WEBVTT -  The grass is greener - or is it?

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<v Speaker 1>Guys, welcome back to another week of Life Uncut, where

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<v Speaker 1>we talk about well, life uncut.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey un Cut. I am britt and I'm Laura, and

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<v Speaker 2>boy do we have a colorful episode for you this week?

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<v Speaker 2>Starting with the color Green.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if you've heard the scene the grass

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<v Speaker 1>is always greener if you have fantastic If you haven't, well,

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<v Speaker 1>get out from under your rock, you big fat weirdo,

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<v Speaker 1>because the saying is actually pretty damn common.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm pretty sure most people have heard of this idea.

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<v Speaker 2>I just thought it was a good intro. I liked it.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a great introth. Thanks for that, Brittany. All right,

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<v Speaker 2>well let's talk about that later. We can water your grass?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, is that? What are we doing here? I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like you're hitting on me watering my grass? Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe I am? I do you feel about that? Well?

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<v Speaker 2>I want to know what'd you learn this week? What

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<v Speaker 2>did I learn this week? Actually, the one thing I

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to bring up with you was did you watch

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<v Speaker 2>that sixty minutes episode how Megan Markle lost her sparkle

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<v Speaker 2>with Karl Stefanovitch and that more on Katie Hopkins? Did

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<v Speaker 2>you you did watch this? I watched it. Well, I

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<v Speaker 2>had to do a little bit of research into who

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<v Speaker 2>Katie Hopkins actually was because it confused me as to

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<v Speaker 2>why this woman who is clearly slightly unhinged was given

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<v Speaker 2>a platform. Her opinions on Mega Markle became sort of

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<v Speaker 2>verbatim and became gospel.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I didn't really understand why they gave her the

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<v Speaker 1>platform either. She is actually self described as the biggest

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<v Speaker 1>bitch in Britain.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so if you haven't heard of who this woman is.

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<v Speaker 2>So Katie Hopkins was the social commentator on this sixty

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<v Speaker 2>minutes episode where they were doing this investigative journalism on

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<v Speaker 2>why Megan Markle has lost her sparkle. We're using that

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<v Speaker 2>term very loosely. It was so far from being journalism.

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<v Speaker 2>It was just flat out bullying. Where's Katie Hopkins's come from?

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<v Speaker 2>Is she was on the British version of The Apprentice

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<v Speaker 2>before moving into a media career. Oh I didn't know that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>And she's been well known as being quite racist, quite bigoted,

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<v Speaker 2>And she's was quoted as saying that refugees and migrants

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<v Speaker 2>are cockroaches and feral and I know, wait for this,

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<v Speaker 2>And she also declared that gunboats should be used to

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<v Speaker 2>stop migrants and refugees from reaching their destinations. Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>So we gave this woman a platform to talk about

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<v Speaker 2>how she feels about Mega Markle, as though her opinions

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<v Speaker 2>are in any way valid.

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<v Speaker 1>Would do you know one thing that I read actually,

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<v Speaker 1>just to add to that that she has said in

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<v Speaker 1>the past, and she said that ginger babies quote, ginger

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<v Speaker 1>babies are so much.

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<v Speaker 2>Harder to love. I did read them. I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>My niece and nephew are little redhands and the cutest

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<v Speaker 1>little things I've ever seen.

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<v Speaker 2>All Katie Hopkins offered in this episode was shock value

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<v Speaker 2>and scandal. The whole thing just turned into an absolute

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<v Speaker 2>witch hunt.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh absolutely. And then you hear Carl at the start

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<v Speaker 1>he asks her, what did Megan Mirkale ever do to

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<v Speaker 1>deserve such hate? And then in return, Hopkins says everything.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think this is very good investigative journalism if

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<v Speaker 1>you're just going to say, oh, I just hate her,

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<v Speaker 1>I hate everything she does, she breath, I hater.

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<v Speaker 2>Well everything was the fact that she didn't like the

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<v Speaker 2>clothing that she wore. Oh that was ridiculous, how sexist

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<v Speaker 2>and ridiculous because I'm sorry, but we're not standing here

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<v Speaker 2>saying that there's any men that are part of the

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<v Speaker 2>royal family that we're going to bill a five because

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<v Speaker 2>we don't like their clothing. Second to that, she was

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<v Speaker 2>having a go about Meg and Markel advocating for climate change.

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<v Speaker 2>So that was another reason why she's so hated, because

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<v Speaker 2>she's been passionate about climate change. It was just the

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<v Speaker 2>most outrageous. The fact that it had a platform at

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<v Speaker 2>all really infuriated me. The thing that really.

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<v Speaker 1>Got to her, and I heard it said four or

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<v Speaker 1>five times, is that they're doing all this for the environment,

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<v Speaker 1>but they took for private jets to get there. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, do you expect them to get on an

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<v Speaker 1>easy Jet economy flight?

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<v Speaker 2>Well? I did actually read a statement that Elton John

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<v Speaker 2>had put out, which sounds so random. But the reason

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<v Speaker 2>why they had gotten these private flights is because they

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<v Speaker 2>were going to see Elton John and they're having an

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<v Speaker 2>amazing holiday with him, as you do when you live

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<v Speaker 2>this high life social life. But Elton John had put

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<v Speaker 2>up this statement saying that the trips that they had

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<v Speaker 2>taken to go and see him were actually carbon neutral

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<v Speaker 2>because they had donated this money in order to get

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<v Speaker 2>Gate exactly. So it's just crazy. It really did feel

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<v Speaker 2>like an absolute witch hunt to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, she's a dead set moron and this went viral.

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<v Speaker 1>It's gone This Australian segment has gone around the world

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<v Speaker 1>and there's been a lot of backlash on it, on

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<v Speaker 1>her behalf and Kyl's behalf.

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<v Speaker 2>So but also, I mean not to sort of drag

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<v Speaker 2>Carl through the mud, because I know that he's had

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<v Speaker 2>a bit of bad publicity over the Lee's last couple

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<v Speaker 2>of years, but even him saying that they were asking

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<v Speaker 2>too much to have privacy, what is that hypocrisy in

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<v Speaker 2>that Kyl has been asking for privacy for the past

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<v Speaker 2>two years while he went through a very public divorce

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<v Speaker 2>and then married his now wife and they had the

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<v Speaker 2>three date extravagance a Mexican wedding. So how can he

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<v Speaker 2>be sitting there and conducting this interview which really just

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<v Speaker 2>feels like a bullying campaign to Megan Markle and at

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<v Speaker 2>the same time say that she's not privy to have

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<v Speaker 2>any privacy. The irony in it is just outstanding.

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<v Speaker 1>I really love her, but Meghan, actually Meghan, sorry, is

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<v Speaker 1>the British call her?

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<v Speaker 2>Megan? Meghan.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Meghan is just pushing boundaries and she's different, and

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<v Speaker 1>people just don't like change and they don't like different.

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<v Speaker 2>They also don't want the royal family to have political

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<v Speaker 2>stance because those two things seem to be quite contra indicative,

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<v Speaker 2>so they need to kind of pick one or the other.

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<v Speaker 2>But I love that she's carving a new personality for

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<v Speaker 2>herself and she's standing up for herself. And yes, it's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna rub some people the wrong way, but I don't

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<v Speaker 2>think that this woman's views, as Katie Hopkins views, is

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<v Speaker 2>indicative of the wider population.

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<v Speaker 1>No, and saying that how dare she become a royal

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<v Speaker 1>when she's divorced is laughable.

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<v Speaker 2>Prince Charles and Diana are both divorces, exactly as is

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<v Speaker 2>Camilla before she married Prince Charles. So let's not let

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<v Speaker 2>the truth get in the way of a good story.

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<v Speaker 2>I am straight. How was your week? For it?

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<v Speaker 1>It? My week was great, And actually I'm so glad

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<v Speaker 1>you brought that up because I wanted to talk to you.

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<v Speaker 2>About that as well. You want to talk to me

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<v Speaker 2>about your week?

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<v Speaker 1>But no, no, no, what I really loved this week

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<v Speaker 1>was watching.

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<v Speaker 2>You on the Bachelor. Yes, it Puzzle on the TV again.

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<v Speaker 2>I absolutely loved it. How did a feel watching myself

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<v Speaker 2>or doing it for just.

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<v Speaker 1>Being back in that situation? Did you get goosebumps and

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<v Speaker 1>shivers and want to run or no?

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<v Speaker 2>I had like post traumatic stress disorder where I like

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<v Speaker 2>had suppressed all these awful memories and I was like, Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>let back here again.

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<v Speaker 1>Should just go home and go up in the corner

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<v Speaker 1>and start rocking back and forth.

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<v Speaker 2>I actually really felt for the girls going back in

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<v Speaker 2>and filming that episode of the Bachelor. So if anyone

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<v Speaker 2>who hasn't seen the episode from last week, Snazanna and

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<v Speaker 2>I and Matt and Sam, we both went into the

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<v Speaker 2>Batch mansion and we were supposed to be helping our

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<v Speaker 2>ASTROBATCHI find love the right girl for him. It was

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<v Speaker 2>really weird. We had to interview all the girls and

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<v Speaker 2>kind of pick one and go and have this like

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<v Speaker 2>dinner date with the girls are all really lovely. You

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<v Speaker 2>can just feel the want that they have to not

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<v Speaker 2>step a foot wrong. They really wanted Yeah, they really

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to impress us, which bless them because I remember

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<v Speaker 2>exactly what that feels like. So I have some questions.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just going to roll off the top of my

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<v Speaker 1>tongue right now. But I hear me, did you how

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<v Speaker 1>long did you get with each girl?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, at the start, it was probably about twenty five

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<v Speaker 2>minutes to half an hour, but then as the day

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<v Speaker 2>got on, we were running out of daylight and were

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<v Speaker 2>running out of times. So I've been dating two minutes

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<v Speaker 2>in and out. Yeah, so I don't think we got

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<v Speaker 2>very long. With Ellie. She was one of the last

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<v Speaker 2>girls that we chatted to, and it was a real quick,

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<v Speaker 2>wham bem thank you, ma'am, get out of here chat.

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<v Speaker 2>Same with Emma. That was also what felt like a

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<v Speaker 2>really quick chat.

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<v Speaker 1>And so did you really feel with Emma, because obviously

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<v Speaker 1>she's been portrayed to have been in love with Matt

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<v Speaker 1>the second she laid eyes on him.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you get that feeling from her? Well? I even

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<v Speaker 2>said it on the show. I said that she is

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<v Speaker 2>the sort of person who loves being in love and

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<v Speaker 2>that I was worried a little bit that she was

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<v Speaker 2>in love with the environment more so than what she

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<v Speaker 2>was in love with Matt. But I do think she

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<v Speaker 2>has gotten a little bit of a rough edit because

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<v Speaker 2>she seemed so lovely. Yeah, I think she would be

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<v Speaker 2>really lovely. She was. She was a delight, absolute delight.

