WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - Fedoras, nudity and screwing your married colleague. 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:05.320 Life Uncut podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:09.120 Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:11.959 pay our respect to their elders past and present and 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:15.360 extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait islander 0:00:15.360 --> 0:00:16.120 peoples today. 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:19.599 This episode is recorded on Gadigal Land of the Aurora Nation. 0:00:39.120 --> 0:00:42.600 Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:42.960 --> 0:00:48.400 I'm Laura. Don't sound so exasperated, Laura bringing over there 0:00:48.600 --> 0:00:51.519 and this is our Thursday episode where we answer all 0:00:51.560 --> 0:00:55.880 of your deep, you're dark, you're burning, troublesome questions. Brittany's 0:00:55.880 --> 0:00:58.000 dogs over there trying to kill a It looks like 0:00:58.040 --> 0:01:00.680 a travel pillow. This is her. She'll come down in 0:01:00.680 --> 0:01:02.720 a minute. She's got one favorite toy and it's a 0:01:02.760 --> 0:01:05.760 sloth and she brings it with her everywhere. It's like 0:01:05.760 --> 0:01:07.399 a well, what's it like when the kids have that 0:01:07.440 --> 0:01:09.759 as a blanket. Well, Molly has one called a rabbie. 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:11.040 It's like a comfit thing. 0:01:11.240 --> 0:01:14.480 Yeah, a confuter yeah, speaking of like our children just 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:16.200 being so comfortable and cute. Do you know what Molly 0:01:16.280 --> 0:01:18.000 said to me on the drive over here? So coming 0:01:18.160 --> 0:01:20.160 to record this morning. I take the kids to daycare, 0:01:20.240 --> 0:01:22.880 drop them off, and then I come here to Brittany's 0:01:22.920 --> 0:01:25.360 beautiful little house and we record out of her studio room. 0:01:25.400 --> 0:01:27.600 Also love that you said speaking of our children, like two, 0:01:27.600 --> 0:01:30.039 I was my child? Yeah what did she do? 0:01:30.440 --> 0:01:30.520 So? 0:01:30.560 --> 0:01:32.600 I'm in the car and I was singing what's our 0:01:32.640 --> 0:01:34.240 favorite song at the moment, brit. 0:01:34.160 --> 0:01:37.440 Fuck you, mag your mom and your sister. Hang it, 0:01:39.319 --> 0:01:40.760 I say, dog, but that's not so. 0:01:41.200 --> 0:01:43.440 I was singing the very g rated version of that. 0:01:44.000 --> 0:01:46.520 I was singing forget you and your mum, and you're 0:01:46.520 --> 0:01:48.560 in the car and I put it up really loud, 0:01:48.600 --> 0:01:50.280 and I hear Molly. She's in the backseat and she 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:56.800 just goes And I was like, Baba, what's wrong? Thinking 0:01:57.080 --> 0:01:59.440 what sort of huge turmoil is my two year old 0:01:59.440 --> 0:02:00.280 in the back going through? 0:02:00.440 --> 0:02:04.640 She goes, oh, mummy, I hate it when you're talking. 0:02:06.240 --> 0:02:08.919 You're like, well, lucky, I talk for a living, isn't it? Like? 0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:11.720 I was like, actually, I was singing and she's like, 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:14.919 I hate that too, what do I? Because she has 0:02:15.040 --> 0:02:17.639 so much attitude, my two year old two and a half, 0:02:17.680 --> 0:02:19.880 she's she's gonna be three and three months. She has 0:02:20.000 --> 0:02:21.840 so much attitude. 0:02:21.840 --> 0:02:23.520 I was about to say, maybe she's going to be 0:02:23.520 --> 0:02:25.720 like a really introverted and quiet, but she's got none 0:02:25.760 --> 0:02:27.600 of that. She's not introverted quiet at all. 0:02:27.800 --> 0:02:29.960 And she's so quick to tell you all the things 0:02:29.960 --> 0:02:31.880 that she doesn't like about you, Like she's now she'll 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:34.960 be like, mummy, what are these? Oh they're wrinkles, Like 0:02:35.040 --> 0:02:38.720 she knows what she's doing. I don't know, but I 0:02:38.960 --> 0:02:41.040 think I don't think it's Malicia. I think there's malice 0:02:41.080 --> 0:02:41.760 in that child. 