WEBVTT - FULLSHOW! Polyamorous relationship, could you live like this? 0:00:14.080 --> 0:00:19.200 Come on all the week. 0:00:19.280 --> 0:00:22.360 Hello, Hello, I fam, how are we? 0:00:22.360 --> 0:00:25.120 We're good? We're here? Or thanks a chemist? Warehouse heading today, 0:00:25.160 --> 0:00:26.320 great savings every day? 0:00:26.400 --> 0:00:28.200 Do you know I'm particularly good this week? 0:00:28.280 --> 0:00:28.560 Do you know? 0:00:28.600 --> 0:00:29.120 Why? 0:00:29.200 --> 0:00:29.440 Is it? 0:00:29.480 --> 0:00:31.280 Because my mother in law has arrived? 0:00:31.360 --> 0:00:34.519 And I think mother in law's get a bad stick 0:00:34.920 --> 0:00:37.280 because I'm so looking forward to going home tonight to 0:00:37.320 --> 0:00:38.800 a clean house and. 0:00:38.720 --> 0:00:40.720 Do a fridge full of food. She's staying with us 0:00:40.760 --> 0:00:41.839 for two weeks. 0:00:41.920 --> 0:00:43.800 Did out your mother in law a couple of days 0:00:43.800 --> 0:00:47.879 ago for pre her weird holiday pre cooking thing that 0:00:47.920 --> 0:00:51.280 she does, but that cooks lasagna on a plane and 0:00:51.320 --> 0:00:52.360 then takes it to a holiday. 0:00:52.440 --> 0:00:55.440 It's weird meal prepping for a holiday. Absolutely fine for 0:00:55.440 --> 0:00:57.480 her to meal prep my fridge, though, I have no 0:00:57.520 --> 0:00:58.200 problems with that. 0:00:58.280 --> 0:00:59.600 Wait, you were telling us that she wants you and 0:00:59.640 --> 0:01:01.800 Mad to have baby, so she just brings around trays 0:01:01.800 --> 0:01:03.000 of oysters and dark chocolate. 0:01:03.120 --> 0:01:05.160 The last time I saw Ellie, she said to me, 0:01:05.319 --> 0:01:07.240 I'm gonna come and live with you so that you 0:01:07.240 --> 0:01:09.320 can have another baby and I'll take care of it. 0:01:09.600 --> 0:01:10.440 Okay, do you know. 0:01:10.440 --> 0:01:12.200 What the problem is? Then? Why don't she change the mind? 0:01:12.240 --> 0:01:14.560 What did you commit to it. Yeah, and then she's like, 0:01:14.600 --> 0:01:15.920 don't want anymore and she moves to. 0:01:16.400 --> 0:01:17.560 And you've got the. 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:19.680 Three kids. 0:01:19.760 --> 0:01:21.840 Yeah, too much, handsmade tails. 0:01:21.880 --> 0:01:24.039 We have someone really interesting on today. I want to 0:01:24.040 --> 0:01:26.720 tell you about them. What it's a really interesting guest. 0:01:26.760 --> 0:01:32.920 Her name's Taya and she is one quarter of I 0:01:32.959 --> 0:01:35.720 can't say a couple, but she's in a relationship with 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:38.360 four people, so two couples. They live together, they have 0:01:38.440 --> 0:01:41.400 kids all together. No one knows who the father. 0:01:41.280 --> 0:01:42.800 Is of the kids. 0:01:42.840 --> 0:01:43.759 It's a lucky dip. 0:01:43.880 --> 0:01:46.600 Yeah, it's polyamorous, but but it's together. 0:01:46.680 --> 0:01:49.560 Well, it's closed polyamory because it's two couples. That. 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:51.160 Yeah, it's Look. 0:01:51.080 --> 0:01:52.960 We're going to get into it. She's gonna call in 0:01:52.960 --> 0:01:53.880 and we've got a lot of questions. 0:01:53.920 --> 0:01:56.040 Laura's mother in law involved in that situation. 0:01:56.000 --> 0:01:58.600 Also dream she's trying to get Laura to that farm 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:01.200 because Ellie Ellie will cook for them. 