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<v Speaker 2>And do you know what, all the girls that were

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<v Speaker 2>there were actually really lovely. No one at all sort

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<v Speaker 2>of displayed or conducted themselves in a way that made

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<v Speaker 2>me think, oh, you got some problems. What about Abby? Look?

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<v Speaker 2>Like I said on the show, I think that Abby

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<v Speaker 2>was really really eager to please us, and so she

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<v Speaker 2>would have said whatever she needed to say. I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>quite think that she was answering the questions in a

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<v Speaker 2>way that were completely authentic to her. I really did

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<v Speaker 2>get the feeling that she was answering and what we

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to hear in saying that she does not come

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<v Speaker 2>across as a nasty person at all. She still comes

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<v Speaker 2>across as being really lovely. She was just super eager

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<v Speaker 2>to please, right, And so I also think that maybe

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<v Speaker 2>she's getting a bit of a shit at it. Like

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<v Speaker 2>I think that she's become very very polarizing. And don't

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<v Speaker 2>you think it's interesting. We've never had a villain make

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<v Speaker 2>it so far before.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, this is true, So she's made it so fun.

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<v Speaker 1>I think she's going to go far deal.

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<v Speaker 2>I do too, and she's still got this real villain

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<v Speaker 2>edit where all the girls are against her, but she

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<v Speaker 2>clearly has something very strong with Matt and they have

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<v Speaker 2>this real fiery chemistry. But I think it's so interesting

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<v Speaker 2>because we've just never been in a situation with Australian

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<v Speaker 2>bachelor where the villain has made it so far down

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<v Speaker 2>the pipeline, like she could be endgame.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think she is, but she'd be I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>call top three.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So what did you think of the episode? Watching it,

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<v Speaker 2>I was so nervous. I knew you were nervous because

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<v Speaker 2>you sort of told me. I kind of knew it

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<v Speaker 2>because you told me you are a genius Britney. Laura

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<v Speaker 2>said to me, don't kill me.

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<v Speaker 1>But Laura said to me, I am dreading and seeing

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<v Speaker 1>myself on there again because I'm so like Puffy. And

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<v Speaker 1>I said, Laura, ay, you're pregnant. That's not Puffey. You

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<v Speaker 1>do just pregnant, and you just you were You just

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<v Speaker 1>didn't want to look at yourself on there. But I

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<v Speaker 1>thought you both of you women were stunning.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, do you know what? And this is such a

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<v Speaker 2>hate saying this now, because in retrospect, it was all

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<v Speaker 2>perfectly fine. But when it came to the day before

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<v Speaker 2>the show was going to be on, I was so

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<v Speaker 2>worried that people would pay me out about the fact

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<v Speaker 2>that I had put on weight. That's what I was

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<v Speaker 2>worried about. Isn't that the most ridiculous thing. I thought

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<v Speaker 2>I was going to get trolled because I looked so

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<v Speaker 2>different to what I looked when I was on the

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<v Speaker 2>TV two years earlier, because I was sixteen kilos bigger

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<v Speaker 2>than what I was two years earlier.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but that also speaks volumes about the society we

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<v Speaker 1>live in today. If you're worried that people are going

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<v Speaker 1>to come out and troll you for being pregnant, I know.

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<v Speaker 2>But I guess because I felt a bit insecure, which

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<v Speaker 2>is so crazy, because you know, when I look back

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<v Speaker 2>on it, like, I loved being pregnant, and I absolutely

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<v Speaker 2>cherish every moment that I had in my pregnancy, but

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't want anyone to take that away from me

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<v Speaker 2>and to say things that were going to hurt my

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<v Speaker 2>feelings basically.

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<v Speaker 1>And every comment well that I saw was amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, people were really supportive, and I'm grateful for that

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<v Speaker 2>because the social media can be a very dark place,

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<v Speaker 2>and in that instance, it was actually really great. But

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<v Speaker 2>I did actually feel a little bit bad because I

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<v Speaker 2>called Abby out on her wanting to impress us and

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<v Speaker 2>wanting to say the right thing a little bit, and

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't want to contribute to the Abby hating train.

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<v Speaker 2>They really don't think that she's a bad girl. And

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<v Speaker 2>I do think that although she's very aggressive and she's

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<v Speaker 2>very competitive, she is copying it way too much at

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<v Speaker 2>the moment and people need to just back the hell

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<v Speaker 2>off on social media. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I think people need to remember that everything you say

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<v Speaker 1>and write and do hurts people's feelings, and they read it.

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<v Speaker 1>Abby will read everything like you read everything like I

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<v Speaker 1>read everything.

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<v Speaker 2>It goes to a real person, you know, you watch

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<v Speaker 2>the TV and then you jump on their Instagram account

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<v Speaker 2>and you leave a nasty comment. That nasty comment is

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<v Speaker 2>actually read by that person and it will stick.

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<v Speaker 1>It will stick to them for life, not a week,

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<v Speaker 1>all the day, for life. So it really kind people.

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<v Speaker 1>Be nice, Be a nice goddamn person, all right, I reckon.

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<v Speaker 1>The people who are listening to this podcast are pretty nice.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know what I loved though, and Slash felt

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<v Speaker 1>really awkward was the interrogation party, I mean dinner party.

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<v Speaker 2>With Matt Like, so tell me how many eggs you

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<v Speaker 2>have and when do you want to get pregnant? And

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<v Speaker 2>what is your fertility schedule? Like what position are you

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<v Speaker 2>going to do it in? How are you going to

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<v Speaker 2>agree with this baby? Tell me everything right now? Come on,

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<v Speaker 2>we didn't take it downe that path, please, But I

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<v Speaker 2>did actually feel a bit sorry for Helena. It did

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<v Speaker 2>turn into being not so much about like where everyone

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<v Speaker 2>was heading with what they wanted in life, but it

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<v Speaker 2>just turned into this big baby making And I do

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<v Speaker 2>think that there was a little bit too much pressure

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<v Speaker 2>put on that with having Snazana and me in the room.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean, I feel like they should have had

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<v Speaker 1>somebody that didn't have such a strong opinion, like I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Me, but why didn't you get invited to that dinner

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<v Speaker 2>party Britney because you'd been sitting there like Love's a

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<v Speaker 2>fucking joke. Nice screws. I still love love. I would

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<v Speaker 2>have Jed.

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<v Speaker 1>I would have gone on there and said, do you

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<v Speaker 1>know what, I went through so much turmoil and I

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<v Speaker 1>still believe in love. So if he doesn't pick you,

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<v Speaker 1>you can still go out there.

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<v Speaker 2>And get it. That's such a lot you would have

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<v Speaker 2>been in there trying to cut her grass some date

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<v Speaker 2>astro about you yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>I would have been like, can I just have a

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<v Speaker 1>word please, Matt in the kitchen.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, let's move along. Oh my god, let's move along.

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<v Speaker 1>So Emma and Matt had a single date and they

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<v Speaker 1>had this other awkward chocolate liking afrodisiac in. I think

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<v Speaker 1>they probably went and injected the oysters that Eleanor and

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<v Speaker 1>Matt had done into the chocolate and then they ate

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<v Speaker 1>it and linked it off each other's fingers, and.

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<v Speaker 2>It was so much. It was so much, wasn't it.

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<v Speaker 2>I just find this this season has been really sexual.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe they're trying to americanize this Bachelor because the American

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<v Speaker 2>Bachelor's crazy sexual. But I'm sorry. Remember Emma's last date,

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<v Speaker 2>it was also in each other much tongue in their kiss,

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<v Speaker 2>Like they just kept feeding each other every date.

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<v Speaker 1>They went through the strawberries, and they had the food

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<v Speaker 1>tasting with old blindfolded, and now they're licking chocolate of

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<v Speaker 1>each other. So there's something we're missing.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, at least there's a common theme to their dates.

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<v Speaker 2>But I am more I feel personally victimized by how

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<v Speaker 2>much of Matt's tongue I have seen and I have

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<v Speaker 2>seen more of Matt's tongue than I have seen of

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<v Speaker 2>my own Matt's tongue in a very long time. No,

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<v Speaker 2>it's just when you hear it, you can really hear

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<v Speaker 2>the sound of them kissing. Well, you feel like the

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<v Speaker 2>sound department should have done more to cover that up.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you Have you not heard it? Have you not noticed?

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<v Speaker 2>You will? Now? What do you think of their dates?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not feeling it. I think she's great, but she's

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<v Speaker 2>not the one. No, he's gone through the motions. She's

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<v Speaker 2>beautiful it at all. She's a babe. Yeah, but that

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't have anything to do with the fact as to

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<v Speaker 2>whether they have any chemistry or not. I was just

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<v Speaker 2>in there. She really is so nice pretty. This is

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<v Speaker 2>Britt trying to give like the compliments. Whenever she says

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<v Speaker 2>anything that's negative, she's like, oh, but she's lovely. I

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<v Speaker 2>have to balance it, you always do. I know. It's okay,

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<v Speaker 2>you can bring the bitch. I can't. That's not in me.

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<v Speaker 1>No, moving along, all right, Well that's why I'm here, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So moving on to the cocktail party. They did this

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<v Speaker 1>thing where they put a card out. It wasn't a

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<v Speaker 1>date card, where there was two cards, right, Yeah, they

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<v Speaker 1>put two cards out and they were like, hey, ladies,

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<v Speaker 1>that was usher, ladies, Matt wants you to use your initiative.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh she sounds very high pitched and sexy right now. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so the girls had to fight and go to Matt.

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<v Speaker 1>Please don't talk like this same Okay, So anyway, the

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<v Speaker 1>girls had to fight over it. So Sigan took one

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<v Speaker 1>because she hadn't had much time feckle.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they didn't even try and take that away from Cigan.

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<v Speaker 2>She's really had no time since that first date. And

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<v Speaker 2>even when I met her, she had said that they

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<v Speaker 2>had a really intense first date and then nothing since.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, girl, friend, you are on your

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<v Speaker 2>way out. That happened on my episode. My serious.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry, Shannon got the first date and then that was it.

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<v Speaker 1>She just didn't get time with him again.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna say it. Do you know what if you

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<v Speaker 2>are on the Bachelor and you get first date, you're

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<v Speaker 2>not going to win, you know, endgame? Am I going

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<v Speaker 2>to bite my tongue on this because didn't Alex's nation

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<v Speaker 2>get the first impressions? Rose, I'm just gonna shut up.

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<v Speaker 2>I clearly don't know what I'm talking about I can't

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<v Speaker 2>watch that.

