Speaker 1: Come on all the week.
Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, I fam, how are we?
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Speaker 2: Do you know I'm particularly good this week?
Speaker 3: Do you know?
Speaker 1: Why?
Speaker 4: Is it?
Speaker 2: Because my mother in law has arrived?
Speaker 4: And I think mother in law's get a bad stick
Speaker 4: because I'm so looking forward to going home tonight to
Speaker 4: a clean house and.
Speaker 2: Do a fridge full of food. She's staying with us
Speaker 2: for two weeks.
Speaker 3: Did out your mother in law a couple of days
Speaker 3: ago for pre her weird holiday pre cooking thing that
Speaker 3: she does, but that cooks lasagna on a plane and
Speaker 3: then takes it to a holiday.
Speaker 4: It's weird meal prepping for a holiday. Absolutely fine for
Speaker 4: her to meal prep my fridge, though, I have no
Speaker 4: problems with that.
Speaker 1: Wait, you were telling us that she wants you and
Speaker 1: Mad to have baby, so she just brings around trays
Speaker 1: of oysters and dark chocolate.
Speaker 4: The last time I saw Ellie, she said to me,
Speaker 4: I'm gonna come and live with you so that you
Speaker 4: can have another baby and I'll take care of it.
Speaker 1: Okay, do you know.
Speaker 3: What the problem is? Then? Why don't she change the mind?
Speaker 3: What did you commit to it. Yeah, and then she's like,
Speaker 3: don't want anymore and she moves to.
Speaker 1: And you've got the.
Speaker 5: Three kids.
Speaker 1: Yeah, too much, handsmade tails.
Speaker 3: We have someone really interesting on today. I want to
Speaker 3: tell you about them. What it's a really interesting guest.
Speaker 3: Her name's Taya and she is one quarter of I
Speaker 3: can't say a couple, but she's in a relationship with
Speaker 3: four people, so two couples. They live together, they have
Speaker 3: kids all together. No one knows who the father.
Speaker 2: Is of the kids.
Speaker 3: It's a lucky dip.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's polyamorous, but but it's together.
Speaker 3: Well, it's closed polyamory because it's two couples. That.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's Look.
Speaker 3: We're going to get into it. She's gonna call in
Speaker 3: and we've got a lot of questions.
Speaker 1: Laura's mother in law involved in that situation.
Speaker 3: Also dream she's trying to get Laura to that farm
Speaker 3: because Ellie Ellie will cook for them.
Speaker 1: Got it. Okay, that's on the way here at the
Speaker 1: pickup around Australia for your Wednesday vo It's Wednesday, Avaux, Britt,
Speaker 1: Laura and Mitch. Here listen. If you stuck on a
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Speaker 4: Imagine taking a wrong turn out in the borstion in
Speaker 4: the middle of nowhere. Then your car gets bogged and
Speaker 4: you're lost. Oh no, and you're completely lost. Your cell
Speaker 4: phone doesn't work and you can't be found for six days.
Speaker 1: Sounds like I would last six days, I'd last about
Speaker 1: six hours.
Speaker 4: Well, this happened to an Australian woman somewhere out in
Speaker 4: the deep south of Victoria. She went out on a
Speaker 4: drive she thought she was heading towards some destination, took
Speaker 4: a wrong turn, got lost in the wilderness, and then
Speaker 4: didn't get found for six days. However, it's not the
Speaker 4: being lost part. It's how she managed to survive in
Speaker 4: her car. That's the real highlight of this story. Have
Speaker 4: a listen to this.
Speaker 5: A woman lost in Victoria's high country for nearly a
Speaker 5: week has spoken about her ordeal. Lilian Ip was bogged
Speaker 5: for six days in bushland in Mission, Missa, with only
Speaker 5: lollies and a juice fox and wine to survive.
Speaker 4: That sounds like my dream isn't what Yeah away from
Speaker 4: my children for six whole days.
Speaker 3: I get bogged in my laund room all the time,
Speaker 3: and I just live on follies and wine.
