WEBVTT - Ask Uncut -My Train Of Thought Is Not Normal 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.200 This episode was recorded on Cameragle Land. 0:00:12.119 --> 0:00:14.480 Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life 0:00:14.520 --> 0:00:17.960 on Cut. I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and this is ask 0:00:18.000 --> 0:00:20.439 Kunk Cut where we answer You're deep, You're dark, and 0:00:20.480 --> 0:00:21.919 you're burning questions and I. 0:00:21.840 --> 0:00:27.760 Am so broken. You're so broken. I'm more broken than 0:00:27.800 --> 0:00:29.840 I've ever been. So I'm more broken this week than 0:00:29.920 --> 0:00:30.400 last week. 0:00:30.600 --> 0:00:32.239 There's only a few more days left. Were dancing with 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:32.680 the Stars. 0:00:32.680 --> 0:00:33.920 I don't know if I'm allowed to say about but 0:00:34.159 --> 0:00:34.600 you just said it. 0:00:34.680 --> 0:00:36.880 I didn't sign an nda. 0:00:37.320 --> 0:00:42.720 I'm sitting here in the hot water Fuck, I'm a wattle. 0:00:43.000 --> 0:00:45.280 I'm sitting here. I'm sitting on a piece of wattles. 0:00:45.360 --> 0:00:48.120 I'm waddling. I do wattle. Actually, my natural path said 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:52.400 it would be good for me. So for the last 0:00:52.440 --> 0:00:54.080 couple of months, you guys know, I've been doing Dancing 0:00:54.080 --> 0:00:56.520 with the Stars. But I'm at my tether, Like I'm 0:00:56.520 --> 0:00:59.920 at my wits end. My body is screaming out for her. 0:01:00.200 --> 0:01:03.920 It's like it is sing. So I have to walk 0:01:03.960 --> 0:01:06.680 around everywhere now with the hot water bottle basically tape 0:01:06.680 --> 0:01:08.520 to me. I drive in the car with it on 0:01:08.560 --> 0:01:10.920 my groin and I wish that was for a different reason, 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:13.040 but it's absolutely not. I strap it to my back 0:01:13.080 --> 0:01:15.319 at every moment I can. Every part of my body 0:01:15.400 --> 0:01:17.080 is like screaming on fire. 0:01:17.880 --> 0:01:19.720 You only have a couple of days. You're gonna make 0:01:19.720 --> 0:01:21.880 it to the end. You're gonna be amazing. 0:01:21.959 --> 0:01:25.000 Tell you what if this, If this comes and I 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:26.600 make it to the end of Dancing with the Stars. 0:01:26.640 --> 0:01:28.200 If I make it to the end and I'm there 0:01:28.800 --> 0:01:30.640 and you guys don't vote for me, so what are 0:01:30.680 --> 0:01:31.120 you gonna do? 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:33.560 I'm quitting the podcast, Britty's I'm gonna take back all 0:01:33.560 --> 0:01:35.479 those puppies I promised you and never gave you. 0:01:36.600 --> 0:01:39.440 I'm quitting. I've left that much blood, sweat and tears. Literally, 0:01:39.600 --> 0:01:42.720 there's blood on Craig, my dance partner. Craig leaves with 0:01:42.840 --> 0:01:45.440 blood on his shirt. That's because you use a mental car. 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:48.400 What do you? Oh? Yeah, true, my groin is on 0:01:48.440 --> 0:01:49.960 his shirt. I will that's true. 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:52.360 I also just want to like remind you that Dancing 0:01:52.360 --> 0:01:54.800 with the Stars isn't also like a separate thing to 0:01:54.840 --> 0:01:57.400 the podcast, so that you can't quit the podcast because 0:01:57.400 --> 0:01:58.400 people don't vote for. 0:01:58.360 --> 0:01:59.920 You and they're two different entity. 0:02:00.200 --> 0:02:02.280 But I'm glad that you've like it's taken over every 0:02:02.280 --> 0:02:03.200 facet of your life. 