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<v Speaker 1>Well. Then Abby and Ellie sort of like fought over

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<v Speaker 1>the card because Ellie said you really needed it. Abby

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<v Speaker 1>pleaded her case and said she needed more time, which

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<v Speaker 1>I don't understand because I feel like Abby has had

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<v Speaker 1>more time than anybody.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but I also think that Ellie's had a shit

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<v Speaker 2>ton of time too. Why did China not get any time?

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<v Speaker 2>That's a name but China? Okay, But my issue was

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<v Speaker 2>is that we were watching Ellie and Abby fight over

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<v Speaker 2>this card, both of them having the most time in

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<v Speaker 2>the whole series. China was just sitting there being like,

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<v Speaker 2>I want everyone to be friends because she's such a delight. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>China is world peace. So she just stood aside. So

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<v Speaker 2>Abby got it because she's far more competitive and she's

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<v Speaker 2>far more brash. Okay, can we skip ahead to next

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<v Speaker 2>episode because I have some strong feelings about But what

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<v Speaker 2>do you think of Ellie talking smack about Abby?

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<v Speaker 1>I just think it's there's nobody left on the bus

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<v Speaker 1>anymore because they're all under it.

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<v Speaker 2>Like it's so true, so everyone is just throwing each other.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just like it's ridiculous. Now, girls, just keep it

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<v Speaker 1>to yourself. And be there for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Ellie has kind of character assassinated herself a little bit

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<v Speaker 2>by doing that. She was so loved and she was

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<v Speaker 2>such a sweetheart, and then the fact that she's gotten

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<v Speaker 2>sucked into the drama and that she felt like she

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<v Speaker 2>needed to take it upon herself to say something negative

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<v Speaker 2>about Abby. It just doesn't reflect well on the messenger. Ever,

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<v Speaker 2>And my other issue is that it wasn't like she

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<v Speaker 2>sat there and said, hey, Matt, Abby's here for Instagram fame.

0:16:47.640 --> 0:16:51.000
<v Speaker 2>That girl does not want you, she wants to be famous.

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<v Speaker 2>She said, oh, I don't think she's ready. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>think she's this. I don't think she has genuine intentions.

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<v Speaker 2>That's just not good enough, because who are you to

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<v Speaker 2>say that someone doesn't have genuine intentions. You've got to

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<v Speaker 2>have some hardcore proof. Because then Matt was like, well,

0:17:05.320 --> 0:17:08.280
<v Speaker 2>do you think you're ready? I know your your intentions genuine,

0:17:08.400 --> 0:17:10.919
<v Speaker 2>and Ellie was like, yeah, I am. Just kind of

0:17:10.920 --> 0:17:13.800
<v Speaker 2>seems like, you know, you're purposely dubbing someone in to

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<v Speaker 2>better yourself. Doesn't seem like your intentions are right either.

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<v Speaker 1>It just shows that frustrations are high in the house

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<v Speaker 1>for everybody, and it is you you know, it's like

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<v Speaker 1>a pressure boiler in there. It just builds and builds

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<v Speaker 1>and eventually something happens. Okay, so you jumped ahead in

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<v Speaker 1>that date, but Eleanor and Matt did have a single

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<v Speaker 1>date that episode. And yeah, then when she freaked out, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she flew the coop. I know when I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>goddamn it, girlfriend, I picked you for a reason.

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<v Speaker 2>You just screwed it up.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, she had to do a ten year plan and

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<v Speaker 1>that was I don't know why that was so hard

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<v Speaker 1>for her, actually, I mean, just put something down.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of these girls are also really young. Have

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<v Speaker 2>you noticed, yes, does it make you feel really old? Well,

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<v Speaker 2>I just I'm not.

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<v Speaker 1>Convinced that at twenty three and twenty four you I

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't say you can be ready for sure, But in

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<v Speaker 1>a show like this, the pressure is so high, the

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<v Speaker 1>stress is so high. I'm not convinced that people have

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<v Speaker 1>enough I guess life experience, or have experienced just enough

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<v Speaker 1>love and heartbreak.

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<v Speaker 2>And yeah, totally, I completely agree. And I know that

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<v Speaker 2>there will be some people listening who are like, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>I got married at twenty three, I have kids. I

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<v Speaker 2>know that that happens too, and I know that there

0:18:15.119 --> 0:18:17.840
<v Speaker 2>are outliers to everything that the median age for people

0:18:17.880 --> 0:18:20.520
<v Speaker 2>getting married and having kids now a thirty one, so

0:18:21.680 --> 0:18:24.840
<v Speaker 2>that's older too. Definitely sits outside that. And you know what,

0:18:25.000 --> 0:18:27.680
<v Speaker 2>it is a really crazy world. Coming out of doing

0:18:27.680 --> 0:18:30.680
<v Speaker 2>a reality TV show. You do get sort of thrust

0:18:30.760 --> 0:18:33.359
<v Speaker 2>into the media, and you need to have a level

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<v Speaker 2>of maturity to be able to cope with what that is,

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<v Speaker 2>especially to be able to cope with that pressure on

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<v Speaker 2>top of trying to have a relationship. It adds so

0:18:40.600 --> 0:18:43.880
<v Speaker 2>many layers to the complexities of a relationship. And you're

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<v Speaker 2>having all the normal problems that you would have in

0:18:45.560 --> 0:18:47.760
<v Speaker 2>a relationship, but you're doing them in the public eye.

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<v Speaker 2>So you do need to have a level of maturity

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<v Speaker 2>to be able to get through that and to succeed.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I concur thank you. Yeah, I'm speaking from

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<v Speaker 2>experience because I'm so mature. Guys, Just in case you

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<v Speaker 2>didn't know who she's also a liar? Yeah, thanks Britt.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you know what I loved? And I think this

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<v Speaker 2>is my favorite one. This is my favorite favorite group dates,

0:19:08.720 --> 0:19:11.359
<v Speaker 2>my favorite group date drawing. I just really had an

0:19:11.359 --> 0:19:15.639
<v Speaker 2>affinity for the drag queen who was like conducting the

0:19:15.640 --> 0:19:17.679
<v Speaker 2>whole art thing. I thought she was amazing. I just

0:19:17.680 --> 0:19:19.560
<v Speaker 2>would have forgotten the name, but she was amazing. I

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<v Speaker 2>wouldn't know how to draw my inner drag queen. I

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<v Speaker 2>was actually just really impressed by how good all the

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<v Speaker 2>girls were at drawing. Did you see abbys? She definitely

0:19:27.560 --> 0:19:30.240
<v Speaker 2>looked unhinged and like she was a bit psychotic and

0:19:30.240 --> 0:19:33.639
<v Speaker 2>probably would stab you in your sleep. But I freaking

0:19:33.720 --> 0:19:35.960
<v Speaker 2>loved it. I loved it, and I you know, I

0:19:36.440 --> 0:19:39.359
<v Speaker 2>love Chelsea. My only concern with Chelsea at the moment

0:19:39.920 --> 0:19:42.280
<v Speaker 2>is that I know that she's overcoming these hurdles from

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<v Speaker 2>her past relationship. It's really endearing and I do think

0:19:45.560 --> 0:19:48.719
<v Speaker 2>that it's really wonderful of her that she's being so open. However,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm worried that if they keep hamming that edit, she's

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<v Speaker 2>going to come across as looking like a bit of

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<v Speaker 2>a broken bird, just broken, a bit too damaged and

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<v Speaker 2>a bit too She needs a savior, and I think

0:20:00.520 --> 0:20:02.200
<v Speaker 2>that she needs to be at a point where she's

0:20:02.320 --> 0:20:06.160
<v Speaker 2>overcome those issues from her past relationships, not she's hoping

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<v Speaker 2>to be rescued by Matt.

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<v Speaker 1>This is why I think I can see her at

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<v Speaker 1>the end, because they're.

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<v Speaker 2>Really pushing this.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if she's ready for a relationship. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if she's passed the ex and I think

0:20:16.440 --> 0:20:19.080
<v Speaker 1>they want us to really believe she's not. But then boom,

0:20:19.200 --> 0:20:21.400
<v Speaker 1>she's going to be. That environment is going to get

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<v Speaker 1>to everybody.

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<v Speaker 2>I cried all the time. They never showed it. I cried.

0:20:24.800 --> 0:20:27.760
<v Speaker 2>I cried all the freaking time. Did I tell you

0:20:27.800 --> 0:20:30.320
<v Speaker 2>about the time that I got so drunk that I

0:20:30.400 --> 0:20:34.960
<v Speaker 2>bawled my eyes out saying I'm an independent? Or did okay? Good?

0:20:34.960 --> 0:20:37.640
<v Speaker 2>Because I still have flashbacks from that and it's hideous.

0:20:37.680 --> 0:20:39.440
<v Speaker 2>Did I tell you about the one time I cried

0:20:39.480 --> 0:20:42.160
<v Speaker 2>and it wasn't on camera that I cried and I

0:20:42.280 --> 0:20:45.040
<v Speaker 2>ran away into the back garden. How did that not

0:20:45.119 --> 0:20:47.399
<v Speaker 2>make it onto the bloody edit? Because I ran away?

0:20:47.520 --> 0:20:49.520
<v Speaker 1>It was after hours, like filming head stopped. I just

0:20:49.600 --> 0:20:51.840
<v Speaker 1>needed some time on my own. I'm so used to

0:20:51.840 --> 0:20:54.879
<v Speaker 1>being on my own that this finally, the thirty people

0:20:54.880 --> 0:20:55.919
<v Speaker 1>in this confined space.

0:20:56.000 --> 0:20:57.080
<v Speaker 2>It cracked you. It cracked me.

0:20:57.119 --> 0:20:59.480
<v Speaker 1>And I ran into the garden and I got a

0:20:59.480 --> 0:21:01.960
<v Speaker 1>little blank and I tried to sleep outside and they.

0:21:01.920 --> 0:21:04.359
<v Speaker 2>Couldn't find me. They're like Britney, Brittany and I didn't

0:21:04.400 --> 0:21:06.560
<v Speaker 2>answer because I just thought, just let me just leave

0:21:06.720 --> 0:21:09.240
<v Speaker 2>me alone, and they thought he'd done a full runner.

0:21:09.560 --> 0:21:12.199
<v Speaker 2>So funny. I mean, like, look, it's a pressure cooker.

0:21:12.280 --> 0:21:15.280
<v Speaker 2>You know that you're going to be emotionally stretched to

0:21:15.359 --> 0:21:17.320
<v Speaker 2>your limits. That's exactly what they're trying to do. So

0:21:17.400 --> 0:21:19.280
<v Speaker 2>then Ellie says she's going to speak to Matt first,

0:21:19.280 --> 0:21:22.000
<v Speaker 2>but then Abby quickly steals him, drops in on Ellie.

