WEBVTT - This is what people usually get wrong with manifesting… 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:04.440 The Rise and Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:07.840 the land which this episode is being recorded. We further 0:00:08.000 --> 0:00:12.120 acknowledge country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea 0:00:12.280 --> 0:00:15.600 and community. We pay our respect to their elders past 0:00:15.720 --> 0:00:19.400 and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and 0:00:19.480 --> 0:00:32.640 terrestrid Islander peoples. Today. Hello and welcome back to the 0:00:32.760 --> 0:00:36.400 Rise and Conquer Podcasts. This is the podcast for ordinary 0:00:36.440 --> 0:00:50.320 people who want to do extraordinary things. Hello and welcome 0:00:50.360 --> 0:00:53.440 back to the Rise and Conquer Potty. Today we have 0:00:53.600 --> 0:00:57.560 a fun Friday app with a twist. It's not a hotline, 0:00:58.080 --> 0:01:03.200 it's actually just an all webisode, but it's a pep 0:01:03.240 --> 0:01:07.000 talk and you guys love pep talks and it's about manifesting. 0:01:07.160 --> 0:01:09.200 So I feel like this is very exciting. It is 0:01:09.240 --> 0:01:14.119 like my favorite piece of content produce is So guys, 0:01:14.240 --> 0:01:19.400 Today we are talking about the missing factor, which is 0:01:19.520 --> 0:01:23.440 this is the part that often people they know about, 0:01:23.480 --> 0:01:27.680 they just don't do very well. So true, it's hard, 0:01:27.920 --> 0:01:32.679 It's really hard. Today we are chatting surrender. Why why 0:01:32.760 --> 0:01:37.600 it is so important? And I really try and give 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:40.360 you some great examples of surrender. So you can really 0:01:40.480 --> 0:01:45.440 understand honestly, when you can master this part of manifesting. 0:01:45.959 --> 0:01:51.400 Oh dare I say you don't need the rest? No, 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:54.080 that's not true, but it does make it a lot 0:01:54.080 --> 0:01:58.200 of ye. So I'm so excited to share this episode 0:01:58.360 --> 0:02:00.480 with you guys and get into it, because yeah, when 0:02:00.480 --> 0:02:03.560 you know how to do this step, it is monumental 0:02:04.160 --> 0:02:08.480 in your manifesting practices. But before we get into the episode, 0:02:08.760 --> 0:02:13.240 weekly recommendation A tear, what's yours? You go first? This 0:02:13.400 --> 0:02:16.960 wreck has been I'm on a bit of a challenge 0:02:17.320 --> 0:02:22.519 adventure right now where I'm trying to find what works 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:25.239 for me to shift me out of my energy state 0:02:25.440 --> 0:02:30.839 of work life to mumlife. Because there it probably wasn't 0:02:30.880 --> 0:02:32.440 last week. It was the week before. I just had 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:33.959 a really tough week where I had a lot of 0:02:33.960 --> 0:02:36.519 stuff going on at work, some like you know, quite 0:02:36.560 --> 0:02:39.400 full on stuff, and I was really bringing work home 0:02:40.000 --> 0:02:42.080 and it was just not great for Tim and Ivy 0:02:42.120 --> 0:02:44.200 and I felt really bad about it. And I just 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:47.320 realized how much my energy was like leaking and I 0:02:47.400 --> 0:02:51.240 wasn't being intentional enough, and so I was like, no, 0:02:51.360 --> 0:02:53.800 I've got to make sure, like I, you know, focus 0:02:53.880 --> 0:02:57.880 on this because it's what's best for the VAM. And 0:02:58.120 --> 0:03:00.799 the latest thing that I found so I actually do 0:03:01.200 --> 0:03:04.280 is I literally put a timer on for five minutes 0:03:04.320 --> 0:03:06.680 when I get in my car. And this might be 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:08.320 at the warehouse or it might be when I get home, 0:03:08.440 --> 0:03:11.040 just depends and I just sit there and I just 0:03:11.120 --> 0:03:15.680 do some deep belly breathing and that has been really helpful. 