0:02:41.919 --> 0:02:43.480 I think, like, let's be real, I don't think it's 0:02:43.520 --> 0:02:46.000 two years old. She's been malicious and she's not pointing 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:48.079 out your wrinkles to make you feeling secure, Laura. She 0:02:48.080 --> 0:02:49.480 probably doesn't know what a wrinkle is yet. 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:51.880 And last night, well she does, she says wrinkles, So 0:02:51.919 --> 0:02:54.200 she does. And last night she sat in the shower 0:02:54.560 --> 0:02:56.760 on her potty with a bucket on her head. This 0:02:56.840 --> 0:02:58.840 is the child, this is the child that has so 0:02:58.919 --> 0:03:00.160 much control over my life. 0:03:00.200 --> 0:03:01.799 Well, then, are you really going to take what a 0:03:01.880 --> 0:03:04.040 child that sits naked with a buffet on her head? 0:03:04.040 --> 0:03:05.720 Are you going to take what she says as gospel? 0:03:05.760 --> 0:03:08.520 Because I don't think you need to anyway, your frinkles 0:03:08.520 --> 0:03:12.280 a fine get some botops, haven't you for it? Do 0:03:12.280 --> 0:03:13.960 you know what? I just want to mention as well. 0:03:14.120 --> 0:03:16.840 We did an episode on Tuesday that was on the Overwhelm, 0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:20.600 and I have received so many fucking, absolutely lovely messages 0:03:20.600 --> 0:03:23.680 from people this week. Are the moms who listened to 0:03:23.720 --> 0:03:26.160 the podcast and felt exactly the way that we have felt, 0:03:26.160 --> 0:03:29.080 who resonated with what we spoke about, who are also 0:03:29.160 --> 0:03:31.799 in this state of just well, like there's no other 0:03:31.800 --> 0:03:34.239 better word for it than feeling overwhelmed. As want to 0:03:34.280 --> 0:03:36.880 say thank you to everyone who listened and who wrote in. 0:03:37.160 --> 0:03:39.280 It means so much to us when we know that 0:03:39.320 --> 0:03:41.320 we talk about something or we touch on a topic 0:03:41.400 --> 0:03:44.560 that resonates with you guys. And reading those messages, I 0:03:44.640 --> 0:03:46.240 had one woman right to me and said that she 0:03:46.800 --> 0:03:49.200 went for a walk and she was in tears listening 0:03:49.200 --> 0:03:51.480 to it because she fully just feels like her life 0:03:51.480 --> 0:03:54.160 has been so to the point of capacity recently. 0:03:54.600 --> 0:03:57.920 And I was like, yes, girlfriend, us too, Ah, that's 0:03:57.960 --> 0:04:00.640 really not I love that we do hearing that it's 0:04:00.680 --> 0:04:04.080 making a difference. In complete transparency. I didn't get any messages. 0:04:05.640 --> 0:04:07.960 I'll read this one to you because this one. Well, 0:04:08.000 --> 0:04:10.640 I think it's definitely the overwhelmed. Like we said, it 0:04:10.640 --> 0:04:13.560 definitely affects everybody, but I think it hits differently with 0:04:13.680 --> 0:04:16.240 mums because of the fact that it is unrelenting. Do 0:04:16.279 --> 0:04:18.159 you know what I got? I did get a few 0:04:18.200 --> 0:04:21.880 messages from people that said they really felt what I 0:04:21.920 --> 0:04:23.600 felt when I said I was crying over getting a 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:24.960 dating app. When I was like, I don't want to 0:04:25.000 --> 0:04:26.839 get back back, They're like, girl, we feel you. It 0:04:26.920 --> 0:04:28.560 is sold a stream. We don't want to do it either. 0:04:28.680 --> 0:04:30.200 So I got a few of those, but I didn't 0:04:30.200 --> 0:04:31.640 get any resonating about the mom. 0:04:31.680 --> 0:04:33.440 Okay, well, this one mum wrote in she said, I 0:04:33.480 --> 0:04:36.359 just listened this afternoon, having an emotional afternoon with my kids. 