0:21:22.080 --> 0:21:24.679
<v Speaker 2>There's a bit of a kerfuffle, but then Abby is

0:21:24.720 --> 0:21:27.720
<v Speaker 2>talking to Matt. Ellie comes up, I'm confused by what

0:21:27.720 --> 0:21:28.080
<v Speaker 2>you're saying.

0:21:28.119 --> 0:21:32.320
<v Speaker 1>I know, essentially essentially it's this convoluted Matt, Abby and

0:21:32.400 --> 0:21:33.439
<v Speaker 1>Ellie saga.

0:21:33.720 --> 0:21:35.920
<v Speaker 2>Well, it's the girl code, right, So the girls have

0:21:36.040 --> 0:21:39.520
<v Speaker 2>obviously had a conversation before Matt got there about the order,

0:21:39.680 --> 0:21:43.560
<v Speaker 2>and it's this arbitrary order that they've put together, which

0:21:43.880 --> 0:21:45.520
<v Speaker 2>is sort of means that no one's going to be

0:21:45.520 --> 0:21:47.480
<v Speaker 2>fighting and no one's going to be clambering over each

0:21:47.480 --> 0:21:50.600
<v Speaker 2>other to get time with Matt. However, Abby once again

0:21:50.880 --> 0:21:54.119
<v Speaker 2>does not give us shit about what's being prediscussed. She

0:21:54.359 --> 0:21:56.320
<v Speaker 2>is there for Matt and she's going to do whatever

0:21:56.359 --> 0:21:58.199
<v Speaker 2>she's got to do to get her man yep, and

0:21:58.240 --> 0:22:02.160
<v Speaker 2>then a long story short goes home. I miss China

0:22:02.240 --> 0:22:06.400
<v Speaker 2>already by China. I'm really worried about Ellie. She did

0:22:06.520 --> 0:22:09.040
<v Speaker 2>the wrong thing by throwing Abby under the bus, even

0:22:09.040 --> 0:22:11.280
<v Speaker 2>though even though Abby was the one who started this.

0:22:11.440 --> 0:22:13.520
<v Speaker 2>Do we all not remember going back to like the

0:22:13.600 --> 0:22:16.359
<v Speaker 2>third episode where Abby was the one who was bitching

0:22:16.400 --> 0:22:19.680
<v Speaker 2>about Monique. And now all of a sudden, Matt's like, oh,

0:22:19.960 --> 0:22:22.320
<v Speaker 2>but no one can bitch about Abby. But Abby can

0:22:22.359 --> 0:22:25.080
<v Speaker 2>do whatever she wants. Yeah, he's under her spell, for

0:22:25.280 --> 0:22:28.560
<v Speaker 2>it really is our Astrobatch is thinking, I mean she's rocket, Yeah,

0:22:28.600 --> 0:22:30.959
<v Speaker 2>she's beautiful. He's got a rocket. The rocket needs attention.

0:22:31.119 --> 0:22:33.520
<v Speaker 2>The rocket probably does need some attention. They've probably been

0:22:33.600 --> 0:22:34.520
<v Speaker 2>that house for a while now.

0:22:37.720 --> 0:22:40.960
<v Speaker 1>Grass is always Greener syndrome when it's broken right down,

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<v Speaker 1>peeled right back, and exposed in all its glory.

0:22:43.840 --> 0:22:46.720
<v Speaker 2>The grass is Greener syndrome really is just an unfortunate

0:22:46.760 --> 0:22:49.600
<v Speaker 2>byproduct of self doubt. And in a time when everyone's

0:22:49.640 --> 0:22:50.160
<v Speaker 2>lives are on.

0:22:50.119 --> 0:22:53.080
<v Speaker 1>Full display on social media, people are showcasing their highlight

0:22:53.119 --> 0:22:56.840
<v Speaker 1>reels every single aspect of their life, their jobs, their relationships,

0:22:57.000 --> 0:23:01.360
<v Speaker 1>it's normal to be comparing each other and it's understandable

0:23:01.640 --> 0:23:04.399
<v Speaker 1>in this day and age that this syndrome is pretty

0:23:04.480 --> 0:23:05.080
<v Speaker 1>damn common.

0:23:05.480 --> 0:23:09.520
<v Speaker 2>Laura, what do you reckon? Well, my question is to

0:23:09.600 --> 0:23:12.960
<v Speaker 2>what extent is it normal? Because it's okay at some

0:23:13.080 --> 0:23:15.560
<v Speaker 2>point to be like, oh, like that person's in Europe

0:23:15.640 --> 0:23:17.800
<v Speaker 2>and I'm sitting at my computer dis this fricking sucks.

0:23:18.119 --> 0:23:20.000
<v Speaker 2>But what if you're doing that day in day out

0:23:20.200 --> 0:23:22.639
<v Speaker 2>and you're never at a point where you're happy with

0:23:22.680 --> 0:23:26.080
<v Speaker 2>what you have because you're always thinking maybe there's something

0:23:26.119 --> 0:23:28.240
<v Speaker 2>better than this. I'm saying, I think it's normal for

0:23:28.320 --> 0:23:31.080
<v Speaker 2>us all to experience at some point, but it's how

0:23:31.080 --> 0:23:32.960
<v Speaker 2>we deal with it and whether you overcome that and

0:23:33.000 --> 0:23:35.680
<v Speaker 2>don't let it consume your life. Yeah, And I think

0:23:35.720 --> 0:23:39.200
<v Speaker 2>that some people have this constant lingering, this constant doubt,

0:23:39.640 --> 0:23:41.720
<v Speaker 2>where you know they might be in a relationship and

0:23:41.760 --> 0:23:45.159
<v Speaker 2>that relationship could be great. Like really, the person that

0:23:45.200 --> 0:23:48.280
<v Speaker 2>you're with, they tick all the boxes, they treat you well,

0:23:48.560 --> 0:23:52.160
<v Speaker 2>they are essentially providing you with a happy and positive

0:23:52.160 --> 0:23:55.800
<v Speaker 2>framework for a great relationship. But you're too busy thinking

0:23:55.880 --> 0:23:58.359
<v Speaker 2>maybe there's something better out there, or maybe the grass

0:23:58.400 --> 0:24:00.480
<v Speaker 2>is greener on the other side of the fence. Then

0:24:00.720 --> 0:24:02.960
<v Speaker 2>actually focusing on what you have in front of yourself

0:24:03.119 --> 0:24:05.879
<v Speaker 2>and nurturing the relationship that you currently have.

0:24:06.080 --> 0:24:08.280
<v Speaker 1>There's the same that I really love and that is

0:24:08.400 --> 0:24:11.480
<v Speaker 1>comparison is the thief of joy. Yes, it couldn't be

0:24:11.560 --> 0:24:15.840
<v Speaker 1>more true, because these comparisons, they lead to judgment and prejudice, fear, envy, pride,

0:24:15.880 --> 0:24:19.840
<v Speaker 1>in security, all these evil, negative things, toxic things that

0:24:19.880 --> 0:24:22.919
<v Speaker 1>we let into our life. And it's all because we

0:24:23.000 --> 0:24:25.879
<v Speaker 1>sit there and compare our life to somebody else's instead

0:24:25.880 --> 0:24:28.200
<v Speaker 1>of just looking at ourselves and what we have and

0:24:28.359 --> 0:24:32.440
<v Speaker 1>being happy and content. And I think content is a keyword.

0:24:32.160 --> 0:24:36.040
<v Speaker 2>One hundred percent. We're so obsessed with this concept of happiness,

0:24:36.560 --> 0:24:38.720
<v Speaker 2>like we want to be happy. Happy is the end goal.

0:24:39.040 --> 0:24:43.560
<v Speaker 2>Happiness is something that really consumes especially on social media. However,

0:24:43.720 --> 0:24:45.320
<v Speaker 2>I think happiness has a lot to do with your

0:24:45.359 --> 0:24:48.320
<v Speaker 2>external circumstances, and a lot of us say things like

0:24:48.480 --> 0:24:51.120
<v Speaker 2>I'll be happy when I graduate, I'll be happy when

0:24:51.119 --> 0:24:53.800
<v Speaker 2>I get a boyfriend, I'll be happy when my boyfriend

0:24:53.800 --> 0:24:56.080
<v Speaker 2>proposes to me, I'll be happy when I have a baby.

0:24:56.359 --> 0:24:58.959
<v Speaker 2>So all of these things are projecting happiness in the future,

0:24:59.240 --> 0:25:01.480
<v Speaker 2>but none of it's to about what that happiness is

0:25:01.600 --> 0:25:03.760
<v Speaker 2>right now. So the issue with that that I have

0:25:04.240 --> 0:25:06.760
<v Speaker 2>is we should be focusing more on this concept of contentment.

0:25:07.520 --> 0:25:09.560
<v Speaker 2>Whatever it is that you have right now is what

0:25:09.600 --> 0:25:11.600
<v Speaker 2>you need to be able to find your happiness in,

0:25:11.920 --> 0:25:13.840
<v Speaker 2>because right now is the only thing that you have

0:25:13.880 --> 0:25:18.119
<v Speaker 2>control over. Do you know, Earl Nightingale, No, I don't, Brittany,

0:25:18.200 --> 0:25:20.280
<v Speaker 2>tell me more about it. It was just really popular.

0:25:20.440 --> 0:25:22.680
<v Speaker 1>He was an author and a really popular radio host

0:25:22.880 --> 0:25:26.439
<v Speaker 1>back in the fifties and the sixties. And he says

0:25:26.920 --> 0:25:29.760
<v Speaker 1>that the mind is lack soil, so it's going to

0:25:29.800 --> 0:25:32.520
<v Speaker 1>return to us what we plant. And if you everyone

0:25:32.560 --> 0:25:34.840
<v Speaker 1>just think about that for a second, the mind is

0:25:34.880 --> 0:25:36.879
<v Speaker 1>like soil, it will return to us what we plant.

0:25:37.119 --> 0:25:39.960
<v Speaker 1>So it's how it's saying how we landscape our own gardens,

0:25:40.160 --> 0:25:41.560
<v Speaker 1>how we tend to our own back.

0:25:41.600 --> 0:25:44.520
<v Speaker 2>I like this, you're using the grass as greener, and

0:25:44.560 --> 0:25:46.760
<v Speaker 2>then the euphemisms that go with this.

0:25:46.720 --> 0:25:50.399
<v Speaker 1>Good goehu of your appreciation thing. Yes, but back to

0:25:50.600 --> 0:25:53.520
<v Speaker 1>my landscaping. It's how you landscape your own backyard and

0:25:53.560 --> 0:25:55.760
<v Speaker 1>your own grass and how you water that, and that's

0:25:55.760 --> 0:25:57.600
<v Speaker 1>what you're going to get in return. So it's saying

0:25:58.080 --> 0:26:01.080
<v Speaker 1>water your own soul, land escape your own body.