0:03:16.080 --> 0:03:18.840 And then so something else too is me and Ivy 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:22.600 have dance parties. Oh so so cute. There's this a 0:03:22.680 --> 0:03:29.079 kid's channel called kids Bops Kids. I think that's it. 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:33.040 There's like these little kids that were like a group 0:03:33.120 --> 0:03:37.080 of dances and they do dances to like really familiar 0:03:38.760 --> 0:03:42.600 I love it so much, actually so funny. But Ivy's obsessed. 0:03:43.120 --> 0:03:49.760 She's like and then she's like the podcast, I don't 0:03:49.800 --> 0:03:56.200 know what you're doing. Quick for me. She dances and 0:03:56.240 --> 0:03:58.120 it's so cute. And I did that, actually did that 0:03:58.200 --> 0:04:00.560 last night and it was so good. So yeah, that's 0:04:00.600 --> 0:04:02.880 like my recommendation because I think even if you're not 0:04:02.920 --> 0:04:05.160 a mom, I used to struggle with this and I 0:04:05.160 --> 0:04:08.160 wish I implemented this before of I would one hundred 0:04:08.160 --> 0:04:11.680 percent take work home with me and like let it 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:15.080 affect my mood, especially with Tim or even what then 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:17.919 would happen is I'd think about something, I'd jump on 0:04:17.960 --> 0:04:20.600 my computer, you'd do it. Whereas if you've got like 0:04:20.640 --> 0:04:23.960 a clear boundary of like no shifting the energy. And 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:26.320 after that dance party, I did not want to go 0:04:26.320 --> 0:04:28.520 on my phone or my laptop or anything, and I 0:04:28.560 --> 0:04:30.320 just wanted to like be there in the moment. So 0:04:31.200 --> 0:04:33.800 that's something I'm being like very intentional on. And I 0:04:33.800 --> 0:04:36.560 feel like, you know, people can definitely better fit from 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:38.600 because we're all, you know, married to our work. 0:04:38.880 --> 0:04:42.360 Yeah, And I think especially I've struggled with that boundary 0:04:42.360 --> 0:04:44.440 when I work from home, Like it's just so easy 0:04:44.480 --> 0:04:45.640 to do one more thing. 0:04:45.920 --> 0:04:46.679 So easy. 0:04:46.839 --> 0:04:48.760 So it's like having that strict. 0:04:48.760 --> 0:04:52.080 I hate break unpopular opinion. I hate working from home. 0:04:53.360 --> 0:04:53.840 Hate it. 0:04:54.440 --> 0:04:57.680 I get so much done though that's my thing. 0:04:57.920 --> 0:04:59.719 It's kind of different for me now. I feel like 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:03.720 back in the day, loved it, but now more distracted 0:05:03.720 --> 0:05:05.560 because Tim and Ivy are like playing and I want 0:05:05.560 --> 0:05:07.880 to go play with them. And I very much associate 0:05:07.920 --> 0:05:11.040 my home esp actually my new house, to relaxing. 0:05:11.320 --> 0:05:14.000 Yeah, so you don't want that energy? 0:05:14.480 --> 0:05:18.320 No, fair enough, what's your recommendation Tea. 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:22.720 My recommendation, no context recommendation, make sure you have a 0:05:22.800 --> 0:05:23.560 fire extinguisher. 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:25.800 I feel like you have to give them a context 0:05:25.880 --> 0:05:29.799 because like, what are you talking about? Okay? 0:05:30.000 --> 0:05:34.359 Context for that one is a bit of an eventful 0:05:34.400 --> 0:05:37.200 Friday night. One of my neighbor's cars ended up on 0:05:37.320 --> 0:05:39.800 fire and we tried putting the fire out with a 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:43.080 host pipe, which didn't work. But luckily someone who's a 0:05:43.120 --> 0:05:46.240 trade who it's actually I think compulsory for them to 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:48.520 have like the first aid kit and a fire extinguisher 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:50.840 in their car. He had one and he got it 