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Speaker 2: Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life
Speaker 2: on cart I'm Brittany and I'm Keisha or producer Keisha.
Speaker 2: We have produce Akeuisha stepping in today because well, if
Speaker 2: you listen to Tuesday's episode, you'll know that it was
Speaker 2: Laura's birthday.
Speaker 1: So we let her have a sneaky day off. We said,
Speaker 1: you know what, you can go away. She's gone to
Speaker 1: Byron Bay. We let her have one day. That was
Speaker 1: my birthday present at her. So producer Keisha steping in,
Speaker 1: so produce Kechha.
Speaker 3: Welcome to a Life onun Cut. Thank you.
Speaker 2: Do you think it's quite funny that our gift to
Speaker 2: her is a break from us you can have Well, no.
Speaker 3: I think it's a great gift. She spends more time
Speaker 3: with us, so she spends with our fiance.
Speaker 2: Well, actually have a funny story about the whole producer
Speaker 2: Keisha thing for you. So I'm originally from Newcastle and
Speaker 2: I've got three girlfriends coming to visit Sydney on Friday night. Anyway,
Speaker 2: last week I was at, of course, if you've got
Speaker 2: friends coming to Bondi, where do.
Speaker 4: You take them?
Speaker 5: Toddies?
Speaker 3: Exactly right yesterday.
Speaker 2: So for anyone not from Sydney, Totti's is like it's
Speaker 2: kind of them. It's the go to place if you
Speaker 2: have people come and visit. It's like good, nice Italian food,
Speaker 2: but it's a bit of a scene.
Speaker 1: It's a nice aesthetic and it's a it's a great
Speaker 1: restaurant that has great bread.
Speaker 3: Yes.
Speaker 2: So basically I was like, oh, look, all book is
Speaker 2: in somewhere for dinner, and I just so happened to
Speaker 2: be going on a little date at Toddy's. So when
Speaker 2: I got there, I was like, oh, I'm just going
Speaker 2: to try and book in dinner for next week as well.
Speaker 2: Like why I'm here anyway, the girl who served us,
Speaker 2: I said, oh, you know, while I'm here, is it
Speaker 2: okay if I try and make this reservation?
Speaker 5: Blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: She said, oh, what was the name for?
Speaker 2: And I said, it's Fakeisha for four people. She turned
Speaker 2: to me, she said to me, Keisha, is that like producing?
Speaker 3: You're like the one and only.
Speaker 5: At this moment where I.
Speaker 3: Was like you're like, have I been recognized?
Speaker 5: It was more so like will this help me get
Speaker 5: a reservation?
Speaker 3: I hate the regularly.
Speaker 2: I kind of laughed and I was like, yeah, Brittain
Speaker 2: Laura's producer, Yeah, ye, yeah, I said.
Speaker 3: What was your name?
Speaker 2: Anyway, shout out to you, Sarah, Thank you babe.
Speaker 5: I'll be seeing you tomorrow.
Speaker 3: I hope she gave you.
Speaker 1: A very good at table, but no, thank you for
Speaker 1: stepping on in today. And look, there's so much we
Speaker 1: could talk about. If you guys, unless you have stayed
Speaker 1: completely off the internet and haven't spoken to one person,
Speaker 1: you would have heard about what went down with Will
Speaker 1: Smith and Chris Rock, who in my head I keep
Speaker 1: saying Rock, which it's not the Rock, it's Chris Rob.
Speaker 1: But the shit that went down at the Oscars, which
Speaker 1: is going to be memorable for the rest of our life.
Speaker 1: It is so controversial, it is all anyone's talking about.
Speaker 1: There are offence sitters, there's pro Will, there's pro Chris.
Speaker 3: That's like it is one big hot mess.
Speaker 2: I also think it's one of those situations where I
Speaker 2: think more than one thing can be true at once,
Speaker 2: And in my opinion, I just feel like this conversation
Speaker 2: has probably happened on every form of media since the
Speaker 2: second that it had occurred. So we're not going to
Speaker 2: kind of rehash it or go through it all. No,
Speaker 2: so we're not getting quite tired of it. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I think at the end of the.
Speaker 1: Day, no one was in the right here. Everyone was
Speaker 1: wrong in every capacity. The joke, the personal joke, probably
Speaker 1: shouldn't have been made, and I think there was a
Speaker 1: build up there. Should Will Smith have gotten on stage
Speaker 1: and assaulted him, absolutely not.
Speaker 2: Look, I think you're exactly right, brit I think that
Speaker 2: there is fault in both sides of the coin here.
Speaker 2: But I also think that we can kind of look
Speaker 2: at these situations a little bit more like from a
Speaker 2: distance maybe. And there was one thing that a friend
Speaker 2: of mine wrote on Instagram. His name is Matt Purcell,
Speaker 2: and he wrote, words create worlds. Words can get you hired,
Speaker 2: they can get you fired, they can be used to bully,
Speaker 2: they can instigate violence. There are so many ways Will
Speaker 2: Smith could have spoken up about the comments Chris Rock made.
Speaker 2: He could have stood up and questioned. He could have
Speaker 2: walked on stage and interrupted with a speech of his own,
Speaker 2: even though it was said as a joke. That isn't
Speaker 2: always a trump card to say whatever you want and
Speaker 2: get away with it. Will lost control and because of
Speaker 2: that he has lost the respect of millions of people.
Speaker 2: Chris has also lost respect, and some people would say
Speaker 2: that it was called for. If you lose control, you
Speaker 2: lose respect. The untrained tongue is the most dangerous weapon
Speaker 2: we all have.
Speaker 5: Deep well, I like it. I think that it is true.
Speaker 2: I think that it is a reminder to all of
Speaker 2: us that we need to take responsibility and accountability for
Speaker 2: what we say, and the repercussions of what may come
Speaker 2: from that.
Speaker 3: Words are powerful. Don't forget it.
Speaker 1: But this has been spoken about to death, and I think
Speaker 1: any of you want to hear about it. What I
Speaker 1: think you do want to hear about is the one
Speaker 1: hundred and forty thousand.
Speaker 2: Dollars gift bags that everybody at.
Speaker 3: The Oscar's got. Because no one's talking about the gift bags.
Speaker 1: So look, I had this wild rumor that these bags
Speaker 1: were worth more than most people's salary, probably double people's salary.
Speaker 1: I could not believe that this is happening. So we
Speaker 1: thought this was more worthy of the story than what
Speaker 1: went down.
Speaker 2: Keisha tell us through trust Us to find like the
Speaker 2: most talked about story in the world, and some side
Speaker 2: tangent where we're like, oh, but this is kind of funny.
Speaker 5: Let's talk about this ship.
Speaker 3: Well, I want to know.
Speaker 2: I want to get an invite just to get the
Speaker 2: gift bag so I can sell it off and make
Speaker 2: a salary. Well, it turns out that not everyone gets
Speaker 2: the one hundred and forty thousand dollars gift bag.
