:12:52.760 and years and years, and now it feels like men 0:12:52.840 --> 0:12:55.280 are listening. But also I think so many of them 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:57.520 don't really know where to start, or what to say, 0:12:57.640 --> 0:13:01.560 or how to help. What would be your advice, I think? 0:13:01.800 --> 0:13:04.000 But like I said before, we have to lean in. 0:13:04.320 --> 0:13:07.160 Men and women need to lean in and start paying 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:11.600 attention to what's going on around us. You know, here 0:13:11.640 --> 0:13:13.960 it rise up and as a community, we know that 0:13:14.040 --> 0:13:16.880 one of the biggest challenges for women leaving a violent 0:13:16.920 --> 0:13:20.400 relationship is being able to start again from scratch. 0:13:20.960 --> 0:13:21.160 Right. 0:13:21.240 --> 0:13:23.839 We know that this is such a pervasive issue. We 0:13:23.920 --> 0:13:28.800 know what the statistics are. Okay, women face enormous economic 0:13:28.880 --> 0:13:30.559 barriers and high levels of poverty. 0:13:31.120 --> 0:13:34.000 There is help available and we're all part of the solution. 0:13:34.240 --> 0:13:38.040 So if we all can lean in, pay attention to 0:13:38.080 --> 0:13:42.200 what's happening around us, hold our friends and family accountable 0:13:42.200 --> 0:13:43.760 for their attitudes and behaviors. 0:13:43.800 --> 0:13:45.959 For men, listening, like it starts at home right from 0:13:46.000 --> 0:13:49.199 a real young age. I said this on the show yesterday, 0:13:49.520 --> 0:13:52.120 but I remember being raised what I feel is the 0:13:52.160 --> 0:13:53.760 right way. I had a brilliant father figure, I do 0:13:53.800 --> 0:13:56.600 have a brilliant father figure. So for men listening, you've 0:13:56.600 --> 0:13:59.360 got to check your influence. Right, if you are a 0:13:59.440 --> 0:14:01.360 coach of a soccer team or your coach of a 0:14:01.400 --> 0:14:04.560 swim squad and you've got all boys, start the conversations there, 0:14:04.600 --> 0:14:07.040 because that's when I think the seed will grow. You 0:14:07.120 --> 0:14:08.640 only know unless you know, right, You've got to learn 0:14:08.640 --> 0:14:09.520 from that young age. 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:12.720 Yeah, and you're a dad, right, If you're a dad, yeah, 0:14:13.160 --> 0:14:16.560 what are you showcasing in your little microcosm? Because your 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:19.520 children are watching and your son is going to go 0:14:19.600 --> 0:14:22.320 on and perpetrate, He's going to replicate, and your little 0:14:22.320 --> 0:14:24.120 girl is going to go on and find a partner 0:14:24.240 --> 0:14:24.720 just like you. 0:14:25.480 --> 0:14:27.960 If you are experiencing anything or you do feel like 0:14:28.000 --> 0:14:30.200 you need help, help is available in one eight hundred. 0:14:30.200 --> 0:14:33.840 Respect Lifeline is also available for support twenty four seven 0:14:33.880 --> 0:14:37.000 on thirteen eleven fourteen. And if you are someone that 0:14:37.160 --> 0:14:39.480 is an experience in it but is up in arms 0:14:39.520 --> 0:14:41.000 like the rest of us, and you do want to help, 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:43.680 you can go to charities like Rise Up for example. 0:14:43.760 --> 0:14:46.480 You can help donate furniture or money or appliances. There 0:14:46.480 --> 0:14:48.360 are a lot of things to help give women and 0:14:48.440 --> 0:14:49.440 children a place to go. 0:14:49.560 --> 0:14:51.520 Thanks for all the working do Nicole. I mean, right 0:14:51.520 --> 0:14:54.000 now it's very important, but going into the future, we 0:14:54.040 --> 0:14:56.280 need to keep this conversation happening. Thanks for coming on 0:14:56.280 --> 0:14:56.600 the show. 0:14:57.240 --> 0:14:58.480 Thanks so much for having me. 0:14:58.600 --> 0:15:01.760 Thanks Nicole, got all right, it's a conversation that feels 0:15:01.800 --> 0:15:03.280 so heavy and you kind of you want to shy 0:15:03.360 --> 0:15:04.480 away from these discussions. 0:15:04.640 --> 0:15:05.600 Yeah, but it's my theories. 0:15:05.640 --> 0:15:08.520 It's one of these conversations that happens and everyone's having it, 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:10.160 and then what happens in a month's time or two 0:15:10.200 --> 0:15:12.360 months time? You know, it's like it's the conversation has 0:15:12.400 --> 0:15:13.160 to keep being had. 0:15:13.240 --> 0:15:14.760 Well you look at what happened in Camber this week 0:15:14.800 --> 0:15:17.280 and legislation has been passed, right, what a billion dollars 0:15:17.360 --> 0:15:19.720 Anthony Albaneze, the Prime Minister has put into it, So 0:15:19.760 --> 0:15:21.640 about time. Well that wouldn't have happened if we hadn't 0:15:21.640 --> 0:15:23.200 had this conversation for the last few weeks. 0:15:23.240 --> 0:15:23.960 So good, you know. 0:15:23.920 --> 0:15:25.440 You're right and keep being vocal. 0:15:25.560 --> 0:15:27.520 Yeah, all right, back after this here on. 0:15:27.480 --> 0:15:29.480 The pickup, do you know what you know? 0:15:29.520 --> 0:15:31.560 I need a little bit of like SVU Special Victims 0:15:31.640 --> 0:15:34.720 Unit music because it is time for laws. 0:15:35.120 --> 0:15:37.400 Laws now it's been a while since we played this game. 0:15:37.480 --> 0:15:37.640 We have. 0:15:37.720 --> 0:15:39.480 We used to do this when we had that weekend show. 0:15:39.760 --> 0:15:41.400 It's not even really a game, to be honest. 0:15:41.440 --> 0:15:44.680 It's just I have a real penchant for stupid laws 0:15:44.720 --> 0:15:45.960 that exist around the world. 0:15:46.000 --> 0:15:47.640 I think it's really I think it's funny. 0:15:47.400 --> 0:15:48.720 The stupid women named Laura. 0:15:48.960 --> 0:15:55.200 Not what you said, stupid laws, oh haha, stupid laws laws, 0:15:55.400 --> 0:15:58.200 because across the world there are some very questionable laws 0:15:58.240 --> 0:15:59.920 which I don't know whether they're in force or they're 0:15:59.920 --> 0:16:03.560 not enforced, but it's ridiculous. And the reason why this 0:16:03.640 --> 0:16:06.600 spiked my interest is because very recently in Milan there 0:16:06.600 --> 0:16:09.160 has been a new law that has just they tried 0:16:09.200 --> 0:16:12.240 to get it passed. They tried, but they failed. Passes 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:17.200 off parliament. Milan, just Milan. You likes past Milan the 0:16:17.240 --> 0:16:20.000 whole Yeah, Milan. So the reason why it was overturned 0:16:20.080 --> 0:16:22.080 is because of how ridiculous it is and because of 0:16:22.080 --> 0:16:24.400 the outrage. So this is what it is. Milan backs 0:16:24.440 --> 0:16:27.680 down on plans to bear ice cream after midnight following 0:16:27.720 --> 0:16:31.840 widespread criticism. So basically, they tried to get this law 0:16:31.880 --> 0:16:35.080