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:38.440 After listening, I reached out to my mother in law 0:04:38.520 --> 0:04:40.040 and she came over and looked after my three year 0:04:40.080 --> 0:04:41.440 olds so I could go for a walk with the 0:04:41.480 --> 0:04:43.880 dog in peace. And I cried a bit more while 0:04:43.880 --> 0:04:47.240 listening to this. And I just think so many people 0:04:47.400 --> 0:04:50.800 feel exactly the same, and there's something really something not 0:04:50.839 --> 0:04:52.680 that you want other people to be having the same 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:54.720 small traumas that you are, but there's something. 0:04:54.640 --> 0:04:57.320 Really healing in knowing that you're not alone in feeling 0:04:57.400 --> 0:04:59.880 like this on ndred percent. But we're not gonna get 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:03.040 that now. No, get into I want to talk to 0:05:03.040 --> 0:05:05.960 you about an influencer. Oh, I know what you're going 0:05:06.040 --> 0:05:07.680 to talk to me about. Yeah, I'm once speaking to 0:05:07.720 --> 0:05:10.440 the audience. It's happened again, everybody. I'm not talking to you. 0:05:10.480 --> 0:05:12.279 I'm talking to you. I want to speak to you, guys. 0:05:12.320 --> 0:05:14.040 I want to tell you about an influencer. She's a 0:05:14.080 --> 0:05:18.279 Brazilian influencer, and I'm talking a very big influencer, fifteen 0:05:18.320 --> 0:05:21.560 point seven million followers. Her name, well she goes. Her 0:05:21.560 --> 0:05:24.520 stage name now is Poker, but her name is a 0:05:24.640 --> 0:05:27.760 Vivian di Quero's perrera. 0:05:28.480 --> 0:05:34.240 So fluently Britta no South American, definitely, butgerted that. 0:05:34.520 --> 0:05:37.520 But bless her soul. She's so funny. She's very open 0:05:37.520 --> 0:05:39.440 with the followers. And she went to hospital the other 0:05:39.520 --> 0:05:44.080 night with extreme, extreme stomach pain, like she thought her 0:05:44.120 --> 0:05:46.800 insides were falling out. She was with her new boyfriend 0:05:46.839 --> 0:05:48.359 at the time, and she's like, she kept him up 0:05:48.360 --> 0:05:50.000 all night because she was in so much pain. She's like, 0:05:50.040 --> 0:05:51.880 I'm got it at the hospital or something's really really wrong. 0:05:52.000 --> 0:05:55.719 My my apendix is bursting or I'm dying. She gets 0:05:55.800 --> 0:05:59.320 the hospital and she gets told by the doctor that 0:05:59.480 --> 0:06:02.840 in fact, she's just been she's just been holding her 0:06:02.880 --> 0:06:06.520 farts in. That's it, and it's caused extreme pain. And 0:06:06.560 --> 0:06:09.359 she was really honest. She's like, guys, my boyfriend and 0:06:09.360 --> 0:06:11.680 I were pretty new, we're not on fighting terms yet, 0:06:11.720 --> 0:06:14.200 so she's been holding them in. Little did she know 0:06:14.480 --> 0:06:16.200 that it can be disastrous. 0:06:16.560 --> 0:06:19.680 Can I just say, how can you be so frightened 0:06:19.680 --> 0:06:22.080 to far in front of your boyfriend but so okay 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:25.560 to talk to tell that many people like surely that 0:06:25.600 --> 0:06:26.960 there's a bit of a gap year And I know 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:29.559 we've spoken about this before. She is not the first 0:06:29.560 --> 0:06:32.919 person to end up in hospital from holding in her farts. Laura, 0:06:33.760 --> 0:06:37.359 you have I didn't purposely hold in my farts. I 0:06:37.400 --> 0:06:39.960 just ended up in hospital because I had trapped gas. 0:06:40.960 --> 0:06:42.719 But it doesn't get trapped from holding it in. 0:06:42.839 --> 0:06:44.800 Well, I don't know, because I would never had a 0:06:45.040 --> 0:06:46.520 corner like I can't find this whay. 0:06:46.520 --> 0:06:48.400 I was like, roadblock, I'll just stay here. 0:06:48.600 --> 0:06:51.560 I've never had a prokate, I've never not that okay 0:06:51.640 --> 0:06:53.880 in the early days of a relationship. I'm not gonna 0:06:53.880 --> 0:06:55.800 far in front of my partner, of course not. But 0:06:55.839 --> 0:06:59.040 we've spoken about this before. I have no qualms. Once 0:06:59.080 --> 0:07:01.880 I'm comfortable with partner, I think that it's totally fine, 0:07:02.240 --> 0:07:03.840 no holes, bars, let that shit loose. 