0:26:01.280 --> 0:26:04.440
<v Speaker 2>So instead of seeking to migrate to better past, as

0:26:04.440 --> 0:26:06.000
<v Speaker 2>you might say, oh my god, I need to stop

0:26:06.040 --> 0:26:08.440
<v Speaker 2>now that was too far, what you need to do

0:26:08.680 --> 0:26:11.600
<v Speaker 2>is water your own field. But yeah, it's so true.

0:26:11.640 --> 0:26:14.480
<v Speaker 2>Like if you spend so much time projecting what you

0:26:14.560 --> 0:26:17.639
<v Speaker 2>wish you had because you're looking at other people's relationships,

0:26:18.040 --> 0:26:21.000
<v Speaker 2>then that's time away from actually sitting down with your

0:26:21.000 --> 0:26:23.399
<v Speaker 2>partner and saying, hey, do you know what, I'm not

0:26:23.560 --> 0:26:27.320
<v Speaker 2>one hundred percent happy with these things. Let's work on that.

0:26:27.480 --> 0:26:29.520
<v Speaker 2>Let's talk about how we can make that better. I'm

0:26:29.560 --> 0:26:31.879
<v Speaker 2>actually going to say something here. I am going to

0:26:31.920 --> 0:26:33.080
<v Speaker 2>eat me with it, but I'm going to.

0:26:33.000 --> 0:26:37.520
<v Speaker 1>Admit that as a longtime single woman, I have been

0:26:37.520 --> 0:26:39.360
<v Speaker 1>in the position where I have looked at other couples

0:26:39.400 --> 0:26:41.520
<v Speaker 1>on Instagram and thought I wish I had that, even

0:26:41.520 --> 0:26:44.159
<v Speaker 1>though I have a fantastic life myself, and I've been

0:26:44.240 --> 0:26:47.440
<v Speaker 1>jealous of that and envious of that. And you and Matt,

0:26:47.560 --> 0:26:51.040
<v Speaker 1>you are this sort of relationship goals on Instagram. A

0:26:51.080 --> 0:26:52.400
<v Speaker 1>lot of people I think look up to you guys

0:26:52.440 --> 0:26:55.200
<v Speaker 1>as this perfect relationship. You had this fairy tale ending.

0:26:55.720 --> 0:26:59.120
<v Speaker 1>Now you had this amazing engagement, and you've had a baby,

0:26:59.160 --> 0:27:01.879
<v Speaker 1>and you look both eleven out of tens.

0:27:02.680 --> 0:27:04.440
<v Speaker 2>I feel like, come here just so that I can

0:27:04.480 --> 0:27:07.680
<v Speaker 2>get our self confidence booskuys. What else wants to start

0:27:07.720 --> 0:27:10.399
<v Speaker 2>into and tell me how great I am? Please do?

0:27:10.480 --> 0:27:12.520
<v Speaker 2>Because I haven't showered today, so I feel like I

0:27:12.560 --> 0:27:14.720
<v Speaker 2>need it in my life in all seriousness?

0:27:14.760 --> 0:27:16.320
<v Speaker 1>Does that put pressure on you? Or what do you

0:27:16.320 --> 0:27:18.920
<v Speaker 1>think about that when people are constantly comparing themselves to you?

0:27:18.960 --> 0:27:22.720
<v Speaker 2>Guys, it's not pressure because I know that it's not real,

0:27:23.160 --> 0:27:25.280
<v Speaker 2>Like I guess. The thing that when you say that

0:27:25.400 --> 0:27:28.760
<v Speaker 2>makes me feel guilty is that we do post our

0:27:28.840 --> 0:27:31.719
<v Speaker 2>highlight reels. We do post the best bits about our relationship.

0:27:31.960 --> 0:27:33.879
<v Speaker 2>And I would hate for someone else to look at

0:27:33.880 --> 0:27:37.280
<v Speaker 2>our relationship and go, I want what they have and

0:27:37.800 --> 0:27:40.400
<v Speaker 2>not focus on what they personally have at that point

0:27:40.440 --> 0:27:43.800
<v Speaker 2>in time. Because as much as I love my relationship

0:27:43.800 --> 0:27:46.560
<v Speaker 2>with Matt, and we are as close to being constant

0:27:46.560 --> 0:27:49.040
<v Speaker 2>happiness that I've ever had in a relationship. But that's

0:27:49.080 --> 0:27:51.040
<v Speaker 2>not to say that we don't fight, and it's not

0:27:51.040 --> 0:27:53.159
<v Speaker 2>to say that we don't have our shitty bits. We

0:27:53.240 --> 0:27:55.760
<v Speaker 2>just don't put those bits on Instagram. We fight about

0:27:55.800 --> 0:27:58.360
<v Speaker 2>stuff exactly. Why would you the fact that the nursery

0:27:58.400 --> 0:28:00.640
<v Speaker 2>has just turned into a complete dumping for all Matt

0:28:00.680 --> 0:28:02.439
<v Speaker 2>stuff and has been like that for three weeks, and

0:28:02.480 --> 0:28:04.920
<v Speaker 2>we constantly bicker about it. I saw it last night.

0:28:04.960 --> 0:28:07.920
<v Speaker 2>It is true. Baby in there. It's like a tip.

0:28:08.000 --> 0:28:09.720
<v Speaker 2>I'm pretty sure Mally's been under it for three weeks.

0:28:09.760 --> 0:28:12.120
<v Speaker 2>We haven't seen her. We thought she moved out, but honestly,

0:28:12.160 --> 0:28:13.560
<v Speaker 2>you know, that's the sort of stuff. I'm not going

0:28:13.640 --> 0:28:16.080
<v Speaker 2>to share that with everyone except for on a podcast

0:28:16.400 --> 0:28:17.399
<v Speaker 2>because no one cares.

0:28:17.480 --> 0:28:19.560
<v Speaker 1>Okay, this is where I think you're wrong. I think

0:28:19.600 --> 0:28:22.480
<v Speaker 1>people now want to relate to this. I think we're

0:28:22.680 --> 0:28:25.200
<v Speaker 1>as a society. We're moving in this direction where people

0:28:25.240 --> 0:28:27.720
<v Speaker 1>want to know other people are going through shitty times too,

0:28:27.800 --> 0:28:31.240
<v Speaker 1>and there is starting to be this movement on being

0:28:31.280 --> 0:28:32.200
<v Speaker 1>a bit more real.

0:28:32.280 --> 0:28:34.600
<v Speaker 2>And I agree with that, and I do think that

0:28:34.640 --> 0:28:37.480
<v Speaker 2>we are quite authentic in our social media. But when

0:28:37.480 --> 0:28:41.680
<v Speaker 2>it comes to relationships, I guess my reasoning when I

0:28:41.680 --> 0:28:43.920
<v Speaker 2>say we only post the highlight reel is because if

0:28:44.000 --> 0:28:46.600
<v Speaker 2>you're bickering, it's not really something that you're going to

0:28:46.720 --> 0:28:49.280
<v Speaker 2>then go and put on social media purely because that's

0:28:49.360 --> 0:28:51.360
<v Speaker 2>undermining of your partner. I'm never going to put on

0:28:51.400 --> 0:28:53.920
<v Speaker 2>social media. Hey guess what today Matt and I had

0:28:53.960 --> 0:28:57.080
<v Speaker 2>an argument about something that's trivial and arbitrary and in

0:28:57.160 --> 0:28:59.080
<v Speaker 2>a couple of hours will be over it. But that's

0:28:59.160 --> 0:29:03.400
<v Speaker 2>not to say that we live in this fake, pseudo bubble. Yeah,

0:29:03.600 --> 0:29:07.000
<v Speaker 2>glossy filtered life. Yes, we get to do a lot

0:29:07.000 --> 0:29:09.760
<v Speaker 2>of wonderful things together and we are very happy and

0:29:09.800 --> 0:29:12.400
<v Speaker 2>we are very content. But we have our moments as well,

0:29:12.520 --> 0:29:15.720
<v Speaker 2>just like every relationship is, because nothing in life is perfect.

0:29:16.120 --> 0:29:17.920
<v Speaker 2>And just like you had a really good quote, I

0:29:17.960 --> 0:29:19.640
<v Speaker 2>have one too. I'm gonna say the quote wrong, and

0:29:19.680 --> 0:29:23.200
<v Speaker 2>I did write it down because I remember this, like,

0:29:23.280 --> 0:29:26.240
<v Speaker 2>perfection is the enemy of good. If you have something

0:29:26.320 --> 0:29:28.160
<v Speaker 2>that is good, or you have something that is great,

0:29:28.600 --> 0:29:30.800
<v Speaker 2>trying to make it perfect is going to be the

0:29:30.920 --> 0:29:34.160
<v Speaker 2>undoing of that. It's like when you see people who

0:29:34.160 --> 0:29:36.880
<v Speaker 2>get way too much plastic surgery done and you're like, damn,

0:29:36.920 --> 0:29:39.720
<v Speaker 2>you are really hot to start with, and you ruin that, Yeah,

0:29:39.760 --> 0:29:41.640
<v Speaker 2>because you want it to be perfect. Well, that's a

0:29:41.640 --> 0:29:43.240
<v Speaker 2>good quote. I'm glad you brought that to the table.

0:29:43.280 --> 0:29:45.040
<v Speaker 2>Think you can have that. Actually, glad you brought that

0:29:45.080 --> 0:29:48.400
<v Speaker 2>to the pasture. Oh my gosh, did it make it

0:29:48.440 --> 0:29:52.040
<v Speaker 2>any greener. Something that we need to sit back and

0:29:52.280 --> 0:29:55.840
<v Speaker 2>pay attention to as well, is this grass is greener.

0:29:56.320 --> 0:29:59.520
<v Speaker 2>This mindset it comes from jealousy as well, and you

0:29:59.560 --> 0:30:02.400
<v Speaker 2>need to check yourself because that is just such a

0:30:02.440 --> 0:30:05.440
<v Speaker 2>negative headspace to get into. It's about a change in mindset,

0:30:05.520 --> 0:30:08.840
<v Speaker 2>absolutely definitely about being comfortable with who you are, about

0:30:09.040 --> 0:30:12.360
<v Speaker 2>aligning yourself with some sort of higher purpose, whether that's

0:30:12.480 --> 0:30:15.560
<v Speaker 2>spirituality or whether that's just having things that are outside

0:30:15.600 --> 0:30:18.040
<v Speaker 2>your relationship that give you purpose as well, because at

0:30:18.040 --> 0:30:20.560
<v Speaker 2>the end of the day, a relationship is not a guarantee.

