Speaker 1: Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut.
Speaker 1: I'm Laura and I'm Brittany.
Speaker 2: And we're so humped to be back.
Speaker 1: It's the end of the world, as you know, it's
Speaker 1: not yet, and I feel relatively anxious and paranoid.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we had the week off last week, not by choice,
Speaker 2: sort of by choice, I guess. We just made what
Speaker 2: we thought was a smart decision to not record that week.
Speaker 2: There was a lot going on, obviously in the world.
Speaker 2: I had a bit of a throat tickle. I didn't
Speaker 2: want to risk infecting Laura and then Laura taking her
Speaker 2: home infecting Marley.
Speaker 1: You're so nice, an mate, don't start that far. That
Speaker 1: just took a really severe time. We haven't seen each
Speaker 1: other for over almost two weeks now, guys, because the
Speaker 1: world has gone mad. We're recording this. We haven't been
Speaker 1: able to set up set of our remote recording yet,
Speaker 1: so we are recording this in the same room. However,
Speaker 1: we are on vastly separate sides of the room, which
Speaker 1: kind of makes this even weirder. But you know what,
Speaker 1: we're here. We're so happy to be back and bringing
Speaker 1: you this podcast. We are so sorry about last week.
Speaker 1: But I didn't want to be near Brittany because I
Speaker 1: didn't want to get the corona.
Speaker 2: That's just true. Now I don't have it, guys, don't
Speaker 2: think I have it. But usually we do sit next
Speaker 2: to each other, like half a meter away, but we
Speaker 2: do have the option to sit diagonally, so we are
Speaker 2: solid two meters away. Even if you tried to spit
Speaker 2: on me, Laura, you couldn't.
Speaker 1: I don't think. Don't test me.
Speaker 2: But you guys were actually so supportive when we you know,
Speaker 2: when we put out that we wouldn't be releasing an episode,
Speaker 2: we did feel really bad because we don't like doing that,
Speaker 2: but you guys were so great, So thank you for
Speaker 2: being so understanding in this time. I think everyone's going
Speaker 2: through such a tough time, so it's so nice to
Speaker 2: see that everybody's coming together and just helping to support everyone.
Speaker 1: Maybe everyone was really happy to not have to listen
Speaker 1: to our voices for two weeks or a week. Actually,
Speaker 1: I take that back. It's only been a week, and
Speaker 1: I don't think, so okay, onwards enough wards then I
Speaker 1: think it truly is a really really hard and difficult
Speaker 1: time for everyone, And you know, we came in this morning,
Speaker 1: and Britt was a bit upset and emotional about where
Speaker 1: things are at in life just in general. And I
Speaker 1: think that's how I've been feeling completely as well in
Speaker 1: the last couple of weeks. And I guess the one
Speaker 1: piece of solace that I feel like I can take
Speaker 1: from all of this is that we are all in
Speaker 1: this shit storm together, and we're all dealing with varying
Speaker 1: levels of shit. So we really just want to keep
Speaker 1: on bringing you this podcast and bringing you this content
Speaker 1: until the very very end and just bring you a
Speaker 1: little bit of joy and a bit of hope that's
Speaker 1: not Corona related. Yeah, a bit of normal seed to
Speaker 1: your day.
Speaker 2: It's so true, I Laura, literally, and I'm sure you're
Speaker 2: the same. I don't know one person that he's not affected,
Speaker 2: not one like.
Speaker 1: There is just no one. And there is.
Speaker 2: Something to take from that that you. I can guarantee
Speaker 2: you listening right now, you're going through a really, really
Speaker 2: bloody hard time, but just know that everybody is and
Speaker 2: we will all come out of this on the other end.
Speaker 2: We might have some battle scars, we might have some wounds,
Speaker 2: but we'll be here and we will continue on. It
Speaker 2: is interesting to think about the way the dating world
Speaker 2: is going to change, and obviously that will even even
Speaker 2: the things we talk about in the future, it's going
Speaker 2: to be different, because you know, we're always talking about
Speaker 2: relationships and dating, but even that is going to be
Speaker 2: in a whole nother level, a whole nother ball game.
Speaker 2: See about two weeks ago, I was saying that I
Speaker 2: feel like dick picks were on the way out, But
Speaker 2: I really.
Speaker 1: Think dick picks are making a comeback when they're going
Speaker 1: to Twenty twenty is the year of the dick pic.
Speaker 1: I'm coining that right now. Let's not remember it about
Speaker 1: the year of coronavirus. It was the year that the
Speaker 1: dick pics made a resurgence.
Speaker 2: Lots of people are changing their bios, updating their bios
Speaker 2: for Quarantine and Chill instead of Netflix and Chill, which
Speaker 2: makes cute.
Speaker 1: I just find like this whole the whole world of dating,
Speaker 1: the whole world in general, like everything has been flipped
Speaker 1: on its head. So like what is that even? What
Speaker 1: does it even mean now? Like how does one even date?
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe it's time to not date. Maybe it's time
Speaker 1: for some good old self reflection and working on yourself.
Speaker 2: I was thinking about this. Think of all the people
Speaker 2: that were like in the early stages of their relationships
Speaker 2: getting to know each other, and now things are just
Speaker 2: fast tracked and they're stuck in a house together, isolating
Speaker 2: for god knows how long.
Speaker 1: Water baptism of fire. Hey, I was just asking for trouble.
Speaker 2: And also, if you can get through this in a relationship,
Speaker 2: you can get through anything. Because those girls, there's no
Speaker 2: fake tans, there's no eyelashes, there's no getting your head.
Speaker 1: Brit has come to the podcast you do today and
Speaker 1: this is the first time I have ever seen her
Speaker 1: without any hair extensions, and I said, you know what,
Speaker 1: the playing field is finally going to be leveled. Once
Speaker 1: this coronavirus business is all over. There's gonna be no
Speaker 1: fake tan, there's gonna be no hair extensions. And then
Speaker 1: she's still gonna be more attractive than me, but this
Speaker 1: will be closer. We'll be closer on the pitch.
Speaker 2: I did cut my hair, and I think I'm gonna
Speaker 2: take I think I'm gonna cut my hair quite short. Actually,
Speaker 2: I'm thinking of the like a bulb. What do you think? Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: do it. Yeah, They're crazy.
Speaker 1: I do it myself. Just hate nicely shave it. Maybe
Speaker 1: if you go mad enough over the next few weeks,
Speaker 1: you can pluck all your eyebrows out as well.
Speaker 2: Well. I guess for me, the good thing, I'm so grateful,
Speaker 2: But we're working in healthcare, I don't I won't be
Speaker 2: isolating because I have to go to work. I'll only
Speaker 2: be isolating if I have been exposed, or I get sick,
Speaker 2: or I lose my job, which, believe it or not,
Speaker 2: healthcare workers are losing their job because we don't have
Speaker 2: the money to pay them, which is nuts, because we.
Speaker 1: Need all of them.
Speaker 2: We need them more than ever, so that is on
Speaker 2: the cards too.
Speaker 1: But also, guys, if you're feeling a bit crazy in
Speaker 1: self isolation and you are feeling a little bit insane,
Speaker 1: put on a podcast like you can listen to our
Speaker 1: soothing voices anytime you want, but also call your friends.
