Speaker 1: Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frims. This is the Flex
Speaker 1: and Frooms catch up podcast. You're back with Flex and
Speaker 1: Frooms and FLEXI a bit of a personal question. Yeah,
Speaker 1: have you ever been in love with a friend? Yeah?
Speaker 1: How does it feel?
Speaker 2: Well, it's one of those situations where you don't intend
Speaker 2: to be friends and you end up friends and you're like, mmm,
Speaker 2: hold on, I think I may.
Speaker 1: Be in the friend zone. Here is a little story
Speaker 1: that i'd like your advice on. Great. I went out
Speaker 1: with my best friend on the weekend and he confessed
Speaker 1: that he's in love with me and has been for
Speaker 1: the past five years. He said he knows it's probably
Speaker 1: not reciprocal, but had to tell me. I brushed it
Speaker 1: off and told him that I would just end up
Speaker 1: hurting him, and continued with a night.
Speaker 2: Is that brushing it off? I would break your hair?
Speaker 1: I mean, it's in theme. He wants to hang out
Speaker 1: again this weekend, but I feel awkward about it. Now?
Speaker 1: What should I do to help make it less awkward?
Speaker 2: Is that assuming that she's not keen? Yeah, she's not keen. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I mean, look, I'll have a think about it, because
Speaker 2: I think from his perspective, I can understand wanting to
Speaker 2: just get off your chest and being like it's probably
Speaker 2: not reciprocal, but I don't need to deal with this
Speaker 2: on my own because I think what's happening is that
Speaker 2: he's shouldering the burden of it on his own and
Speaker 2: it should be shared. Because if he had told her
Speaker 2: from like day dot one year in, it would have
Speaker 2: been like, Okay, cool, we can't be friends, we can't
Speaker 2: be lovers.
Speaker 1: Let's just get it.
Speaker 2: But he's chosen to like shoulder the burden on his
Speaker 2: own for no clear reason, because she could be keen.
Speaker 1: I think that it's so hard are you to cry?
Speaker 1: I really feel for this guy. Look, I gather that
Speaker 1: they had been consuming out whole the time, which I
Speaker 1: think makes you, I don't want to say horny, but
Speaker 1: it definitely elevates feelings, if you know what what I mean.
Speaker 1: Like if you're a bit drunk and you're just decide
Speaker 1: or it's time for me to tell this person like
Speaker 1: he couldn't be that in love with you if it's been.
Speaker 2: Five years now, I disagree.
Speaker 1: Has this person been in a relationship, Well.
Speaker 2: Hasn't the person he's telling been in a relationship for
Speaker 2: five years?
Speaker 1: We need to check with the brook. So the girl
Speaker 1: has just gotten out of the relationship, but the guy
Speaker 1: hasn't been in.
Speaker 2: One exactly, so he was biding his time. Oh do
Speaker 2: you know what I think? Also remember those debates on
Speaker 2: the internet can girls and girls it would truly be friends?
Speaker 2: And I was like, oh, my God, of course. And
Speaker 2: then I realized that with most of my guy friends,
Speaker 2: I would date them. I find all of my friends attractive.
Speaker 2: Why don't you then, well, because it's been like it's
Speaker 2: been decided, we just aren't dating. It's like semantics at
Speaker 2: the point, there are very few of my guy friends
Speaker 2: where I wouldn't allow myself to see the possibility of
Speaker 2: something because I've picked you well, I like you as
Speaker 2: a person. I think you've got great qualities. I think
Speaker 2: you're attractive. I could definitely do some like subtle mind
Speaker 2: Judiam be like, let me just give it a sec
Speaker 2: let it simmer. But I will say I commend him,
Speaker 2: because what is that saying? Is it better to speak
Speaker 2: or die? Sometimes it's just better to like get things
Speaker 2: off your chest rather than like take them with you,
Speaker 2: because at the very least you've cleared your you've cleared
Speaker 2: space for something fresh. You know what could have been
Speaker 2: like killing him is anticipating that the weight would have
Speaker 2: been worth it. At this point, he could have waited forever,
Speaker 2: ten years, twenty years. The intensity of his feelings were
Speaker 2: growing and growing and growing with time and him misinterpreting
Speaker 2: all the time they spend together because he's in love
Speaker 2: with her and she has no idea. I think it's
Speaker 2: for the best.
Speaker 1: Is it better to speak or die?
Speaker 2: And I'm learning it's better to speak, But sometimes speaking
Speaker 2: feels like dying, That's.
Speaker 1: What I'm thinking. Yeah, well, rip to this guy. It
Speaker 1: does feel real for him.
Speaker 2: It is real on both of both ends. And we
Speaker 2: challenge the girl to hold space in her heart for him,
Speaker 2: to let him down easy, because this is how people
Speaker 2: turn into quote unquote nice guys. He's going to use
Speaker 2: this story as this villain origin. Well, I was in
Speaker 2: love with every here, didn't want me back.
Speaker 1: And last thing they say, never be reckless with people's
Speaker 1: hearts and never put up with people who are reckless
Speaker 1: with yours. You've been listening to The Flex and Froom's
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