WEBVTT - Which Exes Are Off Limits? 💔 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:03.239 The Flex and Rooms Daily podcast. 0:00:02.840 --> 0:00:07.160 Brought to you by the Girls, are back at again 0:00:07.200 --> 0:00:11.160 with the big questions. Honestly the biggest of questions because, 0:00:11.320 --> 0:00:13.320 like I say every time, they don't have answers, and 0:00:13.360 --> 0:00:16.200 we actually kind of need them, not so we have 0:00:16.280 --> 0:00:18.200 to be bound by them forever, but just so we 0:00:18.239 --> 0:00:22.640 have guidelines, please and thank you. We are trying to 0:00:22.680 --> 0:00:25.520 figure out which xes are off limits, and by that 0:00:25.600 --> 0:00:28.440 we mean, of all the ex'es that exist in the world, 0:00:29.040 --> 0:00:31.960 which ones are you not allowed to date. I wish 0:00:31.960 --> 0:00:33.360 I could create like a teer list, but it could 0:00:33.360 --> 0:00:34.840 take us a few shows to get to the course. 0:00:34.920 --> 0:00:38.160 Let's just start with the most obvious. Obviously, can't date 0:00:38.159 --> 0:00:39.080 your best friends. 0:00:39.040 --> 0:00:41.680 X Yeah, probably not. You would No, I wouldn't. 0:00:41.840 --> 0:00:46.000 Okay, let's so say the words please, no, thank you. 0:00:46.400 --> 0:00:48.160 So yeah, you obviously can't date your breath your best 0:00:48.159 --> 0:00:51.000 friends excuse you can think about it, for sure, you 0:00:51.040 --> 0:00:53.600 can't close on it. This is where me and a 0:00:53.640 --> 0:00:56.160 few of my people's like to disagree. So we've got 0:00:56.200 --> 0:00:59.200 our best best friends, right, I've got like five of those, 0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:02.040 maybe seven actually. 0:01:02.280 --> 0:01:04.680 For them, I'll do whatever right. 0:01:05.440 --> 0:01:09.920 Every single person who sits outside of that fair game really, 0:01:10.040 --> 0:01:13.959 my morals will allow me to adjust, like case by case, 0:01:14.040 --> 0:01:15.880 you know what I mean. Like, I'm not gonna go 0:01:15.959 --> 0:01:18.319 for your ex. That's case by case. 0:01:18.600 --> 0:01:21.440 Okay, how about this, Okay, let's say you had housemates. 0:01:22.000 --> 0:01:23.920 Put it. Put you in my position. I've got a 0:01:23.959 --> 0:01:27.840 housemate dating a guy for four years. Huh they break up? 0:01:28.680 --> 0:01:30.200 Can I get with him? Nah? 0:01:30.440 --> 0:01:32.040 The length of time is too much time? 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:34.280 Yeah? Like are you basically on time or closest to 0:01:34.319 --> 0:01:34.680 the person. 0:01:34.720 --> 0:01:36.200 Well, this is what we've got to think about as well. 0:01:36.360 --> 0:01:39.280 Now we're talking. Now we're talking here some factors. It's 0:01:39.440 --> 0:01:41.920 how close you were to that person. How close you 0:01:41.959 --> 0:01:44.400 were to the ex. If that ex is your best 0:01:44.400 --> 0:01:47.080 friend first before they were that person's ex, and like 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:51.000 that's your friend, fair game, right. The length of time 0:01:51.040 --> 0:01:52.960 that they were together, that's very important. If it was 0:01:52.960 --> 0:01:55.040 a couple of weeks, sorry, babes, fair game, you know. 0:01:55.720 --> 0:01:59.280 But if it was an extreme circumstance, you gotta think 0:01:59.280 --> 0:02:00.880 about that as well as an island, you know. 0:02:00.880 --> 0:02:01.200 What I mean. 0:02:01.240 --> 0:02:04.280 Or they were together for two weeks but they got married, 0:02:05.000 --> 0:02:07.920 that's a divorce, a say, you know. And also if 0:02:07.960 --> 0:02:11.120 you're in extreme circumstances like I said, if we're catching 0:02:11.120 --> 0:02:14.720 a plane playing crashes in the Butuda triangle, it's just