WEBVTT - Do You Share The Cost Of A Parking Fine? 🚙💰 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:04.199 The Flex and Frooms Daily Podcast. 0:00:05.720 --> 0:00:08.000 We are Flex and Frooms and today we are talking 0:00:08.000 --> 0:00:10.320 about the fatal friendship floor. 0:00:10.520 --> 0:00:14.520 We love f's here, love to get out a Flex 0:00:14.560 --> 0:00:17.720 and frooms. Fatal friendship floor. That's some good alliteration. We 0:00:17.760 --> 0:00:20.200 didn't come up with this term ourselves. I actually wrote 0:00:20.239 --> 0:00:24.480 about fatal flaws in my book The Success Experiment Get 0:00:24.480 --> 0:00:28.360 It Weekend. But I do think that people like to 0:00:28.400 --> 0:00:32.920 avoid the topic because it feels a bit finite, right, 0:00:33.200 --> 0:00:36.800 like things have to be done. It's fatal, it's dead, 0:00:37.080 --> 0:00:39.280 you can't come back for it. But I just think 0:00:39.320 --> 0:00:41.680 the more we allow ourselves comfortable with the fact that 0:00:41.760 --> 0:00:44.520 sometimes things are treacherous and then you deal with them, 0:00:44.960 --> 0:00:48.760 like sometimes you just have a friend who is terrible 0:00:48.800 --> 0:00:51.320 in this one area and that's just the fact. 0:00:51.520 --> 0:00:55.680 Now brunch plants. Yeah, okay, let's get to it a 0:00:55.680 --> 0:00:57.279 little one. My bum sewing eche. 0:00:57.200 --> 0:00:58.920 Flex and Frooms. 0:00:59.160 --> 0:01:02.680 I got this DM very simple. Have you ever broken 0:01:02.760 --> 0:01:04.679 up with a friend. If you were ever to be 0:01:04.720 --> 0:01:07.360 the receiver of a friend breakup, would you prefer to 0:01:07.400 --> 0:01:10.880 be ghosted eventually phase out or would you prefer clean 0:01:10.959 --> 0:01:12.759 breakup with reasons and closure? 0:01:12.920 --> 0:01:16.360 Well, why not? Already straight up reasons enclosure, Oh yeah, 0:01:16.640 --> 0:01:19.080 hit me over the head with it and then be gone. 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:21.839 I'm of the opinion that if someone is so frustrated 0:01:21.880 --> 0:01:24.800 with you that a breakup is required, they've tried to 0:01:24.840 --> 0:01:28.759 be communicative, they've tried to reason with you, they've tried 0:01:28.840 --> 0:01:32.800 to get the message through. It's not worked, hence the breakup. 0:01:32.959 --> 0:01:36.600 Right, Maybe you've just finished, like paths, one of you's 0:01:36.640 --> 0:01:39.160 holding on because they don't have any other friends. This 0:01:39.240 --> 0:01:40.640 could be a plethora of reasons. 0:01:40.720 --> 0:01:43.640 Yeah, I would just assume if a breakup was necessary, 0:01:43.680 --> 0:01:46.639 it would be off the back of something quite bad 0:01:46.880 --> 0:01:49.240 bad or like necessary to cut it, because I think 0:01:49.280 --> 0:01:52.800 if I have a friend, unless we've just naturally drifted 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:56.360 because of time, you're gonna be around in the proofheral somewhere. 0:01:56.760 --> 0:02:00.280 If a breakup like a proper like romantic, Hey, we 0:02:00.320 --> 0:02:02.920 need to talk. This is what I'm feeling. It's done, 0:02:03.640 --> 0:02:06.000 like we're out of each other's lives, I would assume 0:02:06.040 --> 0:02:08.720 it's for a good reason. Otherwise just sort it out. 0:02:09.560 --> 0:02:13.480 But I haven't broken up with a friend before because 0:02:13.600 --> 0:02:18.000 the times I tried it just wasn't received. Like I 0:02:18.000 --> 0:02:22.560 don't think people take very well to like really candid 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:26.440 and like mature conversation, it can go badly. They're kind 0:02:26.480 --> 0:02:28.799 of like okay, like relax, like you know you're taking 0:02:28.800 --> 0:02:31.080 it too seriously, or you're being too sensitive or like whatever. 