1 00:00:00,400 --> 00:00:04,600 Speaker 1: The Rising Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of the 2 00:00:04,680 --> 00:00:08,320 Speaker 1: land which this episode is being recorded, the Yugen Bear region. 3 00:00:08,920 --> 00:00:13,320 Speaker 1: We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their connections to land, 4 00:00:13,520 --> 00:00:16,840 Speaker 1: sea and community. We pay our respect to their elders 5 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:20,840 Speaker 1: past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal 6 00:00:20,960 --> 00:00:34,159 Speaker 1: and terrestrid Islander peoples. Today. Hello and welcome back to 7 00:00:34,200 --> 00:00:37,360 Speaker 1: the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. This is the podcast for 8 00:00:37,560 --> 00:00:52,240 Speaker 1: ordinary people who want to do extraordinary things. Hello guys, 9 00:00:52,360 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 1: and welcome back to Georgie's Hotline. We have three more 10 00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: life dilemmas we are answering today and we've randomly got 11 00:01:01,480 --> 00:01:02,720 Speaker 1: Cooper in the studio. 12 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:05,760 Speaker 2: Hi, Coop, Hello, what's going on? 13 00:01:06,240 --> 00:01:08,679 Speaker 1: So Cooper doesn't even know any of these questions? So 14 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:10,760 Speaker 1: I got left out. He felt left out. He was 15 00:01:10,800 --> 00:01:13,440 Speaker 1: like wandering around the office. We were like, come join us. 16 00:01:13,319 --> 00:01:15,600 Speaker 2: No, I just come in to ask the question and 17 00:01:15,640 --> 00:01:18,200 Speaker 2: then got roped in and then. 18 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:20,560 Speaker 1: And then he's sitting here and he's like, when is 19 00:01:20,600 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 1: this going to finish? I've got to be so rude. 20 00:01:26,560 --> 00:01:30,440 Speaker 1: But we on today's episode we are talking about all 21 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:35,960 Speaker 1: things manifesting. Can you manifest, a partner is getting physically sick, 22 00:01:36,080 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 1: a sign from the universe, And how can you find 23 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:43,880 Speaker 1: yourself after a bad breakup? These were some great question guys, 24 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 1: and before we get into them, though, my little recommendation 25 00:01:47,880 --> 00:01:50,520 Speaker 1: for the week is me and Tim watched the movie 26 00:01:51,000 --> 00:01:56,600 Speaker 1: The Adams Project. Is Adam Adam, The Adams Project. It's 27 00:01:56,640 --> 00:02:00,400 Speaker 1: got Ryle Ryan Reynolds in it. Love love so good 28 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:02,160 Speaker 1: it you haven't seen it? 29 00:02:02,240 --> 00:02:02,920 Speaker 2: What is it about? 30 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:04,640 Speaker 1: You love it? It's like time travel. 31 00:02:04,800 --> 00:02:07,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's like one of the best, most easy 32 00:02:07,400 --> 00:02:08,720 Speaker 3: to follow time travel movies. 33 00:02:08,720 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: I've watched it. Usually I start to say, I'm pretty 34 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:13,400 Speaker 1: sure I told you to. 35 00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:17,200 Speaker 2: Watch it, and you watched it. I did watch it. 36 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:17,840 Speaker 2: It's pretty good. 37 00:02:18,600 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 1: Cooper, watch your recommendation of the week. What have you 38 00:02:20,880 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 1: been watching? 39 00:02:21,520 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 2: I've actually been watching Ozark. 40 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:25,480 Speaker 1: Tim has been watching this too. 41 00:02:25,720 --> 00:02:28,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, just watching the last season and the first part 42 00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:31,600 Speaker 2: of the first few episodes was actually really boring. But 43 00:02:32,320 --> 00:02:34,520 Speaker 2: I finally got through it and then the ending is 44 00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:35,639 Speaker 2: just so bloody good. 45 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:37,840 Speaker 3: I tried to get into it and it did not 46 00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:40,680 Speaker 3: happen for me. I went halfway through the first season 47 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:42,920 Speaker 3: and I it like depressed me. 48 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:46,639 Speaker 1: It's like it's dark and so dark, and Tim's watching 49 00:02:46,680 --> 00:02:49,280 Speaker 1: it and I'm like, there's just nothing here for me 50 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:52,480 Speaker 1: for me too, Oh my god. Actually also like the 51 00:02:52,520 --> 00:02:57,160 Speaker 1: shot is dark like the Batman movie. I don't watched 52 00:02:57,200 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 1: that yet. Oh my god, the Batman movie is so dark. Yeah, 53 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:05,799 Speaker 1: me and Tim like watching. There's such a great meme 54 00:03:05,840 --> 00:03:08,720 Speaker 1: about it. Just back on it. I actually do have 55 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:12,120 Speaker 1: a really great series. I actually recommended this to a 56 00:03:12,240 --> 00:03:15,560 Speaker 1: Tear and I watched this ages ago. But oh my god, 57 00:03:15,840 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 1: Oh it's Daisy let me normal people, normal people, so 58 00:03:20,160 --> 00:03:24,079 Speaker 1: normal people on stan. The book's obviously way better. A 59 00:03:24,160 --> 00:03:26,919 Speaker 1: tear should read the book too. But it's a really 60 00:03:27,000 --> 00:03:31,079 Speaker 1: great series. Me and a Tear really into like love stories. Yeah, 61 00:03:32,520 --> 00:03:36,040 Speaker 1: what's your favorite load story? I just love a love story. 62 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 1: It can't be r rated. Watch it here first. All right, guys, 63 00:03:48,800 --> 00:03:58,320 Speaker 1: enough recommendations. Let's get into the episode. 64 00:03:59,120 --> 00:04:03,520 Speaker 3: So our first question is how to find yourself after 65 00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:07,120 Speaker 3: a breakup? Bonus tips if it's got dumped for a 66 00:04:07,160 --> 00:04:10,120 Speaker 3: younger model after ten years of putting them first. And 67 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:14,520 Speaker 3: also we have two kiddies missed too and mister seven 68 00:04:14,840 --> 00:04:16,120 Speaker 3: hot mess Express. 69 00:04:18,600 --> 00:04:20,680 Speaker 2: Oh my god, what a dog. 70 00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:26,120 Speaker 1: A dog that's Oh my god, that's horrible. 71 00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:29,120 Speaker 3: I think first we have to just admit or like 72 00:04:29,800 --> 00:04:32,279 Speaker 3: acknowledge how well she seems to be taking this, because 73 00:04:32,320 --> 00:04:34,279 Speaker 3: I don't think I'd be sending a message so well 74 00:04:34,279 --> 00:04:36,120 Speaker 3: put together if I was in this situation. 