us, 0:02:15.160 --> 0:02:15.919 me and your ex. 0:02:16.320 --> 0:02:18.239 What am I meant to do? Babe? What would you 0:02:18.280 --> 0:02:20.240 have me do? The world must go on. 0:02:20.360 --> 0:02:22.200 I was just telling you the other week that my 0:02:22.320 --> 0:02:25.840 friend she's like loyal to a fault for people that 0:02:25.960 --> 0:02:28.680 should not have her loyalty. Like if she knows you're 0:02:28.680 --> 0:02:30.400 a friend of a friend of a friend of ours 0:02:30.600 --> 0:02:33.560 who had a crush on someone, there're off limits. Huh 0:02:33.600 --> 0:02:37.840 So babe, get off it, let it go. It doesn't matter. 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:40.240 But I think she's in her mentality of like I 0:02:40.240 --> 0:02:42.040 would hate for someone to do that to me. I'm like, 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:46.240 it's happening as we speak. As we speak, So what's 0:02:46.280 --> 0:02:47.920 your what are your rules for me given to me? 0:02:49.000 --> 0:02:52.200 I wouldn't. Okay, let me think about it. The brain's 0:02:52.200 --> 0:02:54.600 mean to be. Nah, I'm not gonna not gonna down myself. 0:02:54.600 --> 0:02:56.600 Maybe I haven't had enough food today, mab Yeah. I 0:02:56.680 --> 0:02:59.080 usually snacked her out there. You need more food to function, 0:02:59.320 --> 0:03:02.720 and unfortunately the snacks have been taken away from us 0:03:02.720 --> 0:03:05.280 at Kita. Yeah. I don't know whose fault that was. 0:03:05.320 --> 0:03:07.480 I don't think it was mine. Was it someone's been 0:03:07.520 --> 0:03:10.679 raiding the drink's fridge. This guy called Xannon's fault. Last 0:03:10.760 --> 0:03:11.280 we move on. 0:03:11.360 --> 0:03:13.720 Like we were saying, which x's are off litts Okay, 0:03:13.760 --> 0:03:15.160 off limits is a bit of a rogue one. 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:15.800 But I'm trying to like. 0:03:16.080 --> 0:03:17.960 But I guess think about it from your perspective, right, 0:03:18.040 --> 0:03:20.360 like let's say. 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:22.320 Yeah, huh, what other perspective do I have? 0:03:22.480 --> 0:03:24.200 No? Like, I mean, like, think about it from the 0:03:24.240 --> 0:03:27.480 point of who do you not want dating your ex? Oh? 0:03:27.600 --> 0:03:30.160 True darts? Free game with my exes? Oh? 0:03:30.240 --> 0:03:30.920 Yeah, yeah? 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:35.240 Free game is that it is by pull up to 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:39.040 the brown lows with your rights. 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:41.640 Don't say, what is my extra footy flawer? I don't know, 0:03:42.920 --> 0:03:46.200 Maybe give us the gospelp okay. 0:03:46.640 --> 0:03:49.440 I mean, you know what, when I think the thing 0:03:49.520 --> 0:03:53.040 that gets off limits is when they were your ex 0:03:53.120 --> 0:03:55.640 first and they weren't friends with the person that's getting 0:03:55.640 --> 0:04:00.600 with them, and they you had doubts about them those 0:04:00.640 --> 0:04:03.480 two when you were with the partner. Oh, because they 0:04:03.520 --> 0:04:05.280 flirt then they get together. 0:04:06.120 --> 0:04:08.480 I've heard of this one too many times. I've seen 0:04:08.520 --> 0:04:09.920 it play out quite a few times. 