WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - Icks, d*cks and dints 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:05.280 Life Uncut podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:09.080 Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:11.920 pay our respect to their elders past and present and 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:15.360 extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait islander 0:00:15.360 --> 0:00:16.120 peoples today. 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:19.599 This episode is recorded on Gaddigal Land of the Aurora Nation. 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:42.720 Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:42.840 --> 0:00:44.160 I'm Laura and I'm Brittany. 0:00:44.159 --> 0:00:46.639 You're in a Russia. Start there, Laura, microphone wasn't even 0:00:46.640 --> 0:00:50.120 in front of me yet. I was like, I was like, good, 0:00:50.200 --> 0:00:50.960 give me a second. 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:53.080 I have to get out of here. I'm gonna go 0:00:53.159 --> 0:00:55.240 get my kids from daycare soon. Oh I'd hate to 0:00:55.320 --> 0:00:58.280 keep you well, I think that, Yeah, they'd probably hate 0:00:58.320 --> 0:01:00.760 that as well. Anyway, this is us gun cut. I 0:01:00.840 --> 0:01:04.560 know that how down and dirty, spiny, little sexy, saucy 0:01:04.640 --> 0:01:08.479 number where we do our absolute best to answer all 0:01:08.520 --> 0:01:10.080 your deep, dark and burning questions. 0:01:10.160 --> 0:01:12.480 We've got some crackers today. But before we get into that, 0:01:12.520 --> 0:01:14.960 you know we always talk about something going on in 0:01:15.000 --> 0:01:15.399 the world. 0:01:15.520 --> 0:01:17.160 Well, actually, no, no, no, What I want to talk about 0:01:17.200 --> 0:01:19.000 first before we get into that is what you just 0:01:19.040 --> 0:01:19.959 said five minutes ago? 0:01:20.680 --> 0:01:25.120 Oh God, what should I just say? I've said so 0:01:25.240 --> 0:01:27.280 many questionable things in the last five minutes. 0:01:27.360 --> 0:01:29.400 I was asking Britt how her dating life is going, 0:01:29.480 --> 0:01:31.920 where it's at? You know, what's been happening you Have. 0:01:31.959 --> 0:01:34.000 You gotten off the lounge Brittain in last week? 0:01:34.160 --> 0:01:36.360 Have you gone on a date? Because you know that 0:01:36.440 --> 0:01:39.400 I live my single life vicariously through Britt. And then 0:01:39.480 --> 0:01:42.480 I said, she doesn't want to date, she just needs 0:01:42.520 --> 0:01:43.640 a friends with benefits? 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:47.560 I said, I I said, how do people This was 0:01:47.600 --> 0:01:50.040 actually it. I said, question, how do people find like 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:52.200 a good solid friends with benefits, Like. 0:01:52.120 --> 0:01:54.720 A good, solid, long hard friendship. Friends with benefits are 0:01:54.720 --> 0:01:55.000 too far? 0:01:55.160 --> 0:01:56.960 Yeah, because like I mean, there's a multitude of friends 0:01:56.960 --> 0:01:58.320 with benefits that you can have. But I was like, 0:01:58.360 --> 0:02:00.400 where do these people get because I've got friends that 0:02:00.440 --> 0:02:05.480 have had like long term, solid, respectable, loving friends with benefits, 0:02:05.480 --> 0:02:07.000 like they really have a connection. 0:02:07.360 --> 0:02:12.320 Okay, But it's always it's always tricky because someone usually 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:13.560 catches the feels. 0:02:13.240 --> 0:02:14.679 Well, I can't even get to the point to cash 0:02:14.680 --> 0:02:15.560 the feelings. 