WEBVTT - Should You Break Up With Your Partner? 0:00:09.680 --> 0:00:12.160 Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life 0:00:12.200 --> 0:00:14.480 on Cut. I'm Brittany and I'm Keisha. Feeling in for 0:00:14.640 --> 0:00:17.880 Laura today, not for the best reason. 0:00:18.440 --> 0:00:21.160 It is Monday here in the Life on Cut Studios 0:00:21.160 --> 0:00:21.880 and the rest of the world. 0:00:21.880 --> 0:00:26.080 Funnily enough, but it's a public holiday today, but hilarious 0:00:26.160 --> 0:00:29.120 and classic chaos of our team. We didn't realize it 0:00:29.160 --> 0:00:31.760 was a public holiday until like last Friday. No, we 0:00:31.800 --> 0:00:32.519 didn't realize. 0:00:32.560 --> 0:00:34.720 Yeah, we don't plan ahead, so we're like, looks like 0:00:34.720 --> 0:00:37.839 we're all working on a public holiday except Laura. 0:00:37.880 --> 0:00:40.440 So Laura is very, very unwell. 0:00:40.600 --> 0:00:43.400 She has had what we think is food poisoning for 0:00:43.400 --> 0:00:44.400 about twelve hours. 0:00:44.640 --> 0:00:46.519 Could be gastro, could be gastro. 0:00:46.640 --> 0:00:49.159 But from what she said and I saw her this morning, 0:00:49.240 --> 0:00:52.400 like she facetimed me, she sent me photos. She's either 0:00:53.320 --> 0:00:57.160 gonna get an oscar or she's roper unwell, like she's committing. 0:00:57.280 --> 0:01:01.000 She's committing. She hasn't stopped vomiting. I think only vomiting. 0:01:01.040 --> 0:01:03.720 I don't know if it's both ends, but like for 0:01:04.120 --> 0:01:04.760 twelve hours. 0:01:04.840 --> 0:01:08.200 Yeah, I have more details, but I don't feel the 0:01:08.240 --> 0:01:11.040 need to tell you. I'm picturing Bridesmaids. You know that 0:01:11.160 --> 0:01:13.000 scene where she's like running across the street. 0:01:13.080 --> 0:01:16.200 She's like, I'm dumb doing it. I'm shooting in the street. 0:01:16.720 --> 0:01:19.839 But then we just had this realization in here the team, 0:01:19.959 --> 0:01:23.200 we were like, hang on a minute, today's a popic holiday? 0:01:23.400 --> 0:01:26.360 Is Laura doing one of those classic like she partied 0:01:26.400 --> 0:01:28.520 too hard? She's not even sick, and she just wants 0:01:28.560 --> 0:01:30.280 to call in sick from work, even though she's the 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:31.679 boss and she is work. 0:01:31.880 --> 0:01:34.160 I think if she was an employee, I would be 0:01:34.240 --> 0:01:36.880 more like, that's a possibility. But don't you think the 0:01:36.959 --> 0:01:38.920 Gash show is like the number one excuse that people 0:01:38.959 --> 0:01:41.720 turn to when they want a day off because you 0:01:41.760 --> 0:01:43.959 don't really have to prove it, you know, like, no 0:01:44.040 --> 0:01:46.920 employee is going to be like show me the like, 0:01:47.040 --> 0:01:49.400 show me the proof that you actually have been vomiting 0:01:49.440 --> 0:01:50.320 and shooting yourself. 0:01:50.360 --> 0:01:52.800 If you could please collect the stool sample and drop 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:55.240 it off to work, put it in an uber delivery. 0:01:55.760 --> 0:01:57.720 I reckon Laura will be the kind of person that 0:01:57.720 --> 0:02:01.800 would like show us. She'd be like, no, look, look, look, 0:02:01.840 --> 0:02:03.680 because I think that's why she sent me photos. 0:02:04.040 --> 0:02:06.280 But I don't know why. It's almost like she thinks 0:02:06.320 --> 0:02:10.320 she's like me. She sent me photos. I can show 0:02:10.360 --> 0:02:12.840 you she's proper dying. I'll show you. 0:02:13.080 --> 0:02:15.840 But she's also wearing and probably not the time to 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:16.359 make a joke. 0:02:16.440 --> 0:02:18.840 I don't feel the need to see this just who. 0:02:21.240 --> 0:02:22.359 She shouldn't send. 