WEBVTT - The Most Common Hugs & What They Actually Mean 🤗 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:03.199 The Flex and Rooms Daily podcast brought. 0:00:03.120 --> 0:00:07.960 To you, Hey gremlins, welcome back to the studio. 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:12.440 I'm hungry, Yeah, just gonna put it out there, absolutely 0:00:12.520 --> 0:00:14.840 starving the stomach's cabinists. 0:00:14.920 --> 0:00:15.560 What do you want to eat? 0:00:15.680 --> 0:00:18.400 Last time I ate? Was it eleven thirty? What do 0:00:18.440 --> 0:00:21.360 you want to eat? And it's four o'clock? Do you 0:00:21.400 --> 0:00:24.000 know what? I feel like? Something fresh like? I don't. 0:00:24.000 --> 0:00:25.760 I don't want to go to McDonald's, for example. I'm 0:00:25.760 --> 0:00:26.560 not that hungry. 0:00:27.400 --> 0:00:29.840 I would love I'm kind of that in between your 0:00:29.840 --> 0:00:31.760 I don't feel like anything, but I know that I 0:00:31.760 --> 0:00:34.199 need to eat. I need to eat something bland but 0:00:34.280 --> 0:00:37.320 a bit sweet. I'd probably do like a roller chocolate 0:00:37.320 --> 0:00:40.280 and a soft drink, A wat chocolate, rower chocolate. What's 0:00:40.280 --> 0:00:41.879 a rower? A rober of chocolate? 0:00:42.720 --> 0:00:43.040 Huh? 0:00:43.360 --> 0:00:49.040 A row of Oh I'm hearing a a ro wa 0:00:49.360 --> 0:00:50.280 A rower chocolate? 0:00:50.520 --> 0:00:53.200 That sounds like kind of nice as it like boutique? 0:00:53.560 --> 0:00:55.880 A row of chocolates? Do you only chocolates you want 0:00:55.880 --> 0:00:58.080 to pop in your mouth? Shut up? 0:00:59.000 --> 0:00:59.440 Thanks you. 0:00:59.480 --> 0:01:03.360 Today's which is about a tip that you need for dating. 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:06.360 Listen if you're listening to this podcast and you're dating, 0:01:06.880 --> 0:01:07.600 stay tuned. 0:01:08.000 --> 0:01:10.640 Also tell us what's working for you, because I'm very 0:01:10.680 --> 0:01:13.960 surprised at how people date. I'm honestly a little bit scared. 0:01:14.080 --> 0:01:16.280 When I come out of my bubble of being hectic 0:01:16.319 --> 0:01:19.680 and feral, I'm like, oh, we're koy? 0:01:19.920 --> 0:01:21.440 Are we sort of in koy? I didn't know we 0:01:21.440 --> 0:01:21.959 were doing that. 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:23.319 Still, you're a bit behind. 0:01:23.400 --> 0:01:24.480 I'm a little bit behind. 0:01:25.040 --> 0:01:29.040 So let me know what it's like on your end, 0:01:29.600 --> 0:01:31.040 like a we are you not texting? 0:01:31.080 --> 0:01:31.319 First? 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:34.759 Are the apps popping for anyone? Be serious? Every every 0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:36.880 person I know, I say, whew's that going there? This 0:01:37.040 --> 0:01:37.479 is grim? 0:01:38.840 --> 0:01:41.600 It's looking really Oh, We've got to change up the narrative. 0:01:41.640 --> 0:01:43.320 I feel like if we all collect you were like, 0:01:43.360 --> 0:01:45.839 you know what, it can get better. It's gonna get better. 0:01:46.120 --> 0:01:50.200 Then we start doing that place eboing totally agreed, like 0:01:50.360 --> 0:01:53.560 nothing changes, but our mindset changes, and then so we 0:01:53.600 --> 0:01:55.920 think it's better. I think we have a we have 0:01:55.960 --> 0:01:57.920 a responsibility to change the narrative. 0:01:58.320 --> 0:01:58.880 Let's do it. 0:01:58.920 --> 0:02:01.000 I'll start. I told you it slutty spring. 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:02.840 Can't you can't use that term? 0:02:03.120 --> 0:02:03.480 Why not? 0:02:03.680 --> 0:02:05.120 Because I use it before? And you said no? 