WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT... Will you pee on me? 0:00:19.560 --> 0:00:22.279 Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life 0:00:22.280 --> 0:00:22.720 One Cut. 0:00:22.800 --> 0:00:24.720 I'm Brittany and I'm Laura, and. 0:00:24.680 --> 0:00:26.280 This sick is our Thursday episode. 0:00:26.280 --> 0:00:29.800 This is our dark and dirty and sexy, saucy little episode. 0:00:29.840 --> 0:00:32.800 But we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. 0:00:32.880 --> 0:00:34.960 And now, look, we have been keeping it pretty dirty lately, 0:00:35.000 --> 0:00:36.120 so I think we're going to keep this one a 0:00:36.159 --> 0:00:38.080 little bit more above board. I think we've been taking 0:00:38.080 --> 0:00:40.720 our intro too seriously because the last few weeks have 0:00:40.760 --> 0:00:42.280 been pretty questionable. 0:00:42.400 --> 0:00:43.199 I can't even. 0:00:43.000 --> 0:00:45.840 Remember the questions that we answered last week, to be honest, neither, 0:00:45.960 --> 0:00:49.000 but I just know our vibe. Also, I'm just gonna 0:00:49.000 --> 0:00:51.840 like apologize right now if anyone can hear what sounds 0:00:51.880 --> 0:00:57.560 like a pterodactyl going, yeah, it's not Matt, it's actually Lola. 0:00:57.720 --> 0:01:00.840 She's don't worry, she's being supervised by Matt. She's just 0:01:00.880 --> 0:01:03.040 outside the door screaming. At the moment, she's figured out 0:01:03.040 --> 0:01:05.080 how to crawl and she's trying to get in here 0:01:05.120 --> 0:01:05.960 and get on the podcast. 0:01:06.000 --> 0:01:06.479 But that is. 0:01:06.440 --> 0:01:08.800 Lockdown life, isn't it. You can't even apologize for that now, 0:01:08.840 --> 0:01:11.319 because literally, you haven't left your house in three months. 0:01:11.440 --> 0:01:13.440 You live with two kids in a two bedroom house. 0:01:13.480 --> 0:01:14.960 Can we call it lockdown life? 0:01:15.000 --> 0:01:15.040 Like? 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:17.200 I mean? It feels like the never ending saga. It's 0:01:17.240 --> 0:01:19.160 just his life. I kin't of even mad at her. 0:01:19.200 --> 0:01:21.720 I'm currently hidden in her bedroom recording She's just trying 0:01:21.720 --> 0:01:22.920 to get into where her toys are. 0:01:23.120 --> 0:01:24.760 Hang on, is it Lola or Marley crying? 0:01:24.959 --> 0:01:25.760 It's Lola. 0:01:26.000 --> 0:01:31.360 H Who knows who's counting anymore. Someone's out there with 0:01:31.400 --> 0:01:33.560 them and that's all that matters. I wanted to kick 0:01:33.600 --> 0:01:35.440 out today with an article. 0:01:35.160 --> 0:01:37.760 That we have had a very good chuckle over and 0:01:37.800 --> 0:01:39.680 I don't know if we should be laughing, but hey, 0:01:39.760 --> 0:01:42.679 everyone else is. It seems to be trending. It is 0:01:42.720 --> 0:01:47.160 about the term soaking. Now, I had never heard of 0:01:47.319 --> 0:01:49.880 soaking in sex before ever? Had you? 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:52.400 I had never heard about it, but I'm very, very 0:01:52.400 --> 0:01:54.000 glad that this has come into my life. 0:01:54.080 --> 0:01:58.160 So if you guys haven't heard of soaking. Essentially, if 0:01:58.200 --> 0:02:01.600 you don't know much about Mormon, Mormons don't have sex 0:02:01.600 --> 0:02:05.280 before marriage. They're also not supposed to engage in sexual 0:02:05.480 --> 0:02:09.880 or overt passionate kissing or touching or anything of that nature. 0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:11.919 They're supposed to save themselves for marriage. 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:12.760 But isn't it that. 0:02:12.680 --> 0:02:15.600 Mormons aren't allowed to engage in like really sexual kissing 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:19.160 or like passionate displays of affection because of the potential 0:02:19.240 --> 0:02:22.280 of it leading into more and therefore turning into the sex, 0:02:22.320 --> 0:02:23.920 and we're trying to avoid that from happening. 