0:04:10.000 --> 0:04:10.800 You know, you get the call and. 0:04:10.760 --> 0:04:12.560 Your friends, like you know someone day you're like, what 0:04:13.520 --> 0:04:18.080 I always knew someone like that's got to sting, because 0:04:18.080 --> 0:04:21.400 then you throw it throws into question your whole experience 0:04:21.440 --> 0:04:21.960 being with them. 0:04:22.200 --> 0:04:23.880 Yeah yeah, yeah, Okay. 0:04:23.920 --> 0:04:26.640 So what we're saying is if if if your only 0:04:26.800 --> 0:04:29.080 access to my ex was through me, if I was 0:04:29.120 --> 0:04:33.120 the conduit to build that relationship, off limits, Probably Yeah, 0:04:33.160 --> 0:04:35.880 that's fair. But I think if we're saying it's offloads, 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:36.800 we're not enforcing it. 0:04:36.880 --> 0:04:39.240 I'm not knocking down your door being like cut it. 0:04:39.560 --> 0:04:41.560 Yeah, but you cut it down in silent ways. I 0:04:41.600 --> 0:04:45.239 wouldn't fuck with anything that's like gonna fuck with my work. 0:04:45.600 --> 0:04:48.800 Oh that's a tricky one though. So like, if someone 0:04:48.800 --> 0:04:50.599 who I admire with work or I have some sort 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:53.640 of working relationship with that is a good contact that 0:04:53.680 --> 0:04:55.680 I could potentially work with in the future, that would 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:58.840 be beneficial for me in my career, their partner's off limits. 0:04:58.920 --> 0:05:00.640 I'm going in really Yeah. 0:05:01.000 --> 0:05:03.800 See, I just value my career too much to let 0:05:03.839 --> 0:05:04.600 love get in the way. 0:05:04.680 --> 0:05:06.920 In that way, there's plenty more fish in the sea. Yeah, 0:05:06.920 --> 0:05:09.560 putty more jobs in the sea. A job is easy, 0:05:09.640 --> 0:05:13.160 true love, babe, Maybe I can make a make a 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:16.120 money is so easy to make jobs are so easy 0:05:16.120 --> 0:05:17.320 to find a connection. 0:05:18.120 --> 0:05:20.479 I'm just thinking about my reputation. It's soiled. 0:05:23.200 --> 0:05:26.479 Sha'll worry about that, babe, shut up, don't hear me 0:05:26.560 --> 0:05:30.680 with that. That is a tricky one. But then it's 0:05:30.680 --> 0:05:33.120 like again the net is cast too wide. 0:05:33.160 --> 0:05:35.520 Then maybe I mean, who cares. 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:37.000 It's a bit of fun. 0:05:38.560 --> 0:05:40.880 Honestly, I say, everybody's fair game as long as you 0:05:40.880 --> 0:05:43.320 tell us about it. Don't go grass cut someone and 0:05:43.400 --> 0:05:45.039 then do a private relationship? 0:05:45.600 --> 0:05:48.359 What is it secret but not private? Private but not secret. 0:05:48.480 --> 0:05:50.520 Yeah that's hard, that's hard. And then it gets back 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:52.440 to the person. Yeah, this is a bit messy. 0:05:52.480 --> 0:05:54.479 Really do you do it real publicly? 0:05:54.640 --> 0:05:54.919 Hard? 0:05:55.040 --> 0:05:55.440 Launch? 0:05:55.680 --> 0:05:57.240 And then we've got nothing to say about it. If 0:05:57.240 --> 0:06:01.240 we're whispering, whispering, whispering, it's too much. Any last thoughts. 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:03.960 You know what someone's're gonna think about our parents or 0:06:03.960 --> 0:06:07.479 our parents generation people that had us. There's so many 0:06:07.480 --> 0:06:10.840 stories of grandparents about how like oh, like my grandma 0:06:10.880 --> 0:06:13.599 was engaged to someone and then met my grandpa and 0:06:13.680 --> 0:06:17.400 ran away with him. Like yeah, people, everyone's grandma. Do 0:06:17.480 --> 0:06:20.080 you have that story? Even my cram we need. 0:06:20.120 --> 0:06:22.440 Yeah, we need to step it up. I don't have 0:06:22.520 --> 0:06:26.080 that story really, Yeah, you know, like we personally need 0:06:26.120 --> 0:06:28.479 to step it up, so we have that get engaged 0:06:28.720 --> 0:06:29.760 run away leaving. 0:06:29.520 --> 0:06:32.680 Someone at the older. Yeah, but no, I must say 0:06:32.680 --> 0:06:35.480 I've got nothing salacious really to add. I've never cut 0:06:35.520 --> 0:06:39.680 grass from what I know? Have they be sure? Yeah? 0:06:39.800 --> 0:06:41.320 Pretty sure? I got interesting tastes? 