0:02:31.200 --> 0:02:33.480 You just need a break or so I just do 0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:36.400 a soft ghost, and often because I think I just 0:02:36.440 --> 0:02:38.520 need more time than I realized to figure out what 0:02:38.600 --> 0:02:40.360 I think about people. And in the interim I can 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:42.800 be cordial, I can be polite and be fun, but 0:02:42.960 --> 0:02:45.560 the long term of like do I want to exit 0:02:45.560 --> 0:02:48.920 someone for my life forever or keep them around forever? 0:02:49.080 --> 0:02:50.120 I need some time to think. 0:02:50.320 --> 0:02:51.280 It's not that cut and dry. 0:02:51.480 --> 0:02:53.320 It's not easy. It's not that simple. 0:02:53.440 --> 0:02:55.799 The ghost sounds a bit more compelling when you put 0:02:55.840 --> 0:02:58.560 it that way. But I like answers. I'd like to 0:02:58.600 --> 0:03:00.320 finish it so I don't have to put any more 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:03.880 emotional energy into something that's not going to work out. 0:03:03.960 --> 0:03:06.880 And that's on that flex and frooms high FLEXI. So 0:03:07.000 --> 0:03:09.400 in team minus seven days, I'm going to be touching 0:03:09.440 --> 0:03:12.200 down in I'd be fucked so hot. It's the land 0:03:12.200 --> 0:03:15.960 of the Calvin Harrises, the DJ Generics, the David Greta's. 0:03:15.600 --> 0:03:17.840 I'm so excited for you. It's going to be life changing. 0:03:17.919 --> 0:03:20.080 Have you ever been? No, I don't really know anyone 0:03:20.120 --> 0:03:22.760 who's been. Yeah. No, it's a random place to. 0:03:22.880 --> 0:03:25.000 Go to Europe. I'm not going to Abitha. 0:03:24.639 --> 0:03:26.680 But like, well, I just figured I'm doing all the year. 0:03:26.919 --> 0:03:30.600 I'm in London, I'm in Paris, Amsterdam, had to throw 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:33.760 something a rogan there something beachside. You're into continental, babe, 0:03:33.800 --> 0:03:36.440 I really am. It costs actually so much to go 0:03:36.480 --> 0:03:41.400 between cities. I realize thousands dear to me, in this economy, 0:03:41.680 --> 0:03:42.360 weird ass. 0:03:42.640 --> 0:03:44.560 Nothing is cheap when it comes to travel. That's why 0:03:44.560 --> 0:03:46.480 I'm so surprised people like, yeah, I did your for 0:03:46.520 --> 0:03:49.200 ten K. I'm like, ow, you're gone for. 0:03:49.120 --> 0:03:52.200 Three months, three months for ten k. Yeah we did 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:53.600 that when we were nineteen kind of thing. 0:03:53.720 --> 0:03:56.160 There was no wi. I was, I'm always traveling lucks 0:03:56.400 --> 0:03:58.480 and like I'm going to go one place, ball out 0:03:58.480 --> 0:03:58.960 come back. 0:03:59.040 --> 0:04:01.000 Well, I've actually never been to Europe, so. 0:04:01.000 --> 0:04:02.440 Now is the time. Remember you told me you were 0:04:02.440 --> 0:04:03.760 Swedish and I believed you. 0:04:03.760 --> 0:04:05.720 You put that on me. I've never said I'm sweeting you. 0:04:05.880 --> 0:04:10.720 Literally, I said, I said, are you Swedish? And you're like, 0:04:10.760 --> 0:04:13.240 it's the blonde hair of course, and I was like, oh, okay, 0:04:13.320 --> 0:04:14.000 makes sense. 0:04:14.160 --> 0:04:16.240 Anyone with two brain cells. No, this is a bleach 0:04:16.360 --> 0:04:17.600 job hunt, wouldn't you. 0:04:17.960 --> 0:04:21.920 I don't know. This is Caucasian activities anyway, keeping out 0:04:21.920 --> 0:04:22.160 of it. 0:04:23.400 --> 0:04:25.719 Yes, I'm going to Europe and I'm hoping to interview 0:04:25.839 --> 0:04:29.080 David Gueta. So David Weta in Ibetha. 