WEBVTT - 21. SELF SABOTAGE - Are you your own worst enemy? 0:00:21.840 --> 0:00:25.799 Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:26.040 --> 0:00:27.960 I'm Laura and I'm Brittany. 0:00:27.560 --> 0:00:30.840 And we're so humped to be back. 0:00:31.280 --> 0:00:34.400 It's the end of the world, as you know, it's 0:00:34.520 --> 0:00:37.800 not yet, and I feel relatively anxious and paranoid. 0:00:38.280 --> 0:00:40.800 Yeah, we had the week off last week, not by choice, 0:00:40.960 --> 0:00:42.760 sort of by choice, I guess. We just made what 0:00:42.800 --> 0:00:46.120 we thought was a smart decision to not record that week. 0:00:46.159 --> 0:00:48.159 There was a lot going on, obviously in the world. 0:00:48.760 --> 0:00:50.600 I had a bit of a throat tickle. I didn't 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:53.680 want to risk infecting Laura and then Laura taking her 0:00:53.680 --> 0:00:55.280 home infecting Marley. 0:00:55.480 --> 0:01:00.560 You're so nice, an mate, don't start that far. That 0:01:00.680 --> 0:01:03.319 just took a really severe time. We haven't seen each 0:01:03.360 --> 0:01:06.959 other for over almost two weeks now, guys, because the 0:01:07.000 --> 0:01:10.440 world has gone mad. We're recording this. We haven't been 0:01:10.440 --> 0:01:12.600 able to set up set of our remote recording yet, 0:01:12.640 --> 0:01:15.280 so we are recording this in the same room. However, 0:01:15.400 --> 0:01:19.479 we are on vastly separate sides of the room, which 0:01:19.560 --> 0:01:22.240 kind of makes this even weirder. But you know what, 0:01:22.360 --> 0:01:24.240 we're here. We're so happy to be back and bringing 0:01:24.240 --> 0:01:26.640 you this podcast. We are so sorry about last week. 0:01:26.760 --> 0:01:28.600 But I didn't want to be near Brittany because I 0:01:28.640 --> 0:01:30.280 didn't want to get the corona. 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:32.440 That's just true. Now I don't have it, guys, don't 0:01:32.480 --> 0:01:34.400 think I have it. But usually we do sit next 0:01:34.440 --> 0:01:36.959 to each other, like half a meter away, but we 0:01:37.000 --> 0:01:39.640 do have the option to sit diagonally, so we are 0:01:39.680 --> 0:01:42.080 solid two meters away. Even if you tried to spit 0:01:42.120 --> 0:01:43.560 on me, Laura, you couldn't. 0:01:44.120 --> 0:01:45.480 I don't think. Don't test me. 0:01:46.160 --> 0:01:50.040 But you guys were actually so supportive when we you know, 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:52.520 when we put out that we wouldn't be releasing an episode, 0:01:52.720 --> 0:01:54.720 we did feel really bad because we don't like doing that, 0:01:54.800 --> 0:01:56.760 but you guys were so great, So thank you for 0:01:56.800 --> 0:01:59.280 being so understanding in this time. I think everyone's going 0:01:59.280 --> 0:02:01.480 through such a tough time, so it's so nice to 0:02:01.480 --> 0:02:04.200 see that everybody's coming together and just helping to support everyone. 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:06.320 Maybe everyone was really happy to not have to listen 0:02:06.320 --> 0:02:08.639 to our voices for two weeks or a week. Actually, 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:10.440 I take that back. It's only been a week, and 0:02:10.520 --> 0:02:14.720 I don't think, so okay, onwards enough wards then I 0:02:14.800 --> 0:02:17.920 think it truly is a really really hard and difficult 0:02:17.960 --> 0:02:20.160 time for everyone, And you know, we came in this morning, 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:24.360 and Britt was a bit upset and emotional about where 0:02:24.480 --> 0:02:26.560 things are at in life just in general. And I 0:02:26.560 --> 0:02:28.880 think that's how I've been feeling completely as well in 0:02:28.919 --> 0:02:31.680 the last couple of weeks. And I guess the one 0:02:31.720 --> 0:02:33.519 piece of solace that I feel like I can take 0:02:33.560 --> 0:02:36.400 from all of this is