Speaker 1: The Rising Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of the
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Speaker 1: We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their connections to land,
Speaker 1: sea and community. We pay our respect to their elders
Speaker 1: past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal
Speaker 1: and terrestrid Islander peoples. Today. Hello and welcome back to
Speaker 1: the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. This is the podcast for
Speaker 1: ordinary people who want to do extraordinary things. Hello guys,
Speaker 1: and welcome back to Georgie's Hotline. We have three more
Speaker 1: life dilemmas we are answering today and we've randomly got
Speaker 1: Cooper in the studio.
Speaker 2: Hi, Coop, Hello, what's going on?
Speaker 1: So Cooper doesn't even know any of these questions? So
Speaker 1: I got left out. He felt left out. He was
Speaker 1: like wandering around the office. We were like, come join us.
Speaker 2: No, I just come in to ask the question and
Speaker 2: then got roped in and then.
Speaker 1: And then he's sitting here and he's like, when is
Speaker 1: this going to finish? I've got to be so rude.
Speaker 1: But we on today's episode we are talking about all
Speaker 1: things manifesting. Can you manifest, a partner is getting physically sick,
Speaker 1: a sign from the universe, And how can you find
Speaker 1: yourself after a bad breakup? These were some great question guys,
Speaker 1: and before we get into them, though, my little recommendation
Speaker 1: for the week is me and Tim watched the movie
Speaker 1: The Adams Project. Is Adam Adam, The Adams Project. It's
Speaker 1: got Ryle Ryan Reynolds in it. Love love so good
Speaker 1: it you haven't seen it?
Speaker 2: What is it about?
Speaker 1: You love it? It's like time travel.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's like one of the best, most easy
Speaker 3: to follow time travel movies.
Speaker 1: I've watched it. Usually I start to say, I'm pretty
Speaker 1: sure I told you to.
Speaker 2: Watch it, and you watched it. I did watch it.
Speaker 2: It's pretty good.
Speaker 1: Cooper, watch your recommendation of the week. What have you
Speaker 1: been watching?
Speaker 2: I've actually been watching Ozark.
Speaker 1: Tim has been watching this too.
Speaker 2: Yeah, just watching the last season and the first part
Speaker 2: of the first few episodes was actually really boring. But
Speaker 2: I finally got through it and then the ending is
Speaker 2: just so bloody good.
Speaker 3: I tried to get into it and it did not
Speaker 3: happen for me. I went halfway through the first season
Speaker 3: and I it like depressed me.
Speaker 1: It's like it's dark and so dark, and Tim's watching
Speaker 1: it and I'm like, there's just nothing here for me
Speaker 1: for me too, Oh my god. Actually also like the
Speaker 1: shot is dark like the Batman movie. I don't watched
Speaker 1: that yet. Oh my god, the Batman movie is so dark. Yeah,
Speaker 1: me and Tim like watching. There's such a great meme
Speaker 1: about it. Just back on it. I actually do have
Speaker 1: a really great series. I actually recommended this to a
Speaker 1: Tear and I watched this ages ago. But oh my god,
Speaker 1: Oh it's Daisy let me normal people, normal people, so
Speaker 1: normal people on stan. The book's obviously way better. A
Speaker 1: tear should read the book too. But it's a really
Speaker 1: great series. Me and a Tear really into like love stories. Yeah,
Speaker 1: what's your favorite load story? I just love a love story.
Speaker 1: It can't be r rated. Watch it here first. All right, guys,
Speaker 1: enough recommendations. Let's get into the episode.
Speaker 3: So our first question is how to find yourself after
Speaker 3: a breakup? Bonus tips if it's got dumped for a
Speaker 3: younger model after ten years of putting them first. And
Speaker 3: also we have two kiddies missed too and mister seven
Speaker 3: hot mess Express.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, what a dog.
Speaker 1: A dog that's Oh my god, that's horrible.
Speaker 3: I think first we have to just admit or like
Speaker 3: acknowledge how well she seems to be taking this, because
Speaker 3: I don't think I'd be sending a message so well
Speaker 3: put together if I was in this situation.