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:31.080 And what have you sent an email? Have you pulled 0:04:31.120 --> 0:04:33.919 some strings? Like yeah, it's gonna cost him from the 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:35.039 front row. 0:04:35.320 --> 0:04:39.120 I started the Ibetha like propaganda on my Instagram a 0:04:39.160 --> 0:04:42.360 few months ago, and someone from his label will hear 0:04:42.400 --> 0:04:44.200 me up like a friend of mine, and said, do 0:04:44.200 --> 0:04:46.600 you want to interview him? And I said yes? Anyway, 0:04:46.800 --> 0:04:49.040 links didn't link up in the ah, so I went 0:04:49.080 --> 0:04:51.080 ahead and I bought tickets for me and my friends 0:04:51.080 --> 0:04:55.160 to see David Wedda at Wayosha on October third, eighty 0:04:55.200 --> 0:04:58.400 eight dollars euro eighty eight euro. She loves giving out 0:04:58.440 --> 0:05:01.479 time to day it's details. Well, okay, it's a massive bub. 0:05:01.560 --> 0:05:03.080 No one's gonna see me. If you do, I'm gonna 0:05:03.080 --> 0:05:05.560 be my best life. So I'm happy to be witnessed. Anyway, 0:05:05.560 --> 0:05:07.240 I was thinking, if I do get the chance to 0:05:07.240 --> 0:05:09.440 interview him, what would you ask flex? Because I know 0:05:09.480 --> 0:05:12.040 we've discussed interviews before and often they can be quite lame. 0:05:12.240 --> 0:05:14.320 Yeah, most of them are. I just want to find 0:05:14.320 --> 0:05:16.800 out the stuff that makes someone feel like a real person, 0:05:17.640 --> 0:05:22.000 Like I just every like, what's your inspiration? Where did 0:05:22.040 --> 0:05:24.400 the name for the song come from? I'm like it 0:05:24.600 --> 0:05:27.240 just like all that stuff is contrived and the sum 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:29.839 of your PR team and your managers and your creative 0:05:29.839 --> 0:05:31.640 people who are like, we need to do this vibe 0:05:31.960 --> 0:05:33.560 for someone I don't know, like I want to see. 0:05:33.640 --> 0:05:36.080 I want to know, like if he likes his pillows soft, 0:05:36.120 --> 0:05:37.479 firm or like medium? 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:38.560 Why do you eat for breakfast? 0:05:38.800 --> 0:05:41.120 No? Boring? Really, every time I get asked in an interview, 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:42.280 I'm like, I didn't eat breakfast. 0:05:42.360 --> 0:05:43.520 You get asked out a lot. 0:05:43.480 --> 0:05:46.880 So often, like the first question, it's like the ice 0:05:46.920 --> 0:05:49.360 breakery one where I'm like, I think if I wasn't 0:05:49.360 --> 0:05:52.080 an interview. No, I think it's a double whammy. It's 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:54.680 having been interviewed and it's having interviewed people where I'm like, 0:05:54.720 --> 0:05:56.960 I can see how it's lame on both sides, and 0:05:57.000 --> 0:06:00.120 you'll know, like if you ask celebrities like what question 0:06:00.360 --> 0:06:02.840 do you hate being answered. It's the ones that they 0:06:02.880 --> 0:06:04.080 get asked all the time. 0:06:04.560 --> 0:06:06.680 Maybe that's how I can start the interview. So what 0:06:06.839 --> 0:06:08.480 is your most hated interview question? 0:06:08.640 --> 0:06:10.600 But then how do you follow up from that? Because 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:12.719 you put pressure on the next question you asked you like, 0:06:12.720 --> 0:06:13.840 what do you want for breakfast? 0:06:15.680 --> 0:06:19.560 On that anyway, Okay, you've been totally not helpful, But 0:06:20.040 --> 0:06:20.599 I look for that. 0:06:20.600 --> 0:06:22.240 That's not what I'm here to do. That's not what 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:23.839 I'm here to do. We all have our roles. 0:06:25.040 --> 0:06:26.880 I look forward to sharing all of my photos with 0:06:26.920 --> 0:06:27.599 you from my BEFA. 0:06:27.760 --> 0:06:29.400 Well, what I think would be really controversial the fact 0:06:29.400 --> 0:06:31.240 that you're going with a friend, and you know everybody 0:06:31.279 --> 0:06:34.080 says you shouldn't travel with friends through me. Will there 0:06:34.120 --> 0:06:36.480 be a friendship breakup? Yeah, probably knows. 0:06:38.120 --> 0:06:40.200 That's fine. We've had break us. But my friend and I, 0:06:40.480 --> 0:06:45.080 oh really, we have hard conversations constantly earlier in the relationship. 