0:30:20.720 --> 0:30:22.440
<v Speaker 2>You know, we're gonna get married and we're gonna have

0:30:22.440 --> 0:30:24.680
<v Speaker 2>another baby. Even if we do all those things, there

0:30:24.760 --> 0:30:27.120
<v Speaker 2>is no guarantee that in ten or fifteen years time

0:30:27.560 --> 0:30:30.440
<v Speaker 2>we're still going to be together because you cannot control

0:30:30.520 --> 0:30:33.680
<v Speaker 2>another person. Like if that was my choice, absolutely we

0:30:33.720 --> 0:30:36.080
<v Speaker 2>would be. But I can't control Matt, and I don't

0:30:36.120 --> 0:30:39.800
<v Speaker 2>know one hundred percent without doubt that that will be

0:30:40.000 --> 0:30:45.480
<v Speaker 2>our story. Because a relationship is never, ever, ever a guarantee.

0:30:45.520 --> 0:30:47.200
<v Speaker 2>So you need to be happy in yourself.

0:30:47.520 --> 0:30:50.920
<v Speaker 1>Also need to understand why you're having these thoughts. If

0:30:50.920 --> 0:30:55.120
<v Speaker 1>you genuinely are wishing you were somewhere else with someone

0:30:55.120 --> 0:30:57.040
<v Speaker 1>else doing something else.

0:30:57.400 --> 0:30:58.120
<v Speaker 2>Make that happen.

0:30:58.480 --> 0:31:01.040
<v Speaker 1>If you know in your heart that you should be

0:31:01.120 --> 0:31:04.280
<v Speaker 1>learning Italian in Italy, go and do it.

0:31:04.440 --> 0:31:07.040
<v Speaker 2>Do you not think that that mentality then feeds this

0:31:07.080 --> 0:31:10.160
<v Speaker 2>grass is greener syndrome because it's easier to say to someone, oh,

0:31:10.240 --> 0:31:12.720
<v Speaker 2>if you want to go learn Italian Italy go. People

0:31:12.720 --> 0:31:14.760
<v Speaker 2>have family, they have commitments. There are things in life

0:31:14.760 --> 0:31:17.120
<v Speaker 2>that keep you grounded and keep you here that mean

0:31:17.200 --> 0:31:19.320
<v Speaker 2>that you don't have that sort of flexibility to run

0:31:19.320 --> 0:31:21.040
<v Speaker 2>and that freedom too. Well, this is what I mean.

0:31:21.120 --> 0:31:23.320
<v Speaker 1>You need to figure when I say figure out why

0:31:23.520 --> 0:31:25.800
<v Speaker 1>you're wishing you with somewhere else. If it's because you've

0:31:25.840 --> 0:31:28.120
<v Speaker 1>got four kids, well of course you're not going to

0:31:29.200 --> 0:31:31.160
<v Speaker 1>You're only wishing you were there, not because you actually

0:31:31.160 --> 0:31:32.840
<v Speaker 1>want to learn Italian, but because you don't want to

0:31:32.840 --> 0:31:33.520
<v Speaker 1>be where you are.

0:31:33.440 --> 0:31:35.520
<v Speaker 2>A bit of escapism. I also think that we can

0:31:35.560 --> 0:31:38.400
<v Speaker 2>fall prey to great marketing as well, oh one hundred percent.

0:31:39.200 --> 0:31:41.640
<v Speaker 2>Like we said, with social media, we're constantly seeing the

0:31:41.720 --> 0:31:45.040
<v Speaker 2>highlights reel. We're constantly seeing what you could have and

0:31:45.120 --> 0:31:49.160
<v Speaker 2>how wonderful your life could be because we're being sold something.

0:31:49.920 --> 0:31:52.120
<v Speaker 2>And then you think about like online dating as well

0:31:52.160 --> 0:31:55.760
<v Speaker 2>as another completely separate thing is that you might start

0:31:55.840 --> 0:31:58.200
<v Speaker 2>dating someone, but then you can always back in and

0:31:58.240 --> 0:32:00.520
<v Speaker 2>see who else is there, who else is available, what

0:32:00.600 --> 0:32:03.320
<v Speaker 2>else is better? And that's this fear of missing out

0:32:03.360 --> 0:32:06.080
<v Speaker 2>almost somo. It's a thing. Yeah, this fear of missing

0:32:06.120 --> 0:32:09.080
<v Speaker 2>out that then contributes to this grass is greener. Yeah,

0:32:09.280 --> 0:32:11.880
<v Speaker 2>there's always something better. Yeah, and I actually get really

0:32:11.880 --> 0:32:15.320
<v Speaker 2>bad fomo with food. Have you ever had that? You know,

0:32:15.680 --> 0:32:18.440
<v Speaker 2>you were eating some tasty looking sushi earlier before I

0:32:18.480 --> 0:32:20.680
<v Speaker 2>offered it to you. I know, I have to stop myself.

0:32:20.880 --> 0:32:23.000
<v Speaker 2>I do think that it's normal to think from time

0:32:23.040 --> 0:32:25.440
<v Speaker 2>to time, you know, what if I had something better,

0:32:26.200 --> 0:32:28.560
<v Speaker 2>and to question that. I don't think that it's abnormal

0:32:28.600 --> 0:32:31.840
<v Speaker 2>to have those thoughts. However, if those thoughts become daily

0:32:31.920 --> 0:32:34.640
<v Speaker 2>and become debilitating, then you either need to do one

0:32:34.640 --> 0:32:37.760
<v Speaker 2>of two things. You need to stop and think, Okay,

0:32:38.240 --> 0:32:41.080
<v Speaker 2>is this actually my relationship and there is something fundamentally

0:32:41.120 --> 0:32:44.440
<v Speaker 2>wrong here. Maybe that's because you're fighting or you're bickering, sure,

0:32:45.080 --> 0:32:48.000
<v Speaker 2>or if those things don't exist, and it is just

0:32:48.040 --> 0:32:50.920
<v Speaker 2>this feeling of like maybe I can get something better,

0:32:51.320 --> 0:32:54.000
<v Speaker 2>then that issue doesn't lie in your relationship. That issue

0:32:54.280 --> 0:32:56.800
<v Speaker 2>lies in you and you need to do some self

0:32:56.800 --> 0:32:59.680
<v Speaker 2>discovery and you need to workshop why you have this

0:32:59.720 --> 0:33:02.440
<v Speaker 2>feeling that you always want something better than you have

0:33:02.880 --> 0:33:03.960
<v Speaker 2>because you'll never be happy.

0:33:04.240 --> 0:33:07.560
<v Speaker 1>And stop comparing yourself because comparisons all I do is

0:33:07.560 --> 0:33:10.200
<v Speaker 1>show us that we're not accepting of ourselves. So know

0:33:10.360 --> 0:33:13.480
<v Speaker 1>that you are enough, ease, enough than cheeser.

0:33:16.040 --> 0:33:19.760
<v Speaker 2>Now it is time for our favorite part of the episode.

0:33:19.880 --> 0:33:21.760
<v Speaker 2>It really is my favorite part of the episode. What's

0:33:21.840 --> 0:33:25.400
<v Speaker 2>called ask uncut. Were we supposed to do that together?

0:33:25.640 --> 0:33:28.040
<v Speaker 2>We never do. We never do. So we've had some

0:33:28.120 --> 0:33:31.960
<v Speaker 2>people write in ask questions. Usually these are relationship questions,

0:33:32.000 --> 0:33:34.880
<v Speaker 2>and we are going to give our very unqualified advice.

0:33:35.440 --> 0:33:38.360
<v Speaker 2>Britt have you picked some questions for us today? Sure have,

0:33:38.560 --> 0:33:41.440
<v Speaker 2>and it's a good ear. Come at me, Hi, ladies.

0:33:41.760 --> 0:33:45.720
<v Speaker 1>Thoughts on scheduling sex post babies. We're really struggling to

0:33:45.800 --> 0:33:47.960
<v Speaker 1>keep the intimacy alive and we're thinking of trying to

0:33:48.000 --> 0:33:50.800
<v Speaker 1>schedule it to see if logistically this is easier.

0:33:51.280 --> 0:33:53.560
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, I love this question. Yes, schedule sex

0:33:54.040 --> 0:33:54.560
<v Speaker 2>so fine.

0:33:54.680 --> 0:33:56.440
<v Speaker 1>At the start when I read this, I was like, no,

0:33:56.640 --> 0:33:58.560
<v Speaker 1>it takes all the romance out of it and then

0:33:58.600 --> 0:34:01.640
<v Speaker 1>when I thought it through, legit, it makes a lot

0:34:01.640 --> 0:34:02.080
<v Speaker 1>of sense.

0:34:02.280 --> 0:34:04.840
<v Speaker 2>You don't have a baby if you have things that

0:34:04.920 --> 0:34:07.600
<v Speaker 2>are commitments that are outside of your control, i e.

0:34:07.920 --> 0:34:09.799
<v Speaker 2>Getting up five times a night because you have a

0:34:09.800 --> 0:34:13.160
<v Speaker 2>crying baby. You need to schedule these things because it

0:34:13.239 --> 0:34:15.799
<v Speaker 2>becomes too hard. You'll just not do it if you don't.

0:34:15.920 --> 0:34:18.800
<v Speaker 1>And maybe you don't schedule it, like at five forty

0:34:18.840 --> 0:34:21.160
<v Speaker 1>five on a second Sunday, we're doing it. Maybe you

0:34:21.200 --> 0:34:23.080
<v Speaker 1>schedule it like, hey, let's just try and get a

0:34:23.120 --> 0:34:25.399
<v Speaker 1>sitter for this night, and then you know you're gonna

0:34:25.400 --> 0:34:27.799
<v Speaker 1>have a great dinner, a few venos, and you're gonna

0:34:27.800 --> 0:34:28.320
<v Speaker 1>get freaky.

0:34:28.560 --> 0:34:30.799
<v Speaker 2>Why does it have to be such an issue? Like

0:34:30.800 --> 0:34:32.760
<v Speaker 2>why does that have to be taken as a negative?

0:34:32.800 --> 0:34:34.800
<v Speaker 2>If you have to do that in your relationship, Matt, No,

0:34:34.880 --> 0:34:36.440
<v Speaker 2>I have to do it now. We don't have time

0:34:36.480 --> 0:34:39.600
<v Speaker 2>to have sex, WILLI nearly? When do you schedule it? Well, Brittany,

0:34:39.840 --> 0:34:44.359
<v Speaker 2>straight after the podcast, that's how we celebrate Bachelor Night.

0:34:44.800 --> 0:34:47.520
<v Speaker 2>No stop it Wednesday's Thursdays.