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:07.360 You said where slutch? 0:02:11.600 --> 0:02:17.880 I said what I said? Podcasts, God and froms for. 0:02:18.040 --> 0:02:22.480 Me, phone down, listening ears on, speaking voices on We're 0:02:22.480 --> 0:02:24.880 on live radio. Get it together, King, I'm back, I'm back. 0:02:25.080 --> 0:02:28.480 What's the best dating tip you've ever received? After Domen't 0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:29.320 think too hard about it. 0:02:29.600 --> 0:02:33.400 I know it. My nana told me when I was thirteen. Okay, 0:02:33.480 --> 0:02:35.760 you said it to my mum and my dad. You 0:02:35.800 --> 0:02:37.880 are worth the price that you put on your head. 0:02:38.120 --> 0:02:38.799 What does that mean? 0:02:39.760 --> 0:02:42.560 People will pay whatever price you put in your head. 0:02:42.560 --> 0:02:45.560 So if you make yourself expensive, people pay the price. 0:02:45.680 --> 0:02:47.079 So how do you make yourself expensive? 0:02:48.240 --> 0:02:52.440 I only date or fornicate with people that I think 0:02:52.480 --> 0:02:53.160 are worthy of me. 0:02:53.680 --> 0:02:57.799 Cloud Chaser, got it? Say no more. 0:02:57.840 --> 0:02:59.440 I'm not giving myself away. Willy Nilly? 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:02.480 Okay, who you trying to convince this? I heard you 0:03:02.520 --> 0:03:03.240 the first time. 0:03:05.440 --> 0:03:07.920 It's not often there are good dating tips on the internet. 0:03:08.000 --> 0:03:10.680 They all just fall into the same really specific category 0:03:10.720 --> 0:03:12.639 of people who've nevidated. 0:03:12.240 --> 0:03:14.000 Before pretinding they know what dating is. 0:03:14.040 --> 0:03:14.239 Like. 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:17.440 Leat me out of it, babe, I'm a hot commodity. 0:03:17.639 --> 0:03:18.560 But I heard on the other day. 0:03:18.560 --> 0:03:22.120 I was like this, chickers onto something because we all 0:03:22.160 --> 0:03:24.760 know it. But you have to remember, as someone who 0:03:24.840 --> 0:03:29.120 is charming, do you relate. Yeah, the eyes are glazing 0:03:29.160 --> 0:03:32.760 over someone who is charming entertaining. The thing I need 0:03:32.800 --> 0:03:36.280 to stop doing is entertaining myself for the both of us. 0:03:36.600 --> 0:03:39.160 You crack too many jokes. You think that you're both 0:03:39.200 --> 0:03:44.000 having a good time. No, you're the entertainer entertaining right. 0:03:44.360 --> 0:03:48.000 This dating tip this person gave was to not answer 0:03:48.520 --> 0:03:53.440 unasked questions, and by that you'll often find you might 0:03:53.480 --> 0:03:58.040 go on a date and you'll say, oh, so what's 0:03:58.080 --> 0:03:59.160 your favorite thing to do? 0:03:59.640 --> 0:04:00.760 You know, what are your hobbies? 0:04:00.920 --> 0:04:04.280 And they'll be like, oh, you know, I really like snowboarding, 0:04:04.480 --> 0:04:08.160 and I'm really into martial arts, and I really like 0:04:08.200 --> 0:04:09.160 brewing my own beer. 0:04:09.520 --> 0:04:11.000 It's like, I really love it. 0:04:11.960 --> 0:04:12.280 Cool. 0:04:13.040 --> 0:04:15.800 You might jump in and say I love doing this 0:04:15.920 --> 0:04:20.000 and I like this. Now see how long it takes 0:04:20.080 --> 0:04:23.400 them to be genuinely interested in figuring out what you 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:27.719 like to do. Wow, So people say one of two things. 0:04:27.880 --> 0:04:30.760 Don't keep asking questions, like once you asked a few, 0:04:31.160 --> 0:04:32.760 just let it sit and see what happened. 