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:06.559 Laura, I am blackmailing our life is So we. 0:02:06.400 --> 0:02:08.120 Were just talking about this. I mean, obviously you've come 0:02:08.120 --> 0:02:10.320 here for us to answer your questions. We'll get to that, guys, 0:02:10.360 --> 0:02:13.720 don't worry, it's coming. But we were just talking about this. 0:02:13.919 --> 0:02:16.440 So Britz started doing a new thing which we're going 0:02:16.440 --> 0:02:17.919 to create a compilation. 0:02:17.480 --> 0:02:20.119 For you complaining yet hang on, I'm still complaining. 0:02:20.160 --> 0:02:24.960 This complains so recently. I don't know whether you've noticed it. 0:02:25.160 --> 0:02:28.680 And that's because Kish does an incredible job of editing 0:02:28.720 --> 0:02:32.160 out like every single one of these opens. 0:02:32.360 --> 0:02:34.400 That puts me in a position that makes me uncomfortable 0:02:34.400 --> 0:02:37.880 because I do my absolute best. Sometimes I isolate audio. 0:02:38.000 --> 0:02:40.400 Sometimes I use AI to try and reduce them. 0:02:40.520 --> 0:02:42.079 I don't know where this is going, but I don't 0:02:42.160 --> 0:02:42.400 like it. 0:02:42.480 --> 0:02:45.200 So yesterday I get a message from Keisha and she says, 0:02:45.320 --> 0:02:48.360 I'm sorry, but we need to have an intervention. 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:51.240 So so hang on, let me get this straight. We 0:02:51.320 --> 0:02:54.320 have a group chat. You left the group chat to 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:55.040 talk about. 0:02:55.960 --> 0:02:58.000 She said, I don't know what to do. I'm at 0:02:58.000 --> 0:03:00.400 breaking point. I don't know how to make this. I've 0:03:00.440 --> 0:03:03.320 brought it up. I've shown her examples. I don't know 0:03:03.320 --> 0:03:03.880 how to get. 0:03:03.800 --> 0:03:07.440 Rid of it. The snort has to go. I didn't 0:03:07.480 --> 0:03:09.519 listen to the examples. I saw that. I saw the 0:03:09.600 --> 0:03:11.320 voice came through, and I was like, I'm not changing 0:03:11.320 --> 0:03:13.400 who I am, and I deleted it. We've noticed recently 0:03:13.400 --> 0:03:14.120 they're Brittany's. 0:03:14.520 --> 0:03:15.600 We love your laugh, it's. 0:03:15.440 --> 0:03:19.120 Amazing, but you're you're snorting is something that everybody has 0:03:19.240 --> 0:03:21.440 a person we feel personally victimized by it. 0:03:21.560 --> 0:03:24.520 What I will say is in my defense, yes, my laugh. 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:31.200 What I will say is in my defense I will 0:03:31.560 --> 0:03:33.280 What I will say is I am aware that my 0:03:33.360 --> 0:03:37.200 laugh has evolved why. I can't be sure how. I 0:03:37.240 --> 0:03:39.720 don't know. I don't know where it's come from, but 0:03:39.760 --> 0:03:42.120 I know the snort has entered my life. It seems 0:03:42.120 --> 0:03:44.760 to be on an upwards trajectory. I know one used 0:03:44.760 --> 0:03:45.880 to sneak in every now and then. 0:03:45.920 --> 0:03:47.520 To be honest, they actually used to come from Laura 0:03:47.640 --> 0:03:49.160 More and yours have disappeared. 0:03:49.200 --> 0:03:51.400 You're no longer in the recording. I want everyone that 0:03:51.440 --> 0:03:55.920 me just doing that hurt my really strong what though, like, 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:58.280 We're gonna let you guys into a real insight. We 0:03:58.560 --> 0:04:00.600 obviously edit the podcast, which try and keep it as 0:04:00.640 --> 0:04:03.560 natural as possible, right, but we edit things. If one 0:04:03.600 --> 0:04:06.240 of us does something like snorts too much, we will 0:04:06.360 --> 0:04:08.120 edit that. What I want to say is what you 0:04:08.160 --> 0:04:10.640 guys aren't aware of. And I hate that this is 0:04:10.680 --> 0:04:13.240 throwing each other on the bus. Welcome to Welcome to 0:04:13.280 --> 0:04:15.000 the Pug. We love each other, but this is the 0:04:15.200 --> 0:04:15.840 slay episode. 