WEBVTT - Froome’s Wild Deal Breaker 🙅 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:02.800 The Flex and Rooms Daily Podcast. 0:00:05.040 --> 0:00:07.440 Hello, sweet angels, it's podcast time. 0:00:08.800 --> 0:00:10.639 Yeah yeah, yeah. 0:00:10.800 --> 0:00:13.960 Off the back of the amazing question that for me 0:00:14.000 --> 0:00:17.000 posed last week, which is would you rather be special 0:00:17.079 --> 0:00:19.560 or happy? On the drive to cater I was thinking 0:00:19.600 --> 0:00:22.159 about if there was a difference between good kind and 0:00:22.239 --> 0:00:26.240 nice and if we could define those and which one 0:00:26.360 --> 0:00:28.600 we are. So let me spend the next ten minutes 0:00:28.640 --> 0:00:29.160 talking about it. 0:00:29.400 --> 0:00:31.200 Have a little listen. I want you to in your 0:00:31.200 --> 0:00:35.360 mind's I imagine who am I? Who do I relate to? 0:00:35.440 --> 0:00:35.760 In this? 0:00:36.159 --> 0:00:36.480 My good? 0:00:36.479 --> 0:00:37.680 Am I kinder? Am I nice? 0:00:37.880 --> 0:00:38.320 That's steep? 0:00:39.880 --> 0:00:44.120 Let's go. This is Flex and Frooms on Kita Lexie. 0:00:44.200 --> 0:00:45.920 As always, I want to ask you a question you 0:00:45.960 --> 0:00:51.959 always have insightful answers. Flex, What is your petty relationship 0:00:52.280 --> 0:00:53.040 deal breaker? 0:00:53.400 --> 0:00:55.600 I don't know if I have one, because I'm not 0:00:55.640 --> 0:00:58.880 a very accommodating person generally, But I don't think those 0:00:58.920 --> 0:00:59.920 things are petty. 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:02.080 Like I just don't vibe with people I don't vibe with. 0:01:03.000 --> 0:01:05.520 But I think the pettiest thing to do is to 0:01:05.560 --> 0:01:08.240 have a deal breaker and not break up with someone. Ooh, 0:01:08.800 --> 0:01:11.520 Like I'm snip snip at the first time and it's 0:01:11.560 --> 0:01:13.640 not going to work, because I have heaps of relationships 0:01:13.640 --> 0:01:14.600 at work off the dome. 0:01:15.200 --> 0:01:18.160 So am I going to change it? Yeah? 0:01:18.200 --> 0:01:20.080 Like I don't you know how a lot of people 0:01:20.120 --> 0:01:22.320 find that, like, oh you know that the bit of friction. 0:01:22.240 --> 0:01:23.679 Here, a bit of friction there. Let's just work on it. 0:01:23.720 --> 0:01:26.520 There's no need because I've had I've had heaps. 0:01:26.240 --> 0:01:28.240 Of friendships and relationships before where it was like good 0:01:28.280 --> 0:01:30.920 off the off the bat, and the problems come when 0:01:30.959 --> 0:01:34.240 more is exposed about one another, not just we're clearly 0:01:34.280 --> 0:01:38.840 not compatible as friends or more and we're just too 0:01:38.920 --> 0:01:40.400 desperate to recognize it. 0:01:41.120 --> 0:01:43.600 I think I understand what you're saying. What is yours? 0:01:43.760 --> 0:01:46.440 Do you have one, two, three or few? 0:01:46.720 --> 0:01:48.760 I do? But they are so incriminating. 0:01:49.240 --> 0:01:53.480 Oh come on, well I can talk about them in 0:01:53.480 --> 0:01:54.600 the past tense. Yeah. 0:01:54.680 --> 0:01:56.400 Yeah, I definitely used to have deal. 0:01:56.200 --> 0:01:59.200 Breaking, of course, but their deal break is that if 0:01:59.200 --> 0:02:01.279 someone did it again, it's me, I would think. 0:02:01.160 --> 0:02:02.000 That it's sexist. 0:02:02.080 --> 0:02:03.920 Yeah, dog me is rude, and. 0:02:03.920 --> 0:02:05.000 I never want to speak to again. 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:05.680 Dred percent. 0:02:06.040 --> 0:02:08.640 So I have like very particular things that I'm particular 0:02:08.720 --> 0:02:10.640 about personally, like some. 0:02:10.760 --> 0:02:13.320 Very particular things that you're particularly about personally, And one 0:02:13.320 --> 0:02:14.560 of them is not knowing how to speak. 