75 00:04:36,440 --> 00:04:44,919 Speaker 1: That is so messed up. Men a trash not all men, everyone, Cooper, 76 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:46,440 Speaker 1: what is your first reaction to that? 77 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:49,839 Speaker 2: What's disgusting? There's no no one should do that to 78 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:52,320 Speaker 2: their wife with two kids as well. 79 00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:56,320 Speaker 1: I think it's the kid's part. Now that I'm a mum, 80 00:04:56,440 --> 00:04:59,200 Speaker 1: it's the kid's part for me, you know. Just wait 81 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:04,760 Speaker 1: till when no, yes, yeah, discuss it. 82 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:09,040 Speaker 2: Hey yeah. Communication is the key in relationship anyway. 83 00:05:09,680 --> 00:05:13,880 Speaker 1: Okay, So, first of all, I am so sorry. That 84 00:05:14,080 --> 00:05:17,560 Speaker 1: is just a messed up situation and that's so horrible, 85 00:05:17,600 --> 00:05:20,760 Speaker 1: and I bet there would just be so many thoughts running, 86 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:23,920 Speaker 1: you know, through your head. And first of all, I 87 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:26,480 Speaker 1: just want to say, if someone cheats in the relationship, 88 00:05:27,120 --> 00:05:30,159 Speaker 1: it is nothing like well, it's not nothing to do 89 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:33,800 Speaker 1: with you. But I think anytime someone cheats in the relationship, 90 00:05:33,880 --> 00:05:38,680 Speaker 1: you automatically think, how, you know, how did I go wrong? Here? 91 00:05:39,240 --> 00:05:42,599 Speaker 1: Am I not pretty enough? Am I not enough? For this? Person, 92 00:05:42,680 --> 00:05:45,320 Speaker 1: and I just want to stop that because it is 93 00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:47,080 Speaker 1: completely his issue. 94 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:49,680 Speaker 3: Not yours, for sure, and that can happen, like those 95 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:52,360 Speaker 3: thoughts can creep in pretty easily, especially if the person 96 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:53,680 Speaker 3: is a lot younger. 97 00:05:53,920 --> 00:05:57,080 Speaker 1: Okay, so after a breakup, me and Cooper are probably 98 00:05:57,120 --> 00:05:59,640 Speaker 1: not the best people because Cooper's literally had. 99 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:01,719 Speaker 2: A girl friend a girl. 100 00:06:01,720 --> 00:06:06,839 Speaker 1: Oh so, Cooper's been with Ashley since he was sixteen. 101 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:11,479 Speaker 2: Seventeen, seventeen, and we have been through everything. 102 00:06:12,920 --> 00:06:16,400 Speaker 1: He's been with the same person. I've been with Tim 103 00:06:16,440 --> 00:06:19,080 Speaker 1: since I was seventeen, so I've. 104 00:06:18,880 --> 00:06:19,400 Speaker 2: Not been. 105 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 1: So we've got a perfect great people to answer this question. 106 00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:28,880 Speaker 1: But I think I remember when I broke up with 107 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:32,920 Speaker 1: my high school boyfriend again nothing most Yeah, thank god 108 00:06:32,960 --> 00:06:37,120 Speaker 1: he was a drop kind Oh my god, have you 109 00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:41,880 Speaker 1: just listened to do I care? No? So my big 110 00:06:41,880 --> 00:06:45,480 Speaker 1: thing is like, you need to focus on yourself and 111 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:48,400 Speaker 1: your kids. Like you said, you were putting him first 112 00:06:48,440 --> 00:06:51,880 Speaker 1: for ten years, and it's likely that you probably feel 113 00:06:51,920 --> 00:06:56,000 Speaker 1: a bit lost and confused. And I think it's it's 114 00:06:56,240 --> 00:06:59,520 Speaker 1: time for you. It's time for you to shine. It's time, 115 00:07:00,120 --> 00:07:04,280 Speaker 1: you know, for your moment. And I think also a 116 00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:07,040 Speaker 1: big thing is like see this as a positive because 117 00:07:07,080 --> 00:07:10,840 Speaker 1: if he has done this, he's obviously a shit human. 118 00:07:10,840 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 2: And probably do it again if you took him back 119 00:07:13,080 --> 00:07:16,080 Speaker 2: as well, Yeah, or do stuff. They tend to go 120 00:07:16,200 --> 00:07:17,280 Speaker 2: back to that same spot. 121 00:07:17,600 --> 00:07:21,000 Speaker 1: And then also, you know, I know it's probably not 122 00:07:21,080 --> 00:07:23,280 Speaker 1: the best time with a two year old and seven 123 00:07:23,360 --> 00:07:25,800 Speaker 1: year old, but thank god it happened now and you 124 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:29,080 Speaker 1: didn't waste any more time. For sure, he was just 125 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:30,960 Speaker 1: wasting your time exactly. 126 00:07:31,040 --> 00:07:33,520 Speaker 3: And I think as well is if you do have 127 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:36,760 Speaker 3: people around you that you can lean on, don't be 128 00:07:36,800 --> 00:07:38,640 Speaker 3: scared to do that for the next little bit, because 129 00:07:38,680 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 3: it is a really tough situation that you're in and 130 00:07:42,240 --> 00:07:44,120 Speaker 3: you shouldn't have to go through it alone if it 131 00:07:44,160 --> 00:07:48,440 Speaker 3: can be avoided. Maybe need help, yea, yeah, you're gonna 132 00:07:48,440 --> 00:07:49,640 Speaker 3: need help. You have two kids. 133 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:54,680 Speaker 1: Ask for help, you know, family friends, because yeah, it's 134 00:07:54,720 --> 00:07:57,600 Speaker 1: going to be a lot, you know, doing it by yourself. 135 00:07:58,240 --> 00:08:02,080 Speaker 2: I do on a season. Yeah, all with what you 136 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:06,120 Speaker 2: said at the start that it's all on him, I disagree. 137 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:10,720 Speaker 2: I think it's the relationship with how you were both together, 138 00:08:10,880 --> 00:08:13,200 Speaker 2: Like if it didn't work and he wanted to go 139 00:08:13,240 --> 00:08:16,480 Speaker 2: and do something else, then he's not the right fit 140 00:08:16,600 --> 00:08:19,280 Speaker 2: for you. He's not your lobster. I like to call 141 00:08:19,320 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 2: it me and asters a lot. 142 00:08:21,320 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 3: Of friends reference well you won't get yeah, you watch friends. 143 00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:32,160 Speaker 2: Get a partner and one partner. 144 00:08:33,520 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so precious and penguins. 145 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:37,760 Speaker 2: I always call ash my lobster. 