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:03.720 Got it. Okay, that's on the way here at the 0:02:03.720 --> 0:02:07.640 pickup around Australia for your Wednesday vo It's Wednesday, Avaux, Britt, 0:02:07.680 --> 0:02:09.680 Laura and Mitch. Here listen. If you stuck on a 0:02:09.680 --> 0:02:11.200 Mother's Day gift, You've got a couple of days. Now 0:02:11.240 --> 0:02:14.360 Chemists Warehouse has you covered with big brand fragrances at 0:02:14.400 --> 0:02:17.040 the lowest prices. Chemist Warehouse great savings every day. 0:02:17.480 --> 0:02:19.880 Imagine taking a wrong turn out in the borstion in 0:02:19.919 --> 0:02:23.160 the middle of nowhere. Then your car gets bogged and 0:02:23.200 --> 0:02:26.440 you're lost. Oh no, and you're completely lost. Your cell 0:02:26.480 --> 0:02:29.919 phone doesn't work and you can't be found for six days. 0:02:29.960 --> 0:02:32.519 Sounds like I would last six days, I'd last about 0:02:32.560 --> 0:02:33.160 six hours. 0:02:33.280 --> 0:02:35.960 Well, this happened to an Australian woman somewhere out in 0:02:36.000 --> 0:02:38.600 the deep south of Victoria. She went out on a 0:02:38.680 --> 0:02:41.560 drive she thought she was heading towards some destination, took 0:02:41.600 --> 0:02:44.960 a wrong turn, got lost in the wilderness, and then 0:02:45.120 --> 0:02:47.560 didn't get found for six days. However, it's not the 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:50.920 being lost part. It's how she managed to survive in 0:02:50.960 --> 0:02:54.440 her car. That's the real highlight of this story. Have 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:55.000 a listen to this. 0:02:55.360 --> 0:02:58.160 A woman lost in Victoria's high country for nearly a 0:02:58.200 --> 0:03:02.640 week has spoken about her ordeal. Lilian Ip was bogged 0:03:02.639 --> 0:03:05.960 for six days in bushland in Mission, Missa, with only 0:03:06.080 --> 0:03:08.960 lollies and a juice fox and wine to survive. 0:03:09.840 --> 0:03:13.200 That sounds like my dream isn't what Yeah away from 0:03:13.200 --> 0:03:14.760 my children for six whole days. 0:03:14.800 --> 0:03:16.600 I get bogged in my laund room all the time, 0:03:16.680 --> 0:03:18.200 and I just live on follies and wine. 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:19.920 Are we not sure that she did this on purpose? 0:03:19.960 --> 0:03:21.480 Did she want to be saved? Also? 0:03:21.600 --> 0:03:23.880 Who's driving around with just maybe she was heading to 0:03:23.919 --> 0:03:25.760 a dinner party? Who's driving around the row bottle of 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:26.800 wine is floating around. 0:03:26.639 --> 0:03:27.160 In their car? No? 0:03:27.280 --> 0:03:29.200 I did see this. She was taking it to her mom. 0:03:29.240 --> 0:03:31.760 It was a present for a month. Oh bless, how 0:03:31.800 --> 0:03:33.000 do you get that loss? 0:03:33.040 --> 0:03:33.280 Though? 0:03:33.480 --> 0:03:35.160 On a trip to your mom with a bottle of 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:36.280 wine and some lollies? 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:38.160 She was actually going on a bush ad bench on 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:40.000 the way to my mum must live out there somewhere, 0:03:40.040 --> 0:03:41.440 because I know that she was going to see like 0:03:41.480 --> 0:03:43.480 a water for a Laura dam or something and then 0:03:43.920 --> 0:03:46.280 take the white to her mom and she got bogged 0:03:46.280 --> 0:03:47.000 on the way. 0:03:47.840 --> 0:03:49.080 She brought some supplies. 0:03:49.560 --> 0:03:51.360 Hold on, did she ration gummy bears? 0:03:51.400 --> 0:03:51.480 Like? 0:03:51.520 --> 0:03:53.000 Did she put them out on the dash of the 0:03:53.040 --> 0:03:54.760 car and go the green ones of a Monday, then 0:03:54.760 --> 0:03:56.640 the yellow ones of for Tuesday, and then I'll have 0:03:56.680 --> 0:03:58.760 a sip of wine on Wednesday? Because she could have 0:03:58.760 --> 0:03:59.440 been there for months. 