WEBVTT - A Conversation About Blankies 🧸

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't there.

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<v Speaker 2>Talk to me about this hair?

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<v Speaker 3>Who is andros?

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<v Speaker 2>Today we're talking about blankies. Yes, those decrepit stained, tore

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<v Speaker 2>up blankets and cushions and stuffed animals that you've kept

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<v Speaker 2>since you were a wee child.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's cute, you know. We listen to show.

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<v Speaker 2>We shared a listener DM that was talking about how

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<v Speaker 2>a date of theirs after a one night stand had

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<v Speaker 2>come across their blanky, which led me to post the

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<v Speaker 2>question number one, who has blankies? Frims and I are

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<v Speaker 2>pushing thirty. Yes, so we are out of the demographic. Also,

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<v Speaker 2>it would seem we are not this is key blankie demographic.

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<v Speaker 2>And I also made the generalized statement that I thought

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<v Speaker 2>that blankies wore Caucasian activities. Come to find out based

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<v Speaker 2>on our listener dms, we have a few people who

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<v Speaker 2>aren't purely Caucasian who own blankies. Listen to these we

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<v Speaker 2>have three this The first person says, I'm mixed raced

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<v Speaker 2>African Australian. I don't have a blanky, but when my

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<v Speaker 2>twin and I were born in the hospital, they were

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<v Speaker 2>giving out stuffed panda toys, so we both got one

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<v Speaker 2>and we've held onto them. Since I think they're particularly

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<v Speaker 2>comforting because we moved into nationally every few years growing up,

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<v Speaker 2>and these little pandas are a constant in our lives.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my panda is not a daily comfort object and

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<v Speaker 2>usually lives under my bed, but she comes out for

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<v Speaker 2>special comfort requiring occasions, especially if we twins are separated. Example,

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<v Speaker 2>one of us is in hospital. Okay, I'm a redrun

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<v Speaker 2>more out. Then we'll go through the rest of our podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It's flex and rooms anywhere you get good podcasts. This

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<v Speaker 2>person says, I'm a half Asian woman. That's I'm seeing

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<v Speaker 2>for both people. These are half Caucasians. Still, my point remains, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a half Asian woman who had a blank until

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<v Speaker 2>I was twelve. I don't think it's a Caucasian thing,

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<v Speaker 2>as more of a neurodivergent thing. Okay, I'm diagnosed ADHD

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<v Speaker 2>and suspected autistic and now I have my adult blankie,

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<v Speaker 2>which is a shawl from India. Okay, I have a

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<v Speaker 2>neurodivergent urge to things around myself really tight when I'm panicked,

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<v Speaker 2>and I now and I know I used to do

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<v Speaker 2>that with a blankie.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so it's like a personal weighted blanket that has

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<v Speaker 3>some sort of like necessary sentimental value.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, okay, again, I'm happy to make generalized statements, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm always happy to be to be proven wrong. This

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<v Speaker 2>is in a situation where I stand by what I said.

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<v Speaker 2>Though on the podcast we're going to discuss if blankies

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<v Speaker 2>aren't purely Australian, though I think they might be. I

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<v Speaker 2>want to read about this third listener DM because it

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<v Speaker 2>does prove my theory wrong. And I wasn't prepared to

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<v Speaker 2>dox myself on radio, but I'll do it in the potty.

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<v Speaker 2>I am Japanese and not Caucasian, and I've had comfort

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<v Speaker 2>stuffed animals since I was little. That being said, I

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<v Speaker 2>grew up in not just Tokyo but also Ipswitch, so

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<v Speaker 2>maybe Caucasian behavior has rubbed off on me. I think

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<v Speaker 2>this is very interesting. The neurodivergent angle is one I

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<v Speaker 2>hadn't considered before. And I do understand the habitual element

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<v Speaker 2>of having this thing that's been with you from life.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think I really truly understood the concept of

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<v Speaker 2>sentimentality and objects and music until adulthood, when i'd gone

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<v Speaker 2>through like I don't want to say extreme times, but

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<v Speaker 2>like emotionally significant times where I could be like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>that has stuck with me. But if childhood felt emotionally

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<v Speaker 2>significant and these associated animals and blankets also feel emotionally significant,

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<v Speaker 2>then I guess that makes a bit more sense to me.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'm trying to think about my own proclivities to it.

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<v Speaker 2>You're gonna say proclivities, that's crazy.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a little bit of slash on that one. Do

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<v Speaker 3>I say that long?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>But it's it's it's where you say it more than

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<v Speaker 2>how frequently you say it. But that's like when there's

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<v Speaker 2>a pause, I know it's coming up.