0:34:47.840 --> 0:34:50.960
<v Speaker 1>No, but everybody don't contact these guys on a Wednesday

0:34:51.000 --> 0:34:51.680
<v Speaker 1>and Thursday night.

0:34:51.760 --> 0:34:54.040
<v Speaker 2>My phone's on aeroplane mode and I would hate to

0:34:54.040 --> 0:34:57.320
<v Speaker 2>think that that's a negative reflection on our relationship, that

0:34:57.040 --> 0:35:01.000
<v Speaker 2>that that then means that we're not spontaneou and exciting

0:35:01.120 --> 0:35:03.840
<v Speaker 2>like we love each other. Yes, sometimes we have to

0:35:03.880 --> 0:35:06.399
<v Speaker 2>schedule sex so that we're still having it because we

0:35:06.440 --> 0:35:10.840
<v Speaker 2>want to and we're excited about it, but unfortunately we

0:35:10.920 --> 0:35:13.240
<v Speaker 2>have real lives that we have to try and mesh

0:35:13.320 --> 0:35:16.080
<v Speaker 2>everything together. Yeah, so I'm gonna I'm gonna sit here

0:35:16.080 --> 0:35:19.120
<v Speaker 2>and say to this person who has written in there

0:35:19.200 --> 0:35:21.439
<v Speaker 2>is no shame in having to schedule sex so long

0:35:21.520 --> 0:35:23.960
<v Speaker 2>as you were still making it a priority and you're

0:35:24.000 --> 0:35:27.040
<v Speaker 2>still both enjoying it and you're still both loving each other. Go,

0:35:27.440 --> 0:35:29.600
<v Speaker 2>you do what is good for you girlfriend. Yeah, I

0:35:29.600 --> 0:35:30.640
<v Speaker 2>think schedule.

0:35:30.239 --> 0:35:33.319
<v Speaker 1>It for sure, but still keep it exciting just because

0:35:33.360 --> 0:35:40.040
<v Speaker 1>it's scheduled like anal whoa. No, I just meant like

0:35:40.640 --> 0:35:44.320
<v Speaker 1>maybe doing a different place or or positioned whole position,

0:35:44.400 --> 0:35:46.480
<v Speaker 1>but not necessarily different orifice.

0:35:48.239 --> 0:35:50.520
<v Speaker 2>I really hope that that was helpful. So let's go

0:35:50.640 --> 0:35:52.560
<v Speaker 2>on to question number two. You never asking you a

0:35:52.680 --> 0:35:54.640
<v Speaker 2>question again? Well you are, because we've got a second

0:35:54.719 --> 0:35:57.359
<v Speaker 2>question of s let's come back. Come question two.

0:35:58.040 --> 0:36:00.400
<v Speaker 1>How do you deal with anxiety? I've been che in

0:36:00.400 --> 0:36:02.680
<v Speaker 1>the past and now I have trust issues. I love

0:36:02.680 --> 0:36:04.960
<v Speaker 1>and trust my current partner so much, but I just

0:36:05.000 --> 0:36:08.040
<v Speaker 1>can't help my anxiety making me second guess everything he does.

0:36:08.320 --> 0:36:11.320
<v Speaker 1>He has given me absolutely no reason to fear the worst,

0:36:11.960 --> 0:36:12.719
<v Speaker 1>but I still do.

0:36:13.040 --> 0:36:17.000
<v Speaker 2>Oh Okay, this issue obviously, and you know this does

0:36:17.080 --> 0:36:19.400
<v Speaker 2>not lie in your partner. This issue lies in you,

0:36:20.040 --> 0:36:23.319
<v Speaker 2>and this is something that you are going to have

0:36:23.360 --> 0:36:25.879
<v Speaker 2>to overcome, and it is unfair of you to put

0:36:25.920 --> 0:36:28.120
<v Speaker 2>that pressure on your partner. Of course, you need to

0:36:28.120 --> 0:36:31.319
<v Speaker 2>communicate why, and you need to be very open with

0:36:31.360 --> 0:36:34.120
<v Speaker 2>the reasons that you feel this way. But maybe it

0:36:34.160 --> 0:36:36.239
<v Speaker 2>would be of benefit to you if you go and

0:36:36.320 --> 0:36:38.560
<v Speaker 2>speak to someone outside of your relationship, like go and

0:36:38.600 --> 0:36:40.760
<v Speaker 2>speak to a counselor, or go and speak to a therapist,

0:36:41.120 --> 0:36:45.320
<v Speaker 2>and work through the things that are making you project

0:36:45.520 --> 0:36:47.960
<v Speaker 2>past relationships onto your current relationship.

0:36:48.920 --> 0:36:51.839
<v Speaker 1>I spoke about this exact thing with a girlfriend today.

0:36:51.920 --> 0:36:53.719
<v Speaker 1>She said this, she's in a new relationship and she

0:36:53.760 --> 0:36:56.120
<v Speaker 1>had a shitty past relationship. And I said, I'm actually

0:36:56.200 --> 0:36:57.760
<v Speaker 1>doing this question on the podcast tonight.

0:36:58.080 --> 0:37:00.319
<v Speaker 2>But I said to her, what else say to you?

0:37:00.880 --> 0:37:05.200
<v Speaker 1>And that is all that is doing, is putting negativity

0:37:05.239 --> 0:37:08.640
<v Speaker 1>and toxicity into your current relationship. The fact of the

0:37:08.680 --> 0:37:12.680
<v Speaker 1>matter is, if you cannot trust your current partner, you

0:37:12.760 --> 0:37:15.319
<v Speaker 1>probably shouldn't be with him. And if you're going to

0:37:15.400 --> 0:37:18.879
<v Speaker 1>waste all your time and energy worrying that he might

0:37:19.080 --> 0:37:21.880
<v Speaker 1>do something is going to ruin every other aspect of

0:37:21.920 --> 0:37:23.279
<v Speaker 1>your day and your relationship.

0:37:23.719 --> 0:37:26.080
<v Speaker 2>But what she's saying is that it's not that she

0:37:26.120 --> 0:37:28.600
<v Speaker 2>doesn't trust her current partner. She does trust him, and

0:37:28.600 --> 0:37:31.040
<v Speaker 2>he's done nothing to make her feel like he's going

0:37:31.080 --> 0:37:33.680
<v Speaker 2>to do the wrong thing, But she inherently has been

0:37:33.760 --> 0:37:36.919
<v Speaker 2>damaged from a past relationship and she needs to work

0:37:36.960 --> 0:37:37.640
<v Speaker 2>to overcome that.

0:37:38.040 --> 0:37:41.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, she says, that's why she's second guessing everything with him.

0:37:41.200 --> 0:37:43.600
<v Speaker 2>But do you know what, I totally understand this. Like,

0:37:43.760 --> 0:37:46.600
<v Speaker 2>I've came out of a really bad relationship a few

0:37:46.680 --> 0:37:49.840
<v Speaker 2>years back before I met Matt where so did you, Britt,

0:37:49.840 --> 0:37:51.920
<v Speaker 2>You know where I was cheated on and I was

0:37:52.480 --> 0:37:56.040
<v Speaker 2>lied to to a point where, quite seriously, this guy

0:37:56.040 --> 0:37:59.759
<v Speaker 2>could have told me that the table was brown and

0:37:59.800 --> 0:38:01.600
<v Speaker 2>the we're sitting in front of this white Not that

0:38:01.640 --> 0:38:03.880
<v Speaker 2>you guys can see it, but like he just was

0:38:03.960 --> 0:38:06.880
<v Speaker 2>believe so good at lying and lying, lying, lying that

0:38:06.960 --> 0:38:10.839
<v Speaker 2>it just made me fundamentally not believe anything I didn't know.

0:38:11.000 --> 0:38:14.520
<v Speaker 2>I didn't know right from wrong, up from down, and

0:38:14.680 --> 0:38:16.719
<v Speaker 2>I took a lot of that into my relationship with

0:38:16.760 --> 0:38:20.600
<v Speaker 2>Matt at the start. But Matt was so good at

0:38:21.320 --> 0:38:25.040
<v Speaker 2>proving to me and consistently showing me that I had

0:38:25.080 --> 0:38:28.520
<v Speaker 2>nothing to worry about that over time that feeling did dissipate.

0:38:29.040 --> 0:38:31.640
<v Speaker 2>So maybe it is a situation as well for you,

0:38:32.120 --> 0:38:35.440
<v Speaker 2>where the more that your partner reassures you that they

0:38:35.480 --> 0:38:37.440
<v Speaker 2>love you, the more that your partner proves to you

0:38:37.520 --> 0:38:41.760
<v Speaker 2>that they are not doing anything to make you question

0:38:42.000 --> 0:38:46.600
<v Speaker 2>that they are unfaithful, the more that your trust will

0:38:46.640 --> 0:38:49.040
<v Speaker 2>be rebuilt, and the more that you will be able

0:38:49.080 --> 0:38:51.320
<v Speaker 2>to grow and overcome this together.

0:38:51.680 --> 0:38:53.600
<v Speaker 1>I agree with this too, but there's part of me

0:38:53.719 --> 0:38:56.320
<v Speaker 1>that there's part of me that disagrees. If your partner

0:38:56.400 --> 0:38:59.960
<v Speaker 1>has to constantly prove himself to you for no reason

0:39:00.040 --> 0:39:01.880
<v Speaker 1>and when he's not doing anything wrong, it's going within

0:39:01.960 --> 0:39:05.000
<v Speaker 1>on him very fast. He eventually is going to say,

0:39:05.040 --> 0:39:07.480
<v Speaker 1>we're not having this conversation again. I haven't done anything wrong.

0:39:08.000 --> 0:39:08.160
<v Speaker 2>You know.

0:39:08.200 --> 0:39:11.160
<v Speaker 1>If you're constantly saying, proved to me, I need your reassurance,

0:39:11.280 --> 0:39:12.640
<v Speaker 1>he's going to get over it.

0:39:12.760 --> 0:39:15.440
<v Speaker 2>No, But I don't mean prove to you in like, ah,

0:39:15.480 --> 0:39:17.360
<v Speaker 2>you need to go through my text messages or anything

0:39:17.400 --> 0:39:20.160
<v Speaker 2>like that. I just mean like in daily actions that

0:39:20.600 --> 0:39:22.640
<v Speaker 2>they're not doing anything that would make you second guess.

0:39:23.000 --> 0:39:25.440
<v Speaker 2>So better to work on that relationship now while you're

0:39:25.480 --> 0:39:27.360
<v Speaker 2>in it than to be like cool, I'm out, I

0:39:27.400 --> 0:39:29.000
<v Speaker 2>need to go do some self discovery.