146 00:08:39,400 --> 00:08:40,520 Speaker 1: That's actually really cute. 147 00:08:40,640 --> 00:08:44,560 Speaker 2: But like a relationship, it takes two to tango, like 148 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:47,400 Speaker 2: you've got to work on it both sides. So if 149 00:08:47,760 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 2: this was kind of going on, there wasn't enough spark 150 00:08:51,520 --> 00:08:55,600 Speaker 2: going on. Like my piece of advice to someone would 151 00:08:55,600 --> 00:08:59,040 Speaker 2: be in a relationship is if you can take away 152 00:08:59,559 --> 00:09:03,439 Speaker 2: sex and be with that person as best friends for 153 00:09:03,760 --> 00:09:08,559 Speaker 2: like a pretty good time. Like sex definitely helps. That's personal, 154 00:09:08,640 --> 00:09:10,840 Speaker 2: like two days like you're going to marry your best 155 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:16,280 Speaker 2: friend and then doing stuff together. 156 00:09:20,040 --> 00:09:27,120 Speaker 1: I know expected on this and like we did not 157 00:09:27,240 --> 00:09:29,760 Speaker 1: even think of that, Like met trash. 158 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:33,880 Speaker 2: I think a man is trash, Like you shouldn't not 159 00:09:34,040 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 2: do that. 160 00:09:34,440 --> 00:09:37,360 Speaker 1: So there are like she's got a fucking two year old, 161 00:09:37,640 --> 00:09:40,920 Speaker 1: like she could literally be she could have thought everything 162 00:09:41,080 --> 00:09:43,720 Speaker 1: was amazing and because he may have been a soso 163 00:09:43,720 --> 00:09:46,840 Speaker 1: path and come home and acted like he was in 164 00:09:46,880 --> 00:09:49,520 Speaker 1: love with her and having sex and doing all the things, 165 00:09:49,720 --> 00:09:52,760 Speaker 1: she might not have even it could have blindsided. 166 00:09:52,080 --> 00:09:55,360 Speaker 2: Her, and that definitely can happen with kids because you've 167 00:09:55,360 --> 00:09:56,800 Speaker 2: got a lot of time on them. 168 00:09:56,920 --> 00:10:00,280 Speaker 1: But yeah, yeah, and you get we also do know 169 00:10:00,320 --> 00:10:05,520 Speaker 1: that he cheated, though you don't know a lot of things. God, 170 00:10:05,640 --> 00:10:08,480 Speaker 1: I literally assumed he cheated, but like I think I'm 171 00:10:08,520 --> 00:10:11,240 Speaker 1: assuming he did because she's written got dumped for a 172 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:14,040 Speaker 1: younger model, and like, do you get dumped for a 173 00:10:14,080 --> 00:10:18,880 Speaker 1: person if they weren't already together? Yeah, yeah, well that's okay, 174 00:10:18,920 --> 00:10:22,079 Speaker 1: So great point, Cooper. I think something that you need 175 00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:27,080 Speaker 1: to focus on is getting really clear on the type 176 00:10:27,080 --> 00:10:31,400 Speaker 1: of relationship you want, So the type of relationship you 177 00:10:31,440 --> 00:10:34,479 Speaker 1: want to attract, how you want to feel in the relationship, 178 00:10:34,880 --> 00:10:37,800 Speaker 1: how the other person wants to feel in the relationship, 179 00:10:38,200 --> 00:10:41,240 Speaker 1: and really like dream big with this because you know, 180 00:10:41,400 --> 00:10:45,640 Speaker 1: maybe from this previous relationship you've got like low standards 181 00:10:46,040 --> 00:10:51,920 Speaker 1: and it's like you want like a start. I love 182 00:10:51,960 --> 00:10:56,080 Speaker 1: how we just like who knows, But in this scenario, 183 00:10:56,559 --> 00:11:00,680 Speaker 1: it's like, you know, I wouldn't be jumping into another 184 00:11:00,760 --> 00:11:04,440 Speaker 1: relationship because it's been so long. Focus on yourself, get 185 00:11:04,440 --> 00:11:08,040 Speaker 1: to know yourself, you know, focus on the kids, work 186 00:11:08,120 --> 00:11:12,160 Speaker 1: that out, but start getting clear on how you want 187 00:11:12,160 --> 00:11:15,480 Speaker 1: to feel in your next relationship. And also, you know 188 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:19,000 Speaker 1: this could be years and years away, but I think 189 00:11:19,120 --> 00:11:23,439 Speaker 1: just getting clear on that and use this relationship as 190 00:11:23,440 --> 00:11:27,200 Speaker 1: a learning tool, Like, like we said, like our challenges 191 00:11:27,320 --> 00:11:32,240 Speaker 1: are lessons. So how did this relationship make you feel? 192 00:11:32,360 --> 00:11:34,880 Speaker 1: And how does it how do you want that different 193 00:11:35,040 --> 00:11:37,240 Speaker 1: for your next relationship? 194 00:11:37,360 --> 00:11:40,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think as well, like what's happened is shit, 195 00:11:40,760 --> 00:11:44,079 Speaker 3: and it's fine to feel angry and sad and all 196 00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:47,280 Speaker 3: the things, and make sure, yeah, make sure you actually 197 00:11:47,280 --> 00:11:49,480 Speaker 3: feel it so that you can heal properly and you're 198 00:11:49,480 --> 00:11:51,880 Speaker 3: not just sweeping it under a rug and then one 199 00:11:51,960 --> 00:11:54,439 Speaker 3: day a balloon pops and you have a meltdown or 200 00:11:54,520 --> 00:11:55,800 Speaker 3: something like that triggers you. 201 00:11:55,960 --> 00:12:00,920 Speaker 1: I Like, I know, we joke. This is all unqualified advice, obviously, 202 00:12:01,040 --> 00:12:04,640 Speaker 1: but I would one hundred percent see a psychologist about 203 00:12:04,679 --> 00:12:07,959 Speaker 1: this because even her saying, you know, leaving, leaving her 204 00:12:08,040 --> 00:12:10,520 Speaker 1: for a younger model, and just there would just be 205 00:12:10,600 --> 00:12:15,160 Speaker 1: so many elements to this that you could unpack professionally 206 00:12:15,200 --> 00:12:18,120 Speaker 1: to really work through it so it no longer has 207 00:12:18,160 --> 00:12:21,640 Speaker 1: a hold over you. Yeah, exactly. But all in all, 208 00:12:21,840 --> 00:12:25,280 Speaker 1: I just want this person to remember she's fucking amazing. 209 00:12:25,480 --> 00:12:28,800 Speaker 1: Yes she is. You know you're killing it if you've 210 00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:30,120 Speaker 1: got a two year old and seven year old and 211 00:12:30,160 --> 00:12:34,200 Speaker 1: you're now doing this by yourself, Like go, you your 212 00:12:34,240 --> 00:12:38,400 Speaker 1: superwoman and you can do this exactly you chapter Fresh Start, 213 00:12:38,920 --> 00:12:42,280 Speaker 1: Reinvent Yourself. Download the ebook, Download the ebook. 214 00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:43,800 Speaker 2: Yourself. 215 00:12:44,120 --> 00:12:48,720 Speaker 1: Yes, love like eat prey, love vibes. But with children, 216 00:12:49,800 --> 00:12:53,960 Speaker 1: you know, so sleep feed maybe nat but you know, 217 00:12:54,080 --> 00:12:56,600 Speaker 1: do what you can. And I think this can swap 218 00:12:56,640 --> 00:12:59,640 Speaker 1: this around. This is a very exciting chapter. Awesome. 219 00:13:02,000 --> 00:13:05,560 Speaker 3: So question number two, I was wondering if it's possible 220 00:13:05,640 --> 00:13:09,000 Speaker 3: for the universe to send you signs through your physical health. 221 00:13:09,559 --> 00:13:11,960 Speaker 3: I started a new job earlier this year, and I've 222 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:15,240 Speaker 3: noticed my health getting a bit worse, like sick all 223 00:13:15,320 --> 00:13:18,600 Speaker 3: the time, and previously I had four weeks of sickly 224 00:13:18,800 --> 00:13:21,880 Speaker 3: banked up. I'm pretty sure it's not the job for me, 225 00:13:22,040 --> 00:13:24,920 Speaker 3: and I'm looking at alternatives, but I was wondering if 226 00:13:24,920 --> 00:13:27,920 Speaker 3: it could be a sign. I'm very much trying to 227 00:13:27,920 --> 00:13:30,559 Speaker 3: surrender to the universe and grow my spiritual side. 228 00:13:30,840 --> 00:13:31,600 Speaker 1: So interesting. 