that we are all in 0:02:36.440 --> 0:02:39.480 this shit storm together, and we're all dealing with varying 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:41.919 levels of shit. So we really just want to keep 0:02:41.919 --> 0:02:44.400 on bringing you this podcast and bringing you this content 0:02:44.480 --> 0:02:47.359 until the very very end and just bring you a 0:02:47.400 --> 0:02:49.280 little bit of joy and a bit of hope that's 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:52.400 not Corona related. Yeah, a bit of normal seed to 0:02:52.440 --> 0:02:52.880 your day. 0:02:53.080 --> 0:02:56.519 It's so true, I Laura, literally, and I'm sure you're 0:02:56.520 --> 0:02:59.799 the same. I don't know one person that he's not affected, 0:03:00.080 --> 0:03:00.680 not one like. 0:03:00.639 --> 0:03:03.639 There is just no one. And there is. 0:03:03.600 --> 0:03:06.320 Something to take from that that you. I can guarantee 0:03:06.520 --> 0:03:08.840 you listening right now, you're going through a really, really 0:03:08.919 --> 0:03:12.120 bloody hard time, but just know that everybody is and 0:03:12.160 --> 0:03:14.480 we will all come out of this on the other end. 0:03:15.080 --> 0:03:18.320 We might have some battle scars, we might have some wounds, 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:21.360 but we'll be here and we will continue on. It 0:03:21.480 --> 0:03:24.440 is interesting to think about the way the dating world 0:03:24.480 --> 0:03:27.120 is going to change, and obviously that will even even 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:29.720 the things we talk about in the future, it's going 0:03:29.720 --> 0:03:31.680 to be different, because you know, we're always talking about 0:03:31.720 --> 0:03:34.480 relationships and dating, but even that is going to be 0:03:34.520 --> 0:03:36.720 in a whole nother level, a whole nother ball game. 0:03:36.800 --> 0:03:38.960 See about two weeks ago, I was saying that I 0:03:39.000 --> 0:03:40.800 feel like dick picks were on the way out, But 0:03:40.840 --> 0:03:41.560 I really. 0:03:41.320 --> 0:03:45.080 Think dick picks are making a comeback when they're going 0:03:45.120 --> 0:03:47.160 to Twenty twenty is the year of the dick pic. 0:03:47.200 --> 0:03:49.400 I'm coining that right now. Let's not remember it about 0:03:49.400 --> 0:03:51.560 the year of coronavirus. It was the year that the 0:03:51.560 --> 0:03:52.960 dick pics made a resurgence. 0:03:53.360 --> 0:03:56.240 Lots of people are changing their bios, updating their bios 0:03:56.280 --> 0:03:59.520 for Quarantine and Chill instead of Netflix and Chill, which 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:00.280 makes cute. 0:04:00.360 --> 0:04:03.000 I just find like this whole the whole world of dating, 0:04:03.080 --> 0:04:05.440 the whole world in general, like everything has been flipped 0:04:05.480 --> 0:04:07.680 on its head. So like what is that even? What 0:04:07.720 --> 0:04:10.240 does it even mean now? Like how does one even date? 0:04:10.320 --> 0:04:12.360 Maybe maybe it's time to not date. Maybe it's time 0:04:12.400 --> 0:04:15.920 for some good old self reflection and working on yourself. 0:04:16.080 --> 0:04:18.279 I was thinking about this. Think of all the people 0:04:18.520 --> 0:04:21.479 that were like in the early stages of their relationships 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:23.680 getting to know each other, and now things are just 0:04:23.920 --> 0:04:27.120 fast tracked and they're stuck in a house together, isolating 0:04:27.160 --> 0:04:28.200 for god knows how long. 0:04:28.480 --> 0:04:31.559 Water baptism of fire. Hey, I was just asking for trouble. 