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:24.880 Me a food photo, but she did send me a 0:02:24.919 --> 0:02:27.640 photo herself and look, oh my god, don't show the 0:02:27.639 --> 0:02:29.040 camera because she looks terrible of it. 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:31.400 Oh the poor scene. And I said, at least you're 0:02:31.400 --> 0:02:31.960 repping life on. 0:02:32.280 --> 0:02:34.000 She's got our merch on. She's got her life on 0:02:34.040 --> 0:02:34.760 cart merchandise on. 0:02:34.919 --> 0:02:37.079 Wearing that white jumper when you're in that state is 0:02:37.120 --> 0:02:39.320 pretty ballsy. I mean, I don't even wear white on 0:02:39.320 --> 0:02:41.280 a regular day because I speel so much on myself, 0:02:41.280 --> 0:02:43.400 but let alone when there's things coming out of my end. 0:02:43.600 --> 0:02:46.760 Yeah, anyway, so Laura is, Yeah, she's not on the 0:02:46.800 --> 0:02:47.360 episode to day. 0:02:47.400 --> 0:02:49.720 We hope she has a speedy recovery. She's back for Thursday. 0:02:49.960 --> 0:02:53.320 You had quite the glamorous weekend, mate, I was living 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:57.880 vicariously through you. I tell you, that looks like a dream. Yeah. 0:02:57.919 --> 0:02:59.840 So Ben and I went to Hamilton Island, which we 0:02:59.840 --> 0:03:02.600 were to last year. So like we went exactly exactly 0:03:02.639 --> 0:03:03.320 this time last year. 0:03:03.360 --> 0:03:04.000 We fell in love. 0:03:04.600 --> 0:03:07.280 I am not an ambassador for Hamilton Island, but I 0:03:07.320 --> 0:03:10.239 should be, Like, I cannot recommend that place enough. 0:03:10.280 --> 0:03:11.920 Have you ever been? Yeah, I went when I was 0:03:11.919 --> 0:03:14.920 like sixteen years old. It's such a weig island that 0:03:15.040 --> 0:03:17.280 is separate from everything else. And it's kind of because 0:03:17.320 --> 0:03:19.440 you can't really drive cars there. You drive like little 0:03:19.440 --> 0:03:22.120 golf buggies. Yeah, and it just feels like it's an 0:03:22.120 --> 0:03:24.359 out of body experience the whole time you're there. It's 0:03:24.440 --> 0:03:29.200 so beautiful. But I actually do remember I had and 0:03:29.240 --> 0:03:31.079 it probably shouldn't be admit, I mean, fuck it ten 0:03:31.080 --> 0:03:34.000 more than ten years ago, as Laura would claim, I 0:03:34.040 --> 0:03:37.080 had a peanut coulata just before I went on this 0:03:37.120 --> 0:03:39.520 thing called a sea turtle chase. But the water was 0:03:39.760 --> 0:03:42.320 so warm, and I had a stinger suit on because 0:03:42.320 --> 0:03:43.640 you know, it was like a couple months of the 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:46.200 year you gotta have stinger suits. And I was vomiting 0:03:46.240 --> 0:03:48.960 in the water. But they loved it. The group loved 0:03:49.000 --> 0:03:52.120 it because apparently it brings out more fish. Yeah, Keisha, 0:03:52.120 --> 0:03:55.760 it'd also brings sharks. It's chum are the sharks there? Yeah? 0:03:56.160 --> 0:03:58.560 Oh okay, there, we did see some sea turtles. It 0:03:58.560 --> 0:04:01.960 was pretty magnificent the vomiting. We had an amazing weekend. 0:04:02.000 --> 0:04:04.640 But yes, I cannot recommend enough if you were genuinely 0:04:04.680 --> 0:04:07.280 looking for a holiday for like either it's the best 0:04:07.280 --> 0:04:08.080 family place. 0:04:08.320 --> 0:04:09.480 It's so easy to get around. 0:04:09.480 --> 0:04:13.240 There's only only golf buggies, everything's closed, everything is made 0:04:13.600 --> 0:04:15.400 to be easy. Like I actually said to Bed, I 0:04:15.400 --> 0:04:17.279 was like, this is the easiest place to holiday. It 0:04:17.320 --> 0:04:19.760 was two and a half hours from Sydney. I can't 0:04:19.800 --> 0:04:22.560 believe that we have a paradise so damn close and 0:04:22.600 --> 0:04:26.080 we don't go more like anyway, irrelevant. So we had 0:04:26.120 --> 0:04:29.960 like a pretty uneventful weekend. It was spectacular. I saw 0:04:30.120 --> 0:04:32.400 so many lifers there. Shout out to one of our 0:04:32.440 --> 0:04:34.680 lifers that's getting married this weekend. 