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:25.959 I'm not sure if that's the exact reason, if it's 0:02:26.000 --> 0:02:27.920 so it doesn't lead to sex, or if it's just 0:02:27.960 --> 0:02:30.240 that these things are sacred and supposed to be for 0:02:30.320 --> 0:02:34.400 your partner. But I know that oral sex, masturbation, passionate kissing, 0:02:34.440 --> 0:02:38.080 and erotic touching are all very strictly banned unless you're married, 0:02:38.120 --> 0:02:40.280 So that is definitely all of those things are a 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:42.240 no go. You are not allowed to do that. 0:02:42.680 --> 0:02:42.840 Now. 0:02:42.840 --> 0:02:45.400 The reason why we're talking about this is it is trending. 0:02:45.480 --> 0:02:47.920 It is all over TikTok because a bunch of teenagers 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:51.640 have finally outed what soaking is, because apparently it's been 0:02:51.680 --> 0:02:53.600 around for a long time, but it's a bit hush hush, 0:02:53.720 --> 0:02:55.960 especially in the Mormon world. A lot of people do it, 0:02:56.000 --> 0:02:57.720 but no one wants to put their hand up and say, hey, 0:02:57.760 --> 0:03:01.360 I'm a soaker, but what what it is? It's their 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:04.200 way around not being able to have sex. So they've 0:03:04.200 --> 0:03:08.400 come up with this thing where the penis goes into 0:03:08.480 --> 0:03:09.040 the vagina. 0:03:09.160 --> 0:03:11.440 So the man puts you laying in bed. You can't 0:03:11.440 --> 0:03:13.520 you're just laying down on your back. The man puts 0:03:13.560 --> 0:03:14.480 his penis. 0:03:14.120 --> 0:03:16.720 In the vagina and then nothing freeze frame. You have 0:03:16.800 --> 0:03:19.560 to you play that game statue, so you have to. 0:03:19.639 --> 0:03:22.440 It's also called it has other names. It's called parking, 0:03:22.520 --> 0:03:24.760 but you essentially just have to put the dick in 0:03:24.800 --> 0:03:26.240 the vagina and not move. 0:03:26.600 --> 0:03:26.799 Now. 0:03:26.840 --> 0:03:32.400 I am sorry, but this this has so many questions 0:03:32.440 --> 0:03:36.000 for me. A. I don't know if my sex education 0:03:36.120 --> 0:03:37.640 was wrong, but I'm pretty sure a penis in the 0:03:37.680 --> 0:03:40.160 vagina is sex. Like that is breaking a barrier. The 0:03:40.160 --> 0:03:43.520 barrier is called the hymen. That is two physical bodies touching. 0:03:44.200 --> 0:03:46.080 To me, that sex. And I don't see how you're 0:03:46.080 --> 0:03:49.320 allowed to soak or park if you're not allowed to 0:03:49.360 --> 0:03:52.040 passionately kiss like what is I don't know if they're 0:03:52.080 --> 0:03:53.200 reasoning is accurate. 0:03:53.280 --> 0:03:55.760 There's okay, there's a few things here I want to unpack. Firstly, 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:57.560 thanks for the sex education, Brittany. 0:03:58.400 --> 0:04:01.120 It's very accurate and also okay, there are so many 0:04:01.160 --> 0:04:03.360 different things that constitute what make up sex. Like it 0:04:03.360 --> 0:04:05.160 doesn't even just have to be the penis in the 0:04:05.640 --> 0:04:06.680 We don't even need to tell you, guys. 0:04:06.720 --> 0:04:08.480 You guys know what sexy is. I'm sure you're all. 0:04:08.360 --> 0:04:10.920 Listening to this thinking that this is just as fucking 0:04:10.920 --> 0:04:13.920 weird as we are. But like, imagine, imagine if a 0:04:14.000 --> 0:04:16.760 guy put his penis inside you and then was like 0:04:16.800 --> 0:04:21.400 hold the fuck stell like just don't move, like, no wiggling, 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:24.960 no nothing, just two people in missionary position, laying on 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:28.160 top of each other still for three minutes or two 0:04:28.200 --> 0:04:30.200 minutes or however long they can withstand it, and then 0:04:30.279 --> 0:04:30.599 that's it. 