229 00:13:32,520 --> 00:13:34,760 Speaker 2: The biggest question, what do. 230 00:13:34,679 --> 00:13:37,920 Speaker 1: You think, Cooper? What's your initial response this? Because Cooper 231 00:13:37,960 --> 00:13:39,439 Speaker 1: hasn't heard these questions. 232 00:13:39,200 --> 00:13:42,680 Speaker 2: Well, the first part about the job. Yeah, if you're 233 00:13:43,200 --> 00:13:46,880 Speaker 2: sick and you're overworking yourself, maybe chill out with a 234 00:13:46,960 --> 00:13:47,760 Speaker 2: part of the job. 235 00:13:47,880 --> 00:13:51,360 Speaker 1: Or I don't know if she's overworking herself though. She's 236 00:13:51,480 --> 00:13:54,640 Speaker 1: just saying since she's started the job, she's been getting 237 00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:56,920 Speaker 1: sick and she doesn't she's not sure, but she likes 238 00:13:56,960 --> 00:13:57,320 Speaker 1: the job. 239 00:13:58,280 --> 00:13:59,120 Speaker 2: What job is it? 240 00:14:00,720 --> 00:14:02,760 Speaker 1: I know you read this question and you're like, I 241 00:14:02,800 --> 00:14:07,160 Speaker 1: need so much more information. Well I'll go. I'll go first, coeper, 242 00:14:07,160 --> 00:14:13,520 Speaker 1: and then you can comment later if you want to comment. So, 243 00:14:13,760 --> 00:14:19,120 Speaker 1: I think feeling like, I think sickness can definitely manifest 244 00:14:19,520 --> 00:14:23,880 Speaker 1: in the body from like, So what comes to mind 245 00:14:24,320 --> 00:14:27,800 Speaker 1: is have you read that book by Lewis Hay You 246 00:14:27,840 --> 00:14:31,280 Speaker 1: Can Heal Your Life? Oh my god, it's so interesting. Yea, 247 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:36,000 Speaker 1: it's all it's literally all about how different sicknesses we 248 00:14:36,280 --> 00:14:44,280 Speaker 1: have manifested from either negative experiences or us having negative beliefs. Wow. 249 00:14:44,520 --> 00:14:46,960 Speaker 1: And it has this full reference book where you then 250 00:14:47,280 --> 00:14:50,040 Speaker 1: look so for example, I get cold swords a lot, 251 00:14:50,640 --> 00:14:53,920 Speaker 1: and you have a look and it's all about not 252 00:14:54,040 --> 00:14:58,520 Speaker 1: speaking your truth. Whoa yeah, And every like symptom or 253 00:14:58,560 --> 00:15:08,120 Speaker 1: disease has like a coloration. Coloration coloration coloration. Wow, wow, 254 00:15:08,320 --> 00:15:12,120 Speaker 1: we got that. Yeah to a thing. So I think 255 00:15:12,400 --> 00:15:19,360 Speaker 1: definitely sickness can manifest from a negative belief or something happening. 256 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:21,520 Speaker 1: It's like, I don't know. I do read the book, 257 00:15:21,520 --> 00:15:24,720 Speaker 1: and it's like a little bit it's so wooo, Like 258 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:28,600 Speaker 1: she explains that when she was a child she got 259 00:15:28,640 --> 00:15:32,440 Speaker 1: sexually abused and then she got cervical cancer because she 260 00:15:32,560 --> 00:15:36,160 Speaker 1: never dealt with that sexual abuse and then she dealt 261 00:15:36,160 --> 00:15:38,760 Speaker 1: with the sexual abuse and she got rid of her cancer. 262 00:15:39,600 --> 00:15:43,520 Speaker 1: Really yeah, like a bit, it's like very wooy, like 263 00:15:44,400 --> 00:15:48,920 Speaker 1: very like I don't mean to laugh, so it's very 264 00:15:48,920 --> 00:15:51,000 Speaker 1: woo woy. But read the book if you're interested in 265 00:15:51,040 --> 00:15:55,360 Speaker 1: that sort of thing. But I think definitely sicknesses can 266 00:15:55,680 --> 00:16:01,760 Speaker 1: be manifested from certain experiences and belief. So yes, initially 267 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:05,760 Speaker 1: to her question, Yeah, and exactly in regards to the job, though, 268 00:16:06,360 --> 00:16:10,000 Speaker 1: I think just her saying I don't think this job 269 00:16:10,040 --> 00:16:13,400 Speaker 1: is right for me, I'm getting sick, like that's your answer. 270 00:16:13,920 --> 00:16:17,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think even just take it down to the 271 00:16:17,200 --> 00:16:19,600 Speaker 3: basic and forget about your sickness, and if you feel 272 00:16:19,600 --> 00:16:21,520 Speaker 3: like the job's not right for you, it's probably not. 273 00:16:21,880 --> 00:16:26,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think it's like intuitively, she kind of 274 00:16:26,240 --> 00:16:29,520 Speaker 1: already knows and she just needs a confirmation and that's 275 00:16:29,520 --> 00:16:32,240 Speaker 1: your body telling me that it's not right. Yeah, And 276 00:16:32,280 --> 00:16:34,920 Speaker 1: I think obviously she's at the start of her spiritual journey, 277 00:16:34,960 --> 00:16:39,400 Speaker 1: so she's maybe not like fully trusting herself. But I think, yeah, 278 00:16:39,480 --> 00:16:42,520 Speaker 1: I think this is definitely you know, I don't know. 279 00:16:42,600 --> 00:16:45,360 Speaker 1: It's hard because let's also talk about like signs from 280 00:16:45,400 --> 00:16:47,880 Speaker 1: the universe. So for example, I have this whole episode 281 00:16:47,880 --> 00:16:50,800 Speaker 1: where I chat about you can ask the universe for 282 00:16:50,840 --> 00:16:53,600 Speaker 1: a sign. So let's say you do have to be 283 00:16:53,720 --> 00:16:56,080 Speaker 1: tapped in though, you have to be tapped into intuition 284 00:16:56,240 --> 00:16:59,720 Speaker 1: and like into this spiritual stuff. So for example, you 285 00:16:59,800 --> 00:17:04,160 Speaker 1: might say something like, Universe, I really don't like this job. 286 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:08,439 Speaker 1: If I see a blue butterfly, you know, within the 287 00:17:08,480 --> 00:17:12,320 Speaker 1: next week, this will mean I'm quitting my job. Yeah, 288 00:17:12,359 --> 00:17:15,680 Speaker 1: And then you see the blue butterfly. My big thing 289 00:17:15,720 --> 00:17:19,199 Speaker 1: with spiritual science, though, is it's not about if you 290 00:17:19,240 --> 00:17:22,720 Speaker 1: see the blue butterfly or not. It's about how you 291 00:17:22,800 --> 00:17:26,120 Speaker 1: feel the initial gut reaction when you see that blue butterfly. 292 00:17:26,280 --> 00:17:29,000 Speaker 1: So do you are you relieved or disappointed? 293 00:17:29,160 --> 00:17:29,480 Speaker 2: Yes? 294 00:17:29,800 --> 00:17:32,560 Speaker 1: And so don't like use that as the actual sign 295 00:17:32,600 --> 00:17:34,160 Speaker 1: of Oh I saw it, so I've got to quit 296 00:17:34,200 --> 00:17:36,600 Speaker 1: my job. Use the how did you feel? Did you 297 00:17:36,640 --> 00:17:39,000 Speaker 1: feel you saw it and go, yes, I'm quitting my job, 298 00:17:39,119 --> 00:17:41,400 Speaker 1: or did you see it and go I actually don't 299 00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:42,280 Speaker 1: want to quit my job? 300 00:17:42,480 --> 00:17:42,680 Speaker 2: Yeah? 301 00:17:42,680 --> 00:17:45,240 Speaker 1: Does that make sense? That's how I feel about like 302 00:17:45,280 --> 00:17:46,119 Speaker 1: spiritual science. 