Speaker 1: Are we not sure that she did this on purpose?
Speaker 1: Did she want to be saved? Also?
Speaker 4: Who's driving around with just maybe she was heading to
Speaker 4: a dinner party? Who's driving around the row bottle of
Speaker 4: wine is floating around.
Speaker 5: In their car? No?
Speaker 2: I did see this. She was taking it to her mom.
Speaker 2: It was a present for a month. Oh bless, how
Speaker 2: do you get that loss?
Speaker 3: Though?
Speaker 2: On a trip to your mom with a bottle of
Speaker 2: wine and some lollies?
Speaker 3: She was actually going on a bush ad bench on
Speaker 3: the way to my mum must live out there somewhere,
Speaker 3: because I know that she was going to see like
Speaker 3: a water for a Laura dam or something and then
Speaker 3: take the white to her mom and she got bogged
Speaker 3: on the way.
Speaker 2: She brought some supplies.
Speaker 1: Hold on, did she ration gummy bears?
Speaker 4: Like?
Speaker 1: Did she put them out on the dash of the
Speaker 1: car and go the green ones of a Monday, then
Speaker 1: the yellow ones of for Tuesday, and then I'll have
Speaker 1: a sip of wine on Wednesday? Because she could have
Speaker 1: been there for months.
Speaker 4: Also, though I have been told and I feel like
Speaker 4: I've now been lied to throughout my whole life that
Speaker 4: wine's very dehydrating, but that's the only thing she's sustaining
Speaker 4: herself on. Also, the other thing that she said is
Speaker 4: that she is allergic to wine, which makes it so
Speaker 4: much funnier because I truly think we're all allergic to wine.
Speaker 2: It's caught a hangover, Isn't it funny?
Speaker 4: Though?
Speaker 3: You make a good point, Mitch, because if you're lost
Speaker 3: and you don't know when someone's coming, Like if.
Speaker 2: You have a bag of lollies, do you just starve.
Speaker 3: Yourself and be like, I better only have a quarter
Speaker 3: of a lollier day in case it takes a month. Yeah,
Speaker 3: Or you're like I'm going to age six days, I
Speaker 3: could probably hit a quarter of.
Speaker 1: The package one today to tomorrow.
Speaker 4: You would have absolutely no idea, So yeah, I mean,
Speaker 4: I would just assume I was going to get found
Speaker 4: prior to six days.
Speaker 2: I'd probably eat them on the first hour.
Speaker 1: Apparently, when she was found, the one thing that she
Speaker 1: was dying for the most was a cigarette. Apparently she
Speaker 1: asked the sees if she could light up a cigarette
Speaker 1: and helicopter.
Speaker 3: She's going through with drawals as well, could you imagine
Speaker 3: allergic to wine in the bush?
Speaker 2: No food with draws? What a nightmare.
Speaker 4: I think it's more because like the perfect little you know,
Speaker 4: the way to round that out, Siggies, some wine and
Speaker 4: some Lolly's.
Speaker 2: That's a Saturday night right there.
Speaker 1: That's so good. This is the most classic Australian missing
Speaker 1: person ever in America. They're like, I was lost in
Speaker 1: the Rockies for months and I had to live on hyaenemy.
Speaker 3: I had to chop my arm off to get out,
Speaker 3: and here were like I only had wine and I
Speaker 3: didn't have a diary.
Speaker 4: I mean, who knew that a bottle of wine and
Speaker 4: a chop a chop could save a life?
Speaker 2: She's alive.
Speaker 3: I'm glad she's well.
Speaker 1: It's an important PSA. Everyone all right's stand by. Next
Speaker 1: on the show, we have a very very interesting guest
Speaker 1: that I'm not really sure about. Laura, I know you
Speaker 1: and I have been on the fence with this.
Speaker 4: I'm not not sure about. I just think it is
Speaker 4: so different how they are living their relationship life.
Speaker 2: I'm about it.
Speaker 3: I can't wait to talk to her.