0:04:32.960 --> 0:04:33.200 You know. 0:04:33.640 --> 0:04:36.640 Others say, just don't answer questions and have not been 0:04:36.640 --> 0:04:39.479 asked to you explicitly. I don't think it works for everyone, 0:04:39.560 --> 0:04:42.760 but if you find yourself just being like the date comedian, 0:04:43.000 --> 0:04:46.080 the date jester, the date entertainer. You gotta, you know, 0:04:46.120 --> 0:04:48.640 sit down, you break your back from carrying. 0:04:48.800 --> 0:04:50.919 I think this works for two reasons. I've done this 0:04:50.960 --> 0:04:52.680 on a date before. I realized they weren't asking me 0:04:52.760 --> 0:04:55.240 any questions, so I stopped asking them back. 0:04:55.480 --> 0:04:58.400 Of course, I paid for the bill, what because I 0:04:58.440 --> 0:04:59.240 just need to get out of there? 0:04:59.279 --> 0:05:00.960 Can you tell this around the potty bruv? 0:05:01.120 --> 0:05:04.760 I'm giving away too much on this podcast. I just 0:05:05.360 --> 0:05:06.880 you know those people that just have a story for 0:05:06.920 --> 0:05:07.719 every story you. 0:05:08.160 --> 0:05:10.800 Yeah, I want to. 0:05:10.760 --> 0:05:13.159 Say I've lived a long life. It's rather that I've 0:05:13.160 --> 0:05:16.039 mind every experience. Yeah, I'm clutching his straws over here. 0:05:16.720 --> 0:05:16.920 Nah. 0:05:17.360 --> 0:05:19.120 I've been in this situation before where I realized someone 0:05:19.160 --> 0:05:21.880 on a date wasn't asking me any questions, and I thought, 0:05:21.880 --> 0:05:23.960 you know what, I know, I'm not I know this 0:05:24.000 --> 0:05:25.720 will go nowhere, so I'm just going to do an experiment. 0:05:25.760 --> 0:05:28.600 Didn't ask them any more questions got awkward. I had 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:31.000 to make an excuse to get out of there. And 0:05:31.040 --> 0:05:33.400 when things get awkward in a date situation, I often 0:05:33.440 --> 0:05:34.720 just pay you to get out of there. 0:05:35.440 --> 0:05:38.960 How did you do it? So you you summoned the wager. 0:05:39.400 --> 0:05:41.080 I was just like, Oh, I reckon, I don't reckon. 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:42.560 I'm going to have another drink. Should we go? 0:05:43.200 --> 0:05:47.280 Oh that sounds like a proposition from here though, Oh 0:05:47.400 --> 0:05:48.600 that sounds like, oh should we go? 0:05:49.480 --> 0:05:52.080 Oh wink wink. Maybe unless you didn't say it like. 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:56.560 That, I probably didn't. Again, no game, Yeah, I reckon, 0:05:57.240 --> 0:06:00.560 I reckon. If you're doing this technique, they're not for you. 0:06:01.279 --> 0:06:04.640 M m. But also, I think this is a good 0:06:04.960 --> 0:06:08.640 time for self reflection. If you're asking questions and you're 0:06:08.640 --> 0:06:11.640 not asked and they're not like asking you it back, 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:15.440 maybe you're asking leading questions so you can give your answer. 0:06:16.440 --> 0:06:18.800 Science people will ask your question and I'll rush through 0:06:18.800 --> 0:06:20.400 the answer because I know they just want to tell 0:06:20.400 --> 0:06:21.040 me their answer. 0:06:21.400 --> 0:06:22.560 Oh, so you could be doing that. 0:06:22.520 --> 0:06:23.640 That's an example of that. 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:28.840 I'll ask you, oh, have you women's last time you 0:06:29.000 --> 0:06:32.320 ate a lolly? You say, oh, I ate one, and 0:06:32.360 --> 0:06:33.760 I'll jump over and say, oh my god, I had 0:06:33.760 --> 0:06:34.880 the best lolly yesterday. 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:38.360 Blah blah blah about the lolly. See what I mean? 0:06:38.520 --> 0:06:39.680 I yeah, I get that a lot. 