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Speaker 2: It's the podcast for the time poor parent who just

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Speaker 2: wants answers. Now.

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Speaker 1: Today, on the Happy Families Podcast, we're counting down the

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Speaker 1: five biggest episodes. It's been a big year on the

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Speaker 1: podcast this year, Kylie, and we're going to count down

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Speaker 1: the five most listen to episodes, the five biggest episodes,

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Speaker 1: the five do you know what? Looking at the list,

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Speaker 1: it's a really practical list of episodes where people are saying, Hey,

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Speaker 1: I just need to know what to do. So today

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Speaker 1: we're going to tell you what to do in five

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Speaker 1: simple steps. Rather than sharing snippets from our five most

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Speaker 1: popular episodes this year, we're going to tell you the

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Speaker 1: the show notes so you can go back and have

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Speaker 1: listen if you want to. But pretty much, here's what

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Speaker 1: So Kyler, let's count them down. Let's count from number

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Speaker 1: five down to number one in.

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Speaker 2: Position number five, Episode one, one thousand and forty one.

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Speaker 2: Can you believe that we've recorded over a thousand podcasts?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, overachievers. That's how we roll. Next year. By the way,

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Speaker 2: Screens suck. Do you think they listen to it because

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Speaker 1: Maybe it's a bit of both. My bias is increasingly

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Speaker 1: Brilliant topics, brilliant topic. What a brilliant podcast for brilliant parents.

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