303 00:17:46,240 --> 00:17:49,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not that good in that. Well, it's more 304 00:17:49,119 --> 00:17:52,320 Speaker 2: the point is, listen to your body if it's telling 305 00:17:52,320 --> 00:17:54,240 Speaker 2: you something, change something. 306 00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:56,600 Speaker 3: Like, and if you're getting sick, like it's your brain 307 00:17:56,600 --> 00:17:57,800 Speaker 3: at the end of the day and giving you the 308 00:17:57,840 --> 00:18:01,000 Speaker 3: signal because it controls everything that happens where it's consciously 309 00:18:01,080 --> 00:18:03,960 Speaker 3: or subconsciously, and it's subconsciously telling you. 310 00:18:03,880 --> 00:18:08,640 Speaker 1: Something, Yeah, something's not right now. And I think also, yeah, 311 00:18:08,680 --> 00:18:11,159 Speaker 1: like Cooper said, like listen to your body. Obviously you 312 00:18:11,400 --> 00:18:14,960 Speaker 1: keep like I think, if you keep reoccurring getting sick, 313 00:18:15,000 --> 00:18:18,040 Speaker 1: there's obviously a deeper issue that your body is trying 314 00:18:18,040 --> 00:18:20,480 Speaker 1: to deal with that is in you know, right, That's 315 00:18:20,520 --> 00:18:23,480 Speaker 1: like when I had all my symptoms in regards to 316 00:18:23,520 --> 00:18:26,000 Speaker 1: breasts implant illness, I had all these symptoms and they 317 00:18:26,119 --> 00:18:29,880 Speaker 1: just like were reoccurring. But you could fix one, but 318 00:18:29,920 --> 00:18:32,840 Speaker 1: then another symptom would come up. And it's so it's 319 00:18:32,880 --> 00:18:34,960 Speaker 1: like it's a reoccurring thing where your body is like 320 00:18:35,080 --> 00:18:37,000 Speaker 1: I'm trying to find it's just something else going wrong, 321 00:18:37,520 --> 00:18:40,440 Speaker 1: get these implants out. But you just like you're looking 322 00:18:40,480 --> 00:18:42,440 Speaker 1: at the symptoms, not like the deeper thing. 323 00:18:42,960 --> 00:18:45,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, you're fixing like the issues, but not the root 324 00:18:45,600 --> 00:18:46,000 Speaker 3: cause of it. 325 00:18:46,359 --> 00:18:49,240 Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, so I reckon there's a root cause here. 326 00:18:49,880 --> 00:18:52,840 Speaker 1: And also yeah, I think this job is not for you. 327 00:18:52,960 --> 00:18:54,800 Speaker 1: Cool lucky. Last question. 328 00:19:00,320 --> 00:19:02,199 Speaker 3: It wouldn't be a very good episode if she's like, 329 00:19:02,280 --> 00:19:04,080 Speaker 3: I'm not sure if it's for me, and I'm like, yeah, 330 00:19:04,080 --> 00:19:06,600 Speaker 3: it's not done. 331 00:19:06,640 --> 00:19:14,119 Speaker 1: That's done me episode over questions like thirty questions and 332 00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:23,520 Speaker 1: tenutes no, yes, no, yes, no, done, okay, perfect last question. 333 00:19:23,840 --> 00:19:27,840 Speaker 3: I have been extremely successful in Korea and making things 334 00:19:27,880 --> 00:19:31,520 Speaker 3: happen for myself in other areas of my life, but 335 00:19:31,680 --> 00:19:34,080 Speaker 3: one area of my life I seem to struggle with 336 00:19:34,400 --> 00:19:40,119 Speaker 3: is relationships, specifically romantic relationships. When it comes to manifesting 337 00:19:40,200 --> 00:19:43,119 Speaker 3: other things, I feel so confident because I know if 338 00:19:43,160 --> 00:19:45,439 Speaker 3: it's in my control, I will do the work to 339 00:19:45,480 --> 00:19:49,439 Speaker 3: make it happen. But for relationships, it really relies on 340 00:19:49,480 --> 00:19:53,480 Speaker 3: another person and my normal rhetoric of if I work hard, 341 00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:56,879 Speaker 3: I can make it happen. Doesn't really apply to that realm. 342 00:19:57,040 --> 00:20:00,760 Speaker 3: Would love any tips on manifesting when things out of 343 00:20:00,800 --> 00:20:04,239 Speaker 3: your control and dealing with the intrusive thoughts that it 344 00:20:04,320 --> 00:20:05,439 Speaker 3: might not happen for me. 345 00:20:06,440 --> 00:20:09,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, this is a great question. First of all, can 346 00:20:09,359 --> 00:20:12,160 Speaker 1: I just say her last line of like, I would 347 00:20:12,160 --> 00:20:15,199 Speaker 1: love any tips on manifesting when things seem out of 348 00:20:15,240 --> 00:20:18,399 Speaker 1: your control? So all things are out of your control 349 00:20:18,440 --> 00:20:23,359 Speaker 1: when you're manifesting, like, there's not a scenario. I think 350 00:20:24,000 --> 00:20:26,720 Speaker 1: previously with her, you know, with the jobs and the 351 00:20:26,800 --> 00:20:30,560 Speaker 1: working for things, she has a sense of control because 352 00:20:30,960 --> 00:20:35,600 Speaker 1: she's doing which is not actually true because the true 353 00:20:36,280 --> 00:20:42,280 Speaker 1: you know, manifestation is surrender and being an attracting And 354 00:20:42,320 --> 00:20:45,240 Speaker 1: so I can I can one hundred percent understand what 355 00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:48,639 Speaker 1: she's talking about because I'm a doer. I love doing things. 356 00:20:48,720 --> 00:20:52,680 Speaker 1: I love like making steps. But it's like in reality 357 00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:57,199 Speaker 1: she doesn't like that's not necessary to manifest. But I 358 00:20:57,240 --> 00:20:59,840 Speaker 1: completely understand what she's talking about here because it does 359 00:21:00,040 --> 00:21:02,600 Speaker 1: feel out of your control because it's like someone else's 360 00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:05,680 Speaker 1: life as well. Yeah does that? Yeah that makes sense? 361 00:21:05,760 --> 00:21:07,560 Speaker 3: Like I'm totally on this page. I felt like I 362 00:21:07,560 --> 00:21:09,000 Speaker 3: wrote this question because I feel the. 363 00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:11,400 Speaker 1: Exactly and we're going to get into a tears response. 364 00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:14,800 Speaker 1: But I think the first thing is like what seems 365 00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:18,639 Speaker 1: hard about this? Like, obviously this is a manifestation where 366 00:21:18,680 --> 00:21:22,240 Speaker 1: previously other things don't feel hard, and this feels hard 367 00:21:22,280 --> 00:21:25,960 Speaker 1: for her. So I'm kind of thinking, like, what part 368 00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:31,000 Speaker 1: of finding your soulmate feels hard? And let me just 369 00:21:31,040 --> 00:21:33,760 Speaker 1: ask you a tea if you says, if you say 370 00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:37,159 Speaker 1: this question was made for you, what part of finding 371 00:21:37,160 --> 00:21:38,560 Speaker 1: a soulmate feels hard for you? 372 00:21:39,119 --> 00:21:42,200 Speaker 3: Like just the fact that they even exist, Like it's 373 00:21:42,280 --> 00:21:44,439 Speaker 3: so weird and I don't know what the block is. 374 00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:45,800 Speaker 1: And I was talking to Jamie. 375 00:21:45,560 --> 00:21:48,919 Speaker 3: About this before, but like the thought that there's someone 376 00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:52,199 Speaker 3: that exists that is the right person for me, I 377 00:21:52,280 --> 00:21:52,639 Speaker 3: just don't know. 378 00:21:52,760 --> 00:21:54,640 Speaker 2: Do you think there's only one? Would you say? 379 00:21:54,720 --> 00:21:57,960 Speaker 3: Or like even just I don't meeting someone, I think 380 00:21:57,960 --> 00:21:59,160 Speaker 3: there's heaps me too. 381 00:21:59,520 --> 00:22:01,520 Speaker 1: I feel like this is probably why we have no 382 00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:07,680 Speaker 1: issues because we're like there's a small sport of people. First, Yeah, 383 00:22:09,080 --> 00:22:11,960 Speaker 1: says us, who's been dating our partners since we were teenagers. 