0:39:29.400 --> 0:39:31.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, just have the conversation with him as well. Tell

0:39:31.719 --> 0:39:34.640
<v Speaker 1>him how you feeling. I am going to assume if

0:39:34.680 --> 0:39:36.520
<v Speaker 1>you love each other, he will reassure you and you

0:39:36.520 --> 0:39:39.600
<v Speaker 1>can have this really honest conversation. But I just think you,

0:39:39.719 --> 0:39:41.480
<v Speaker 1>like you said, you need to go and work on yourself,

0:39:41.520 --> 0:39:46.960
<v Speaker 1>whether that is speaking to somebody a friend, therapist, counselor whatever.

0:39:47.040 --> 0:39:48.960
<v Speaker 1>But I don't think you can constantly put it on

0:39:49.000 --> 0:39:49.520
<v Speaker 1>your partner.

0:39:49.920 --> 0:39:52.880
<v Speaker 2>So guys, if you want to have us answer your

0:39:52.960 --> 0:39:56.960
<v Speaker 2>questions next week in Ask Uncut, please slide on into

0:39:57.000 --> 0:40:00.839
<v Speaker 2>our dms on Instagram at Life Uncut and we will

0:40:00.840 --> 0:40:04.200
<v Speaker 2>do our best to agree on something and give you

0:40:04.600 --> 0:40:06.480
<v Speaker 2>some sort of answers to your.

0:40:06.440 --> 0:40:09.440
<v Speaker 1>Questions at Life fun Cut Podcast. Well I like that,

0:40:09.680 --> 0:40:12.600
<v Speaker 1>do that again at Life fun Cut Podcast.

0:40:16.560 --> 0:40:20.080
<v Speaker 2>All right, he then give me your suck and your

0:40:20.200 --> 0:40:24.239
<v Speaker 2>sweet Brittany. We finish every single episode with our highlights

0:40:24.239 --> 0:40:26.480
<v Speaker 2>and our low lights from the week. So, Brett, I

0:40:26.560 --> 0:40:28.040
<v Speaker 2>want to know how's your week been. Give me your

0:40:28.120 --> 0:40:29.399
<v Speaker 2>highlight and your low light.

0:40:29.480 --> 0:40:32.280
<v Speaker 1>I have a real banger for my suck this week.

0:40:33.040 --> 0:40:36.080
<v Speaker 1>So my girlfriend Renee really ruined something for me. I

0:40:36.080 --> 0:40:38.920
<v Speaker 1>don't know if you've seen the show Younger. I haven't

0:40:38.920 --> 0:40:41.560
<v Speaker 1>seen the show, Hilary Duff. Is it a recommendation? Should

0:40:41.600 --> 0:40:43.920
<v Speaker 1>we watch this? I just binge watched six seasons. Everyone,

0:40:43.960 --> 0:40:46.360
<v Speaker 1>this is my recommendation. I loved it so easy to

0:40:46.360 --> 0:40:47.480
<v Speaker 1>watch perfect.

0:40:47.520 --> 0:40:49.440
<v Speaker 2>I need this. I need some more Netflix my life.

0:40:49.480 --> 0:40:54.000
<v Speaker 1>So my Suck is the main character Josh. His real

0:40:54.080 --> 0:40:57.319
<v Speaker 1>name is Nico Tortorella or something like that. Have you

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<v Speaker 1>been stalking this guy, Brittany potentially low key?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes? Sure, so he has been my hall pass. Now

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I wanted to have a hall pass

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<v Speaker 2>because I'm single. I wonder if he's just a pass.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just I wonder if he listens to the podcast,

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<v Speaker 2>which I'm sure he doesn't, but if he does, britt

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<v Speaker 2>is thirsty. No, this is the suck.

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<v Speaker 1>I was telling her how in love I was with

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<v Speaker 1>this guy. On Younger and she said, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know, do you. I was like, no, what

0:41:21.920 --> 0:41:26.439
<v Speaker 1>she pulls him up. He is gay, which is, you know, cool,

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<v Speaker 1>but sucks for me. But he's also like really extreme

0:41:29.239 --> 0:41:32.399
<v Speaker 1>dresses as a woman. And you just never ever would

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<v Speaker 1>have known this from his character. His character is so

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<v Speaker 1>sexy and straight and I just can't. I will never

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<v Speaker 1>be able to dream the same again.

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<v Speaker 2>Now. So that was my sock. I love it when

0:41:41.800 --> 0:41:45.040
<v Speaker 2>people play against their stereotypes. That's great. Good for him,

0:41:45.120 --> 0:41:47.080
<v Speaker 2>you need to let him up. Sucks for you that

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<v Speaker 2>he's definitely not going to be interested in you. But

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I think that this is bloody wonderful.

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<v Speaker 1>You need to look it up. And actually I have

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<v Speaker 1>a picture of him right here. Yeah, I look at that.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, he is a sexy man. Holy Doolly. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>so you're up your suck for this week? Is that

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<v Speaker 2>your cool pass? Not even your hall pass? That some

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<v Speaker 2>guy who's on a TV show who you've never met

0:42:08.920 --> 0:42:11.120
<v Speaker 2>is gay and is not interested in you and doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>know that you exist? Correct, don't judge me. Moving on, Okay,

0:42:13.800 --> 0:42:17.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm not judging you. I'm just that was that upset you?

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<v Speaker 2>So much. That affected your week so much that that

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<v Speaker 2>is your suck. I'm still really raw. Okay, well then

0:42:23.680 --> 0:42:26.040
<v Speaker 2>what was your sweet? Let's hope that some other hypothetical,

0:42:26.080 --> 0:42:28.600
<v Speaker 2>non existent character finds you attractive.

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<v Speaker 1>My suite was in a supermarket line and there was

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<v Speaker 1>this really really cute old man in front of me.

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<v Speaker 1>He must have been I thought you were able to

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<v Speaker 1>say a cute guy, and I was like, Britney, this

0:42:36.680 --> 0:42:38.759
<v Speaker 1>cannot just be about the men that you want to date.

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<v Speaker 2>He was about ninety. He was trying to buy these groceries.

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<v Speaker 1>And he went to pay his with his f POS

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<v Speaker 1>card and he couldn't even put the numbers in to

0:42:46.560 --> 0:42:49.800
<v Speaker 1>peanut and it was incorrect. Then the line behind behind

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<v Speaker 1>me starts to build. There's about twenty people in the

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<v Speaker 1>line now, and the woman's like, oh, decline. Do you

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<v Speaker 1>want to try again? So he tried again and it

0:42:56.239 --> 0:42:58.960
<v Speaker 1>wouldn't declined again, So she said, oh, do you want

0:42:58.960 --> 0:43:00.520
<v Speaker 1>to go and get some cash out and you can

0:43:00.600 --> 0:43:02.960
<v Speaker 1>leave your bag here, And he opened his wallet and

0:43:02.960 --> 0:43:04.799
<v Speaker 1>there was one five dollar note in it, and he

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<v Speaker 1>obviously had no money in his bank because he said

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<v Speaker 1>with his head down, he said, oh no, just just

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<v Speaker 1>don't worry and started to walk out of the shop.

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<v Speaker 1>And it broke my heart. And I said, just stop,

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<v Speaker 1>come back. I said, I've got it all. I've got

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<v Speaker 1>his groceries. And he tried to give me his five

0:43:19.600 --> 0:43:21.239
<v Speaker 1>dollars and I said, you just go and have a

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<v Speaker 1>great day, and I've got you covered because I just

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<v Speaker 1>I had just thought, if this was my parents or

0:43:25.920 --> 0:43:29.600
<v Speaker 1>my grandparents, I hope to god somebody would have bought

0:43:29.600 --> 0:43:31.400
<v Speaker 1>that the groceries for them so they could go home

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<v Speaker 1>and eat.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh that's just kills me that it was sort.

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<v Speaker 1>Of my suck because it broke for him. But it

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<v Speaker 1>made me really happy to know that I had just

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<v Speaker 1>gone and.

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<v Speaker 2>Done my thing. Well that's your good bit, for the.

0:43:41.719 --> 0:43:44.399
<v Speaker 1>Way, it was my good bit, but god, my heart broke.

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<v Speaker 1>So if everyone's listening, I urge you go and do

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<v Speaker 1>something good for someone.

0:43:47.440 --> 0:43:50.360
<v Speaker 2>Buy them a cup of coffee. You're a goddamn saint, Brittany. Anyway,

0:43:50.400 --> 0:43:53.120
<v Speaker 2>what's yours? Look at you? Oh? Well, mine are very

0:43:53.160 --> 0:43:55.760
<v Speaker 2>trivial in comparison. Well, your first one was pretty trivial.

0:43:55.840 --> 0:43:59.239
<v Speaker 2>The second one was like, godly suck. First, go here,

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<v Speaker 2>I have a blind and pimple. Oh okay, and you sweet,

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<v Speaker 2>it's a really big one. It's on my chin and

0:44:03.480 --> 0:44:07.680
<v Speaker 2>it really really hurts. I can't it's because it's blind, Brittany, Oh,

0:44:07.760 --> 0:44:10.879
<v Speaker 2>it's blind. It's so sore. Okay, So that's my suck

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<v Speaker 2>and my sweet is this is also very trivial. I

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<v Speaker 2>made a freaking amazing beef stur fry this week. It

0:44:17.880 --> 0:44:21.680
<v Speaker 2>was so great master chef level no, but I suck

0:44:21.719 --> 0:44:23.680
<v Speaker 2>at cooking, so it was very good for me, and

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<v Speaker 2>I've been dreaming about it all week. That's my like,

0:44:27.040 --> 0:44:28.520
<v Speaker 2>you know, when you make something so good that you

0:44:28.600 --> 0:44:32.320
<v Speaker 2>crave every meal after that. That was my sweet. Guys,

0:44:32.360 --> 0:44:36.000
<v Speaker 2>once you have a baby, what gets you going changes drastically. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>it is blind pimples and beef sturf because now Laura

0:44:39.239 --> 0:44:42.319
<v Speaker 2>is dreaming about hersterf right. Well, anyway, it's sorry, guys,

0:44:42.320 --> 0:44:44.279
<v Speaker 2>I had to put you through all that solid chat.

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<v Speaker 2>We've both had pretty good weeks. Guys. If you have

0:44:47.040 --> 0:44:50.560
<v Speaker 2>loved this podcast, which obviously you have because you made

0:44:50.560 --> 0:44:53.120
<v Speaker 2>it this far that or maybe it was just going

0:44:53.120 --> 0:44:54.640
<v Speaker 2>on in the background and you're like, wait, those girls

0:44:54.680 --> 0:44:56.120
<v Speaker 2>are still freaking talking.

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0:45:03.200 --> 0:45:04.600
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