WEBVTT - FULLSHOW! Laura and Hubby Matty J Have Reached Nana Status 👵 0:00:13.960 --> 0:00:14.760 Come on, here. 0:00:18.440 --> 0:00:19.760 We go Vibe. 0:00:19.960 --> 0:00:22.800 Hello, Hello, I love hum Day so much. 0:00:23.000 --> 0:00:26.080 Now, the reason why I am excited is because you 0:00:26.120 --> 0:00:28.040 guys know, I mean, Britt, you're a bit of a 0:00:28.040 --> 0:00:29.320 Bachelor fan as well, but I am. 0:00:29.600 --> 0:00:31.560 I am not a fan. I got dumbed. Yeah okay, 0:00:31.560 --> 0:00:33.479 well he worked out okay for me, So I am 0:00:33.560 --> 0:00:35.720 married and had two kids. I got dumb So. 0:00:35.680 --> 0:00:37.640 You're way more of a fan than I am. 0:00:37.720 --> 0:00:40.080 Yeah, but I believe in the love stories because I've 0:00:40.080 --> 0:00:42.400 seen it, I lived it. I am a case study 0:00:42.440 --> 0:00:43.680 of the Bachelor franchise. 0:00:43.800 --> 0:00:45.839 I still reckon you are Maddy j have just like 0:00:45.920 --> 0:00:48.440 signed a really long term contract to get the stats 0:00:48.479 --> 0:00:49.080 up for success. 0:00:49.120 --> 0:00:50.640 So I reckon you signed like a ten year contract. 0:00:50.680 --> 0:00:53.120 We'll see what happened to. We get a bonus every 0:00:53.120 --> 0:00:55.120 time we have a baby, every kid, Yeah, and every year. 0:00:55.320 --> 0:00:58.560 It's like it's like marriage. You know, when you sign a. 0:00:58.240 --> 0:00:58.720 What is it? 0:00:58.760 --> 0:01:02.000 But but when you get married, like a preen up? 0:01:02.480 --> 0:01:04.319 How long you say together? How many kids have? 0:01:05.080 --> 0:01:07.000 Except that our prenup is with Warner Brothers. 0:01:07.080 --> 0:01:07.880 Yeah okay. 0:01:07.920 --> 0:01:11.280 Well, the reason why I'm excited is because you might 0:01:11.319 --> 0:01:13.560 have heard that they have the Golden Bachelor in the States, 0:01:13.959 --> 0:01:17.880 but they're talking about bringing the Golden Bachelor to Australia, 0:01:18.000 --> 0:01:20.119 which is a type of reality TV. I can get 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:22.560 behind now. The Golden Bachelor. He in the States. His 0:01:22.640 --> 0:01:25.960 name's Jerry. He's seventy two years old. He is so hot, 0:01:26.240 --> 0:01:28.440 which sounds really weird saying that, but he is like 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:29.680 sexy daddy vibes. 0:01:29.800 --> 0:01:31.640 Yeah, and if you don't know what the Golden Bachelor is, 0:01:31.760 --> 0:01:35.000 it's the Bachelor for mature people. They've actually said mature 0:01:35.200 --> 0:01:38.280 twenty two mature women and Jerry, And Jerry's amazing. I'm 0:01:38.319 --> 0:01:40.080 obsessed with him. He would have been so hot when 0:01:40.120 --> 0:01:41.880 he was younger. This is a Bachelor. 0:01:41.920 --> 0:01:43.080 I'm really going to get behind now. 0:01:43.080 --> 0:01:45.959 We have a huge show coming up, but I am 0:01:46.000 --> 0:01:50.240 going to be talking very openly about my fertility journey. 0:01:50.360 --> 0:01:51.120 All right, let's go. 0:01:51.160 --> 0:01:53.440 The pickup starts now around Australia. 0:01:53.520 --> 0:01:55.920 I know my fertility journey's been something that I have 0:01:56.200 --> 0:01:59.600 spoken about quite a few times, particularly over this year. 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:02.120 For me, it's been quite spread out over the last 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:04.520 couple of years. It started probably two years ago when 0:02:04.560 --> 0:02:08.560 I did my first egg freezing cycle. Yeah, and I 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:11.760 am on my third cycle at the moment. So I 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:13.720 am thirty six years old for those that are playing 0:02:13.720 --> 0:02:18.000 at home, and I have quite low fertility and it's 0:02:18.040 --> 0:02:20.959 something that I never thought I would have because as women, 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:24.680 you know, you grow up thinking, don't fel pregnant, do't 0:02:24.680 --> 0:02:27.000 fall pregnantn't fetregnant, because that's what you're taught. And then 0:02:27.080 --> 0:02:28.520 all of a sudden the day comes where you're like, 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:30.600 time to feel pregnant and you can't. 