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:33.280 Withdraw What do you get out of it? 0:04:33.839 --> 0:04:36.320 Well, I guess, I mean, I guess there's a feeling 0:04:36.320 --> 0:04:39.839 of closeness because you feel like that special connection because 0:04:39.839 --> 0:04:42.840 we know, we know on dolphins release when we have sex, 0:04:42.839 --> 0:04:44.560 when we had that intimacy with someone, which is why 0:04:44.560 --> 0:04:47.640 it's so hard to maintain a strictly friends with benefits 0:04:47.680 --> 0:04:50.040 relationship where women especially are like, I'm not going to 0:04:50.080 --> 0:04:51.719 get feelings. I'm not going to catch feelings the second 0:04:51.720 --> 0:04:53.920 you have sex like bam, let's spoon and get married 0:04:53.960 --> 0:04:55.920 like it is what it is. But I think that this, 0:04:56.440 --> 0:04:58.640 I think there's a feeling of closeness and connection and 0:04:58.680 --> 0:05:02.000 like they're taking the next step without doing the wrong 0:05:02.080 --> 0:05:04.440 thing in the eyes of you know, they're religion. 0:05:04.760 --> 0:05:07.320 This just so fully threw me back into like my 0:05:07.720 --> 0:05:10.440 teenage years, and I feel like everyone's going to relate 0:05:10.480 --> 0:05:14.000 to this when you're want to hear what you're gonna 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:17.080 say teenage laure is so awkward, and I feel so 0:05:17.160 --> 0:05:19.599 awkward for her talking about this that when you like 0:05:19.760 --> 0:05:24.000 very first kind of got into figuring out sex. You're dating, 0:05:24.080 --> 0:05:27.800 like you're a super horny teenager in your early twenties and. 0:05:27.920 --> 0:05:29.040 You're hooking up with a guy. 0:05:30.080 --> 0:05:32.880 You're not actually having sex, but like maybe they still 0:05:32.880 --> 0:05:34.560 have their underwear on, or you have your underwear on, 0:05:34.640 --> 0:05:37.240 and you're it's like you're pretty much having sex, but 0:05:37.279 --> 0:05:39.360 you're wearing underwear. Like there might be in by like 0:05:39.400 --> 0:05:41.480 three centimeters, but you're wearing underwear, so. 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:44.240 It's fine, really hard they're in Vice three and four. 0:05:45.200 --> 0:05:46.080 Am I alone here? 0:05:46.160 --> 0:05:48.960 Or did we all do this like just dry humping 0:05:48.960 --> 0:05:51.039 to the point where you're like pretty much just having 0:05:51.120 --> 0:05:52.920 sex but it's not sex. Well, yeah, that's when you're 0:05:52.960 --> 0:05:54.960 young and you're not ready to take the next moved, 0:05:55.000 --> 0:05:56.080 but you're like, this feels good. 0:05:57.640 --> 0:05:58.599 But that makes me. 0:05:58.960 --> 0:06:01.080 That literally makes me and I feel like there's not 0:06:01.080 --> 0:06:03.440 gonna be anyone listening to this that didn't experience that. 0:06:03.560 --> 0:06:06.520 See, not alone, Laura, except as a mom to two girls. 0:06:06.520 --> 0:06:10.120 It makes me feel so uncomfortable, Like I just wow, 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:11.000 we did it. 0:06:11.040 --> 0:06:12.000 We all did it, guys. 0:06:12.440 --> 0:06:15.719 I can kind of understand why this terminology has come up. 0:06:15.760 --> 0:06:18.040 I can understand why they're pushing the boundaries as far 0:06:18.120 --> 0:06:20.800 as they possibly can, especially when this is happening in 0:06:20.880 --> 0:06:23.600 like Mormon universities, and like we all know what it's 0:06:23.640 --> 0:06:25.719 like to go to UNI, to live on campus, to 0:06:25.839 --> 0:06:28.440 run around and be crazy and in our wild youths. 0:06:28.560 --> 0:06:29.840 That there is more to the story. 