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:19.680 Like sometimes I can't get over certain physical aspects of someone, 0:02:19.919 --> 0:02:22.280 but they're things that other people like like for example, 0:02:22.680 --> 0:02:23.440 big noses. 0:02:23.600 --> 0:02:25.920 Yeah, always attracted. 0:02:25.480 --> 0:02:37.800 To them, but don't want to be Wait, yeah, I 0:02:37.840 --> 0:02:42.760 don't want to procreate with somebody. 0:02:42.480 --> 0:02:43.720 With a large nose. 0:02:44.680 --> 0:02:47.480 Large noses coming in all shapes and forms. 0:02:47.520 --> 0:02:51.120 However, am I attracted to be with big noses? Absolutely? 0:02:51.160 --> 0:02:55.120 Adrien Brodie from The penis enormous, honker. Give it to me. 0:02:56.520 --> 0:02:59.520 Wait, so you're saying this is a deal breaker, though. 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:03.160 It depends what frame of mind I'm in. If I'm 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:06.480 in a very self critical mindset, the nose is setting 0:03:06.480 --> 0:03:11.519 me off, you gotta go other things. Dirt under the fingernails, Oh, 0:03:11.720 --> 0:03:14.680 of course, sickening, but don't touch me. 0:03:14.760 --> 0:03:19.639 What if he's an arborist, a haughty culturalist, a gardener, landscaper. 0:03:19.680 --> 0:03:23.080 I'm still okay. They're too long? Okay, if your. 0:03:23.040 --> 0:03:28.000 Nails, Yeah, if you got the white pit, you're a man. 0:03:28.440 --> 0:03:29.880 Oh you mean like actually having length? 0:03:30.280 --> 0:03:35.680 Yeah, you know when they've got like the white Oh, 0:03:35.720 --> 0:03:38.160 I can't even that's my deal breaker. 0:03:38.360 --> 0:03:40.000 Forget the nose. I can deal with the nose. 0:03:40.520 --> 0:03:43.560 Yeah, I'm trying to think of petty ones. But all 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:47.480 is fair in love, lust, infatuation and dating. 0:03:47.480 --> 0:03:50.080 You know what is my deal breaker? People who scratch themselves. 0:03:50.120 --> 0:03:52.600 Oh you don't want to scratch? How do you get 0:03:52.600 --> 0:03:53.640 it off? The microphone? 0:03:53.680 --> 0:03:54.080 Flex? 0:03:55.240 --> 0:03:57.360 You did to have papery skin? Yuck? 0:03:57.600 --> 0:04:01.119 Everybody, we don't love that, you know, And he's having 0:04:01.120 --> 0:04:02.680 aniption in the sound booth. 0:04:03.480 --> 0:04:05.080 It turns out I'm delaid back one. 0:04:06.680 --> 0:04:07.480 Yeah, I was like. 0:04:07.400 --> 0:04:09.280 Looking through other people, some of the other ones alike, 0:04:09.360 --> 0:04:11.840 when I found out that my then girlfriend now X 0:04:11.920 --> 0:04:14.680 was an adamant young eartha. I don't know if you 0:04:14.680 --> 0:04:16.200 know what young earth is. It means that, like we 0:04:16.279 --> 0:04:18.240 just came out of nowhere astrology. 0:04:18.279 --> 0:04:18.720 I get it. 0:04:18.720 --> 0:04:21.000 It's fun to indulge, and we've all read our horoscopes 0:04:21.040 --> 0:04:23.279 at least once. But if you start talking to me 0:04:23.320 --> 0:04:26.159 about mercury retrograde and how that actually affects my life, 0:04:26.200 --> 0:04:28.120 I'm taking a strategic break. 0:04:28.320 --> 0:04:31.320 Then it's my no to capital a atheists, A petty 0:04:31.360 --> 0:04:36.039 one no, cause, like, I don't mind any kind of 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:39.080 belief system. If your ideas on anything aren't a little 0:04:39.080 --> 0:04:41.040 bit fluid, I can't do it. 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:44.000 If I already know you and we're friends. 