0:05:50.839 --> 0:05:52.479 out and it actually that was the only thing that 0:05:52.520 --> 0:05:56.039 put the fire of the car out. So I reckon 0:05:56.120 --> 0:05:57.800 that's just like a good safe thing to have in 0:05:57.839 --> 0:05:59.479 your house because you can't always no. 0:05:59.480 --> 0:06:01.960 One has one. That's such a good like like no 0:06:02.040 --> 0:06:04.560 one has. I also can't believe your neighbor's car was 0:06:04.600 --> 0:06:06.560 set on fire by like a car bomb or what? 0:06:06.600 --> 0:06:18.520 I what? What neighborhood? That's my initial thoughts. Okay, are 0:06:18.560 --> 0:06:24.039 you saying the place? I know? That's what's concerning, like 0:06:24.200 --> 0:06:27.280 no one's safe. Oh look, I come from a neighborhood 0:06:27.279 --> 0:06:29.880 when your car stolen, so don't worry. 0:06:31.400 --> 0:06:33.400 It was so funny because after I looked at my parents, 0:06:33.440 --> 0:06:35.520 I'm like, do you ever just wonder if it was 0:06:35.520 --> 0:06:36.440 worth moving here. 0:06:36.760 --> 0:06:44.360 Stuff like this? They're like, shut up, like, look at 0:06:44.360 --> 0:06:49.520 your life. It's great. You're a great life. All right, 0:06:49.600 --> 0:07:00.880 let's get into the episode. All right, let's chat Surrender. 0:07:01.680 --> 0:07:04.800 I wanted to chat about surrender because obviously, as you 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:08.880 guys know, the project is available and the card is open, 0:07:09.320 --> 0:07:13.400 and it is a manifesting course, and the biggest part 0:07:13.560 --> 0:07:17.920 of manifesting that I feel like most people get tripped 0:07:18.040 --> 0:07:22.160 up on is the surrender part, which is kind of 0:07:22.240 --> 0:07:24.760 like the end part. Obviously there's you know, a bit 0:07:24.760 --> 0:07:27.080 more to it, and so I wanted to spend some 0:07:27.240 --> 0:07:31.400 time today just really talking about like what surrender is, 0:07:31.680 --> 0:07:36.040 what it looks like, and why it is so important 0:07:36.760 --> 0:07:41.280 to really like lock into and trust and believe, because guys, 0:07:41.320 --> 0:07:46.080 if you don't surrender, you will not manifest. And I'm 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:51.720 loving my relationship with surrender because it's really evolving. So 0:07:52.080 --> 0:07:55.200 how I used to look at surrender and really like 0:07:55.320 --> 0:07:58.280 lock into it is really changing. And then even I've 0:07:58.280 --> 0:08:02.680 been very open about like, like my relationship with surrendered 0:08:02.720 --> 0:08:05.360 this year is really like going to a whole new 0:08:05.480 --> 0:08:09.480 level because I'm doing something. If you guys listen to 0:08:09.840 --> 0:08:15.160 like our New Year's Resolutions episode, my whole like resolution 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:17.720 almost like planned for the year to not have a 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:21.080 plan so I don't limit myself so I can completely 0:08:21.120 --> 0:08:24.640 like surrender to like the universe's plan. And if you 0:08:24.680 --> 0:08:27.400 would have told me that I'm seeing like saying these 0:08:27.440 --> 0:08:30.280 words just you know, even last year or the year before, 0:08:30.400 --> 0:08:32.839 I would be like, no, that is what I would 0:08:32.880 --> 0:08:36.000 never do that because I am a control freak and 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:40.960 I love planning, and I think as humans we love 0:08:41.040 --> 0:08:45.680 this concept of knowing the future, knowing an outcome, knowing 0:08:45.760 --> 0:08:49.319 I can do this action and have this outcome. But 0:08:49.400 --> 0:08:53.040 what's so beautiful about surrender is if you can really 0:08:53.040 --> 0:08:56.240 trust and lock in, it's going to be better than 0:08:56.280 --> 0:08:59.679 you could have imagined. And that's why I really this 0:08:59.800 --> 0:09:05.280 year and like next level surrendering if that's even a word, 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:08.480 or to yah, I'm in