Speaker 1: Just because you're self isolating does not mean that you
Speaker 1: have to be alone. Try and surround yourself virtually with
Speaker 1: as many people who you love and who bring your
Speaker 1: joy as possible. Because it's a really scary time. We
Speaker 1: are all in this together, even if we have to
Speaker 1: be separate at the moment.
Speaker 2: I think if you are at home. Use this time.
Speaker 1: Is there anything you wanted to learn or know about?
Speaker 2: Study something, learn a language, read more, write more, utilize
Speaker 2: this time, capitalize on it. I was actually reading an
Speaker 2: amazing article saying that out of the GFC, the Global
Speaker 2: Financial Crisis, so many amazing little ventures started in the GFC,
Speaker 2: for example, like Uber.
Speaker 1: I love that you said you read an article about this.
Speaker 1: I saw an Instagram post which we are. This is
Speaker 1: when Uber started, this is when WhatsApp started.
Speaker 2: Yes, it's amazing though, because there I guess there are
Speaker 2: people sitting inside that finally have the time to work
Speaker 2: on these ideas and let them sort of develop in
Speaker 2: their mind.
Speaker 1: Well, I thought that I was going to have I
Speaker 1: had this fantastical idea about what self isolating was going
Speaker 1: to be like, and I was like, you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm going to have the cleanest house. I'm going to
Speaker 1: organize the shit out of my pantry. It's gonna be
Speaker 1: like I'm pregnant all over again. Everything is gonna be
Speaker 1: spiffy and ready to roll. No, no, it's like I
Speaker 1: live in a war zone. Marley has just pulled everything
Speaker 1: out of the cupboards. I don't think Matt's picked up
Speaker 1: a single thing. We're living on top of each other.
Speaker 2: I do think that in like twenty thirty three, that's
Speaker 2: when we're gonna see the rise of the quarantine. They're
Speaker 2: gonna be the Corona baby boomers. It's gonna be the
Speaker 2: same thing. In thirty years, They're all gonna be baby
Speaker 2: boomer kids, Corona kids.
Speaker 1: This is gonna happen in twofold. There's gonna be all
Speaker 1: the relationships that end up falling to shit because the
Speaker 1: people have spent way too much time in isolation with
Speaker 1: their partners, and then they've realized, actually, I don't really
Speaker 1: like my partner very much. And then there's gonna be
Speaker 1: the flip side of that. We're the only thing that
Speaker 1: you can possibly do when you've been stuck in isolation
Speaker 1: with your partner for so goddamn long is to have
Speaker 1: sex with them so they'll stop talking.
Speaker 2: Yeah, in nine, ten eleven months, we're either going to
Speaker 2: be divorcing or having babies.
Speaker 1: I hope that I'm on the baby side of that.
Speaker 1: Matt and I have been saying that thank god we
Speaker 1: are so lazy and didn't start organizing our wedding, and
Speaker 1: instead we're just gonna have a Corona Baby and we're
Speaker 1: gonna name it little Ronie.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, No, that's always always too soon for Okay,
Speaker 2: I feel like we're going to put a poll out
Speaker 2: and everyone's gonna be the baby Rona. Look, guys, we
Speaker 2: do have an amazing episode for you today where we
Speaker 2: will be talking about self sabotage. We're gonna go into
Speaker 2: that in a few different levels. There's gonna be heavily
Speaker 2: relationship based, but self sabotage can happen to you on
Speaker 2: many levels career, personal level.
Speaker 1: But Laura, before.
Speaker 2: We get into self sabotage, the Bachelor.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so there was some pretty hectic news that came
Speaker 1: out yesterday, and that is that they have for the moment,
Speaker 1: ceased filming on the current season with Locky and I
Speaker 1: love that.
Speaker 2: You just called that hectic news in what's happening in
Speaker 2: the world, You're like, look, there was some hectic news
Speaker 2: last night. I did not to do with it.
Speaker 1: Now. I understand that everyone's losing their jobs and the
Speaker 1: world has gone to shit show on a handbasket, But
Speaker 1: have you heard that The Bachelor has stopped filming? Because
Speaker 1: I feel personally victimized.
Speaker 2: I'm feeling personally victimized that that was what affected you,
Speaker 2: but not the fact that Bachelor in Paradise has been
Speaker 2: pushed back. I feel like you have more of a
Speaker 2: connection to Bachelor in Paradise aka me.
Speaker 1: At least Bachelorm Paradise is still going to air. The
Speaker 1: filming of Bachelor it's now totally up in the air.
Speaker 1: They're saying that it's just on hold because obviously people
Speaker 1: cannot self isolate or be within a one point five
Speaker 1: meter distance when they're all making out well on their
Speaker 1: single day.
Speaker 2: You cannot physically film the Bachelor. You cannot live in
Speaker 2: that house and self isolate. You cannot keep two meters
Speaker 2: from people because you're in dorm style rooms, you're sharing bathrooms,
Speaker 2: and it is. It's pretty impossible. So I understand why
Speaker 2: they've had to cease production.
Speaker 1: The question I have is like, would they keep all
Speaker 1: the girls together in the mansion and keep everyone still
Speaker 1: in lockdown because they can't really send everyone home otherwise
Speaker 1: than the storyline could be compromised.
Speaker 2: I mean, they can't write it out forever. They can't
Speaker 2: write this out for six months. If this goes on
Speaker 2: for six months, I think that they're going to see
Speaker 2: what happens over the next two three weeks in case
Speaker 2: Australia goes into this temporary lockdown and then they'll reassess,
Speaker 2: but the potentially could be like nothing before and they
Speaker 2: might just have to cancel it.
Speaker 1: But also, could you imagine, like we're all losing our
Speaker 1: minds being in self isolation now? Could you imagine being
Speaker 1: one of those girls who are in lockdown in like a.
Speaker 2: Dorm room, probably with people that don't.
Speaker 1: Like that much, Yes, with like six other girls or something.
Speaker 1: I don't know how many people are left at the moment,
Speaker 1: sleeping in bunk beds and no access for an indefinite
Speaker 1: amount of time, at least for us. When we were
Speaker 1: during our filming, we knew that it was a three
Speaker 1: month period max. Now they're kind of in this limbo
Speaker 1: phase where they don't know how long they're going to
Speaker 1: be in there for, and I just think that would
Speaker 1: be so maddening.
Speaker 2: So, you know how I was trying to preach that
Speaker 2: show a few weeks ago, Love is Blind, where they
Speaker 2: get to know each other in the isolation pods.
Speaker 1: You mean, like they're doing their single dates via zoom.
Speaker 2: What if there was still a way that they could
Speaker 2: continue to get to know each other on an individual basis,
Speaker 2: just to get to know each other, and they don't
Speaker 2: have to go on big dates. They could literally sit
Speaker 2: across from each other. Realistically, you could sit across from
Speaker 2: each other in a lund room outside and chat. You
Speaker 2: could just I mean, let's wind it back to real
Speaker 2: love and just get to know each other.
Speaker 1: But before we get into today's topic, we do have
Speaker 1: to do what we do every single week, and that
Speaker 1: is accidentally unfiltered. Every week we put a little call out.
Speaker 1: We love it when you send us. Basically, it's just
Speaker 1: your most embarrassing stories. My favorite segment Brittany, have you
Speaker 1: got one for me today? Because I have got one
Speaker 1: for you? Yes, I love when we both have one.
Speaker 1: I do have one. Okay, this is someone that has
Speaker 1: written in and I just really.