0:02:15.160 --> 0:02:17.440 Like where do somebody you find the person and then 0:02:17.520 --> 0:02:20.520 lay down the groundwork at the start and say you 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:23.679 know that I like you, I respect you. You're never 0:02:23.720 --> 0:02:25.160 going to be the person that I end up marrying 0:02:25.240 --> 0:02:26.600 or being with us the rest of my life, but 0:02:26.639 --> 0:02:29.360 I want to be with you for the rest of now. 0:02:30.520 --> 0:02:35.360 Until you're done. It's a genuine question I did. 0:02:36.480 --> 0:02:38.560 If anybody else has the answers, please slide into the 0:02:38.639 --> 0:02:40.760 DMS because yeah, look Britney searching or do. 0:02:40.760 --> 0:02:42.840 You know where it came from? So we get so 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:45.160 many questions come in that are related to friends with 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:47.040 benefits and the problems that they've had and how long 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:50.320 they've been friends with benefits for, And I'm like, holy smokes, 0:02:50.360 --> 0:02:53.000 where are all these people getting these long term, amazing 0:02:53.000 --> 0:02:55.320 friends with benefits? Like one girl wrote in a Friends 0:02:55.320 --> 0:02:58.560 with Benefits was like her friends with benefits. She'll come 0:02:58.600 --> 0:03:01.480 over and he's runner a bar, he's made a dinner, 0:03:01.560 --> 0:03:05.120 he gives it back massages like it's extreme. It is 0:03:05.120 --> 0:03:08.160 like a beautiful relationship without the strings attached. 0:03:08.200 --> 0:03:10.840 Okay, But then my question is is there a possibility 0:03:10.880 --> 0:03:14.120 in that situation that he's just more invested than she is, 0:03:14.160 --> 0:03:18.200 Like he probably hasn't been able to verbalize that he 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:21.400 has feelings, so he just treats her amazingly hoping that 0:03:21.440 --> 0:03:23.280 she's gonna one day turn around and be like, hey, 0:03:23.400 --> 0:03:24.239 I have feelings too. 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:25.600 Just'll never know. 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:28.760 We will never know the answer to that. I like 0:03:29.000 --> 0:03:32.120 just going back on my memories of my friends with benefits. 0:03:32.480 --> 0:03:36.240 The best friends with benefits I ever had is a 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:40.520 guy who I dated many years ago. To say name, 0:03:40.640 --> 0:03:44.280 I was not gonna say, okay, okay. Firstly, he's no, 0:03:44.360 --> 0:03:46.200 I'm not going to leave clues because people will figure 0:03:46.200 --> 0:03:46.400 it out. 0:03:46.560 --> 0:03:47.120 Leave clues. 0:03:47.200 --> 0:03:53.000 Okay, okay, bendyar. He was on the Bachelor, but not 0:03:53.160 --> 0:03:54.000 on my season. 0:03:54.400 --> 0:03:56.680 What you haven't ever told me this? 0:03:56.920 --> 0:03:59.240 Yes, I have I dated a guy who was on 0:03:59.360 --> 0:04:02.840 the Bachelor or Bachelorette. Obviously he wasn't a Bachelor, he 0:04:02.920 --> 0:04:04.000 was on the Bachelorette. 0:04:04.040 --> 0:04:07.320 I am genuinely trying to I've obviously blocked that out 0:04:07.360 --> 0:04:08.280 from trauma. 0:04:08.080 --> 0:04:11.120 That was obviously not mad and a season. 0:04:11.160 --> 0:04:12.200 You have to give us another hint. 0:04:12.280 --> 0:04:15.400 Well, I'm not giving you a fucking season, Brittany, and 0:04:15.440 --> 0:04:17.760 I used to call him my Wednesday night guy because 0:04:17.760 --> 0:04:19.719 I would on a Wednesday night. It wasn't it was 0:04:19.800 --> 0:04:22.000 never a weekend relationship. It was never good enough to 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:24.200 be a Friday night or a Saturday night. We both 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:27.279 just knew on a Wednesday we'd go and get sushi, 0:04:27.520 --> 0:04:30.000 we'd have some great sex. We had a great time. 0:04:30.040 --> 0:04:32.080 I would have a sleepover, I'd get up in the morning, 0:04:32.120 --> 0:04:34.080 I'd go to work, and things were great. I am 0:04:34.160 --> 0:04:36.320 sugar to the core for like six months. 