0:06:45.080 --> 0:06:45.760 Actually we did. 0:06:45.920 --> 0:06:48.800 This is flex and frooms on DA. 0:06:49.000 --> 0:06:53.160 I have come across this theory called the fatal friendship floor. 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:55.839 Listen to this video. It is going to blow your mind. 0:06:55.880 --> 0:06:57.800 If it doesn't money back guarantee. 0:06:57.880 --> 0:06:59.520 It's more of a rule than a theory. But I 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:01.720 think that every single one of your close or best 0:07:01.720 --> 0:07:04.520 friends has a fatal flaw. Maybe they're insecure, maybe they're 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:07.400 really attention seeking around boys. Whatever it is, once you 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:10.360 identify it, have to accept it. When I was growing up, 0:07:10.360 --> 0:07:11.920 I had this friend and she was a liar. The 0:07:12.000 --> 0:07:14.280 lies didn't hurt anybody, but they were big lies, and 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:16.520 I would complain to my mom about it all the time, 0:07:16.560 --> 0:07:19.320 and eventually she was like, enough, if this is part 0:07:19.360 --> 0:07:21.560 of her personality, you have to accept it or don't 0:07:21.560 --> 0:07:22.560 be friends with her anymore. 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:24.160 And so was born my rule. 0:07:24.360 --> 0:07:27.400 Once you identify your close friend's fatal flaw, anytime it 0:07:27.440 --> 0:07:29.640 flares up, you can't be triggered by it because you 0:07:29.680 --> 0:07:32.080 have to accept that that's their fatal flaw. So say 0:07:32.080 --> 0:07:35.120 that they're really insecure, and you identify that, and then 0:07:35.240 --> 0:07:37.240 one day they call you and they're like, I don't 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:38.920 know which dress to wear and they keep you on 0:07:38.960 --> 0:07:40.680 the phone for half an hour. You have to view 0:07:40.720 --> 0:07:43.440 that as a write off under the fatal flaw clause. 0:07:43.600 --> 0:07:46.360 And if the fatal flaw bothers you enough, then you 0:07:46.480 --> 0:07:49.080 have to demote them to a less close friend. The 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:52.240 silliest thing is if you are consistently triggered by your 0:07:52.240 --> 0:07:54.880 friend's fatal flaw, either accept it or demote them, or 0:07:54.920 --> 0:07:56.040 you'll drive yourself crazy. 0:07:56.360 --> 0:07:56.960 Is that tinks? 0:07:57.120 --> 0:08:01.000 It's tinks. Wow, it's tinks. I stand by that one 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:04.040 because there's a lot of behaviors that I can see 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:06.000 in a lot of my close friends I would not 0:08:06.440 --> 0:08:08.760 tolerate from someone I wasn't close with that I don't 0:08:08.800 --> 0:08:11.240 have love for, But in the context of them, I'm like, 0:08:11.280 --> 0:08:14.160 it'll do like a big one. Is I'm really off 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:17.000 about self deprecation. I really hate it, like it like 0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:19.760 not only frustrates me, because I'm like, if you cannot 0:08:19.800 --> 0:08:23.440 see pass your silly little insecurity to see that, like 0:08:23.680 --> 0:08:25.960 to see that you know you're not only programming yourself 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:28.080 to feel deep about this thing that's not even that important, 0:08:28.600 --> 0:08:31.400 then you don't have the level of clarity I need 0:08:31.440 --> 0:08:33.520 for you to have to move through the world. Like 0:08:33.559 --> 0:08:37.720 it's such a lazy way, it's such an unnecessarily damaging 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:40.240 thing to do for your own self esteem, Like self 0:08:40.280 --> 0:08:43.480 deprecation is. It could be like a funny thing, but 0:08:43.559 --> 0:08:47.199 like all your brain is doing is looking for patterns 0:08:47.280 --> 0:08:49.920 in behavior, and it's looking to validate what you tell 0:08:49.960 --> 0:08:52.040 it to be true. So like, while you may not 0:08:52.120 --> 0:08:54.200 believe in the initial state, they're like, Oh, I'm so dumb. 