Speaker 2: I just thought this was so funny. But she starts
Speaker 2: off saying, Okay, guys, I haven't accidentally unfiltered and it's
Speaker 2: kind of on par with BRIT's accidental selfie original gangster story.
Speaker 2: So I matched with this guy on a dating app
Speaker 2: and we went to second base by getting each other's
Speaker 2: number and started texting on WhatsApp. So we're texting back
Speaker 2: and forth, and I had my phone sitting in my
Speaker 2: lap between texts while I was reading. Then I picked
Speaker 2: up my phone and saw that I had accidentally sent
Speaker 2: him a sound clip. The microphone button must have accidentally
Speaker 2: pushed down when I had my phone on my lap.
Speaker 2: So I listened back to it.
Speaker 1: It was just some ambient noise.
Speaker 2: I wasn't too worried, bit of rustling, and then a
Speaker 2: massive fut I can't even read anymore from him or
Speaker 2: from her recorded her own You know how you accidentally
Speaker 2: pressed the voice memo thing. I actually do it all
Speaker 2: the time.
Speaker 1: She was voiced.
Speaker 2: She actually she looked down and she was like, oh
Speaker 2: my god, I've sent him an accidental voice memo. But
Speaker 2: she was just reading, so she was like, what could
Speaker 2: I send?
Speaker 1: So she looked down and she played it.
Speaker 2: And I was just like Russell Russell Russell's rops. She
Speaker 2: fired and sent it to him. She recorded her fart
Speaker 2: and it was on her lap, so it was near
Speaker 2: her butt.
Speaker 1: Do you know what with all of this a video
Speaker 1: conferencing that's going on at the moment, and everyone working
Speaker 1: from home and having to get onto Zoom and do
Speaker 1: video conference calls, there have been so many stories that
Speaker 1: have come out where people have accidentally like somebody's walked
Speaker 1: in the background nude. But yesterday Matt was showing me
Speaker 1: this one that's making the traps on Facebook at the moment.
Speaker 1: And it was this massive conference video call. So there
Speaker 1: was about ten different people in the conference video call
Speaker 1: at one time. One person was enlarged and they were talking.
Speaker 1: And then if you look to the left, there was
Speaker 1: this one girl who had picked up her laptop and
Speaker 1: she'd walked to the bathroom, put her laptop down on
Speaker 1: the ground to go to the toilet, but not realizing
Speaker 1: that the camera was angled right at her midsection. So
Speaker 1: she was doing a booth.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I can't even whilst my eyes are
Speaker 2: so wide, whilst on a video conference call to her
Speaker 2: boss and her entire team.
Speaker 1: And I saw it with my own goddamn eyes. Why.
Speaker 2: I don't understand why she did that. If you're on
Speaker 2: a conference call, just say hey, I'm going to the toilet.
Speaker 1: I think she had thought that she had angled the
Speaker 1: camera down so that the camera was actually looking at
Speaker 1: the ground. No, but it was a fully looking at
Speaker 1: her whole body. Was a sound on It was more
Speaker 1: it was more a tinkle. It was more like a
Speaker 1: water feature with poop. But also the thing that I
Speaker 1: think is the most alarming part of that story was
Speaker 1: the fact that somebody from that conference call put on
Speaker 1: the internet. Like, she didn't put that on the internet herself.
Speaker 2: Okay, if you're listening and this is you, can you
Speaker 2: let us know slide into our DMS if this was
Speaker 2: you that was recorded on the toilet.
Speaker 1: So I have an accidentally unfiltered story for you guys today.
Speaker 1: And this happened to a friend of mine quite a
Speaker 1: while ago, but she reminded me of it recently when
Speaker 1: I was talking about this section of the podcast. Basically,
Speaker 1: she had recently started dating a guy and everything was
Speaker 1: going great. He seemed really lovely. She was meeting his
Speaker 1: friends for the first time, and she was down the
Speaker 1: beach and having a really cute day getting to know everyone.
Speaker 1: And they'd just gone for a swim and she got
Speaker 1: out of the ocean and a boyfriend was like, oh, babe,
Speaker 1: you've got a you've got a thread and went to
Speaker 1: pull her thread that was on her swimmers and pulled
Speaker 1: out her tampon in front of all of his friends.
Speaker 2: Oh no, he didn't, please, No.
Speaker 1: No, it's like everyone was worse nightmare. She's like, I
Speaker 1: just cried and went to the bathroom, didn't come back out.
Speaker 1: I just cried and moved to a last guy. I
Speaker 1: can't even comprehend this actually happening, because it seems like
Speaker 1: it's something that's so unreal.
Speaker 2: Do you want to know a story? I just thought
Speaker 2: of it right now. It reminded me of this when
Speaker 2: I was younger.
Speaker 1: Oh god, no it's not.
Speaker 2: It's not on par but it just reminded me of
Speaker 2: being at the beach and accidentally unfiltered. I used to
Speaker 2: surf competitively and I was in this little surf comb
Speaker 2: just like a local, like nothing, and I used to
Speaker 2: serve you, yeah, brah. I used to surf in like
Speaker 2: a surf top and swimming bottoms, which is just what
Speaker 2: everyone did in summer surf comp A duck dived under
Speaker 2: this wave of quite a big wave, and the lip
Speaker 2: of the wave when I went under, hit my back
Speaker 2: and it pulled my pants down. My swimmer bottoms off off, gone,
Speaker 2: I had no pants on. And I came up and
Speaker 2: I was like, this feels funny. And I was like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, And can you imagine if there's people
Speaker 2: on the beach watching a surf comp When you duck dive,
Speaker 2: you know what happens when you don't dive, You put
Speaker 2: your us It was a film anyway, I was more
Speaker 2: so I couldn't duck dive, so I kept just going
Speaker 2: under the waves off the board, and people were looking
Speaker 2: at me, being like what she doing? And I was
Speaker 2: waving into a friend got the chance to tell her
Speaker 2: what happened. She took her swimming bottoms off from underneath
Speaker 2: her skirt and like ran out halfway in the water
Speaker 2: to throw them to me. And I put hers on,
Speaker 2: and I.
Speaker 1: Can't go at the show must go on. I don't
Speaker 1: know what I would prefer. I think I would prefer
Speaker 1: to be pantsless then to have someone tug my tampon
Speaker 1: out in front of a group of friends. Pees are horrible,
Speaker 1: horrible situations.
Speaker 2: I would rather a million things happened to me before
Speaker 2: someone pulled my tamp on out outdoors in front of
Speaker 2: five people you don't know, men and your new crush.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, but like you, wi rip my pants. It's over.
Speaker 1: It's pants because they away. Oh dear, all right, guys,
Speaker 1: well enough of our little chitty check. It's time to
Speaker 1: get into their proper episode. Oh yeah, tell us what
Speaker 1: it is. No, I thought you were going to.
Speaker 2: It's self sabotage, guys, and I am here to give
Speaker 2: you a little intro into what it is in case
Speaker 2: you didn't really know. It's when we just do something
Speaker 2: that gets in the way of our intent or our
Speaker 2: bigger dreams and goals. When we really want something but
Speaker 2: somehow we never seem to be able to accomplish it.
Speaker 1: Why.