0:07:03.960 --> 0:07:07.600 I am the pole opposite. I'm not a farer like 0:07:07.640 --> 0:07:09.200 I mean, like, obviously I do them, but I don't 0:07:09.200 --> 0:07:11.360 do it in front of my partner. I never ever 0:07:11.480 --> 0:07:14.360 will unless it was like an emergency or it's slipped 0:07:14.360 --> 0:07:16.080 out accidentally. But I'm never going to be in a 0:07:16.120 --> 0:07:18.920 relationship where I think it's funny to like lift a 0:07:18.960 --> 0:07:20.840 butt cheek and let one rip. It's not, and I don't. 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:22.760 I don't want my partner to do it. Actually, I 0:07:22.760 --> 0:07:24.960 remember when I was in the early stages with Jordan. 0:07:25.560 --> 0:07:27.400 I would even leave, like to go to the bathroom. 0:07:27.480 --> 0:07:29.920 But after probably three weeks he said to me, like 0:07:29.960 --> 0:07:31.600 he was with his friends and he's like, Brett, I 0:07:31.640 --> 0:07:33.360 can't hold these farts in anymore. He's like, I'm getting 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:35.160 extreme stomach pain. Because he used to be like I 0:07:35.200 --> 0:07:36.720 need to fight, and I just wouldn't let him. I 0:07:36.760 --> 0:07:38.520 was like, you absolutely can't. He's like, and I didn't 0:07:38.520 --> 0:07:39.880 know that you could go to hospital with it. So 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:41.200 I used to make him hold the meat. 0:07:41.440 --> 0:07:44.960 Britt used to leave her apartment and go to the 0:07:45.000 --> 0:07:48.520 public toilets across the beach, public toilets at Bondo beg 0:07:48.920 --> 0:07:49.640 to do a pooh. 0:07:49.680 --> 0:07:51.520 It matters what she did. In my defense, I told 0:07:51.560 --> 0:07:54.600 law of that in confidence. And it was one time. 0:07:54.760 --> 0:07:56.440 I No, there was this one time in the very 0:07:56.440 --> 0:07:59.480 early stages where I think we'd had We'd had drinks 0:07:59.520 --> 0:08:00.960 the night before we had it, We've been out dinner, 0:08:00.960 --> 0:08:02.440 we'd had some not good food, and you know when 0:08:02.480 --> 0:08:03.800 you just not I woke up and I was like, 0:08:04.440 --> 0:08:06.920 I do not feel well like I this something is 0:08:06.960 --> 0:08:08.800 a miss here. And I was like, this is not 0:08:08.840 --> 0:08:10.800 acceptable to be done in a small apartment. No, the 0:08:10.840 --> 0:08:13.040 apartment was small, the bathroom was next to the bedroom. 0:08:13.080 --> 0:08:14.840 There was no escape in it. He sleeps in. So 0:08:14.840 --> 0:08:16.480 I was like going for a run and just like 0:08:16.600 --> 0:08:18.520 ran across to the public toil to go to the toil. 0:08:18.800 --> 0:08:21.200 But this is actually really funny because I don't know, Laura, 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:24.160 if you like, it's definitely a common thing. But Abby 0:08:24.200 --> 0:08:27.720 Chatfield was recently on the hundred with Andy Lee. It's 0:08:27.720 --> 0:08:30.040 so relatable because we all do it. But she was 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:33.520 just saying that she in the mornings with her partner Conrad. 0:08:34.120 --> 0:08:35.760 She doesn't want a pooh in front of him. She's 0:08:35.800 --> 0:08:38.640 not at that stage, so she makes an excuse every 0:08:38.720 --> 0:08:40.920 morning to go to a cafe and do what she 0:08:40.920 --> 0:08:42.760 calls an anonymous poop. And I was like, it's just 0:08:42.800 --> 0:08:45.160 so related, like we've I think everyone has been there 0:08:45.200 --> 0:08:48.360 the worst. I think it's the hardest thing about dating, 0:08:48.400 --> 0:08:51.280 and like a new relationship, it is not the hardest 0:08:51.480 --> 0:08:54.480 all to me. I'm so easy going in every other aspect. 