0:04:15.920 --> 0:04:18.160 Okay, sorry for getting out of the group chat and 0:04:18.240 --> 0:04:20.560 directly contacting Laura, But I'm. 0:04:20.440 --> 0:04:22.600 Sorry for throwing you under the basket. Yeah, when I'm 0:04:22.640 --> 0:04:26.599 throwing you under the bus, Laura for six years. What 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:30.320 you don't know is our very own Laura Burne snorts. 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:35.840 I reckon one hundred times an episode because she has 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:37.920 breathing problems like a little pug. You're like a little 0:04:37.960 --> 0:04:40.880 French bulldog. They can't breathe properly, and we edit it 0:04:40.880 --> 0:04:43.400 out to make you sound better. So now you're coming 0:04:43.440 --> 0:04:45.479 from but you don't even know you do it because 0:04:45.480 --> 0:04:46.839 it's so natural for you. 0:04:47.080 --> 0:04:49.040 I do it in conversation, but I stop, so it's 0:04:49.080 --> 0:04:51.520 an easy edit. Keisha, how often do I snort and record? 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:54.680 Though it has reduced significant this is what I'm concerned about, 0:04:54.720 --> 0:04:55.240 which this is. 0:04:55.200 --> 0:04:56.000 Like a group meeting. 0:04:56.240 --> 0:04:59.640 Yes, what places, And BRIT's trajectory is increasing. Yours is 0:04:59.680 --> 0:05:02.839 decre so much that I hardly even notice it anymore. 0:05:02.839 --> 0:05:04.719 And I used to have a problem with the mouth sounds. 0:05:04.720 --> 0:05:08.400 Everyone knows I'm a bit sensitive to the the snorting 0:05:08.880 --> 0:05:12.159 has taken on a level where like the wavelength of it. 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:15.039 When I can when I'm coming through the audio and 0:05:15.080 --> 0:05:17.840 I can see it coming up, I almost brace myself 0:05:17.880 --> 0:05:19.720 because I'm like, it's coming. 0:05:21.640 --> 0:05:26.119 The high personally, the high purble, because if you listen 0:05:26.160 --> 0:05:29.200 with headphones in, it's an assault on the years. And 0:05:29.279 --> 0:05:32.000 I love your laugh. I am so supportive of your laugh. 0:05:32.080 --> 0:05:34.000 I am sorry that I've gone behind your back to 0:05:34.040 --> 0:05:37.400 try and rectify this, but the snort has got to go. 0:05:37.760 --> 0:05:38.240 This is it. 0:05:38.279 --> 0:05:40.800 Maybe this is the episode that we do insert the 0:05:40.800 --> 0:05:43.520 compilation here just so everyone can hear. 0:05:45.160 --> 0:05:47.560 All of a sudden, just mean she came and. 0:05:54.760 --> 0:05:57.320 Sees me doing you know on the Simpsons, that dog 0:05:57.400 --> 0:05:59.800 that does the squinty eyes when you looks. That's what 0:05:59.880 --> 0:06:03.880 I'm doing. Is I'm Homer going back into the bush. 0:06:03.920 --> 0:06:07.440 Now it is time for vibes and unsubscribed so that 0:06:07.480 --> 0:06:08.440 we can get into. 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:12.200 We're just pretending that attacks. Well, I've done one unsubscribed, 0:06:12.200 --> 0:06:12.960 my unsubscribers. 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:14.440 Your snort, Well, let's put. 0:06:14.279 --> 0:06:15.680 It out to the people. Let's put a pole on. 0:06:15.760 --> 0:06:18.600 Actually don't. That'll make it worse. Put on. Let's move on. 0:06:18.640 --> 0:06:21.000 I'm going to try my best not to snort. I'm upset. 0:06:23.440 --> 0:06:24.960 I said about a lot of things in my life 0:06:25.040 --> 0:06:28.599 right now. We love you, we love every time about you. 0:06:28.680 --> 0:06:33.400 We don't we do, I love most things. We'll put 0:06:33.400 --> 0:06:38.920 me back in the group chat. Then, all right, vibes down, subscribes. 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:40.440 At least we're so in sync. We've got the same 0:06:40.520 --> 0:06:40.880 vibe this. 0:06:40.839 --> 0:06:43.240 Week we do okay, So I'll just say my own 0:06:43.240 --> 0:06:45.120 subscriber is to snort, and then it feels like we've 0:06:45.160 --> 0:06:45.839 got something different. 