Speaker 3: It does, so you select you like front row only,
Speaker 3: like exclusively.
Speaker 2: If you didn't e the oscars were exclusive enough, it's
Speaker 2: just gone up another level.
Speaker 1: How do you get What do you have to do
Speaker 1: to qualify for one hundred and forty thousand dollar gift bag?
Speaker 1: Is it like you have to won an oscar before
Speaker 1: or you have to be up and coming.
Speaker 3: Or is it a lucky dip?
Speaker 2: Okay, So it goes to nominees in the Best Actor
Speaker 2: and Actress, Best Supporting Actor and Actress, and the Best
Speaker 2: Director categories.
Speaker 5: Pretty exposive. Yeah, that's just the higher end.
Speaker 2: So Apparently, like every year, it's kind of like the
Speaker 2: year before tries to outdo themselves.
Speaker 1: Right, So for one hundred and forty thousand dollars, let
Speaker 1: me guess they probably just have one vibrator from.
Speaker 4: Grewth poultron and a vagina candle and maybe a canon.
Speaker 3: That's one hundred and forty thousand.
Speaker 2: Okay, so this year the bag contained gold flecked posh pretzels,
Speaker 2: which I don't even know what that pretzel a food pretzel?
Speaker 5: Gold flecked though, So.
Speaker 3: One pretzel that has gold on it? Can you eat gold?
Speaker 2: Apparently gold was a heavy metal. Well that all Hollywood
Speaker 2: has just been poisoned. Okay, what else is in the bad? Okay,
Speaker 2: so there's quite a few things, so tryingly see as quickly.
Speaker 2: A box of products of skin Care limited edition vodka bottles,
Speaker 2: extra virgin olive oil infused with edible.
Speaker 3: Gold flakes, Manuca.
Speaker 2: Honey, and a skin treatment worth ten grand is a.
Speaker 4: Okay, bees were really special. Okay they were from the
Speaker 4: Queen Bees.
Speaker 2: A three day wellness to retreat and an armed sculpting procedure,
Speaker 2: four night stay.
Speaker 5: For two at a luxury resort.
Speaker 2: But here is the one thing that has me absolutely
Speaker 2: scratching my head. The people who received this gift bag
Speaker 2: got a plot of land in Scotland. Of course they do, okay,
Speaker 2: so it says, and I'm quoting this, the present comes
Speaker 2: from high Land titles and allows the recipients to contribute
Speaker 2: to the establishment of nature reserves, while also awarding them
Speaker 2: the title of laird, lord or lady of Glencoe.
Speaker 1: Oh I've spent a lot of time in Glencoe. Actually yeah,
Speaker 1: I used to live there. Like it's a lovely place.
Speaker 3: That is okay.
Speaker 1: So essentially what they've done is the like, look, we're
Speaker 1: gonna give you some land so that really, if you want,
Speaker 1: you can call yourself a lord. But also you have
Speaker 1: to contribute to that to maintain the environment. I mean
Speaker 1: Frank's ad of compliments. I would like to be a lady.
Speaker 5: I've been watching a lot of Bridgeton season.
Speaker 3: I mean, I feel like you don't need a title
Speaker 3: to act like a lady.
Speaker 4: Sure you could probably have that, but I would like
Speaker 4: to have the title.
Speaker 2: I remember Scott Dissick, he bought a piece of land
Speaker 2: over there just so that he could be called the lord.
Speaker 1: These people, honestly, and I say, these people it's crazy that.
Speaker 3: Firstly, no one in.
Speaker 1: Hollywood would pay for two nights accommodation.
Speaker 3: Anyway, I love it.
Speaker 1: They've been given two nights accommodation. They're never gonna have
Speaker 1: paid for it. Anyone's gonna say come and stay. They're
Speaker 1: not gonna do anything with a piece of land. Like,
Speaker 1: what an excessive waste of money. These people should be
Speaker 1: donating all of those goodie bags to charity. However, what
Speaker 1: do you get people that have everything?
Speaker 5: Nothing?
Speaker 3: Like that's a good point. If you do a good bag,
Speaker 3: why one of the richest people in the world need more?
Speaker 5: Do you reckon?
Speaker 2: We should do You know the Lolli bags you get
Speaker 2: when you were a kid, when you go to like
Speaker 2: a party and you'd leave with your Lolli bag. That
Speaker 2: was the best part of a kid's party, was like
Speaker 2: you'd get your Lolli bag and you'd be straight out
Speaker 2: the door and you'd walk out and you'd be like, fuck, yes,
Speaker 2: I've got this awesome lolliburg. You'd rip it open in
Speaker 2: the car and your parents would probably hate the people
Speaker 2: who had made the lollly bag. Maybe they should do
Speaker 2: that for Hollywood. But there was one very famous person
Speaker 2: who was quite rightly pissed.
Speaker 5: Off about it. His name is Ricky Gervais.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, you may know him. You might know him.
Speaker 2: Great comedian has hosted the Oscars a bunch of times.
Speaker 2: He actually responded to some fans to saying that they
Speaker 2: wish that he was hosting, and he said this, Hello,
Speaker 2: I hope this show helps cheer up the ordinary people
Speaker 2: watching at home. If you're unemployed, for example, take some
Speaker 2: comfort in the fact that, even if you had a job,
Speaker 2: your salary probably wouldn't be as much as the goodie
Speaker 2: bag all the actors have just been given. I'm proud
Speaker 2: to announce that this is the most diverse and progressive
Speaker 2: Oscars ever. Looking out, I see people from all walks
Speaker 2: of life, every demographic under the sun, except for poor
Speaker 2: people obviously fuck them. Ho.
Speaker 3: No, I mean he's sane and how it is though,
Speaker 3: isn't it.
Speaker 2: Totally Do you know that when I lived in London
Speaker 2: he used to jog past our apartment every day.
Speaker 4: It would be the most exciting part.
Speaker 2: Whenever he would he would kind of shuffle because you
Speaker 2: can imagine how riggy Gervais, because he's kind of like
Speaker 2: a little nugget.
Speaker 3: He's a shuffler.
Speaker 4: For sure.
Speaker 2: He was a shuffler, and he would have a hat
Speaker 2: on and Sonny's. He was like trying to be as
Speaker 2: much in disguise as possible. He would run to Hampstead
Speaker 2: Heath and every time he would be out the front.
Speaker 2: If one person in the apartment there were four of
Speaker 2: us saw him, everyone would just like shout and be like.
Speaker 3: Recky's out there for us and you are the problem.
Speaker 5: I would run to the window.
Speaker 2: I'd be like, hey, you Recky and he kind of
Speaker 2: do the little two things up, like keeping his head down,
Speaker 2: still shuffling on.
Speaker 1: And you other people that are making his life health.