Speaker 1: That is so messed up. Men a trash not all men, everyone, Cooper,
Speaker 1: what is your first reaction to that?
Speaker 2: What's disgusting? There's no no one should do that to
Speaker 2: their wife with two kids as well.
Speaker 1: I think it's the kid's part. Now that I'm a mum,
Speaker 1: it's the kid's part for me, you know. Just wait
Speaker 1: till when no, yes, yeah, discuss it.
Speaker 2: Hey yeah. Communication is the key in relationship anyway.
Speaker 1: Okay, So, first of all, I am so sorry. That
Speaker 1: is just a messed up situation and that's so horrible,
Speaker 1: and I bet there would just be so many thoughts running,
Speaker 1: you know, through your head. And first of all, I
Speaker 1: just want to say, if someone cheats in the relationship,
Speaker 1: it is nothing like well, it's not nothing to do
Speaker 1: with you. But I think anytime someone cheats in the relationship,
Speaker 1: you automatically think, how, you know, how did I go wrong? Here?
Speaker 1: Am I not pretty enough? Am I not enough? For this? Person,
Speaker 1: and I just want to stop that because it is
Speaker 1: completely his issue.
Speaker 3: Not yours, for sure, and that can happen, like those
Speaker 3: thoughts can creep in pretty easily, especially if the person
Speaker 3: is a lot younger.
Speaker 1: Okay, so after a breakup, me and Cooper are probably
Speaker 1: not the best people because Cooper's literally had.
Speaker 2: A girl friend a girl.
Speaker 1: Oh so, Cooper's been with Ashley since he was sixteen.
Speaker 2: Seventeen, seventeen, and we have been through everything.
Speaker 1: He's been with the same person. I've been with Tim
Speaker 1: since I was seventeen, so I've.
Speaker 2: Not been.
Speaker 1: So we've got a perfect great people to answer this question.
Speaker 1: But I think I remember when I broke up with
Speaker 1: my high school boyfriend again nothing most Yeah, thank god
Speaker 1: he was a drop kind Oh my god, have you
Speaker 1: just listened to do I care? No? So my big
Speaker 1: thing is like, you need to focus on yourself and
Speaker 1: your kids. Like you said, you were putting him first
Speaker 1: for ten years, and it's likely that you probably feel
Speaker 1: a bit lost and confused. And I think it's it's
Speaker 1: time for you. It's time for you to shine. It's time,
Speaker 1: you know, for your moment. And I think also a
Speaker 1: big thing is like see this as a positive because
Speaker 1: if he has done this, he's obviously a shit human.
Speaker 2: And probably do it again if you took him back
Speaker 2: as well, Yeah, or do stuff. They tend to go
Speaker 2: back to that same spot.
Speaker 1: And then also, you know, I know it's probably not
Speaker 1: the best time with a two year old and seven
Speaker 1: year old, but thank god it happened now and you
Speaker 1: didn't waste any more time. For sure, he was just
Speaker 1: wasting your time exactly.
Speaker 3: And I think as well is if you do have
Speaker 3: people around you that you can lean on, don't be
Speaker 3: scared to do that for the next little bit, because
Speaker 3: it is a really tough situation that you're in and
Speaker 3: you shouldn't have to go through it alone if it
Speaker 3: can be avoided. Maybe need help, yea, yeah, you're gonna
Speaker 3: need help. You have two kids.
Speaker 1: Ask for help, you know, family friends, because yeah, it's
Speaker 1: going to be a lot, you know, doing it by yourself.
Speaker 2: I do on a season. Yeah, all with what you
Speaker 2: said at the start that it's all on him, I disagree.
Speaker 2: I think it's the relationship with how you were both together,
Speaker 2: Like if it didn't work and he wanted to go
Speaker 2: and do something else, then he's not the right fit
Speaker 2: for you. He's not your lobster. I like to call
Speaker 2: it me and asters a lot.
Speaker 3: Of friends reference well you won't get yeah, you watch friends.