0:04:36.360 --> 0:04:40.880 Okay, just tell me this. Who was his bachelorette? 0:04:42.160 --> 0:04:45.440 That is the same as the season. Anyway, let's get 0:04:45.480 --> 0:04:47.680 into the next thing. When I wanted to start an end, 0:04:48.240 --> 0:04:48.840 we don't. 0:04:48.640 --> 0:04:50.320 Just this is like the sex with the leg thing. 0:04:50.320 --> 0:04:52.640 You don't just drop these bombs and then scurry off. 0:04:52.800 --> 0:04:56.359 Look, it was it was Oh god. I think I 0:04:56.560 --> 0:04:58.800 actually started to get a bit of feelings after because 0:04:58.800 --> 0:05:00.480 it was a long time. It was like six months. 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:03.640 I think I actually started to get feelings. But in retrospect, 0:05:03.720 --> 0:05:06.000 I didn't get feelings. I just had nothing else going 0:05:06.040 --> 0:05:06.880 on in my life. 0:05:06.920 --> 0:05:13.600 Fake phantom feelings. I call them fff yeah, but phonetically, 0:05:14.120 --> 0:05:16.680 phonetically it's fff yeah ff yeah. 0:05:16.720 --> 0:05:19.680 So I didn't really like him when I actually unpacked it. 0:05:19.760 --> 0:05:21.440 I mean, I do. He's a great guy. I like 0:05:21.520 --> 0:05:23.800 him as a person, but they didn't actually have romantic 0:05:23.839 --> 0:05:26.680 feelings for him, but the romantic feelings started to come 0:05:26.720 --> 0:05:29.320 when I started to realize he didn't have romantic feelings 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:30.960 for me either, so I was like, well, why don't 0:05:30.960 --> 0:05:32.320 you like me? Like what's wrong with me? 0:05:32.839 --> 0:05:34.440 And that is so standard. 0:05:34.560 --> 0:05:35.599 And then it went to a bit. 0:05:35.440 --> 0:05:37.039 As soon as they don't like you, you want to 0:05:37.040 --> 0:05:39.840 be with them, not you. I mean, like everyone, we 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:41.240 always want what we can't have. 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:43.560 And then the other thing that then happened was my 0:05:43.680 --> 0:05:46.320 car broke down at his house and he lived quite 0:05:46.400 --> 0:05:48.919 a fair way away, so then I just left my 0:05:48.960 --> 0:05:50.960 car there for ages and couldn't be bothered to go 0:05:51.160 --> 0:05:52.680 and get it because it was broken down, and it 0:05:52.680 --> 0:05:54.800 stayed there for like a month, and eventually I went 0:05:54.800 --> 0:05:56.400 and picked my car up, and then I hadn't seen 0:05:56.440 --> 0:05:58.080 him for a month, and then we both just agreed 0:05:58.120 --> 0:05:58.880 it was kind of done. 0:05:58.920 --> 0:05:59.839 Is he in Sydney now? 0:06:01.000 --> 0:06:01.240 Yes? 0:06:01.360 --> 0:06:02.279 Do you run into him? 0:06:02.920 --> 0:06:03.080 No? 0:06:03.839 --> 0:06:07.440 I genuinely don't think we've had this conversation because I 0:06:07.480 --> 0:06:09.480 am I'm really shook and I cannot, for the life 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:10.920 of me think of who it could be. And I 0:06:10.920 --> 0:06:12.719 don't know how I feel about the fact that you've 0:06:12.760 --> 0:06:15.000 obviously made a conscious decision to keep this from me, 0:06:15.080 --> 0:06:17.400 even though you just assume you've told me in the past. 0:06:17.560 --> 0:06:21.400 Yeah. No, I've told your Jimmy before. No, no, no, 0:06:21.720 --> 0:06:23.560 not Jimmy. I'm pretty sure I match with him on 0:06:23.600 --> 0:06:26.520 Tinder once and we both did. Okay, all right, let's 0:06:26.520 --> 0:06:28.800 get into what the actual conversation is about. We want 0:06:28.880 --> 0:06:31.360 to talk to you about another woman who's been on Tinder. 