Speaker 5: I thought he's great. I mean, we encouraged him along
Speaker 5: his runs.
Speaker 1: And good for him still jogging it.
Speaker 5: Well, he would have been like fifty six or something
Speaker 5: like that at the time.
Speaker 3: I don't think he's that old, is he.
Speaker 5: He's sixty now. It was a while ago.
Speaker 1: Well, you're also coming hot. You've told you've got a
Speaker 1: recommendation for us today. You're coming with a lot of
Speaker 1: segments today.
Speaker 3: How can I like it?
Speaker 1: You're like, yes, I've come completely prepared for his episode.
Speaker 5: It's almost like.
Speaker 2: I sit in the corner most episodes quietly.
Speaker 3: You've been watching a lot of Netflix. I have been.
Speaker 2: I've actually been doing a lot of dates home net
Speaker 2: Fleix dates.
Speaker 3: Sorry what was that? Yes?
Speaker 5: Is it maybe too early to be bringing that to
Speaker 5: the podcast? Possibly? Yes, I have been binging as a lot.
Speaker 2: I think half the world has season two of Bridgeton.
Speaker 1: Hang on is Bridgitton? You're a recommendation.
Speaker 5: It's fine.
Speaker 2: I lean into being a basic bitch, and if you
Speaker 2: are also into Bridgeston, I've really liked season two. I
Speaker 2: do have a little bit more of an obscure recommendation, though,
Speaker 2: Before you mock me for being too much of a
Speaker 2: basic bitch.
Speaker 5: I found this girl on Instagram the other day.
Speaker 2: I don't even know it just like came up in
Speaker 2: the algorithm, and I think she's really really bloody cool
Speaker 2: and super talented. I could be mispronouncing this, so I
Speaker 2: apologize if I am. It's Millicent Sara same so it's
Speaker 2: like Millicine Sa double are Anyway, she is, from what
Speaker 2: I can gather, kind of a mix between a cabaret
Speaker 2: artist and a stand up comedian. I thought she was
Speaker 2: bloody great and I really really liked her, So that
Speaker 2: was That's my more obscure. Well, she's doing the Adelaide
Speaker 2: Fringe Festival. And by the way, I do not know
Speaker 2: her from a bar of soap. I just saw her
Speaker 2: Instagram video and I was like, wow, you're like really
Speaker 2: cool and I like.
Speaker 5: Supporting up and coming young females.
Speaker 1: You better give everybody her instagram handlekashit because you can't
Speaker 1: just come with a recommendation and not actually recommend a person.
Speaker 2: Okay, her instagram is Millie so am I double L
Speaker 2: I C E and T like sent you know, sense
Speaker 2: dollars and cents s a double are.
Speaker 1: I've got a pretty random recommendation, actually super super left field.
Speaker 1: But I have been watching on Binge Tiger As in
Speaker 1: Tiger Wood's documentary. Now, you don't need to be into
Speaker 1: golf to get into this episode. I mean, get it's
Speaker 1: only two It's it's three hours total. There's only two
Speaker 1: they're an hour and a half each. Somebody else had
Speaker 1: recommended it to me and I just got hooked. It's
Speaker 1: just there's a whole other world.
Speaker 2: To it, and he's about his golfing career or more
Speaker 2: about everything personal life and from when he was two
Speaker 2: years old, and I think it's just amazing to see.
Speaker 3: He was a freak man. He was a freak of
Speaker 3: nature at what he did at golf.
Speaker 2: He nearly had like a fatal car accident last year
Speaker 2: and they were wondering whether he would ever walk again.
Speaker 3: And does it go into that or is that a
Speaker 3: crazy story?
Speaker 1: Yeah, it comes everything so left field totally, but.
Speaker 4: I mean it's no Bridget in season two.
Speaker 1: Tiger Woods is pretty hot in his day.
Speaker 2: He was apparently a lot of women thoughts so at
Speaker 2: there's many hundreds of of women.
Speaker 3: Yes, but that's my recommendation.
Speaker 1: And I am waiting very very patiently for Dynasty. Dynasty,
Speaker 1: And yeah, I've been waiting very patiently for Dynasty season three.
Speaker 1: I think it is to come out.
Speaker 3: I think there's on two seasons.
Speaker 1: No, they've done five seasons. Actually, I think there's four seasons.
Speaker 1: I'm waiting for the fifth season. Whatever season we're up to.
Speaker 3: I've been waiting.
Speaker 1: So I check it like every second day, I'm like,
Speaker 1: is it I and then I'll binge watch it in
Speaker 1: one day one hundred.
Speaker 2: I think the streaming services tell me this is a
Speaker 2: personal opinion, but I feel as though they go through
Speaker 2: periods where like Netflix is just absolutely firing and then
Speaker 2: it finishes and you're like, there's nothing new on here,
Speaker 2: and then you move over to Stand and then like
Speaker 2: stands firing, and then it's Amazon or like whatever.
Speaker 1: It is, and you feel like twenty five services.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I feel as though right now is like
Speaker 2: the Netflix era of the year where I'm just like
Speaker 2: obsessed with stuff on Netflix.
Speaker 5: So I also can't wait for Dynasty.
Speaker 4: But should we get into some questions.
Speaker 1: Yes, we should question and number one, I'm actually really
Speaker 1: interested to get your opinion on this keiche because I
Speaker 1: think it's controversial and I think there'll be a lot
Speaker 1: of fence sitters on this one side or the other.
Speaker 3: I know how I feel it.
Speaker 1: We'll get your opinion, ladies, Please please help. I'm so
Speaker 1: embarrassed and I really have nowhere to turn. On Saturday night,
Speaker 1: I was out with my fiance and friends and I
Speaker 1: kissed a girl. I had a lapse in judgment and
Speaker 1: I made a mistake. Now, I have kissed girls before,
Speaker 1: but my fiance has always been involved. We have had
Speaker 1: conversations about having threesomes in the past. This wasn't a
Speaker 1: threesome situation, though. It was just me being caught up
Speaker 1: in the moment, and yeah, I kissed a girl. My
Speaker 1: fiance is now not talking to me. He's sleeping in
Speaker 1: a separate bedroom.
Speaker 3: The only thing.
Speaker 1: He has said to me in the past week is
Speaker 1: that he doesn't trust me.
Speaker 3: He thinks I'm a liar.
Speaker 1: And he doesn't want to get married anymore.
Speaker 3: This is huge.
Speaker 1: I feel like my world is spinning out of control.
Speaker 1: I feel so physically sick, so embarrassed. I don't want
Speaker 1: to talk to my friends or family, which is why
Speaker 1: I'm running to you. I know this is a long,
Speaker 1: deep message, but any advice would be great. I am
Speaker 1: crying either. Oh, I am so broken for this girl.
Speaker 2: See, I'm just gonna say first things first, I'm so
Speaker 2: sorry that the one that you came to this episode is.
Speaker 3: Me, not Laura.