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<v Speaker 3>Because I'm like sifting through the rolodex, and I might

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<v Speaker 3>be like, wait, do I a word for this? And

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<v Speaker 3>also is it a word that I send me? Don't

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<v Speaker 3>understand the meaning of we love?

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<v Speaker 2>Those should be Google what proclivities means?

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<v Speaker 3>Please? Oh guess while we're here. Yes, proclivities is like

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<v Speaker 3>a like a natural leaning towards something because you're good?

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<v Speaker 3>Is it?

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<v Speaker 2>We do have a writer in our myths soon to

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<v Speaker 2>be published author, current published author. It's a tendency to

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<v Speaker 2>choose or do something regularly, an inclination or predisposition towards

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<v Speaker 2>a particular thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, babe, Yes, but go on, I definitely see the

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<v Speaker 3>like I'm a person that needs a little comfort items.

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<v Speaker 3>I must admits I have been known to get into

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<v Speaker 3>a routine quite heavily in a way that is perhaps maladaptive.

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<v Speaker 3>What's this accent that was actually not even meant to be? Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>people get this. You just get into a rhythm with

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<v Speaker 3>like oldie weldy type speak, like my friend Ricky is

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<v Speaker 3>always like you speak in a very particular way. That's

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<v Speaker 3>like giving oldi weldy vibes.

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<v Speaker 2>Which I love.

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<v Speaker 3>I need to.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I would say, if you were to pendulum swing

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<v Speaker 2>in any direction, let's go further oldie worldy, and let's

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<v Speaker 2>also bring in some letter writing and some public pining calligority.

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<v Speaker 2>Fine enough, I've taken yurn out of the vocap because

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<v Speaker 2>I google the definition and it feels a little bit

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<v Speaker 2>like unrequired vibes. But pine, you know, let's let's pine

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<v Speaker 2>for things.

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<v Speaker 3>All I see is a tree. But also I appreciate that, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>let's fur is there a fer tree? Like if I are,

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<v Speaker 3>let's keep it going. Gram gam cam gamma. I understand

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<v Speaker 3>this from all my girlies and boy bosses. I just

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<v Speaker 3>understand being in a routine, and like being in a

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<v Speaker 3>routine that you like, You could throw it out if

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<v Speaker 3>you want. You could like give it away if you want.

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<v Speaker 3>But you know how like, yeah, you like grow out

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<v Speaker 3>of routines, but you're still need a little push to

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<v Speaker 3>get out of it. And the push doesn't have to

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<v Speaker 3>be negative or like sad. You can just be like,

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<v Speaker 3>all right, I'm willing to like try and not sleep

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<v Speaker 3>with my blanky for a few nights.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, this is an addiction, you know. I was asking

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<v Speaker 2>before what does having a blank you say about someone?

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<v Speaker 2>And initially I was like, perhaps it means they're emotionally stunted,

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<v Speaker 2>but maybe it actually means they're emotionally the opposite of stunted.

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<v Speaker 3>What makes you think that.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I'm thinking about people who yet, let's use the

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<v Speaker 2>people who have dmd US, Right, they have this awareness

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<v Speaker 2>around it being a comfort object and acknowledging that one

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<v Speaker 2>needs comfort that you might not be getting elsewhere. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>And so you've given You've allowed yourself to have this

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<v Speaker 2>experience through a source, which I think is some kind

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<v Speaker 2>of emotional intelligence. Yeah, self awareness.

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<v Speaker 3>Definitely being aware that the blanky of what the blanky

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<v Speaker 3>represents is a step.

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<v Speaker 2>Because it when I see it initially, where if I

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<v Speaker 2>walked into a room of an adult and I saw

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<v Speaker 2>a ton of stuffed animals, I would sooner think of

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<v Speaker 2>what's going on here? Like the surface is like, what's this?

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<v Speaker 2>Are we role playing toddler? But then maybe we're not

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<v Speaker 2>role playing at all. Maybe it's just allowing space to

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<v Speaker 2>have things that give us comfort.

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<v Speaker 3>Definitely, it's also kind of cool to have something.

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<v Speaker 1>That no, I swear, it's like, you know what I

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<v Speaker 1>never see in our generation slash in anyone that wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>born in the eighteen eighties is like dolecre like having

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<v Speaker 1>them real porcelain type dole situation where their heads fall off,

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<v Speaker 1>like I reckon.

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<v Speaker 3>If you are psychologically strong, you can handle having like

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<v Speaker 3>a row of those dolls in the bedroom. But takes

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<v Speaker 3>a very particular.

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<v Speaker 2>To do that. All right, let's go, Missy Baite.