0:04:31.600 --> 0:04:34.280 And also, if you can get through this in a relationship, 0:04:34.279 --> 0:04:36.440 you can get through anything. Because those girls, there's no 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:40.120 fake tans, there's no eyelashes, there's no getting your head. 0:04:40.560 --> 0:04:42.680 Brit has come to the podcast you do today and 0:04:42.720 --> 0:04:45.040 this is the first time I have ever seen her 0:04:45.080 --> 0:04:47.400 without any hair extensions, and I said, you know what, 0:04:47.760 --> 0:04:50.920 the playing field is finally going to be leveled. Once 0:04:50.960 --> 0:04:54.080 this coronavirus business is all over. There's gonna be no 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:56.680 fake tan, there's gonna be no hair extensions. And then 0:04:56.960 --> 0:04:59.240 she's still gonna be more attractive than me, but this 0:04:59.240 --> 0:05:01.360 will be closer. We'll be closer on the pitch. 0:05:01.480 --> 0:05:03.279 I did cut my hair, and I think I'm gonna 0:05:03.320 --> 0:05:05.719 take I think I'm gonna cut my hair quite short. Actually, 0:05:05.720 --> 0:05:09.400 I'm thinking of the like a bulb. What do you think? Yeah, yeah, 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:11.279 do it. Yeah, They're crazy. 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:15.679 I do it myself. Just hate nicely shave it. Maybe 0:05:15.720 --> 0:05:17.400 if you go mad enough over the next few weeks, 0:05:17.440 --> 0:05:19.120 you can pluck all your eyebrows out as well. 0:05:19.200 --> 0:05:22.120 Well. I guess for me, the good thing, I'm so grateful, 0:05:22.120 --> 0:05:24.680 But we're working in healthcare, I don't I won't be 0:05:24.760 --> 0:05:26.920 isolating because I have to go to work. I'll only 0:05:27.000 --> 0:05:30.520 be isolating if I have been exposed, or I get sick, 0:05:30.720 --> 0:05:33.640 or I lose my job, which, believe it or not, 0:05:34.440 --> 0:05:36.839 healthcare workers are losing their job because we don't have 0:05:36.880 --> 0:05:39.880 the money to pay them, which is nuts, because we. 0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:40.560 Need all of them. 0:05:40.600 --> 0:05:42.240 We need them more than ever, so that is on 0:05:42.279 --> 0:05:42.920 the cards too. 0:05:43.160 --> 0:05:45.600 But also, guys, if you're feeling a bit crazy in 0:05:45.640 --> 0:05:48.200 self isolation and you are feeling a little bit insane, 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:50.760 put on a podcast like you can listen to our 0:05:50.839 --> 0:05:54.520 soothing voices anytime you want, but also call your friends. 0:05:54.640 --> 0:05:56.800 Just because you're self isolating does not mean that you 0:05:56.839 --> 0:05:59.880 have to be alone. Try and surround yourself virtually with 0:06:00.000 --> 0:06:02.000 as many people who you love and who bring your 0:06:02.040 --> 0:06:05.080 joy as possible. Because it's a really scary time. We 0:06:05.120 --> 0:06:07.279 are all in this together, even if we have to 0:06:07.320 --> 0:06:08.239 be separate at the moment. 0:06:08.800 --> 0:06:11.720 I think if you are at home. Use this time. 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:14.320 Is there anything you wanted to learn or know about? 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:20.239 Study something, learn a language, read more, write more, utilize 0:06:20.279 --> 0:06:22.760 this time, capitalize on it. I was actually reading an 0:06:22.800 --> 0:06:26.120 amazing article saying that out of the GFC, the Global 0:06:26.120 --> 0:06:31.760 Financial Crisis, so many amazing little ventures started in the GFC, 0:06:31.839 --> 0:06:32.880 for example, like Uber. 0:06:33.200 --> 0:06:35.080 I love that you said you read an article about this. 0:06:35.160 --> 0:06:39.880 I saw an Instagram post which we are. This is 0:06:39.880 --> 0:06:42.040 when Uber started, this is when WhatsApp started. 0:06:42.120 --> 0:06:44.160 Yes, it's amazing though, because there I guess there are 0:06:44.160 --> 0:06:46.640 people sitting inside that finally have the time to work 0:06:46.680 --> 0:06:49.560 on these ideas and let them sort of develop in 0:06:49.600 --> 0:06:50.080 their mind. 