0:06:30.040 --> 0:06:32.080 Well, there are some other quotes before we get into 0:06:32.120 --> 0:06:33.480 the next part of the story, because the next part 0:06:33.480 --> 0:06:35.320 of the story is like what I find the fucking 0:06:35.320 --> 0:06:38.720 funniest Like this, it's so beyond anything I could imagine 0:06:38.760 --> 0:06:41.120 was real life. But there are some quotes for us 0:06:41.160 --> 0:06:44.440 from some soakers, like some first class socus. 0:06:44.040 --> 0:06:46.240 Some hardcore soakers, some hardcore soakers. 0:06:46.320 --> 0:06:48.160 The first time we soaked, we were on the floor 0:06:48.200 --> 0:06:50.080 of my living room and she just asked me to 0:06:50.080 --> 0:06:52.640 put it in, but not to move it around. I 0:06:52.640 --> 0:06:55.520 guess she wanted to push her virginity as far as 0:06:55.520 --> 0:06:59.240 her sensibilities would allow. Now this just shows me that 0:06:59.320 --> 0:07:00.720 teenagers of all motherfuckers. 0:07:03.279 --> 0:07:05.080 There is another quote from this article which I want 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:06.600 to read out to you guys, And it was there 0:07:06.680 --> 0:07:09.120 was always squirming on both of our parts, but never 0:07:09.200 --> 0:07:12.560 any real thrusting. And I guess swirming maybe technically moving, 0:07:12.720 --> 0:07:15.040 but it wasn't like the preacher was there refing the event. 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:17.600 I was inside her. It felt good and sometimes we 0:07:17.600 --> 0:07:18.120 would kind of. 0:07:18.120 --> 0:07:22.160 Grind involuntarily, though it was torturous for both them. I mean, 0:07:22.200 --> 0:07:25.040 I'm sorry, but you had sex, but it was going 0:07:25.080 --> 0:07:27.840 as far as we could justify before breaking the rules. 0:07:28.040 --> 0:07:29.000 This is wild. 0:07:29.360 --> 0:07:31.680 The thing that makes this so much crazier is the 0:07:31.720 --> 0:07:35.520 fact that Mormon sex is getting airtime purely because of TikTok, 0:07:35.600 --> 0:07:38.320 and TikTok is of sharing tactics used to get around 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:41.080 what the chastity rules are, so to teach other Mormons 0:07:41.160 --> 0:07:43.520 what they can and can't do and how they can 0:07:43.560 --> 0:07:46.000 be intimate without being overly intimate. 0:07:46.080 --> 0:07:48.280 Now there's more to this, Brittany, if. 0:07:48.200 --> 0:07:50.160 You'd like to share it, with them, it gets so 0:07:50.240 --> 0:07:53.040 much more wild. This is probably my favorite part because 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:56.000 I love their creativity. Now because they're not allowed to 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:58.280 have sex, they're allowed to thrust. They have come up 0:07:58.280 --> 0:08:02.360 with a term or an activity call jump pumping. Now, 0:08:02.440 --> 0:08:04.680 jump upping is where you have to have a very 0:08:04.720 --> 0:08:07.560 trusty friend or relative or whoever you're going to use. 0:08:07.640 --> 0:08:09.560 Maybe it's a sister, maybe it's best friend, maybe it's 0:08:09.560 --> 0:08:12.200 someone that's in your dorm with you. But this is 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:14.600 where you call your friend when you want to soak 0:08:14.680 --> 0:08:17.240 with your partner. So you want to have this intimacy 0:08:17.280 --> 0:08:19.680 with your partner, but you want to have that little 0:08:19.720 --> 0:08:22.040 bit more, so you get your friend to come over. 0:08:23.040 --> 0:08:25.200 You're laying on the bed like the couple is laying 0:08:25.240 --> 0:08:28.960 on the bed soaking, and then the friend or the 0:08:29.080 --> 0:08:33.520 dedicated jump umper stands on the mattress like a foot 0:08:33.559 --> 0:08:37.200 away and jumps really erratically so that your body starts 0:08:37.200 --> 0:08:39.320 to move and get friction