1 00:00:00,440 --> 00:00:03,800 Speaker 1: Well and Woody podcast many better get so full on 2 00:00:03,800 --> 00:00:04,080 Speaker 1: in here. 3 00:00:04,400 --> 00:00:06,720 Speaker 2: I feel it it is, but I think I need 4 00:00:06,760 --> 00:00:11,039 Speaker 2: to say this was as happened. Well. I wasn't sure 5 00:00:11,039 --> 00:00:12,600 Speaker 2: whether to do this on air or not. 6 00:00:13,080 --> 00:00:15,680 Speaker 3: I was going to do it off air, but then 7 00:00:15,800 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 3: I realized, as I realized before in our careers, that 8 00:00:20,200 --> 00:00:22,120 Speaker 3: if I share this sort of stuff. 9 00:00:22,520 --> 00:00:24,400 Speaker 2: Often it helps a whole lot of people. 10 00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:28,080 Speaker 3: So and I always get told that it's really great 11 00:00:28,400 --> 00:00:30,760 Speaker 3: from those people that I did that because I shared 12 00:00:30,800 --> 00:00:32,199 Speaker 3: it with them and it made them feel normal. 13 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:34,360 Speaker 2: So I'm going to try and share it. 14 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:40,320 Speaker 3: So I'm focusing if you are a controlling personality type 15 00:00:40,400 --> 00:00:42,680 Speaker 3: or a dominant personality type, which is me. 16 00:00:44,680 --> 00:00:49,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, what are the chances I want to talk to you? 17 00:00:49,479 --> 00:00:51,400 Speaker 3: Or if you know somebody who's controlling or dominant, I 18 00:00:51,440 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 3: want to try and help change your perspective on them. 19 00:00:55,200 --> 00:00:55,960 Speaker 2: So, so. 20 00:00:58,120 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 3: I don't like my I don't like myself very much 21 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:08,800 Speaker 3: at the moment. And when I don't like myself, I 22 00:01:10,880 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 3: let's face it, like I've been a real dick the 23 00:01:12,440 --> 00:01:14,559 Speaker 3: last couple of days and or a couple of weeks, 24 00:01:15,319 --> 00:01:16,920 Speaker 3: and I feel really bad about that because I know 25 00:01:16,959 --> 00:01:17,760 Speaker 3: that everyone. 26 00:01:19,200 --> 00:01:21,760 Speaker 2: You guys, around me all day, every day, and I 27 00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 2: can be. 28 00:01:22,160 --> 00:01:27,560 Speaker 3: Really trigger to deal with when I'm like that, because 29 00:01:27,880 --> 00:01:32,319 Speaker 3: because I am a controlling personality type, when I don't 30 00:01:32,440 --> 00:01:36,559 Speaker 3: like myself, I over control and I resent anyone who 31 00:01:36,959 --> 00:01:41,640 Speaker 3: takes that control away from me. And I think it's 32 00:01:41,680 --> 00:01:47,600 Speaker 3: important to understand why when you are a controlling personality type, 33 00:01:47,640 --> 00:01:51,280 Speaker 3: or you're a dominant personality type and you don't like 34 00:01:51,320 --> 00:01:56,600 Speaker 3: yourself or you're suffering, often you don't know you can't 35 00:01:56,600 --> 00:02:01,400 Speaker 3: control that, that's what's going on, and so what happens 36 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:03,920 Speaker 3: is because you can't control that thing, you end up 37 00:02:04,640 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 3: you still want to control things, but your control goes 38 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:09,480 Speaker 3: into overdrive and so you project it onto everything else 39 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:14,520 Speaker 3: around you, which ultimately means that you just dislike yourself 40 00:02:14,560 --> 00:02:18,200 Speaker 3: more because you're not dealing with the issue, and you're 41 00:02:18,400 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 3: hurting the people around you, and it sort of becomes 42 00:02:21,440 --> 00:02:23,919 Speaker 3: this really vicious cycle because you see other people hurt 43 00:02:23,919 --> 00:02:27,320 Speaker 3: around you, and then you're try and reach and then 44 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:30,239 Speaker 3: ultimately you keep bruising them and you're not listening to 45 00:02:30,320 --> 00:02:31,320 Speaker 3: what's actually going on. 46 00:02:33,160 --> 00:02:33,720 Speaker 2: Underneath. 