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:51.919 Well, I thought that I was going to have I 0:06:51.960 --> 0:06:56.080 had this fantastical idea about what self isolating was going 0:06:56.080 --> 0:06:57.360 to be like, and I was like, you know what, 0:06:57.520 --> 0:06:59.640 I'm going to have the cleanest house. I'm going to 0:06:59.680 --> 0:07:01.960 organize the shit out of my pantry. It's gonna be 0:07:02.000 --> 0:07:04.560 like I'm pregnant all over again. Everything is gonna be 0:07:04.720 --> 0:07:07.720 spiffy and ready to roll. No, no, it's like I 0:07:07.760 --> 0:07:10.720 live in a war zone. Marley has just pulled everything 0:07:10.720 --> 0:07:12.640 out of the cupboards. I don't think Matt's picked up 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:14.680 a single thing. We're living on top of each other. 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:17.960 I do think that in like twenty thirty three, that's 0:07:18.000 --> 0:07:20.560 when we're gonna see the rise of the quarantine. They're 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:23.400 gonna be the Corona baby boomers. It's gonna be the 0:07:23.440 --> 0:07:25.720 same thing. In thirty years, They're all gonna be baby 0:07:25.760 --> 0:07:27.080 boomer kids, Corona kids. 0:07:27.320 --> 0:07:29.400 This is gonna happen in twofold. There's gonna be all 0:07:29.400 --> 0:07:31.880 the relationships that end up falling to shit because the 0:07:31.880 --> 0:07:34.120 people have spent way too much time in isolation with 0:07:34.160 --> 0:07:36.920 their partners, and then they've realized, actually, I don't really 0:07:36.960 --> 0:07:39.120 like my partner very much. And then there's gonna be 0:07:39.160 --> 0:07:41.000 the flip side of that. We're the only thing that 0:07:41.040 --> 0:07:43.200 you can possibly do when you've been stuck in isolation 0:07:43.280 --> 0:07:45.560 with your partner for so goddamn long is to have 0:07:45.640 --> 0:07:47.080 sex with them so they'll stop talking. 0:07:47.400 --> 0:07:50.680 Yeah, in nine, ten eleven months, we're either going to 0:07:50.760 --> 0:07:52.640 be divorcing or having babies. 0:07:53.000 --> 0:07:54.560 I hope that I'm on the baby side of that. 0:07:54.680 --> 0:07:56.840 Matt and I have been saying that thank god we 0:07:56.920 --> 0:08:00.400 are so lazy and didn't start organizing our wedding, and 0:08:00.480 --> 0:08:02.760 instead we're just gonna have a Corona Baby and we're 0:08:02.760 --> 0:08:03.880 gonna name it little Ronie. 0:08:04.200 --> 0:08:07.360 Oh my god, No, that's always always too soon for Okay, 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:09.280 I feel like we're going to put a poll out 0:08:09.320 --> 0:08:12.960 and everyone's gonna be the baby Rona. Look, guys, we 0:08:13.000 --> 0:08:15.280 do have an amazing episode for you today where we 0:08:15.360 --> 0:08:18.720 will be talking about self sabotage. We're gonna go into 0:08:18.720 --> 0:08:21.480 that in a few different levels. There's gonna be heavily 0:08:21.560 --> 0:08:25.320 relationship based, but self sabotage can happen to you on 0:08:25.640 --> 0:08:28.440 many levels career, personal level. 0:08:28.920 --> 0:08:30.960 But Laura, before. 0:08:30.680 --> 0:08:33.320 We get into self sabotage, the Bachelor. 0:08:33.840 --> 0:08:35.720 Yeah, so there was some pretty hectic news that came 0:08:35.760 --> 0:08:38.560 out yesterday, and that is that they have for the moment, 0:08:38.760 --> 0:08:42.480 ceased filming on the current season with Locky and I 0:08:42.559 --> 0:08:42.920 love that. 0:08:42.920 --> 0:08:46.839 You just called that hectic news in what's happening in 0:08:46.880 --> 0:08:49.160 the world, You're like, look, there was some hectic news 0:08:49.280 --> 0:08:50.760 last night. I did not to do with it. 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:53.880 Now. I understand that everyone's losing their jobs and the 0:08:53.880 --> 0:08:56.080 world has gone to shit show on a handbasket, But 0:08:56.200 --> 0:08:58.640 have you heard that The Bachelor has stopped filming? Because 0:08:58.720 --> 0:09:00.000 I feel personally victimized. 