Speaker 1: Our next guest is in a polyquad relationship, two couples
Speaker 1: coming together, multiple kids, one roof. It's interesting and she'll
Speaker 1: join us next on the pickup. It's the pickup around
Speaker 1: the country. Wednesday afternoon, Britt, Laura and Mitch here thanks
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Speaker 3: I have a guest on the line for us to
Speaker 3: talk to you today. I'm super intrigued by her. Her
Speaker 3: name is Taya Heartless and she is coming to us
Speaker 3: from the state. She's in a polyamorous couple in a
Speaker 3: close quad.
Speaker 1: Tya joins us now she's here. Welcome to pick up.
Speaker 2: Ya, Hi, hi okay.
Speaker 4: I have so many questions about how you originally navigated this.
Speaker 4: So how did you even meet and how did the
Speaker 4: conversation even come up that maybe we should do this
Speaker 4: all together under one roof.
Speaker 6: Yeah. So, we were both previously married to our current
Speaker 6: legal spouses. My husband and I decided to get on
Speaker 6: an app. We were just looking for something physical, not
Speaker 6: well versed in polyamory, didn't really know anything about polyamory
Speaker 6: at all, to be honest. We met Tyler and Alicia,
Speaker 6: and we were actually the first people that they met
Speaker 6: up with. We met one night and we had made
Speaker 6: plans for the following weekend. The first night we met,
Speaker 6: and then we just couldn't get enough of each other.
Speaker 6: We kept making more and more plans and spending more
Speaker 6: and more time together. Honestly, we didn't know what it
Speaker 6: was at first, but we started developing feelings and lots
Speaker 6: of trial and error, lots of communication, but ultimately found
Speaker 6: ourselves really to a polyamorous quad. So it's kind of
Speaker 6: a square with no innercept. Everybody is straight except for myself,
Speaker 6: so that's where there's no intersections. But yeah, we kind
Speaker 6: of figured it out as we went along, but we
Speaker 6: were not we none of us were polyamorous previous to this.
Speaker 1: Wow, So tell you so quickly. So it's yourself and Sean.
Speaker 1: You're a couple prime, and then Alicia and Tyler a
Speaker 1: couple and you coexist, so the men don't. They're not
Speaker 1: in a relationship together. It's yourself, and then it would
Speaker 1: be Tyler and then Alicia and Sean, and then you
Speaker 1: swap and change around.
Speaker 6: Right, and absolutely we consider each other metamoras the non
Speaker 6: romantic relationships. I consider Alicia my partner. She's just my
Speaker 6: non romantic partner. I have to make decisions with her,
Speaker 6: I have to communicate with her. I co parent with her,
Speaker 6: so I very much consider her my partner, but she
Speaker 6: is straight, so there's no romantic side of it.
Speaker 3: So Teya, how does it work in terms of when
Speaker 3: you set the rules up of when you can sleep
Speaker 3: with the other partner? How does that work and do
Speaker 3: you set these strict boundaries?
Speaker 6: Yeah, so originally we would when we first moved in together,
Speaker 6: we would spend two nights with our married spouse and
Speaker 6: then one with the other and we would kind of
Speaker 6: rotate that way. But because of work schedules and just
Speaker 6: general life, nobody was getting enough time with each other.
Speaker 6: It just wasn't We weren't getting the time that we wanted.
Speaker 6: So we reevaluated pretty quickly and we just since then
Speaker 6: have done every other night. The guys switch rooms. It
Speaker 6: was started with the girls until we had babies, and
Speaker 6: now it's just easier for the guys to switch rooms
Speaker 6: back and forth and they just switch every other night.
Speaker 4: Well, speaking of babies, how many children do you have
Speaker 4: between you that you all parent together.
Speaker 6: We have four currently going on five.
Speaker 4: So congratulations, you're pregnant, right, congratulations.
Speaker 6: Tyler and Aisha had two older kids when we met
Speaker 6: them that were three and four at the time, and
Speaker 6: then we've had I've had one and Alicia has birthed
Speaker 6: one since we've been Again.