0:04:44.200 --> 0:04:44.920 I'm fine with it. 0:04:44.960 --> 0:04:48.559 But if we're talking like internet dating top line stuff, 0:04:48.560 --> 0:04:49.640 I'm like, you've been ruled out. 0:04:50.960 --> 0:04:53.440 That's kind of petty because you could change their mind. 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:54.599 Of course. 0:04:54.839 --> 0:04:56.640 Just want people to go home, have a think in 0:04:56.680 --> 0:04:59.760 your own bed. What are some petty petty relationships? Things 0:04:59.800 --> 0:05:03.800 that are I get hung up on? And does that 0:05:03.880 --> 0:05:05.200 mean that's why I'm single? 0:05:05.560 --> 0:05:08.800 I believe nothing is petty if it bothers you hard 0:05:08.960 --> 0:05:10.600 hard disgraving on it because. 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:11.599 Like, realistically, I don't know. 0:05:11.640 --> 0:05:14.599 I think you have weak resolve, not you, but hypothetically 0:05:14.680 --> 0:05:17.360 people have weak resolve if they're not comfortable enough to 0:05:17.400 --> 0:05:19.440 say this is what I want for myself and I 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:21.720 don't want anything else. Like, I think we need to 0:05:21.720 --> 0:05:25.159 stop making people feel bad if they have preferences that 0:05:25.520 --> 0:05:29.000 are understood by other people, because you have to date 0:05:29.040 --> 0:05:31.479 that person. So if you're like, I can't do the 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:36.479 dirty fingernail Harry Potter reading Manicurist. 0:05:36.320 --> 0:05:37.240 Then you can't do that. 0:05:38.400 --> 0:05:40.640 It's when you have to start justifying these things to 0:05:40.680 --> 0:05:44.760 others and like stop making your dating life a spectator sport, 0:05:45.040 --> 0:05:47.440 and maybe then you'll have more success, because I think 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:49.600 people really date with optics in mind, we will look 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:52.240 like if I date this person, and what will look. 0:05:51.960 --> 0:05:54.960 Like if I say, like this person, get over it? Flick, 0:05:55.680 --> 0:05:57.160 and I know. 0:05:57.120 --> 0:06:01.280 That you love future Yes, aliens, Yes, yes, tech, Yes, 0:06:01.400 --> 0:06:02.479 what's going to happen next? 0:06:02.600 --> 0:06:03.040 Exactly? 0:06:03.600 --> 0:06:06.520 So I found this fact that I thought you would 0:06:06.560 --> 0:06:10.160 really like. Oh, apparently there is such a thing as 0:06:10.279 --> 0:06:13.320 floating cities that are currently being manufactured. 0:06:14.560 --> 0:06:15.599 It's giving Noah's ark. 0:06:15.760 --> 0:06:18.360 It's giving Noah's ark, and it's very very, I guess, 0:06:18.360 --> 0:06:21.160 pertinent to what's happening in Sydney or what's happened in 0:06:21.160 --> 0:06:24.040 the last few weeks. We've seen floods again. Anyway, Apparently 0:06:24.320 --> 0:06:28.039 last week in New York, the United Nations unveiled its 0:06:28.080 --> 0:06:31.320 prototype for the world's first floating city. 0:06:31.520 --> 0:06:34.520 Where is it? Where they're gonna put it? 0:06:34.520 --> 0:06:36.920 It's off the south coast of Korea in the port 0:06:36.960 --> 0:06:41.880 of Busan, and it's a hyper futuristic OCEANIX Busan is 0:06:41.880 --> 0:06:44.279 what it's called. I could be saying that incorrectly. It's 0:06:44.279 --> 0:06:47.839 being developed via a partnership between the UN Maritime development 0:06:48.000 --> 0:06:54.120 ocean X and Superstar Danish architect Jacques Ingles. Basically, this 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:58.119 marks the first implementation of an ambitious long term plan 0:06:58.600 --> 0:07:01.560 to build multiple floating cities around the world in order 0:07:01.600 --> 0:07:04.839 to mitigate the risks of the rising sea levels. 