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:57.040 I'm so dumb. I'm so dumb. Your brain knows what 0:08:57.120 --> 0:08:59.400 you tell it, and so why would it now work 0:08:59.480 --> 0:09:02.720 over time to contradict what you've told it that is true. 0:09:03.160 --> 0:09:05.840 So I'm thinking, like even not even consciously, but like 0:09:06.240 --> 0:09:08.440 you can challenge it now that it's new, but in 0:09:08.520 --> 0:09:10.960 fifty years time you're going to be that dead weight 0:09:11.080 --> 0:09:13.200 person who's like, but I can't do anything, and like 0:09:13.400 --> 0:09:15.240 I can't let anything new and I can't do this 0:09:15.320 --> 0:09:18.240 because I'm so dumb get it. But you know, like 0:09:18.400 --> 0:09:19.840 people have their things interesting. 0:09:19.880 --> 0:09:21.280 It's a very Australian thing, is they're not. 0:09:21.440 --> 0:09:24.960 It's such an Australian thing. It's so lame. But again 0:09:25.000 --> 0:09:27.800 it's like I have to mind myself about that because 0:09:27.800 --> 0:09:31.040 I'm like, obviously it's a defense mechanism, it's a coping mechanism. 0:09:31.200 --> 0:09:32.719 It makes a lot of sense, like you got to 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:36.520 get yourself before someone else gets you. Totally get that. 0:09:36.960 --> 0:09:39.880 And I make accommodations people really care about. And if 0:09:39.920 --> 0:09:41.920 I don't know you that well, I just can't have 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:42.280 to like. 0:09:42.440 --> 0:09:44.760 La la la la la la la la la forget 0:09:44.800 --> 0:09:46.600 turn the blind eye. What's a fatal floor you can 0:09:46.640 --> 0:09:48.920 think of in myself? No, and in like friends that 0:09:48.920 --> 0:09:51.560 you've been accommodating for one for me would probably be 0:09:51.800 --> 0:09:53.720 when you can't handle your alcohol. Like I have a 0:09:53.720 --> 0:09:57.079 friend that will get really drunk every time, and like 0:09:57.240 --> 0:09:59.640 it's like, yeah, let's drink heaps of pre drinks, let's 0:09:59.640 --> 0:10:03.520 get and then it's so drunk that they can't enjoy themselves. 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:07.120 I find that to be a bit of a fatal floor. Yeah, nothing, 0:10:07.240 --> 0:10:09.320 nothing worse than having a messy friend you're gonna take 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:09.720 care of. 0:10:09.960 --> 0:10:12.200 Yeah, it's tricky because I feel like because I didn't drink, 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:14.200 I don't even really drink now, but I'm always a 0:10:14.200 --> 0:10:16.560 sober friend, and I'm like, this is just how drunk 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:18.800 people act, do you know, Like I just expect that, 0:10:18.880 --> 0:10:21.040 like it could manifest one of four way is going 0:10:21.120 --> 0:10:24.199 to be really aggressive, really happy, really sloppy, really chatty. 0:10:24.480 --> 0:10:25.880 Yeah that's just you being drunk. 0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:27.160 What's your least favorite of those? 0:10:28.120 --> 0:10:32.080 Sloppy in terms of like if you can't see when 0:10:32.080 --> 0:10:34.120 things are dangerous, Like I don't mind sloppy, silly or 0:10:34.160 --> 0:10:35.760 it's like I just did a silly thing. I'm so 0:10:35.800 --> 0:10:38.080 silly or whatever, but sloppy and silly where it's like 0:10:38.559 --> 0:10:42.640 you're about to fall downstairs, babe, or like you're hanging 0:10:42.679 --> 0:10:45.480 out of a car, like get it together, you can 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:48.280 pull it, you can rein it in for your own safety. 