47 00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 3: And because the more you dislike yourself, the more you 48 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:39,400 Speaker 3: want to control, and the more you control, the more 49 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 3: you just like yourself. Yeah, so it kind of just 50 00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:43,720 Speaker 3: doesn't end, and it's a really hard thing for me 51 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:46,680 Speaker 3: to tap out of. And I know yesterday you guys 52 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:48,959 Speaker 3: wouldn't have heard it listening to the show, But yesterday 53 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:52,280 Speaker 3: I kind of just realized how much I was in 54 00:02:52,280 --> 00:02:53,720 Speaker 3: this state of mind and how hard it was for 55 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:54,760 Speaker 3: me to pull out of it. So I kind of 56 00:02:54,760 --> 00:02:56,080 Speaker 3: just had to put my headphones in and just do 57 00:02:56,160 --> 00:03:02,600 Speaker 3: some writing in the studio away from everyone. And I 58 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:05,040 Speaker 3: just wanted to apologize to you guys for for doing 59 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:09,120 Speaker 3: that and for being like that I yesterday, I well, 60 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:11,079 Speaker 3: a couple days ago, I pretty much black hatted an 61 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:14,560 Speaker 3: idea which like had days and weeks of effort that 62 00:03:14,600 --> 00:03:19,720 Speaker 3: had gone into it, and and then I went over 63 00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:21,799 Speaker 3: the material yesterday and I was like, oh, it's actually 64 00:03:21,800 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 3: really good stuff. And I think we you know, we 65 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:30,959 Speaker 3: all made a joke about how you know, I was 66 00:03:30,960 --> 00:03:33,360 Speaker 3: obviously really hard to deal with on that day, but 67 00:03:33,680 --> 00:03:36,200 Speaker 3: I was also a really strong realization for me. It 68 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:39,720 Speaker 3: was like, oh my god, it was really really hard 69 00:03:39,720 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 3: to deal with. And so I kind of want to 70 00:03:44,640 --> 00:03:47,880 Speaker 3: share that with you and you guys like my whole team, 71 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:49,640 Speaker 3: because I'm really sorry. 72 00:03:50,040 --> 00:04:01,000 Speaker 2: And I suppose I just want to. 73 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:02,720 Speaker 3: Like, the reason I wanted to share it is because 74 00:04:02,760 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 3: I know that lots of people have got people in 75 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:10,080 Speaker 3: their lives who can be over controlling and dominant, and 76 00:04:10,160 --> 00:04:12,880 Speaker 3: sometimes those people go upper level and it's really really 77 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:18,920 Speaker 3: hard to bear around. And if you can when that's 78 00:04:18,960 --> 00:04:22,600 Speaker 3: going on, it often means they're really struggling. 79 00:04:23,160 --> 00:04:24,560 Speaker 2: I don't know. It's the hardest thing to do in 80 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 2: the world. 81 00:04:24,960 --> 00:04:27,640 Speaker 3: And poor poop Pants came up to me yesterday in 82 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:29,279 Speaker 3: the kitchen and like tried to get around me, and 83 00:04:29,279 --> 00:04:33,600 Speaker 3: I like totally obserated him on the spot, and he 84 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:35,120 Speaker 3: came in here and tried to do it again, and 85 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:37,200 Speaker 3: I did it again, and I'm so sorry, mate. 86 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:40,200 Speaker 2: Like, it's it's the hardest thing to do. I know. 87 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:43,279 Speaker 3: It's like that person just becomes like a thundercloud and 88 00:04:43,480 --> 00:04:45,240 Speaker 3: you're like, oh my god, that person's. 89 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:45,760 Speaker 2: So scary right now. 90 00:04:45,760 --> 00:04:47,840 Speaker 3: And I don't know, you deal with me as well, But 91 00:04:47,880 --> 00:04:49,840 Speaker 3: it's a really hard thing to do to go and 92 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:51,479 Speaker 3: ask people how they are when they're like that. 93 00:04:51,640 --> 00:04:53,280 Speaker 2: But I think. 