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Speaker 1: And Amanda jam Nason. Everyone wants taught me in radio.

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Speaker 1: A promise made is a promise delivered.

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Speaker 2: We made a promise yesterday to Debbie that we'd try

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Speaker 2: and track down an Easter show bag. Our Easter show

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Speaker 2: bags sold out, which is great news for us, but

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Speaker 2: not good news for dead.

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Speaker 3: It's kind of really irrelevant news for Debbie. That's right.

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Speaker 3: Anything it's bad news for Debbie.

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Speaker 2: But what happened was you all came to the rescue.

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Speaker 2: So thank you for everyone's contribution. But we now have

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Speaker 2: two Easter show bags, one for Debbie, one for her son.

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Speaker 2: As we heard, she wasn't able to take her son

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Speaker 2: to the Easter show because she was in hospital with

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Speaker 2: her husband. He sadly passed away a month ago. So

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Speaker 2: we'll do what we can to make good on that

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Speaker 2: Easter show promise.

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Speaker 1: From the get go, Debbie, I know that the show

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Speaker 1: bag can't do anything to cover your loss.

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Speaker 3: But condolences from our heartfelt condolences to you.

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Speaker 4: Hello, Hi, deb ye hi, oh, thank you, thank you

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Speaker 4: so much. It has been very hard the last four weeks.

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Speaker 2: Look, yes I can, I can't imagine, but tell us

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Speaker 2: about your husband. First of all, your wonderful husband, Thomas.

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Speaker 2: How long had you been married?

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Speaker 4: Four months and six days? Sorry, Yeah, we've been together

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Speaker 4: for nine years. We were childhood sweethearts when I was

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Speaker 4: sixteen and he was nineteen. Unfortunately that fell apart, as

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Speaker 4: young lovers do. And yeah, he found me on Facebook,

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Speaker 4: of course, and we've been together for nine years. And

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Speaker 4: we were married for four months and six days.

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Speaker 2: And did you know that his illness was escalating which

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Speaker 2: is why you got married? Then?

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Speaker 4: Yeah. He was diagnosed with terminal cancer in January of

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Speaker 4: the year before and he was given two to five years,

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Speaker 4: but unfortunately it decided to take his life a little

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Speaker 4: bit earlier.

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Speaker 1: Right, And so Christopher, that's not your son.

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Speaker 4: It's not my biological son. No, but he's my step son.

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Speaker 4: He has mild autism and he's living with us. He's

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Speaker 4: thirty two in June, and yeah, he wanted to go

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Speaker 4: to the show this year, but I said no, I

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Speaker 4: couldn't take him to the fact this dad was in hospital,

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Speaker 4: and yeah, it was just a no show. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So when you say Christopher has mild autism, what kind

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Speaker 2: of how does the household work? Does he need a

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Speaker 2: lot of care?

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Speaker 4: No, he can self, it can help help himself, which

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Speaker 4: is good. I think, just through a lot of training

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Speaker 4: through us and the support he gets from us at home,

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Speaker 4: teaching him new things. Of course it's repetitives, so it's

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Speaker 4: think thing. But he's quite sufficient in his own way,

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Speaker 4: keeps to himself. He likes his lego and listens to

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Speaker 4: his own kind of music and colorings and drawers and

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Speaker 4: things like that.

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Speaker 2: So is he as you say you said he's thirty one?

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Speaker 2: Does he function as a thirty one year old?

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Speaker 4: No? No, unfortunately he doesn't. No, he's probably a young child. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: got a thing. Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: And what's that meant for you, Debbie, being on your

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Speaker 2: own looking after him now.

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Speaker 4: Well, it's like having one of my own children. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: of course I'm here for him and his brother. His

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Speaker 4: brother also lives with us, lives with us. Yes, Michael,

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Speaker 4: he's a teen teacher now. He's got a bachelor's degree

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Speaker 4: in English literature, so he's teaching in fair Fell, Pats

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Speaker 4: And he's just loving his life again, being able to

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Speaker 4: do things. Now.

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Speaker 3: So your step son, stepmother to these two boys.

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Speaker 4: Wow, yes, I am yes, gone.

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Speaker 2: And has this had to change for you? How you work?

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Speaker 4: Well, I haven't worked for a while due to pain injury.

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Speaker 4: But I'm taking care of I'm going to be Christopher's

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Speaker 4: full time care and that's for now. I struggle in itself,

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Speaker 4: but we might go into that.

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Speaker 3: Well, now let's go into it. The government helping you.

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Speaker 4: Out with this, No, not really so that you get it,

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Speaker 4: no help. Well, it's a long story short. I need

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Speaker 4: to go and apply for carelessly, which I have done,

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Speaker 4: but I have to prove supply some other papers, which

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Speaker 4: is a tedious and tediously and I'm doing it slowly.

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Speaker 2: But paperwork what a thing? You lost your husband a

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Speaker 2: month ago, as if you need to be doing all

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Speaker 2: of this.

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Speaker 4: Do you know how many times I've cried up at

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Speaker 4: the pains of Lincoln and just I just feel like

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Speaker 4: a real idiot some thing, and why why am I bothering?

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Speaker 2: But yeah, well you know what, there's two weeks to showbags.

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Speaker 3: Obviously, I feel we feel that surely this Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I think, deb you have absolutely touched our hearts. So

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Speaker 2: we put our thinking caps on y and not like

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Speaker 2: the caps that are in that showbag.

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Speaker 1: Remember remember the wise person on the radio that said

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Speaker 1: a promise made as a promise to live it.

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Speaker 2: It wasn't a wise person.

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Speaker 3: But surely out of all of this we can do

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Speaker 3: something for you to be sure, so we'll be back

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Speaker 3: in touch.

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Speaker 2: Deb I'm so glad you got in touch with us.

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Speaker 2: Give our best Christopher and so to his brother Michael.

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Speaker 2: You're doing an amazing job and our hearts go out

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Speaker 2: to you and we will be back in touch.

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Speaker 4: Thank you very much, and thank you to the listeners

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Speaker 4: have also helped out.

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Speaker 1: Oh yes, onion rigs and some drinks. It's no one

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Speaker 1: gave you the Hope diamond, but we're going to work

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Speaker 1: on that. Do you want the Hope diamond, We'll give

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Speaker 1: it to you, Debbie, whatever you can do, conditions.

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Speaker 4: I just want to I can't.

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Speaker 2: Thank you all right, thank you dead, thank you.

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 3: You scratch the surface.

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Speaker 2: Of any story, and everyone has a tail.

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Speaker 1: Don't these stories of people ripping off the nd I

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Speaker 1: s and you think we'll hang on? No, what's going on?

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Speaker 1: Why isn't Debbie?

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Speaker 2: Bet I would rather a thousand million people rip off

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Speaker 2: the NDIS and have the NDIS at least function and

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Speaker 2: fund people rather than have these cutbacks and things. You

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Speaker 2: just have to you know, the system needs to be better, sure,

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Speaker 2: but it needs to have this money in it for

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Speaker 2: people like that.

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Speaker 3: Okay, well I'll put that in your inbox. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Well, we'll talk to people and still that.

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Speaker 3: We'll talk to