0:06:45.839 --> 0:06:48.719 Well, my unsubscribes equally your sort. Go and get surgery. 0:06:49.320 --> 0:06:51.480 I know I do. I've spoken about this before, though. 0:06:51.680 --> 0:06:53.520 I can't go and get surgery now because people will 0:06:53.520 --> 0:06:55.479 think I'm just getting like a rhiner plasty, and they'll 0:06:55.480 --> 0:06:56.960 think I'm doing it for that reason. 0:06:57.080 --> 0:06:58.800 You've got a two in Actually you can do a 0:06:58.839 --> 0:07:00.800 three and one. I have a time's in the laber 0:07:01.040 --> 0:07:04.400 hair transplant new sinus three and one, I reckon, there's 0:07:04.400 --> 0:07:05.599 someone in Turkey that would do that. 0:07:05.839 --> 0:07:07.919 You know, you can get the side of surgery without 0:07:07.960 --> 0:07:09.000 altering the appearance. 0:07:09.040 --> 0:07:12.880 Why would you go Laura would come out looking like 0:07:12.920 --> 0:07:14.960 halle Berry should be like a different person. She'd be like, 0:07:14.960 --> 0:07:17.440 while we're there, I didn't change my skin color. At 0:07:17.440 --> 0:07:19.520 the same time, it just meant you come out like 0:07:19.600 --> 0:07:20.720 looking like a different person. 0:07:20.760 --> 0:07:22.920 You're like, just trim here here, let's fix her here 0:07:23.160 --> 0:07:25.440 and also sign me up for those melotonin injections saying 0:07:25.720 --> 0:07:28.720 if you're gonna go under all right, look, let's get 0:07:28.720 --> 0:07:32.000 serious vibes and unsubscribes. Brittan I do have the same vibe. 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:34.080 And it's because it's rare these days that I get 0:07:34.120 --> 0:07:37.119 sucked into a TV show or a documentary or anything 0:07:37.160 --> 0:07:40.800 and I'm able to watch every single episode in one sitting. 0:07:41.080 --> 0:07:44.120 But that is how incredibly interesting this doc or is 0:07:44.120 --> 0:07:46.680 that we're about to recommend. It's on Disney Plus, it's 0:07:46.840 --> 0:07:50.040 Devil in the Family. The Fall of Ruby Frankie. Now, 0:07:50.320 --> 0:07:53.240 so many of you will know the influencer Ruby Frankie. 0:07:53.320 --> 0:07:56.640 She had their Channel eight passengers on YouTube, who was 0:07:56.640 --> 0:07:58.559 convicted of child abuse in the US. 0:07:58.680 --> 0:08:00.920 Yeah, and We've also spoken about her few times over 0:08:00.920 --> 0:08:03.240 the last year or two as her case progress was 0:08:03.240 --> 0:08:05.920 spoken about her daughter, Shari, so you may have heard 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:07.480 us talk about it on the podcast before. 0:08:07.600 --> 0:08:09.720 The reason why I found this so interesting is because 0:08:09.960 --> 0:08:12.800 we knew a lot about the basic facts around the story, 0:08:12.840 --> 0:08:16.040 the facts around the case, the opinions of the children 0:08:16.080 --> 0:08:18.280 who have come out publicly to speak about it, Shari 0:08:18.360 --> 0:08:22.120 and Chad namely. But there was so much in this documentary. 0:08:22.120 --> 0:08:24.960 It's three episodes, I know about fifty minutes each, and 0:08:25.120 --> 0:08:28.120 it is fascinating to me. The father sits down and 0:08:28.160 --> 0:08:33.600 he does quite a lengthy interview around his involvement, around. 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:36.000 How he was complicit, what he did and didn't know. 0:08:36.440 --> 0:08:39.640 I think it really raises so many questions around the 0:08:40.160 --> 0:08:42.920 legalities and responsibilities that need to be put into place 0:08:43.240 --> 0:08:47.120 to better safeguard children from family vlogging situations. 0:08:47.640 --> 0:08:50.800 I had really mixed feelings about the father's version. I 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:53.760 completely believe him that he knew nothing about it, but 0:08:53.840 --> 0:08:56.040 that doesn't mean I think it's okay, because I think 0:08:56.240 --> 0:08:59.640 what he did was so wrong, and I understand that 0:08:59.640 --> 0:09:01.880 he was and you'll have to formulate your own opinion. 