0:08:54.480 --> 0:08:56.480 For me, it is when you get together. I don't 0:08:56.480 --> 0:08:58.319 give a fuck about anything else. I'm like, I am 0:08:58.320 --> 0:08:59.920 not ready to fight or poop in front of me. 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:02.720 Out of all the trials and tribulations and all the 0:09:02.800 --> 0:09:05.160 ups and downs of a new relationship, you think that 0:09:05.559 --> 0:09:08.240 deciding where to go to the toilet is the hardest 0:09:08.280 --> 0:09:09.280 decision that you have to make. 0:09:09.360 --> 0:09:11.440 No, it's not just something where it's just how to 0:09:11.480 --> 0:09:13.600 avoid going to the toilet in front of your partner. 0:09:13.640 --> 0:09:15.800 And I mean like for me, when you just say 0:09:15.840 --> 0:09:18.160 the trials and tribulations of an early relationship, for me, 0:09:18.200 --> 0:09:20.439 there should be no trials and tribulations. The trial and 0:09:20.480 --> 0:09:22.880 tribulation is going to the toilet. I know. 0:09:23.080 --> 0:09:24.920 Look, I mean, we are so aware that this is 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:27.720 an incredibly divisive topic. I would say, I mean, I'd 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:29.520 love to know what the real statistics are. I don't 0:09:29.520 --> 0:09:32.480 think that there's been a formal hol being done. But like, 0:09:32.600 --> 0:09:35.640 you're either someone who does not care like me, or 0:09:35.640 --> 0:09:39.680 you're someone who deeply cares and passionately cares about keeping 0:09:39.720 --> 0:09:42.360 something sacred in the relationship. I don't want us to 0:09:42.400 --> 0:09:44.760 ever get to a point where we think it's no judgment. 0:09:45.200 --> 0:09:48.640 Everyone's different. But here is a reason why you should 0:09:48.640 --> 0:09:50.760 get a little bit more comfortable. This is a medical 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:53.520 this is I'm going deep. This is a report. This 0:09:53.720 --> 0:09:55.679 is what the doctors have to say. Trying to hold 0:09:55.720 --> 0:09:57.760 in your parts leads to a build up of pressure 0:09:57.800 --> 0:10:00.520 and major discomfort. A build up if intest personal gas 0:10:00.559 --> 0:10:05.000 can trigger abdominal distension, with some gas reabsorbing into the 0:10:05.040 --> 0:10:08.120 circulatory system and exhaled in your breath. 0:10:08.760 --> 0:10:10.040 Holding on too long. 0:10:09.920 --> 0:10:12.480 Means the build up of intestinal gas will eventually escape 0:10:12.559 --> 0:10:17.440 via an uncomfortable fart or hospitalization. There you go, everybody, 0:10:17.559 --> 0:10:20.800 that is what you will breathe your fart out. Yeah, 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:22.720 if you don't let it out, If it doesn't come 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:24.240 out below it'll come out of it, and you can't 0:10:24.240 --> 0:10:26.040 blame it on garlic, like. 0:10:26.040 --> 0:10:27.920 You can tell you have had some garlia. Ask night, 0:10:27.920 --> 0:10:29.760 I'm sorry about that. Nope, you I'm burping out shit. 0:10:29.880 --> 0:10:33.280 I'm so sorry I had some farts last night. Aarah. Okay, 0:10:33.320 --> 0:10:36.520 that's half about that. Let's get into some questions. 0:10:36.520 --> 0:10:39.320 Okay, I have a question which is a very it's 0:10:39.360 --> 0:10:41.959 a question we've never been asked before. Firstly, I want 0:10:42.000 --> 0:10:43.640 to ask a question back to it, but I'll get 0:10:43.640 --> 0:10:46.960 into it. Okay, what do you wear to a group 0:10:47.040 --> 0:10:48.120 audition for The Bachelor? 