Speaker 1: The Flex and Rooms Daily podcast brought.
Speaker 2: To you, Hey gremlins, welcome back to the studio.
Speaker 3: I'm hungry, Yeah, just gonna put it out there, absolutely
Speaker 3: starving the stomach's cabinists.
Speaker 1: What do you want to eat?
Speaker 2: Last time I ate? Was it eleven thirty? What do
Speaker 2: you want to eat? And it's four o'clock? Do you
Speaker 2: know what? I feel like? Something fresh like? I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't want to go to McDonald's, for example. I'm
Speaker 2: not that hungry.
Speaker 3: I would love I'm kind of that in between your
Speaker 3: I don't feel like anything, but I know that I
Speaker 3: need to eat. I need to eat something bland but
Speaker 3: a bit sweet. I'd probably do like a roller chocolate
Speaker 3: and a soft drink, A wat chocolate, rower chocolate. What's
Speaker 3: a rower? A rober of chocolate?
Speaker 1: Huh?
Speaker 4: A row of Oh I'm hearing a a ro wa
Speaker 4: A rower chocolate?
Speaker 2: That sounds like kind of nice as it like boutique?
Speaker 2: A row of chocolates? Do you only chocolates you want
Speaker 2: to pop in your mouth? Shut up?
Speaker 1: Thanks you.
Speaker 3: Today's which is about a tip that you need for dating.
Speaker 3: Listen if you're listening to this podcast and you're dating,
Speaker 3: stay tuned.
Speaker 4: Also tell us what's working for you, because I'm very
Speaker 4: surprised at how people date. I'm honestly a little bit scared.
Speaker 4: When I come out of my bubble of being hectic
Speaker 4: and feral, I'm like, oh, we're koy?
Speaker 1: Are we sort of in koy? I didn't know we
Speaker 1: were doing that.
Speaker 2: Still, you're a bit behind.
Speaker 1: I'm a little bit behind.
Speaker 4: So let me know what it's like on your end,
Speaker 4: like a we are you not texting?
Speaker 1: First?
Speaker 2: Are the apps popping for anyone? Be serious? Every every
Speaker 2: person I know, I say, whew's that going there? This
Speaker 2: is grim?
Speaker 4: It's looking really Oh, We've got to change up the narrative.
Speaker 4: I feel like if we all collect you were like,
Speaker 4: you know what, it can get better. It's gonna get better.
Speaker 4: Then we start doing that place eboing totally agreed, like
Speaker 4: nothing changes, but our mindset changes, and then so we
Speaker 4: think it's better. I think we have a we have
Speaker 4: a responsibility to change the narrative.
Speaker 2: Let's do it.
Speaker 1: I'll start. I told you it slutty spring.
Speaker 2: Can't you can't use that term?
Speaker 1: Why not?
Speaker 2: Because I use it before? And you said no?
Speaker 1: You said where slutch?
Speaker 2: I said what I said? Podcasts, God and froms for.
Speaker 4: Me, phone down, listening ears on, speaking voices on We're
Speaker 4: on live radio. Get it together, King, I'm back, I'm back.
Speaker 4: What's the best dating tip you've ever received? After Domen't
Speaker 4: think too hard about it.
Speaker 2: I know it. My nana told me when I was thirteen. Okay,
Speaker 2: you said it to my mum and my dad. You
Speaker 2: are worth the price that you put on your head.
Speaker 1: What does that mean?
Speaker 3: People will pay whatever price you put in your head.
Speaker 3: So if you make yourself expensive, people pay the price.
Speaker 1: So how do you make yourself expensive?
Speaker 3: I only date or fornicate with people that I think
Speaker 3: are worthy of me.
Speaker 1: Cloud Chaser, got it? Say no more.
Speaker 2: I'm not giving myself away. Willy Nilly?
Speaker 1: Okay, who you trying to convince this? I heard you
Speaker 1: the first time.
Speaker 4: It's not often there are good dating tips on the internet.
Speaker 4: They all just fall into the same really specific category
Speaker 4: of people who've nevidated.
Speaker 1: Before pretinding they know what dating is.
Speaker 2: Like.