this, like yeah, I'm on this, 0:09:08.600 --> 0:09:11.960 like this journey of surrendering and bringing it to a 0:09:11.960 --> 0:09:14.400 whole new level, which is going to be very very 0:09:14.600 --> 0:09:15.160 hard for me. 0:09:15.760 --> 0:09:19.480 But anyway, enough about me, what sort of like made 0:09:19.520 --> 0:09:25.240 you want to make that your news resolution almost well. 0:09:25.280 --> 0:09:29.280 The catalyst was last year, I planned my whole year, 0:09:29.440 --> 0:09:31.360 so I kind of knew exactly how it was going 0:09:31.400 --> 0:09:34.400 to go for work. And I did that because it 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:36.720 was my first year as a mom, and I very 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:40.840 much was trying to control something of my life because 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:43.320 I knew the year of being a first time mom, 0:09:43.360 --> 0:09:45.480 I didn't know what that would hold, so I was 0:09:45.480 --> 0:09:47.480 trying to control saying so like I locked in all 0:09:47.520 --> 0:09:51.320 these things. And even though i accomplished so much, and 0:09:51.360 --> 0:09:53.520 I'm so proud of my achievements and I'm so proud 0:09:53.559 --> 0:09:55.880 of my year, and again, I would never change anything. 0:09:56.720 --> 0:10:01.600 I just I guess I didn't feel how I thought 0:10:01.679 --> 0:10:03.719 I would. And I got to the end of the 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:05.960 year and I felt quite burnt out, and I felt 0:10:06.000 --> 0:10:09.040 quite exhausted, and I felt like I had taken on 0:10:09.160 --> 0:10:12.080 all these things and it wasn't really in line with 0:10:12.480 --> 0:10:15.079 my values and how I wanted to shot. So I 0:10:15.160 --> 0:10:17.920 knew I had to make some shifts. So the biggest 0:10:18.000 --> 0:10:21.840 kind of aha moment when I realized my blind spot 0:10:21.920 --> 0:10:25.800 in life is I try and plan everything. But when 0:10:25.840 --> 0:10:29.000 you try and plan everything, you're not leaving room for 0:10:29.120 --> 0:10:34.080 any you know, beautiful miracles or beautiful you know, things 0:10:34.080 --> 0:10:35.480 to fall into place. 0:10:35.720 --> 0:10:38.120 You're almost blocking it, blocking. 0:10:37.720 --> 0:10:41.040 It, and I like, I had this like aha moment 0:10:41.080 --> 0:10:44.440 where I was like, I really wonder what could have 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:48.920 unfolded this year if I just completely surrendered and I 0:10:49.080 --> 0:10:52.719 just like leant into what's the decision I want to 0:10:52.760 --> 0:10:55.480 make right now in the next you know, two to 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:59.120 four weeks rather than four months down the track. And 0:10:59.160 --> 0:11:01.760 so I don't know, it's like it's in my evolution. 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:03.880 And I know a lot of people maybe are listening 0:11:03.960 --> 0:11:06.280 and just like I can't even comprehend that, And that 0:11:06.440 --> 0:11:09.280 was I completely get that. But for me, I'm just 0:11:09.360 --> 0:11:11.720 really excited to like lean into a whole new level 0:11:11.760 --> 0:11:15.480 of surrender. But a lot of people get tripped up 0:11:15.559 --> 0:11:20.920 on surrender and they're like we always have if you're 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:23.480 in control freak and if you like I don't like 0:11:23.880 --> 0:11:26.400 you know, if you're a planner and you know someone 0:11:26.440 --> 0:11:28.560 who has order and you love structure and you love 0:11:29.200 --> 0:11:31.840 calendars and all those things, you're not gonna love surrender. 0:11:32.000 --> 0:11:33.880 And it's just it is what it is. But it's 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:36.040 fine because I'm gonna chat to you about it today 0:11:36.080 --> 0:11:38.200 so you can get more comfortable with that and just 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:43.000 be open minded. So surrender is kind of the last 0:11:43.040 --> 0:11:47.559 stage of manifesting after you have done all the previous steps, 0:11:47.559 --> 0:11:49.240 and it's kind of like you would have heard on 0:11:49.280 --> 0:11:52.880 social media, it's like, you know this or something better. 