384 00:22:14,680 --> 00:22:15,040 Speaker 1: I don't know. 385 00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:17,040 Speaker 3: I guess I kind of look at it like I 386 00:22:17,080 --> 00:22:20,000 Speaker 3: do think there's probably one, and I do think there'll 387 00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:22,920 Speaker 3: always be plenty to settle for and that's never going. 388 00:22:22,920 --> 00:22:25,200 Speaker 1: To be a worry. Like being alone is kind of 389 00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:28,840 Speaker 1: like so you're worried about Okay, this is great. So 390 00:22:29,040 --> 00:22:34,439 Speaker 1: your like limiting belief is like this ultimate this person 391 00:22:34,560 --> 00:22:37,480 Speaker 1: has to be like perfect, not perfect, because I know 392 00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:41,359 Speaker 1: that that's never a thing, but just someone that I 393 00:22:41,440 --> 00:22:44,680 Speaker 1: would like the concept that there is someone that exists 394 00:22:44,720 --> 00:22:46,959 Speaker 1: that I would rather go home to than to an 395 00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:52,240 Speaker 1: empty house. Weir, it's me out, what do you mean? 396 00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:55,240 Speaker 3: Like do you ever go home and the house is 397 00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:57,360 Speaker 3: empty and you're like, oh, this is so peaceful. 398 00:22:57,440 --> 00:22:59,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's amazing. Yeah, but it's like. 399 00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:03,960 Speaker 2: One day the next day you're like, I'm bored. 400 00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:06,679 Speaker 1: She lives with Yeah, I don't go home to an 401 00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:10,400 Speaker 1: empty house of it. Yeah. But like, Okay, I get 402 00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:13,160 Speaker 1: what you're saying, someone i'd rather be there than have 403 00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:15,760 Speaker 1: no one there. I get what you mean because I 404 00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:18,120 Speaker 1: love my alone time. Yeah, I love it. I could 405 00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:21,679 Speaker 1: spend a week alone just relish in it. So I 406 00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:26,040 Speaker 1: do understand that. But also, what's like, why do you 407 00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:29,320 Speaker 1: think you can't find this person? Like, what's the question 408 00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:32,359 Speaker 1: there existed? This is the same question their existence. Ye 409 00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:35,800 Speaker 1: are they am? I just meant to be alone? Like, 410 00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:37,240 Speaker 1: why do you think you're that special? 411 00:23:37,720 --> 00:23:37,920 Speaker 2: No? 412 00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:42,399 Speaker 1: No, no, no, no no. This is what I'm talking about, 413 00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:46,800 Speaker 1: because of course there's someone for you, get out there 414 00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:52,919 Speaker 1: to you. All right, guys, let's go back on the question. 415 00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:57,280 Speaker 3: Yes, sorry, Like I feel like the way I read 416 00:23:57,320 --> 00:24:00,080 Speaker 3: it is that in your career you have some and 417 00:24:00,119 --> 00:24:03,399 Speaker 3: what even if it's not control, you have knowledge. You 418 00:24:03,520 --> 00:24:05,520 Speaker 3: know where you work, you know what your job is, 419 00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:07,520 Speaker 3: you know what your goals are. If your goal is 420 00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:11,320 Speaker 3: to get here, you can see the steps kind of 421 00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:15,280 Speaker 3: or look at people who've done the same steps. Whereas 422 00:24:15,400 --> 00:24:19,400 Speaker 3: I feel like with relationships, it's not like there's not steps. 423 00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:22,520 Speaker 3: Everybody's just so different. If you ask every single person 424 00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:24,720 Speaker 3: how they met their soulmate, it's completely different. 425 00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:27,000 Speaker 1: So so like you do this than this than this? 426 00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:30,919 Speaker 1: Is it that the unknown scares you? Yeah? Probably, I 427 00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:31,520 Speaker 1: just don't know. 428 00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:35,160 Speaker 3: It's not like having control, and it's more like, well, 429 00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:37,240 Speaker 3: I think you and this person has in common this 430 00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:41,280 Speaker 3: control factor, So I think it's not about it. So 431 00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:44,680 Speaker 3: a good like kind of exercise would be like thinking 432 00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:49,000 Speaker 3: back to a scenario where you didn't have control and 433 00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:55,600 Speaker 3: you totally surrendered and it worked out so effortlessly and beautiful. 434 00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:57,200 Speaker 1: Like, do you have a scenario like that? 435 00:24:57,280 --> 00:24:57,600 Speaker 2: It' here? 436 00:24:57,840 --> 00:24:59,960 Speaker 1: What about when you got this job? Like did it come? 437 00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:01,520 Speaker 1: I kind of come up in a really weird way. 438 00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:03,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, it was just there and I was like, oh, 439 00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:06,520 Speaker 3: I might as well just try and then applied and 440 00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:07,760 Speaker 3: then it just like happened. 441 00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:08,640 Speaker 1: That's what I. 442 00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:11,560 Speaker 2: Answered it though, So you applied yourself to it. So 443 00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:14,000 Speaker 2: with their relationship you have, you would just make. 444 00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:17,959 Speaker 1: Steps of you know in the world, going on an 445 00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:20,720 Speaker 1: app I don't know, and then it would just happen, 446 00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:29,280 Speaker 1: going on a nap, an hour nap, a nap. But 447 00:25:29,359 --> 00:25:32,119 Speaker 1: that's what I mean is it's like any other scenario. 