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:40.880 I've got to be checked both ways. 0:06:41.200 --> 0:06:42.080 It's a tricky one. 0:06:42.080 --> 0:06:46.279 Too, because also I feel like not everybody is made 0:06:46.279 --> 0:06:48.160 out to be the same type of conversation list. There 0:06:48.160 --> 0:06:50.279 are different roles you can play in a conversation, and 0:06:50.320 --> 0:06:53.440 not everybody is the one who's leading with a story 0:06:53.560 --> 0:06:55.800 or who's leading the trajectory of it, you know what 0:06:55.839 --> 0:06:59.080 I'm saying. Like, some people just naturally will share when 0:06:59.160 --> 0:07:04.039 invited to share, We'll speak when invited to be, we'll 0:07:04.040 --> 0:07:05.000 speak when spoken to. 0:07:05.400 --> 0:07:06.880 That kind of vibe. 0:07:07.000 --> 0:07:09.479 And I also think that traditional dating works a very 0:07:09.520 --> 0:07:13.880 specific archetype of person Like if you are super like, extroverted, charming, 0:07:13.920 --> 0:07:16.160 outgoing la la la la la, the dating landscape is 0:07:16.160 --> 0:07:19.000 made for you, and so naturally the way you operate 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:20.040 becomes the standard. 0:07:20.800 --> 0:07:21.000 Yeah. 0:07:21.200 --> 0:07:25.720 So if you can't be quick, witty, charming, fast thinking 0:07:25.760 --> 0:07:28.560 on whatever, and everyone's like, oh, then like you're a 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:31.600 weird person to date or like you're not interested, it'd 0:07:31.600 --> 0:07:32.720 be hard for those people. 0:07:33.920 --> 0:07:35.240 Do you ever not lay the conversation? 0:07:35.600 --> 0:07:35.840 Yeah? 0:07:35.840 --> 0:07:37.960 But I think it doesn't suit me. Didn't I tell 0:07:38.000 --> 0:07:39.720 you when I was a couple months ago. When I 0:07:39.760 --> 0:07:42.040 say a couple, I mean like the start of October, 0:07:43.200 --> 0:07:46.080 I was like, yeah, I'm in my passive princess era. 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:47.040 I'm not gonna be the. 0:07:48.360 --> 0:07:51.480 I was this thinking, you know, maybe you aren't as 0:07:51.840 --> 0:07:52.960 self aware as you really. 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:56.040 I wanted to try, I told him, doing exposure therapy, right, 0:07:56.080 --> 0:07:59.000 So I'm trying new things. What is life like when 0:07:59.040 --> 0:08:01.680 I'm not deciding what's happening. I'm not leading, I'm like, 0:08:01.800 --> 0:08:03.800 you're cute whatever. I'm just gonna try it out. 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:06.080 See what the paces of everybody else? What pace are 0:08:06.080 --> 0:08:07.400 we moving at base? 0:08:08.240 --> 0:08:12.560 That was ten days of trauma. 0:08:10.800 --> 0:08:15.400 I just wait around for a text to come, and 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:18.000 then when it comes, I gotta be I gotta be 0:08:18.240 --> 0:08:21.760 casual with it. I gotta be docile. I couldn't do it. 0:08:21.920 --> 0:08:24.679 My chest was tied. I gotta say how I feel. 0:08:25.080 --> 0:08:27.680 But it was a good exercise because I'm just I'm 0:08:27.680 --> 0:08:30.440 just built this way. I'm just built to be a 0:08:30.440 --> 0:08:35.360 little bit grading, very bold, very specific, and so I 0:08:35.360 --> 0:08:39.360 could imagine like in this instance, I'm a question asker, 0:08:39.440 --> 0:08:43.040 I'm a data minor whatever. But also I'm creating an 0:08:43.080 --> 0:08:44.559 environment where it's like, this is what we're doing. We're 0:08:44.559 --> 0:08:47.400 having covers that we're asking questions. If I also think 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:49.600 how people respond to you is the environment that you've 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:52.360 created as well? So if someone's not asking you questions. 