Speaker 2: I feel like Laura would have a lot better advice
Speaker 2: on this situation. I mean, at the end of the day,
Speaker 2: irrespective of what gender you cheated. So I think that
Speaker 2: there's kind of two parts of this conversation because I
Speaker 2: think a lot of people would be you remember when
Speaker 2: we were in high school. I don't know if this
Speaker 2: happened when you were in high school too, but it
Speaker 2: was definitely like a thing that a lot of girls
Speaker 2: would kind of be like, oh, like, let's make out.
Speaker 1: Like it would be super hot for the guys, And
Speaker 1: it's definitely a thing in high.
Speaker 3: And all the boys were like kids totally, So I
Speaker 3: think that never did.
Speaker 2: Kind of carry through to our adult lives where a
Speaker 2: lot of people in relationships, in heterosexual relationships, a lot
Speaker 2: of guys wouldn't necessarily consider that to be cheating when
Speaker 2: the reality is is that it is, you know, especially
Speaker 2: if they haven't kind of been a part of the conversation,
Speaker 2: or at least by the sounds of it, this guy
Speaker 2: sounds as though it is cheating to him.
Speaker 3: What can you do about it? From here? Do I
Speaker 3: think this is an irreparable fuck up? Possibly not.
Speaker 2: I mean, I think there's a massive difference between being out,
Speaker 2: but it sounds like you might have been out on
Speaker 2: a night with your friends and there's blackly alcohol involved
Speaker 2: and you've kissed someone. I think there is a huge
Speaker 2: difference between kind of like an accidental ooh shit, this
Speaker 2: happened kiss and like going home and sleeping with someone,
Speaker 2: do you know what I mean? Because it can kind
Speaker 2: of just happen in the moment, It doesn't necessarily have
Speaker 2: to have much prayer thinking, and it sounds as though
Speaker 2: you are remorseful of what you've done.
Speaker 1: My heart really is breaking for you right now because
Speaker 1: even though you obviously know, and we all know listening,
Speaker 1: that you've done something that your partner deems is wrong,
Speaker 1: even though you've been in the wrong in this situation,
Speaker 1: I feel your pain when you say you're in your
Speaker 1: room and you're beside yourself crying. I'm sure when you
Speaker 1: kiss this girl, it never ran through your mind that
Speaker 1: this would be the end of your relationship, or you
Speaker 1: wouldn't have done it. I have no doubt you're obviously
Speaker 1: getting married because you're in love with the person you're
Speaker 1: in love with, your fiance. You would not have thought
Speaker 1: that a kiss would lead to this, or you wouldn't
Speaker 1: have done it. So I feel your pain and I
Speaker 1: know what you must be feeling right now when you
Speaker 1: said you feel so sick, and I mean heartbreak. Whether
Speaker 1: you're in the wrong or not, is horrific that the
Speaker 1: physical illness that you feel from it. So anyway, I
Speaker 1: want to start by saying that, secondly, this sort of
Speaker 1: a thing, whether it's deemed as cheating or not cheating,
Speaker 1: infidelity or not This is very subjective to the individual
Speaker 1: and to a relationship. This is different for everybody. There
Speaker 1: are I know plenty of people that wouldn't consider it cheating.
Speaker 1: I know plenty of people that would be like, I
Speaker 1: don't care who you're with to me, man, woman, non binary.
Speaker 1: For some people, it doesn't matter. You're locking lips with
Speaker 1: someone else, you're having an emotional connection with someone else,
Speaker 1: you're sleeping with someone else, it's cheating.
Speaker 3: Your fiance evidently.
Speaker 1: Thinks that you going out on your own and being
Speaker 1: with someone's cheating, even though he thinks it would be
Speaker 1: okay if you ordered it together, because that's a conversation
Speaker 1: you're having as a couple in a safe space that
Speaker 1: wants to explore something together. And I guess you have
Speaker 1: to put yourself in his situation. What if he went
Speaker 1: out and just looked up with someone else and came
Speaker 1: back and said I was drunk and I'm sorry and
Speaker 1: it didn't mean anything. I'm probable I'm gonna guess, go
Speaker 1: out in a limit, say you think it was cheating.
Speaker 1: So yes, I don't want to make you feel any worse,
Speaker 1: but it's evident that you have done something wrong in
Speaker 1: this situation.
Speaker 3: What is there that you can do.
Speaker 1: Firstly, I think it's really important that you obviously give
Speaker 1: him some space because he wants space.
Speaker 3: He said, I want to be another room. He doesn't
Speaker 3: want to talk to you.
Speaker 1: So it's important to actually be reciprocal of what our
Speaker 1: partners are telling us that they need at that time.
Speaker 1: And you probably want to throw yourself on him. You
Speaker 1: want to probably pin him down, beg scream, cry for forgiveness,
Speaker 1: make things better first and foremost, give him a little
Speaker 1: bit of space.
Speaker 3: Now does that mean you can't tell him how you feel. No,
Speaker 3: you definitely can. You can.
Speaker 1: You can apologize, and you can tell your story, and
Speaker 1: you can try to explain your situation. You can try
Speaker 1: and make it better. But then if he says I
Speaker 1: need space, you have to give him that. I think
Speaker 1: you should always try and have this conversation in person.
Speaker 1: It's I think something that you owe each other to
Speaker 1: having person. Now, whether you just say, can I just
Speaker 1: have two minutes of your time, and whether you just
Speaker 1: say I want you to know that this is the
Speaker 1: most regretful thing I have ever done. You are my
Speaker 1: whole life. I didn't realize it was going to go
Speaker 1: down this track. I really want to make this work.
Speaker 1: Is there anything I can do? Say everything that you
Speaker 1: want to say, and then say I recognize that you
Speaker 1: want some space to think about this, but please let's
Speaker 1: not make decisions like calling off a wedding whilst emotions
Speaker 1: are high. I have so much I want to say
Speaker 1: to you, and I want to make this better. But
Speaker 1: I realize that you're going to have to tell me
Speaker 1: when you're ready. So I would make him feel like
Speaker 1: he's very loved and like you're very very apologetic and
Speaker 1: you want to make it work. Tell him everything you
Speaker 1: want to say, but then don't sit there and pressure him.
Speaker 1: Don't sit there crying and locking him in the room
Speaker 1: so we can't get out until he talks to you.
Speaker 1: He'll know how you feel, and then you need to
Speaker 1: step away for a minute so he can think about
Speaker 1: it and come back to you.
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know you.