448 00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:34,320 Speaker 1: And I think we need to break this down too, 449 00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:38,919 Speaker 1: because I think I don't have any blocks with a 450 00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:44,600 Speaker 1: relationship and person because so our parents have been together 451 00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:47,160 Speaker 1: since they were sixteen years old. They met each other 452 00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:49,440 Speaker 1: in high school and it was like a done thing, 453 00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:52,639 Speaker 1: and they're so in love it's like sickening. They're like 454 00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:55,840 Speaker 1: too much old ass, and they like don't spend any 455 00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:58,159 Speaker 1: time apart from each other, and they're like obsessed with 456 00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:01,879 Speaker 1: each other. It's super good story. 457 00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:09,320 Speaker 2: Dad just dad went on a boy's weekend when we 458 00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:12,720 Speaker 2: were younger. Remember they went up to Weeper. Yeah this 459 00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:15,679 Speaker 2: is off track, but went up there. It was like 460 00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:17,960 Speaker 2: meant to go for a week and then. 461 00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:20,440 Speaker 1: Just the boys. So Dad and the three boys. 462 00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:24,480 Speaker 2: I was so homesick that he was calling mom. And 463 00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:26,879 Speaker 2: this is after like the first couple of nights. And 464 00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:31,560 Speaker 2: then in the end, Mom end up booking tickets and. 465 00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:34,240 Speaker 1: Flew me and you yeah, and then. 466 00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:37,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, my brother's actually grilled us because we supposed to 467 00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:39,000 Speaker 2: be there and they missed out on trips. 468 00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:43,280 Speaker 1: But yeah, my dad, ye be away from my mom 469 00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:46,520 Speaker 1: even though he's with his children and like family, and 470 00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:48,320 Speaker 1: so we flew up and met them. 471 00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:49,680 Speaker 2: So cute. 472 00:26:50,359 --> 00:26:53,680 Speaker 1: No, but I think from their relationship, I had this 473 00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:55,920 Speaker 1: belief that it's like, of course I'm just going to 474 00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:58,960 Speaker 1: find my soulmate and of course it's going to be easy. 475 00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:02,440 Speaker 1: If you don't don't have that belief, it's unpacking that 476 00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:05,879 Speaker 1: and it's reframing it. It's like any other manifestation kry, 477 00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:06,760 Speaker 1: like money minds. 478 00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:06,840 Speaker 2: It. 479 00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:09,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, when it's like if you grew up with limiting 480 00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:12,720 Speaker 1: money beliefs, you just need to unpack that and reframe 481 00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:16,320 Speaker 1: that and tell yourself a new story and believe it done. 482 00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:20,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, but with this question, though she doesn't have time 483 00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:25,439 Speaker 2: for a relationship, it sounds like she's working too much 484 00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:27,399 Speaker 2: and not is that. 485 00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:32,320 Speaker 1: I don't don't think there was another question that said that, 486 00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:34,639 Speaker 1: so I got confused. But I don't think that's this question. 487 00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:38,040 Speaker 1: It's like this whole thing of like she doesn't know 488 00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:41,760 Speaker 1: how to surrender and let go. It's a relish in 489 00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:44,240 Speaker 1: the unknown of how it's going to happen or when 490 00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:45,040 Speaker 1: it's going to happen. 491 00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:47,520 Speaker 3: It's like getting to the point where you're surrendering but 492 00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:50,040 Speaker 3: not being able to completely just trust the universe that 493 00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:50,680 Speaker 3: it will happen. 494 00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:52,919 Speaker 1: I think you just need to install the belief that 495 00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:56,600 Speaker 1: it's like, of course you're going to find and meet 496 00:27:56,760 --> 00:28:00,159 Speaker 1: your soulmate. I think also, don't worry about it, but 497 00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:04,040 Speaker 1: be very clear. Maybe she's like not clear on who 498 00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:07,200 Speaker 1: or what that looks like, so the universe hasn't brought 499 00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:10,840 Speaker 1: it to her. Yeah, So for example, get really clear 500 00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:13,080 Speaker 1: on how do you want to feel in a relationship, 501 00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:17,160 Speaker 1: Like what sort of values you want that person to have, 502 00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:20,359 Speaker 1: how you want to spend your time, like, get really 503 00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:20,919 Speaker 1: clear on that. 504 00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:25,720 Speaker 2: Get a list, Yes, no, she like. 505 00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:26,720 Speaker 1: She wants to make a list. 506 00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:29,480 Speaker 3: She would, but I'm not like a list like he 507 00:28:29,560 --> 00:28:32,560 Speaker 3: needs to have brown hair and he needs to have 508 00:28:32,640 --> 00:28:36,159 Speaker 3: this job or math much money. Yeah, but it's like 509 00:28:36,200 --> 00:28:39,280 Speaker 3: a list like I want to have a trusting relationship. 