0:11:53.600 --> 0:11:55.920 I guess you end it on this or something better. 0:11:56.000 --> 0:11:59.960 So you try and not attach yourself to the outcome. 0:12:00.200 --> 0:12:02.760 That is like a huge, huge thing. So I want 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:06.640 you guys to think of and you know, we got 0:12:06.760 --> 0:12:10.080 I got literally a beautiful DM just on the holidays 0:12:10.080 --> 0:12:13.280 of someone you know, expressing that this really amazing thing 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:16.040 had happened for them and then it was taken away. 0:12:16.320 --> 0:12:18.800 And she's just like, how can I surrender in this 0:12:18.920 --> 0:12:22.280 moment because it just feels so cruel and it feels 0:12:22.280 --> 0:12:24.920 so why would the universe do this for me? Yeah, 0:12:24.960 --> 0:12:27.040 and I you know, sent her this voice in just 0:12:27.200 --> 0:12:29.480 was like, honestly, I know it's so hard to think 0:12:29.520 --> 0:12:32.120 of think of it now, but it's like, these are 0:12:32.120 --> 0:12:35.560 the moments where we need to surrender the most. And 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:38.160 let me just explain you. So I love to look 0:12:38.200 --> 0:12:45.080 at surrender like the relationship of a parent and child. Oh, 0:12:45.160 --> 0:12:48.800 so think of the universe like the parent and you 0:12:49.160 --> 0:12:52.960 as the child. So for example, let's just say, and 0:12:53.000 --> 0:12:54.800 I can I feel like I can relate to this 0:12:54.920 --> 0:12:57.760 so much more now being a parent. But like, let's 0:12:57.800 --> 0:13:01.679 just say. You know, me and Ivy, we're marking around 0:13:01.920 --> 0:13:05.760 and I can see she's getting a bit tired, and 0:13:05.920 --> 0:13:08.880 so I'm like, all right, Ivy, like, let's here's your bottle. 0:13:09.040 --> 0:13:11.600 Let's go to sleep, have a sleep, and then you'll 0:13:11.640 --> 0:13:14.160 wake up and we'll go for a swim and we'll 0:13:14.160 --> 0:13:17.000 have it. We'll have a great time. But Ivy's like, no, 0:13:17.080 --> 0:13:20.439 I just want to play. Yeah, And I'm like, I 0:13:20.480 --> 0:13:23.439 know you want to play, but trust me, you're tired, 0:13:23.480 --> 0:13:26.920 you're cranky, you're having tantrums. Let's just have you know 0:13:27.040 --> 0:13:29.000 your bottle and let's go to sleep, and you're going 0:13:29.000 --> 0:13:31.520 to feel so much better. And she's like, no, I 0:13:31.640 --> 0:13:34.640 want to play. So she's chucking in tantrum, she's being crazy, 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:36.720 and then we both end up in tears, and it's 0:13:36.760 --> 0:13:40.800 this whole big thing. Yeah, think of that. So as 0:13:40.920 --> 0:13:44.280 you know, mere little as humans, we like to control 0:13:44.320 --> 0:13:47.280 things and we like to plan. So you're like, no, no, no, 0:13:47.360 --> 0:13:50.720 I have this plan. Yeah, And the universe, as the parent, 0:13:50.840 --> 0:13:53.520 is like no, no, no, trust me, just take a 0:13:53.600 --> 0:13:56.200 nap and everything's going to be better. And you're like, 0:13:56.640 --> 0:13:59.040 I don't want to take a nap. I have my plan. 0:13:59.280 --> 0:14:03.120 I have my and the universe is going just fucking 0:14:03.160 --> 0:14:08.079 trust me. I know what's good for you. Yeah, And 0:14:08.360 --> 0:14:10.959 like I think of it that way. So I love 0:14:11.040 --> 0:14:14.120 that example when you're like, no, I have a plan. 0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:17.600 It's supposed to be like this. You have to trust that. 0:14:17.679 --> 0:14:22.360 The universe is like, trust me, just do this thing now. 0:14:22.480 --> 0:14:25.760 Whatever happens, happens, and hold on because it's going to 0:14:25.800 --> 0:14:27.400 be better. You're going to wake up, you're going to 0:14:27.400 --> 0:14:29.880 be happy. We'll have more food, We'll go see dad, 0:14:29.920 --> 0:14:32.520 we'll go in the sprinklers like it's going to be amazing. Yeah, 0:14:32.800 --> 0:14:35.760 or like we'll go see your friend. Where's Ivy who 0:14:35.800 --> 0:14:39.000 can't comprehend that. And she can't understand that because she's 0:14:39.040 --> 0:14:42.200 a baby. Yeah, she's like she's just she's like, no, 0:14:43.000 --> 0:14:44.720 I want to play now. I want to play now. 