Speaker 2: Well, somewhere deep in our subconscious we're fighting against that goal,
Speaker 2: but we aren't sure why. Sometimes we don't know we're
Speaker 2: doing it. This behavior can affect nearly every single aspect
Speaker 2: of our life. It could be relationships, it could be career,
Speaker 2: or it could be a personal goal such as you
Speaker 2: trying to lose weight. It's very, very common. It is
Speaker 2: an incredibly frustrating cycle of behavior that lowers our self
Speaker 2: confidence and we just end up getting super bloody stuck
Speaker 2: in this vicious, vicious cycle. So we are here today
Speaker 2: to chat a little bit about it, break it down
Speaker 2: and see if we can get out of it.
Speaker 1: Well, we kind of got into this conversation because as
Speaker 1: Britain and I were talking about how in past relationships,
Speaker 1: and I guess in some way shapes and forms like Britt,
Speaker 1: you still sometimes feel like you're doing it in your
Speaker 1: current relationships and current dating. That we have both experienced
Speaker 1: different types of self sabotage, And I think the thing
Speaker 1: that was really interesting for me about this topic is
Speaker 1: that self sabotaging has so many different flavors and so
Speaker 1: many different colors, and it can impact your life in
Speaker 1: so many different ways. Sometimes you may not even be
Speaker 1: fully aware that you're doing it. Specifically when it comes
Speaker 1: to relationships, if you find yourself thinking after another failed relationship,
Speaker 1: like like, why did that happen again? The same thing
Speaker 1: over and over and over. Sometimes, if you find yourself
Speaker 1: in that position, it's really important to start to think,
Speaker 1: maybe it's not necessarily always the other person. Maybe there
Speaker 1: is something in your behavior that's creating this outcome or
Speaker 1: creating this situation. And now I'm not blake. I'm not
Speaker 1: saying like a girlfriend, it's your fault. It's probably not.
Speaker 1: But it is really important to be aware of behavioral
Speaker 1: characteristics that are self sabotaging because it just stops you
Speaker 1: from being able to have the life and the relationships
Speaker 1: and the love that you want in the long term.
Speaker 2: I have learned a lot over the past decade, and
Speaker 2: I can confidently say and I'm happy to talk about
Speaker 2: it now because I hope that I'll help somebody else.
Speaker 2: I have been the worst self sabotager in relationships. I'm
Speaker 2: very lucky that in my personal goals that I set
Speaker 2: and things that I want to achieve in my life
Speaker 2: and my career goals every other aspect, I'm super motivated.
Speaker 2: I don't let anything getting the way. If there's a hurdle,
Speaker 2: I will jump over it. I will sort it out.
Speaker 2: I've never ever had a problem in that sense in
Speaker 2: my relationships and love and dating. I'm the pole opposite.
Speaker 2: I'm the worst self sabotager you'll probably ever come across.
Speaker 2: But I never ever knew that until probably the last
Speaker 2: twelve months when my sister Sherry and my really close friends,
Speaker 2: including Laura.
Speaker 1: I would never ever say that you do such thing.
Speaker 1: I'm a pillar of support in this relationship. What are
Speaker 1: you talking about? I'm going to record you next time.
Speaker 2: What they're fuck Brittany, you can't see this person again. No,
Speaker 2: But I'm lucky that I've had some people really close
Speaker 2: to me pointed out and I am also lucky that
Speaker 2: I've learned so much and I've been through a lot
Speaker 2: in the last decade that the old Brittany probably would
Speaker 2: have gotten really defensive when somebody pointed that out to me,
Speaker 2: and I wouldn't have believed it. I would have thought
Speaker 2: they were just trying to bring me down. But now
Speaker 2: I can. I know the people I keep around me.
Speaker 2: I have a really great small circle, supportive circle. So
Speaker 2: when somebody says something to me now that I love
Speaker 2: and trust, I take a step back and I think
Speaker 2: about what they've said, and I try and look at
Speaker 2: it from an outsider's perspective and far out. Once I
Speaker 2: did that, I was like, what the actual fuck, Brittany.
Speaker 1: But also I think that you know, it's important to
Speaker 1: keep perspective because criticism, when it comes from people who
Speaker 1: love you, that criticism comes because they want the best
Speaker 1: for you.
Speaker 2: So if you're thinking of what are they actually even
Speaker 2: talking about right now? A really good example of what
Speaker 2: self sabotage could be is maybe you start to date
Speaker 2: somebody and then you find faults that aren't there, or
Speaker 2: you find reasons this can't continue, You find reasons that they're.
Speaker 1: Bad for you, and maybe they're a great guy and
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, but he's too nice. You end up
Speaker 1: just kind of like checking out of the relationship before
Speaker 1: it fully progresses or becomes something, even though on paper
Speaker 1: they seem like a great guy.
Speaker 2: Haven't you ever had all your friends be like, what
Speaker 2: are you doing? He seems so great, he seems perfect
Speaker 2: for You're being crazy and you're like, mm m, didn't
Speaker 2: you see that floral shirt he wore. But then on
Speaker 2: the other end of the spectrum is the people that
Speaker 2: are self sabotaging by knowingly dating the wrong people.
Speaker 1: So this was me bingo. So when we had this conversation,
Speaker 1: Britt was talking about her self sabotage being the fact
Speaker 1: that she often puts up walls because she fears in
Speaker 1: some way the commitment or the being hurt.
Speaker 2: I would avoid at all costs.
Speaker 1: Yeah, putting yourself into a situation where somebody has control
Speaker 1: over your heart and over your feelings, and therefore it's
Speaker 1: a protection mechan Whereas for me, I used to choose
Speaker 1: men who I knew were bad for me, and I
Speaker 1: knew the relationship wasn't going to go anywhere. I think
Speaker 1: in retrospect, I quite enjoyed the drama, and I quite enjoyed.
Speaker 1: I quite enjoyed how volatile those relationships were, and how
Speaker 1: they were like really intense and really crazy and then
Speaker 1: really low and really high. I always chose the same
Speaker 1: type of guy and this type of men who wasn't
Speaker 1: going to give me any security, And that was how
Speaker 1: I sabotaged my relationships because I kept saying, Oh, I
Speaker 1: really want I really want a committed partner, I really
Speaker 1: want a long term relationship, I really want to have kids,
Speaker 1: But then I was choosing people who were never ever
Speaker 1: ever going to give that to me.
Speaker 2: It sounds like you were not ready to be alone,
Speaker 2: and you wanted the attention and the comfort and companionship,
Speaker 2: but you didn't actually want to settle down yet. I
Speaker 2: think that's deep down where you were. Otherwise it would
Speaker 2: have been picking the people that wanted to settle down.
Speaker 2: You just weren't ready to be on your own.
Speaker 1: I think that's what I think is interesting about this
Speaker 1: topic is how vastly different people's experiences can be, but
Speaker 1: it's still making these choices on a day to day
Speaker 1: level that prioritize immediate gratification over what you want long term,
Speaker 1: and so as.
Speaker 2: Laura said, mine was the opposite. I had a really
Speaker 2: really toxic relationships about eight years ago now and I
Speaker 2: haven't dated anybody since. And I now know that that's
Speaker 2: because after that relationship ended, I had made a decision
Speaker 2: that I wanted to be on my own. I wanted
Speaker 2: to focus on myself and get myself into good place.
Speaker 2: And I just convinced myself that everything I was doing
Speaker 2: was to better myself. Whereas, deep down, and I've learned
Speaker 2: this now, deep down I didn't ever want to be
Speaker 2: in that position again. I didn't want to trust somebody
Speaker 2: again that was just going to pull wool over my eyes.