0:04:34.880 --> 0:04:36.479 So she was at her friend's wedding. 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:39.280 Imagine getting married this weekend and the weekend before you 0:04:39.279 --> 0:04:40.880 have to go to Hamilton, Washingtons that you have to. 0:04:40.920 --> 0:04:43.480 But she was in Hamilton Island for another life's wedding, 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:45.840 and I'm like, you're getting married in five days and 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:48.160 you're on a vacate, Like I would be freaking the 0:04:48.279 --> 0:04:50.800 fuck out anyway, So we were going up the top 0:04:50.800 --> 0:04:52.560 of this hill. And it's one of those things I 0:04:52.560 --> 0:04:55.280 think when you're an Australian, like we grow up with 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:57.640 you know, you see whales, you see dolphins and stuff 0:04:57.680 --> 0:05:00.880 all the time, but it never gets old, Like I always. 0:05:00.640 --> 0:05:01.480 Want to stop anyway. 0:05:01.520 --> 0:05:03.839 I feel the same way with kangaroos, but I'm even 0:05:03.880 --> 0:05:05.960 more extreme now that bends here. So every time we 0:05:05.960 --> 0:05:08.560 see a kangaroo, wallaby or something, we have to stop. 0:05:08.600 --> 0:05:11.000 I'm like, So we're going at the top of this 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:13.640 place on the island called One Tree Hill, and it's 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:15.839 like where all the magic happens. It's where the magic 0:05:15.920 --> 0:05:19.000 sunsets are. It's where people can get married up there. 0:05:19.120 --> 0:05:21.599 There's engagements up there, like a lot of stuff happens 0:05:21.680 --> 0:05:21.840 up it. 0:05:22.000 --> 0:05:26.680 And then there was business. Is that you what? It's 0:05:26.720 --> 0:05:29.920 like a lot of people get you opposed to this 0:05:30.160 --> 0:05:31.760 spot right here. 0:05:31.880 --> 0:05:34.360 Ben, I don't know that, Ben, I don't know if 0:05:34.400 --> 0:05:36.919 you know, but this is apparently. 0:05:37.960 --> 0:05:40.000 This is apparently an engagement spot. 0:05:40.480 --> 0:05:40.960 Who knows? 0:05:41.480 --> 0:05:45.520 So weird a coincidence And there's so many photographers around 0:05:45.560 --> 0:05:51.120 that would capture a moment. The lighting is divine. It's 0:05:51.160 --> 0:05:53.080 not like I've thought about it. It's not like plan 0:05:53.240 --> 0:05:56.080 my here I am in my white dress every day 0:05:59.480 --> 0:06:07.520 jesting case. No, got always gish. You have to prepare. 0:06:07.680 --> 0:06:10.520 Look at them. What do the boy scouts say, always 0:06:10.560 --> 0:06:13.039 very prepared? Is that a boy scout? Yeah? The boy 0:06:13.040 --> 0:06:15.880 scouts say always reprepared. But I actually I remember you 0:06:15.880 --> 0:06:18.239 guys talking about this, and it really changed my tune 0:06:18.279 --> 0:06:20.640 on it, because if you are hopeful of that and 0:06:20.680 --> 0:06:22.120 you're going on a holiday or actually, one of my 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:24.200 best friends right now is in Europe. She's been with 0:06:24.200 --> 0:06:27.320 a boyfriend for ten years. Oh my god. Everyone keeps 0:06:27.320 --> 0:06:29.400 saying that he's going to propose, that he's going to propose, 0:06:29.440 --> 0:06:30.880 And I was like, I don't want you to have 0:06:30.880 --> 0:06:34.880 this pressure because if he doesn't, you might be disappointed, 0:06:35.480 --> 0:06:38.159 But also it can take away from you being like 0:06:38.200 --> 0:06:40.960 there in the moment and just enjoying it. And I 0:06:41.080 --> 0:06:42.520 definitely like, I am joking. 