0:03:59.520 --> 0:04:01.440 Also, though I have been told and I feel like 0:04:01.480 --> 0:04:03.200 I've now been lied to throughout my whole life that 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:08.120 wine's very dehydrating, but that's the only thing she's sustaining 0:04:08.120 --> 0:04:10.240 herself on. Also, the other thing that she said is 0:04:10.280 --> 0:04:12.600 that she is allergic to wine, which makes it so 0:04:12.680 --> 0:04:15.240 much funnier because I truly think we're all allergic to wine. 0:04:15.280 --> 0:04:17.000 It's caught a hangover, Isn't it funny? 0:04:17.000 --> 0:04:17.200 Though? 0:04:17.640 --> 0:04:19.800 You make a good point, Mitch, because if you're lost 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:22.880 and you don't know when someone's coming, Like if. 0:04:22.720 --> 0:04:25.680 You have a bag of lollies, do you just starve. 0:04:25.360 --> 0:04:27.120 Yourself and be like, I better only have a quarter 0:04:27.160 --> 0:04:29.360 of a lollier day in case it takes a month. Yeah, 0:04:29.440 --> 0:04:31.520 Or you're like I'm going to age six days, I 0:04:31.560 --> 0:04:32.640 could probably hit a quarter of. 0:04:32.600 --> 0:04:35.200 The package one today to tomorrow. 0:04:35.640 --> 0:04:38.120 You would have absolutely no idea, So yeah, I mean, 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:39.640 I would just assume I was going to get found 0:04:39.680 --> 0:04:40.360 prior to six days. 0:04:40.360 --> 0:04:41.720 I'd probably eat them on the first hour. 0:04:41.920 --> 0:04:44.039 Apparently, when she was found, the one thing that she 0:04:44.120 --> 0:04:47.440 was dying for the most was a cigarette. Apparently she 0:04:47.440 --> 0:04:49.279 asked the sees if she could light up a cigarette 0:04:49.279 --> 0:04:49.680 and helicopter. 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:51.680 She's going through with drawals as well, could you imagine 0:04:51.680 --> 0:04:53.080 allergic to wine in the bush? 0:04:53.120 --> 0:04:55.320 No food with draws? What a nightmare. 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:58.640 I think it's more because like the perfect little you know, 0:04:58.720 --> 0:05:01.400 the way to round that out, Siggies, some wine and 0:05:01.440 --> 0:05:02.000 some Lolly's. 0:05:02.040 --> 0:05:03.200 That's a Saturday night right there. 0:05:03.680 --> 0:05:05.880 That's so good. This is the most classic Australian missing 0:05:05.920 --> 0:05:07.919 person ever in America. They're like, I was lost in 0:05:07.960 --> 0:05:11.320 the Rockies for months and I had to live on hyaenemy. 0:05:10.960 --> 0:05:12.599 I had to chop my arm off to get out, 0:05:12.600 --> 0:05:14.599 and here were like I only had wine and I 0:05:14.600 --> 0:05:15.440 didn't have a diary. 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:16.880 I mean, who knew that a bottle of wine and 0:05:16.880 --> 0:05:18.360 a chop a chop could save a life? 0:05:18.760 --> 0:05:19.239 She's alive. 0:05:19.240 --> 0:05:20.120 I'm glad she's well. 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:22.760 It's an important PSA. Everyone all right's stand by. Next 0:05:22.800 --> 0:05:25.720 on the show, we have a very very interesting guest 0:05:25.760 --> 0:05:27.960 that I'm not really sure about. Laura, I know you 0:05:28.000 --> 0:05:29.120 and I have been on the fence with this. 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:32.800 I'm not not sure about. I just think it is 0:05:33.000 --> 0:05:36.640 so different how they are living their relationship life. 0:05:36.720 --> 0:05:37.320 I'm about it. 