0:10:48.840 --> 0:10:51.600 And it's when they inadvertently make you responsible for them. 0:10:51.640 --> 0:10:53.120 It's like I didn't sign up to be your keeper. 0:10:53.480 --> 0:10:54.839 Come on, now, we're grown. 0:10:54.960 --> 0:10:59.079 I'm not on a wage a way, send an invoice 0:10:59.120 --> 0:11:01.080 the next day for my obates. 0:11:01.120 --> 0:11:01.600 Literally. 0:11:02.200 --> 0:11:04.920 Yeah, I'm trying to think of another one, like people 0:11:05.040 --> 0:11:08.280 were overly negative. Yeah, that's a really hard one, especially 0:11:08.280 --> 0:11:10.920 when you know they're kind of like anxious, or it's 0:11:10.920 --> 0:11:13.640 really hard when someone's trying to not be a certain way, 0:11:13.679 --> 0:11:16.360 like whether they're going to therapy or decide they don't 0:11:16.360 --> 0:11:17.800 want to be a certain way, but they still fall 0:11:17.800 --> 0:11:19.199 into that pattern. That's hard. 0:11:19.480 --> 0:11:20.959 Yeah, that is a tricky one because like I see 0:11:21.000 --> 0:11:23.199 the work you're putting in, put it in quicker, it's 0:11:23.240 --> 0:11:25.960 not enough. But the negative thing is another one. I 0:11:26.040 --> 0:11:30.400 make adjustments forward close friends, but with new people, I'm like, 0:11:30.559 --> 0:11:34.480 I can't I refuse to tell you that your reality 0:11:34.559 --> 0:11:36.839 isn't true anymore. Yeah, you know what I'm saying, Like, 0:11:36.880 --> 0:11:38.679 if you truly believe this how the world is, it's 0:11:38.720 --> 0:11:40.840 how the world works, then unless I have a stake 0:11:40.880 --> 0:11:43.160 in our relationship, I'm not doing it. Like, I don't 0:11:43.200 --> 0:11:45.000 care if it contradicts what I think. It's all good 0:11:45.960 --> 0:11:48.839 lips of sealed. It's just too much. You sign yourself 0:11:48.880 --> 0:11:50.800 up for stuff that you can't handle. But I do 0:11:50.880 --> 0:11:53.599 agree the point that Tinks made, especially we get to 0:11:53.679 --> 0:11:56.360 the point where if it's bothering you so much, it's 0:11:56.400 --> 0:11:58.360 now your problem. Yeah yeah, yeah, So like you got 0:11:58.400 --> 0:12:00.839 to figure out what's the rehabilitation and what we're doing? 0:12:00.960 --> 0:12:04.640 How you what's the program you've created to resolve what's 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:07.400 happening here? Because that one thing, like when I hear 0:12:07.440 --> 0:12:09.600 people complain about their friends, and like, I've heard this 0:12:09.640 --> 0:12:11.760 story before, So what are you to do about it? 0:12:12.120 --> 0:12:12.240 Well? 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:14.760 What am I meant to do? Like, she's grown? Okay, 0:12:14.880 --> 0:12:16.920 exactly what are you meant to do about she's grown? Hibit? 0:12:17.200 --> 0:12:17.600 Move on? 0:12:17.920 --> 0:12:18.520 Move on? 0:12:18.600 --> 0:12:21.840 Sick of hearing about it? Anyway, Sanks Tinks always love 0:12:21.840 --> 0:12:25.319 her little not even her little always love her social commentary. 0:12:25.559 --> 0:12:27.559 Honestly, I haven't seen her on my for you page 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:28.360 in I would say. 0:12:28.320 --> 0:12:30.840 Years, I'm on the instadgum watching the stories and one. 0:12:30.840 --> 0:12:33.840 Oh, I understand you're a rich mum. 0:12:34.200 --> 0:12:34.520 I am. 0:12:34.600 --> 0:12:36.520 I'm priming myself to be not gonna lie. 0:12:36.600 --> 0:12:38.080 This is flex and frooms. 