Speaker 1: Leat me out of it, babe, I'm a hot commodity.
Speaker 1: But I heard on the other day.
Speaker 4: I was like this, chickers onto something because we all
Speaker 4: know it. But you have to remember, as someone who
Speaker 4: is charming, do you relate. Yeah, the eyes are glazing
Speaker 4: over someone who is charming entertaining. The thing I need
Speaker 4: to stop doing is entertaining myself for the both of us.
Speaker 4: You crack too many jokes. You think that you're both
Speaker 4: having a good time. No, you're the entertainer entertaining right.
Speaker 4: This dating tip this person gave was to not answer
Speaker 4: unasked questions, and by that you'll often find you might
Speaker 4: go on a date and you'll say, oh, so what's
Speaker 4: your favorite thing to do?
Speaker 1: You know, what are your hobbies?
Speaker 4: And they'll be like, oh, you know, I really like snowboarding,
Speaker 4: and I'm really into martial arts, and I really like
Speaker 4: brewing my own beer.
Speaker 1: It's like, I really love it.
Speaker 2: Cool.
Speaker 4: You might jump in and say I love doing this
Speaker 4: and I like this. Now see how long it takes
Speaker 4: them to be genuinely interested in figuring out what you
Speaker 4: like to do. Wow, So people say one of two things.
Speaker 4: Don't keep asking questions, like once you asked a few,
Speaker 4: just let it sit and see what happened.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 4: Others say, just don't answer questions and have not been
Speaker 4: asked to you explicitly. I don't think it works for everyone,
Speaker 4: but if you find yourself just being like the date comedian,
Speaker 4: the date jester, the date entertainer. You gotta, you know,
Speaker 4: sit down, you break your back from carrying.
Speaker 3: I think this works for two reasons. I've done this
Speaker 3: on a date before. I realized they weren't asking me
Speaker 3: any questions, so I stopped asking them back.
Speaker 2: Of course, I paid for the bill, what because I
Speaker 2: just need to get out of there?
Speaker 1: Can you tell this around the potty bruv?
Speaker 3: I'm giving away too much on this podcast. I just
Speaker 3: you know those people that just have a story for
Speaker 3: every story you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to.
Speaker 3: Say I've lived a long life. It's rather that I've
Speaker 3: mind every experience. Yeah, I'm clutching his straws over here.
Speaker 1: Nah.
Speaker 3: I've been in this situation before where I realized someone
Speaker 3: on a date wasn't asking me any questions, and I thought,
Speaker 3: you know what, I know, I'm not I know this
Speaker 3: will go nowhere, so I'm just going to do an experiment.
Speaker 3: Didn't ask them any more questions got awkward. I had
Speaker 3: to make an excuse to get out of there. And
Speaker 3: when things get awkward in a date situation, I often
Speaker 3: just pay you to get out of there.
Speaker 4: How did you do it? So you you summoned the wager.
Speaker 2: I was just like, Oh, I reckon, I don't reckon.
Speaker 2: I'm going to have another drink. Should we go?
Speaker 4: Oh that sounds like a proposition from here though, Oh
Speaker 4: that sounds like, oh should we go?
Speaker 1: Oh wink wink. Maybe unless you didn't say it like.
Speaker 3: That, I probably didn't. Again, no game, Yeah, I reckon,
Speaker 3: I reckon. If you're doing this technique, they're not for you.
Speaker 3: M m. But also, I think this is a good
Speaker 3: time for self reflection. If you're asking questions and you're
Speaker 3: not asked and they're not like asking you it back,
Speaker 3: maybe you're asking leading questions so you can give your answer.
Speaker 3: Science people will ask your question and I'll rush through
Speaker 3: the answer because I know they just want to tell
Speaker 3: me their answer.
Speaker 2: Oh, so you could be doing that.
Speaker 1: That's an example of that.
Speaker 3: I'll ask you, oh, have you women's last time you
Speaker 3: ate a lolly? You say, oh, I ate one, and
Speaker 3: I'll jump over and say, oh my god, I had
Speaker 3: the best lolly yesterday.
Speaker 2: Blah blah blah about the lolly. See what I mean?