0:07:04.880 --> 0:07:08.480 Floating I was thinking of a city. 0:07:09.560 --> 0:07:12.480 I was like, how a floating thing of the yes 0:07:12.600 --> 0:07:16.080 on the water. Yes, okay, but the mold has. 0:07:16.000 --> 0:07:18.480 Been doing that. Thailand's been doing that. They've been building 0:07:18.480 --> 0:07:20.080 a little floating communities. 0:07:19.800 --> 0:07:20.200 Have they? 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:21.080 I swear? 0:07:21.560 --> 0:07:22.320 Oh, well, this is. 0:07:22.280 --> 0:07:25.840 Like a city so big one Saturistic. Busan is South 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:28.760 Korea's second largest city. The shipping hub is a home 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:32.160 to three point four million people. So it's doing large, 0:07:32.240 --> 0:07:36.440 large scale. When can we go experience it? I'm not sure, 0:07:36.440 --> 0:07:38.760 but listen to this, Okay. The floating addition to the 0:07:38.760 --> 0:07:42.760 city will consist of modular, interconnected floating panels spanning three 0:07:43.320 --> 0:07:45.840 six point three hectares, which is enough space for a 0:07:45.840 --> 0:07:47.360 community of twelve thousand people. 0:07:47.760 --> 0:07:50.640 Eventually, a lot all the items. 0:07:50.160 --> 0:07:51.800 Like the elite I'm going to go live on these 0:07:51.800 --> 0:07:54.200 floating cities while we wrot on land. 0:07:54.520 --> 0:07:57.600 Well, eventually it's going to expand to hundreds of thousands. 0:07:57.880 --> 0:07:59.520 That's like w'm clothing companies like, we're just going to 0:07:59.560 --> 0:08:00.520 start with the stre sizes. 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:03.520 Eventually, we'll extend our range in to plus sizes and 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:05.720 then decades have gone by and they haven't done it. 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:07.160 That happens, doesn't it. 0:08:07.960 --> 0:08:10.880 The one percenters are going to reside and is floating 0:08:10.920 --> 0:08:13.480 the city is while we struggle out here eating all 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:15.000 the cross We yeah. 0:08:14.840 --> 0:08:17.480 We're gonna be on the city flex. According to the UN, 0:08:17.520 --> 0:08:19.280 this is a bit sobering, but we'll just end on this. 0:08:19.800 --> 0:08:22.880 Over ninety percent of mega cities worldwide are vulnerable to 0:08:22.960 --> 0:08:26.040 rising sea levels. We cannot continue to build cities the 0:08:26.040 --> 0:08:27.720 way New York and Naerobi were built. 0:08:29.200 --> 0:08:30.960 Naerobi? What's Naarobi? 0:08:31.160 --> 0:08:32.280 Kenya? Is it? 0:08:35.720 --> 0:08:35.800 So? 0:08:35.880 --> 0:08:36.120 Yeah? 0:08:36.280 --> 0:08:39.040 If the planet succeeds, bijaq Ingles will have a decent 0:08:39.080 --> 0:08:43.080 claim to be the most significant architect in twenty first century. 0:08:43.160 --> 0:08:44.960 That sounds really awesome. I'm excited about that. 0:08:45.000 --> 0:08:48.320 We essentially are a floating city Australia. 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:50.199 Isn't every continent at floating city? 0:08:50.240 --> 0:08:51.040 By lest standard? 0:08:51.280 --> 0:08:51.520 Yes? 0:08:51.960 --> 0:08:54.839 This is flex and froomes on Kita. 0:08:54.960 --> 0:08:55.200 Now. 0:08:55.280 --> 0:08:57.680 Last week you asked if I would rather be happy 0:08:57.760 --> 0:09:00.000 or special? Not me personally, but you post the question 0:09:00.520 --> 0:09:02.839 would you rather be happy or special? I said happy 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:06.120 because I already feel special. You said special. We went 0:09:06.160 --> 0:09:09.320 into a bit of a tet a tet bit of 0:09:09.320 --> 0:09:12.240 a disc about it. We didn't come to a conclusion, 0:09:12.240 --> 0:09:14.040 but I don't think that's the point of those conversations. 