0:12:39.320 --> 0:12:41.440 I was thinking about a bit of a moral dilemma 0:12:41.440 --> 0:12:44.240 the other day, totally unprovoked. This didn't happen to me. 0:12:44.480 --> 0:12:47.120 Now you're thinking off the clock, and I was wondering 0:12:47.120 --> 0:12:48.920 about Okay, let's say you're with a group of friends 0:12:49.200 --> 0:12:53.160 and you're going to the beach, going a Bondai beach. Okay, 0:12:53.720 --> 0:12:59.280 me always trying to bring bond Eye into conversations. It's 0:12:59.320 --> 0:13:03.000 not even Mike community. Anyway, You go there, parking's twelve 0:13:03.080 --> 0:13:05.160 dollars an hour. You decide, I'm just gonna wing it. 0:13:05.160 --> 0:13:06.600 I'm not going to pay for a park. You get 0:13:06.640 --> 0:13:10.800 back to the car, you're a parking fine naturally, And okay, 0:13:11.040 --> 0:13:13.000 you think it's the driver of the car that should 0:13:13.000 --> 0:13:14.880 get it. But what if everyone else in the car 0:13:15.160 --> 0:13:17.360 was egging them on and saying, oh yeah, nah, let's 0:13:17.360 --> 0:13:20.280 just get it. Don't worry about the ticket. Whose responsibility 0:13:20.360 --> 0:13:23.440 is it to pay? You tell me, I think, don't 0:13:23.480 --> 0:13:26.440 pretend you're thinking about that. You post on this topic because. 0:13:26.240 --> 0:13:28.160 You knew what your answer was. Let us have it. 0:13:28.720 --> 0:13:32.160 I think it's the driver's responsibility. It's your car. If 0:13:32.400 --> 0:13:34.959 I was the driver and everybody paid me, I think, well, 0:13:34.960 --> 0:13:36.880 that's so nice, But I'd feel like a bit of 0:13:36.880 --> 0:13:37.280 a grub. 0:13:37.520 --> 0:13:40.240 Yeah, this is a real situation. Have you experienced this? 0:13:40.520 --> 0:13:40.720 Nah? 0:13:40.920 --> 0:13:43.240 Be sure, no, no. But the other day a woman 0:13:43.320 --> 0:13:47.240 came over and she parked. I'm like, I'll pay for 0:13:47.280 --> 0:13:49.880 your parking. She's like, nah, I'll never buy parking. 0:13:50.000 --> 0:13:51.600 Why did you want to pay for a parking? 0:13:51.880 --> 0:13:53.000 She was doing a favor for me. 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:57.760 Is the way you A woman came over and then 0:13:57.760 --> 0:14:01.440 I said, is it a friend? It's like, what is happening? 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:02.120 Oh? 0:14:02.200 --> 0:14:02.440 Woman? 0:14:06.520 --> 0:14:07.040 Mysterious? 0:14:07.120 --> 0:14:09.240 Yeah. In this instance, if I was driving the car 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:11.720 for a bunch of friends and we had to park somewhere, 0:14:11.720 --> 0:14:14.040 I would pay for parking. Le's number one because I 0:14:14.520 --> 0:14:17.360 the thing that I'm learning in like in my maturation, 0:14:17.559 --> 0:14:19.800 is that I'm not the exception to the rule. So 0:14:19.920 --> 0:14:23.000 every time I get that little king of like, maybe 0:14:23.040 --> 0:14:25.440 I too can break the rules. When things will work out, 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:27.720 it's not worth the risk. I don't want to pay 0:14:28.120 --> 0:14:29.880 one hundred dollars two hundred dollars. I just pay for 0:14:29.920 --> 0:14:32.600 the ticket. I would not ask for people to split 0:14:32.640 --> 0:14:35.520 that ticket because I like the convenience of having the 0:14:35.600 --> 0:14:38.600 car and the petrol and it takes places. If we 0:14:38.680 --> 0:14:40.320 got a ticket, though, I would still pay it, and 0:14:40.320 --> 0:14:42.360 I wouldn't expect anyone else to pay it to me, 0:14:42.480 --> 0:14:44.640 because pear pressure is lame. When you're an. 0:14:44.560 --> 0:14:46.400 Adult, m sill what happens? 0:14:46.400 --> 0:14:49.560 So yeah, but even so, grow one or a pair whichever, 0:14:49.800 --> 0:14:53.320 grow what whatever you want it to be, Grow some resolve, 0:14:53.480 --> 0:14:55.040 like this whole idea of like, yeah, but you were 0:14:55.040 --> 0:14:56.680 all egging me on, and I did it because you 0:14:56.720 --> 0:14:59.480 guys said this is come on now. We learned this 0:14:59.560 --> 0:15:02.200 in prime. I'm school. If they're all jumping off the bridge, 0:15:02.200 --> 0:15:03.920 you say, I'll see you down there, and you know, drump, 0:15:04.320 --> 0:15:06.440 you say, right where you are, you call mom, Mom, 0:15:06.440 --> 0:15:08.520 come