Speaker 2: I deep down thought I'd never ever want to feel
Speaker 2: this pain again, and I never want to feel this loneliness.
Speaker 2: And I put a wall up, and eight nine years
Speaker 2: has gone past, and.
Speaker 1: There's some big wall. Trump would be proud of that, mate, Trump,
Speaker 1: Trump should employ me. What we can take out of that, though,
Speaker 1: is that the reason why people self sabotage is because
Speaker 1: there's scared of being hurt, so they're trying to protect themselves.
Speaker 1: And I do also think that there's another aspect of this,
Speaker 1: which is self esteem that comes into play. So when
Speaker 1: you're not confident in yourself and you don't believe in
Speaker 1: your level of self worth, then you're more willing to
Speaker 1: lower your standards and you're more willing to accept behavior
Speaker 1: as well that you wouldn't normally accept in a relationship.
Speaker 1: So it doesn't just prevent you from getting into a relationship,
Speaker 1: but it also means that you will stay in something
Speaker 1: that's so beneath you because you don't think that you're
Speaker 1: entitled to or you don't think that you're worth more.
Speaker 2: Self worth and self confidence, they are the two biggest
Speaker 2: contributors to self sabotage.
Speaker 1: Absolutely.
Speaker 2: When I went into my relationship, I was on top
Speaker 2: of the world, so confident, so happy. When I came
Speaker 2: out of that relationship, he had just warned me down,
Speaker 2: made me feel like I didn't look good enough, didn't
Speaker 2: what I did wasn't good enough, my job wasn't good enough.
Speaker 2: He made me feel so small, insecure, and that was
Speaker 2: just a form of control in the relationship. But when
Speaker 2: I came out of that, I never shook that. I
Speaker 2: continue to get on with my life thinking I wasn't
Speaker 2: good enough, and I carried that into the dates that
Speaker 2: I used to go on. It might be hard for
Speaker 2: a lot of people to believe this. I definitely, I
Speaker 2: know I come across as a super confident person, but
Speaker 2: definitely definitely am not. And I used to cancel dates
Speaker 2: before i'd go on them all the time because I
Speaker 2: thought he's not gonna like me anyway, That's what I
Speaker 2: used to say. He hadn't even met me yet. I
Speaker 2: was like, he's not gonna like me anyway, So I'm
Speaker 2: just gonna cancel. I'm not gonna worry. I'm not pretty enough,
Speaker 2: I don't look like I do on my online dating.
Speaker 2: All these things that I would convince myself of, and
Speaker 2: I just would cancel the date. It's like, I'll end
Speaker 2: it before he ends it. Yeah, by just not even
Speaker 2: going on.
Speaker 1: It exactly, instead of being hurt, instead of putting yourself
Speaker 1: out there, it's easier to just cut the cord takes
Speaker 1: That takes that fear of rejection away.
Speaker 2: Why don't you go on to the next level, which
Speaker 2: is you start to allow people in. So you've gotten
Speaker 2: past the just pulling the pin before you jump in.
Speaker 2: You allow people in, but you start to make up
Speaker 2: reasons and you start to see things that aren't there
Speaker 2: and convince yourself that these are awful people not meant
Speaker 2: for you. But again, it's just because you're too scared
Speaker 2: to take that next step. So what's an example. Just
Speaker 2: you know how girls are like, he's too nice, something's
Speaker 2: wrong with him, bretty.
Speaker 1: I don't know how anyone would do that. Guilty him
Speaker 1: an example sitting right here, I'm super guilty.
Speaker 2: I have a really bad habit of in my past
Speaker 2: dating people that I know are bad, are bad for
Speaker 2: me and my friends, including Laura. They're always like why
Speaker 2: are you dating him? Like please don't see him again?
Speaker 2: After he said and did this, and I'd be like, whoop,
Speaker 2: sorry I am, but that's because I didn't want it
Speaker 2: to go anywhere. You know, there's a difference, and I'm
Speaker 2: not encouraging his behavior, but I'm self aware now that
Speaker 2: it's another form of self sabotage. So why do we
Speaker 2: self sabotage? And we've just touched on a few things,
Speaker 2: but I think it's important just to sort of group
Speaker 2: them together and knock through them. The biggest, most important
Speaker 2: one is lack of self worth and confidence.
Speaker 1: And also, like you touched on just before, like self
Speaker 1: worth and your self confidence is something that unfortunately can
Speaker 1: be taken away from you like one really bad experience,
Speaker 1: one really bad relationship that can totally rock your foundations
Speaker 1: and rock your perception of what your next relationship is
Speaker 1: going to be like. So I think it's really important
Speaker 1: to be aware that if you're taking your shit and
Speaker 1: your baggage and all the junk from your past relationship
Speaker 1: and putting it onto the next person and into the
Speaker 1: next relationship, be really mindful that not everyone is the
Speaker 1: same and not all outcomes are going to be the same.
Speaker 1: But if you project that constantly onto someone new, you
Speaker 1: are sort of giving You're giving it an end date
Speaker 1: before it's even really had the potential to flourish.
Speaker 2: The way that you speak to yourself too, The way
Speaker 2: you speak to yourself every day directly affects the way
Speaker 2: you project yourself to.
Speaker 1: The world, whether you're aware of that or not.
Speaker 2: If you're constantly talking to yourself that telling yourself you're
Speaker 2: not good enough, you'll never be able to achieve that,
Speaker 2: you don't deserve that, why would anyone pick you. You're
Speaker 2: going to take that energy and you're going to actually
Speaker 2: convince yourself that all of that is true. You're going
Speaker 2: to take it into the world, and the world is
Speaker 2: going to respond accordingly.
Speaker 1: So when you're not confident in yourself and you don't
Speaker 1: believe in your level of self worth, then you're more
Speaker 1: willing to luwer your standards and you're more willing to
Speaker 1: accept behavior as well that you wouldn't normally accept in
Speaker 1: a relationship. So it doesn't just prevent you from getting
Speaker 1: into a relationship, but it also means that you will
Speaker 1: stay in something that's so beneath you. As much as
Speaker 1: it sounds like a total cliche that you know, there's
Speaker 1: a lot to be said for learning to love yourself
Speaker 1: before you can love anybody else.
Speaker 2: And if you think of successful people in life, there's
Speaker 2: something common that they all have, and that is that
Speaker 2: they believe in themselves. They of course they're going to
Speaker 2: fail like everybody else, but they don't fear failure and
Speaker 2: they believe in themselves, and they're two such strong characteristics
Speaker 2: to have. That's the next thing I actually want to
Speaker 2: speak about is failure.
Speaker 1: Fear of failure or touched on fear of failure in
Speaker 1: quite a few episodes, I think, and it's like this
Speaker 1: recurrent theme that we talk about quite a lot, but
Speaker 1: it's because failure is only failure if that's what you
Speaker 1: see it as, you can use failure as a tool
Speaker 1: for your best and most important growth to happen from well,
Speaker 1: to relate that to relationship specifically, It's like, how many
Speaker 1: times have you said to yourself, We've heard somebody say
Speaker 1: it was probably not gonna work out anyway, so.
Speaker 2: Why am I gonna try it.