0:06:42.720 --> 0:06:45.080 Yes I get my nails done, and yes I take 0:06:45.080 --> 0:06:46.120 out fits just in case. 0:06:48.480 --> 0:06:50.119 I'll probably do that for the next five years. 0:06:50.160 --> 0:06:52.080 Yeah, but when I'm there, I don't think about it. 0:06:52.160 --> 0:06:54.320 I genuinely like when I'm there, when I'm on every 0:06:54.360 --> 0:06:57.120 romantic because there's no point and I don't want to 0:06:57.120 --> 0:06:58.720 know when it's going to happen like I want it 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:00.200 to be a surprise away. 0:07:00.240 --> 0:07:01.960 That's not the point of my story. I'm sorry, kangaroos. 0:07:01.960 --> 0:07:02.840 I did norail. 0:07:03.000 --> 0:07:04.560 The point of my story was so funny. It does 0:07:04.640 --> 0:07:06.080 have to do with someone else's wedding. But I was 0:07:06.080 --> 0:07:08.200 so mortified. So we stop at the top of this 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:11.040 sunset hill and there's this little kangaroo and I'm like, 0:07:11.040 --> 0:07:13.080 oh my god, band, let's stop. And there was like 0:07:13.080 --> 0:07:15.800 these beautiful big palm trees. So we swung our buggy 0:07:15.880 --> 0:07:17.200 off to the side of the road and put the 0:07:17.200 --> 0:07:19.280 buggy in and jumped out, and Ben and I were 0:07:19.320 --> 0:07:23.600 doing like an entire photo shoot with this kangaroo, like 0:07:23.880 --> 0:07:27.040 the sunset, the kangaroo, like posing, taking different turns, like 0:07:27.080 --> 0:07:28.600 I was down trying to like get. 0:07:28.400 --> 0:07:30.000 The shorter you angle. 0:07:31.240 --> 0:07:35.160 I was. I was like, give me over here anyway, 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:40.320 going ham on this photo shoot. And then oh, I 0:07:40.400 --> 0:07:44.640 hear this, excuse me, I'm sorry, but I think we've 0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:46.360 waited long enough kind of thing. And I was like 0:07:46.360 --> 0:07:48.040 what And I turned around and there was a lady 0:07:48.040 --> 0:07:49.520 and like she's like, you need to move, and I said, 0:07:49.520 --> 0:07:52.120 I'm just I'm just trying to get a photo with 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:55.320 Skippy and she's like, you're in the middle of a 0:07:55.320 --> 0:07:56.080 wedding shoe. 0:07:57.160 --> 0:07:59.320 And I turn around and behind. 0:07:59.040 --> 0:08:01.400 Like there were the part I actually want to die 0:08:01.440 --> 0:08:05.559 for you, Tisha, an entire bridal party and the bride 0:08:05.560 --> 0:08:06.000 and groom. 0:08:06.120 --> 0:08:10.440 How did you not see that? Because because so phob. 0:08:14.520 --> 0:08:17.440 Because we fanged the golf cart around because we had 0:08:17.440 --> 0:08:19.440 to turn around to get Skippy, so he fanged it 0:08:19.480 --> 0:08:22.920 around and got out one side. The entire bridle shit 0:08:23.040 --> 0:08:25.120 was behind us, so we just didn't see it. And 0:08:25.160 --> 0:08:28.480 the huge, big palm trees sort of blocked half of 0:08:28.520 --> 0:08:29.800 them from my peripheral view. 0:08:30.240 --> 0:08:30.880 So they've done. 0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:35.200 I'm talking like four groomsmen, four bridesmaids, the bride and groom, 0:08:35.360 --> 0:08:37.640 all their family, and we in the back. 0:08:37.640 --> 0:08:39.720 I'm laying on the ground skimming in the back of their. 0:08:39.600 --> 0:08:42.600 Fucking I would love to see it if they're listening 0:08:42.640 --> 0:08:43.800 right now, I'd love to see if they got a 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:44.400 photo with me. 0:08:44.440 --> 0:08:47.800 And I was like, excuse me, it's my holiday tea. 0:08:49.880 --> 0:08:54.439 Can you imagine how long they spoke about you before 0:08:54.600 --> 0:08:59.160 they came over. How many conversations they were probably like, oh, 0:08:59.160 --> 0:09:01.480 I just give them five minute. It's like just even 0:09:01.559 --> 0:09:03.920 a couple more minutes, they'll fuck off like they'll take it. 