0:09:00.520 --> 0:09:03.360 I'm feeling personally victimized that that was what affected you, 0:09:03.400 --> 0:09:05.360 but not the fact that Bachelor in Paradise has been 0:09:05.400 --> 0:09:06.840 pushed back. I feel like you have more of a 0:09:06.840 --> 0:09:09.120 connection to Bachelor in Paradise aka me. 0:09:09.320 --> 0:09:12.240 At least Bachelorm Paradise is still going to air. The 0:09:12.600 --> 0:09:15.200 filming of Bachelor it's now totally up in the air. 0:09:15.240 --> 0:09:18.760 They're saying that it's just on hold because obviously people 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:21.840 cannot self isolate or be within a one point five 0:09:21.920 --> 0:09:25.200 meter distance when they're all making out well on their 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:26.040 single day. 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:29.200 You cannot physically film the Bachelor. You cannot live in 0:09:29.240 --> 0:09:32.200 that house and self isolate. You cannot keep two meters 0:09:32.240 --> 0:09:36.240 from people because you're in dorm style rooms, you're sharing bathrooms, 0:09:36.280 --> 0:09:38.760 and it is. It's pretty impossible. So I understand why 0:09:38.800 --> 0:09:40.319 they've had to cease production. 0:09:40.720 --> 0:09:43.280 The question I have is like, would they keep all 0:09:43.320 --> 0:09:46.840 the girls together in the mansion and keep everyone still 0:09:46.880 --> 0:09:50.000 in lockdown because they can't really send everyone home otherwise 0:09:50.080 --> 0:09:51.840 than the storyline could be compromised. 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:53.840 I mean, they can't write it out forever. They can't 0:09:53.880 --> 0:09:55.520 write this out for six months. If this goes on 0:09:55.559 --> 0:09:57.439 for six months, I think that they're going to see 0:09:57.480 --> 0:09:59.960 what happens over the next two three weeks in case 0:10:00.360 --> 0:10:03.800 Australia goes into this temporary lockdown and then they'll reassess, 0:10:03.960 --> 0:10:07.040 but the potentially could be like nothing before and they 0:10:07.080 --> 0:10:08.280 might just have to cancel it. 0:10:08.440 --> 0:10:10.640 But also, could you imagine, like we're all losing our 0:10:10.679 --> 0:10:14.000 minds being in self isolation now? Could you imagine being 0:10:14.040 --> 0:10:16.960 one of those girls who are in lockdown in like a. 0:10:16.960 --> 0:10:19.000 Dorm room, probably with people that don't. 0:10:18.840 --> 0:10:21.320 Like that much, Yes, with like six other girls or something. 0:10:21.360 --> 0:10:23.040 I don't know how many people are left at the moment, 0:10:23.320 --> 0:10:26.920 sleeping in bunk beds and no access for an indefinite 0:10:26.960 --> 0:10:28.959 amount of time, at least for us. When we were 0:10:29.000 --> 0:10:31.360 during our filming, we knew that it was a three 0:10:31.360 --> 0:10:34.200 month period max. Now they're kind of in this limbo 0:10:34.320 --> 0:10:35.959 phase where they don't know how long they're going to 0:10:36.040 --> 0:10:37.360 be in there for, and I just think that would 0:10:37.400 --> 0:10:38.360 be so maddening. 0:10:38.640 --> 0:10:40.200 So, you know how I was trying to preach that 0:10:40.240 --> 0:10:42.320 show a few weeks ago, Love is Blind, where they 0:10:42.320 --> 0:10:44.240 get to know each other in the isolation pods. 0:10:44.320 --> 0:10:46.679 You mean, like they're doing their single dates via zoom. 0:10:46.880 --> 0:10:48.680 What if there was still a way that they could 0:10:48.679 --> 0:10:51.079 continue to get to know each other on an individual basis, 0:10:51.120 --> 0:10:52.680 just to get to know each other, and they don't 0:10:52.679 --> 0:10:54.280 have to go on big dates. They could literally sit 0:10:54.280 --> 0:10:56.720 across from each other. Realistically, you could sit across from 0:10:56.760 --> 0:10:59.520 each other in a lund room outside and chat. You 0:10:59.559 --> 0:11:01.720 could just I mean, let's wind it back to real 0:11:01.800 --> 0:11:03.560 love and just get to know each other. 