0:09:01.960 --> 0:09:04.640 I understand that he was brainwashed to an extent, but 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:09.559 he still made some pretty interesting decisions to abandon his family. 0:09:09.800 --> 0:09:14.079 His reasoning for it to him was justified at the time, 0:09:14.400 --> 0:09:17.199 but for me it wasn't enough. I think he really 0:09:17.320 --> 0:09:18.120 let his family down. 0:09:18.280 --> 0:09:21.400 Yeah, there's so many facets. So Kevin Frankie is the husband. 0:09:21.520 --> 0:09:25.120 Jodie Hildebrandt was Ruby's business partner. She's also serving up 0:09:25.120 --> 0:09:27.760 to thirty years imprisonment for child abuse. Because they were 0:09:27.840 --> 0:09:31.240 very entwined, and it also centers around the Later Day 0:09:31.280 --> 0:09:33.880 Saints and the Mormon community of which they are all 0:09:34.120 --> 0:09:38.920 members of. I found it truly, truly fascinating, and I 0:09:39.080 --> 0:09:43.160 also was enraged watching Kevin Frankie because I felt as 0:09:43.200 --> 0:09:47.520 a father he was able to completely absolve himself with 0:09:47.600 --> 0:09:50.960 the responsibilities. But to me, he was the weakest version 0:09:51.000 --> 0:09:53.680 of a man, the weakest version of a father figure, 0:09:54.000 --> 0:09:55.920 of someone who should have been there to take care 0:09:55.960 --> 0:09:57.280 of their family and to protect them. 0:09:57.679 --> 0:09:59.160 He cared so much. 0:09:58.920 --> 0:10:03.040 About his faith but also about this family unit at 0:10:03.120 --> 0:10:05.679 the cost of the absolute expense of their children. 0:10:05.960 --> 0:10:07.480 Would you go as far as saying that you think 0:10:07.480 --> 0:10:10.480 he enabled the abuse one hundred percent? And also, what 0:10:10.559 --> 0:10:11.480 I don't like is. 0:10:11.520 --> 0:10:14.880 He's come out and spoken about how quite confronting some 0:10:14.920 --> 0:10:16.840 of the behind the scenes footage is because you've got 0:10:16.840 --> 0:10:20.479 to remember, like Ruby Frankie had filmed thousands and thousands 0:10:20.480 --> 0:10:23.200 of hours of herself and her children, and so this 0:10:23.280 --> 0:10:25.800 is all unseen footage that didn't make it, so the 0:10:25.840 --> 0:10:28.320 takes that didn't make it to her YouTube channel, and 0:10:28.320 --> 0:10:31.200 there's moments where she grabbed her child by the mouth 0:10:31.240 --> 0:10:33.360 to shut her child up. There's moments where she's screaming 0:10:33.360 --> 0:10:35.960 at the kids from the other room. And I read 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:38.000 a statement from Kevin Frankie and he said, you know, 0:10:38.120 --> 0:10:40.920 this is the reality of vlogging out of people who 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:43.400 share their children online. And I was like, you know 0:10:43.440 --> 0:10:46.520 what it might be for some families, but they're abusive families. 0:10:46.600 --> 0:10:48.400 And the fact that you think that this is so 0:10:48.640 --> 0:10:51.800 normal just shows that this was systemic throughout the whole 0:10:51.840 --> 0:10:54.680 time of your relationship, and it was only when you 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:57.280 removed yourself from the household that the abuse escalated. 0:10:57.320 --> 0:10:58.960 But she was always abusive. 0:10:59.240 --> 0:11:01.400 That's the thing that I've been very interested in with 0:11:01.480 --> 0:11:04.080 seeing this play out across media now now that she's 0:11:04.120 --> 0:11:07.360 been convicted and stuff, I feel like people are equating 0:11:07.480 --> 0:11:11.720 vlogging with child abuse, and it's so important to distinguish 0:11:11.720 --> 0:11:13.800 the difference because there are going to be versions of 0:11:13.840 --> 0:11:15.360 both of those things. 0:11:15.480 --> 0:11:16.600 That do coexist. 