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:06.080 You know they're nearly done. Surely they've got the shop 0:09:06.120 --> 0:09:06.720 by now, they. 0:09:06.640 --> 0:09:10.160 Probably got We're just gonna get one short Brittany Hockley, 0:09:10.320 --> 0:09:13.600 and then you take a hundred just to make sure 0:09:13.760 --> 0:09:14.520 you've got. 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:18.320 The good one. Especially when you're working with animals, gets 0:09:18.760 --> 0:09:21.480 it gets so much worse. I was like, oh my god, 0:09:21.480 --> 0:09:24.360 I'm so sorry. I was like, let me quickly move. 0:09:24.880 --> 0:09:27.280 So I gather all my stuff up and Ben's like, babe, 0:09:27.320 --> 0:09:29.040 you move, and he ran back across the road because 0:09:29.040 --> 0:09:30.520 his arms will falling out of the camera and stuff. 0:09:30.520 --> 0:09:32.360 Because I was doing the shoot, even though Ben's the 0:09:32.400 --> 0:09:34.439 one that doesn't know what a kangaroo is. So I'd 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:35.800 get into the golf buggy. 0:09:35.920 --> 0:09:37.120 It's like a cop midty skit. 0:09:37.240 --> 0:09:39.959 It's like everything's silent and the whole wedding party is 0:09:40.000 --> 0:09:41.319 looking at me. And I don't know if you guys 0:09:41.360 --> 0:09:43.200 have been on a golf buggy. I don't know if 0:09:43.240 --> 0:09:45.400 this is all golf buggies, but on Hamilton Island there's 0:09:45.440 --> 0:09:47.520 no power steering and. 0:09:47.440 --> 0:09:49.800 I'd gone off road. You have to put into reverse 0:09:49.880 --> 0:09:52.600 kei shirt and the whole time it reverses. It has 0:09:52.640 --> 0:10:00.839 this high pitch. So I'm like, the whole party's looking 0:10:00.880 --> 0:10:02.040 at me, and I'm like. 0:10:04.840 --> 0:10:07.320 Trying to like power unpower, searing it out, reverse it 0:10:07.400 --> 0:10:09.080 and then you stop and you have to then go 0:10:09.160 --> 0:10:11.959 put it, push the buttons into no, not gear, just forward, 0:10:13.400 --> 0:10:14.679 and then I have to be like bye. And then 0:10:14.679 --> 0:10:16.960 it was so you can only go twenty kilometers, so 0:10:16.960 --> 0:10:18.440 I couldn't even quickly get out of it. I had 0:10:18.440 --> 0:10:20.439 to scoop past them at twenty kilometers. I feel like 0:10:20.480 --> 0:10:21.320 a happy wedding. 0:10:24.760 --> 0:10:28.400 I am dying for you. But I wonder I was 0:10:28.480 --> 0:10:29.679 so embarrassed. 0:10:29.960 --> 0:10:32.280 I'm surprised you made eye contact with them, because I 0:10:32.320 --> 0:10:33.280 would to look. 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:37.360 There was no where some said boulevard. 0:10:38.120 --> 0:10:40.839 I do wonder like we left and were mortified, but 0:10:40.840 --> 0:10:42.199 at the end of the day, we're like, oh, surely 0:10:42.240 --> 0:10:42.880 they had a chuckle. 0:10:42.920 --> 0:10:44.800 It's not like we ruined their wedding. But I just 0:10:44.840 --> 0:10:46.520 wonder how many people have, like. 0:10:48.000 --> 0:10:49.880 Have done that, Like how many of people listening right 0:10:49.920 --> 0:10:53.040 now have photos where someone has photo bombs. I don't know, 0:10:53.160 --> 0:10:55.280 is it like a proposal or a wedding or someone's 0:10:55.360 --> 0:10:57.480 ruined a photo like I would love to know because 0:10:57.480 --> 0:10:59.360 I'd love to also see the evidence and if this 0:10:59.520 --> 0:11:02.760 if the person listening got any photos, we mean skipping 0:11:02.760 --> 0:11:04.720 in the background, because I still didn't get the shot. 0:11:04.760 --> 0:11:10.920 So so if you're professional photography mine, actually, can you 0:11:11.000 --> 0:11:12.840 slide in with it please? Because of all of the 0:11:12.960 --> 0:11:17.160 hundreds that I getting, get one that's usable. It kind 0:11:17.160 --> 0:11:18.880 of reminds me. I've seen a couple of videos on 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:24.320 the internet of peaking on the internet. How old am I? 0:11:24.360 --> 0:11:26.640 Where they've gone? Like, you know, someone set up the 0:11:26.640 --> 0:11:29.200 camera to film the proposal and it can just be 0:11:29.240 --> 0:11:32.040 the two of them. There's this one that went super viral. 