0:10:48.480 --> 0:10:50.960 Do you go all out ball gown or low key? 0:10:51.360 --> 0:10:53.480 Do you want to stand out but also not look 0:10:53.559 --> 0:10:56.160 like a complete weirdo? Maybe I'm asking for a friend. 0:10:56.400 --> 0:10:58.360 Maybe I'm asking because I'm going to an audition. 0:10:58.559 --> 0:11:00.560 Who knows? Okay, well we do. If you're going for 0:11:00.600 --> 0:11:03.880 an audition, Okay, well, straight up, you don't wear a 0:11:03.880 --> 0:11:06.160 ball don't. Please don't worry, please please please don't do 0:11:06.200 --> 0:11:08.000 that unless unless you want to be cast as a 0:11:08.000 --> 0:11:11.080 crazy person, unless you actually wear a ball gown day 0:11:11.120 --> 0:11:12.959 to day, don't wear a ball gown. What you want 0:11:13.000 --> 0:11:15.719 to do? My best advice and Laura, I wonder I'm 0:11:15.720 --> 0:11:17.199 gonna ask in a second if you remember what you wore? 0:11:17.440 --> 0:11:20.040 My best advice is to wear what you would wear. 0:11:20.640 --> 0:11:22.080 You just want to be you. You want to present your 0:11:22.080 --> 0:11:24.160 own personality, but maybe you want to do it at 0:11:24.600 --> 0:11:26.640 the best level. So maybe you want to do what 0:11:26.720 --> 0:11:28.800 you do day to day. But you know, I'm a 0:11:28.840 --> 0:11:31.959 polish version, but maybe you're not polished. Maybe you are 0:11:32.120 --> 0:11:34.719 really laid back. Maybe you're a skater girl. Whatever it is, 0:11:35.600 --> 0:11:38.240 my best advice is to just go as you are 0:11:38.320 --> 0:11:40.320 and be you because they can see through anything else. 0:11:40.360 --> 0:11:42.040 They can see it one hundred miles away. 0:11:42.160 --> 0:11:45.360 Be your authentic self. Isn't that take home message of 0:11:45.360 --> 0:11:46.360 this entire podcast? 0:11:46.480 --> 0:11:48.720 What did you? I remember what I wore? What did 0:11:48.760 --> 0:11:50.880 you wear? You would mean jeans in a nice top, 0:11:51.000 --> 0:11:53.199 like every single girl in the world. Literally, I wore 0:11:53.240 --> 0:11:56.120 jeans in a nice top to it. What do you tonight? 0:11:56.440 --> 0:12:00.240 Jean's in a nice top. I just wanted to look 0:12:00.240 --> 0:12:01.559 you unique and stand up. Okay. 0:12:01.559 --> 0:12:03.719 Firstly, I love that we now know that they're at 0:12:03.760 --> 0:12:06.160 group audition phase for the next season of The Bachelor. 0:12:06.360 --> 0:12:09.160 I'm very interested to find out what they're actually doing 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:12.200 for this coming season because I think after the absolute 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:15.560 dumpster fire that were ratings last year. I mean, I 0:12:15.559 --> 0:12:18.440 don't think the bachelorrett is going ahead, so the Bachelor 0:12:18.520 --> 0:12:20.880 Stool is. But there's been some whispers that maybe they're 0:12:20.880 --> 0:12:22.880 going to do a combined one. Maybe they're gonna they're 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:25.160 in a combinement, a guy and a girl as the leads. 0:12:25.520 --> 0:12:28.240 So I agree with you, Brit. I remember what I wore. 0:12:28.360 --> 0:12:30.959 I wore a skirt. I didn't actually wear jeans. I 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:33.480 wore a skirt and I wore and I can't remember 0:12:33.480 --> 0:12:34.800 the car. I think it was like a pinky color. 0:12:35.000 --> 0:12:36.080 And I wore a. 0:12:36.160 --> 0:12:39.800 Navy blue tiger lily singlet that was too low for 0:12:39.880 --> 0:12:41.280 me and so I had to sticky tape at to 0:12:41.400 --> 0:12:43.640 my boobs. And it just reminds me of the days 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:45.199 when I used to get away with with not wearing 0:12:45.200 --> 0:12:47.640 a bra and I could sticky tape tops to myself 0:12:47.920 --> 0:12:48.920 and now my boobs. 0:12:48.960 --> 0:12:52.199 Look at the floor. Did you wear heels or flat? 