Speaker 2: Get a partner and one partner.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so precious and penguins.
Speaker 2: I always call ash my lobster.
Speaker 1: That's actually really cute.
Speaker 2: But like a relationship, it takes two to tango, like
Speaker 2: you've got to work on it both sides. So if
Speaker 2: this was kind of going on, there wasn't enough spark
Speaker 2: going on. Like my piece of advice to someone would
Speaker 2: be in a relationship is if you can take away
Speaker 2: sex and be with that person as best friends for
Speaker 2: like a pretty good time. Like sex definitely helps. That's personal,
Speaker 2: like two days like you're going to marry your best
Speaker 2: friend and then doing stuff together.
Speaker 1: I know expected on this and like we did not
Speaker 1: even think of that, Like met trash.
Speaker 2: I think a man is trash, Like you shouldn't not
Speaker 2: do that.
Speaker 1: So there are like she's got a fucking two year old,
Speaker 1: like she could literally be she could have thought everything
Speaker 1: was amazing and because he may have been a soso
Speaker 1: path and come home and acted like he was in
Speaker 1: love with her and having sex and doing all the things,
Speaker 1: she might not have even it could have blindsided.
Speaker 2: Her, and that definitely can happen with kids because you've
Speaker 2: got a lot of time on them.
Speaker 1: But yeah, yeah, and you get we also do know
Speaker 1: that he cheated, though you don't know a lot of things. God,
Speaker 1: I literally assumed he cheated, but like I think I'm
Speaker 1: assuming he did because she's written got dumped for a
Speaker 1: younger model, and like, do you get dumped for a
Speaker 1: person if they weren't already together? Yeah, yeah, well that's okay,
Speaker 1: So great point, Cooper. I think something that you need
Speaker 1: to focus on is getting really clear on the type
Speaker 1: of relationship you want, So the type of relationship you
Speaker 1: want to attract, how you want to feel in the relationship,
Speaker 1: how the other person wants to feel in the relationship,
Speaker 1: and really like dream big with this because you know,
Speaker 1: maybe from this previous relationship you've got like low standards
Speaker 1: and it's like you want like a start. I love
Speaker 1: how we just like who knows, But in this scenario,
Speaker 1: it's like, you know, I wouldn't be jumping into another
Speaker 1: relationship because it's been so long. Focus on yourself, get
Speaker 1: to know yourself, you know, focus on the kids, work
Speaker 1: that out, but start getting clear on how you want
Speaker 1: to feel in your next relationship. And also, you know
Speaker 1: this could be years and years away, but I think
Speaker 1: just getting clear on that and use this relationship as
Speaker 1: a learning tool, Like, like we said, like our challenges
Speaker 1: are lessons. So how did this relationship make you feel?
Speaker 1: And how does it how do you want that different
Speaker 1: for your next relationship?
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think as well, like what's happened is shit,
Speaker 3: and it's fine to feel angry and sad and all
Speaker 3: the things, and make sure, yeah, make sure you actually
Speaker 3: feel it so that you can heal properly and you're
Speaker 3: not just sweeping it under a rug and then one
Speaker 3: day a balloon pops and you have a meltdown or
Speaker 3: something like that triggers you.
Speaker 1: I Like, I know, we joke. This is all unqualified advice, obviously,
Speaker 1: but I would one hundred percent see a psychologist about
Speaker 1: this because even her saying, you know, leaving, leaving her
Speaker 1: for a younger model, and just there would just be
Speaker 1: so many elements to this that you could unpack professionally
Speaker 1: to really work through it so it no longer has
Speaker 1: a hold over you. Yeah, exactly. But all in all,
Speaker 1: I just want this person to remember she's fucking amazing.
Speaker 1: Yes she is. You know you're killing it if you've
Speaker 1: got a two year old and seven year old and
Speaker 1: you're now doing this by yourself, Like go, you your
Speaker 1: superwoman and you can do this exactly you chapter Fresh Start,
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Speaker 2: Yourself.