0:08:52.480 --> 0:08:54.240 Number one, they're not interested. You're not made it a 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:55.960 safe place to share. That's a big one. 0:08:56.520 --> 0:08:59.280 That's a big and they scared all you like. 0:08:59.240 --> 0:09:02.120 You just not like creating an environment where they're like, oh, 0:09:02.120 --> 0:09:05.679 this is gonna land. Well, I feel comfortable sharing something 0:09:05.720 --> 0:09:08.120 with you because I know that you'll make it comfortble 0:09:08.120 --> 0:09:11.320 for me to do so takes you know, what is it? 0:09:11.320 --> 0:09:12.920 Two to Tango's a minefield? 0:09:12.960 --> 0:09:18.600 Really it's a minefield, brav I will say, I'm a princess. 0:09:19.880 --> 0:09:25.920 I always feel be and that's that. Flex and frooms. 0:09:26.360 --> 0:09:29.760 On Halloween, the thirty first of October, I received a 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:34.200 voice memo in my Instagram dms entitled hi Flex, am 0:09:34.280 --> 0:09:37.600 I the asshole incoming and a fifty nine second voice memo. 0:09:37.960 --> 0:09:42.240 I said, ooh, thank you, and did not listen to 0:09:42.280 --> 0:09:44.840 it because I knew I wanted to share it with you, 0:09:44.960 --> 0:09:48.600 and you can't fake a first impression. If I listened 0:09:48.640 --> 0:09:50.560 to it and then come back and listen to this, 0:09:51.000 --> 0:09:54.560 I'd be stonefaced. Think about my face as I'm learning 0:09:54.760 --> 0:09:59.040 through observing myself being filmed, It's all there. My resting 0:09:59.080 --> 0:10:02.600 bitch face is so activated. My brows are constantly furrowed. 0:10:03.320 --> 0:10:05.079 You could read it on me. So let's listen to 0:10:05.120 --> 0:10:05.920 it together, shall we? 0:10:06.600 --> 0:10:12.400 Hay chicks, So I have an am I the asshole parent? Addition, 0:10:14.120 --> 0:10:20.000 today is Halloween, and there was no notification from my 0:10:20.280 --> 0:10:23.079 son's kinder as to whether it was a dress update 0:10:23.160 --> 0:10:26.680 or anything like that. But as I arrived, I saw 0:10:27.480 --> 0:10:32.960 fifteen tiny little humans dressed in different Halloween costumes and 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:37.199 my son was the only one not dressed in a costume. 0:10:38.559 --> 0:10:41.160 I don't know whether Halloween has become more of a 0:10:41.320 --> 0:10:46.840 thing now that it's twenty twenty two and American culture 0:10:47.120 --> 0:10:51.920 has just infiltrated Australia. But I don't ever remember dressing 0:10:52.000 --> 0:10:56.160 up like that for at school as a child, but 0:10:56.240 --> 0:11:00.400 it seems like it's super popular now. So I just 0:11:00.440 --> 0:11:02.600 want to know, like, can I get a vibe check? 0:11:02.640 --> 0:11:05.000 Am I the asshole? I didn't realize that. 0:11:05.520 --> 0:11:08.120 Oh, and then she did go on to say, I 0:11:08.120 --> 0:11:09.200 didn't realize it cut off. 0:11:09.960 --> 0:11:12.160 So if you want me to rerecord it, I can. 0:11:12.440 --> 0:11:14.360 And I said, babes, don't worry about it, like we 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:16.160 can get the GISTs. I assumed we could get the 0:11:16.160 --> 0:11:16.959 gist and we can't. 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:18.680 This is a lot. 0:11:18.760 --> 0:11:23.359 This is cross continental, cross cultural commentary coming your way. 0:11:23.200 --> 0:11:25.560 And it's a big one because if we thought, you know, 0:11:25.640 --> 0:11:29.719 a couple years ago, America had infiltrated our culture and 0:11:29.760 --> 0:11:32.160 suppressed it so heavily that all we do is think 0:11:32.160 --> 0:11:36.440 in americanisms, it's gotten way worse now. 0:11:36.520 --> 0:11:39.439 Depending away you sing, maybe way better, oh. 0:11:39.320 --> 0:11:42.280 Yeah, or just way more prevalent. Now, that's what we're doing. 