0:06:31.720 --> 0:06:34.839 She was very creative. There is a woman in UK now, 0:06:34.839 --> 0:06:38.800 her name is Fanny Blom. She's nineteen years old, and it's. 0:06:38.640 --> 0:06:41.240 Her name, really, Fanny, Fanny Blom. I love that it's 0:06:41.240 --> 0:06:42.719 going to be a dating story and the name's Fanny. 0:06:42.720 --> 0:06:43.719 That's very mature of me. 0:06:43.920 --> 0:06:46.039 That is really fucking a mature of me. But that's okay, 0:06:46.080 --> 0:06:48.880 I'm here for it. So Fanny Blom was on Tinder 0:06:49.360 --> 0:06:51.760 and she decided that she would invite all of her 0:06:51.800 --> 0:06:55.200 Tinder matches, five Tinder matches, out to the same nightclub 0:06:55.279 --> 0:06:56.440 at the same time. 0:06:57.440 --> 0:06:59.479 For the purpose of online speed dating. 0:06:59.680 --> 0:07:02.320 Yes, she created her own mini speed dating. But what 0:07:02.360 --> 0:07:03.760 she did is she told them all that it was 0:07:03.760 --> 0:07:05.360 her birthday and that she was going to be there 0:07:05.360 --> 0:07:08.080 with a group of friends. So then when they arrived, 0:07:08.320 --> 0:07:10.000 they didn't think it was weird that she was spending 0:07:10.000 --> 0:07:12.280 time with other people, so she rocked up to the 0:07:12.360 --> 0:07:15.560 nightclub with a fucking balloon and a party hat. 0:07:15.640 --> 0:07:17.680 It wasn't even her birthday. This is brilliant. 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:19.880 It wasn't her birthday. So she says. This is what 0:07:19.920 --> 0:07:22.320 Fanny had to say about the whole thing. It was 0:07:22.320 --> 0:07:23.920 easy for them to find me because I had a 0:07:23.920 --> 0:07:25.960 birthday hat on, and it was easy to get free 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:28.160 drinks with a birthday had on. Two this. 0:07:29.760 --> 0:07:31.600 Yes, Fanny, live your best life. 0:07:31.760 --> 0:07:33.600 I think in total there was only five of them 0:07:33.600 --> 0:07:36.320 who showed up because I had literally invited so many 0:07:36.400 --> 0:07:39.400 different tin matches. I couldn't be sure because then I 0:07:39.440 --> 0:07:41.280 had to go back and find their tin pictures to 0:07:41.320 --> 0:07:43.200 try and figure out who was who. But I met 0:07:43.280 --> 0:07:45.880 five really nice guys that night. One of them was 0:07:45.920 --> 0:07:47.560 really attractive, and I think we're going to go out 0:07:47.600 --> 0:07:49.840 on a second date. None of them knew that they 0:07:49.840 --> 0:07:51.880 were there on a multiple date situation. 0:07:52.240 --> 0:07:56.000 I have so many questions. Okay, this is what I 0:07:56.040 --> 0:07:58.160 do think about. Put yourself in that position, not when 0:07:58.200 --> 0:08:01.280 you've invited every single online dating map toward dinner, but 0:08:01.360 --> 0:08:02.840 if I've gone to a party, if I've gone to 0:08:02.880 --> 0:08:05.040 someone's birthday and I don't know anyone else there, which 0:08:05.120 --> 0:08:07.800 is what's going to happen with these guys they've turned up. 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:10.200 Don't you start to talk to people and say, hey, 0:08:10.240 --> 0:08:11.520 how do you know Fanny? 0:08:11.720 --> 0:08:13.920 Well she literally said this. Throughout the night, Fanny would 0:08:13.920 --> 0:08:16.680 excuse herself from the group so that she could go 0:08:16.720 --> 0:08:19.040 and flick through Tinder messages so that she could liaise 0:08:19.080 --> 0:08:21.160 with other dates who had shown up at the nightclub. 0:08:21.400 --> 0:08:22.960 So we think she kind of said, like, it's not 0:08:23.000 --> 0:08:24.360 a date, it's not a one on one. I think 0:08:24.400 --> 0:08:26.240 she was like, Hey, I'm at this club with some 0:08:26.280 --> 0:08:28.960 friends for my birthday. Come to the club. So she 0:08:28.960 --> 0:08:31.120 made it sound a lot more casual, but really she 0:08:31.240 --> 0:08:34.240 was there by herself, just going on multiple Tinder dates. 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:36.080 She's a time efficient woman. 