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:48.480 And that is how I kind of love to explain 0:14:48.560 --> 0:14:51.120 like surrendering, because as humans, we think we know it 0:14:51.160 --> 0:14:53.080 all and we're like, no, but I have this plan. 0:14:53.120 --> 0:14:55.160 I want to do this thing. But what we don't 0:14:55.240 --> 0:14:59.480 realize is there is a much bigger plan happening that 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:03.000 we can't but see right this moment. That is like, 0:15:03.120 --> 0:15:05.000 it's going to be better for us in the long run. 0:15:05.080 --> 0:15:07.760 It's going to be bigger and better and more in 0:15:07.880 --> 0:15:10.400 lined and totally us and it's gonna make us feel 0:15:10.440 --> 0:15:13.560 so good. But we're so focused on no I want 0:15:13.640 --> 0:15:16.920 to play even though we're fucking tired and exhausted and 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:21.000 throwing tantrums, that we're missing the whole thing. And it's 0:15:21.080 --> 0:15:25.320 like it's going to go that way either like either 0:15:25.440 --> 0:15:29.080 or so you most will enjoy the ride, and so Ivy, 0:15:29.160 --> 0:15:31.280 most will just go to sleep and have a great sleep. 0:15:31.480 --> 0:15:32.200 Yeah. 0:15:32.280 --> 0:15:35.760 So who is that kind of a good explanation of surrender? 0:15:36.120 --> 0:15:38.800 Very very good because I feel like a lot of 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:42.600 the time too, like so many things have happened to 0:15:42.640 --> 0:15:45.400 my life where I'm like, in that moment, I could 0:15:45.480 --> 0:15:49.040 have never have known, so like, in that moment, I 0:15:49.080 --> 0:15:51.160 wish I could just go back and be like, trust me, 0:15:51.560 --> 0:15:54.360 enjoy the ride, don't even let this worry you. Keep 0:15:54.400 --> 0:15:57.400 going because it's going to get, like, you know, even better. Yeah, 0:15:57.440 --> 0:15:59.760 And of course we can never go back to those moments, 0:15:59.800 --> 0:16:03.400 and of course in those moments we're angry and we're upset, 0:16:03.400 --> 0:16:07.360 and it's good to feel those feelings. But if we 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:12.560 can trust that the universe as a parent is supporting us, 0:16:12.760 --> 0:16:15.640 is loving us, and knows what's best for us in 0:16:15.680 --> 0:16:20.280 a higher self sense and just like completely has our back, 0:16:21.000 --> 0:16:24.840 imagine that feeling. Imagine doing life in that feeling instead 0:16:24.880 --> 0:16:30.880 of you know, throwing a tantrum m. That's a good bike. 0:16:33.640 --> 0:16:36.600 So that's kind of like if I'm going through moments 0:16:36.720 --> 0:16:39.080 and this is another thing, is like when life's feeling 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:42.240 like hard and difficult, I'm like, what that fuck? I 0:16:43.000 --> 0:16:45.320 literally take a step back or write on my journal 0:16:45.320 --> 0:16:50.000 and I'm like, where am I not surrendering? Where am 0:16:50.040 --> 0:16:55.359 I actually going against the grain making things harder for myself? 0:16:55.760 --> 0:16:59.760 And where am I not letting go and trusting that 0:16:59.800 --> 0:17:02.720 it's going to be better than I could have imagined. 