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:06.520 But before we get into today's topic, we do have 0:11:06.600 --> 0:11:08.800 to do what we do every single week, and that 0:11:09.000 --> 0:11:12.079 is accidentally unfiltered. Every week we put a little call out. 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:14.280 We love it when you send us. Basically, it's just 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:18.360 your most embarrassing stories. My favorite segment Brittany, have you 0:11:18.400 --> 0:11:20.040 got one for me today? Because I have got one 0:11:20.080 --> 0:11:22.240 for you? Yes, I love when we both have one. 0:11:22.280 --> 0:11:25.240 I do have one. Okay, this is someone that has 0:11:25.280 --> 0:11:26.959 written in and I just really. 0:11:27.040 --> 0:11:29.000 I just thought this was so funny. But she starts 0:11:29.000 --> 0:11:32.400 off saying, Okay, guys, I haven't accidentally unfiltered and it's 0:11:32.480 --> 0:11:36.600 kind of on par with BRIT's accidental selfie original gangster story. 0:11:37.240 --> 0:11:39.440 So I matched with this guy on a dating app 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:41.960 and we went to second base by getting each other's 0:11:42.000 --> 0:11:45.240 number and started texting on WhatsApp. So we're texting back 0:11:45.240 --> 0:11:47.160 and forth, and I had my phone sitting in my 0:11:47.280 --> 0:11:50.360 lap between texts while I was reading. Then I picked 0:11:50.400 --> 0:11:52.800 up my phone and saw that I had accidentally sent 0:11:52.880 --> 0:11:56.079 him a sound clip. The microphone button must have accidentally 0:11:56.120 --> 0:11:58.079 pushed down when I had my phone on my lap. 0:11:58.640 --> 0:12:00.520 So I listened back to it. 0:12:00.520 --> 0:12:02.199 It was just some ambient noise. 0:12:02.320 --> 0:12:05.960 I wasn't too worried, bit of rustling, and then a 0:12:06.120 --> 0:12:11.160 massive fut I can't even read anymore from him or 0:12:11.160 --> 0:12:14.760 from her recorded her own You know how you accidentally 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:19.000 pressed the voice memo thing. I actually do it all 0:12:19.040 --> 0:12:19.360 the time. 0:12:19.520 --> 0:12:20.160 She was voiced. 0:12:20.240 --> 0:12:22.360 She actually she looked down and she was like, oh 0:12:22.360 --> 0:12:25.200 my god, I've sent him an accidental voice memo. But 0:12:25.240 --> 0:12:27.080 she was just reading, so she was like, what could 0:12:27.080 --> 0:12:27.480 I send? 0:12:27.760 --> 0:12:29.560 So she looked down and she played it. 0:12:29.600 --> 0:12:32.319 And I was just like Russell Russell Russell's rops. She 0:12:32.360 --> 0:12:34.600 fired and sent it to him. She recorded her fart 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:36.280 and it was on her lap, so it was near 0:12:36.320 --> 0:12:36.720 her butt. 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:38.640 Do you know what with all of this a video 0:12:38.679 --> 0:12:41.040 conferencing that's going on at the moment, and everyone working 0:12:41.040 --> 0:12:42.880 from home and having to get onto Zoom and do 0:12:43.000 --> 0:12:46.880 video conference calls, there have been so many stories that 0:12:46.920 --> 0:12:49.800 have come out where people have accidentally like somebody's walked 0:12:49.840 --> 0:12:52.559 in the background nude. But yesterday Matt was showing me 0:12:52.600 --> 0:12:55.760 this one that's making the traps on Facebook at the moment. 0:12:56.040 --> 0:12:59.280 And it was this massive conference video call. So there 0:12:59.280 --> 0:13:02.080 was about ten different people in the conference video call 0:13:02.120 --> 0:13:05.120 at one time. One person was enlarged and they were talking. 