Speaker 1: I yeah, I get that a lot.
Speaker 2: I've got to be checked both ways.
Speaker 1: It's a tricky one.
Speaker 4: Too, because also I feel like not everybody is made
Speaker 4: out to be the same type of conversation list. There
Speaker 4: are different roles you can play in a conversation, and
Speaker 4: not everybody is the one who's leading with a story
Speaker 4: or who's leading the trajectory of it, you know what
Speaker 4: I'm saying. Like, some people just naturally will share when
Speaker 4: invited to share, We'll speak when invited to be, we'll
Speaker 4: speak when spoken to.
Speaker 1: That kind of vibe.
Speaker 4: And I also think that traditional dating works a very
Speaker 4: specific archetype of person Like if you are super like, extroverted, charming,
Speaker 4: outgoing la la la la la, the dating landscape is
Speaker 4: made for you, and so naturally the way you operate
Speaker 4: becomes the standard.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So if you can't be quick, witty, charming, fast thinking
Speaker 4: on whatever, and everyone's like, oh, then like you're a
Speaker 4: weird person to date or like you're not interested, it'd
Speaker 4: be hard for those people.
Speaker 2: Do you ever not lay the conversation?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: But I think it doesn't suit me. Didn't I tell
Speaker 4: you when I was a couple months ago. When I
Speaker 4: say a couple, I mean like the start of October,
Speaker 4: I was like, yeah, I'm in my passive princess era.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be the.
Speaker 3: I was this thinking, you know, maybe you aren't as
Speaker 3: self aware as you really.
Speaker 4: I wanted to try, I told him, doing exposure therapy, right,
Speaker 4: So I'm trying new things. What is life like when
Speaker 4: I'm not deciding what's happening. I'm not leading, I'm like,
Speaker 4: you're cute whatever. I'm just gonna try it out.
Speaker 1: See what the paces of everybody else? What pace are
Speaker 1: we moving at base?
Speaker 4: That was ten days of trauma.
Speaker 1: I just wait around for a text to come, and
Speaker 1: then when it comes, I gotta be I gotta be
Speaker 1: casual with it. I gotta be docile. I couldn't do it.
Speaker 1: My chest was tied. I gotta say how I feel.
Speaker 4: But it was a good exercise because I'm just I'm
Speaker 4: just built this way. I'm just built to be a
Speaker 4: little bit grading, very bold, very specific, and so I
Speaker 4: could imagine like in this instance, I'm a question asker,
Speaker 4: I'm a data minor whatever. But also I'm creating an
Speaker 4: environment where it's like, this is what we're doing. We're
Speaker 4: having covers that we're asking questions. If I also think
Speaker 4: how people respond to you is the environment that you've
Speaker 4: created as well? So if someone's not asking you questions.
Speaker 4: Number one, they're not interested. You're not made it a
Speaker 4: safe place to share. That's a big one.
Speaker 1: That's a big and they scared all you like.
Speaker 4: You just not like creating an environment where they're like, oh,
Speaker 4: this is gonna land. Well, I feel comfortable sharing something
Speaker 4: with you because I know that you'll make it comfortble
Speaker 4: for me to do so takes you know, what is it?
Speaker 1: Two to Tango's a minefield?
Speaker 3: Really it's a minefield, brav I will say, I'm a princess.
Speaker 2: I always feel be and that's that. Flex and frooms.
Speaker 4: On Halloween, the thirty first of October, I received a
Speaker 4: voice memo in my Instagram dms entitled hi Flex, am
Speaker 4: I the asshole incoming and a fifty nine second voice memo.
Speaker 4: I said, ooh, thank you, and did not listen to
Speaker 4: it because I knew I wanted to share it with you,
Speaker 4: and you can't fake a first impression. If I listened
Speaker 4: to it and then come back and listen to this,
Speaker 4: I'd be stonefaced. Think about my face as I'm learning
Speaker 4: through observing myself being filmed, It's all there. My resting
Speaker 4: bitch face is so activated. My brows are constantly furrowed.
Speaker 4: You could read it on me. So let's listen to
Speaker 4: it together, shall we?