0:06:41.440 --> 0:06:42.840 What does that mean? 0:06:43.279 --> 0:06:45.200 I don't date like I date people that aren't friends 0:06:45.200 --> 0:06:46.360 with my friends for the most part. 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:49.560 Yeah, spare a few, But what's interesting taste to me? 0:06:50.200 --> 0:06:55.480 Like they're not friends with my friends? Interesting tastes? Wrap 0:06:55.520 --> 0:06:58.800 it up, sus, wrap it up. Imagine the kind of 0:06:58.800 --> 0:07:02.000 banshee that needs to handle my personality? Yeah? Who are they? 0:07:02.160 --> 0:07:02.240 Not? 0:07:02.279 --> 0:07:05.120 Actually very normal people? I'm much more normal than it 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:07.800 makes out. Cut the cameras comment. 0:07:07.960 --> 0:07:10.800 This is flex and frooms on KEDA. 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:13.560 I was looking at one of my favorite instagrams the 0:07:13.600 --> 0:07:17.600 other day. It is called weight But why? Is based 0:07:17.600 --> 0:07:21.080 off a blog which basically explains like massive scientific and 0:07:21.120 --> 0:07:25.480 philosophical ideas in a very consumable way, often using stick 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:28.720 figure drawings. Oh cool, anyway, the person that runs the 0:07:28.760 --> 0:07:31.880 account is also the person that founded siblings or Dating 0:07:32.120 --> 0:07:35.840 No way, fun fact, but that's an offshoot, say why 0:07:35.880 --> 0:07:38.240 you were an early adopter of siblings or dating exactly 0:07:38.680 --> 0:07:42.320 the first adopter when they had thirty seven followers. Thanks anyway, 0:07:44.120 --> 0:07:47.560 he posted this little tile, which I thought was really interesting. 0:07:47.600 --> 0:07:50.360 It's about health, he goes, People in the early nineteen 0:07:50.480 --> 0:07:54.400 hundreds thought soda was healthy. People in the nineteen fifties 0:07:54.440 --> 0:07:57.960 thought whitebread was healthy. People in the nineteen nineties thought 0:07:58.000 --> 0:08:00.720 margarine was healthy. What's something most of us think is 0:08:00.760 --> 0:08:03.640 healthy today? That future people will shake their heads. 0:08:03.400 --> 0:08:08.720 At black coffee or any kind of coffee related substance. Really, yeah, 0:08:09.040 --> 0:08:14.080 how come you coffee drinkers are lunatics? Like it's kind 0:08:14.080 --> 0:08:17.720 of like debilitating need for this substance. I'm often quizzing 0:08:17.720 --> 0:08:19.560 coffee drinkers like do you like the taste? 0:08:19.560 --> 0:08:19.720 Well? 0:08:19.760 --> 0:08:22.000 No, And I'm like does it keep you energizable? Like 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:24.040 sometimes it's like okay, so it's not really doing what 0:08:24.080 --> 0:08:26.200 it needs to be doing. And I'm sure they'll figure 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:28.280 out after some years that it's like ruining like your 0:08:28.280 --> 0:08:30.920 brain chemistry or something interesting. 0:08:31.120 --> 0:08:31.559 What else? 0:08:31.760 --> 0:08:33.240 That's all it said, But it said no, like, what 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:35.319 do you think will be considered unhealthy? 0:08:35.880 --> 0:08:38.079 Fruit juice apparently, which I don't. 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:40.480 Think anyone thinks fruit juice is yefty, especially like even 0:08:40.480 --> 0:08:42.840 if you're doing freshly squeezed juice, you just like, are 0:08:42.880 --> 0:08:44.200 you taking out all the good stuff and just leaving 0:08:44.200 --> 0:08:44.920 the sugar behind? 