Speaker 1: Yes, love like eat prey, love vibes. But with children,
Speaker 1: you know, so sleep feed maybe nat but you know,
Speaker 1: do what you can. And I think this can swap
Speaker 1: this around. This is a very exciting chapter. Awesome.
Speaker 3: So question number two, I was wondering if it's possible
Speaker 3: for the universe to send you signs through your physical health.
Speaker 3: I started a new job earlier this year, and I've
Speaker 3: noticed my health getting a bit worse, like sick all
Speaker 3: the time, and previously I had four weeks of sickly
Speaker 3: banked up. I'm pretty sure it's not the job for me,
Speaker 3: and I'm looking at alternatives, but I was wondering if
Speaker 3: it could be a sign. I'm very much trying to
Speaker 3: surrender to the universe and grow my spiritual side.
Speaker 1: So interesting.
Speaker 2: The biggest question, what do.
Speaker 1: You think, Cooper? What's your initial response this? Because Cooper
Speaker 1: hasn't heard these questions.
Speaker 2: Well, the first part about the job. Yeah, if you're
Speaker 2: sick and you're overworking yourself, maybe chill out with a
Speaker 2: part of the job.
Speaker 1: Or I don't know if she's overworking herself though. She's
Speaker 1: just saying since she's started the job, she's been getting
Speaker 1: sick and she doesn't she's not sure, but she likes
Speaker 1: the job.
Speaker 2: What job is it?
Speaker 1: I know you read this question and you're like, I
Speaker 1: need so much more information. Well I'll go. I'll go first, coeper,
Speaker 1: and then you can comment later if you want to comment. So,
Speaker 1: I think feeling like, I think sickness can definitely manifest
Speaker 1: in the body from like, So what comes to mind
Speaker 1: is have you read that book by Lewis Hay You
Speaker 1: Can Heal Your Life? Oh my god, it's so interesting. Yea,
Speaker 1: it's all it's literally all about how different sicknesses we
Speaker 1: have manifested from either negative experiences or us having negative beliefs. Wow.
Speaker 1: And it has this full reference book where you then
Speaker 1: look so for example, I get cold swords a lot,
Speaker 1: and you have a look and it's all about not
Speaker 1: speaking your truth. Whoa yeah, And every like symptom or
Speaker 1: disease has like a coloration. Coloration coloration coloration. Wow, wow,
Speaker 1: we got that. Yeah to a thing. So I think
Speaker 1: definitely sickness can manifest from a negative belief or something happening.
Speaker 1: It's like, I don't know. I do read the book,
Speaker 1: and it's like a little bit it's so wooo, Like
Speaker 1: she explains that when she was a child she got
Speaker 1: sexually abused and then she got cervical cancer because she
Speaker 1: never dealt with that sexual abuse and then she dealt
Speaker 1: with the sexual abuse and she got rid of her cancer.
Speaker 1: Really yeah, like a bit, it's like very wooy, like
Speaker 1: very like I don't mean to laugh, so it's very
Speaker 1: woo woy. But read the book if you're interested in
Speaker 1: that sort of thing. But I think definitely sicknesses can
Speaker 1: be manifested from certain experiences and belief. So yes, initially
Speaker 1: to her question, Yeah, and exactly in regards to the job, though,
Speaker 1: I think just her saying I don't think this job
Speaker 1: is right for me, I'm getting sick, like that's your answer.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think even just take it down to the
Speaker 3: basic and forget about your sickness, and if you feel
Speaker 3: like the job's not right for you, it's probably not.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think it's like intuitively, she kind of
Speaker 1: already knows and she just needs a confirmation and that's
Speaker 1: your body telling me that it's not right. Yeah, And
Speaker 1: I think obviously she's at the start of her spiritual journey,
Speaker 1: so she's maybe not like fully trusting herself. But I think, yeah,
Speaker 1: I think this is definitely you know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: It's hard because let's also talk about like signs from
Speaker 1: the universe. So for example, I have this whole episode
Speaker 1: where I chat about you can ask the universe for
Speaker 1: a sign. So let's say you do have to be
Speaker 1: tapped in though, you have to be tapped into intuition
Speaker 1: and like into this spiritual stuff. So for example, you
Speaker 1: might say something like, Universe, I really don't like this job.