0:08:36.240 --> 0:08:38.320 And she said, I don't think anyone realized and this 0:08:38.360 --> 0:08:39.720 is what I think we need to do for you. 0:08:40.240 --> 0:08:44.000 Let's set up a speed dating situation at the Royal Hotel. 0:08:44.240 --> 0:08:46.680 Just bey, just say, just tell everybody that's my birthday. 0:08:46.720 --> 0:08:47.840 Give me your hinge, give me your. 0:08:49.679 --> 0:08:54.440 Actually, speaking of that, I downloaded a different dating app because. 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:56.559 Now she's on every single one. Well, you're like not funny. 0:08:56.600 --> 0:08:59.120 Too soon, It's always too soon. Yep. I'm just really 0:08:59.160 --> 0:09:01.040 getting out there, spreading my wings. 0:09:01.160 --> 0:09:03.400 But on many dating apps are there? And are you 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:04.360 on in all? 0:09:04.360 --> 0:09:07.120 Honestly, I'm not on every single one. I'm now on three. 0:09:07.760 --> 0:09:09.720 Okay. I feel like if you're on three that you're 0:09:09.760 --> 0:09:12.679 covering all bases of anyone who is single in this area. 0:09:12.760 --> 0:09:14.840 Well, I always thought that there'd be different people on 0:09:14.880 --> 0:09:16.800 different apps, that's what. Well, no, they sort of are. 0:09:17.120 --> 0:09:19.160 So I ran out of one, so. 0:09:21.120 --> 0:09:21.720 So I went on. 0:09:21.800 --> 0:09:23.720 I was like a better download another one, And there've 0:09:23.720 --> 0:09:26.480 been different people so far. So And the thing is, 0:09:26.559 --> 0:09:28.880 when if you guys are online dating, you'll know if 0:09:28.920 --> 0:09:32.200 you're not. I'm going to tell you when you when 0:09:32.240 --> 0:09:35.360 you join up to a dating app, when you're a 0:09:35.400 --> 0:09:38.600 new profile or a new customer, a new whatever. I 0:09:38.640 --> 0:09:40.920 think the algorithm shows you to more people and it 0:09:40.960 --> 0:09:43.200 puts you out there more. So when you're new, it 0:09:43.280 --> 0:09:45.880 goes bonkers, right. You get you get love hearts and 0:09:45.880 --> 0:09:48.400 compliments left front and center. And I say compliments because 0:09:48.400 --> 0:09:50.800 that's a new thing online. Now you can send a compliment, 0:09:51.400 --> 0:09:53.559 which is I haven't seen that before until I downloaded it. 0:09:53.640 --> 0:09:54.080 This weekend. 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:56.920 And also we all know how uncomfortable compliments make you. 0:09:57.040 --> 0:10:00.000 I'm an awkward person anyway. But I have been getting 0:10:00.160 --> 0:10:03.040 compliments Laura, which is this is pretty shocking. I've been 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:05.240 getting a lot of compliments that are about the podcast, 0:10:05.360 --> 0:10:09.280 so coming from male listeners that are writing things like 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:14.040 I also love love or you yeah, but like, no, 0:10:14.160 --> 0:10:16.480 my point's not about that. My point's like, are there 0:10:16.480 --> 0:10:20.400 male do we genuinely have a bunch of male thirty 0:10:20.480 --> 0:10:23.400 year old listeners in the eastern beaches of Sydney or 0:10:23.440 --> 0:10:25.520 do you think that they're sitting at home with their 0:10:25.520 --> 0:10:28.280 flatmates that are women that are like, oh I know 0:10:28.360 --> 0:10:30.520 that podcast say this? So do you think these people 0:10:30.520 --> 0:10:33.240 are genuine listeners, these men or do you reckon? 