0:08:45.080 --> 0:08:48.800 Yeah, my crowd to drink exactly. And this guy said 0:08:49.040 --> 0:08:53.839 sushi rolls for many people of Western ancestry who often 0:08:53.880 --> 0:08:59.240 have huge blood sugar spikes from rice. What Yeah, I 0:08:59.280 --> 0:09:00.160 say that as well. 0:09:00.240 --> 0:09:02.040 Yeah, I thought I definitely would put sushi in the 0:09:02.040 --> 0:09:02.800 healthy category. 0:09:03.080 --> 0:09:04.360 Yeah, I think it can give you a bit of 0:09:04.360 --> 0:09:05.400 a role. 0:09:05.520 --> 0:09:07.680 But wouldn't want to be around then anyways, it's all good. 0:09:07.760 --> 0:09:10.880 Yeah true. Finally there was the other ones, artificial sweeteners 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:14.319 or vitamins. You know how I feel about vitamins. Yeah, yeah. 0:09:14.360 --> 0:09:16.479 And then vegan meat burgers for sure. 0:09:16.480 --> 0:09:21.120 Oh yeah, any kind of vegan like fast food, alternative. 0:09:20.880 --> 0:09:24.000 M Someone said coffee. Nobody is studying whether it's healthy 0:09:24.040 --> 0:09:26.120 to drink a pot of hot seed baby meth every 0:09:26.200 --> 0:09:26.880 day for decades. 0:09:28.480 --> 0:09:30.559 There you go, I like that they can be one 0:09:30.559 --> 0:09:33.840 of us. Let's get them on the show. Yeah, that's fascinating. 0:09:34.360 --> 0:09:37.200 It's I would like to understand what was said about, 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:39.599 you know, soda that would make anyone think it was 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:43.480 once healthy. Mm, But I think with every kind of 0:09:44.280 --> 0:09:48.160 you know, like technically naughty food or even just food generally, 0:09:48.200 --> 0:09:49.520 I don't necessarily think any. 0:09:49.400 --> 0:09:51.000 Of us know where they sit on the scale of 0:09:51.040 --> 0:09:51.920 healthy or unhealthy. 0:09:52.120 --> 0:09:54.960 Like if I'm eating like a sao or like a sakata, 0:09:55.160 --> 0:09:56.280 I'm like, is that heal? 0:09:56.400 --> 0:09:56.760 I don't know? 0:09:56.920 --> 0:09:58.040 Is how unhealthy? 0:09:58.160 --> 0:09:58.400 Is it? 0:09:58.520 --> 0:10:00.000 You know what I'm saying. It's all on a look, 0:10:00.360 --> 0:10:02.079 it doesn't matter. I don't think it matters. I think 0:10:02.160 --> 0:10:04.720 maybe it does. You're going to die anyway, not me 0:10:04.760 --> 0:10:07.719 that I'm staying here forever, and who's going to turn 0:10:07.720 --> 0:10:10.120 me into a vampire. I've been literally asking for like 0:10:10.440 --> 0:10:12.400 ten years and nobody's done it yet. 0:10:12.559 --> 0:10:14.360 He died a bloodsucker. Literally. 0:10:14.520 --> 0:10:17.719 Maybe I'm being too like to forthcoming, I think so. 0:10:17.720 --> 0:10:22.040 I think, Yeah, okay, thank you, thank. 0:10:21.840 --> 0:10:23.679 You, flex and frooms. 0:10:23.880 --> 0:10:27.000 Fortunately for you, I have a big question, one that 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:29.320 needs answers, one that requires you to go to your 0:10:29.360 --> 0:10:33.240 inner circles. I'm talking your your I message, your group chat, 0:10:33.480 --> 0:10:35.040 maybe even the ear bumble profile. 0:10:35.600 --> 0:10:37.880 Pose the question taking it there? 0:10:38.240 --> 0:10:38.640 Why not? 0:10:39.280 --> 0:10:39.439 Well? 0:10:39.440 --> 0:10:39.760 Why not? 0:10:40.360 --> 0:10:43.400 The question is would you rather be right or happy? 0:10:43.640 --> 0:10:44.240 And why? 0:10:44.720 --> 0:10:47.319 And before you say like can't I be both? You're 0:10:47.400 --> 0:10:50.600 rarely either of them right now? So pick one true? 0:10:50.720 --> 0:10:51.040 Happy? 