Speaker 1: Guys, but there's a part of me that's like, fuck,
Speaker 1: I would be very shocked if he didn't want to
Speaker 1: come back and talk about this. If he walked out
Speaker 1: the door and never spoke to you again and canceled
Speaker 1: a wedding over this without having a conversation for me,
Speaker 1: I don't feel like it's very adult. I think he
Speaker 1: is going to come back and speak to you. He's
Speaker 1: not just gonna walk out and you're never gonna see
Speaker 1: him again. It just who knows how much this has
Speaker 1: hurt him. It might not be the answer you want,
Speaker 1: but I don't think it is irreparable. And we've spoken
Speaker 1: to a lot of relationship therapists and counselors that have said,
Speaker 1: you know, we are taught from a young age and
Speaker 1: infidelity is the worst thing in the world, and you
Speaker 1: can't come.
Speaker 3: Back from it.
Speaker 1: But they say from experience, and a lot of couples
Speaker 1: get through it, not only get through it, but they
Speaker 1: can come back stronger than ever. So that's not for everyone.
Speaker 1: But you've literally like, at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: in his eyes, you fucked up. You've cheated on him,
Speaker 1: even if you didn't think you did.
Speaker 3: That's how he feels. That's what's important.
Speaker 1: Now you need to say what you want to say,
Speaker 1: give him the space, and hopefully you guys can work
Speaker 1: it out. I really do hope you can, because you
Speaker 1: do sound like you didn't realize you were making such
Speaker 1: a grave error.
Speaker 5: I also think, and.
Speaker 2: This is not to excuse it, but I also think
Speaker 2: that if you were to anonymously survey the population of
Speaker 2: Australia or the world, like the adult population in relationships,
Speaker 2: and ask how many of them have slipped up and
Speaker 2: accidentally kissed someone when they shouldn't have, I think it
Speaker 2: would be a lot higher than what you think it would.
Speaker 2: I think that would be a lot more of a
Speaker 2: common occurrence than what. It sounds as though you are
Speaker 2: really really putting yourself through the ring in terms of
Speaker 2: guilt and blame, which I mean maybe you should feel,
Speaker 2: you know, it sounds like you feel guilty, definitely.
Speaker 1: I mean for me personally, just to give you like
Speaker 1: a difference in perspective in relationships. When I was with Jordan,
Speaker 1: we just had a conversation one day, I think we
Speaker 1: were talking about actually I think I asked him about
Speaker 1: an ask gun cars someone that had cheated him, and
Speaker 1: we're talking about each other's opinions. And for me, I said,
Speaker 1: I don't think cheating has to be the end of
Speaker 1: the world. Obviously it's very situational, depending on why, when, how,
Speaker 1: all the levels, But overarchingly I always said, look, it's
Speaker 1: not necessarily the bill and end or I think that
Speaker 1: a lot of people can work through it by talking
Speaker 1: about how and why and you know, getting the help.
Speaker 1: But he was like, I don't care what you.
Speaker 3: Do or who it's with or for what reason.
Speaker 1: He's like, you cheat on me with anyone at any level,
Speaker 1: like even a kiss, And.
Speaker 3: He's like, I'm out the door. Wow.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And we sort of laughed about it because I
Speaker 1: was like, you would A bar is too low, because
Speaker 1: it was yeah, maybe we're just like.
Speaker 4: A maybe thinking for like quite a while, maybe that's
Speaker 4: not the worst thing I was thinking.
Speaker 1: I was like, am I so ruined from how many
Speaker 1: people have perfectly cheated me in the past and now
Speaker 1: I'm making excuses for it? But I don't think I am,
Speaker 1: because I know that it's what I'm saying is it's dependent.
Speaker 1: But this is the thing, and this sounds like it's
Speaker 1: what's your your partner sounds like where Jordan was at.
Speaker 1: And he's like, I don't think there's anything to talk
Speaker 1: about because for me.
Speaker 3: Trust is broken. Trust is broken, and you have to
Speaker 3: respect that.
Speaker 1: Whilst I don't get it, I was like, I can't
Speaker 1: believe you'd I was like, look, I'm not saying a
Speaker 1: cheat on you.
Speaker 3: But hypothetically if I did. I can't believe you'd walk
Speaker 3: away from.
Speaker 2: Me, And hypothetically, if the guy from Outlander walked into
Speaker 2: a bar, I was like, Sue, no, but it's it's
Speaker 2: so true.
Speaker 3: It's like it is what it is.
Speaker 1: It's dependent on the person, which is why it's really
Speaker 1: hard to answer. But the question here is how do
Speaker 1: you navigate it, which we've just mentioned.
Speaker 3: Also talk about this with your friends. You said you're
Speaker 3: too embarrassed.
Speaker 2: We have all fucked up, and I think you need
Speaker 2: to know, like, you need to have those people around
Speaker 2: you to support you right now because you're going through
Speaker 2: a lot and it's a really hard time for you.
Speaker 2: And I think that even though you do feel guilt
Speaker 2: and embarrassment about it, keeping that to yourself is only
Speaker 2: going to make it worse. Like, you know, what do
Speaker 2: they say a problem talked about is a problem halved
Speaker 2: or some shit like that.
Speaker 3: I don't know, there's.
Speaker 1: Something deep like that, something can Yeah, just don't know.
Speaker 1: Playing any Katie Perry songs anytime soon. I understand what
Speaker 1: you're saying. Though, I understand you saying you feel the embarrassment.
Speaker 1: You don't want anyone to know. I've been in that
Speaker 1: exact situation, not because I've done anything wrong. I remember
Speaker 1: when my ex I found out he had a double life.
Speaker 1: I was embarrassed by that.
Speaker 3: I don't want to.
Speaker 1: Tell anyone, so I remember that. It's a feeling of
Speaker 1: judgment as a whole.
Speaker 3: I get that.
Speaker 1: Like Keisha said, probably don't go tell everyone. You probably
Speaker 1: don't need to post it on Twitter, but you need someone.
Speaker 4: It starts posting deep quotes, It's like, yeah, you.
Speaker 1: Probably don't need to post on Twitter, but you need
Speaker 1: at least somebody to help you and support you, because
Speaker 1: you can't go through that shit alone. Like this is
Speaker 1: a really really big deal and you'll probably be surprised.
Speaker 1: I'm sure you've got a best friend, someone that you
Speaker 1: can confide in. I'm glad that you can, but like
Speaker 1: the professional or best friend, somebody to help you.
Speaker 3: But oh good luck.
Speaker 1: People do make mistakes at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: and it might be a really really hard lesson for
Speaker 1: you to learn.
Speaker 2: But do you know what Mark Groves would say, though
Speaker 2: sorr it interrupt you. Do you know what he would say?
Speaker 3: What an opportunity for growth?
Speaker 4: This could be an opportunity you don't want to hear
Speaker 4: right now?
Speaker 2: No, I mean like it could be an opportunity for
Speaker 2: the two of you to really realize where your boundaries
Speaker 2: are and hopefully come out the other side stronger and
Speaker 2: better than what you previously were because you've identified exactly
Speaker 2: where the line is.
Speaker 3: Good luck, all right, Keisha?