0:09:14.040 --> 0:09:17.640 It's just vibes and no context. I've been doing this 0:09:17.679 --> 0:09:19.440 thing where I'm trying not to listen to stuff in 0:09:19.480 --> 0:09:21.920 the morning and just be with my thoughts, and I 0:09:21.960 --> 0:09:26.360 was thinking about whether or not there's a difference between 0:09:26.400 --> 0:09:30.640 being nice, kind, or good, and if I could distinctly 0:09:31.160 --> 0:09:34.040 figure out the difference for myself, and if I think 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:38.280 I am any So, if you had to say, what's 0:09:38.320 --> 0:09:43.240 the difference between the three, I have got this downpat nice, kind. 0:09:43.400 --> 0:09:43.679 Good. 0:09:44.520 --> 0:09:48.320 People who are nice are polite, front facing, polite. The 0:09:48.440 --> 0:09:54.040 mask is respectful, smile, eye contact, listening. If you're kind, 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:56.760 you are compassionate, you were doing things for your community. 0:09:57.400 --> 0:10:01.679 You are acting altruistically, if there is such a thing. Yeah, 0:10:01.720 --> 0:10:04.000 And if you are good. I think this is a 0:10:04.040 --> 0:10:08.760 religious concept to do with doing things that are good, 0:10:10.480 --> 0:10:13.720 like in the standard of some higher being or someone 0:10:13.720 --> 0:10:16.120 that you respect. I think people that are good are 0:10:16.160 --> 0:10:18.920 acting in ways that they think people they respect, God, 0:10:19.360 --> 0:10:22.480 a community leader or other people would think is good 0:10:22.559 --> 0:10:27.400 rather than bad. But I think good is one that 0:10:27.880 --> 0:10:30.800 is a very particular question that's good to ask people 0:10:30.840 --> 0:10:35.120 because it shows what their values are, in. 0:10:35.320 --> 0:10:37.680 The sense of do you think you're a good person? Yeah? 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:40.480 Do you you know that's a true question. 0:10:40.520 --> 0:10:40.880 I know. 0:10:43.679 --> 0:10:45.959 Enough flex mummy stories to know where this is going 0:10:46.160 --> 0:10:47.120 to set up every time. 0:10:47.720 --> 0:10:52.120 But of the three, would you which one would you say? 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:55.520 You're perceived as most often being good? Kind, or nice? 0:10:56.160 --> 0:10:57.960 Nice? And I would like to be nice. Nice is 0:10:57.960 --> 0:10:58.920 my number one favorite. 0:10:59.120 --> 0:11:01.679 Yeah, the rest of like, if you're kind, you're a suckass. 0:11:01.720 --> 0:11:04.440 If you're good, you don't trust yourself. But if you're nice, 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:07.800 that's something you can control. And yeah, it's just like surface, 0:11:08.040 --> 0:11:09.800 shallow level nice. 0:11:10.240 --> 0:11:10.920 But I like it. 0:11:10.960 --> 0:11:12.600 I like being nice and sweet. 0:11:13.160 --> 0:11:15.880 I like that a lot. You bring me, the critical thinker, 0:11:15.920 --> 0:11:16.480 I'm with you. 0:11:16.520 --> 0:11:20.400 I definitely think being good is about morality, like good 0:11:20.480 --> 0:11:23.080 or bad in a ethics and morality way, like it 0:11:23.120 --> 0:11:30.040 is not good to murder people, it is good to recycle. 0:11:30.400 --> 0:11:33.640 See, the bad is obvious, being bad is obvious, but 0:11:33.679 --> 0:11:34.960 the good isn't obvious. 