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:38.320 I can't wait to talk to her. 0:05:38.360 --> 0:05:41.040 Our next guest is in a polyquad relationship, two couples 0:05:41.040 --> 0:05:43.920 coming together, multiple kids, one roof. It's interesting and she'll 0:05:43.960 --> 0:05:46.160 join us next on the pickup. It's the pickup around 0:05:46.200 --> 0:05:49.479 the country. Wednesday afternoon, Britt, Laura and Mitch here thanks 0:05:49.480 --> 0:05:52.880 to Chemists Warehouse heading today great savings every day, guys. 0:05:53.040 --> 0:05:54.560 I have a guest on the line for us to 0:05:54.560 --> 0:05:57.400 talk to you today. I'm super intrigued by her. Her 0:05:57.440 --> 0:06:00.000 name is Taya Heartless and she is coming to us 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:02.839 from the state. She's in a polyamorous couple in a 0:06:02.839 --> 0:06:03.479 close quad. 0:06:03.640 --> 0:06:06.320 Tya joins us now she's here. Welcome to pick up. 0:06:06.760 --> 0:06:09.119 Ya, Hi, hi okay. 0:06:09.520 --> 0:06:13.480 I have so many questions about how you originally navigated this. 0:06:13.680 --> 0:06:15.599 So how did you even meet and how did the 0:06:15.600 --> 0:06:18.640 conversation even come up that maybe we should do this 0:06:18.720 --> 0:06:19.960 all together under one roof. 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:23.680 Yeah. So, we were both previously married to our current 0:06:23.760 --> 0:06:27.560 legal spouses. My husband and I decided to get on 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:30.240 an app. We were just looking for something physical, not 0:06:30.960 --> 0:06:33.880 well versed in polyamory, didn't really know anything about polyamory 0:06:33.880 --> 0:06:37.159 at all, to be honest. We met Tyler and Alicia, 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:39.680 and we were actually the first people that they met 0:06:39.720 --> 0:06:42.280 up with. We met one night and we had made 0:06:42.320 --> 0:06:45.279 plans for the following weekend. The first night we met, 0:06:45.320 --> 0:06:47.360 and then we just couldn't get enough of each other. 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:49.160 We kept making more and more plans and spending more 0:06:49.160 --> 0:06:51.680 and more time together. Honestly, we didn't know what it 0:06:51.760 --> 0:06:55.239 was at first, but we started developing feelings and lots 0:06:55.279 --> 0:06:58.839 of trial and error, lots of communication, but ultimately found 0:06:58.839 --> 0:07:02.680 ourselves really to a polyamorous quad. So it's kind of 0:07:02.680 --> 0:07:07.400 a square with no innercept. Everybody is straight except for myself, 0:07:07.720 --> 0:07:11.560 so that's where there's no intersections. But yeah, we kind 0:07:11.600 --> 0:07:13.560 of figured it out as we went along, but we 0:07:13.560 --> 0:07:16.320 were not we none of us were polyamorous previous to this. 0:07:16.560 --> 0:07:18.920 Wow, So tell you so quickly. So it's yourself and Sean. 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:22.760 You're a couple prime, and then Alicia and Tyler a 0:07:22.800 --> 0:07:26.280 couple and you coexist, so the men don't. They're not 0:07:26.480 --> 0:07:30.080 in a relationship together. It's yourself, and then it would 0:07:30.080 --> 0:07:32.120 be Tyler and then Alicia and Sean, and then you 0:07:32.320 --> 0:07:33.840 swap and change around. 0:07:34.280 --> 0:07:37.840 Right, and absolutely we consider each other metamoras the non 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:41.120 romantic relationships. I consider Alicia my partner. She's just my 0:07:41.160 --> 0:07:44.840 non romantic partner. I have to make decisions with her, 0:07:44.880 --> 0:07:47.280 I have to communicate with her. I co parent with her, 0:07:47.360 --> 0:07:49.280 so I very much consider her my partner, but she 0:07:49.360 --> 0:07:51.560 is straight, so there's no romantic side of it. 0:07:51.840 --> 0:07:53.920 So Teya, how does it work in terms of when 0:07:53.920 --> 0:07:56.560 you set the rules up of when you can sleep 0:07:56.600 --> 0:07:58.320 with the other partner? How does that work and do 0:07:58.360 --> 0:08:00.160 you set these strict boundaries? 