WEBVTT - "Can I Give You A Kiss?" 🤢

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch Up podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I know you're thinking, why do you guys sound

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<v Speaker 2>sexy today? We both have come down with it mess.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I haven't heard the tapes yet. Does it

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<v Speaker 1>sound Mickey, I think it sounds sexy.

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<v Speaker 2>It's giving Scarlett yohannesson.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, someone out there is going to say, oh, girls

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<v Speaker 1>sounding sexy this week.

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<v Speaker 3>I just know it.

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<v Speaker 2>Just wait for three people the other say this is

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<v Speaker 2>great in listening. I'm sick of this nah positivity only.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to come to everybody with a bit of

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<v Speaker 2>an investigation. I would say that I have an investigative

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<v Speaker 2>journalism streak in my blood. Yes, I did work as

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<v Speaker 2>an online journalist.

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<v Speaker 1>For quite a few years.

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<v Speaker 2>Half of it was ripping stories off the ABC.

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<v Speaker 1>But I digress and she'd do it again, and I said,

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<v Speaker 1>let's go back.

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<v Speaker 2>No. So Micky, our producer, came to me with this

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<v Speaker 2>idea that I had actually been thinking about the previous week,

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<v Speaker 2>because we are the same person. Micky said, I've had

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<v Speaker 2>this discussion before with my friends and it got brought

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<v Speaker 2>up again and I'd like your thoughts. Let's say you're

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<v Speaker 2>on a date, things are going well, the date is

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<v Speaker 2>coming to a close. Your date gives you a loving

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<v Speaker 2>look and then says can I give you a kiss?

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<v Speaker 2>Initial thoughts flex will leave it?

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<v Speaker 3>Is this?

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry? Is this icky?

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<v Speaker 2>Lol? All my friends think so, but me, as an

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<v Speaker 2>anxious girl, it's never really worried me. To be honest,

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<v Speaker 2>I've always said yeah and then oh, use the spanner

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<v Speaker 2>to be honest. I've always said yes, even though I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to kiss.

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<v Speaker 3>Lol.

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<v Speaker 2>Problematic within itself.

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<v Speaker 3>Loll a double lol, the double lot self awareness work.

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<v Speaker 3>That's self awareness.

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<v Speaker 1>What's it called?

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<v Speaker 2>Like self awareness?

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<v Speaker 1>But you don't do anything with it? Self awareness? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's the basic strain.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, everything depends if you like someone. It's like

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<v Speaker 2>if someone comes in real red hot. If they're hot

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<v Speaker 2>and you're attractive to them, nothing is too red hot.

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<v Speaker 2>I think if you need to ask can I kiss you?

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<v Speaker 2>Half of the time it's because you're socially anxious, and

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<v Speaker 2>this is where I'm like.

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<v Speaker 1>I love when you start doing math. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>The other thirty percent of the time is when a

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<v Speaker 2>guy is trying to be smooth and he knows that

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<v Speaker 2>you're going to pick up on like can I do this?

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<v Speaker 2>Like consent core.

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<v Speaker 1>Or the other twenty percent.

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<v Speaker 2>Last twenty is like a guy knows that you don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to kiss, but he can't help himself.

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<v Speaker 3>That should account for more than you think. We're not

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<v Speaker 3>going to assume consent or whatever. But generally when the

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<v Speaker 3>can I kiss you is coming out, it means you've assessed,

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<v Speaker 3>you've done all the body language cues.

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<v Speaker 1>He said, yes.

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<v Speaker 2>Verbal verbiage only accounts of seven percent of communication, but

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<v Speaker 2>I need that.

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<v Speaker 3>You assess the body language not really eating the verbal

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<v Speaker 3>communication is not really giving an impressions. She wants to

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<v Speaker 3>kiss me, you thought, let me just ask, because you

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<v Speaker 3>know what women can't do, what can't they do make

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<v Speaker 3>themselves comfortable? Look, this can I give you a kiss?

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<v Speaker 3>Has happened once in my life, and unfortunate it's happened

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<v Speaker 3>in the last three months.

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<v Speaker 1>I swear to you, babe.

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<v Speaker 3>It was the most out of body experience, and from

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<v Speaker 3>doing like our show in particular, I didn't realize I

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<v Speaker 3>had such an expressive face.

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<v Speaker 1>Babes.

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<v Speaker 3>I literally think that I'm so mysterious in the face,

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<v Speaker 3>so you could only imagine me on this date that

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just like not vibing at all.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, so, where do you want to go next.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I'm going to head home.

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<v Speaker 3>He's like, okay, cool, cool, Like which direction? I said, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>oh good, Like I'm just gonna get an uber. And

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<v Speaker 3>this is the kind of date where he kept doing

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<v Speaker 3>all these things that would appear chivorus if I was keen.