0:11:42.840 --> 0:11:44.960 So coming up, we are going to discuss what we 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:47.520 think about it pro against Halloween. 0:11:47.559 --> 0:11:50.560 It's not even about that. We're here for the little kidlets, 0:11:50.840 --> 0:11:53.280 all right, who wants to be left out as a 0:11:53.320 --> 0:11:56.120 little kidd lit And of course think about mum feels 0:11:56.240 --> 0:11:58.360 be like, damn I didn't pull through like that? How 0:11:58.480 --> 0:12:00.200 was I meant to know? We gotta notification. 0:12:00.600 --> 0:12:03.160 I feel like it's a fun little novelty, but especially 0:12:03.200 --> 0:12:06.000 in the context of school, primary school or high school, 0:12:06.120 --> 0:12:09.040 k kindergarten, it's you go in your uniform and then 0:12:09.080 --> 0:12:11.520 you do a little you do a little lolly exchange 0:12:11.600 --> 0:12:14.120 or something. Maybe your teacher puts up some gaul some 0:12:14.280 --> 0:12:17.600 screen masks, but that is it. You can't just rock 0:12:17.720 --> 0:12:20.480 up in your playing clothes to school to kinder It's 0:12:20.520 --> 0:12:23.000 not a thing and if it was gonna be a thing. 0:12:23.080 --> 0:12:25.679 It is customary, especially. 0:12:25.120 --> 0:12:29.400 In little kid at schools these days, everything is so virtual, technological. 0:12:29.520 --> 0:12:31.360 They're always in a little updates, little updates. 0:12:31.440 --> 0:12:34.160 You would say, f YI, if you want to participate, 0:12:34.360 --> 0:12:37.319 we're doing costumes. If not, don't worry about it, because 0:12:37.320 --> 0:12:39.480 the thing about it is like it's not about like 0:12:39.840 --> 0:12:43.000 personal preference, It's about the optics of little kids. There 0:12:43.080 --> 0:12:45.400 is nothing worse than being left out as a little kid, 0:12:45.400 --> 0:12:48.080 because little kids don't realize how vicious they are when 0:12:48.280 --> 0:12:50.800 they're not around the norm. I could only imagine, why 0:12:50.800 --> 0:12:54.959 are you wearing a costume? What are you dressed up as? 0:12:55.200 --> 0:12:57.760 That stuff is traumatizing And then how do you go 0:12:57.800 --> 0:13:00.760 and explain to your kid, Oh, you know, I didn't notification? 0:13:00.840 --> 0:13:03.199 What is a notification? Notication? 0:13:03.360 --> 0:13:06.720 You know, speak is all the kids and things like 0:13:06.960 --> 0:13:10.400 mum didn't get it together or Mum didn't want to 0:13:10.400 --> 0:13:11.480 be bullied or whatever it is. 0:13:11.520 --> 0:13:13.800 It sucks far out. 0:13:13.920 --> 0:13:16.240 I really feel that nothing like getting left out. Did 0:13:16.280 --> 0:13:17.800 you ever have any dress up days at school? 0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:19.200 I don't recall. 0:13:20.080 --> 0:13:21.840 I feel like we just had like what we called 0:13:21.960 --> 0:13:24.800 mufty days where you could wear plain clothes. 0:13:25.040 --> 0:13:26.280 Why they called Mufty days. 0:13:26.440 --> 0:13:28.440 What that means is that worth googling? 0:13:28.880 --> 0:13:29.240 I don't know. 0:13:29.320 --> 0:13:33.040 But our in Victoria is called casual clothes day muff, 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:34.920 which is far more sensical. 0:13:36.160 --> 0:13:37.400 Mufty days. 0:13:37.840 --> 0:13:40.920 Wikipedia says it's used in Australia, Britain and New Zealand, 0:13:41.080 --> 0:13:43.840 day on which school pupils are allowed to wear casual clothes, 0:13:43.880 --> 0:13:47.360 which would usually be against the school ume's policy. 0:13:47.400 --> 0:13:50.880 But what does mufty mean? It's an Indian term. 