0:08:00.840 --> 0:08:03.560 Yeah, so originally we would when we first moved in together, 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:06.200 we would spend two nights with our married spouse and 0:08:06.200 --> 0:08:07.560 then one with the other and we would kind of 0:08:07.600 --> 0:08:09.960 rotate that way. But because of work schedules and just 0:08:10.080 --> 0:08:12.360 general life, nobody was getting enough time with each other. 0:08:12.400 --> 0:08:14.880 It just wasn't We weren't getting the time that we wanted. 0:08:14.920 --> 0:08:18.200 So we reevaluated pretty quickly and we just since then 0:08:18.280 --> 0:08:21.240 have done every other night. The guys switch rooms. It 0:08:21.320 --> 0:08:23.640 was started with the girls until we had babies, and 0:08:23.680 --> 0:08:26.320 now it's just easier for the guys to switch rooms 0:08:26.320 --> 0:08:28.120 back and forth and they just switch every other night. 0:08:28.280 --> 0:08:30.480 Well, speaking of babies, how many children do you have 0:08:30.600 --> 0:08:32.480 between you that you all parent together. 0:08:32.960 --> 0:08:35.839 We have four currently going on five. 0:08:36.000 --> 0:08:41.800 So congratulations, you're pregnant, right, congratulations. 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:44.920 Tyler and Aisha had two older kids when we met 0:08:44.960 --> 0:08:47.360 them that were three and four at the time, and 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:50.760 then we've had I've had one and Alicia has birthed 0:08:50.760 --> 0:08:52.160 one since we've been Again. 0:08:51.960 --> 0:08:54.640 We don't know who the father is, including your. 0:08:54.679 --> 0:08:55.920 It's one of two choices, but. 0:08:57.840 --> 0:08:58.839 We've married and down. 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:03.439 We didn't regulate biology, and you know, people are always 0:09:03.440 --> 0:09:05.959 concerned with medical history, but we went through I mean, 0:09:06.000 --> 0:09:08.080 we have the relevant medical histories and there was no 0:09:08.160 --> 0:09:10.800 concerns that popped up. So for us, this was just 0:09:10.840 --> 0:09:13.319 the best way to kind of leave things just kind 0:09:13.320 --> 0:09:16.080 of equal and not have any discrepancies and just raise 0:09:16.160 --> 0:09:17.400 the kids as they are. 0:09:17.720 --> 0:09:19.400 What happens when the kids get a bit older and 0:09:19.400 --> 0:09:21.480 what if they become curious and they want to know 0:09:21.640 --> 0:09:23.120 who is their biological dad. 0:09:23.320 --> 0:09:25.520 We've had that conversation and for us it didn't matter, 0:09:25.559 --> 0:09:28.040 and it doesn't matter why they're young, right, but if 0:09:28.080 --> 0:09:31.400 they express interest in wanting to know their biology specifically, 0:09:31.440 --> 0:09:33.720 then we're more than happy to take that journey with them. 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:37.160 Do you ever worry about them being bullied in school 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:40.080 or their friends or their friends families not understanding the 0:09:40.200 --> 0:09:42.400 arrangement that you have and that impacting them at school 0:09:42.440 --> 0:09:42.719 at all. 0:09:42.960 --> 0:09:46.400 We're going on four years together now and we have 0:09:46.480 --> 0:09:50.160 introduced ourselves as a blended family to their teachers every year. 0:09:50.200 --> 0:09:53.480 We've never had any problems with school wise. They've even 0:09:53.520 --> 0:09:56.199 switched schools since we've been together, and they haven't had 0:09:56.200 --> 0:09:59.360 any issues with bullying. We've obviously lost adult friends and 0:09:59.400 --> 0:10:02.160 adult family members, which has impacted them to an extent, 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:05.640 but we would much rather them not accept us rather 0:10:05.720 --> 