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:33.920 Yeah, and an't no brit as well, like you recently 0:02:33.919 --> 0:02:37.639 did your second round of egg freezing and the results 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:39.880 weren't what you were hoping for and you were so 0:02:40.000 --> 0:02:41.480 vulnerable and sharing that with everyone. 0:02:41.600 --> 0:02:44.240 Well, yeah, so I did my second round only two 0:02:44.360 --> 0:02:48.080 months ago, now, I think. And you go through weeks 0:02:48.120 --> 0:02:51.240 of injections and woman injections and I ended up with nothing. 0:02:51.919 --> 0:02:53.520 And that was the slap in the face. 0:02:53.600 --> 0:02:55.920 That was where I was like, oh my god, like 0:02:56.000 --> 0:02:58.080 even with the help of science, and you've just paid 0:02:58.120 --> 0:02:59.680 all this money. And I know it's not about money, 0:02:59.720 --> 0:03:01.200 but that's what you think, right, and that's what the 0:03:01.320 --> 0:03:04.440 every day person thinks. I've just paid so much money. 0:03:04.520 --> 0:03:06.720 I have just put my body through hell for weeks. 0:03:07.080 --> 0:03:10.119 I've had an operation. I've had all of science's help 0:03:10.280 --> 0:03:12.760 to get what I need and I didn't get anything. 0:03:13.080 --> 0:03:17.560 And that was like, holy smokes, this this is serious, 0:03:17.680 --> 0:03:19.799 you know because the last year or so, I've always 0:03:19.800 --> 0:03:21.880 said it, and I've always joked about, oh, I've got 0:03:21.919 --> 0:03:24.280 my fertility is not great, you know, like it's probably 0:03:24.320 --> 0:03:24.640 gonna be. 0:03:24.680 --> 0:03:25.120 Hard for me. 0:03:25.639 --> 0:03:29.280 But then when you get zero, you're like, oh, this 0:03:29.400 --> 0:03:32.040 is actually really serious. This is not a this is 0:03:32.080 --> 0:03:34.639 not a my fertility is low, this is a far 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:38.400 out How am I ever going to have a britt 0:03:38.440 --> 0:03:39.000 You were saying you. 0:03:38.920 --> 0:03:41.360 Didn't want to keep talking about it, but your reasoning 0:03:41.440 --> 0:03:44.040 for not wanting to continue talking about it was more 0:03:44.080 --> 0:03:46.000 so because you were like, surely people are sick of 0:03:46.040 --> 0:03:48.320 hearing from it, Like, surely people are sick of hearing 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:51.320 my story. And I know for you, because you live 0:03:51.360 --> 0:03:53.480 it and you're in it, it feels like it's every 0:03:53.520 --> 0:03:54.160 single day. 0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:55.680 But I can't tell you how. 0:03:55.600 --> 0:03:57.960 Much of a comfort and how much it helps other 0:03:58.000 --> 0:04:00.760 women out there to hear someone's thinking about what it 0:04:00.800 --> 0:04:04.080 is that they're going through, because there's nothing harder than 0:04:04.120 --> 0:04:07.560 when you are trying to for pregnant or you are 0:04:07.560 --> 0:04:11.560 in that process yourself than just seeing happy pregnancy announcements 0:04:11.600 --> 0:04:14.000 and never hearing about all of the work that can 0:04:14.040 --> 0:04:17.480 go into finally getting pregnant for some people. And do 0:04:17.520 --> 0:04:19.440 you know what in saying that, like, we've had people 0:04:19.480 --> 0:04:21.560 calling through while you've been talking about this, Brett. 