and get me. They're being weird again. They jumped 0:15:10.920 --> 0:15:13.240 so hectic. Look, I think it's a good Morrow's level 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:14.640 to have because I think it would happen more often 0:15:14.680 --> 0:15:16.840 than not. And I'm so sure that there are so 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:19.760 many people who would say you split it four ways 0:15:19.840 --> 0:15:21.480 or however many people are in the car, you would 0:15:21.520 --> 0:15:23.640 split it, oh, depending on the month, And I'm not 0:15:23.680 --> 0:15:24.440 surprised by that. 0:15:24.520 --> 0:15:28.200 I'm really not listening to Flex and frooms Okada. 0:15:28.360 --> 0:15:31.280 Thankfully for me, we've got small b real slander, because 0:15:31.440 --> 0:15:35.840 honestly the app is fine. It's whatever the conversation around it, though, 0:15:36.440 --> 0:15:39.200 I just think to myself, sure you hear what you're 0:15:39.240 --> 0:15:41.960 saying at this moment. But thankfully for me, it's not 0:15:42.040 --> 0:15:44.200 my time to rant on the internet because somebody has 0:15:44.200 --> 0:15:46.960 sent me a voice memo with their own be real 0:15:47.080 --> 0:15:48.720 rant and I'm just here to share it. 0:15:48.760 --> 0:15:51.440 That's the name. I'm but a messenger, Tiagan. 0:15:51.360 --> 0:15:54.480 Flex flex Flex and I saw and I have noticed 0:15:54.640 --> 0:15:57.120 in the last couple of days a few people like 0:15:57.360 --> 0:16:03.400 reposting their be reels on Instagram for what I think 0:16:03.560 --> 0:16:06.080 is only because it's a be real or something cool. 0:16:07.320 --> 0:16:10.440 So I'm wondering if this, like a coole be real 0:16:10.960 --> 0:16:16.360 thing is now infiltrating into Instagram as like a highlight 0:16:16.400 --> 0:16:19.200 reel of the be Real. Anyway, after that you know 0:16:19.440 --> 0:16:21.840 episode that you guys it the other day about I 0:16:21.880 --> 0:16:24.080 was thinking that be Real is, you know, a more 0:16:24.160 --> 0:16:27.720 wholesome sort of page. I feel like it might transcend 0:16:27.760 --> 0:16:30.520 into Instagram and become like this highlight reel of the 0:16:30.520 --> 0:16:33.960 be Reels, but the actual true be with be Reels 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:37.080 will stay on that particular page. 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:40.760 Wow, beautiful tone of voice. Yeah, love love taking a voice. 0:16:40.800 --> 0:16:42.200 She was sangled on this radio show. 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:45.760 So from my understanding, Tigan's kind of saying the whole 0:16:45.800 --> 0:16:49.960 ethos of be Reels to have a honest, candid moment 0:16:50.200 --> 0:16:53.120 on the app just for that time, for that ecosystem 0:16:53.200 --> 0:16:56.840 of your friends, and then you leave that there. People 0:16:56.880 --> 0:16:59.640 are praising be real for an attitude that they won't 0:16:59.640 --> 0:17:02.440 carry into the app by taking what you're meant to 0:17:02.480 --> 0:17:04.200 be doing on be real and putting it on the 0:17:04.240 --> 0:17:06.800 platform that you hate. Because it's all of these things. 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:10.120 It's a highlight reel to curate it, it's this and that. 0:17:10.560 --> 0:17:14.080 It's a contradictory thing because it's never really the platforms 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:17.040 to begin with. We are the sum of the platforms. 0:17:17.240 --> 0:17:20.280 Everything you hate about Instagram is what you directly invested 0:17:20.280 --> 0:17:22.880 your time and energy into. Everything that you love about 0:17:22.960 --> 0:17:25.800 Instagram is what you directly invested your time and energy into. 0:17:26.280 --> 0:17:31.199 Assuming that this mass exodus to a new platform without 0:17:31.200 --> 0:17:34.560 the consideration of how your behaviors impact the platform will 0:17:34.640 --> 0:17:36.919