0:10:51.280 --> 0:10:51.480 Why? 0:10:52.520 --> 0:10:55.439 Because it's the hardest thing to be and at the 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:58.320 end of the day, right, it's subjective, is it? I 0:10:58.360 --> 0:11:00.320 know that you know I actually wild probably to be 0:11:00.400 --> 0:11:04.280 right if I'm being my most animal self self, but 0:11:05.200 --> 0:11:08.240 rather be I guess to me, the equation is saying, well, 0:11:08.440 --> 0:11:11.480 the trade off of being happy is that you've either 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:13.920 you maybe have been misunderstood, maybe like you actually wear 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:16.400 in the right, but you have to wear it, which 0:11:16.840 --> 0:11:19.200 I think I'd rather that than be right in a 0:11:19.240 --> 0:11:21.160 true sense. If we really could do run wrong and 0:11:21.200 --> 0:11:26.000 it be set in stone and unhappy 'or begrudging whoever 0:11:26.120 --> 0:11:26.480 is wrong? 0:11:26.760 --> 0:11:28.480 Do you feel Yeah, I do feel that. 0:11:28.720 --> 0:11:30.800 I think the pursuit of being right is so hard, 0:11:31.360 --> 0:11:33.440 especially when you're getting pushed back, like you ever been 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:37.120 in a scenario where you're like, my internal compass, my 0:11:37.280 --> 0:11:39.760 morals tell me, like, this is the correct thing to do, 0:11:40.280 --> 0:11:41.760 But then you get pushed back You're like, oh, maybe 0:11:41.760 --> 0:11:44.640 it's something like For example, let's say you're at a 0:11:44.679 --> 0:11:48.240 friend's dinner party, like it's your best friend's birthday, and 0:11:48.679 --> 0:11:52.760 right before your best friend is about to cut her 0:11:52.760 --> 0:11:54.040 cake and blow her candles. 0:11:54.280 --> 0:11:57.360 Your other friend is like, oh my goodness, I. 0:11:57.400 --> 0:11:58.040 Need to tell you something. 0:11:58.320 --> 0:12:01.520 I just got this text, like can it wait, and 0:12:01.520 --> 0:12:03.560 she's like no, no, no, it's really really urgent, like I 0:12:03.559 --> 0:12:04.480 gotta tell you this something. 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:06.959 Oh my god. So then he texted me this thing. 0:12:07.040 --> 0:12:11.200 She starts going through this whole unnecessary personal story. She's 0:12:11.400 --> 0:12:13.880 like it just came through, like it's really exciting, and 0:12:13.920 --> 0:12:16.200 everyone's like, oh, but your friend wants to cut a cake. 0:12:16.440 --> 0:12:18.640 So then you pop off. You say what is wrong 0:12:18.679 --> 0:12:21.840 with you? Like, have you no shame? Can't you be 0:12:21.960 --> 0:12:24.800 a good friend? Put that down for a second. Everyone's like, 0:12:24.840 --> 0:12:26.000 well for me, chill. 0:12:25.800 --> 0:12:26.960 Out, Like I love that it's me. 0:12:27.040 --> 0:12:30.400 Now why are you getting angry? You're like, are you joking? 0:12:30.800 --> 0:12:32.440 Like she's just such a rude thing. And I was like, well, 0:12:32.440 --> 0:12:34.560 now you're being rude. Now you're like I just did 0:12:34.640 --> 0:12:36.600 the right thing. I stood up for my friend. Now 0:12:36.640 --> 0:12:40.200 you people are turning on me too much, too much. 0:12:40.920 --> 0:12:43.959 Not that that's the only scenario, but I help him 0:12:44.000 --> 0:12:48.239 feel like the pursuit of being right is often so combative. 0:12:48.440 --> 0:12:51.280 Sometimes be like sometimes I just don't want to fight. 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:54.200 Sometimes I just want to know what I know and 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:56.360 then take the passive cowards way out. 0:12:56.760 --> 0:12:57.839 Bring back cowardice. 