Speaker 1: Bring question number two, and I hope it's a bit
Speaker 1: that one that was heavy to start with, but heavy,
Speaker 1: you know, just.
Speaker 3: Let me get a bit more comfortable.
Speaker 2: I didn't realize i'd be sweating filling in for Laura.
Speaker 2: Usually Laura's the one sweating, really dashed hormone filling the role.
Speaker 2: Okayquation number two, can you turn down being a bridesmaid?
Speaker 2: I've got a friend who is engaged, and she has
Speaker 2: dropped small hints that indicate that she will be asking
Speaker 2: me to be a bridesmaid at her wedding, but I
Speaker 2: really don't want to. We are close friends, but we're
Speaker 2: certainly not best friends for about two years and are
Speaker 2: at the level where we would catch up semi regularly
Speaker 2: regularly regularly say that three times quickly? Can I turn
Speaker 2: it down without ruining the friendship?
Speaker 3: I mean, you can do it the hell you want.
Speaker 3: I probably we're on the friendship. This is tough.
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, of course you can say no to
Speaker 1: no one has to do anything.
Speaker 5: Have you been a bridesmaid?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Are you like always a bridesmaid? Like twenty seven dress, it's.
Speaker 3: A bride, never the bride. I'm the one for the one.
Speaker 3: We all know that. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Do you know what was actually funny? One time I
Speaker 1: was a bridesmaid was when I was in the Bachelor.
Speaker 1: I didn't even have a choice to turn down. I
Speaker 1: was in the mansion and one of my friends who
Speaker 1: has been a good friend for a long time, but
Speaker 1: I wasn't in her bridal party, which you know, so fine.
Speaker 1: I was always going to go to the wedding I
Speaker 1: came out of the Bachelor because in that time it
Speaker 1: was her wedding was the week I got out of
Speaker 1: the Bachelor, right in another state.
Speaker 3: So you've been filming for what three months? Three bit
Speaker 3: over three months?
Speaker 1: And I got out and my sister's like Sheridan had
Speaker 1: organized it all with her.
Speaker 3: She's like, okay, so you're I've made it the way.
Speaker 1: I've got the dress sworded for you, I've got the shoes,
Speaker 1: this is your details, this is what you've got to do,
Speaker 1: this is your part. Don't have your phone in there,
Speaker 1: you can you don't have any contacts so they'll.
Speaker 3: Know you came out. You were like, surprise brides Yeah,
Speaker 3: this girl called sharing.
Speaker 1: She was like, this is my bride. One of my
Speaker 1: bridesmaids had to pull out from an international around the country.
Speaker 1: Would Britt want to Sharon's like, yeah, I'll.
Speaker 2: Send everything up, so she like, I just walked down.
Speaker 1: And was like surprise bridesmaid, which was great, but like, yeah,
Speaker 1: of course, no one has to do anything in life,
Speaker 1: but this is a really tricky one because it's going
Speaker 1: to have repercussions. Every decision in life has a repercussion science.
Speaker 3: I think it's an Einstein quay. He was more serious
Speaker 3: than that.
Speaker 2: Can I confess something. I have been a bridesmaid very
Speaker 2: much enjoyed that experience. For the times that I have
Speaker 2: done it, I never want to do it again. And
Speaker 2: my close friends know.
Speaker 4: That it causes me so much fucking stress.
Speaker 3: Why is that to me?
Speaker 2: I'm not a details person. I'm not an organized person.
Speaker 2: If you ask me what I'm doing in three weekends time,
Speaker 2: I would look at you blankly and be like, oh
Speaker 2: fucking no. Like I don't like the pressure of little
Speaker 2: things like.
Speaker 1: That if you ask me what I'm doing tonight, I
Speaker 1: don't know.
Speaker 3: This is whatever.
Speaker 2: You and I are similar in this way, so I
Speaker 2: actually think that you'll kind of understand what I'm talking about.
Speaker 2: Swit's takings five hours to dus episode.
Speaker 3: Like you get a coffee? Do you want a coffee?
Speaker 2: You want has hang D So I mean, aside from
Speaker 2: the fact that firstly it's super expensive, particularly if you
Speaker 2: have to factor in like when I was a bridesmaid once,
Speaker 2: I was a maid of mon arm and absolutely adore her,
Speaker 2: couldn't think more highly of her and would happily do
Speaker 2: it again for her. But I had to travel into state,
Speaker 2: so it was super expensive for me because it was
Speaker 2: like multiple sets of flights. If youve got to pay
Speaker 2: for accommodation, like you talk, shoes, hair, makeup, all that
Speaker 2: kind of stuff, it adds up a lot. So it's
Speaker 2: a big financial commitment. It's also a mental commitment, and
Speaker 2: you're supposed to help them do stuff, so.
Speaker 3: That's why you'd have to do stuff. That's why I
Speaker 3: don't want to do it.
Speaker 2: I'm like, can I just MC your wedding instead? So
Speaker 2: that's actually going to be my suggestion to this person.
Speaker 3: She's probably already got an MC she's as brides maid.
Speaker 2: But maybe you could drop a little hint. Maybe you
Speaker 2: could like steer this away. It could be a little
Speaker 2: bit obvious. I don't know, but maybe you could steer
Speaker 2: it away and kind of be like, oh, you know,
Speaker 2: the last few times I was a bridesmaid, it was
Speaker 2: just it was a really stressful experience for me. I
Speaker 2: just didn't really enjoy it, you know what, Like you
Speaker 2: were not starting off soon.
Speaker 3: Do you need someone to like help the flower girl or.
Speaker 2: I don't know, maybe you could offer to do something else.
Speaker 3: I am good.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you my honest advice here. There is
Speaker 1: if I'm putting myself in this situation. I don't really
Speaker 1: feel like there is. You can't just say no, I
Speaker 1: don't want to be a bridesmaid because it's stressful or
Speaker 1: I'm not an organized person. If my friend said that
Speaker 1: to me, I'd be like, get fucked. I was like,
Speaker 1: it's one day in my eyes, you just help me
Speaker 1: out and you be there because not even help me out,
Speaker 1: but like if somebody asks you, I mean most of
Speaker 1: the time, obviously there'll be exceptions to the rule. If
Speaker 1: someone asks you to be a bridesmaid. It's because they
Speaker 1: want you there on their special day. They want you
Speaker 1: at the end, they want the memories with you, and
Speaker 1: it means that you are.
Speaker 3: Really important to them.
Speaker 1: Obviously there's a level of like, yes, you're gonna have
Speaker 1: some responsibilities, most of that should fall on the maid
Speaker 1: of honor.
Speaker 3: What it does.
Speaker 1: Mean that usually you can't get out of is it's
Speaker 1: the cost there is, like Kisha has said, this financial cost.
Speaker 1: You do have to usually buy your dress or some
Speaker 1: of it, and your accommodation, you travel, everything adds up.
Speaker 3: The only reason.