0:10:33.640 --> 0:10:36.280 I mean, considering all the things we talk about, period 0:10:36.360 --> 0:10:41.280 chatam going down on your girlfriend, I would I would 0:10:41.320 --> 0:10:44.560 think no, no, it's coming from the FLA. And also, 0:10:44.720 --> 0:10:46.880 not only do I think this subjectively, but because I 0:10:46.880 --> 0:10:48.959 can actually see the data and see how many men 0:10:49.000 --> 0:10:51.320 and women listen to this podcast. Two percent of our 0:10:51.320 --> 0:10:55.800 listeners and men they're all on bubble that none of 0:10:55.840 --> 0:10:58.920 those are real listeners. But let's get in though, answering 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:02.120 your questions. Guys, you have sent in some crackers. We 0:11:02.360 --> 0:11:04.800 have picked three for today's episode. There is one in 0:11:04.840 --> 0:11:08.960 particular that I read it and I had feelings, and 0:11:08.960 --> 0:11:10.520 then I felt something else, and then it was a 0:11:10.520 --> 0:11:11.120 lot going on. 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:16.880 But I were they phantom fake feelingsf No phantom feelings FPF. 0:11:17.000 --> 0:11:19.439 They were real feelings. And I think that we need 0:11:19.480 --> 0:11:21.840 to talk about this. But from not from the perspective 0:11:21.960 --> 0:11:24.520 of the question that's been asked here we go. Just 0:11:24.559 --> 0:11:25.439 made that really confusing. 0:11:25.679 --> 0:11:27.080 So yeah, let's hear it. 0:11:27.480 --> 0:11:29.199 I went on a date with a guy and things 0:11:29.320 --> 0:11:31.960 ended up getting a little bit steamy in the car park. 0:11:32.200 --> 0:11:34.760 All was going good. We ended up going down on 0:11:34.800 --> 0:11:39.800 each other. However, he ejaculated pretty early on. He also 0:11:39.960 --> 0:11:43.400 wasn't good at pleasuring me. Now, my big problem is 0:11:43.520 --> 0:11:46.240 that his penis is small. Should I continue talking to 0:11:46.320 --> 0:11:48.960 him even though I know that I won't be satisfied 0:11:48.960 --> 0:11:51.920 in the bedroom or should I just overlook the fact 0:11:51.960 --> 0:11:54.440 that he couldn't make me orgasm that time as he 0:11:54.520 --> 0:11:57.400 has a small penis. Thanks in advance for your help. 0:11:57.440 --> 0:12:01.120 Additional note, he is a really sweet, caring guy and 0:12:01.200 --> 0:12:03.760 has the personality of what I am looking for. 0:12:04.120 --> 0:12:07.080 So did they have sex in the car, or because 0:12:07.080 --> 0:12:08.839 it makes it sound like she just said they just 0:12:08.920 --> 0:12:09.960 went down on each other, I. 0:12:09.960 --> 0:12:11.920 Think they had sex. Oh well, I think they tried 0:12:11.960 --> 0:12:14.640 to have sex and he prematurely ejaculated. 0:12:14.440 --> 0:12:16.600 Right, Okay, so the question is. 0:12:16.480 --> 0:12:18.800 But also I think she was turned off by the 0:12:18.840 --> 0:12:21.200 size of his penis, So maybe she didn't even really 0:12:21.200 --> 0:12:23.920 give it a crack. She's just assuming that she won't 0:12:23.920 --> 0:12:27.200 be sexually satisfied because she doesn't find his penis to 0:12:27.240 --> 0:12:28.480 the aesthetic that she likes. 0:12:28.679 --> 0:12:32.640 Okay, so my first initial thought is, look, let's give 0:12:32.640 --> 0:12:34.280 the guy the benefit of the doubt. You don't have 0:12:34.480 --> 0:12:36.000 a lot of room to move in a car. In 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:38.040 the back of the car you use, you cannot use 0:12:38.080 --> 0:12:40.400 your tricks, you cannot do your usual maneuvers that you 0:12:40.480 --> 0:12:43.000 might do whether you had an adequate amount of space 0:12:43.040 --> 0:12:43.400 and time. 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:45.880 It's like, sexually a terrible place to have sex. 0:12:46.200 --> 0:12:48.360 Yeah, it's not like the movies movies made with Magala. Great. 