Speaker 1: If I see a blue butterfly, you know, within the
Speaker 1: next week, this will mean I'm quitting my job. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And then you see the blue butterfly. My big thing
Speaker 1: with spiritual science, though, is it's not about if you
Speaker 1: see the blue butterfly or not. It's about how you
Speaker 1: feel the initial gut reaction when you see that blue butterfly.
Speaker 1: So do you are you relieved or disappointed?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 1: And so don't like use that as the actual sign
Speaker 1: of Oh I saw it, so I've got to quit
Speaker 1: my job. Use the how did you feel? Did you
Speaker 1: feel you saw it and go, yes, I'm quitting my job,
Speaker 1: or did you see it and go I actually don't
Speaker 1: want to quit my job?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Does that make sense? That's how I feel about like
Speaker 1: spiritual science.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not that good in that. Well, it's more
Speaker 2: the point is, listen to your body if it's telling
Speaker 2: you something, change something.
Speaker 3: Like, and if you're getting sick, like it's your brain
Speaker 3: at the end of the day and giving you the
Speaker 3: signal because it controls everything that happens where it's consciously
Speaker 3: or subconsciously, and it's subconsciously telling you.
Speaker 1: Something, Yeah, something's not right now. And I think also, yeah,
Speaker 1: like Cooper said, like listen to your body. Obviously you
Speaker 1: keep like I think, if you keep reoccurring getting sick,
Speaker 1: there's obviously a deeper issue that your body is trying
Speaker 1: to deal with that is in you know, right, That's
Speaker 1: like when I had all my symptoms in regards to
Speaker 1: breasts implant illness, I had all these symptoms and they
Speaker 1: just like were reoccurring. But you could fix one, but
Speaker 1: then another symptom would come up. And it's so it's
Speaker 1: like it's a reoccurring thing where your body is like
Speaker 1: I'm trying to find it's just something else going wrong,
Speaker 1: get these implants out. But you just like you're looking
Speaker 1: at the symptoms, not like the deeper thing.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're fixing like the issues, but not the root
Speaker 3: cause of it.
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, so I reckon there's a root cause here.
Speaker 1: And also yeah, I think this job is not for you.
Speaker 1: Cool lucky. Last question.
Speaker 3: It wouldn't be a very good episode if she's like,
Speaker 3: I'm not sure if it's for me, and I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 3: it's not done.
Speaker 1: That's done me episode over questions like thirty questions and
Speaker 1: tenutes no, yes, no, yes, no, done, okay, perfect last question.
Speaker 3: I have been extremely successful in Korea and making things
Speaker 3: happen for myself in other areas of my life, but
Speaker 3: one area of my life I seem to struggle with
Speaker 3: is relationships, specifically romantic relationships. When it comes to manifesting
Speaker 3: other things, I feel so confident because I know if
Speaker 3: it's in my control, I will do the work to
Speaker 3: make it happen. But for relationships, it really relies on
Speaker 3: another person and my normal rhetoric of if I work hard,
Speaker 3: I can make it happen. Doesn't really apply to that realm.
Speaker 3: Would love any tips on manifesting when things out of
Speaker 3: your control and dealing with the intrusive thoughts that it
Speaker 3: might not happen for me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is a great question. First of all, can
Speaker 1: I just say her last line of like, I would
Speaker 1: love any tips on manifesting when things seem out of
Speaker 1: your control? So all things are out of your control
Speaker 1: when you're manifesting, like, there's not a scenario. I think
Speaker 1: previously with her, you know, with the jobs and the
Speaker 1: working for things, she has a sense of control because
Speaker 1: she's doing which is not actually true because the true
Speaker 1: you know, manifestation is surrender and being an attracting And
Speaker 1: so I can I can one hundred percent understand what
Speaker 1: she's talking about because I'm a doer. I love doing things.