as you're soaking, and that 0:08:39.400 --> 0:08:41.480 way you get the feeling. But you're not in the 0:08:41.480 --> 0:08:44.240 wrong because you're not making you do it. You're not thrusty, 0:08:44.240 --> 0:08:46.120 and it's the friction from the person jumping on the 0:08:46.120 --> 0:08:49.000 bed and I am sorry, but this has just absolutely 0:08:49.400 --> 0:08:52.160 made my day. There's videos, so this has gotten like 0:08:52.200 --> 0:08:54.960 thirty three million hashtags on TikTok. This is why it's 0:08:55.040 --> 0:08:58.040 viral because a girl put a video of herself up 0:08:58.080 --> 0:09:00.000 doing it to her friend. She's on the bed jump 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:02.040 and you can see it on TikTok, the coupler under 0:09:02.080 --> 0:09:04.000 the covers, soaking, and she said, this is what I 0:09:04.040 --> 0:09:05.439 have to do. My friend called me and said it's 0:09:05.440 --> 0:09:06.840 time to soak, It's time to jump home. 0:09:07.280 --> 0:09:08.560 I'm like, who gets. 0:09:08.320 --> 0:09:10.680 The metal here? Surely the friend like she has taken 0:09:10.720 --> 0:09:11.440 one for the team. 0:09:12.040 --> 0:09:13.880 You have to like, I mean, one, you've got a 0:09:13.880 --> 0:09:16.040 friend in the room with you whilst you're pretty much 0:09:16.040 --> 0:09:18.960 having sex. But because they obviously so fundamentally believe that 0:09:18.960 --> 0:09:21.720 they're not having sex, that it's okay to have a 0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:23.160 friend in the room at the same time. 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:26.400 Just so fucking crazy. Laura. 0:09:26.480 --> 0:09:28.520 If you've got a call from me one day and 0:09:28.559 --> 0:09:31.040 I was like, sos, I'm soaking, I need to hear 0:09:31.080 --> 0:09:32.640 a sat to jump hump, I would do it. 0:09:32.679 --> 0:09:34.040 I would jump on the bed next to you in 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:34.440 short it. 0:09:34.600 --> 0:09:36.280 Yes, absolutely friends too. 0:09:38.440 --> 0:09:41.640 I would jump on that bed as hard and as 0:09:41.720 --> 0:09:44.000 vigorously as you needed to make sure that you were 0:09:44.000 --> 0:09:44.760 having a good time. 0:09:45.000 --> 0:09:47.959 That's what I would do. But also who has the 0:09:48.080 --> 0:09:48.920 self control? 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:51.600 Like, surely if there's such horny like twenty year olds 0:09:51.720 --> 0:09:55.480 or nineteen year olds, however old these people are. Surely 0:09:55.600 --> 0:09:59.160 if the guy is inserting himself and then somebody is 0:09:59.240 --> 0:10:02.080 jumping on the bed next to them, I'm gonna say 0:10:02.080 --> 0:10:04.640 that there's a few accidents. I'm gonna say he probably 0:10:04.640 --> 0:10:06.480 gets a bit excited and might let it off the 0:10:06.480 --> 0:10:10.480 looser prematurely, someone might think, and then what happens, Well. 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:11.920 I don't think they're allowed to because you know, they're 0:10:11.920 --> 0:10:14.080 not allowed to masturbate. So you just have to have 0:10:14.160 --> 0:10:17.200 the best self control of anyone that ever has walked 0:10:17.200 --> 0:10:17.520 the earth. 0:10:17.720 --> 0:10:19.160 I couldn't know. It just sounds. 0:10:19.280 --> 0:10:23.680 It sounds torturous. It sounds absolutely like hell on Earth, 0:10:23.880 --> 0:10:24.760 literal hell on Earth. 0:10:24.880 --> 0:10:25.320 Horrible. 0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:27.720 I feel sorry for one that this has come under 0:10:27.760 --> 0:10:31.080 such a microscope now because now anytime a horny moremon 0:10:31.200 --> 0:10:32.840 is going into a dorm room to soak. 