94 00:04:54,760 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 3: Often with guys as well, when that's their way of 95 00:04:58,120 --> 00:05:01,839 Speaker 3: coping is over controlling, and it's really really tricky to 96 00:05:01,880 --> 00:05:04,640 Speaker 3: be around. So I just wanted to say I appreciate 97 00:05:04,680 --> 00:05:07,560 Speaker 3: all those people that have to be around over controlling, 98 00:05:07,600 --> 00:05:12,200 Speaker 3: dominant people. I tip my cap to you, thank you 99 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:15,159 Speaker 3: as well to my team, and also hopefully that that 100 00:05:15,279 --> 00:05:17,200 Speaker 3: helps a few other people who are like that and 101 00:05:17,240 --> 00:05:19,680 Speaker 3: when they spiral, they get over controlling. And I know 102 00:05:19,720 --> 00:05:22,200 Speaker 3: how hard it is to stop yourself and to pull. 103 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:22,600 Speaker 2: Away from it. 104 00:05:22,640 --> 00:05:26,800 Speaker 3: But the more you can realize it that that's what's 105 00:05:26,839 --> 00:05:28,760 Speaker 3: going on, then hopefully you can start to change your 106 00:05:28,800 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 3: habits and change in the future, because it's no fun 107 00:05:32,320 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 3: hurting the people around you like that. 108 00:05:34,040 --> 00:05:36,440 Speaker 1: So firstly, you're forgiven, and I think I speak on 109 00:05:36,440 --> 00:05:38,440 Speaker 1: behalf of the entire team when I say that you're forgiven, 110 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:43,000 Speaker 1: Like that's yeah, thanks, Yeah, that's a given. But I 111 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:47,360 Speaker 1: think my question is, so you're saying, you know, get 112 00:05:47,400 --> 00:05:50,240 Speaker 1: around these people, and like, of course, you know, we 113 00:05:50,279 --> 00:05:52,560 Speaker 1: all want to get around you. But then, as you said, 114 00:05:52,600 --> 00:05:56,280 Speaker 1: sometimes when you in that attempt to get around you, 115 00:05:57,000 --> 00:05:59,920 Speaker 1: sometimes that can come with some heat back, of course, 116 00:06:00,040 --> 00:06:02,200 Speaker 1: and there's only I mean, there's only so much you 117 00:06:02,240 --> 00:06:03,880 Speaker 1: can take there before you go. I need to look 118 00:06:03,920 --> 00:06:06,240 Speaker 1: after myself here and I need to step away from 119 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 1: that what in your mind, because, like you said, like 120 00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:12,800 Speaker 1: this is going to be so relatable for so many 121 00:06:12,839 --> 00:06:15,279 Speaker 1: people listening, and whether you're the person the controlling person, 122 00:06:15,360 --> 00:06:16,880 Speaker 1: or whether you're the person trying to help them or 123 00:06:16,880 --> 00:06:19,120 Speaker 1: get around them, and I know that's going to be 124 00:06:19,120 --> 00:06:21,240 Speaker 1: different for everyone. But is there anything that you can 125 00:06:21,320 --> 00:06:23,960 Speaker 1: do in that situation, because like it's. 126 00:06:23,800 --> 00:06:24,400 Speaker 2: A good question. 127 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:28,240 Speaker 3: Maybe we talk about it tomorrow and I think there 128 00:06:28,320 --> 00:06:29,760 Speaker 3: is more to it, definitely, And I think that's the 129 00:06:29,839 --> 00:06:31,479 Speaker 3: things that people can do to help themselves. 130 00:06:31,800 --> 00:06:31,880 Speaker 2: Ye. 131 00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:35,360 Speaker 1: Hear more of the Boys on the Full Show podcast, 132 00:06:35,600 --> 00:06:39,320 Speaker 1: all on the iHeartRadio app, oh wherever you get your podcasts.