Speaker 1: I love like making steps. But it's like in reality
Speaker 1: she doesn't like that's not necessary to manifest. But I
Speaker 1: completely understand what she's talking about here because it does
Speaker 1: feel out of your control because it's like someone else's
Speaker 1: life as well. Yeah does that? Yeah that makes sense?
Speaker 3: Like I'm totally on this page. I felt like I
Speaker 3: wrote this question because I feel the.
Speaker 1: Exactly and we're going to get into a tears response.
Speaker 1: But I think the first thing is like what seems
Speaker 1: hard about this? Like, obviously this is a manifestation where
Speaker 1: previously other things don't feel hard, and this feels hard
Speaker 1: for her. So I'm kind of thinking, like, what part
Speaker 1: of finding your soulmate feels hard? And let me just
Speaker 1: ask you a tea if you says, if you say
Speaker 1: this question was made for you, what part of finding
Speaker 1: a soulmate feels hard for you?
Speaker 3: Like just the fact that they even exist, Like it's
Speaker 3: so weird and I don't know what the block is.
Speaker 1: And I was talking to Jamie.
Speaker 3: About this before, but like the thought that there's someone
Speaker 3: that exists that is the right person for me, I
Speaker 3: just don't know.
Speaker 2: Do you think there's only one? Would you say?
Speaker 3: Or like even just I don't meeting someone, I think
Speaker 3: there's heaps me too.
Speaker 1: I feel like this is probably why we have no
Speaker 1: issues because we're like there's a small sport of people. First, Yeah,
Speaker 1: says us, who's been dating our partners since we were teenagers.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I guess I kind of look at it like I
Speaker 3: do think there's probably one, and I do think there'll
Speaker 3: always be plenty to settle for and that's never going.
Speaker 1: To be a worry. Like being alone is kind of
Speaker 1: like so you're worried about Okay, this is great. So
Speaker 1: your like limiting belief is like this ultimate this person
Speaker 1: has to be like perfect, not perfect, because I know
Speaker 1: that that's never a thing, but just someone that I
Speaker 1: would like the concept that there is someone that exists
Speaker 1: that I would rather go home to than to an
Speaker 1: empty house. Weir, it's me out, what do you mean?
Speaker 3: Like do you ever go home and the house is
Speaker 3: empty and you're like, oh, this is so peaceful.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's amazing. Yeah, but it's like.
Speaker 2: One day the next day you're like, I'm bored.
Speaker 1: She lives with Yeah, I don't go home to an
Speaker 1: empty house of it. Yeah. But like, Okay, I get
Speaker 1: what you're saying, someone i'd rather be there than have
Speaker 1: no one there. I get what you mean because I
Speaker 1: love my alone time. Yeah, I love it. I could
Speaker 1: spend a week alone just relish in it. So I
Speaker 1: do understand that. But also, what's like, why do you
Speaker 1: think you can't find this person? Like, what's the question
Speaker 1: there existed? This is the same question their existence. Ye
Speaker 1: are they am? I just meant to be alone? Like,
Speaker 1: why do you think you're that special?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no no. This is what I'm talking about,
Speaker 1: because of course there's someone for you, get out there
Speaker 1: to you. All right, guys, let's go back on the question.
Speaker 3: Yes, sorry, Like I feel like the way I read
Speaker 3: it is that in your career you have some and
Speaker 3: what even if it's not control, you have knowledge. You
Speaker 3: know where you work, you know what your job is,
Speaker 3: you know what your goals are. If your goal is
Speaker 3: to get here, you can see the steps kind of
Speaker 3: or look at people who've done the same steps. Whereas
Speaker 3: I feel like with relationships, it's not like there's not steps.
Speaker 3: Everybody's just so different. If you ask every single person
Speaker 3: how they met their soulmate, it's completely different.
Speaker 1: So so like you do this than this than this?
Speaker 1: Is it that the unknown scares you? Yeah? Probably, I
Speaker 1: just don't know.