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:22.960 We've got Emma, Emma on the line. 0:04:23.360 --> 0:04:28.760 Hi, Emma, Hi guys, Hi Emma, Hi, welcome to pick up. 0:04:28.800 --> 0:04:31.520 I wasn't expecting not to call. Thank you. 0:04:31.560 --> 0:04:33.800 No, I was just calling to say a big thank 0:04:33.839 --> 0:04:36.560 you to you, Britt for putting it out there. Because 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:41.880 it's a pretty isolating situation going through IVF, and it's 0:04:41.880 --> 0:04:44.600 a scary topic that people don't really want to talk 0:04:44.600 --> 0:04:46.680 about or it's a bit too icky and uncomfortable for them, 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:48.599 so they shy away from it. 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:50.760 Are you going through it? Have you frozen? Are you? 0:04:50.839 --> 0:04:52.560 Where are you at your journey? 0:04:52.920 --> 0:04:57.800 So we did ovulation induction for and surgeries and all 0:04:57.839 --> 0:04:59.680 kinds of fun things for nearly three years. 0:05:00.080 --> 0:05:00.240 Wow. 0:05:01.440 --> 0:05:03.440 And then I do have a little one night to 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:06.400 go through a lot for him as well. But we 0:05:06.520 --> 0:05:11.760 started IVF in October because I have indemate races and 0:05:11.800 --> 0:05:16.640 polocistikovaries and adam iosis, you name it. I've got the trackector. 0:05:18.360 --> 0:05:20.960 But as you were going through your process, I was 0:05:21.000 --> 0:05:23.520 sort of going through mine and I started all the 0:05:23.560 --> 0:05:25.200 needles and I had to go back on your clips 0:05:25.200 --> 0:05:27.960 because I couldn't like inject them properly. They wouldn't go in. 0:05:28.279 --> 0:05:29.880 I was like, felt like I was stubbing myself with 0:05:29.920 --> 0:05:30.320 a dart. 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:32.440 Oh, I mean I still do. I did that today. 0:05:32.480 --> 0:05:34.560 I was like, get in. I was like, it wouldn't 0:05:34.520 --> 0:05:35.480 I couldn't break the skin. 0:05:35.720 --> 0:05:37.640 Also, you wouldn't think of this like, I mean even 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:40.400 not just from like an emotional support perspective, but from 0:05:40.480 --> 0:05:43.080 an actual physicality of like how do you do it? 0:05:43.120 --> 0:05:46.320 I think people underestimate how terrifying it might be to 0:05:46.320 --> 0:05:48.320 go home and have to inject yourself and do all 0:05:48.400 --> 0:05:50.760 the hormone stuff that goes along with the fystility. 0:05:51.600 --> 0:05:53.520 Yeah. And I had to psych myself up on that 0:05:53.560 --> 0:05:56.240 because my husband isn't like he's a placement, so he's 0:05:56.279 --> 0:05:59.760 not home to help, and the eye to really work 0:05:59.800 --> 0:06:02.040 my self up to do that first needle, and then 0:06:02.520 --> 0:06:05.440 to have trouble actually breaking the skin was like I 0:06:05.440 --> 0:06:07.799 don't know what to do. So then I remember Britad 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:08.760 had that problem. 0:06:08.480 --> 0:06:12.880 So I'll go watch brit restabber. So how do I 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:13.400 do this? 0:06:15.000 --> 0:06:17.000 Move back on that, Emma, how. 0:06:17.400 --> 0:06:19.360 Are the results for you now in terms of where 0:06:19.400 --> 0:06:20.560 your headed with your fertility? 0:06:21.360 --> 0:06:23.360 So they were touching go for a while. 