Speaker 1: This is like a very random and off tangent story,
Speaker 1: but I remember the very first time I saw Matt,
Speaker 1: which was before Bachelor. There you go, Daily Mail, you're
Speaker 1: gonna write another article. We didn't know each other before
Speaker 1: the show, but I saw Matt in the sauna at Iceberg's.
Speaker 1: And I've told this story before, but when I saw
Speaker 1: him and he was very much making eyes at me,
Speaker 1: I thought to myself, Oh, he can't. That guy's not
Speaker 1: possibly hitting on me because I didn't think that I
Speaker 1: would be his type. I didn't think that he would
Speaker 1: find me attractive. I just didn't. I just did not
Speaker 1: have the opinion of myself that I would be his type.
Speaker 1: And so of course I just kind of ignored it
Speaker 1: and didn't do anything and left it. Had our situation
Speaker 1: not turned out the way that it did, and have
Speaker 1: we not met on the show. I completely passed up
Speaker 1: an amazing opportunity to meet someone because didn't think I
Speaker 1: was good enough for him. I'm sure that you guys
Speaker 1: sometimes listen to us and think we sound like we
Speaker 1: have our shit together. We don't.
Speaker 2: Don't tell them then, for I know what you're trying
Speaker 2: to say. Do you know what the thing is? We
Speaker 2: do seem like we're really confident people, and we are
Speaker 2: in a lot of senses. But for me and I
Speaker 2: have asked people out all the time. I do that,
Speaker 2: but a big part of me is they're probably going
Speaker 2: to say no. But there's a bigger part of me,
Speaker 2: the stronger part of me, an overpowering part of me
Speaker 2: that says, but what if they don't? And that is
Speaker 2: stronger than the fear factor for me. So a big
Speaker 2: part of me knows that it's highly likely I'm not
Speaker 2: going to get a job. They're going to say no,
Speaker 2: but I'm I'm willing to face that rejection because there's
Speaker 2: a bigger there's a more intense part of me that's like,
Speaker 2: you're never gonna know and you're always going to wonder,
Speaker 2: So just.
Speaker 1: Go get it, no risk, no reward, baby, risk it
Speaker 1: for the best girl. Oh my gosh, I've not heard
Speaker 1: you say that in so long.
Speaker 2: I know it was my tagline for a while, but.
Speaker 1: I think that this is such a big and important one,
Speaker 1: and this is probably the point that I want to
Speaker 1: drive home, is that in order to get what you
Speaker 1: want in the long term, you really have to sometimes
Speaker 1: prioritize those long term goals over instant gratification. And that
Speaker 1: means that means making sacrifices. It means, you know, not
Speaker 1: texting that guy who you know is bad for you
Speaker 1: just because it makes you feel good and you get
Speaker 1: a buzz out of it, or at least if you
Speaker 1: are going to text that guy, you make sure that
Speaker 1: you were emotionally like you were a vault and you're
Speaker 1: emotionally steadfast, so that if you are getting some flirty
Speaker 1: banter out of it, you know, it's just that you're
Speaker 1: not going to then like allow it to progress into
Speaker 1: something more where you can be hurt by something. I
Speaker 1: think you really have to like get real with yourself
Speaker 1: and make some hard short term decisions and sacrifices that
Speaker 1: will allow you to then be happy in the long term.
Speaker 2: Yep, sacrifice and some self control. It's like, if you're
Speaker 2: on your weight loss journey.
Speaker 1: It's like Brittany coming into the podcast studio and constantly
Speaker 1: eating sugar.
Speaker 2: Oh oh my god. So last night in bed, if
Speaker 2: you saw my Instagram story, I was like eating some Maltesers.
Speaker 2: But what I didn't show you was that in under
Speaker 2: five minutes, I ate an entire family sized pack of
Speaker 2: Multie to myself in under five minutes.
Speaker 1: And I do this prec but I'm proud of you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I felt great.
Speaker 1: This is the thing.
Speaker 2: Instant gratification felt great for about two seconds, and then
Speaker 2: an hour later I was like, what have I done?
Speaker 2: On a serious note, you want to eat your trees,
Speaker 2: you want to have your chocolate bars. It's that instant gratification.
Speaker 2: By just having a little bit of self control and
Speaker 2: saying no to these short term gratifications, No to the snacks,
Speaker 2: no to the chocolate bar. In a month's time, you're gonna.
Speaker 1: Notice all the difference to the bad boys and the
Speaker 1: fuck boys exactly.
Speaker 2: So you can take that into any aspect of your life.
Speaker 2: Once we identify why we're exhibiting these self sabotaging behaviors,
Speaker 2: we can sort of start to take steps into how
Speaker 2: we can overcome it. How we can rise above this
Speaker 2: destructive behavior because it is toxic and it is destructive.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna say that, I feel like self isolation
Speaker 1: is going to be your number one. We're gona win
Speaker 1: a chicken dinner because I think that in order to
Speaker 1: overcome like cyclical decision making that I think comes into
Speaker 1: self sabotaging is you need to remove yourself from the
Speaker 1: situation for a while. You need to kind of like
Speaker 1: take some time out and stop this repetitive behavior or
Speaker 1: repetitive choices that you're making. And the fact that we're
Speaker 1: all in lockdown is a pretty good time to start
Speaker 1: making some changes.
Speaker 2: Well, you know what I think is going to be
Speaker 2: really nice. People are gonna spend time getting to know
Speaker 2: each other online. They're going to actually have to talk
Speaker 2: to each other and call each other and skype each
Speaker 2: other because you don't have another option. So people are
Speaker 2: going to start to give the good guy and the
Speaker 2: good girl a chance.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and also I guess like things can't progress so
Speaker 1: quickly to physical and to sex, and you can't have
Speaker 1: that like real of chemistry which clouds your decision making
Speaker 1: around things as well. Like I feel like dating over
Speaker 1: the next couple of weeks, it's going to be more
Speaker 1: of a slow burn. One of the things that I
Speaker 1: found really really helped me when I was going through
Speaker 1: this cycle of totally self sabotaging my own relationships was
Speaker 1: that I got really clear on what I wanted and
Speaker 1: I wrote a list down. And I know that some
Speaker 1: people are super against writing list for people, as in like,
Speaker 1: this is what I want and a guy number one,
Speaker 1: But for me, it was something that really really helped.
Speaker 1: And it wasn't like it was superficial stuff. It was
Speaker 1: real qualities that I wanted in a partner. So number one,
Speaker 1: I wanted someone who didn't cheat and who you know
Speaker 1: that though, No, but I think that I think that
Speaker 1: there are definitely men that you meet and they they
Speaker 1: you're like red light, yeah, fucking red flag after red
Speaker 1: flag after red flag, and I was finding that I
Speaker 1: was dating the same type of guy and they were
Speaker 1: definitely guys who had a bit of a way with
Speaker 1: moral compass and had I had almost hated to accept.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, well, everyone cheats. Think that I
Speaker 1: got really clear on my on my boundaries. I got
Speaker 1: really clear on what I would accept in a relationship.
Speaker 1: I got really clear on the types of characteristics I
Speaker 1: wanted the person to have, Like, I wanted them to
Speaker 1: be family orientated, I wanted them to be kind, I
Speaker 1: wanted them to be funny. And so I had this.
Speaker 1: It wasn't a huge list, but it was like a
Speaker 1: ten to twenty eight per paper.