Speaker 3: It's not like having control, and it's more like, well,
Speaker 3: I think you and this person has in common this
Speaker 3: control factor, So I think it's not about it. So
Speaker 3: a good like kind of exercise would be like thinking
Speaker 3: back to a scenario where you didn't have control and
Speaker 3: you totally surrendered and it worked out so effortlessly and beautiful.
Speaker 1: Like, do you have a scenario like that?
Speaker 2: It' here?
Speaker 1: What about when you got this job? Like did it come?
Speaker 1: I kind of come up in a really weird way.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was just there and I was like, oh,
Speaker 3: I might as well just try and then applied and
Speaker 3: then it just like happened.
Speaker 1: That's what I.
Speaker 2: Answered it though, So you applied yourself to it. So
Speaker 2: with their relationship you have, you would just make.
Speaker 1: Steps of you know in the world, going on an
Speaker 1: app I don't know, and then it would just happen,
Speaker 1: going on a nap, an hour nap, a nap. But
Speaker 1: that's what I mean is it's like any other scenario.
Speaker 1: And I think we need to break this down too,
Speaker 1: because I think I don't have any blocks with a
Speaker 1: relationship and person because so our parents have been together
Speaker 1: since they were sixteen years old. They met each other
Speaker 1: in high school and it was like a done thing,
Speaker 1: and they're so in love it's like sickening. They're like
Speaker 1: too much old ass, and they like don't spend any
Speaker 1: time apart from each other, and they're like obsessed with
Speaker 1: each other. It's super good story.
Speaker 2: Dad just dad went on a boy's weekend when we
Speaker 2: were younger. Remember they went up to Weeper. Yeah this
Speaker 2: is off track, but went up there. It was like
Speaker 2: meant to go for a week and then.
Speaker 1: Just the boys. So Dad and the three boys.
Speaker 2: I was so homesick that he was calling mom. And
Speaker 2: this is after like the first couple of nights. And
Speaker 2: then in the end, Mom end up booking tickets and.
Speaker 1: Flew me and you yeah, and then.
Speaker 2: Yeah, my brother's actually grilled us because we supposed to
Speaker 2: be there and they missed out on trips.
Speaker 1: But yeah, my dad, ye be away from my mom
Speaker 1: even though he's with his children and like family, and
Speaker 1: so we flew up and met them.
Speaker 2: So cute.
Speaker 1: No, but I think from their relationship, I had this
Speaker 1: belief that it's like, of course I'm just going to
Speaker 1: find my soulmate and of course it's going to be easy.
Speaker 1: If you don't don't have that belief, it's unpacking that
Speaker 1: and it's reframing it. It's like any other manifestation kry,
Speaker 1: like money minds.
Speaker 2: It.
Speaker 1: Yeah, when it's like if you grew up with limiting
Speaker 1: money beliefs, you just need to unpack that and reframe
Speaker 1: that and tell yourself a new story and believe it done.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but with this question, though she doesn't have time
Speaker 2: for a relationship, it sounds like she's working too much
Speaker 2: and not is that.
Speaker 1: I don't don't think there was another question that said that,
Speaker 1: so I got confused. But I don't think that's this question.
Speaker 1: It's like this whole thing of like she doesn't know
Speaker 1: how to surrender and let go. It's a relish in
Speaker 1: the unknown of how it's going to happen or when
Speaker 1: it's going to happen.
Speaker 3: It's like getting to the point where you're surrendering but
Speaker 3: not being able to completely just trust the universe that
Speaker 3: it will happen.
Speaker 1: I think you just need to install the belief that
Speaker 1: it's like, of course you're going to find and meet
Speaker 1: your soulmate. I think also, don't worry about it, but
Speaker 1: be very clear. Maybe she's like not clear on who
Speaker 1: or what that looks like, so the universe hasn't brought
Speaker 1: it to her. Yeah, So for example, get really clear
Speaker 1: on how do you want to feel in a relationship,
Speaker 1: Like what sort of values you want that person to have,
Speaker 1: how you want to spend your time, like, get really
Speaker 1: clear on that.