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:35.320 They're gonna be like, is this the wrong thing? Isn't this? 0:10:35.559 --> 0:10:37.679 Does the world think that I'm having sex right now? 0:10:37.840 --> 0:10:40.920 So maybe we've just cock blocked a whole entire group 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:43.520 of Mormons who were just living their best lives. Well, 0:10:43.520 --> 0:10:46.959 there's a will, there's a way, Laura. 0:10:47.679 --> 0:10:48.360 Okay, guys. 0:10:48.559 --> 0:10:52.360 On that note, let's get into the questions for today's episode. Britt, 0:10:52.800 --> 0:10:54.760 you can kick it off and hit me with question 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:56.280 number number one. 0:10:56.360 --> 0:10:57.520 Hit me with question number one. 0:10:57.800 --> 0:11:00.360 All right, question number one. And whilst we're on the 0:11:00.360 --> 0:11:02.680 topic of his sex, I'm going to read you a 0:11:02.720 --> 0:11:04.880 sex one. But I promise after this it gets better. 0:11:05.000 --> 0:11:07.880 This was just a really easy segue for me. Guys. 0:11:07.920 --> 0:11:09.920 I love your work. I've had a few dates with 0:11:10.000 --> 0:11:12.840 this really great guy. I like him a lot, and 0:11:12.880 --> 0:11:15.240 I'm pretty sure he likes me a lot too. He's 0:11:15.240 --> 0:11:18.600 good looking, he's nice, the chemistry is great, that sex 0:11:18.720 --> 0:11:21.400 is great, even the talk is great. And let's be real, 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:23.840 it is not often you find all of this in 0:11:23.880 --> 0:11:28.920 one person. However, last night he started talking about his kinks. 0:11:29.240 --> 0:11:31.840 The unusual thing is he likes in the bedroom. He 0:11:31.960 --> 0:11:34.160 told me he'd ease me into it and started talking 0:11:34.200 --> 0:11:36.760 about how it really turns him on when a girl squirts. 0:11:37.160 --> 0:11:40.120 I thought, okay, that's not too weird. He then went 0:11:40.160 --> 0:11:42.200 on to tell me he would enjoy it if she 0:11:42.240 --> 0:11:45.839 were to then urinate on him. He even went as 0:11:45.880 --> 0:11:48.000 far as to say that when I really needed to 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:50.680 pee during four play, that he found it super hot. 0:11:50.840 --> 0:11:53.560 I'm really confused. Is this too weird? Am I just 0:11:53.640 --> 0:11:56.840 naiven vanilla or even judgmental? It scares me that this 0:11:56.920 --> 0:11:59.160 is not even the full extent of it. Do I 0:11:59.240 --> 0:12:02.280 try to open up my mind to these uncomfortable, uncharted 0:12:02.280 --> 0:12:04.920 things or should I just cut him loose now while 0:12:04.920 --> 0:12:07.319 it's still relatively early days? 0:12:07.880 --> 0:12:08.160 Help? 0:12:08.440 --> 0:12:10.079 I mean, I'm not getting weed on. I am not 0:12:10.080 --> 0:12:11.160 getting weed on, but that's just me. 0:12:11.880 --> 0:12:14.160 I did say at the beginning of this that we 0:12:14.240 --> 0:12:17.360 had not so dirty dark and you know, saucy questions 0:12:17.360 --> 0:12:19.280 for you, and I forgot what I questioned. 0:12:19.440 --> 0:12:21.479 I told you I was Look. 0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:24.400 Have you ever had a guy ask you to wee 0:12:24.440 --> 0:12:24.760 on him? 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:27.559 Never? And I would not let a guy we on me. 0:12:27.760 --> 0:12:29.920 I've had someone we on me in the shower as 0:12:30.000 --> 0:12:30.520 like a joke. 