0:11:32.080 --> 0:11:34.200 I'm sure a lot of people saw it. So there's 0:11:34.200 --> 0:11:35.920 this couple and they've got a golden a triever and 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:37.080 they're on the beach. 0:11:37.280 --> 0:11:41.280 And he has set the camera up to film the proposal. 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:47.400 Against the zoomies is like cutting in and out and 0:11:47.440 --> 0:11:51.520 it just full full zoomies. It's so funny. I would 0:11:51.520 --> 0:11:54.000 love to see if any of you guys have like 0:11:54.040 --> 0:11:57.920 a failed proposal video or something where like the camera's 0:11:57.920 --> 0:12:00.480 fallen over or something. Gosh, it brings me so much 0:12:00.520 --> 0:12:00.719 to you. 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:02.640 There's the only other one that I know I shouldn't 0:12:02.720 --> 0:12:04.120 laugh at, but I do, and I know you would 0:12:04.160 --> 0:12:07.160 have seen it. It's when a friend is filming supposed 0:12:07.160 --> 0:12:10.000 to be filming the proposal, a right distract. No, well, 0:12:10.040 --> 0:12:12.080 that happens too, But there's a lady and she's supposed 0:12:12.080 --> 0:12:14.160 to be filming the proposal, but then someone else is 0:12:14.160 --> 0:12:16.800 filming her film the proposal from a distance, so someone's 0:12:16.800 --> 0:12:19.760 just doing a long shot and right as he's about 0:12:19.800 --> 0:12:21.960 to get down on one knee, she trips over and 0:12:21.960 --> 0:12:26.280 falls on her back, and it's totally funny because she 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:30.000 isn't hurt. It's just the timing is impeccable. You see 0:12:30.080 --> 0:12:32.160 him go down in her full back, and the whole 0:12:32.200 --> 0:12:34.079 video is just of the sky and she's tumbling around 0:12:34.080 --> 0:12:34.679 trying to get up. 0:12:34.679 --> 0:12:37.760 She misses meeting. I feel as though if Ben was 0:12:37.800 --> 0:12:40.360 to ask me, like I am the most unreliable to 0:12:40.440 --> 0:12:42.800 do things like that, because I just know that I'm clumsy, 0:12:42.920 --> 0:12:46.520 and I'm like, I get distracted really easily. John, if 0:12:46.559 --> 0:12:49.360 Ben actually wants to propose to brit and wants full 0:12:49.360 --> 0:12:51.280 camera foot each other, you have to do it because 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:54.480 I can't be trusted. Yeah, definitely, don't let keep Please 0:12:54.600 --> 0:12:57.040 send that cameras. Agay. 0:12:58.320 --> 0:13:01.320 I'm like Oh my god, Gus's an island. 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:05.720 Lighting the four different carrying ring lights everywhere. I'd be like, 0:13:05.720 --> 0:13:08.880 could you just get a higher and I've got a 0:13:08.880 --> 0:13:11.360 double chin. Yeah, we want to go from top down toptown. 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:13.880 So we wanted to. 0:13:13.840 --> 0:13:18.079 Talk today about low and behold relationships. This came off 0:13:18.080 --> 0:13:20.240 the back of a bunch of questions we get from 0:13:20.280 --> 0:13:22.880 you guys. It's actually such a common question. How do 0:13:22.960 --> 0:13:24.880 I know if they're the one? How do I know 0:13:24.920 --> 0:13:27.240 if I need to leave? It's a really confusing time, 0:13:27.320 --> 0:13:30.360 a time that I have gone through myself multiple times, 0:13:30.400 --> 0:13:32.040 and I think many people do, right. And then we 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:34.480 saw this article about should you break up with your partner? 