Speaker 1: We don't know who the father is, including your.
Speaker 6: It's one of two choices, but.
Speaker 1: We've married and down.
Speaker 6: We didn't regulate biology, and you know, people are always
Speaker 6: concerned with medical history, but we went through I mean,
Speaker 6: we have the relevant medical histories and there was no
Speaker 6: concerns that popped up. So for us, this was just
Speaker 6: the best way to kind of leave things just kind
Speaker 6: of equal and not have any discrepancies and just raise
Speaker 6: the kids as they are.
Speaker 4: What happens when the kids get a bit older and
Speaker 4: what if they become curious and they want to know
Speaker 4: who is their biological dad.
Speaker 6: We've had that conversation and for us it didn't matter,
Speaker 6: and it doesn't matter why they're young, right, but if
Speaker 6: they express interest in wanting to know their biology specifically,
Speaker 6: then we're more than happy to take that journey with them.
Speaker 4: Do you ever worry about them being bullied in school
Speaker 4: or their friends or their friends families not understanding the
Speaker 4: arrangement that you have and that impacting them at school
Speaker 4: at all.
Speaker 6: We're going on four years together now and we have
Speaker 6: introduced ourselves as a blended family to their teachers every year.
Speaker 6: We've never had any problems with school wise. They've even
Speaker 6: switched schools since we've been together, and they haven't had
Speaker 6: any issues with bullying. We've obviously lost adult friends and
Speaker 6: adult family members, which has impacted them to an extent,
Speaker 6: but we would much rather them not accept us rather
Speaker 6: than our kids grow up and choose an alternative lifestyle
Speaker 6: and then have to go through that with grandparents or
Speaker 6: friends or families. So you know, it's it's not easy,
Speaker 6: but so far it hasn't affected the kids' relationships and
Speaker 6: we're we're rather social when it comes to hosting events
Speaker 6: and having kids over and stuff, and we've never had a.
Speaker 2: Problem in your relationship. Are there any levels of jealousy?
Speaker 2: Is there any?
Speaker 3: Are you ever like, Oh, yeah, I think you're spending
Speaker 3: too much time? Are you giving too much attention to one?
Speaker 1: How do you balance that?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 6: So jealousy is a human emotion. We are absolutely not
Speaker 6: immune to jealousy at all, and over time it's definitely
Speaker 6: gotten easier, but it still comes up. Absolutely, there's I
Speaker 6: think that we just view it differently. So our whole
Speaker 6: view is that if you're feeling jealous like communication is huge,
Speaker 6: So just even if it's irrational, Hey, I'm feeling some
Speaker 6: type of way. It's not your fault, but this is
Speaker 6: what I'm feeling, and say, you know, Sean has been
Speaker 6: spending a lot of time with Alicia and they have
Speaker 6: a date night coming up, and I feel jealousy surrounding that. Ultimately,
Speaker 6: I would rather plan a date night for us and
Speaker 6: add to that rather than take away his date night
Speaker 6: with her. So that's kind of how we approach it
Speaker 6: is like, what am I missing? Do I need more
Speaker 6: time with you? Do I what kind of need is
Speaker 6: not being fulfilled for me that I can get from you,
Speaker 6: so that you can still maintain this relationship and what
Speaker 6: you have with her, and also add to our relationship
Speaker 6: and fulfill my needs.
Speaker 3: I have a billion other questions, So I hope we
Speaker 3: can speak to you in another time. But thanks for
Speaker 3: sharing your story.
Speaker 2: I absolutely love hearing it.
Speaker 6: You're so welcome. Thank you for having me all.
Speaker 1: Right, everybody stand by. I have discovered that my mother
Speaker 1: has been keeping a part of me in a little
Speaker 1: box in the garage. My entire life sounds like, you
Speaker 1: know what, it's Jeffrey Dahma in a loving way. It's real.