Speaker 2: It was a small power point presentation that I would
Speaker 2: take on my first stage with a clicker.
Speaker 1: No, it was like it was a ten things. It
Speaker 1: was ten personality traits that I wanted in that person. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I wanted some big dick energy. Thank you taking this
Speaker 1: so seriously, Brittany. So I wanted I wanted these ten characteristics,
Speaker 1: and it meant that the next time that I went
Speaker 1: on a date with a guy and he was displaying
Speaker 1: personality traits that didn't match up with what I wanted,
Speaker 1: it made it really easy for me to go, Okay, well,
Speaker 1: I've made this rule for myself and I'm not going
Speaker 1: to proceed with this relationship because this guy is not
Speaker 1: going to give me what I wanted. And it just
Speaker 1: made me get really black and white, and I kind
Speaker 1: of needed that because I was in such an ocean
Speaker 1: of gray at the time.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be honest, I think there's two types of
Speaker 2: people in the world. There's the list makers and there's
Speaker 2: the go to the supermarket with the idea of what
Speaker 2: you want in your head, don't even get a basket,
Speaker 2: try and carrot in your arms and get home.
Speaker 1: And that is me. But that was me. That was
Speaker 1: totally me, and it wasn't working for me. That's the thing.
Speaker 1: Like I was that person. I was like, oh, thet's
Speaker 1: don't be crazy, Like, of course, you just go off connection,
Speaker 1: you go of feelings, you go off. But if you're
Speaker 1: constantly making shitty dating decisions and go friend, you've got
Speaker 1: to change something.
Speaker 2: I mean, I have a list, a checklist of some
Speaker 2: things in my head, but I don't I don't know
Speaker 2: I've I probably haven't prioritized that enough, and maybe I will.
Speaker 2: But one thing I do like about lists is in
Speaker 2: terms of career and things like that. I like the
Speaker 2: idea and I have read a lot of studies on
Speaker 2: it of just simply writing down in one list what
Speaker 2: it is you want to achieve in any aspect, relationships,
Speaker 2: all life. Write down one column what do I want
Speaker 2: to achieve? The column next to it, what are the hurdles,
Speaker 2: what are the obstacles? That are stopping me from achieving that.
Speaker 2: Next column what can I do to get there? So
Speaker 2: three columns, what do you want? What are your hurdles?
Speaker 2: What can you do to get there? Because once it's
Speaker 2: written down and you see it and you can actually
Speaker 2: start to put steps in place and makes a world
Speaker 2: of difference. There are other things too. Once if there
Speaker 2: is a deep seated issue, like something that you haven't
Speaker 2: moved on from, or something that you know is holding
Speaker 2: you back from your past, of course go and speak
Speaker 2: to someone. There are always so many people that will
Speaker 2: listen to you. You could get professional help, there are
Speaker 2: call lines, there are friends. But sometimes there is an
Speaker 2: issue that you need to rewind and figure out before
Speaker 2: you can move on. Otherwise, it's time to take a
Speaker 2: little bit of self care, a little bit of time
Speaker 2: for yourself to reanalyze what you want in life, where
Speaker 2: you're going and how you're going to get there.
Speaker 1: And it's self isolation time, baby time. Self isolation time
Speaker 1: needs to be self care time, I think, so that
Speaker 1: there's a different way of looking at this. We don't
Speaker 1: have to look at this time that we're going to
Speaker 1: be spending on our own as like oh well, life
Speaker 1: just got put on whold because I don't have a job,
Speaker 1: and I don't have this, and I don't have that.
Speaker 1: You're going to be a really different period of time
Speaker 1: for a lot of people for quite a while. But
Speaker 1: this is also a time where you can reconnect with
Speaker 1: what you want in life, and you can do a
Speaker 1: little bit of soul searching and figure out what it
Speaker 1: is that you what changes you want to make when
Speaker 1: the world goes back to normal, so that you can
Speaker 1: get the guy you want, or get the girl you want,
Speaker 1: or get the relationship you want, or get the job
Speaker 1: you want. I really think this is also a bit
Speaker 1: of a special time that can be used for some
Speaker 1: self development.
Speaker 2: All of you guys that are going to be talking
Speaker 2: to some future lovers now, just think of how insane
Speaker 2: the dating world is going to be once we're all
Speaker 2: let out again and lining up dates. My number one
Speaker 2: piece of advice is don't make it the date for
Speaker 2: at least two weeks after isolation, because girl, you need
Speaker 2: to get a ten, You need to get your brows done,
Speaker 2: you need to get your hair done, your nails done,
Speaker 2: and also we want to make sure that they're still
Speaker 2: quarantine right fourteen days. Yeah, So don't be too eager.
Speaker 1: All right, guys, you know that we never ever, ever,
Speaker 1: ever ever see an actual episode. Echo echo Echo, we'reout
Speaker 1: doing our suck and sweet. We're all growth stirt crazy.
Speaker 1: We've been trapped inside by ourselves for way too long.
Speaker 1: But suck and sweet, we do have suck and sweets
Speaker 1: for the week, brit what's your suck? My sucks?
Speaker 2: Like it's just that the world's imploding, I think as
Speaker 2: everyone has the same suck this week and probably next
Speaker 2: week and probably for the near distal future. I low
Speaker 2: key you want them to just throw us in lockdown,
Speaker 2: do it already, get it over with so we can
Speaker 2: try and get our life back to normal.
Speaker 1: Well, mine is that I can't go and do bar anymore.
Speaker 1: I'm really sad that good old Scomo decided to we
Speaker 1: can't do the bar Ray no more time for the
Speaker 1: bar ray anymore? What shall I do with myself? Were
Speaker 1: you doing bar No?
Speaker 2: I've never done it in my life, but an upset
Speaker 2: that I can't do it if I wanted to. Actually,
Speaker 2: the funny thing about that was that when when he
Speaker 2: was saying it, when he was saying bar Ray, and
Speaker 2: was like, I don't know what that is. Matt was
Speaker 2: the one who was saying, oh, so Bar, Like I
Speaker 2: was in exercise bar, and I was like, what are
Speaker 2: you talking about? And it still took me a good
Speaker 2: five minutes to get on board. But now it's actually brilliant.
Speaker 1: I love Bar.
Speaker 2: You would, Brittany.
Speaker 1: I know, I know, all right, finish your suck. Well
Speaker 1: that's it.
Speaker 2: They're well imploding. That's my suck.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's the end of the world.
Speaker 2: All the hospitals are running out of protective equipment.
Speaker 1: Oh, let's not get too dark.
Speaker 2: I have to that's my suck. I can't pretend it's
Speaker 2: not my How sweet was that? My flatmate surprised me
Speaker 2: last night because I was a bit down in the dumps.
Speaker 2: Like Laura said, I just had a little cry. Everyone's
Speaker 2: got their stuff going on. I also have my stuff
Speaker 2: going on. And I came home and my flat mate
Speaker 2: had a copious amount of chocolate for me and mate
Speaker 2: and like biscuits and stuff and like, and she left
Speaker 2: them not even they were within reach, so were on
Speaker 2: my bed, So obviously I was gonna eat them all
Speaker 2: in one sitting because.