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:07.640 And then if you look to the left, there was 0:13:07.679 --> 0:13:10.160 this one girl who had picked up her laptop and 0:13:10.200 --> 0:13:13.000 she'd walked to the bathroom, put her laptop down on 0:13:13.040 --> 0:13:16.280 the ground to go to the toilet, but not realizing 0:13:16.320 --> 0:13:19.560 that the camera was angled right at her midsection. So 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:21.240 she was doing a booth. 0:13:21.840 --> 0:13:25.640 Oh my god, I can't even whilst my eyes are 0:13:25.679 --> 0:13:29.640 so wide, whilst on a video conference call to her 0:13:29.720 --> 0:13:31.480 boss and her entire team. 0:13:31.960 --> 0:13:34.840 And I saw it with my own goddamn eyes. Why. 0:13:34.960 --> 0:13:36.880 I don't understand why she did that. If you're on 0:13:36.920 --> 0:13:39.080 a conference call, just say hey, I'm going to the toilet. 0:13:39.160 --> 0:13:41.320 I think she had thought that she had angled the 0:13:41.360 --> 0:13:43.600 camera down so that the camera was actually looking at 0:13:43.600 --> 0:13:46.679 the ground. No, but it was a fully looking at 0:13:46.760 --> 0:13:49.160 her whole body. Was a sound on It was more 0:13:49.240 --> 0:13:50.679 it was more a tinkle. It was more like a 0:13:50.679 --> 0:13:53.320 water feature with poop. But also the thing that I 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:56.320 think is the most alarming part of that story was 0:13:56.360 --> 0:14:00.360 the fact that somebody from that conference call put on 0:14:00.400 --> 0:14:02.880 the internet. Like, she didn't put that on the internet herself. 0:14:02.920 --> 0:14:05.040 Okay, if you're listening and this is you, can you 0:14:05.120 --> 0:14:07.480 let us know slide into our DMS if this was 0:14:07.520 --> 0:14:08.920 you that was recorded on the toilet. 0:14:09.080 --> 0:14:11.600 So I have an accidentally unfiltered story for you guys today. 0:14:11.880 --> 0:14:14.040 And this happened to a friend of mine quite a 0:14:14.040 --> 0:14:16.600 while ago, but she reminded me of it recently when 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:19.840 I was talking about this section of the podcast. Basically, 0:14:20.440 --> 0:14:23.800 she had recently started dating a guy and everything was 0:14:23.840 --> 0:14:27.000 going great. He seemed really lovely. She was meeting his 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:29.040 friends for the first time, and she was down the 0:14:29.040 --> 0:14:33.280 beach and having a really cute day getting to know everyone. 0:14:33.440 --> 0:14:35.400 And they'd just gone for a swim and she got 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:39.080 out of the ocean and a boyfriend was like, oh, babe, 0:14:39.560 --> 0:14:42.600 you've got a you've got a thread and went to 0:14:42.640 --> 0:14:45.960 pull her thread that was on her swimmers and pulled 0:14:45.960 --> 0:14:50.280 out her tampon in front of all of his friends. 0:14:50.920 --> 0:15:04.920 Oh no, he didn't, please, No. 0:14:59.600 --> 0:15:03.600 No, it's like everyone was worse nightmare. She's like, I 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:06.840 just cried and went to the bathroom, didn't come back out. 0:15:07.040 --> 0:15:10.040 I just cried and moved to a last guy. I 0:15:10.080 --> 0:15:13.080 can't even comprehend this actually happening, because it seems like 0:15:13.120 --> 0:15:14.800 it's something that's so unreal. 0:15:15.040 --> 0:15:17.120 Do you want to know a story? I just thought 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:20.120 of it right now. It reminded me of this when 0:15:20.120 --> 0:15:20.760 I was younger. 0:15:21.200 --> 0:15:22.680 Oh god, no it's not. 