510 00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:41,400 Speaker 3: I want him to be honest with me. I want 511 00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:42,800 Speaker 3: someone I want him. 512 00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:44,120 Speaker 1: To not lie about things. 513 00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:50,480 Speaker 2: Who outside. 514 00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:58,000 Speaker 1: Jamie's like the fuck, yeah, one hundred percent. I think 515 00:28:58,040 --> 00:29:00,560 Speaker 1: she needs to get clear and and I think she 516 00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:02,720 Speaker 1: needs to surrender. And I know it's hard, but a 517 00:29:02,760 --> 00:29:06,640 Speaker 1: great exercise is think back to when she has surrendered 518 00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:09,600 Speaker 1: and things have just worked out in a very unknown way, 519 00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:13,840 Speaker 1: and like fine, comfort in that that that's gonna happen 520 00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:16,120 Speaker 1: for this relationship, and just like set it. 521 00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:18,520 Speaker 3: Up so that when it happens, it's just too good 522 00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:20,760 Speaker 3: to say no. Like that just reminded me of what 523 00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:26,920 Speaker 3: like if you only do things or put yourself towards 524 00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:30,160 Speaker 3: things that no matter what, it would just be a 525 00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:35,040 Speaker 3: bad idea not to do it if it comes to happen. 526 00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:39,680 Speaker 1: I'm thinking of like when I applied for this job, 527 00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:42,520 Speaker 1: and you, like when we talked. 528 00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:46,560 Speaker 3: About it before, I wasn't actively looking for jobs, but 529 00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:49,440 Speaker 3: I think I felt like I wasn't in the right 530 00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:50,240 Speaker 3: place anymore. 531 00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:52,280 Speaker 1: How did you? Oh wait, it was on Instagram? It 532 00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:55,000 Speaker 1: was on Instagram? Was it on my Instagram? Or roncs? 533 00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:55,520 Speaker 2: Both? 534 00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:59,360 Speaker 3: But in that week, two opportunities came up, and I 535 00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:07,480 Speaker 3: was like these No, no, not like you the ones 536 00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:10,360 Speaker 3: like I wasn't actively just like I need to get 537 00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:12,360 Speaker 3: out of here. I'm going to apply for every single job, 538 00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:15,200 Speaker 3: like I only applied for jobs that would be like 539 00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:16,120 Speaker 3: a dream job. 540 00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:23,280 Speaker 1: Two there were two. What was the other one with Disney? Disney? Yeah, 541 00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:26,120 Speaker 1: Tim's brother works for Disney, does he Yeah, in America. 542 00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:27,120 Speaker 1: That's amazing. 543 00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:29,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, that was the other one. They had like a 544 00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:34,760 Speaker 3: graduate program that's in America. No here, Oh yeah, but 545 00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:39,880 Speaker 3: those are I haven't heard backs, friend, No, no, no, 546 00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:41,640 Speaker 3: I've literally thought about it. I'm like I'm now in 547 00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:43,680 Speaker 3: a place where if that came up, I probably wouldn't 548 00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:52,480 Speaker 3: do it. Probably, Okay, So great example, like just put 549 00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:55,520 Speaker 3: yourself like, don't just date every single guy and don't 550 00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:57,960 Speaker 3: go to every single bar or go on every single 551 00:30:58,280 --> 00:31:00,480 Speaker 3: get what you're talking about, Like, put yourself in a 552 00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:04,160 Speaker 3: position where if the right thing comes, it's just like 553 00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:06,120 Speaker 3: it's so stupid if you don't do it. 554 00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:09,520 Speaker 1: Yes, agreed. Yeah, but don't Yeah, don't waste your time 555 00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:13,600 Speaker 1: just you know, really nearly trying every dating app, because 556 00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:14,600 Speaker 1: that's a waste of your time. 557 00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:15,000 Speaker 2: Yes. 558 00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:18,960 Speaker 1: So in the end, you have to trust the universe 559 00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:21,520 Speaker 1: and you have to work on these limiting beliefs where 560 00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:26,160 Speaker 1: you believe you cannot attract this thing. Really easy because 561 00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:30,480 Speaker 1: you can, girlfriends, he or she's out there and actually surrender. Yes, 562 00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:35,480 Speaker 1: oh my god, it's the hardest thing to do. Any tips, God, girlfriend, 563 00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:39,720 Speaker 1: any tips are surrendering. Yeah. I think for me, it's 564 00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:44,480 Speaker 1: just again, I because I'm in control, think I control freak. 565 00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:44,720 Speaker 2: Wow. 566 00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:48,640 Speaker 1: I think back where scenarios where things have just fell 567 00:31:48,680 --> 00:31:52,320 Speaker 1: into place, or I think back where things haven't happened, 568 00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:55,680 Speaker 1: and then later realize, thank God that thing didn't happen, 569 00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:58,360 Speaker 1: and thank God, like the universe is here, who has 570 00:31:58,400 --> 00:32:00,760 Speaker 1: my back, and I just made sure it didn't have Yeah, 571 00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:04,240 Speaker 1: and then I just have to go. I'm comfortable, it's okay. 572 00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:07,720 Speaker 1: I trust, I've done all the steps, and now I wait. 573 00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:13,040 Speaker 1: I hope that answers the question. 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