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:54.679 I would have worn sandals because I never wear heels 0:12:54.760 --> 0:12:56.319 because I do not like them. 0:12:56.360 --> 0:12:58.560 It's very tall, yes, so I would have won. 0:12:58.600 --> 0:13:01.760 I would want a skirt, like a bohemian skirt, and 0:13:01.800 --> 0:13:04.760 I would have worn it. Lily top and sandals. I 0:13:04.840 --> 0:13:07.160 used to be very boho in my style, so it 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:09.040 wasn't gen. You didn't wear GEN your skirt, Yeah, I 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:12.839 wore a skirt, so I wore. You're fucking gonna laugh 0:13:12.880 --> 0:13:14.559 so hard, I reckon. I've got the picture somewhere, actually, 0:13:14.559 --> 0:13:16.040 i'll do. I'll put it up on instage. I took 0:13:16.040 --> 0:13:17.199 a selfie or a. 0:13:17.120 --> 0:13:19.680 Picture in the mirror from my friend's house in Sydney 0:13:19.720 --> 0:13:22.000 because I didn't live I was a country on Palm Quarry, 0:13:22.040 --> 0:13:23.240 so I had to come and say my friend's house 0:13:23.240 --> 0:13:24.800 for the night, and I took a picture. So I 0:13:24.840 --> 0:13:26.280 have a picture of what I wore. I will try 0:13:26.320 --> 0:13:27.680 and find it and I will put it on the 0:13:27.679 --> 0:13:31.280 stories V I wore, which is so me, all white, 0:13:32.480 --> 0:13:37.320 high waisted white pants that had like a flare, and 0:13:37.360 --> 0:13:40.160 then I wore a white top that was sort of 0:13:40.240 --> 0:13:42.000 tucked in so it gave me like a way, so 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:43.280 I thought I looked really cool. 0:13:43.320 --> 0:13:45.440 And then to top it off, which is the most bready, 0:13:45.440 --> 0:13:47.320 you wore a fucking hat. Didn't you moore a hat? 0:13:47.360 --> 0:13:49.959 You wore a hats pretty thing you have ever seen. 0:13:50.080 --> 0:13:54.120 I wore a hat like a fedora, No, like a 0:13:54.160 --> 0:13:58.040 sun like a round sun hat. The group auditions are inside, 0:13:58.200 --> 0:14:00.560 like the Novertel for example. Just so you know, yeah, 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:02.720 it was not for some safety. It was in my 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:05.280 It was what I thought was fashion. But you've got 0:14:05.280 --> 0:14:07.080 to remember this was a country girl pot McCrory that 0:14:07.200 --> 0:14:09.240 I didn't know what I was doing. But let me 0:14:09.280 --> 0:14:11.320 tell you something, Laura, not one other person they had 0:14:11.400 --> 0:14:11.840 had on. 0:14:13.520 --> 0:14:16.400 You really stood out. 0:14:16.679 --> 0:14:20.240 That was my stand out. But I wore little heels, 0:14:20.240 --> 0:14:22.520 but not because I wanted to wear heels, but because 0:14:22.560 --> 0:14:24.880 my pants were too long. But I was like, what 0:14:25.080 --> 0:14:26.680 is my I didn't know what vibes to go for 0:14:26.760 --> 0:14:29.040 because ninety percent of my life as we all know, 0:14:29.080 --> 0:14:31.800 he's like, actually wear scrubs. I didn't ever have nice 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:33.960 fancy clothes. But I was like, I can't turn up 0:14:33.960 --> 0:14:36.240 in active or scrubs. I didn't want to be too 0:14:36.280 --> 0:14:37.520 dressed up for a ball gown. So I was like, 0:14:37.520 --> 0:14:40.120 what's the happy medium? At every was definitely a Fedora. 0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:43.320 It was the was a happy medium, I reckon. That's 0:14:43.360 --> 0:14:44.120 what got me on the show. 0:14:44.440 --> 0:14:47.560 Okay, everybody wears very different things. If you are going 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:50.680 to a Bachelor group audition, everybody rocks up some people 0:14:50.760 --> 0:14:54.800 are super like super faked hand lots of makeup, perfectly 0:14:54.960 --> 0:14:57.760 at styled outfit, and other people are really really casual. 