Speaker 1: I mean, if my friend said, look, I really don't
Speaker 1: want to be a bridesmaid, I'd be like, well, I'm
Speaker 1: never gonna make you. But also there's definitely gonna be
Speaker 1: a level of resentment there if my friend came to
Speaker 1: me and said I would love to be a bridesmaid,
Speaker 1: but in complete transparency, like I am strapped for cash,
Speaker 1: I don't know how I'm gonna find this money. Of course,
Speaker 1: quite often there's a whole lot more that comes with that.
Speaker 1: There's the hen's party that's always a big event. You
Speaker 1: always pay for that, so the bride doesn't pay for
Speaker 1: anything like there is a lot of build up for
Speaker 1: somebody's wedding, then there's a present, then there's it's a
Speaker 1: really big deal. So if my friend came to me
Speaker 1: and said, I just can't afford it, if I was
Speaker 1: in a position too, I would pay for everything if
Speaker 1: I really wanted them there.
Speaker 3: If I'm not in a position too, I would one
Speaker 3: hundred percent.
Speaker 5: Be okay with that.
Speaker 3: I was like, I totally get that.
Speaker 1: If my friend came to me and said, I'm not organized.
Speaker 3: Can't be fucked, I'll be like, fuck you.
Speaker 1: I It's such a hard one because like, no one
Speaker 1: has to do anything I don't want to do. Just
Speaker 1: know that if you do pull out or you do decline,
Speaker 1: it has to be like a pretty good reason, or
Speaker 1: there are gonna be repercussions and some ripple effects in
Speaker 1: your friendship and it's just something.
Speaker 3: You've got to weigh up.
Speaker 1: What's important to you is that do you feel like
Speaker 1: you're not even that close to the bride and you're like, oh,
Speaker 1: why she been asking me if it?
Speaker 3: Because I mean like it sounds like that. Yeah, So
Speaker 3: I think, just way up.
Speaker 1: The effects of what's going to happen if you say no,
Speaker 1: because that's not gonna go down. Well, you like, I
Speaker 1: would love you being around bride to me, And she's like, no.
Speaker 3: Thanksious for you.
Speaker 2: I'm getting my anxiety rash all at my net because
Speaker 2: I'm just putting myself in this situation, being like I
Speaker 2: would be so overwhelmingly uncomfortable doing this.
Speaker 4: That's why I would plant the seed now before it's
Speaker 4: too late.
Speaker 3: Thinks it's terrible advice. I think it's one.
Speaker 1: No, if you haven't already been asked yet, like, sure
Speaker 1: you could plant the seed.
Speaker 3: You could be like, hey, I'd love to m see
Speaker 3: you adding if you want.
Speaker 1: If there's been no conversation, But if it's if there's
Speaker 1: like an unspoken expectation that you're the bride, you can't
Speaker 1: start planning.
Speaker 3: How about both? You're like, fuck, I just got another job.
Speaker 3: I loved it.
Speaker 1: If anyone's declined a bridesmaid offer, I would love to
Speaker 1: hear that.
Speaker 3: And if you did, why and what would the effect
Speaker 3: of that?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: How did you do it?
Speaker 2: Maybe we could post your response as advice for this person?
Speaker 3: Yeah all right, well good luck. Let's go on to
Speaker 3: question number three.
Speaker 1: Question number three is absolutely cooked, Like it's so cooked,
Speaker 1: and I have a feeling that our opinion is going
Speaker 1: to be unanimous. I think our absolutely unanimous. I think
Speaker 1: my majority of you is going to be unanimous.
Speaker 2: I'll get already to like slammed down one hundred percent. Okay, girls,
Speaker 2: not sure if I'm overreacting or not? Yep, I can
Speaker 2: tell you already. Are I need some advice?
Speaker 1: My boyfriend of seven years said to me yesterday that
Speaker 1: he believes it's acceptable to sleep with someone else on
Speaker 1: your bucks slash Hen's night.
Speaker 3: What wait? So he asked me.
Speaker 1: If I would be upset even if it quote just
Speaker 1: a stripper, and when I said I don't agree with that,
Speaker 1: he was very offended with the fact that I wouldn't
Speaker 1: even consider it. We ended up having an argument about
Speaker 1: the fact that I wouldn't even hear him out.
Speaker 3: No, we aren't.
Speaker 1: Engaged yet, but I was so shocked that he thinks
Speaker 1: it's fine to sleep with someone else on his bucks night.
Speaker 1: Am I overreacting? Or is it acceptable to cheat? He
Speaker 1: thinks it's fine because he would be quote getting it.
Speaker 3: Out of his system one last time before.
Speaker 1: Committing to me for the rest of his life.
Speaker 5: Is this bloke having a laugh?
Speaker 3: Help? I'm called of guard.
Speaker 1: Because he's really making me feel like I'm the crazy one.
Speaker 3: Surely he's taking the piece.
Speaker 1: Nowhere he is not and straight up, there is a
Speaker 1: term for this. It is called gas lining. There's another
Speaker 1: term and is called cheating. This is in my eyes
Speaker 1: and what I would think the majority of people would
Speaker 1: feel the same.
Speaker 3: This is unacceptable. If my partner said to me.
Speaker 1: I just want to quickly sneak a little before I
Speaker 1: marry you for the rest of my life because I'll
Speaker 1: be tied to you like it's something.
Speaker 3: Bad, I would say, get the hell out.
Speaker 2: There is no way I'm letting my partner just sneak
Speaker 2: one in one last time. The terminology of just getting
Speaker 2: it out of my system makes my skin crawl and
Speaker 2: like also another layer to this the fact that he's like,
Speaker 2: even if it was just a stripper for starters, bro,
Speaker 2: no stripper wants to sleep with you. They're they're doing
Speaker 2: their job. That's their job, they do well at it.
Speaker 2: They don't want to hook up with you. They don't
Speaker 2: even want to have a conversation with you. Mate.
Speaker 1: But also like strippers, that the assumption that a stripper
Speaker 1: would sleep with ish they're entertainers, and that is absolutely it.
Speaker 1: It doesn't come hand in hand. So the audacity of
Speaker 1: this man that just thinks he can go and do
Speaker 1: what he wants with whomever he wants, when he wants,
Speaker 1: blows my mind.
Speaker 3: So I just like I am.
Speaker 1: I wish you could see me right now. I'm not
Speaker 1: often lost for words, but I just think this is insane.
Speaker 1: I hate the fact that he's making you feel like
Speaker 1: you're crazy and making you feel guilty for the fact
Speaker 1: that you won't.
Speaker 3: Even consider it. You won't even think about it.
Speaker 1: That is to me a pretty high level of disrespect
Speaker 1: in a relationship. So I think maybe there has to
Speaker 1: be a bit of a deeper conversation with the two
Speaker 1: of you about why he thinks this is acceptable, and
Speaker 1: maybe you even need to say to him, hey, I
Speaker 1: don't think this is acceptable as you think, like, maybe
Speaker 1: you should speak to your friends about this. I would
Speaker 1: be very shook if all of his friends said, yes,
Speaker 1: that's what you do. He is in the wrong crowd.