0:10:07.840 than our kids grow up and choose an alternative lifestyle 0:10:07.840 --> 0:10:10.560 and then have to go through that with grandparents or 0:10:10.559 --> 0:10:14.320 friends or families. So you know, it's it's not easy, 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:17.200 but so far it hasn't affected the kids' relationships and 0:10:17.240 --> 0:10:20.160 we're we're rather social when it comes to hosting events 0:10:20.160 --> 0:10:22.319 and having kids over and stuff, and we've never had a. 0:10:22.280 --> 0:10:25.680 Problem in your relationship. Are there any levels of jealousy? 0:10:25.840 --> 0:10:26.640 Is there any? 0:10:26.880 --> 0:10:28.520 Are you ever like, Oh, yeah, I think you're spending 0:10:28.520 --> 0:10:30.400 too much time? Are you giving too much attention to one? 0:10:30.520 --> 0:10:31.520 How do you balance that? 0:10:32.320 --> 0:10:32.600 Yeah? 0:10:32.640 --> 0:10:35.480 So jealousy is a human emotion. We are absolutely not 0:10:35.520 --> 0:10:37.840 immune to jealousy at all, and over time it's definitely 0:10:37.840 --> 0:10:42.000 gotten easier, but it still comes up. Absolutely, there's I 0:10:42.040 --> 0:10:44.440 think that we just view it differently. So our whole 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:47.559 view is that if you're feeling jealous like communication is huge, 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:50.000 So just even if it's irrational, Hey, I'm feeling some 0:10:50.040 --> 0:10:51.760 type of way. It's not your fault, but this is 0:10:51.760 --> 0:10:54.520 what I'm feeling, and say, you know, Sean has been 0:10:54.559 --> 0:10:56.320 spending a lot of time with Alicia and they have 0:10:56.360 --> 0:10:59.920 a date night coming up, and I feel jealousy surrounding that. Ultimately, 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:02.400 I would rather plan a date night for us and 0:11:02.520 --> 0:11:04.480 add to that rather than take away his date night 0:11:04.520 --> 0:11:06.280 with her. So that's kind of how we approach it 0:11:06.320 --> 0:11:08.319 is like, what am I missing? Do I need more 0:11:08.360 --> 0:11:10.840 time with you? Do I what kind of need is 0:11:10.880 --> 0:11:13.400 not being fulfilled for me that I can get from you, 0:11:13.880 --> 0:11:16.400 so that you can still maintain this relationship and what 0:11:16.440 --> 0:11:20.160 you have with her, and also add to our relationship 0:11:20.200 --> 0:11:21.120 and fulfill my needs. 0:11:21.360 --> 0:11:23.079 I have a billion other questions, So I hope we 0:11:23.120 --> 0:11:25.000 can speak to you in another time. But thanks for 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:25.920 sharing your story. 0:11:26.080 --> 0:11:27.480 I absolutely love hearing it. 0:11:27.640 --> 0:11:29.440 You're so welcome. Thank you for having me all. 0:11:29.400 --> 0:11:33.000 Right, everybody stand by. I have discovered that my mother 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:35.400 has been keeping a part of me in a little 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:40.200 box in the garage. My entire life sounds like, you 0:11:40.280 --> 0:11:44.760 know what, it's Jeffrey Dahma in a loving way. It's real. 0:11:44.800 --> 0:11:46.480 It's a part of me that I didn't know existed 0:11:46.600 --> 0:11:48.440 in a garage, my mother's house. I'll tell you what 0:11:48.440 --> 0:11:51.520 it is next. Welcome to the pickup, Britt Laura Mitchia. 0:11:51.600 --> 0:11:54.200 If you're stuck on a Mother's Day gift, Chemists Warehouse 0:11:54.240 --> 0:11:57.280 has you covered with big brand fragrances to the lowest prices. 0:11:57.520 --> 0:12:00.880 Chemists Warehouse Great savings every day, ladies. I've been spending 0:12:00.880 --> 0:12:03.720 some time at my family home, hanging out with fam 0:12:04.040 --> 0:12:06.199 so important. My mom's just had her sixtieth so I've 0:12:06.200 --> 0:12:07.960 been at home in my home I grew up in, 0:12:08.280 --> 0:12:09.000 very wholesome. 