Speaker 1: It's a part of me that I didn't know existed
Speaker 1: in a garage, my mother's house. I'll tell you what
Speaker 1: it is next. Welcome to the pickup, Britt Laura Mitchia.
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Speaker 1: Chemists Warehouse Great savings every day, ladies. I've been spending
Speaker 1: some time at my family home, hanging out with fam
Speaker 1: so important. My mom's just had her sixtieth so I've
Speaker 1: been at home in my home I grew up in,
Speaker 1: very wholesome.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I love my family, you know, real family.
Speaker 2: You have a wonderful family, beautiful people.
Speaker 1: I adore them all so much. And my family home
Speaker 1: where my little sister still lives. I was looking through
Speaker 1: my old bedroom stuff. You know, when you go through
Speaker 1: you want to get some stuff.
Speaker 2: Yeah, a bit of a nostalgia as well.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I came across my baby box in the garage, which
Speaker 1: is that's actually quite cute. It's a gap box. So
Speaker 1: my mum clearly bought me some gap shoes as a baby.
Speaker 1: It's a little bat baby Gap shoe box and my
Speaker 1: teddy Bear is in there, Blue Teddy Bear. My hospital
Speaker 1: spend is in there.
Speaker 2: Oh, that's so I wish I was that sentimental.
Speaker 1: It's beautiful. And I've got notes that the doctor's journal
Speaker 1: and the first steps in the first walk, and my
Speaker 1: mum is very sentimental. She's beautiful. I was two months premature.
Speaker 1: I was in hospital for the first three months of
Speaker 1: my life. I was really really unwell. They didn't think
Speaker 1: I was going to make it. I was flown to
Speaker 1: hospital to hospital. You wouldn't look at me and think
Speaker 1: that now, I would not think for me. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: making up the lost time here. I'm gigantic and I'm
Speaker 1: going through this baby box and going, this is gorgeous.
Speaker 1: I have this. I want to do this for my
Speaker 1: future kids. And I get to the very bottom of
Speaker 1: the box. I lump out all these books and I
Speaker 1: find a Fisherman's Friend's tin, a vintage Fisherman's Friends tin.
Speaker 1: I'm born in nineteen ninety five, so this is a
Speaker 1: rusted on tin and I go, what's it? What could
Speaker 1: possibly be in here? And it's got a little bit
Speaker 1: of twine wrapped around, and I go, this so what
Speaker 1: is it? He's beautiful. So I unwrapped the twine. I
Speaker 1: opened it. He's rusted on Fisherman's friend tin. I gotta
Speaker 1: pull it open because it hasn't been opened in twenty
Speaker 1: seven years. And inside this Fisherman's Friend's tin is a
Speaker 1: swab of cotton wool, and sitting on top of it
Speaker 1: is what looks to be a shriveled piece of prawn,
Speaker 1: like a little bit of like dried onion, you know,
Speaker 1: they put it on Vietnamese dishes like it looked like
Speaker 1: a little bee in spring, the Spanish onion. So I
Speaker 1: bring it up to mom, I go, mom, what is
Speaker 1: this in my baby box? What is is? What do
Speaker 1: you think? What have you kept? And she said on me,
Speaker 1: that's your foreskin?
Speaker 4: What no, no, no, no, my.
Speaker 7: Mom has kept my foreskin in a Fisherman's Friends mintin
Speaker 7: Did you ask her why, like, of all the memories,
Speaker 7: of all the things that she wanted to keep to
Speaker 7: immortalize your childhood.
Speaker 1: Why that she's embarrassed? She's so embarrassed. There was also
Speaker 1: teeth and like a little bit of my hair. I
Speaker 1: think they're wondering in case I die, they could bald
Speaker 1: like a fake, Mitch.
Speaker 3: I don't think keeping the foreskins actually think like no,
Speaker 3: don't get me wrong. I love this with Michelle, like
Speaker 3: she's taking sentimental to the next level. I'm surprised to
Speaker 3: fit in a little studdying tin, Mitch. I would have
Speaker 3: thought you'd be saying big, like a shoe box or something.