0:06:23.400 --> 0:06:27.240 Their doctors were not happy with my response. I had lots, 0:06:27.279 --> 0:06:29.599 but they were little, so they were going to cancel 0:06:29.640 --> 0:06:32.440 my cycle. Then they changed their mind and they were like, yes, 0:06:32.480 --> 0:06:36.520 we'll keep doing it. So I got four eggs in 0:06:36.560 --> 0:06:41.240 the end who were Bible like mature. Yeah, so it's 0:06:41.320 --> 0:06:46.000 quite deflated by that. Yeah, and I'm turning thirty five 0:06:46.040 --> 0:06:48.599 in a couple of weeks, which is apparently ancient in 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:49.280 the fertility. 0:06:49.400 --> 0:06:51.839 Oh yeah, well, welcome to the geriatric world. 0:06:53.160 --> 0:06:54.760 That's the word they used, geriac. 0:06:55.080 --> 0:06:57.360 Yeah. But Emma, it sounds like you at least, yeah, 0:06:57.360 --> 0:06:59.080 it sounds like you at least got the one, which 0:06:59.320 --> 0:07:01.760 it's idea, I say, at least, and it's not. It's 0:07:01.839 --> 0:07:04.680 not amazing, but one is one is something to at 0:07:04.720 --> 0:07:06.680 least hold on to, and it's better than nothing. 0:07:06.880 --> 0:07:10.840 And I get my result today, So I have one 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:14.800 put back in and I've been waiting and being that 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:18.280 impatient person testing when I'm not meant to test. I 0:07:18.640 --> 0:07:20.120 get good results in a few hours. 0:07:20.760 --> 0:07:23.760 Emma, we are absolutely rooting for you and also brit Like, 0:07:23.840 --> 0:07:26.440 I think, keep sharing because as much as much as 0:07:26.480 --> 0:07:28.480 you think that it's an overshare, and as much as 0:07:28.520 --> 0:07:31.360 you might think that you are giving so much of yourself, 0:07:31.480 --> 0:07:32.280 it really does. 0:07:32.400 --> 0:07:34.080 These conversations really do help women. 0:07:34.280 --> 0:07:37.240 Yeah, and I really am just to tie up my update, 0:07:37.280 --> 0:07:40.720 I really am very optimistic about my results this time 0:07:40.760 --> 0:07:44.840 because my doctor has purposely put me on a much 0:07:44.920 --> 0:07:47.640 high doise of hormones, which which makes for a pretty 0:07:47.680 --> 0:07:50.440 chaotic couple of weeks for me, and it's gonna be 0:07:50.560 --> 0:07:53.840 very uncomfortable. But I'm optimistic that because that dose is 0:07:53.840 --> 0:07:54.640 so high, that. 0:07:55.000 --> 0:07:57.080 I'm gonna have a better outcome. Yeah, I went optimistic 0:07:57.160 --> 0:07:58.400 for you too, Emma. Thanks so much. 0:07:58.440 --> 0:08:01.400 Em Thank you, No, thanks, guys, thanks you. 0:08:01.840 --> 0:08:03.200 I mean, I know that we might have touched on 0:08:03.280 --> 0:08:06.080 geriatric and we've definitely spoken about the Golden Bachelor on 0:08:06.080 --> 0:08:08.000 today's show, so it seems like we've got a bit 0:08:08.000 --> 0:08:10.640 of a theme happening here. Now there is a list 0:08:10.680 --> 0:08:13.280 that's going viral online and I wanted to talk about 0:08:13.600 --> 0:08:16.720 all the things that you're not going to do now 0:08:16.720 --> 0:08:17.520 that you're an adult. 0:08:18.040 --> 0:08:21.480 We're back after these here on the pickup Brett. This weekend. 0:08:21.840 --> 0:08:23.760 It is I mean, believe it or not, it feels 0:08:23.760 --> 0:08:25.640 like it's snuck up so quickly. It is mine and 0:08:25.640 --> 0:08:27.360 Mattie Jay's wedding anniversary. 0:08:27.520 --> 0:08:28.440 Wait, so what day. 0:08:28.640 --> 0:08:31.400 It's on Saturday, but we're going to celebrate on Friday 0:08:31.440 --> 0:08:34.600 because the kids are in daycare. Now, I thought I 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:37.160 would surprise matt we've got the kids in daycare. I 0:08:37.280 --> 0:08:39.560 organized a babysitter, and my plan for the day was 0:08:39.559 --> 0:08:41.480 that we would go from doing something nice during the 0:08:41.559 --> 0:08:44.360 day to like having some cute time in the afternoon. 