0:12:09.200 --> 0:12:09.400 Yeah. 0:12:09.440 --> 0:12:10.800 I love my family, you know, real family. 0:12:10.920 --> 0:12:13.839 You have a wonderful family, beautiful people. 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:15.959 I adore them all so much. And my family home 0:12:15.960 --> 0:12:18.840 where my little sister still lives. I was looking through 0:12:18.840 --> 0:12:20.559 my old bedroom stuff. You know, when you go through 0:12:20.640 --> 0:12:21.600 you want to get some stuff. 0:12:21.840 --> 0:12:23.559 Yeah, a bit of a nostalgia as well. 0:12:23.679 --> 0:12:23.920 Yeah. 0:12:24.040 --> 0:12:27.960 I came across my baby box in the garage, which 0:12:28.000 --> 0:12:29.960 is that's actually quite cute. It's a gap box. So 0:12:30.000 --> 0:12:32.320 my mum clearly bought me some gap shoes as a baby. 0:12:32.320 --> 0:12:34.360 It's a little bat baby Gap shoe box and my 0:12:34.440 --> 0:12:36.439 teddy Bear is in there, Blue Teddy Bear. My hospital 0:12:36.559 --> 0:12:37.440 spend is in there. 0:12:37.559 --> 0:12:39.640 Oh, that's so I wish I was that sentimental. 0:12:39.720 --> 0:12:42.280 It's beautiful. And I've got notes that the doctor's journal 0:12:42.280 --> 0:12:44.440 and the first steps in the first walk, and my 0:12:44.559 --> 0:12:48.839 mum is very sentimental. She's beautiful. I was two months premature. 0:12:48.920 --> 0:12:51.000 I was in hospital for the first three months of 0:12:51.040 --> 0:12:53.719 my life. I was really really unwell. They didn't think 0:12:53.760 --> 0:12:55.000 I was going to make it. I was flown to 0:12:55.080 --> 0:12:58.080 hospital to hospital. You wouldn't look at me and think 0:12:58.080 --> 0:13:00.320 that now, I would not think for me. Yeah, I'm 0:13:00.320 --> 0:13:03.120 making up the lost time here. I'm gigantic and I'm 0:13:03.120 --> 0:13:05.280 going through this baby box and going, this is gorgeous. 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:06.880 I have this. I want to do this for my 0:13:06.920 --> 0:13:09.040 future kids. And I get to the very bottom of 0:13:09.040 --> 0:13:11.200 the box. I lump out all these books and I 0:13:11.320 --> 0:13:15.280 find a Fisherman's Friend's tin, a vintage Fisherman's Friends tin. 0:13:15.320 --> 0:13:17.280 I'm born in nineteen ninety five, so this is a 0:13:17.400 --> 0:13:19.679 rusted on tin and I go, what's it? What could 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:21.080 possibly be in here? And it's got a little bit 0:13:21.080 --> 0:13:22.800 of twine wrapped around, and I go, this so what 0:13:23.040 --> 0:13:25.920 is it? He's beautiful. So I unwrapped the twine. I 0:13:25.960 --> 0:13:29.160 opened it. He's rusted on Fisherman's friend tin. I gotta 0:13:29.160 --> 0:13:30.800 pull it open because it hasn't been opened in twenty 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:35.480 seven years. And inside this Fisherman's Friend's tin is a 0:13:35.520 --> 0:13:38.960 swab of cotton wool, and sitting on top of it 0:13:39.000 --> 0:13:42.040 is what looks to be a shriveled piece of prawn, 0:13:42.480 --> 0:13:44.400 like a little bit of like dried onion, you know, 0:13:44.400 --> 0:13:46.080 they put it on Vietnamese dishes like it looked like 0:13:46.080 --> 0:13:48.520 a little bee in spring, the Spanish onion. So I 0:13:48.559 --> 0:13:49.920 bring it up to mom, I go, mom, what is 0:13:49.960 --> 0:13:52.360 this in my baby box? What is is? What do 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:54.480 you think? What have you kept? And she said on me, 0:13:54.760 --> 0:13:55.760 that's your foreskin? 