Speaker 2: Get a list, Yes, no, she like.
Speaker 1: She wants to make a list.
Speaker 3: She would, but I'm not like a list like he
Speaker 3: needs to have brown hair and he needs to have
Speaker 3: this job or math much money. Yeah, but it's like
Speaker 3: a list like I want to have a trusting relationship.
Speaker 3: I want him to be honest with me. I want
Speaker 3: someone I want him.
Speaker 1: To not lie about things.
Speaker 2: Who outside.
Speaker 1: Jamie's like the fuck, yeah, one hundred percent. I think
Speaker 1: she needs to get clear and and I think she
Speaker 1: needs to surrender. And I know it's hard, but a
Speaker 1: great exercise is think back to when she has surrendered
Speaker 1: and things have just worked out in a very unknown way,
Speaker 1: and like fine, comfort in that that that's gonna happen
Speaker 1: for this relationship, and just like set it.
Speaker 3: Up so that when it happens, it's just too good
Speaker 3: to say no. Like that just reminded me of what
Speaker 3: like if you only do things or put yourself towards
Speaker 3: things that no matter what, it would just be a
Speaker 3: bad idea not to do it if it comes to happen.
Speaker 1: I'm thinking of like when I applied for this job,
Speaker 1: and you, like when we talked.
Speaker 3: About it before, I wasn't actively looking for jobs, but
Speaker 3: I think I felt like I wasn't in the right
Speaker 3: place anymore.
Speaker 1: How did you? Oh wait, it was on Instagram? It
Speaker 1: was on Instagram? Was it on my Instagram? Or roncs?
Speaker 2: Both?
Speaker 3: But in that week, two opportunities came up, and I
Speaker 3: was like these No, no, not like you the ones
Speaker 3: like I wasn't actively just like I need to get
Speaker 3: out of here. I'm going to apply for every single job,
Speaker 3: like I only applied for jobs that would be like
Speaker 3: a dream job.
Speaker 1: Two there were two. What was the other one with Disney? Disney? Yeah,
Speaker 1: Tim's brother works for Disney, does he Yeah, in America.
Speaker 1: That's amazing.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that was the other one. They had like a
Speaker 3: graduate program that's in America. No here, Oh yeah, but
Speaker 3: those are I haven't heard backs, friend, No, no, no,
Speaker 3: I've literally thought about it. I'm like I'm now in
Speaker 3: a place where if that came up, I probably wouldn't
Speaker 3: do it. Probably, Okay, So great example, like just put
Speaker 3: yourself like, don't just date every single guy and don't
Speaker 3: go to every single bar or go on every single
Speaker 3: get what you're talking about, Like, put yourself in a
Speaker 3: position where if the right thing comes, it's just like
Speaker 3: it's so stupid if you don't do it.
Speaker 1: Yes, agreed. Yeah, but don't Yeah, don't waste your time
Speaker 1: just you know, really nearly trying every dating app, because
Speaker 1: that's a waste of your time.
Speaker 2: Yes.
Speaker 1: So in the end, you have to trust the universe
Speaker 1: and you have to work on these limiting beliefs where
Speaker 1: you believe you cannot attract this thing. Really easy because
Speaker 1: you can, girlfriends, he or she's out there and actually surrender. Yes,
Speaker 1: oh my god, it's the hardest thing to do. Any tips, God, girlfriend,
Speaker 1: any tips are surrendering. Yeah. I think for me, it's
Speaker 1: just again, I because I'm in control, think I control freak.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: I think back where scenarios where things have just fell
Speaker 1: into place, or I think back where things haven't happened,
Speaker 1: and then later realize, thank God that thing didn't happen,
Speaker 1: and thank God, like the universe is here, who has
Speaker 1: my back, and I just made sure it didn't have Yeah,
Speaker 1: and then I just have to go. I'm comfortable, it's okay.
Speaker 1: I trust, I've done all the steps, and now I wait.
Speaker 1: I hope that answers the question. I think it did.
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