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:24.520 It's not on par but it just reminded me of 0:15:24.560 --> 0:15:27.160 being at the beach and accidentally unfiltered. I used to 0:15:27.200 --> 0:15:29.560 surf competitively and I was in this little surf comb 0:15:29.720 --> 0:15:33.520 just like a local, like nothing, and I used to 0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:37.680 serve you, yeah, brah. I used to surf in like 0:15:37.720 --> 0:15:40.440 a surf top and swimming bottoms, which is just what 0:15:40.440 --> 0:15:43.120 everyone did in summer surf comp A duck dived under 0:15:43.160 --> 0:15:47.000 this wave of quite a big wave, and the lip 0:15:47.000 --> 0:15:49.200 of the wave when I went under, hit my back 0:15:49.360 --> 0:15:54.320 and it pulled my pants down. My swimmer bottoms off off, gone, 0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:57.400 I had no pants on. And I came up and 0:15:57.400 --> 0:15:59.120 I was like, this feels funny. And I was like, 0:15:59.200 --> 0:16:01.440 oh my god, And can you imagine if there's people 0:16:01.440 --> 0:16:03.560 on the beach watching a surf comp When you duck dive, 0:16:03.640 --> 0:16:05.320 you know what happens when you don't dive, You put 0:16:05.360 --> 0:16:08.520 your us It was a film anyway, I was more 0:16:08.520 --> 0:16:10.360 so I couldn't duck dive, so I kept just going 0:16:10.440 --> 0:16:12.280 under the waves off the board, and people were looking 0:16:12.320 --> 0:16:14.880 at me, being like what she doing? And I was 0:16:14.920 --> 0:16:18.000 waving into a friend got the chance to tell her 0:16:18.040 --> 0:16:21.120 what happened. She took her swimming bottoms off from underneath 0:16:21.120 --> 0:16:23.440 her skirt and like ran out halfway in the water 0:16:23.480 --> 0:16:24.680 to throw them to me. And I put hers on, 0:16:24.720 --> 0:16:25.040 and I. 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:29.720 Can't go at the show must go on. I don't 0:16:29.760 --> 0:16:31.880 know what I would prefer. I think I would prefer 0:16:31.960 --> 0:16:34.920 to be pantsless then to have someone tug my tampon 0:16:34.960 --> 0:16:38.160 out in front of a group of friends. Pees are horrible, 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:39.680 horrible situations. 0:16:40.040 --> 0:16:42.480 I would rather a million things happened to me before 0:16:42.480 --> 0:16:46.560 someone pulled my tamp on out outdoors in front of 0:16:46.720 --> 0:16:49.760 five people you don't know, men and your new crush. 0:16:49.840 --> 0:16:53.480 I'm sorry, but like you, wi rip my pants. It's over. 0:16:53.760 --> 0:16:57.840 It's pants because they away. Oh dear, all right, guys, 0:16:57.840 --> 0:17:01.160 well enough of our little chitty check. It's time to 0:17:01.200 --> 0:17:04.440 get into their proper episode. Oh yeah, tell us what 0:17:04.520 --> 0:17:06.120 it is. No, I thought you were going to. 0:17:07.960 --> 0:17:10.800 It's self sabotage, guys, and I am here to give 0:17:10.840 --> 0:17:12.840 you a little intro into what it is in case 0:17:12.880 --> 0:17:15.879 you didn't really know. It's when we just do something 0:17:15.920 --> 0:17:17.719 that gets in the way of our intent or our 0:17:17.760 --> 0:17:20.960 bigger dreams and goals. When we really want something but 0:17:21.080 --> 0:17:23.360 somehow we never seem to be able to accomplish it. 0:17:23.680 --> 0:17:24.000 Why. 0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:27.960 Well, somewhere deep in our subconscious we're fighting against that goal, 0:17:28.000 --> 0:17:30.800 but we aren't sure why. Sometimes we don't know we're 0:17:30.800 --> 0:17:33.840 doing it. This behavior can affect nearly every single aspect 0:17:33.880 --> 0:17:36.719 of our life. It could be relationships, it could be career, 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:39.359 or it could be a personal goal such as you 0:17:39.480 --> 0:17:42.760 trying to lose weight. It's very, very common. It is 0:17:42.800 --> 0:17:46.280 an incredibly frustrating cycle of behavior that lowers our self 0:17:46.320 --> 0:17:49.400 confidence and we just end up getting super bloody stuck 0:17:49.560 --> 0:17:53.160 in this vicious, vicious cycle. So we are here today 0:17:53.400 --> 0:17:55.720 to chat a little bit about it, break it down 0:17:56.440 --> 0:17:57.720 and see if we can get out of it. 0:17:57.920 --> 0:18:00.080