0:13:34.640 --> 0:13:37.360 Nine signs to end a relationship, and it's been put 0:13:37.400 --> 0:13:42.680 together so well a bunch of experts, philosophers, clinical psychotherapists, 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:43.160 a bunch of. 0:13:43.200 --> 0:13:45.280 Different people that know more than we know. 0:13:45.760 --> 0:13:47.800 So we were like, maybe now is the time to 0:13:47.840 --> 0:13:49.640 have this discussion and break it down. Yeah. 0:13:49.679 --> 0:13:51.280 I also think and I don't know whether there was 0:13:51.360 --> 0:13:53.520 this was actually a research study. I read it quite 0:13:53.559 --> 0:13:54.800 a long time ago. I don't know if it was 0:13:54.840 --> 0:13:56.640 a theory or if it was actually a study, but 0:13:56.679 --> 0:13:59.280 I think the notion of what they were talking about 0:13:59.280 --> 0:14:02.360 really holds up. And it's the idea that something has 0:14:02.400 --> 0:14:05.400 to be bad enough, like the pain of what you're 0:14:05.440 --> 0:14:07.560 experiencing has to be bad enough for you to do 0:14:07.600 --> 0:14:09.600 something about it, to change it. And I think a 0:14:09.600 --> 0:14:12.720 lot of the time, when you're talking about long term relationships, 0:14:13.080 --> 0:14:16.760 that tipping point is actually really hard to determine. It's 0:14:16.760 --> 0:14:18.760 one of those things where it's like, if they had 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:22.880 have done something catastrophically bad. Let's say that they completely 0:14:22.920 --> 0:14:26.320 betrayed your trust, they cheated on you, they spent all 0:14:26.320 --> 0:14:28.160 of your money without telling you, Like if there was 0:14:28.200 --> 0:14:30.840 some big betrayal, that's a really obvious thing that you're 0:14:30.920 --> 0:14:34.080 like grounds to break up. It's very clear, yeah, that 0:14:34.120 --> 0:14:37.120 this relationship shouldn't continue, But I actually think that for 0:14:37.160 --> 0:14:40.440 a lot of us that doesn't exist. I think that 0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:43.120 it can exist in this gray zone where you're kind 0:14:43.160 --> 0:14:47.000 of sea sawing on whether the relationship is worth continuing in. 0:14:47.080 --> 0:14:50.040 And so I really thought this list was great because 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:53.400 if you're able to kind of answer each of these questions, 0:14:53.480 --> 0:14:55.040 and I don't think all of them will be yes 0:14:55.200 --> 0:14:56.720 or no, like I think some of them you might 0:14:56.800 --> 0:14:58.560 kind of flip flop on. But it might give you 0:14:58.600 --> 0:15:00.440 a bit more of an idea as to a bit 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:02.520 of a scale as to where you're sitting within your 0:15:02.520 --> 0:15:03.400 own relationship. 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:07.680 Yeah, not to apply any further external pressure, but when 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:09.800 you think about it, who you choose to spend the 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:12.560 rest of your life with is the biggest decision that 0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:14.640 you will make in your life. It's bigger than where 0:15:14.640 --> 0:15:16.360 you're going to move. It's bigger than what job you're 0:15:16.360 --> 0:15:18.080 gonna do if you're going to have kids, Like, the 0:15:18.160 --> 0:15:20.920 partner that you choose is going to have such an 0:15:21.080 --> 0:15:26.400 impact on you financially, emotionally, literally is going to change 0:15:26.400 --> 0:15:28.800 the path of your entire existence. And I know that 0:15:28.840 --> 0:15:31.680 sounds like a lot of pressure, but it's true. So 0:15:31.800 --> 0:15:34.080 there is a reason that we do feel like this. 0:15:34.160 --> 0:15:36.240 There is a reason that we sit and say, are 0:15:36.280 --> 0:15:36.800 they the one? 0:15:36.960 --> 0:15:38.360 So we're going to go through the list of the 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:42.640 nine signs that you should consider ending your relationship, and 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:45.040 maybe there's some of you right now who are kind 0:15:45.040 --> 0:15:48.200 of listening along with a pen and paper and going proocon. 