0:11:16.720 --> 0:11:18.760 But a lot of the time those things are not 0:11:18.880 --> 0:11:21.520 going to totalists. You know, most child abuses don't vlog it. 0:11:21.559 --> 0:11:23.840 They don't have the evidence, they don't have it on film. 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:26.200 And most vlogging families are. 0:11:26.080 --> 0:11:28.400 Not abusing their children. They might be exploiting them in 0:11:28.440 --> 0:11:30.400 some way, but there is a difference. You know. It 0:11:30.400 --> 0:11:33.800 does highlight so many different interesting aspects this documentary that 0:11:33.840 --> 0:11:35.880 we've seen before, but also one of the big things 0:11:35.880 --> 0:11:38.360 for me was just seeing the level of coercive control 0:11:38.520 --> 0:11:42.520 that Ruby had towards her husband, Like it was quite 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:45.240 the role reversal in that sense to what we're used to. 0:11:45.800 --> 0:11:48.360 Was he quite a weak and pathetic man, and I 0:11:48.400 --> 0:11:50.320 hate saying that. That is how he comes across the 0:11:50.360 --> 0:11:53.160 whole show. He even says it himself at the end 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:55.960 of the final questions, you know, or like, she's in 0:11:56.000 --> 0:11:57.880 prison for thirty years for child abuse, she did these 0:11:57.920 --> 0:12:00.400 horrific things to your son, She brainwashed you, she wouldn't 0:12:00.440 --> 0:12:02.160 let you see your kids free, all of these things. 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:03.920 Do you love her? And he's like, yeah, I do, I. 0:12:03.960 --> 0:12:05.480 Always will, I'll always love her. 0:12:05.600 --> 0:12:08.640 That's his final statement, and I was just like, eh, yeah, absolutely, 0:12:08.760 --> 0:12:09.720 look like I said. 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:12.000 I mean, there is so no matter how much you 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:14.680 know about this story fascinating, there is so much more 0:12:14.720 --> 0:12:17.200 in this STOCKO definitely give it a watch. It's on 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:20.880 Disney Plas. I highly recommend it. Honestly could not stop watching. 0:12:21.080 --> 0:12:25.880 My vibe for the week is seemingly much more what's 0:12:25.880 --> 0:12:27.280 the word I'm after? Flippant? 0:12:27.400 --> 0:12:28.600 After that deep. 0:12:28.520 --> 0:12:30.160 Unpacked, we can the light and shade. 0:12:30.160 --> 0:12:32.160 Don't worry. It's a mattress. 0:12:32.440 --> 0:12:34.800 So the reason I've been thinking that I should vibe 0:12:34.800 --> 0:12:37.440 this on the podcast is because often in our Facebook group, 0:12:37.480 --> 0:12:39.080 so the Life on Cut discussion. 0:12:38.640 --> 0:12:41.240 Group, and I'm talking like probably. 0:12:40.880 --> 0:12:43.439 Three to four times a week minimum, people are putting 0:12:43.480 --> 0:12:46.200 questions in there, being like, hey, who has this mattress? 0:12:46.240 --> 0:12:46.959 Do you recommend it? 0:12:47.000 --> 0:12:49.120 Blah blah blah, And often it's a question between like 0:12:49.240 --> 0:12:52.240 this one versus this one. And I obviously can't compare 0:12:52.320 --> 0:12:55.400 it because I haven't had multiple but I purchased the 0:12:55.440 --> 0:12:58.840 Koala Lux mattress on the boxing day sales, so I 0:12:58.840 --> 0:13:00.480 did get at thirty percent off, which was a nice 0:13:00.520 --> 0:13:04.720 little little treat for myself. And I am so deeply 0:13:04.760 --> 0:13:06.760 obsessed with it that my brother and sister in law 0:13:06.800 --> 0:13:09.040 spent one night on this mattress when they came to 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:10.160 stay in our house. 0:13:10.080 --> 0:13:12.240 And they and they've moved in. They have now ordered 0:13:12.240 --> 0:13:14.040 their own, like or that's all it took for them. 0:13:14.120 --> 0:13:16.320 So I mean that if there's ever been a review, 0:13:16.360 --> 0:13:17.080 that's it right there. 