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:02.199 Okay, like own cowardice if you've done enough right, it's 0:13:02.240 --> 0:13:04.280 just yah, lay back. That's it. 0:13:04.360 --> 0:13:06.720 Every now and then, I'm thinking, you know, when I 0:13:06.760 --> 0:13:09.920 find myself in a situation that could be like really 0:13:09.920 --> 0:13:13.120 conflict heavy, I'm like, I don't want to fight, so 0:13:13.240 --> 0:13:17.440 I'm just gonna like bail slow, ghost say what I say, 0:13:17.520 --> 0:13:19.520 sign up for the smiley face, and like be out 0:13:19.800 --> 0:13:22.439 when they're like, oh why or can we talk about it? 0:13:22.920 --> 0:13:23.160 No? 0:13:23.360 --> 0:13:25.840 Probably not so sorry, I'm uncomfortable with that option, but 0:13:25.840 --> 0:13:26.640 thank you for offering. 0:13:27.120 --> 0:13:27.360 Damn. 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:30.400 Okay, so you preferred to be happy in my passive error, 0:13:32.200 --> 0:13:36.080 I preferre to be happy for sure, Like Baked, have 0:13:36.240 --> 0:13:40.400 you ever encountered a flex when she's not cackling and smiling? 0:13:40.440 --> 0:13:44.800 It's so scary, it's scary. It's literally so terrifying. 0:13:44.960 --> 0:13:48.320 This is flex and frooms so FLEXI. 0:13:48.480 --> 0:13:50.360 On the weekend I had my friend's birthday. We went 0:13:50.360 --> 0:13:52.880 to the Royal in Bondai Ho hub in Bondai You 0:13:52.920 --> 0:13:54.160 ever been? Oh no, I have. 0:13:54.520 --> 0:13:58.480 People are so enthusiastic in there, like yelling, singing, hot tip. 0:13:58.559 --> 0:14:02.040 I think it's my new local. It popped off again 0:14:02.080 --> 0:14:04.200 with the doc sing you know. 0:14:04.240 --> 0:14:05.959 I'm not actually going to go it's not actually my 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:11.600 new local. The clientele was particularly interesting, people from all 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:15.720 walks of life, truly, but party vibes. The DJ music 0:14:15.760 --> 0:14:18.920 is good, like usher falling in love again. The DJ 0:14:19.080 --> 0:14:22.000 music well, at one point the DJA wasn't there. It's 0:14:22.040 --> 0:14:24.680 just playing like pre mixed songs. Great, but then it 0:14:24.720 --> 0:14:28.480 came on did a few shit yeah, but for the 0:14:28.520 --> 0:14:33.080 most part pretty good. Anyway. I was playing pool so 0:14:33.320 --> 0:14:35.360 before it gets into a party vibe. So at around 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:38.840 seven till nine, there's pool tables. I decided we're going 0:14:38.840 --> 0:14:40.560 to play a game of pool. Also, it's just such 0:14:40.600 --> 0:14:42.760 a power move to have the pool table so you 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:45.280 can loiter around and kind of like have a power 0:14:45.960 --> 0:14:49.240 love having a purpose in a venue. So we're playing 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:51.640 and these two girls woke up and like we were 0:14:51.640 --> 0:14:54.360 going to another game, but they're like, oh, can we go? 0:14:54.480 --> 0:14:56.960 And I was like, oh, like, we're just about to 0:14:57.000 --> 0:14:57.600 do another game. 0:14:57.920 --> 0:15:01.000 But they waited for you to finish and that had 0:15:01.000 --> 0:15:04.240 come up or like they it was just like random timing. 0:15:04.280 --> 0:15:06.200 I think they just wanted it into the venue. Okay. 0:15:06.760 --> 0:15:08.280 I was like, oh, we're going to do another one, 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:10.640 but you can play with us. That's nice. And they're like, 0:15:10.680 --> 0:15:13.400 oh yeah yeah. So we all started playing together. Son. 0:15:13.480 --> 0:15:16.200 They were fantastic, amazing. One of the chicks had come 0:15:16.200 --> 0:15:19.760 from UK and she'd been playing pool for six weeks 0:15:19.760 --> 0:15:20.400 every day. 0:15:20.680 --> 0:15:23.080 Whoa every day for six weeks. I love when people 0:15:23.280 --> 0:15:24.080 learn new skills. 