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:56.640 Oh but On twenty sixth of July twenty twenty, Pedessian 0:13:56.679 --> 0:13:58.439 wrote an article that said, turns out the origin of 0:13:58.440 --> 0:13:59.880 the term mufty day is kind of problematic. 0:14:00.080 --> 0:14:01.800 So we're gonna leave it right. 0:14:01.800 --> 0:14:06.920 We're gonna leave it right there. Rip America is unfortunately 0:14:06.960 --> 0:14:10.760 taking over. We need to do not even our due diligence. 0:14:10.800 --> 0:14:14.559 We need to work really, really hard to Australianize our 0:14:14.600 --> 0:14:17.640 Australian experience because so much of what we take is 0:14:17.679 --> 0:14:20.600 from other cultures and we're not really figuring out what 0:14:20.760 --> 0:14:25.120 is our own Halloween For example, that was notoriously quote 0:14:25.200 --> 0:14:27.720 unquote an American thing to do. And then we start 0:14:27.760 --> 0:14:31.600 watching one too many American shows, one too many American movies, 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:34.440 one too many American American songs, and all of a sudden, 0:14:34.840 --> 0:14:37.880 we're all like, what's happening for Halloween? Yeah, next thing, 0:14:37.880 --> 0:14:39.080 you know, we're doing Thanksgiving. 0:14:39.440 --> 0:14:40.520 Oh, that will never happen. 0:14:41.080 --> 0:14:44.320 I'm already doing a dinner party. You're joking, not for Thanksgiving. 0:14:44.720 --> 0:14:47.480 But I'm like, what a great opportunity to get the 0:14:47.520 --> 0:14:48.160 friends together. 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:48.640 I guess. 0:14:48.640 --> 0:14:51.120 So if you get in a little turkey or tur ducan, 0:14:51.360 --> 0:14:54.640 when it's a bird inside a turkey inside of pork. 0:14:54.520 --> 0:14:55.400 That's really scary. 0:14:55.520 --> 0:14:58.160 I will say I've always been for Halloween. I think 0:14:58.160 --> 0:14:59.720 I was an early adopter of Halloween. I was doing 0:14:59.720 --> 0:15:02.640 trigger treating when there was literally no kids are there. 0:15:02.680 --> 0:15:05.120 I'm running around matt Wave leaving chick or treat hoping 0:15:05.160 --> 0:15:07.960 they do tricks so I can do a performance. And 0:15:08.000 --> 0:15:11.720 once I went to this house and obviously nobody freaking lollies, 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:14.520 So you just gave me a block of cabri and 0:15:14.600 --> 0:15:18.440 I thought, win a winner chickens inner. That's my brother. 0:15:18.720 --> 0:15:21.520 Such a feral kid, Oh for sure, And I say 0:15:21.520 --> 0:15:23.920 go feral. I was staying in Cujie when it was new, 0:15:24.280 --> 0:15:28.000 when it was Halloween. This year, kids everywhere, kids away, 0:15:28.280 --> 0:15:31.600 one chick up the road was having a like a 0:15:31.640 --> 0:15:33.920 street party for to meet new people. And I said 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:36.000 to her, Oh my god, like that suit. That must 0:15:36.040 --> 0:15:37.840 be so nice having kids because you can do Halloween 0:15:38.000 --> 0:15:38.760 like I don't have kids. 0:15:42.400 --> 0:15:47.520 And I was like, oh, this is flex and frooms 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:48.760 on kit. 0:15:48.760 --> 0:15:51.840 FLEXI is a big hugger, self identified hugger. She's running 0:15:51.840 --> 0:15:54.280 around the office giving people hugs. Don't worry if you're 0:15:54.320 --> 0:15:56.240 not a hugger anyway. 0:15:56.040 --> 0:15:58.280 Non consensual hugging. I'm so sorry. Maybe I am the problem. 0:15:58.960 --> 0:15:59.480 Maybe I am. 0:16:00.120 --> 0:16:01.760 That's why. That's where you're going to end. 0:16:03.360 --> 0:16:03.960 Excuse me. 0:16:04.280 --> 0:16:04.640 Anyway? 