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:32.720 Oh yeah, No, I've definitely had a guy we on 0:12:32.760 --> 0:12:33.000 me in the. 0:12:33.000 --> 0:12:38.840 Shower as I was like, get the fuck out. No 0:12:38.880 --> 0:12:43.199 one comes into my home and wheeze on me. Yes, 0:12:43.840 --> 0:12:44.240 I have. 0:12:44.400 --> 0:12:46.760 Also, why do guys think that's funny? Like there's a 0:12:46.760 --> 0:12:48.920 whole conversation and how disrespectful that is. 0:12:49.160 --> 0:12:52.520 I mean, but you're in istera. In Urin's defense, it's. 0:12:52.360 --> 0:12:54.839 Also an opt in situation though, like you if you're 0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:57.319 gonna get kissed on in any version, even if it's 0:12:57.320 --> 0:12:59.679 in the shower, and your boyfriend thinks it's funny, Like, 0:13:00.120 --> 0:13:02.120 you've got to make sure that you guys are in 0:13:02.120 --> 0:13:04.760 a relationship where that is actually something that you also 0:13:04.840 --> 0:13:07.360 find funny, like if you if that is, like, that's 0:13:07.400 --> 0:13:09.920 so disrespectful, if you guys are not on the same page, 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:12.200 mind you. I had an ex boyfriend do it to me. 0:13:12.280 --> 0:13:13.760 He was like, hey, babe, can you pick up the soap? 0:13:13.800 --> 0:13:16.120 And as I picked up the soap, he pissed on 0:13:16.280 --> 0:13:20.600 my head and I was so that is it's too much. 0:13:20.720 --> 0:13:24.280 I was so angry, too far, so disrespectful. I was 0:13:24.320 --> 0:13:27.840 so angry, and I mean, surprisingly we're not together anymore. 0:13:27.840 --> 0:13:29.360 We didn't see e'd eye on a lot of things. 0:13:29.600 --> 0:13:34.679 You saw a urine to eye ill like got you 0:13:34.720 --> 0:13:37.800 when you bend over right and the face I had 0:13:37.800 --> 0:13:40.120 a guy asked me to pee on him. This is 0:13:40.160 --> 0:13:42.360 totally gonna end up in the Daily Mail. Sure it 0:13:42.400 --> 0:13:45.240 is and I said no because I couldn't get my 0:13:45.280 --> 0:13:48.240 head around how you do it and don't ruin your mattress, 0:13:48.360 --> 0:13:50.160 Like would you lay sheets down? Do you lay a 0:13:50.200 --> 0:13:52.200 top holding down? Like how do you do it? What 0:13:52.320 --> 0:13:54.600 if you have like a goose down cover? Like you 0:13:54.679 --> 0:13:56.959 can't just pee on your bed. So there's a lot 0:13:56.960 --> 0:13:57.240 to this. 0:13:57.559 --> 0:13:59.480 I think that's sort of like on the same sort 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:03.200 of tracking when we were talking about what Lubo would 0:14:03.240 --> 0:14:05.240 use the other day, for example in the intro, and 0:14:05.280 --> 0:14:07.640 one of them was egg white. So in the middle 0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:09.079 of the moment, you're like, hang on a second, I 0:14:09.200 --> 0:14:10.680 just have to go on and prepare the egg whites 0:14:10.720 --> 0:14:11.920 to use. It really kills the moment. 0:14:11.960 --> 0:14:13.640 I feel like it's the same thing, Laura, if you 0:14:13.679 --> 0:14:15.160 have to get up and get a top hole on 0:14:15.280 --> 0:14:18.120 to put on your bed before you urinate on your partner, 0:14:19.280 --> 0:14:21.720 I feel like it's a real buzzkiller. This is not 0:14:21.800 --> 0:14:24.520 King shaming though, if anybody, if anybody does this, I'm 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:27.480 asking these questions out of pure logistics, like, if that's 0:14:27.520 --> 0:14:29.320 something that you guys are into your end play, I 0:14:29.320 --> 0:14:31.320 would love to know how you go about doing it, 0:14:31.640 --> 0:14:34.320 just so that we can give some really informative information 0:14:34.360 --> 0:14:36.080 the next time we speak about it. But and I 0:14:36.080 --> 0:14:38.560 think the same thing for or kings, whatever floats your boat, 0:14:38.600 --> 0:14:40.520 and whatever you're comfortable with, so long as you're both 0:14:40.520 --> 0:14:44.120 comfortable with it, go for gold like that's super important. 