0:14:58.000 --> 0:15:01.400 It's a huge spectrum of what is and isn't okay, 0:15:01.480 --> 0:15:03.080 But I think you nailed it, brit It is just 0:15:03.160 --> 0:15:07.640 showing up and being like, very very authentic to the person, Okay, 0:15:07.680 --> 0:15:09.680 even if it's not to who you are as a person, 0:15:09.720 --> 0:15:11.240 to the person that you want to play on the 0:15:11.280 --> 0:15:11.880 TV show. 0:15:12.000 --> 0:15:14.040 Yeah, what's your character? If you want to be a villain, 0:15:14.040 --> 0:15:15.040 you dress like a villain. 0:15:15.080 --> 0:15:18.880 If someone works up dressed like Corella Deville, Like. 0:15:18.880 --> 0:15:21.080 No, but like that's it's what happens. 0:15:21.720 --> 0:15:24.640 You get type cast and they kind of pick you 0:15:24.800 --> 0:15:28.040 out from that group environment to play the characters that 0:15:28.080 --> 0:15:30.160 they think you're going to be. So and the thing is, 0:15:30.160 --> 0:15:31.920 you don't want to be like when you you I 0:15:31.960 --> 0:15:34.240 think she said, do I want to stand out or not? 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:36.720 Obviously you want to stand out in some way because 0:15:36.720 --> 0:15:37.960 you don't want to go and be a wallflower. 0:15:37.960 --> 0:15:40.280 That's not the point. But maybe that's with your personality. 0:15:40.320 --> 0:15:42.120 Maybe you can also stand out with a story or 0:15:42.160 --> 0:15:43.960 something about you or who you are or what your 0:15:44.040 --> 0:15:46.000 job is that you don't have to necessarily wear like 0:15:46.080 --> 0:15:48.760 head to toe sequin bodysuit to stand out. Do you 0:15:48.880 --> 0:15:52.400 think that people, like some women who sign up for 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:54.600 The Bachelor, who go to the auditions, actually have it 0:15:54.640 --> 0:15:56.920 in their head that they're going to play a certain role, 0:15:56.920 --> 0:15:58.720 like they actually go in there with the intention of 0:15:58.720 --> 0:16:00.520 being the villain, or do you I think it's more 0:16:00.560 --> 0:16:03.240 so the case that, like they get in there, they realize, oh, 0:16:03.280 --> 0:16:05.080 they don't really mesh with the guy, that guy's not 0:16:05.160 --> 0:16:07.480 really into him, and so they just kind of decide, well, 0:16:07.560 --> 0:16:10.920 to get more airtime, I'll just play this character. I 0:16:10.960 --> 0:16:13.160 think it's changing a lot, and I think they're saying 0:16:13.200 --> 0:16:15.040 with a lot of reality shows the same with mass 0:16:15.080 --> 0:16:16.960 I think people have clued on. Like the early days 0:16:17.000 --> 0:16:19.960 back in like I guess maybe even up until yours, 0:16:20.080 --> 0:16:22.320 or maybe just the first three seasons and a season, 0:16:22.480 --> 0:16:25.240 it was so innocent and pure and organic, and people 0:16:25.520 --> 0:16:27.760 didn't know what would happen after the world of The 0:16:27.800 --> 0:16:31.280 Bachelor or reality TV on maps. But now people clue on. 0:16:31.440 --> 0:16:33.400 They know what gets attention, they know so there are 0:16:33.440 --> 0:16:36.440 definitely people that go on I think I think the 0:16:36.520 --> 0:16:38.960 people that would go on The Bachelor with zero intention 0:16:39.040 --> 0:16:40.720 of wanting to fall in love, but they're like, hey, 0:16:40.760 --> 0:16:43.480 i'll go have some fun, I'll get some attention, might 0:16:43.520 --> 0:16:46.560 get some followers, but usually that back Usually that backfires. 0:16:47.200 --> 0:16:49.040 Yeah, but that's the thing, right, Like I wonder, like 0:16:49.120 --> 0:16:51.280 what is the benefit? I know that there's that saying 0:16:51.280 --> 0:16:53.920 that like all press is good press, but real negative 0:16:53.920 --> 0:16:55.680 attention and we're seeing it with a Livia or Maps 0:16:55.680 --> 0:16:59.480 at the moment, Like real negative attention genuinely has nothing 0:16:59.520 --> 0:17:01.480 good that comes out of it. The only person that 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:05.800