0:16:04.760 --> 0:16:08.200 Is that a threst? Someone bringing hr? 0:16:08.320 --> 0:16:10.160 She's literally on air? 0:16:11.400 --> 0:16:14.200 This is on paper. The paper trail has begun. I 0:16:14.280 --> 0:16:16.200 was with on wiki how, one of my favorite websites. 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:18.280 I go to what are the wiki hows of the day? 0:16:18.320 --> 0:16:20.520 These are the most popular articles. I find one and 0:16:20.560 --> 0:16:24.760 I think this has flex ratanola. It's what's sixteen of 0:16:24.800 --> 0:16:28.240 the most common hugs? Mean, let's get right into it. 0:16:28.760 --> 0:16:32.400 Number one is the classic hug. What's a warm intimate 0:16:32.480 --> 0:16:36.160 hug between friends? It's commonly you just the hugger wraps 0:16:36.160 --> 0:16:38.240 the arms around each other with the chest touching and 0:16:38.280 --> 0:16:42.280 their heads side by side, A great impraising hug for 0:16:42.880 --> 0:16:43.920 a few seconds. 0:16:44.040 --> 0:16:45.280 Yeah cool, And. 0:16:45.200 --> 0:16:46.440 We use this when we be sure. 0:16:47.280 --> 0:16:49.600 Typically given received this hug when you say goodbye or 0:16:49.640 --> 0:16:53.040 say hello, and someone who has romantic feelings for you 0:16:53.040 --> 0:16:56.200 may squeeze a little tighter or hug for a little longer. 0:16:56.400 --> 0:16:58.880 Next hug, please, and when you know, you know, I 0:16:58.880 --> 0:17:00.000 had one of these hugs this week. 0:17:00.000 --> 0:17:02.400 Again, we're on here, boys. 0:17:02.240 --> 0:17:05.480 Wait a second, were you doing the squeezing or they squeeze? 0:17:06.880 --> 0:17:10.240 So mutual squeeze you know? Okay, you know it's on 0:17:10.320 --> 0:17:13.000 when you're huge. Little squeeze at the end. And when 0:17:13.040 --> 0:17:18.080 you come away, look at each other's eyes. Were on here? 0:17:20.760 --> 0:17:25.240 Eat on tonight anyway, So that's in the back of 0:17:25.320 --> 0:17:27.480 the mind of the graft mind. Number two to bear hug. 0:17:27.760 --> 0:17:30.359 It's a long, tight hug that signals intimacy. 0:17:30.480 --> 0:17:31.159 My favorite. 0:17:31.359 --> 0:17:34.720 But be careful, don't squeeze too tightly with this one, boys, 0:17:35.160 --> 0:17:37.359 all right, the hug at the waist. This is giving 0:17:37.400 --> 0:17:40.639 me tingerly feelings. A hug around the waist is romantic 0:17:40.800 --> 0:17:42.080 and it means they trust you. 0:17:42.720 --> 0:17:46.240 Wait from okay, let's keep going. Yep. 0:17:46.400 --> 0:17:47.560 The side hug. 0:17:47.640 --> 0:17:51.359 Terrifying casual terrifying. 0:17:51.400 --> 0:17:53.919 Grows Oh my god, the hug from behind, playful affection, 0:17:54.680 --> 0:17:56.240 romantic part do a. 0:17:56.160 --> 0:17:58.639 Bit of a nuzzle. Number six. The quick hug when 0:17:58.680 --> 0:18:00.840 you're oh yeah, hey, yeah. 0:18:00.680 --> 0:18:03.800 I hate that, rebuke just to a handshake. The one 0:18:03.920 --> 0:18:05.280 armed hug, terrifying. 0:18:05.320 --> 0:18:08.760 That's a classic. The padding hug. It's usually one done 0:18:09.040 --> 0:18:09.840 between bros. 0:18:09.960 --> 0:18:11.719 Oh yeah, I'm trying to integrate that. 0:18:11.720 --> 0:18:12.880 That's a dad and sun hug. 0:18:12.960 --> 0:18:14.119 I'll call out. Yeah. 0:18:14.320 --> 0:18:18.560 The triangle hug. It's cold, awkward and no one's okay. 0:18:18.640 --> 0:18:21.080 Since when your chest touches but you're you're growing and 0:18:21.160 --> 0:18:22.920 hip stay far away from each other. 0:18:23.080 --> 0:18:26.400 Again, that's a hug done out of obligation. Yeah, oh, 0:18:26.480 --> 0:18:29.960 this is a bad one. The unreciprocated hug. One person 0:18:30.080 --> 0:18:32.240 is standing limp like a fift A couple of those. 0:18:32.560 --> 0:18:34.320