0:14:44.400 --> 0:14:46.800 The fact that you're not sure and you're a little 0:14:46.840 --> 0:14:50.240 bit new to this area, I think, explore it. And 0:14:50.280 --> 0:14:52.480 I'm not saying do anything that sits outside of what 0:14:52.520 --> 0:14:55.120 you're comfortable with, but I think have him tell you 0:14:55.160 --> 0:14:59.080 what his kinks are. Have those conversations, and then see 0:14:59.120 --> 0:15:02.160 where you sit the spectrum of how uncomfortable it makes 0:15:02.160 --> 0:15:04.560 you feel and what you are okay with, And I 0:15:04.600 --> 0:15:07.840 probably think it's better to know more, Like you know 0:15:08.160 --> 0:15:10.560 when he says he's easing you into it, I think 0:15:10.600 --> 0:15:13.080 it's probably better for him to be pretty transparent, in 0:15:13.200 --> 0:15:15.000 straight up about what it is that he likes or 0:15:15.040 --> 0:15:16.600 doesn't like, what it is that he can live with 0:15:16.640 --> 0:15:19.080 and can't live without, because then it allows you to 0:15:19.160 --> 0:15:22.200 go cool. I am comfortable with this, but I'm completely 0:15:22.320 --> 0:15:26.480 uncomfortable with doing XYZ. And maybe your feelings towards that 0:15:26.560 --> 0:15:29.200 might change over time as you become more intimate and 0:15:29.240 --> 0:15:31.600 as you push your own boundaries. But also it might 0:15:31.640 --> 0:15:34.600 not and that's totally okay. And he needs to know 0:15:34.920 --> 0:15:37.920 what your boundaries are now so that way he doesn't 0:15:37.920 --> 0:15:40.120 feel like it's okay to push them or to try 0:15:40.160 --> 0:15:43.520 and coerce you into doing something that you're not comfortable with. Yeah, 0:15:43.560 --> 0:15:48.720 and unfortunately, sexual compatibility is a large part of a relationship. 0:15:48.760 --> 0:15:50.800 It is important if you guys aren't on the same 0:15:50.840 --> 0:15:53.640 wavelength with things that you want, things that you like, 0:15:53.760 --> 0:15:56.040 things that you want to try. If you don't gel 0:15:56.040 --> 0:15:57.840 in the bedroom and you just don't have that ease 0:15:57.840 --> 0:16:01.840 and comfortability, it is something that can cause riffs in relationships, 0:16:01.920 --> 0:16:04.360 especially if and it sounds like this could be the 0:16:04.360 --> 0:16:07.880 case with you guys, you're on one extreme to the other. 0:16:08.800 --> 0:16:11.520 I think what Laura said is completely accurate. I would 0:16:11.560 --> 0:16:14.160 sit down and just say, let's talk about your kinks. 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:16.680 What are they because there is absolutely nothing wrong with 0:16:16.720 --> 0:16:18.880 having kings as long as people are on the same wavelength. 0:16:19.160 --> 0:16:20.960 Talk about what they are. Maybe he can write down 0:16:21.000 --> 0:16:23.680 a list, Maybe you can explore what they are together, 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:25.600 so maybe you can look them up on the internet. 0:16:25.640 --> 0:16:27.880 Maybe you can talk about them. Maybe you can do 0:16:28.000 --> 0:16:30.480 a little bit of research to see where you feel 0:16:30.480 --> 0:16:33.720 comfortable if there's something that you're willing to try on 0:16:33.760 --> 0:16:36.000 that spectrum, after you've talked about it, then you can 0:16:36.040 --> 0:16:39.280 definitely go down that path once you've tried and you've 0:16:39.280 --> 0:16:41.400 had the chat. I don't think until you've done this 0:16:41.480 --> 0:16:43.720 you're actually able to say, yes, I want to be 0:16:43.800 --> 0:16:45.520 with you, No, I don't want to be with you. 0:16:45.560 --> 0:16:47.120 I don't think he can just cut him off because 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:49.960 he said I sort of like these things in the bedroom. 0:16:50.120 --> 0:16:51.600 You need to know a little bit more. You need 0:16:51.640 --> 0:16:53.600 to find out more. Just have an adult conversation, and 0:16:53.640 --> 0:16:55.600 if you're willing to try it, go for it. But 0:16:55.720 --> 0:17:00.240 one hundred percent, if anything you are uncomfortable with, don't 0:17:00.320 --> 0:17:03.840 have to try anything. And maybe this relationship isn't for you. 0:17:03.840 --> 0:17:05.439