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:50.400 I think you need to give this guy the benefit 0:12:50.440 --> 0:12:52.800 of the doubt. There is no way of knowing by 0:12:52.840 --> 0:12:56.440 the size of his penis what he is actually like 0:12:56.559 --> 0:12:59.360 in the bedroom. I am a pretty big advocate of 0:12:59.440 --> 0:13:03.600 size does not equate to pleasure. If this guy has 0:13:03.600 --> 0:13:05.720 all these other things going for him and he's amazing 0:13:05.760 --> 0:13:08.160 and you think he's awesome, that's going for it. Give 0:13:08.200 --> 0:13:14.160 it another well. But if, for whatever reason inside you 0:13:14.280 --> 0:13:17.240 feel turned off by something, then it is hard to 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:19.640 recover from that. And that could be that could be anything, 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:21.080 anything could turn you off about some of the way 0:13:21.120 --> 0:13:24.120 they treat the waiter, whatever. If there's something inside that 0:13:24.240 --> 0:13:26.920 doesn't feel right, I think it's hard to get over that. 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:29.080 But if you are just basing this on the fact 0:13:29.080 --> 0:13:31.560 that he prematurely ejaculated, I mean, girl, first of all, 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:34.720 let's take that as a compliment. You're obviously smoking hot, 0:13:34.800 --> 0:13:37.680 he got very excited. There's only one way to take that, 0:13:37.720 --> 0:13:39.560 and that is like, well, you know my job's done. 0:13:39.600 --> 0:13:41.600 Look how hold I am, I'm spicy, I am fire. 0:13:42.000 --> 0:13:44.600 Take that. I think you need to give an he'll 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:45.840 sip turned on. I think you need to give him 0:13:45.840 --> 0:13:46.720 another WORL What do you reckon? 0:13:47.160 --> 0:13:48.679 I had a lot of feelings about this, and I 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:50.440 think I kind of want to go down a different 0:13:50.559 --> 0:13:52.960 path firstly, and then come back. I agree with everything 0:13:53.000 --> 0:13:55.600 you've said. I do think that if you're turned off 0:13:55.640 --> 0:13:58.839 by something. You can't force yourself or will yourself to 0:13:59.120 --> 0:14:02.600 have that sexual chemist connection. Will yourself or willy yourself. 0:14:02.840 --> 0:14:05.439 It's not there, okay. But my thing is, And what 0:14:05.559 --> 0:14:09.000 I really wanted to unpack with this question is I 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:12.599 think that society has told us that it's okay to 0:14:12.720 --> 0:14:15.400 judge men on their penis size, Like society has told 0:14:15.480 --> 0:14:19.360 us that only men with big penises can make us satisfied. 0:14:19.400 --> 0:14:21.360 And a man with a big penis is what every 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:24.480 woman wants, you know. And we have been consciously and 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:28.160 subconsciously conditioned to think that a big penis is better 0:14:28.280 --> 0:14:31.200 and a small penis is not worth your time. If 0:14:31.280 --> 0:14:34.680 a man was to talk about a woman's revolver and 0:14:34.800 --> 0:14:37.800 vagina in the way that we talk about men's penises, 0:14:38.520 --> 0:14:42.720 we would be fucking outraged. If a guy was to say, oh, 0:14:42.880 --> 0:14:44.920 I'm not going to date that girl because her labbier 0:14:45.080 --> 0:14:48.360 was so long, or her labbya was uneven, or she'd 0:14:48.400 --> 0:14:51.160 had two kids so like her vagina was looser, we 0:14:51.280 --> 0:14:54.720 would be disgusted and repulsed at him in arm. We 0:14:54.760 --> 0:14:57.000 would be furious, you know. But I think that there 0:14:57.120 --> 0:15:00.440 is for some reason it's more acceptable for women to 0:15:00.560 --> 0:15:03.560 criticize the size of men's penises, and because so much 0:15:03.600 --> 0:15:06.880 of a man's manhood is literally tied to their penis, 0:15:07.120 --> 0:15:10.560 it's such an emasculating conversation. But also what you said, Britt, 0:15:10.600 --> 0:15:13.880 and I fully wholeheartedly agree with you, penis size is 0:15:13.960 --> 0:15:17.000 not synonymous with pleasure. I have dated guys with huge 0:15:17.080 --> 0:15:19.440 penises and they were terrible in bed, And I have 0:15:19.560 --> 0:15:22.200 dated guys with very small penises and they were very 0:15:22.240 --> 0:15:24.600 good in bed. And it's because sometimes the guys with 0:15:24.680 --> 0:15:26.920 the small penises have had to work harder. They do 0:15:27.160 --> 0:15:29.520 have to, that's it, and they've got more tricks and 0:15:29.600 --> 0:15:31.840 more things up there asleep, you're upside. 