Speaker 5: Hay chicks, So I have an am I the asshole parent? Addition,
Speaker 5: today is Halloween, and there was no notification from my
Speaker 5: son's kinder as to whether it was a dress update
Speaker 5: or anything like that. But as I arrived, I saw
Speaker 5: fifteen tiny little humans dressed in different Halloween costumes and
Speaker 5: my son was the only one not dressed in a costume.
Speaker 5: I don't know whether Halloween has become more of a
Speaker 5: thing now that it's twenty twenty two and American culture
Speaker 5: has just infiltrated Australia. But I don't ever remember dressing
Speaker 5: up like that for at school as a child, but
Speaker 5: it seems like it's super popular now. So I just
Speaker 5: want to know, like, can I get a vibe check?
Speaker 5: Am I the asshole? I didn't realize that.
Speaker 4: Oh, and then she did go on to say, I
Speaker 4: didn't realize it cut off.
Speaker 1: So if you want me to rerecord it, I can.
Speaker 4: And I said, babes, don't worry about it, like we
Speaker 4: can get the GISTs. I assumed we could get the
Speaker 4: gist and we can't.
Speaker 2: This is a lot.
Speaker 3: This is cross continental, cross cultural commentary coming your way.
Speaker 4: And it's a big one because if we thought, you know,
Speaker 4: a couple years ago, America had infiltrated our culture and
Speaker 4: suppressed it so heavily that all we do is think
Speaker 4: in americanisms, it's gotten way worse now.
Speaker 2: Depending away you sing, maybe way better, oh.
Speaker 1: Yeah, or just way more prevalent. Now, that's what we're doing.
Speaker 4: So coming up, we are going to discuss what we
Speaker 4: think about it pro against Halloween.
Speaker 1: It's not even about that. We're here for the little kidlets,
Speaker 1: all right, who wants to be left out as a
Speaker 1: little kidd lit And of course think about mum feels
Speaker 1: be like, damn I didn't pull through like that? How
Speaker 1: was I meant to know? We gotta notification.
Speaker 4: I feel like it's a fun little novelty, but especially
Speaker 4: in the context of school, primary school or high school,
Speaker 4: k kindergarten, it's you go in your uniform and then
Speaker 4: you do a little you do a little lolly exchange
Speaker 4: or something. Maybe your teacher puts up some gaul some
Speaker 4: screen masks, but that is it. You can't just rock
Speaker 4: up in your playing clothes to school to kinder It's
Speaker 4: not a thing and if it was gonna be a thing.
Speaker 1: It is customary, especially.
Speaker 4: In little kid at schools these days, everything is so virtual, technological.
Speaker 1: They're always in a little updates, little updates.
Speaker 4: You would say, f YI, if you want to participate,
Speaker 4: we're doing costumes. If not, don't worry about it, because
Speaker 4: the thing about it is like it's not about like
Speaker 4: personal preference, It's about the optics of little kids. There
Speaker 4: is nothing worse than being left out as a little kid,
Speaker 4: because little kids don't realize how vicious they are when
Speaker 4: they're not around the norm. I could only imagine, why
Speaker 4: are you wearing a costume? What are you dressed up as?
Speaker 4: That stuff is traumatizing And then how do you go
Speaker 4: and explain to your kid, Oh, you know, I didn't notification?
Speaker 1: What is a notification? Notication?
Speaker 4: You know, speak is all the kids and things like
Speaker 4: mum didn't get it together or Mum didn't want to
Speaker 4: be bullied or whatever it is.
Speaker 1: It sucks far out.
Speaker 3: I really feel that nothing like getting left out. Did
Speaker 3: you ever have any dress up days at school?
Speaker 1: I don't recall.
Speaker 4: I feel like we just had like what we called
Speaker 4: mufty days where you could wear plain clothes.
Speaker 2: Why they called Mufty days.
Speaker 1: What that means is that worth googling?
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 3: But our in Victoria is called casual clothes day muff,
Speaker 3: which is far more sensical.
Speaker 1: Mufty days.
Speaker 4: Wikipedia says it's used in Australia, Britain and New Zealand,
Speaker 4: day on which school pupils are allowed to wear casual clothes,
Speaker 4: which would usually be against the school ume's policy.