Speaker 1: He's hanging out with the wrong crowd of people.
Speaker 2: Absolutely like, it's just it's laced in a shitload of misogyny.
Speaker 5: It's pretty gross.
Speaker 2: But your first question was, do you think I'm overreacting Babe,
Speaker 2: I think you're underreacting totally, and like ninety nine point
Speaker 2: ninety percent of people, this would light a fire underneath.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't even want to imagine what would happen if
Speaker 2: I had this conversation with my partner.
Speaker 1: But we just touched on this in the first question
Speaker 1: when we spoke about is it cheating if you cheat
Speaker 1: with the same sex in a relationship. So you know
Speaker 1: this going out and kissed another girl her partner, that
Speaker 1: is cheating.
Speaker 3: For me, cheating is cheating.
Speaker 1: So it doesn't matter if they have a specific occupation,
Speaker 1: that's still classified as cheating. So it's not like, oh,
Speaker 1: but I just had sex with a waitress. Oh but
Speaker 1: they were just an accountant that you know.
Speaker 3: Like, it's just an occupation.
Speaker 2: Lord, what does that have to do taking away from
Speaker 2: the fact that you had sexual relations Like okay.
Speaker 3: Bill Clinton, we used to do.
Speaker 5: It's just it be like I did not have sexual
Speaker 5: relations with that.
Speaker 1: Woman, you have sexual relations with another human. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: feel really bad for you in this sense, but please
Speaker 1: know that you're not overacting. And in my personal opinion,
Speaker 1: there might be some people out there that think it's
Speaker 1: okay to slip it in one last time for me,
Speaker 1: it's absolutely not okay and I would never ever sit
Speaker 1: well with me. So please don't feel like you're overreacting.
Speaker 1: If you want to sit down and have a chat
Speaker 1: to him about why, maybe explain why, maybe even just
Speaker 1: played this episode to him. I'm more than happy for
Speaker 1: him place to hear. You can tell him that he
Speaker 1: can slide into my DMS and that's the only place
Speaker 1: is sliding piece.
Speaker 3: Of my mind.
Speaker 2: I mean, I know we are assuming that you're in
Speaker 2: a monogamous, like exclusive relationship.
Speaker 1: Well the assumption is because she said she's not okay
Speaker 1: with us, So yes, I think that assumption is warranted.
Speaker 2: I actually think that the only way you can have
Speaker 2: this conversation is in quite a condescending way. No where
Speaker 2: you're just like, okay, let me lay some things out
Speaker 2: for you. The only other thing, like, there's only one
Speaker 2: option left, and that is an Instagram pole. You don't
Speaker 2: tag him, tag him directly and be like this is
Speaker 2: what our friends and family think of your comment.
Speaker 3: Yes, wedd in doubt, we instagram poll out. That is
Speaker 3: our motto. Here at life, my god, the guys, that
Speaker 3: is it from us today.
Speaker 1: We hope you had a fun little episode with us.
Speaker 1: There are some pretty big problems that I really hope
Speaker 1: you all work out.
Speaker 3: The questions today were.
Speaker 1: All pretty problematic, like they're not really cut and dry today,
Speaker 1: and I don't know what's gonna happen with all these people.
Speaker 2: And lucky for all of you, all your gal Laura
Speaker 2: will be back for us on Cut next week. Actually
Speaker 2: in the meantime you'll hear her on the radio and
Speaker 2: then you'll also hear her or next Tuesday's episode, which
Speaker 2: is going to be a banger.
Speaker 3: We're a half and a half, as I like to say.
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Speaker 3: Can I just.
Speaker 2: Jump in as the person who does check a lot
Speaker 2: of our social media or one of the people who
Speaker 2: checks a lot of our social media. Something I would
Speaker 2: really love to do is like an ask gun Cut resolved.
Speaker 2: And I know you guys have put the call out
Speaker 2: before and when we try to let know what you're saying,
Speaker 2: but I'm probably going to post something on our Instagram
Speaker 2: and just kind of say if.
Speaker 3: We have answered your question.
Speaker 2: Because before I started working with you guys, yeah, I
Speaker 2: used to be like they get hundreds of messages, like
Speaker 2: everyone says that, No, like it literally happens. There are
Speaker 2: hundreds of messages. So if your question is chosen like
Speaker 2: it's been really considered, usually by yourself and Laura and
Speaker 2: I would love to know, like what happened after you know,
Speaker 2: the aftermath. I don't know what we're gonna call it,
Speaker 2: to come up with, like a spicy name. We call
Speaker 2: that well ask on cut, aftermath.
Speaker 3: Life after ask on.
Speaker 1: Like some traumatic experience you guys had to go through
Speaker 1: therapy I have after ask on cut?
Speaker 3: Yeah, what do you reckon?
Speaker 4: I mean, is something that you guys would like to
Speaker 4: hear as well?
Speaker 3: I mean I've been trying for two years. I would
Speaker 3: tell what's the response either our advice isn't good or
Speaker 3: it doesn't work out.
Speaker 1: We very occasionally have gotten proper follow up questions. But yeah,
Speaker 1: if you guys, if we have ever answered your question,
Speaker 1: if you feel like it, we would love to do
Speaker 1: like a little follow up and a lot of people
Speaker 1: writing asking for follow ups too. You just have to
Speaker 1: make sure you write you say what your question was
Speaker 1: at the top. So maybe if you do, maybe you
Speaker 1: can say ask on cut follow up as the heading,
Speaker 1: write down the question that you initially had, and then
Speaker 1: write down what happened the resolve, how it worked out,
Speaker 1: even if it was good or bad, funny anything, but like, yeah,
Speaker 1: if you feel like doing that.
Speaker 3: We would froth that.
Speaker 2: Can we should do it late next week. We should
Speaker 2: do a whole episode of like the Aftermath.
Speaker 3: Well, I mean it's easy saying, let's do it. People
Speaker 3: got to running first. Need to tell me like I'm doing,
Speaker 3: say lifting.
Speaker 1: You need to calm down, you guys, if you have
Speaker 1: it writing if in the following weeks, if we get
Speaker 1: enough responses, for sure, we'll throw out a little bonus episode.
Speaker 1: But until then, keep everything else coming in and join
Speaker 1: the life on that discussion group on Facebook.
Speaker 3: Can I try it?
Speaker 4: Tell your mom, tell you dad, tell your friend, tell
Speaker 4: your dog, and share the love.
Speaker 3: Did I get it?
Speaker 1: Na? Dam I tell your mom, toe your dad, tell
Speaker 1: you dog, tell your friends to share the love. Because
Speaker 1: we love love. No one can do it except me