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:37.319 Yes, because usually being good is just being not bad. 0:11:37.960 --> 0:11:40.520 And even then, what is that? I definitely think Being 0:11:40.760 --> 0:11:45.240 kind is about inner altruism, like ensuring that you are 0:11:45.320 --> 0:11:48.680 paying it forward for those around you with no expectation 0:11:48.800 --> 0:11:50.800 of a return of any kind or even acknowledgment. 0:11:51.200 --> 0:11:52.400 That's kindness. 0:11:52.880 --> 0:11:55.559 To be nice is to just be like, to uphold 0:11:55.640 --> 0:11:58.199 social norms, okay, like to say please and thank you. 0:11:58.280 --> 0:12:02.160 It's nice, you know, to you know, be friendly is 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:06.880 to be nice. And I think it's probably I don't know, 0:12:06.960 --> 0:12:07.640 it's my favorite. 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:10.320 Nice is your favorite? Yeah? 0:12:10.480 --> 0:12:14.520 Yeah, I do think nice is my favorite to do 0:12:14.880 --> 0:12:20.079 and to experience because something about it being fleeting and transactional, 0:12:20.920 --> 0:12:23.520 and something about the frequency of niceness feels good to 0:12:23.559 --> 0:12:26.280 me that you're going to encounter nice people doing nice 0:12:26.320 --> 0:12:30.640 things all day. And I think that sometimes it's nice 0:12:30.640 --> 0:12:34.120 not to dig too deep into someone's intentions about why 0:12:34.160 --> 0:12:35.800 they behaved in a way that was beneficial to you. 0:12:35.920 --> 0:12:37.000 Sometimes it's just nice to cop it. 0:12:37.520 --> 0:12:40.679 Remember we were speaking about you asked me whether I 0:12:40.720 --> 0:12:44.760 would prefer a waiter or a waitress who was, you know, 0:12:44.880 --> 0:12:47.440 really on it with the drink refiels and getting the 0:12:47.600 --> 0:12:51.080 order right, but they just had very snappy personality and 0:12:51.200 --> 0:12:53.800 just not that great to be around. Or would I 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:56.559 rather the person who forgot the order, was a bit 0:12:56.679 --> 0:12:59.320 sloppy on the drink refils, but was really like nice 0:12:59.360 --> 0:13:03.760 and charming the nice person, because it isn't that common 0:13:04.840 --> 0:13:08.040 to experience people being nice for no reason. 0:13:09.160 --> 0:13:11.240 See, I don't like that because they're being nice because 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:14.120 they're getting paid, Whereas if someone is being grumpy and 0:13:14.160 --> 0:13:15.600 serving me, I'm like, yeah, fair enough. 0:13:15.640 --> 0:13:19.600 But I disagree though, because in that instance, like being 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:21.440 nice isn't necessarily part of the job. 0:13:21.520 --> 0:13:23.640 They just need to get your food to you and 0:13:23.640 --> 0:13:24.520 put on the table. 0:13:24.720 --> 0:13:26.800 But then if I want them to do that job 0:13:26.840 --> 0:13:28.599 first and foremost, if they're not doing that job, the 0:13:28.720 --> 0:13:30.160 niceness doesn't serve me. 0:13:30.760 --> 0:13:33.160 Yeah, but I think it's like subjective. There are tons 0:13:33.200 --> 0:13:35.520 of I feel like in the hospitality industry, people are 0:13:35.520 --> 0:13:38.760 exceptional at their job or so so, and most people 0:13:38.840 --> 0:13:40.960 are so so right. I mean, I've never worked in 0:13:41.320 --> 0:13:43.200 front facing hospital like that, so I don't know how 0:13:43.240 --> 0:13:44.719 hard it is to remember an order or to get 0:13:44.720 --> 0:13:47.000 it done right. I'm sure it's more complicated than we 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:50.600 would like to believe. But I think that I like 0:13:50.679 --> 0:13:54.199 to experience niceness because often, like kindness isn't necessarily the 