0:15:48.760 --> 0:15:50.760 So the first one that they listed is that you're 0:15:50.800 --> 0:15:54.760 consistently unhappy. And I think the key word there is consistently, 0:15:54.840 --> 0:15:57.520 because I mean it's unrealistic to think that it's going 0:15:57.600 --> 0:15:59.760 to be sunshina and rainbows all the time. That's just 0:15:59.800 --> 0:16:03.040 not it's not a realistic pressure to put onto your relationship. 0:16:03.560 --> 0:16:07.360 But I think if you're consistently feeling like you're drained, 0:16:07.440 --> 0:16:10.800 like you're exhausted from your partner, that there's a lot 0:16:10.800 --> 0:16:15.440 of conflict that causes awkwardness or tension within your life. 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:18.760 That to me would be a pretty clear indicator that 0:16:18.920 --> 0:16:20.920 maybe things are not headed in the right direction. 0:16:21.200 --> 0:16:24.280 Yeah, and it's also really important to differentiate what you're 0:16:24.320 --> 0:16:28.040 unhappy about. So you might be really unhappy with your 0:16:28.080 --> 0:16:30.720 life at the moment, but that's not necessarily all down 0:16:30.760 --> 0:16:33.040 to your partner. Maybe there are other things going on 0:16:33.080 --> 0:16:35.440 in your life, your friendship circles, or your work or 0:16:35.440 --> 0:16:38.320 where you live, finances are stressful, There might be a 0:16:38.360 --> 0:16:41.280 lot of other things that are contributing to your unhappiness. 0:16:41.680 --> 0:16:44.080 So before you say, hey, yeah, I'm really unhappy I'm 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:46.440 going to abort mission with my partner, you need to 0:16:46.480 --> 0:16:48.400 work out what it is and how I guess a 0:16:48.440 --> 0:16:51.200 percentage in your head of what you think is coming 0:16:51.360 --> 0:16:52.160 from your partner. 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:54.520 Do you think it's interesting though, when you consider that 0:16:55.040 --> 0:16:58.000 with someone that you are in love with and that 0:16:58.160 --> 0:17:01.160 is really supportive everything else in your life is shit. 0:17:01.240 --> 0:17:03.160 Let's say you've lost your job, Let's say you know 0:17:03.360 --> 0:17:06.119 someone in your family's sick, or like if there's a 0:17:06.160 --> 0:17:08.119 lot of things that would be causing you to be 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:11.440 unhappy for very valid reasons. I think if you are 0:17:11.840 --> 0:17:15.080 feeling as though your partner is adding to that unhappiness 0:17:15.160 --> 0:17:17.640 during those times like that, to me is a bit 0:17:17.640 --> 0:17:20.439 of a magnifying glass on your relationship, and it's like, 0:17:20.480 --> 0:17:22.800 do I feel better and more supported from my partner 0:17:22.840 --> 0:17:25.919 at this time, or are they actually making the situation worse. 0:17:26.200 --> 0:17:28.879 If you're with a person who's a good person, you 0:17:28.880 --> 0:17:31.440 would assume that even though these other things are happening 0:17:31.480 --> 0:17:34.040 around you and you know, kind of out of your control, 0:17:34.080 --> 0:17:36.600 that they should make you feel more supported. Yeah. 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:39.680 Number two, the emotional connection isn't there anymore. I think 0:17:39.680 --> 0:17:41.520 this is a big one. I think this is for me. 0:17:41.800 --> 0:17:43.720