Speaker 1: But what does mufty mean? It's an Indian term.
Speaker 4: Oh but On twenty sixth of July twenty twenty, Pedessian
Speaker 4: wrote an article that said, turns out the origin of
Speaker 4: the term mufty day is kind of problematic.
Speaker 2: So we're gonna leave it right.
Speaker 4: We're gonna leave it right there. Rip America is unfortunately
Speaker 4: taking over. We need to do not even our due diligence.
Speaker 4: We need to work really, really hard to Australianize our
Speaker 4: Australian experience because so much of what we take is
Speaker 4: from other cultures and we're not really figuring out what
Speaker 4: is our own Halloween For example, that was notoriously quote
Speaker 4: unquote an American thing to do. And then we start
Speaker 4: watching one too many American shows, one too many American movies,
Speaker 4: one too many American American songs, and all of a sudden,
Speaker 4: we're all like, what's happening for Halloween? Yeah, next thing,
Speaker 4: you know, we're doing Thanksgiving.
Speaker 2: Oh, that will never happen.
Speaker 4: I'm already doing a dinner party. You're joking, not for Thanksgiving.
Speaker 4: But I'm like, what a great opportunity to get the
Speaker 4: friends together.
Speaker 1: I guess.
Speaker 3: So if you get in a little turkey or tur ducan,
Speaker 3: when it's a bird inside a turkey inside of pork.
Speaker 1: That's really scary.
Speaker 3: I will say I've always been for Halloween. I think
Speaker 3: I was an early adopter of Halloween. I was doing
Speaker 3: trigger treating when there was literally no kids are there.
Speaker 3: I'm running around matt Wave leaving chick or treat hoping
Speaker 3: they do tricks so I can do a performance. And
Speaker 3: once I went to this house and obviously nobody freaking lollies,
Speaker 3: So you just gave me a block of cabri and
Speaker 3: I thought, win a winner chickens inner. That's my brother.
Speaker 3: Such a feral kid, Oh for sure, And I say
Speaker 3: go feral. I was staying in Cujie when it was new,
Speaker 3: when it was Halloween. This year, kids everywhere, kids away,
Speaker 3: one chick up the road was having a like a
Speaker 3: street party for to meet new people. And I said
Speaker 3: to her, Oh my god, like that suit. That must
Speaker 3: be so nice having kids because you can do Halloween
Speaker 3: like I don't have kids.
Speaker 4: And I was like, oh, this is flex and frooms
Speaker 4: on kit.
Speaker 3: FLEXI is a big hugger, self identified hugger. She's running
Speaker 3: around the office giving people hugs. Don't worry if you're
Speaker 3: not a hugger anyway.
Speaker 1: Non consensual hugging. I'm so sorry. Maybe I am the problem.
Speaker 1: Maybe I am.
Speaker 2: That's why. That's where you're going to end.
Speaker 1: Excuse me.
Speaker 2: Anyway?
Speaker 1: Is that a threst? Someone bringing hr?
Speaker 2: She's literally on air?
Speaker 3: This is on paper. The paper trail has begun. I
Speaker 3: was with on wiki how, one of my favorite websites.
Speaker 3: I go to what are the wiki hows of the day?
Speaker 3: These are the most popular articles. I find one and
Speaker 3: I think this has flex ratanola. It's what's sixteen of
Speaker 3: the most common hugs? Mean, let's get right into it.
Speaker 3: Number one is the classic hug. What's a warm intimate
Speaker 3: hug between friends? It's commonly you just the hugger wraps
Speaker 3: the arms around each other with the chest touching and
Speaker 3: their heads side by side, A great impraising hug for
Speaker 3: a few seconds.
Speaker 2: Yeah cool, And.
Speaker 1: We use this when we be sure.
Speaker 3: Typically given received this hug when you say goodbye or
Speaker 3: say hello, and someone who has romantic feelings for you
Speaker 3: may squeeze a little tighter or hug for a little longer.
Speaker 3: Next hug, please, and when you know, you know, I
Speaker 3: had one of these hugs this week.