0:13:54.320 --> 0:13:55.080 nicest thing you can do. 0:13:55.120 --> 0:13:57.600 For someone like, you know, cruels be kind. 0:13:58.600 --> 0:14:03.480 Yeah, I feel like in some instances where like sometimes 0:14:03.520 --> 0:14:04.640 kindness is a little bit mean. 0:14:05.240 --> 0:14:07.040 Like I feel like some of the ways. 0:14:06.800 --> 0:14:10.439 My mum would have reminded me to do good things, 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:13.240 like you know, if you're not careful with your phone, 0:14:13.320 --> 0:14:16.360 you might lose it. The kind thing in that instance 0:14:16.440 --> 0:14:18.400 was for her to remind me that, like there are 0:14:18.400 --> 0:14:21.800 consequences to your actions. But her, like her tone sucked, 0:14:21.800 --> 0:14:23.400 and so I was like, that's not really nice. She 0:14:23.600 --> 0:14:26.520 wasn't focused on being nice. She was trying to instill 0:14:26.600 --> 0:14:29.160 like object permanence around me. 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:30.440 She's like stopped losing his stuff. 0:14:31.640 --> 0:14:35.040 Kind people piss me off. Oh I hate it, Like 0:14:35.080 --> 0:14:38.320 you're just making me feel bad for me. Accint, really, 0:14:38.360 --> 0:14:39.880 what kind of kindness are you thinking of? 0:14:40.360 --> 0:14:43.600 Kindness gives me like the person in school who would 0:14:43.680 --> 0:14:46.760 sell all of their chocolates on the chocolate fundraise that 0:14:46.880 --> 0:14:47.360 not eat. 0:14:47.200 --> 0:14:49.280 Them all, do you know what I mean? 0:14:49.360 --> 0:14:53.120 Like they're like girl scouts and like school captains of 0:14:53.680 --> 0:14:57.840 primary schools too much like more examples. 0:14:57.920 --> 0:15:00.480 I feel like you been through it. I have it. 0:15:00.520 --> 0:15:00.800 Ah. 0:15:00.880 --> 0:15:04.600 They are like really good at mass as well as English. 0:15:04.920 --> 0:15:10.320 Yes enough, double whammyh. 0:15:08.920 --> 0:15:11.640 I just prefer nicess. Like some of the most. 0:15:11.880 --> 0:15:14.840 Lot alive moments that I've ever had in my life 0:15:14.920 --> 0:15:15.760 are so simple. 0:15:15.880 --> 0:15:18.760 It's like somebody smiling at me on the street. I 0:15:18.880 --> 0:15:19.360 never forget. 0:15:19.360 --> 0:15:21.200 I've probably spoken about this before because it was such 0:15:21.200 --> 0:15:23.760 a formative experience in my life that was so simple. 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:28.360 Driving along the freeway in Melbourne and I looked to 0:15:28.400 --> 0:15:30.800 my left. I was like five, and there's this really 0:15:30.840 --> 0:15:33.520 hot guy and he looked at me and he smiled, 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:35.000 and I'll never forget it. 0:15:35.000 --> 0:15:36.040 It stuck with you since. 0:15:36.200 --> 0:15:39.520 Yeah, because I remember this really hot, like young twenty 0:15:39.560 --> 0:15:40.680 year old guy looking at me. 0:15:42.520 --> 0:15:48.200 Sounds terrible, but I thought, yep, that is so nice. 0:15:48.280 --> 0:15:50.880 It warmed my heart. And now whenever people smile at 0:15:50.920 --> 0:15:53.200 me on the street, I'm quite a smiley person, so 0:15:53.280 --> 0:15:55.040 I just I just don't I often don't realize that 0:15:55.080 --> 0:15:58.200 I'm smiling. So when someone smiles back, I'm like, try 0:15:58.200 --> 0:16:01.320 and do it even more. It's so it's so nice 0:16:01.840 --> 0:16:02.800 people smiling. 0:16:03.360 --> 0:16:08.160 No to young potentially ugly kids spilling chocolates for a 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:08.880 good cause. 0:16:10.160 --> 0:16:14.040 Ugly shout benches were running around the suburbs. 