0:08:44.559 --> 0:08:46.840 Then we'd go out, we'd have some cocktails, we'd be young, 0:08:46.880 --> 0:08:49.320 we'd be fun, and then we'd go for a late 0:08:49.360 --> 0:08:51.280 dinner at eight thirty and then we would cruise on 0:08:51.320 --> 0:08:52.000 into the evening. 0:08:52.160 --> 0:08:55.960 This is very optimistic. You've planned like a fifteen hour day. 0:08:56.160 --> 0:08:57.960 Yeah, because I was like, we need to spend time 0:08:58.040 --> 0:09:01.000 together because we haven't and work has been so busy, 0:09:01.200 --> 0:09:03.240 We've not spent a lot of time together recently, and 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:05.520 I was like, we can stretch this out. So when 0:09:05.520 --> 0:09:07.320 I caught up the restaurant, they said, we've got two 0:09:07.400 --> 0:09:11.120 seatings available. We've got the six o'clock six fifteen or 0:09:11.440 --> 0:09:11.960 we've got. 0:09:11.800 --> 0:09:12.520 The eight thirty. 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:16.840 Now six fifteen felt very premature for a celebratory night. 0:09:16.800 --> 0:09:18.440 So I was like, we're going to do it. I 0:09:18.480 --> 0:09:22.439 booked in the eight thirty. You did what I planned everything. 0:09:22.760 --> 0:09:25.000 It was going to be a beautiful and cute night 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:27.360 for us to really spend some quality time together and 0:09:27.400 --> 0:09:29.520 you know, spend hours in each other's company, which we 0:09:29.520 --> 0:09:32.120 don't get to do very often. And I called Matt 0:09:32.320 --> 0:09:34.640 and I told him exactly what I thought we were 0:09:34.640 --> 0:09:36.600 going to do for our plans for dinner that night. 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:38.640 He turned around and he was like, he's like, wait, 0:09:38.640 --> 0:09:40.800 what was the what was the Was there no other options? 0:09:40.800 --> 0:09:41.679 And I was like, what do you mean? He's like, 0:09:41.760 --> 0:09:43.640 was there no other options for dinner? And I was like, yeah, 0:09:43.760 --> 0:09:45.880 there was a six o'clock booking seating. And he was like, 0:09:46.200 --> 0:09:48.960 what are you even talking about? He's like, why would 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:52.680 you book an eight thirty pm dinner? And I'm yes, 0:09:52.760 --> 0:09:55.280 but it's because it's no Okay, everyone's shaking ahead at 0:09:55.440 --> 0:09:56.040 this la. 0:09:56.920 --> 0:09:59.680 How old are you? Thirty seven? Yeah, you don't go 0:09:59.720 --> 0:10:00.800 out after eight pm. 0:10:01.000 --> 0:10:02.920 It's like the rule you hit thirty five and it's 0:10:03.240 --> 0:10:04.400 pre eight pm, mins. 0:10:04.559 --> 0:10:07.560 I understand this on a normal night, for being our 0:10:07.600 --> 0:10:09.760 wedding anniversary. I thought that this was a time where 0:10:09.760 --> 0:10:11.920 we could really kind of step outside our comfort zone. 0:10:11.920 --> 0:10:14.960 But apparently not, Flora. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter 0:10:14.960 --> 0:10:15.840 what the night is. 0:10:15.720 --> 0:10:18.120 Because at that age, your body won't digest food if 0:10:18.160 --> 0:10:19.199 you eat it. 0:10:19.480 --> 0:10:20.679 And there certainly won't be. 0:10:20.640 --> 0:10:23.600 Any you can't there'll be no hanky panky time happening 0:10:23.600 --> 0:10:24.840 if you're eating an eight thirty sitting. 0:10:24.920 --> 0:10:25.400 I'm sorry. 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:27.679 I think that that was like you broke a cardinal 0:10:27.720 --> 0:10:28.640 rule in a relationship. 0:10:28.760 --> 0:10:30.920 Well, he made me call the restaurant. I had to reorganize. 0:10:31.000 --> 0:10:33.800 It made me feel very just like we can't have 0:10:33.840 --> 0:10:34.440 fun anymore. 