0:13:17.200 --> 0:13:20.240 Yeah, yeah, I really really love this mattress. I realized 0:13:20.240 --> 0:13:22.440 that my mattress for someone who's as obsessed with sleep 0:13:22.559 --> 0:13:24.960 is what I am. My mattress was terrible before this. 0:13:25.520 --> 0:13:27.320 So this is their top of the range one, so 0:13:27.360 --> 0:13:30.679 it's the most expensive one. The Queen retails for two 0:13:30.800 --> 0:13:34.040 thy three hundred and ninety. They do have sales quite regularly, 0:13:34.080 --> 0:13:36.360 so you maybe get on sale wait for one of those. 0:13:37.040 --> 0:13:39.600 I think it's amazing. It comes in a box. I'm 0:13:39.640 --> 0:13:43.000 not really a mattress a box mattress person, until. 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:46.160 Now I am completely converted. I have had their mattress. 0:13:46.200 --> 0:13:49.720 I bought it probably three years ago, and I won't 0:13:49.840 --> 0:13:52.880 go back. I really really love it. And everybody always 0:13:52.920 --> 0:13:54.839 talks about how comfy my bed is too, because I 0:13:54.880 --> 0:13:57.559 have people in multiple times a week. You know that's 0:13:57.559 --> 0:13:59.920 a joke. She was left in your bed a little 0:14:00.320 --> 0:14:02.559 All three people that have ever slept in my pitness. 0:14:02.640 --> 0:14:04.720 In terms of like softness, that is the other question 0:14:04.760 --> 0:14:06.520 that people tend to ask in Facebook group. 0:14:07.320 --> 0:14:08.719 I think it's probably. 0:14:08.440 --> 0:14:11.439 Medium to soft range of memory foam styles. So if 0:14:11.480 --> 0:14:13.120 you like a firm one, I'm sure that they've got 0:14:13.280 --> 0:14:15.040 versions that you can kind of make it more firm. 0:14:15.080 --> 0:14:17.640 But I think it's yeah, it's really good. The Koala 0:14:17.720 --> 0:14:19.760 Lux mattress is my vibe for the week. I've been 0:14:19.800 --> 0:14:20.720 sleeping like a queen. 0:14:20.960 --> 0:14:23.080 All right, Well, let's get into the questions. 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:28.000 Question number one My question is how do you find 0:14:28.040 --> 0:14:31.480 your identity after becoming a mum. My youngest is twelve 0:14:31.480 --> 0:14:34.120 weeks old and my oldest is only two right now, 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:36.680 and my life is just consumed with being a mum. 0:14:37.040 --> 0:14:39.080 I feel a bit lost, and I find myself missing 0:14:39.080 --> 0:14:41.840 who I was before. I avoid mirrors when I can, 0:14:41.920 --> 0:14:44.160 because I don't recognize the person looking back at me. 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:46.440 I want to be the best role model for my girls, 0:14:46.440 --> 0:14:48.800 and I'm worried if I can't find myself again, I 0:14:48.800 --> 0:14:51.200 won't be able to do this for them. During the 0:14:51.280 --> 0:14:54.200 labor of my second child. This is viewbritt During the 0:14:54.240 --> 0:14:56.400 labor of my second child, I was listening to some 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:59.840 random episodes of the podcast to take my mind off. 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:00.560 The con actions. 0:15:01.280 --> 0:15:03.800 I didn't realize I still had my headphones on when 0:15:03.800 --> 0:15:05.720 I started to push and my daughter was born to 0:15:05.760 --> 0:15:11.200 the sound of Britney's laugh. Oh my god, that's your 0:15:11.200 --> 0:15:13.240 problem right there. That's where it's all stemmed from. 0:15:13.320 --> 0:15:15.560 I think that's where it started. On what laugh that laugh? 0:15:15.600 --> 0:15:16.280 Will snort laugh? 0:15:16.360 --> 0:15:18.200 Probably that laugh because we've met at the snort laugh 0:15:18.240 --> 0:15:19.359 out as we've established. 