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:15.240 Feel bad. 0:16:15.560 --> 0:16:18.560 Yeah, I'm with you. Good on the bottom of the 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:21.440 list don't respond to it. What's good? 0:16:22.080 --> 0:16:22.800 Who knows? 0:16:22.920 --> 0:16:23.200 Really? 0:16:23.320 --> 0:16:26.920 I do like kind, but I will say that the 0:16:26.960 --> 0:16:31.120 only reason I know to be kind is anytime I'm 0:16:31.120 --> 0:16:35.480 being selfless, and that's not necessarily fun. It just feels 0:16:35.520 --> 0:16:39.120 good to treat people well, but like not my main priority. 0:16:39.640 --> 0:16:40.720 Like the kind thing for. 0:16:40.640 --> 0:16:43.120 Me to do is b d D always, so my 0:16:43.160 --> 0:16:44.160 friend's gonna have a good. 0:16:44.000 --> 0:16:48.560 Time, designated driver. That's the kind thing to do. It's 0:16:48.560 --> 0:16:49.600 also quite nice. 0:16:50.000 --> 0:16:50.560 I remember you. 0:16:50.600 --> 0:16:52.960 We were at an event a couple of months ago, 0:16:53.600 --> 0:16:56.240 and you were like, who needs a lift home? Someone's 0:16:56.240 --> 0:16:59.600 from Bondi, someone's from northern Beaches. You drive everyone home. 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:01.800 I almost took you up on the offer, but I 0:17:01.800 --> 0:17:04.280 thought I would be taking advantage of your kindness. 0:17:04.640 --> 0:17:05.640 But so you wouldn't though. 0:17:05.560 --> 0:17:07.840 Because in my instance, I think kindness is like a 0:17:07.880 --> 0:17:12.560 two parter, being willing to be willing, to be willing 0:17:12.640 --> 0:17:16.080 to extend yourself for others with no immediate return, and 0:17:16.119 --> 0:17:19.440 to learn how to accept kindness as well. That's because 0:17:19.480 --> 0:17:21.280 I think people don't respond well to kindness, and I 0:17:21.280 --> 0:17:24.080 think there's like some kind of something attached to it, 0:17:24.119 --> 0:17:25.840 like an ulterior motive, where if I do this thing 0:17:25.880 --> 0:17:26.480 for you, then I. 0:17:26.359 --> 0:17:28.240 Gotta do something in return. It's a blah blah blah. 0:17:28.280 --> 0:17:31.480 It's like no, sometimes it's just good to like keep 0:17:31.480 --> 0:17:32.320 the family close. 0:17:33.280 --> 0:17:37.560 As Drake said, you're listening to Flex and Frooms on Cada. 0:17:37.840 --> 0:17:40.000 I want to do a bit of a MythBuster. 0:17:41.200 --> 0:17:43.200 I tried to google this, I really did. 0:17:43.480 --> 0:17:45.640 I spent about two to three minutes to give or take, 0:17:45.680 --> 0:17:47.960 and I thought, there's no need because I know a 0:17:48.000 --> 0:17:52.240 Balley frequenter right here, one who's been quite recently. 0:17:52.280 --> 0:17:53.640 I could just ask you se. 0:17:53.600 --> 0:18:03.800 Maniac, sweety nice Cuda, Princess Changu Cutie barely breathing. 0:18:04.920 --> 0:18:07.280 So I was watching his TikTok and this guy is 0:18:07.320 --> 0:18:09.520 currently in Bali doing those classic you know. 0:18:09.640 --> 0:18:11.560 Here's what I got. Here's my hall. 0:18:11.680 --> 0:18:14.560 He's wayed in the day or whatever, and so he's standing, 0:18:14.640 --> 0:18:16.399 got his tripoted up in front of his bed, and 0:18:16.440 --> 0:18:19.080 he's standing holding all of his shopping bags for the day. 0:18:19.520 --> 0:18:21.600 So there's like a red one, a black and white 0:18:21.600 --> 0:18:25.000 striped one, a few miscellaneous ones. Looks like a regular 0:18:25.160 --> 0:18:28.040 hall to me until I scroll to the comments and 0:18:28.080 --> 0:18:31.399 people say, judging by the color bags you have, I 0:18:31.400 --> 0:18:33.399 can tell you paid way too much for that stuff. 0:18:34.400 --> 0:18:37.959 I said, what and it wasn't a once off comment. 0:18:38.240 --> 0:18:41.200