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<v Speaker 3>But he wasn't concerned about my comfort. He was concerned

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<v Speaker 3>about being perceived as like an upstanding person. It's like, here,

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<v Speaker 3>do you want my jacket? I don't want your jacket?

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<v Speaker 3>I really don't. Gets up, puts his jacket on top

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<v Speaker 3>of me. Now now I'm nursing your jacket. Now I've

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<v Speaker 3>got a responsibility. Anyway, it was can I give you

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<v Speaker 3>a kiss? And I was like, I can imagine my

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<v Speaker 3>face would have been like huh.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like and I said, a kiss, just like that

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<v Speaker 1>a kiss? And what did he say? He's like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I look a smooch.

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<v Speaker 3>A smooch.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, I said, you're so crazy. Did you

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<v Speaker 1>do it? I said you? And I said to my

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<v Speaker 1>cheek on low please, I'm just a girl, listen.

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<v Speaker 2>So I have skin in the game when it comes

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<v Speaker 2>to this, because I actually perpetrated this affront to humanity.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, mere weeks ago?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 1>So fresh? Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>So I was on a date. Yeah, I had already

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<v Speaker 2>kissed this person before a partner.

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<v Speaker 1>If you.

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<v Speaker 2>So?

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<v Speaker 1>Guys laughing again? Who are they?

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<v Speaker 2>It was a guy and we're sitting at a bar

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<v Speaker 2>type situation and I asked him, yeah, can I.

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<v Speaker 1>Kiss you now? And he was why are you asking?

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<v Speaker 2>But he was quite polite and chivalrous about it. It

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<v Speaker 2>was kind of like, Oh, you don't have to ask

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<v Speaker 2>me if you want to kiss me, and why were

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<v Speaker 2>you asking?

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<v Speaker 1>I felt very.

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<v Speaker 2>Comfortable in that moment, but I like, I didn't know

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<v Speaker 2>how to like lean in, and I kind of like,

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes I like to feel like they know what I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to do next.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so they're not just blindsided into an intimate moment

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<v Speaker 3>exactly exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>I want him to know that that's I was feeling

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<v Speaker 2>these amorous type feelings.

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<v Speaker 1>And then we love that word.

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<v Speaker 2>It's nice, isn't it. Then we got onto the topic

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<v Speaker 2>of kissing generally, and he was like, would you rather

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<v Speaker 2>we kiss and we keep our eyes open the whole time,

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<v Speaker 2>leaning and to kiss each other, or would you rather

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<v Speaker 2>we kiss eyes closed from a distance?

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<v Speaker 3>Because we're talking about would you rathers okay? On account

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<v Speaker 3>of three, everyone say their answer ready.

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<v Speaker 1>Mickey mic on three two?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh are you serious?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we're freaky? Are you serious? Babes? I love eyes.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you ever experienced the pain of you're going to

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<v Speaker 2>kiss someone and you see their eyes go cross eyed?

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<v Speaker 2>We will say you get so close? I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>dissociating naturally, this was my riz. As you know, game

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<v Speaker 2>is a bit pecular at times.

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<v Speaker 1>Why did we then.

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<v Speaker 2>Have to act out ten different times? Okay? Now I

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<v Speaker 2>try eyes closed? Okay, now one of us open eyes?

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<v Speaker 2>Have we thought it was the best idea of I

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<v Speaker 2>love it.

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<v Speaker 3>It's hilarious, a little type of weird, one of mine,

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<v Speaker 3>one of mine.

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<v Speaker 2>So I realize it's in nick territory. It doesn't matter

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<v Speaker 2>as long as the kiss is good. Do what the

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<v Speaker 2>hell you want with your eyes. It is very nice

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<v Speaker 2>to look at someone in the eye. Prolonged eye contact

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<v Speaker 2>is vulnerability and it's sexy.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like I'm very opposed to eyes closed, and

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<v Speaker 3>I'm very opposed to things that take people out of

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<v Speaker 3>what's happening.

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<v Speaker 1>Presently.

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<v Speaker 3>When you close your eyes, you zone in on a

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<v Speaker 3>sense of something, and often that sense is like it's

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<v Speaker 3>all physical and it's nothing about the person and the experience.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just like, ooh, nice, touchy. Open your eyes back here,

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<v Speaker 3>pay attention. Now close them again. But back here, Now

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<v Speaker 3>close them again. Because I can recall, especially when I

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<v Speaker 3>was younger, let's say, when I was like twenty or something,

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<v Speaker 3>I definitely used to use eyes closed time as like

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<v Speaker 3>a recalibrate, recalibrate and freaking out.

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<v Speaker 1>This is cereal. This is cereal, and.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like, no, babes, you need to get comfortable in

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<v Speaker 3>your environment. It's no time for hiding.

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<v Speaker 2>When I open when I'm sleeping, as you know, that

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<v Speaker 2>mean one eye open when I'm sleeping.

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