0:15:31.560 --> 0:15:33.800 Down, you're inside out, you're hanging from the ceiling. But 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:34.600 I mean that, you know. 0:15:34.800 --> 0:15:36.440 I just think like, if you're going to write someone 0:15:36.480 --> 0:15:38.120 off from a sexual experience that you had in a 0:15:38.200 --> 0:15:40.640 car that probably didn't go to plan by the sounds 0:15:40.680 --> 0:15:42.400 of things you've been out on a day, maybe you'd 0:15:42.440 --> 0:15:45.560 had a few drinks as well, there's lots of limiting 0:15:45.640 --> 0:15:48.960 factors in this situation that would make me think he 0:15:49.080 --> 0:15:52.040 hasn't performed to his best regardless of penis size. 0:15:52.040 --> 0:15:54.080 Well, I just think that exactly that, Laura, But maybe 0:15:54.120 --> 0:15:56.240 you just don't like him that much, because if you 0:15:56.320 --> 0:15:59.560 were that infatuated, and I guess it's early stages, so 0:15:59.600 --> 0:16:01.760 if you were lusting that much, I don't think that 0:16:01.840 --> 0:16:04.160 would matter to you that much. This is what I think. 0:16:04.200 --> 0:16:05.920 So I think maybe there's more going on if you 0:16:06.000 --> 0:16:08.640 can be like, yeah, you know it's not for me, 0:16:09.120 --> 0:16:11.280 and maybe it's not for you, and that's cool as well. 0:16:11.400 --> 0:16:15.120 But I think, definitely give this guy another. Go go 0:16:15.280 --> 0:16:17.520 on another really nice date because you said he's great, 0:16:17.560 --> 0:16:19.440 you said there's so nice and love. Go on another 0:16:19.600 --> 0:16:21.680 and don't go into the date thinking about it and 0:16:21.840 --> 0:16:23.920 worrying about it and wondering about it. Just go and 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:25.840 have a really nice time, have a nice se in it, 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:28.320 have some wines, and then if you feel that way 0:16:28.360 --> 0:16:30.400 inclined and you want to sleep together at the end. 0:16:30.320 --> 0:16:33.320 Of the day, do it. Experience it for what it is. 0:16:33.480 --> 0:16:35.320 And then after that, I think you can make another 0:16:35.360 --> 0:16:36.920 decision where you want to keep seeing someone. But I 0:16:37.080 --> 0:16:38.960 just just don't purely make it on the size of 0:16:39.000 --> 0:16:39.440 their penis. 0:16:39.520 --> 0:16:41.120 Yeah, And I like what you said there about like 0:16:41.320 --> 0:16:44.200 not putting so many expectations on it, like regardless of 0:16:44.200 --> 0:16:46.520 whether you end up together or you don't end up together. 0:16:46.640 --> 0:16:49.680 Like it's two early days to make those sort of assessments, truly, Like, 0:16:49.760 --> 0:16:51.720 it's way too early in a relationship. And if you 0:16:51.800 --> 0:16:54.120 do feel inclined to give it another go, then go 0:16:54.360 --> 0:16:57.080 for it. But I think this kind of goes for everybody, 0:16:57.240 --> 0:16:59.000 and I've been guilty of this in the past as well. 0:16:59.520 --> 0:17:02.000 It's okay to have a preference. It's okay to have 0:17:02.400 --> 0:17:05.560 a particular penis that you think is aesthetically pleasing. You know, 0:17:05.880 --> 0:17:07.840 we've all seen penises where we've been like, that is 0:17:07.880 --> 0:17:10.320 a beautiful penis, and then we've seen penis where we're like, 0:17:10.880 --> 0:17:12.879 that's just not the it's not my jam, it's not 0:17:13.000 --> 0:17:15.919 what I would normally like. But I think completely judging 0:17:16.200 --> 0:17:19.800