Speaker 2: Again, we're on here, boys.
Speaker 4: Wait a second, were you doing the squeezing or they squeeze?
Speaker 2: So mutual squeeze you know? Okay, you know it's on
Speaker 2: when you're huge. Little squeeze at the end. And when
Speaker 2: you come away, look at each other's eyes. Were on here?
Speaker 3: Eat on tonight anyway, So that's in the back of
Speaker 3: the mind of the graft mind. Number two to bear hug.
Speaker 3: It's a long, tight hug that signals intimacy.
Speaker 1: My favorite.
Speaker 3: But be careful, don't squeeze too tightly with this one, boys,
Speaker 3: all right, the hug at the waist. This is giving
Speaker 3: me tingerly feelings. A hug around the waist is romantic
Speaker 3: and it means they trust you.
Speaker 1: Wait from okay, let's keep going. Yep.
Speaker 2: The side hug.
Speaker 1: Terrifying casual terrifying.
Speaker 3: Grows Oh my god, the hug from behind, playful affection,
Speaker 3: romantic part do a.
Speaker 2: Bit of a nuzzle. Number six. The quick hug when
Speaker 2: you're oh yeah, hey, yeah.
Speaker 1: I hate that, rebuke just to a handshake. The one
Speaker 1: armed hug, terrifying.
Speaker 2: That's a classic. The padding hug. It's usually one done
Speaker 2: between bros.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I'm trying to integrate that.
Speaker 2: That's a dad and sun hug.
Speaker 1: I'll call out. Yeah.
Speaker 2: The triangle hug. It's cold, awkward and no one's okay.
Speaker 4: Since when your chest touches but you're you're growing and
Speaker 4: hip stay far away from each other.
Speaker 3: Again, that's a hug done out of obligation. Yeah, oh,
Speaker 3: this is a bad one. The unreciprocated hug. One person
Speaker 3: is standing limp like a fift A couple of those.
Speaker 3: You win something, you lose some. The catch a hug
Speaker 3: when you jump up on someone's body like a bear.
Speaker 3: Oh it's a sexy hug between children. An adult hug.
Speaker 2: Here's a big one. The eye to I hug, when
Speaker 2: you hug each other nuzzle. Have you ever done that?
Speaker 3: Yeah, actually, I think I've seen that on your TikTok
Speaker 3: with your ex boyfriend, flex.
Speaker 2: Mummy boyfriend on tikto le come up.
Speaker 3: The cuddle hug, that's a classic, the group hug, the
Speaker 3: pickpocket hug when you put yeah hand in the pocket.
Speaker 1: These are so many, and.
Speaker 2: Finally, guess what the final one is. I have a
Speaker 2: think something you could do right now, an air hug.
Speaker 2: The self hug. Oh remember, guys, self love is super
Speaker 2: who comes first? You come first? Okay, that's seeing Psyclopedia
Speaker 2: of hugs. Thank you for listening. This is flex and frooms.
Speaker 4: I know that you are absolutely gagging for a heart.
Speaker 4: Fact a bit of a hot tip I read on Reddit.
Speaker 4: If you get yourself to be really happy and excited
Speaker 4: to see other people, they will react the same way
Speaker 4: to you. Doesn't always happen the first time, but it
Speaker 4: will definitely happen the next time. Time and time again.
Speaker 4: This has always worked. What do we call this? A
Speaker 4: bit of psychological manipulation, psychological warfare. All the most charming
Speaker 4: people do it. So jump on board.
Speaker 2: So you're essentially you know how humans mirror each other?
Speaker 2: Is that what's happening?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: But I guess you're you're like you're placing your mirroring
Speaker 4: in a happy way, or you're like you're wanting supposed
Speaker 4: to reflect you right, like.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, this person's really stoked. I'm stoked.
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, try that.
Speaker 1: Blink for me.
Speaker 2: I see you do this with people around the office.
Speaker 3: You come in, embrace people, give them a big hug,
Speaker 3: make them feel special. I'm in my own little world,
Speaker 3: to be honest, I do try and stop but preserving.
Speaker 4: Let the fans know you're still available when the opportunity
Speaker 4: presents itself.
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