0:13:56.800 --> 0:14:01.040 What no, no, no, no, my. 0:14:01.040 --> 0:14:06.439 Mom has kept my foreskin in a Fisherman's Friends mintin 0:14:06.840 --> 0:14:09.840 Did you ask her why, like, of all the memories, 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:12.040 of all the things that she wanted to keep to 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:14.199 immortalize your childhood. 0:14:13.720 --> 0:14:16.040 Why that she's embarrassed? She's so embarrassed. There was also 0:14:16.160 --> 0:14:17.559 teeth and like a little bit of my hair. I 0:14:17.559 --> 0:14:19.640 think they're wondering in case I die, they could bald 0:14:19.680 --> 0:14:20.440 like a fake, Mitch. 0:14:20.600 --> 0:14:23.440 I don't think keeping the foreskins actually think like no, 0:14:23.520 --> 0:14:25.560 don't get me wrong. I love this with Michelle, like 0:14:25.600 --> 0:14:28.400 she's taking sentimental to the next level. I'm surprised to 0:14:28.440 --> 0:14:30.520 fit in a little studdying tin, Mitch. I would have 0:14:30.520 --> 0:14:32.520 thought you'd be saying big, like a shoe box or something. 0:14:32.720 --> 0:14:35.080 It was the size of the hole. Who out know 0:14:35.240 --> 0:14:38.640 this thing is roll off? You know, you know this 0:14:38.720 --> 0:14:40.600 is a perfect exclation. You know, when you peel off 0:14:40.640 --> 0:14:42.880 like a toenail and it kind of curls like springs 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:45.280 back and curls up. That's what it looks like. 0:14:44.680 --> 0:14:46.920 Because it probably looks like a tiny little bit of 0:14:46.920 --> 0:14:47.640 beef jerky. 0:14:48.120 --> 0:14:50.440 You're slightly disgusting that. 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:52.960 It was unfortunately really small like. 0:14:53.200 --> 0:14:56.600 It was, because over time it's twenty eight year olds dehydrated, 0:14:56.720 --> 0:14:57.240 shriveled up. 0:14:57.240 --> 0:15:01.800 But you're also a baby because I am not sentimental. 0:15:01.840 --> 0:15:03.720 I have not held on too many things for the kids. 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:05.960 And it's like I kind of look back. 0:15:05.760 --> 0:15:07.840 And when you say you've got this beautiful shoe box 0:15:07.880 --> 0:15:10.480 of stuff, I wish I had been more sentimental, but 0:15:10.600 --> 0:15:12.640 I did keep You know, when you have a baby 0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:14.800 and they clamp down on the umbilical cord and then 0:15:14.800 --> 0:15:17.520 they chop it off, so that falls off after a 0:15:17.560 --> 0:15:19.800 couple of weeks or four weeks or something. And I 0:15:19.880 --> 0:15:22.040 did keep both the girls on bbilical cords, but I 0:15:22.040 --> 0:15:23.840 haven't gotten around to putting it in anything, so they're 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:27.360 just floating around. We've got that like you know, you 0:15:27.400 --> 0:15:29.280 know how everyone's got one of those drawers, and it's 0:15:29.320 --> 0:15:30.520 the junk draw There's two. 0:15:30.440 --> 0:15:31.760 Umbilical cords in that role. 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:35.360 I don't know who is who, so I'm so lucky 0:15:35.400 --> 0:15:35.480 to it. 0:15:35.480 --> 0:15:36.960 When they're a bit older, I mean, I don't think 0:15:37.640 --> 0:15:39.080 they need to know which one. 0:15:38.920 --> 0:15:39.680 Is this that. 0:15:41.320 --> 0:15:42.960 When I was house sitting at your house, I thought 0:15:43.000 --> 0:15:43.880 that was like a chip clip. 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:45.520 It doesn't look exactly like a chip clip. 0:15:45.600 --> 0:15:47.840 Jenny's called is on thirteen six five? Jenny, what have 0:15:47.960 --> 0:15:49.200 you kept you creep? Hi? 0:15:49.680 --> 0:15:50.160 Ah? 0:15:50.200 --> 0:15:54.360 Well, nothing like Backside three girls? Okay, but thank goodness 0:15:54.800 --> 0:15:55.480 I couldn't. 0:15:56.200 --> 0:15:58.680