WEBVTT - HELP! My Best Friend Is In Love With Me! 😱 ❤️

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frims. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch up podcast. You're back with Flex and

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<v Speaker 1>Frooms and FLEXI a bit of a personal question. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>have you ever been in love with a friend? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>How does it feel?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it's one of those situations where you don't intend

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<v Speaker 2>to be friends and you end up friends and you're like, mmm,

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<v Speaker 2>hold on, I think I may.

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<v Speaker 1>Be in the friend zone. Here is a little story

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<v Speaker 1>that i'd like your advice on. Great. I went out

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<v Speaker 1>with my best friend on the weekend and he confessed

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<v Speaker 1>that he's in love with me and has been for

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<v Speaker 1>the past five years. He said he knows it's probably

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<v Speaker 1>not reciprocal, but had to tell me. I brushed it

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<v Speaker 1>off and told him that I would just end up

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<v Speaker 1>hurting him, and continued with a night.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that brushing it off? I would break your hair?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's in theme. He wants to hang out

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<v Speaker 1>again this weekend, but I feel awkward about it. Now?

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<v Speaker 1>What should I do to help make it less awkward?

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<v Speaker 2>Is that assuming that she's not keen? Yeah, she's not keen. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, look, I'll have a think about it, because

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<v Speaker 2>I think from his perspective, I can understand wanting to

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<v Speaker 2>just get off your chest and being like it's probably

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<v Speaker 2>not reciprocal, but I don't need to deal with this

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<v Speaker 2>on my own because I think what's happening is that

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<v Speaker 2>he's shouldering the burden of it on his own and

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<v Speaker 2>it should be shared. Because if he had told her

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<v Speaker 2>from like day dot one year in, it would have

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<v Speaker 2>been like, Okay, cool, we can't be friends, we can't

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<v Speaker 2>be lovers.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's just get it.

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<v Speaker 2>But he's chosen to like shoulder the burden on his

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<v Speaker 2>own for no clear reason, because she could be keen.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that it's so hard are you to cry?

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<v Speaker 1>I really feel for this guy. Look, I gather that

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<v Speaker 1>they had been consuming out whole the time, which I

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<v Speaker 1>think makes you, I don't want to say horny, but

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<v Speaker 1>it definitely elevates feelings, if you know what what I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>Like if you're a bit drunk and you're just decide

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<v Speaker 1>or it's time for me to tell this person like

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<v Speaker 1>he couldn't be that in love with you if it's been.

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<v Speaker 2>Five years now, I disagree.

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<v Speaker 1>Has this person been in a relationship, Well.

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<v Speaker 2>Hasn't the person he's telling been in a relationship for

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<v Speaker 2>five years?

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<v Speaker 1>We need to check with the brook. So the girl

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<v Speaker 1>has just gotten out of the relationship, but the guy

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<v Speaker 1>hasn't been in.

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<v Speaker 2>One exactly, so he was biding his time. Oh do

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<v Speaker 2>you know what I think? Also remember those debates on

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<v Speaker 2>the internet can girls and girls it would truly be friends?

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, oh, my God, of course. And

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<v Speaker 2>then I realized that with most of my guy friends,

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<v Speaker 2>I would date them. I find all of my friends attractive.

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<v Speaker 2>Why don't you then, well, because it's been like it's

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<v Speaker 2>been decided, we just aren't dating. It's like semantics at

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<v Speaker 2>the point, there are very few of my guy friends

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<v Speaker 2>where I wouldn't allow myself to see the possibility of

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<v Speaker 2>something because I've picked you well, I like you as

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<v Speaker 2>a person. I think you've got great qualities. I think

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<v Speaker 2>you're attractive. I could definitely do some like subtle mind

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<v Speaker 2>Judiam be like, let me just give it a sec

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<v Speaker 2>let it simmer. But I will say I commend him,

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<v Speaker 2>because what is that saying? Is it better to speak

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<v Speaker 2>or die? Sometimes it's just better to like get things

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<v Speaker 2>off your chest rather than like take them with you,

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<v Speaker 2>because at the very least you've cleared your you've cleared

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<v Speaker 2>space for something fresh. You know what could have been

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<v Speaker 2>like killing him is anticipating that the weight would have

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<v Speaker 2>been worth it. At this point, he could have waited forever,

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<v Speaker 2>ten years, twenty years. The intensity of his feelings were

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<v Speaker 2>growing and growing and growing with time and him misinterpreting

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<v Speaker 2>all the time they spend together because he's in love

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<v Speaker 2>with her and she has no idea. I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>for the best.

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<v Speaker 1>Is it better to speak or die?

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm learning it's better to speak, But sometimes speaking

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<v Speaker 2>feels like dying, That's.

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<v Speaker 1>What I'm thinking. Yeah, well, rip to this guy. It

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<v Speaker 1>does feel real for him.

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<v Speaker 2>It is real on both of both ends. And we

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<v Speaker 2>challenge the girl to hold space in her heart for him,

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<v Speaker 2>to let him down easy, because this is how people

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<v Speaker 2>turn into quote unquote nice guys. He's going to use

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<v Speaker 2>this story as this villain origin. Well, I was in

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<v Speaker 2>love with every here, didn't want me back.

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<v Speaker 1>And last thing they say, never be reckless with people's

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<v Speaker 1>hearts and never put up with people who are reckless

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<v Speaker 1>with yours. You've been listening to The Flex and Froom's

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