Speaker 1: It was the size of the hole. Who out know
Speaker 1: this thing is roll off? You know, you know this
Speaker 1: is a perfect exclation. You know, when you peel off
Speaker 1: like a toenail and it kind of curls like springs
Speaker 1: back and curls up. That's what it looks like.
Speaker 4: Because it probably looks like a tiny little bit of
Speaker 4: beef jerky.
Speaker 2: You're slightly disgusting that.
Speaker 1: It was unfortunately really small like.
Speaker 4: It was, because over time it's twenty eight year olds dehydrated,
Speaker 4: shriveled up.
Speaker 2: But you're also a baby because I am not sentimental.
Speaker 2: I have not held on too many things for the kids.
Speaker 2: And it's like I kind of look back.
Speaker 4: And when you say you've got this beautiful shoe box
Speaker 4: of stuff, I wish I had been more sentimental, but
Speaker 4: I did keep You know, when you have a baby
Speaker 4: and they clamp down on the umbilical cord and then
Speaker 4: they chop it off, so that falls off after a
Speaker 4: couple of weeks or four weeks or something. And I
Speaker 4: did keep both the girls on bbilical cords, but I
Speaker 4: haven't gotten around to putting it in anything, so they're
Speaker 4: just floating around. We've got that like you know, you
Speaker 4: know how everyone's got one of those drawers, and it's
Speaker 4: the junk draw There's two.
Speaker 2: Umbilical cords in that role.
Speaker 1: I don't know who is who, so I'm so lucky
Speaker 1: to it.
Speaker 3: When they're a bit older, I mean, I don't think
Speaker 3: they need to know which one.
Speaker 5: Is this that.
Speaker 1: When I was house sitting at your house, I thought
Speaker 1: that was like a chip clip.
Speaker 2: It doesn't look exactly like a chip clip.
Speaker 1: Jenny's called is on thirteen six five? Jenny, what have
Speaker 1: you kept you creep? Hi?
Speaker 7: Ah?
Speaker 1: Well, nothing like Backside three girls? Okay, but thank goodness
Speaker 1: I couldn't.
Speaker 7: But I definitely their umbilical cords.
Speaker 2: Likely, ah yes, So can I ask what? What what
Speaker 2: is the purpose of? Like nothing against it?
Speaker 3: I don't know if I don't think my mum kept
Speaker 3: anything of mine, But what's the purpose, Like, what are
Speaker 3: you going.
Speaker 1: To do with it.
Speaker 5: Oh nothing, and my girl would gross oun bite too?
Speaker 3: Is yours floating around? Just like an open drawer as
Speaker 3: well for anyone to do?
Speaker 5: I kept everything. I kept teeth, and there is a
Speaker 5: little box that smile at you when you open it up.
Speaker 3: Every head.
Speaker 1: What do you mean, hold on? You put them on
Speaker 1: a necklace, or if you put them in like a
Speaker 1: clay piece of clay so it looks like a mouth.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's just in a little jewelry box that I've
Speaker 5: blued them all in so that when you open it up,
Speaker 5: it's just a little smile.
Speaker 4: Wait, you've actually arranged them in the arrangement of the teeth.
Speaker 1: Oh my, too much. Imagine if my mom did that
Speaker 1: and she got a photo of me as a baby,
Speaker 1: and then just.
Speaker 5: You know what she.
Speaker 3: Plays at your twenty first It's like not pin the
Speaker 3: tail and the donkey.
Speaker 1: Its very funny. Oh my god, that's great, and now
Speaker 1: everyone knows I'm circumcised. Yeah are you? Let's end the
Speaker 1: show on that note. You the real highs and lows.
Speaker 1: What's next? H We are done. We'll speaking of foreskin
Speaker 1: woodies on next will guys, We'll see you tomorrow for
Speaker 1: Thursday have a great day.
Speaker 7: Hi.
Speaker 4: Everyone,