Speaker 1: I have no self control. I like that We've just
Speaker 1: done a whole episode on self sabotaging and how we
Speaker 1: need to like exercise self control in the short term
Speaker 1: for long term games. And you were like, fuck that
Speaker 1: all rules are off when we're self quarantining. Well, I
Speaker 1: mean that rule starts today, so fine. I honestly think
Speaker 1: all bets are off until this situation changes. Right now,
Speaker 1: it's all about survival. You eat your doughnuts, go around,
Speaker 1: you do whatever you need to do. I'm the person
Speaker 1: that like has my month's supply of treats and I
Speaker 1: eat them in the first day of quarantine. That's me.
Speaker 2: So I walked in here with a little tear in
Speaker 2: my eye and Laura said, I got you something, Brittany.
Speaker 2: It's like what she goes, I got you this chocolate
Speaker 2: doughnut and it's filled with a teller and you zap
Speaker 2: it and make it warm and it melts. And I
Speaker 2: was like, oh my god, I love you. She's like
Speaker 2: better left it at home.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, but if you got me a treat and
Speaker 1: didn't bring it, don't tell me about it. Ah. Anyway,
Speaker 1: who needs enemies? Hey, what's your suck? And sweet? Okay,
Speaker 1: so my suck for this week. Oh look, my suck
Speaker 1: is the same suck as everyone else. It's my same
Speaker 1: suck as yours. Like we we've had to shut the shop,
Speaker 1: which is really really sad. It then, like, as a
Speaker 1: as a business owner who has staff that I'm responsible for, like,
Speaker 1: I feel really concerned about this whole current climate, and
Speaker 1: you know, we want to do our best by our stuff,
Speaker 1: but it's just everyone everyone understands the situation and it's
Speaker 1: freaking horrible. I'm done with the rona.
Speaker 2: Give me your sweet, then make it good because the
Speaker 2: sucks bad.
Speaker 1: Okay, my sweet was my birthday and even when he's sick.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, twenty six a gang guys, six for the
Speaker 1: seven time. No, I'm not that.
Speaker 2: You do in the mess. I'm actually for the eighth time.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I am wow. It's been eight years
Speaker 1: since my twenty sixth birthday. That just well, that's my
Speaker 1: fucking suck right there. That just blew my goddamn.
Speaker 2: Mine because that's just like saying, oh my god, it's
Speaker 2: been my thirty four years since my birth Wow.
Speaker 1: Should I edit that out? Fucking Hell? Probably. Britt has
Speaker 1: been working real hardcore on the front line. Guys. She's tired.
Speaker 2: My je bad today. I'm sorry bear with me, Gang.
Speaker 1: Oh, it's tough. It's tough times for everyone. Also, there's
Speaker 1: like very little stimulus happening outside in the world, so
Speaker 1: we're like just going crazy in a room together.
Speaker 2: No, that's sweets good. It was your birthday and.
Speaker 1: It's my birthday, and you know what, Okay, The sweetest
Speaker 1: part about the birthday is as much as I was
Speaker 1: completely alone and I spent most of the day just
Speaker 1: me and Mali because Matt had to go out and
Speaker 1: you know, forage and hunt for our food, which is
Speaker 1: like the Hunger Games. Yeah, which is literally like the
Speaker 1: Hunger Games at the moment. So my my sweet was
Speaker 1: the fact that even though I was totally alone, I
Speaker 1: felt so loved everyone. I feel like people are really
Speaker 1: going out of their way to stay connected, whether it's
Speaker 1: by phone or by Instagram or by whatever sort of
Speaker 1: weird virtual screen you do your connecting through. Maybe you're
Speaker 1: a TikTok person. I don't know, I'm old, but I
Speaker 1: really felt like people went above and beyond yesterday to
Speaker 1: try and connect and to try and make me feel special.
Speaker 1: And I think this year, like my birthday, felt even
Speaker 1: more so like my birthday than last year did, which
Speaker 1: considering circumstances is weird, but it's also really wonderful as well.
Speaker 2: I did message Matt in the morning and said, hey,
Speaker 2: did you remember it's Laura's birthday?
Speaker 1: Did you really he sent me?
Speaker 2: Actually, have you asked him what he sent me? He
Speaker 2: sent me a dig pic? Yeah, not him?
Speaker 1: Whoa not of him? He sent me a dick pig
Speaker 1: of someone else. Really.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like a funny meme that's going around about healthcare.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, I can't wait to see that. That's so weird.
Speaker 1: I think we should title this episode. My fiance sent
Speaker 1: Brittany a dig pic when we turn off. It was
Speaker 1: pretty funny.
Speaker 2: Oh god, Because I posted a photo of healthcare workers
Speaker 2: saying like, we come here for you, so you stay
Speaker 2: away for us, and he sent me there's a meme
Speaker 2: going around the internet, the interweb, and he sent it
Speaker 2: to me and it's the exact same photo of all
Speaker 2: the doctors that says we stay here for you, so
Speaker 2: you stay away for us. But one of the doctors
Speaker 2: has been photoshopped out for this really big black guy,
Speaker 2: naked guy with a really big black beans. So Matt
Speaker 2: felt the need to send me that, and I was like, gee, thanks, Matt.
Speaker 1: He just cares about you. He does. You're the single
Speaker 1: friend he knows, and he's like, you know what Britan
Speaker 1: needs right now, No, that'll make her feel better. But
Speaker 1: when I.
Speaker 2: Opened it, I was like, oh my god, so sweet
Speaker 2: he sent me something about healthcare workers. Because I did,
Speaker 2: I didn't look at the message. Probably that's very, very,
Speaker 2: very mistaken.
Speaker 1: No, Matt has a disgusting and dirty sense of humor.
Speaker 1: No one really knows that side of him, but he
Speaker 1: is actually extremely inappropriate, which is why we get along
Speaker 1: so well.
Speaker 2: Ask him about the video I sent him back, And
Speaker 2: on that note, oh, guys, thank you for sim We
Speaker 2: are so glad and grateful that we're able to bring
Speaker 2: you this, and we will continue to bring you this,
Speaker 2: hopefully remotely next week.
Speaker 1: Honestly, I just want to say, like our heart goes
Speaker 1: out to every single person who's affected by this. We
Speaker 1: are thinking of you, We love you, guys. It's hard,
Speaker 1: and it actually is really challenging for us to try
Speaker 1: and be positive and bring you uplifting content at the moment,
Speaker 1: because I think we all feel so heavy and so
Speaker 1: overwhelmed and waited by what is happening in the world.
Speaker 1: But we just want you to know that we really
Speaker 1: do love and appreciate every single one of you. Thank
Speaker 1: you to everyone who still continues to send us their
Speaker 1: accidentally Unfiltered stories. We die for them. They are so funny.
Speaker 1: Keep them coming, please them coming. Let's like really try
Speaker 1: and band together and put together some content that is
Speaker 1: funny and brings a laugh to people, kind of like
Speaker 1: the bonus episode did. But yeah, guys, so if you
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Speaker 1: And then also are still recording our ask on cut sections,
Speaker 1: so come at us with your deep, dark and dirty questions.
Speaker 2: They might be a little bit different now that we're
Speaker 2: all in lockdown, but keep on coming.
Speaker 1: Sliding into that DM guys, but make sure when you
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Speaker 1: You fucked it.
Speaker 2: Up far out. My brain is like a second behind.
Speaker 1: I feel like my brain's it's the teller delicious, like
Speaker 1: in a.
Speaker 2: Tel donut that you said you brought me left at
Speaker 2: home
Speaker 1: And then just started right