0:10:34.480 --> 0:10:37.280 I guarantee you, after a ten hour day of whatever 0:10:37.360 --> 0:10:39.560 fun quote unquote activities you've got planned for you and Matt, 0:10:39.600 --> 0:10:41.280 you're gonna want the six fifteen booking. 0:10:41.840 --> 0:10:42.480 Isn't it funny? 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:45.319 Thinking like when you really think, what are you too 0:10:45.320 --> 0:10:47.800 old for? Because that's definitely one right, Like I won't 0:10:47.800 --> 0:10:49.720 go out after eight pm, But there's so many things 0:10:49.720 --> 0:10:52.679 in life that like and if you guys are one 0:10:52.679 --> 0:10:54.480 of them. Thirteen one oh six five, let us know 0:10:54.600 --> 0:10:57.040 what you feel like you're too old for. But for me, 0:10:57.120 --> 0:11:00.440 I feel like I'm too old to have bad cheap 0:11:00.840 --> 0:11:04.200 tea towels towels. Oh yeah you are, and shit, yeah, 0:11:04.360 --> 0:11:06.200 now I know that makes me old, and I don't 0:11:06.240 --> 0:11:08.440 care your snob snob. 0:11:08.559 --> 0:11:11.360 If you buy a cheap aberdashery teatael, if you buy 0:11:11.360 --> 0:11:14.160 a cheap tetail, there's nothing worse. It doesn't wipe anything up. 0:11:14.240 --> 0:11:16.600 The water just like runs off it. Cheap sheets, You 0:11:16.600 --> 0:11:17.960 cannot get into a bed of cheap sheets. 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:19.920 I will spend my life savings on a good like 0:11:20.080 --> 0:11:22.400 one hundred billion thread Egyptian contract. 0:11:22.520 --> 0:11:24.720 But the thing is is this, This just creeps up 0:11:24.760 --> 0:11:27.400 on you right like all of a sudden, It just happens, 0:11:27.640 --> 0:11:30.439 and then you realize, actually, I'm old because once upon 0:11:30.480 --> 0:11:32.160 a time, at eight thirty, sitting for dinner would have 0:11:32.200 --> 0:11:33.160 actually been delightful. 0:11:33.200 --> 0:11:34.960 And now apparently we've passed the point. 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:37.040 We've got Liz, that's called in Do you think eight 0:11:37.120 --> 0:11:38.360 thirty too late for a dinner? 0:11:38.480 --> 0:11:40.840 Way too late? I'll like be home in bed. I 0:11:40.880 --> 0:11:42.040 want to eat and I want to be home at 0:11:42.040 --> 0:11:44.800 seven point thirty. I feel like I'm too old for 0:11:44.920 --> 0:11:48.280 small talk yes, I'm not having a bar of it, 0:11:48.360 --> 0:11:51.040 and especially at the supermarket, don't come at me with 0:11:51.120 --> 0:11:53.200 your small talk. I'm just at the point now where 0:11:53.240 --> 0:11:56.000 I wear at my air pod and I'm just like 0:11:56.080 --> 0:11:59.440 doing the quick little wave bit not having it. 0:11:59.480 --> 0:12:00.640 I was just about to say, do you put your 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:02.320 headphones in? But you know what happens when I put 0:12:02.320 --> 0:12:05.600 my headphones in, people still want to talk and they're like, oh. 0:12:05.480 --> 0:12:06.440 Just take it out for a second. 0:12:06.440 --> 0:12:08.800 And I take it out and I'm like, SERI saying, 0:12:08.840 --> 0:12:11.800 because mine are the noise canceloating ones too, so by 0:12:11.840 --> 0:12:14.000 the time you take it out and then you're losing 0:12:14.000 --> 0:12:14.480 more time. 0:12:16.559 --> 0:12:19.280 Okay, Well, then if anyone crosses Liz in the banana aisle, 0:12:19.280 --> 0:12:21.720 please steer clear, do not engage in a phone conversation. 0:12:22.040 --> 0:12:24.120 Just got a headphones in, you just keep on walking by. 0:12:24.280 --> 0:12:27.600 I'm taking from this, Laura that the general consensus is 0:12:27.640 --> 0:12:29.000 you made a grave arrow By book in. 0:12:29.000 --> 0:12:30.200 An eight thirty appointment. Yeah. 0:12:30.280 --> 0:12:32.480 I mean, I've taken that on board. And I feel 0:12:32.480 --> 0:12:34.880 like Matt was very He was like personally offended that 0:12:34.920 --> 0:12:36.319 I would have thought otherwise. 