0:15:24.160 --> 0:15:27.760 It was cool and before she came on, my pool 0:15:27.800 --> 0:15:30.000 skills were terrible. I didn't get a single thing in. 0:15:30.400 --> 0:15:33.440 That's okay. She comes over first, shot two balls in 0:15:33.480 --> 0:15:35.600 the holes at once. That'll do it. I'm getting two 0:15:35.600 --> 0:15:38.640 balls in at a time every time. You Yeah. 0:15:38.760 --> 0:15:40.000 She was like you're a good omen. 0:15:40.080 --> 0:15:40.640 Yeah yeah, yeah. 0:15:40.680 --> 0:15:43.360 She give you any pointers? Nah, just her presence. 0:15:43.400 --> 0:15:45.040 I think I just wanted to impress her to be honest. 0:15:45.080 --> 0:15:48.240 Oh anyway, the venue is very crowded by the end 0:15:48.280 --> 0:15:50.120 of our game, and we keep having to say to 0:15:50.160 --> 0:15:52.120 people excuse me, like we're gonna hit you with the 0:15:52.160 --> 0:15:53.600 bill bulliard or whatever it is. 0:15:53.680 --> 0:15:55.080 Yeah, just knock them out. 0:15:55.240 --> 0:15:56.720 So what do we do? There was this group of 0:15:57.040 --> 0:16:00.000 group of people loitering around the table. Like to be fair, 0:16:00.040 --> 0:16:03.600 they're at the pub every second time we went, there 0:16:03.680 --> 0:16:06.120 was these two women that like we're talking to each other. 0:16:06.200 --> 0:16:08.120 We kept were having to be like oh sorry, sorry, 0:16:08.120 --> 0:16:11.239 and then move and then move back. This happened literally 0:16:11.880 --> 0:16:15.280 twelve times. No, when do we give up on the game? 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:20.320 Because I honestly felt annoying as Yeah. 0:16:19.960 --> 0:16:22.000 And to be fair, I can imagine being either of 0:16:22.040 --> 0:16:24.760 the people in the circumit, being the girls who won't 0:16:24.760 --> 0:16:26.360 move because I'm like, I want to stand here, so 0:16:26.440 --> 0:16:28.240 like we're just gonna have to do this the whole night, 0:16:28.400 --> 0:16:29.200 or being the person. 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:30.280 And say like, okay, can you please move? Can you 0:16:30.280 --> 0:16:30.680 please move? 0:16:31.040 --> 0:16:33.560 Granted, you've spoken before about how you don't like to 0:16:33.600 --> 0:16:36.400 police people generally, so I can understand why. 0:16:36.280 --> 0:16:38.680 You're like, ah, can you please whatever. 0:16:39.400 --> 0:16:42.800 Sometimes I think just let consequences for where they may. 0:16:43.520 --> 0:16:44.680 You might hit her a little bit. 0:16:45.000 --> 0:16:45.960 She won't be like, hey, what was that. 0:16:46.000 --> 0:16:47.960 You'd be like, oh, that's really odd. How you watched 0:16:48.000 --> 0:16:51.480 me wheeled a six foot pole? I didn't move how 0:16:51.560 --> 0:16:54.760 many times time? So she starts staying with was ruthless. 0:16:54.760 --> 0:16:57.200 At one point, She's just like she kept asking, didn't 0:16:57.200 --> 0:16:57.640 do it, so. 0:16:57.520 --> 0:17:00.600 She just went for you know, and then what happened. 0:17:00.640 --> 0:17:03.200 That was fine all is always fair in love and 0:17:03.480 --> 0:17:04.480 billiard tables. 0:17:04.600 --> 0:17:07.760 Look, it's tricky because I don't really think Karens can 0:17:07.800 --> 0:17:08.920 really exist in pubs. 0:17:09.320 --> 0:17:11.280 It's a free for all. It's a wayward place. 0:17:11.520 --> 0:17:14.200 But I feel like they come out in full force. Yeah, 0:17:14.200 --> 0:17:14.960 but that's what I'm saying. 0:17:15.000 --> 0:17:16.920 It's no man's land. So like, if you have to 0:17:17.040 --> 0:17:19.200 Karen to get a few things done, then so be it. 0:17:19.640 --> 0:17:21.680 You know, Like, have you ever seen someone who cannot 0:17:21.680 --> 0:17:23.440 activate their Karen when they're waiting for a drink in 0:17:23.480 --> 0:17:26.159