0:15:19.880 --> 0:15:21.640 Do you think did that means if a baby's actually 0:15:21.680 --> 0:15:23.400 do you know what? Fuck it? That's good laugh? Yeah. 0:15:23.400 --> 0:15:26.320 That kids, it's like getting shut on by a bird like. 0:15:26.280 --> 0:15:29.120 A cooko ra. Yeah. We could liken it to that. 0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:32.120 That's gonna be good luck, I think for your child. Congratulations. 0:15:32.840 --> 0:15:35.920 That's really tough, because this one's definitely probably more for you. Laura. 0:15:36.000 --> 0:15:37.800 I'm not a mum and I've never been through it, 0:15:37.800 --> 0:15:41.320 and I know there's so many different aspects of postpartum 0:15:41.320 --> 0:15:43.560 depression and trying to find who you are again and 0:15:43.680 --> 0:15:46.800 your life completely changes. I've seen that through so many people. 0:15:46.800 --> 0:15:48.680 I've seen that through Laura my family. You know, I've 0:15:48.720 --> 0:15:50.840 got so many nieces and if you have so many friends, 0:15:50.840 --> 0:15:52.760 but I personally haven't experienced it. 0:15:53.000 --> 0:15:55.640 Firstly, I think it's really important to acknowledge that so 0:15:55.800 --> 0:15:57.960 many mums feel like this, Like there are so many 0:15:57.960 --> 0:16:01.680 women who go through motherhood and you have two under two, 0:16:02.200 --> 0:16:04.280 you have a three month old baby, you are in 0:16:04.320 --> 0:16:06.160 the trenches. I mean, they also call it the fourth 0:16:06.200 --> 0:16:09.200 trimester when you have a when you have a newborn 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:11.360 baby and you go through those first three months. I 0:16:11.360 --> 0:16:14.280 don't think we talk about the fourth trimester enough because 0:16:14.280 --> 0:16:16.960 there's almost this expectation that once the baby's out, you're 0:16:16.960 --> 0:16:18.320 going to be able to get back to the way 0:16:18.360 --> 0:16:20.800 that you were, And I don't know if you ever 0:16:20.880 --> 0:16:22.760 really get back to the way that you were. You're 0:16:22.840 --> 0:16:25.360 a new version of yourself. But that new version doesn't 0:16:25.400 --> 0:16:27.200 have to be a worse version by any means. 0:16:27.280 --> 0:16:28.680 It's evolution, it is. 0:16:28.600 --> 0:16:31.160 But it's not just it's not just the big changes, 0:16:31.200 --> 0:16:33.160 and sometimes like they're the things that we talk about, 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:35.680 like you know that sleep is hard, that managing your 0:16:35.720 --> 0:16:38.440 time is hard, that your touch dad and you always have, 0:16:38.600 --> 0:16:40.240 you know, a baby, you're a person to tend to 0:16:40.840 --> 0:16:44.080 the responsibilities are high, but it's also the small things 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:46.400 as well. It's the getting up in the morning and 0:16:46.440 --> 0:16:48.720 not feeling like any of your clothes are right on 0:16:48.760 --> 0:16:51.000 you because you can't wear the clothes that you used 0:16:51.040 --> 0:16:53.920 to wear before you're pregnant, and you don't necessarily want 0:16:53.920 --> 0:16:56.760 to wear your maternity clothes because you're not pregnant anymore. 0:16:56.840 --> 0:16:59.440 It is a shift that takes over every part of 0:16:59.480 --> 0:16:59.960 your life. 0:17:00.200 --> 0:17:02.600 Yeah, and I remember us having that conversation, Laura. I 0:17:02.640 --> 0:17:07.000 remember back like first pregnancy, Marley, where your whole life changed, 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:11.000 And I remember sitting down and you saying, this sounds silly, 0:17:11.200 --> 0:17:13.240 but I don't know who I am and what to 0:17:13.280 --> 0:17:14.960 wear now. I don't know what fits me. I don't 0:17:15.000 --> 0:17:17.760 know what looks right. Even though my old coats fit me, 0:17:17.800 --> 0:17:20.639 they don't feel right. Yeah, you just didn't know. And 0:17:20.680 --> 0:17:23.120 it wasn't an identity crisis as such, but I guess 0:17:23.119 --> 0:17:24.840