0:12:35.960 --> 0:12:38.040 Well, why don't we ask Matt because Maddie Jay and 0:12:38.120 --> 0:12:41.560 his partner in crime, Ash are coming into studio after 0:12:41.600 --> 0:12:43.559 the break to talk about November. 0:12:44.000 --> 0:12:45.840 We're back after these here on the pickup. 0:12:46.280 --> 0:12:49.440 All right, Britt, you might have seen some luscious mustaches 0:12:49.480 --> 0:12:51.440 walking around at the moment, and that is because we're 0:12:51.440 --> 0:12:54.000 in the thick of November. So you know, we're in 0:12:54.040 --> 0:12:56.520 the month of November and for anyone who doesn't know, 0:12:56.600 --> 0:12:59.480 November is our time to unite to take on mental health, 0:12:59.640 --> 0:13:04.000 side prevention, prostate cancer and testicular cancer and raise awareness 0:13:04.000 --> 0:13:09.360 for that. Now, we have two exceptionally luscious mustaches here 0:13:09.400 --> 0:13:10.520 in the studio today. 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:11.720 I believe it or not, it is not mine. 0:13:12.440 --> 0:13:13.960 Look, I mean I do alright on a you know, 0:13:14.000 --> 0:13:16.079 on a day as well. But we have my husband, 0:13:16.120 --> 0:13:18.280 Maddy Jay, who has been sporting one for the last 0:13:18.280 --> 0:13:20.679 few days. And we also have Ash wigs and they 0:13:20.679 --> 0:13:23.560 are from the podcast Two Doting Dads, and they are 0:13:23.559 --> 0:13:25.079 the ambassadors for November this year. 0:13:25.120 --> 0:13:26.280 Hi, guys, welcome to the studio. 0:13:26.600 --> 0:13:29.640 Thanks for having Okay, I need to you to be 0:13:29.679 --> 0:13:34.200 really honest, both of you. These mustaches look like they're 0:13:34.200 --> 0:13:36.120 being grown a lot longer than a week. 0:13:36.480 --> 0:13:38.079 Do you get a head start on November? 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:42.520 Mine's permanent so and look for me, I was like, 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:44.600 I'm not going to start again. 0:13:45.080 --> 0:13:46.280 A big. 0:13:48.400 --> 0:13:50.080 Reason behind that is because. 0:13:49.760 --> 0:13:52.640 It's I mean, it's I sort of feel pretty protected 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:55.679 behind my mustache and I wasn't willing to give up 0:13:55.679 --> 0:13:57.600 on it, which even for a moment. 0:13:57.320 --> 0:13:59.599 Which is part of the reason why I wanted to 0:13:59.600 --> 0:14:01.520 get ahead head start. And I have copped a lot 0:14:01.520 --> 0:14:04.160 of slack for this that people were saying that you 0:14:04.280 --> 0:14:07.040 have to clean shave by November one and then start 0:14:07.080 --> 0:14:07.959 growing and I'm. 0:14:07.800 --> 0:14:08.640 Like, shut up, cat. 0:14:08.640 --> 0:14:10.080 Do you know what though, this is what people don't 0:14:10.080 --> 0:14:12.400 know about you, Matt. You've got really weak facial hair, 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:16.960 and so you need like just like personality a month 0:14:17.080 --> 0:14:19.520 leader at this moment spoken like. 0:14:19.520 --> 0:14:20.280 A true co host. 0:14:20.720 --> 0:14:22.440 You need like a month lead up to get that 0:14:22.520 --> 0:14:24.240 sort of like fullness to your upper lip. 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:27.000 I have had a lot of compliments though, people have 0:14:27.320 --> 0:14:30.640 literally stopped in their tracks and looked at me and gone, wow, 0:14:30.720 --> 0:14:31.760 that is impressive. 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:34.840 What a slug, which is it's really great to hear. 0:14:35.040 --> 0:14:38.320 I think whether if you're clean shave or you're sporting mustache, 0:14:38.320 --> 0:14:40.880 what's important is that you've got the mustache, because then 0:14:40.920 --> 0:14:42.440 we start talking about it, right. 0:14:42.520 --> 0:14:45.160 How funny that there's actually it's so competitive though, like 0:14:45.200 --> 0:14:47.800 you're raising money for charity and awareness, but people are 0:14:47.800 --> 0:14:50.160 still like you had a two day head start. But 0:14:50.200 --> 0:14:53.800 the statistics are alarming. Around ten point eight million globally 0:14:54.040 --> 0:14:58.160 facing life with prostate cancer diagnosis. Testicular cancer is the 0:14:58.160 --> 0:15:02.000 most common cancer around young men. One man dies by 0:15:02.120 --> 0:15:05.560 suicide every minute of the day, which is which is 0:15:06.200 --> 0:15:09.440 crazy to concerned, crazy statistics, very concerning. 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:12.280 What made you guys want to jump on board? 0:15:12.840 --> 0:15:16.880 Well, for me, since since having kids, my mental health 0:15:16.920 --> 0:15:20.720 has been a priority. I mean I was suffering very 0:15:20.760 --> 0:15:23.640 early on and thankfully found my voice and was encouraged 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:26.040 to talk and glad I did because it probably saved 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:26.720 my life in the end. 0:15:27.080 --> 0:15:29.080 Ash, Do you mean that you were struggling early on 0:15:29.600 --> 0:15:31.880 with adapting to a new lifestyle being a dad. 0:15:31.840 --> 0:15:34.760 Or yeah, yeah, I mean I always say like, I 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:37.000 can't remember what my life was like before kids, but 0:15:37.040 --> 0:15:41.520 since having kids, early on really struggled and now I've 0:15:41.560 --> 0:15:44.400 got two happy and healthy kids and the relationship between 0:15:44.440 --> 0:15:46.800 them is so much better. That my wife encouraged me 0:15:46.840 --> 0:15:49.720 to go and you know, open my mouth and hopefully 0:15:49.840 --> 0:15:51.920 just me being able to tell people that I can 0:15:51.920 --> 0:15:54.720 get one person to do the same and potentially save 0:15:54.760 --> 0:15:56.160 their lives if possible. 0:15:56.360 --> 0:15:57.480 Was it challenging for you? 0:15:57.520 --> 0:15:59.200 And I don't mean in terms of mental health, but 0:15:59.240 --> 0:16:01.480 I mean in terms of speaking about it, because I 0:16:01.520 --> 0:16:04.320 mean traditionally that's what we see right that men. We 0:16:04.440 --> 0:16:07.280 know that there is a huge issue with mental health, 0:16:07.320 --> 0:16:09.400 but it is the fact that men have not been 0:16:09.440 --> 0:16:12.480 conditioned to talk about their feelings, to talk about what 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:15.520 they're experiencing. And I know that we can wear I 0:16:15.520 --> 0:16:17.560 mean we can't, but you guys can wear a mustache. 0:16:17.600 --> 0:16:20.440 That really kind of brings these conversations to the forefront. 0:16:20.680 --> 0:16:23.200 But as ambassadors you have to have them. Is that 0:16:23.280 --> 0:16:25.080 not something that's a bit scary to do? 0:16:25.760 --> 0:16:26.000 Yeah? 0:16:26.360 --> 0:16:28.920 Early on, like the conversation, I always thought like, oh, 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:31.640 what's more important is like my wife's health, my kid's health. 0:16:31.720 --> 0:16:36.680 But you know, putting myself first was hard. But the 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:39.720 encouragement for my wife and family and knowing that I 0:16:39.800 --> 0:16:43.960 wasn't getting any better and everyone else was Yeah. I 0:16:44.040 --> 0:16:46.960 just went and spoke to a GP and felt really empowered. 0:16:47.000 --> 0:16:49.640 Actually, in this relationship, I've definitely got it a lot 0:16:49.680 --> 0:16:52.600 easier than Ash. I'm just like I'm growing the mustache poorly, 0:16:52.720 --> 0:16:55.360