0:17:02.880 --> 0:17:11.000 I asked myself that I love that. Let's just talk 0:17:11.040 --> 0:17:13.640 about some times in my life. I'm very open about 0:17:14.040 --> 0:17:17.720 a couple of years ago before we had Ivy, me 0:17:17.760 --> 0:17:21.320 and Tim had a long trying to conceive journey for 0:17:21.320 --> 0:17:23.680 about a year, which when you're trying for a baby, 0:17:23.680 --> 0:17:26.800 it feels like an eternity because you know everyone else 0:17:26.840 --> 0:17:29.880 is getting pregnant, and every single month you're waiting, you're 0:17:29.920 --> 0:17:32.959 trying to get this specific time, and it's a bit 0:17:33.000 --> 0:17:35.000 of a mind fuck. But yeah, we tried for a 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:37.879 very long time and then we had a miscarriage and 0:17:38.160 --> 0:17:41.600 very much felt like, what the fuck? How could you 0:17:41.640 --> 0:17:43.199 give us something and then take it away? It's so 0:17:43.359 --> 0:17:48.800 cruel and what could ever be, you know, the beautiful 0:17:48.840 --> 0:17:51.560 side of this or the better that I could have imagined. 0:17:52.359 --> 0:17:54.960 And so of course, in that moment, like I let 0:17:54.960 --> 0:17:58.159 myself have the feelings and saden that. But then you know, 0:17:58.359 --> 0:18:02.199 like with hindsight, you noise see a clearer picture. But 0:18:02.320 --> 0:18:06.040 it's like if I, if I didn't have a miscarriage, 0:18:06.119 --> 0:18:09.840 like we wouldn't have IVY. Yeah, just like you know, 0:18:09.960 --> 0:18:14.879 situations like that, and even I thought, I remember when 0:18:14.920 --> 0:18:18.679 COVID hit like Naked Harvest was like we had literally 0:18:18.720 --> 0:18:22.879 and he just started Naked Harvest. It was maybe a 0:18:23.040 --> 0:18:25.879 year old, so it's very much in its infancy. 0:18:26.119 --> 0:18:27.200 That's so nerve wracking. 0:18:27.359 --> 0:18:31.240 And I remember crying and some of my best friends 0:18:31.240 --> 0:18:33.200 coming over and being like, you know, what's wrong, And 0:18:33.240 --> 0:18:36.600 I was like beside myself because I was so worried 0:18:37.080 --> 0:18:40.400 and I remember I had to really journal and be like, Okay, 0:18:40.520 --> 0:18:43.680 I trust that, you know, I trust that it's going 0:18:43.720 --> 0:18:45.520 to work out. I trust this is going to be 0:18:45.520 --> 0:18:47.320 better than I could have imagined. And I had to 0:18:47.359 --> 0:18:51.320 really let go. I was very like, very emotional and 0:18:51.440 --> 0:18:54.199 very beside myself, and then like covid ended up being 0:18:54.200 --> 0:18:56.720 one of the best things for most e commerce stores. Yeah, 0:18:57.320 --> 0:19:03.959 so like just different scenarios like that is just in 0:19:04.000 --> 0:19:07.000 those moments when things don't work, you've just got to 0:19:07.000 --> 0:19:09.480 trust and surrender. And even in little moments like the 0:19:09.520 --> 0:19:12.359 other day, me and Ellie were trying to book in 0:19:12.480 --> 0:19:17.760 We're getting a tattoo, and they kept like changing the 0:19:17.880 --> 0:19:20.000 dates and it was all hard, and then we finally 0:19:20.000 --> 0:19:22.000 got this date and I was like, yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:19:22.119 --> 0:19:24.000 just book it in. I paid the deposit, and then 0:19:24.040 --> 0:19:26.159 like I realized in my calendar we had like a 0:19:26.240 --> 0:19:30.560 very important interview and I was like fuck, and then 0:19:30.600 --> 0:19:32.600 I just kind of left it. And I literally remember 0:19:32.600 --> 0:19:35.800 saying it's fine, it'll work itself out. It's fine. I like, 0:19:35.840 --> 0:19:38.639 I'll deal with this later, and it's not about neglecting things, 0:19:38.640 --> 0:19:40.960 but I was just like, oh, look, it's fine, we'll 0:19:41.040 --> 0:19:42.960 sort it out. We'll sort it out. I'm not gonna 0:19:43.280 --> 0:19:45.200 I'm not going to get into TV about it. And 0:19:45.359 --> 0:19:47.240 I just didn't have time at that moment to sort out. 0:19:47.240 --> 0:19:49.359 So I'm like, it was I'll sort out. Literally, like 0:19:49.400 --> 0:19:51.800 a couple of days later, that interview got canceled and 0:19:51.840 --> 0:19:55.760 put to another day, and I just went life happens 0:19:55.760 --> 0:19:58.840 for me. Life happens for me. And because I just surrendered, 0:19:58.880 --> 0:20:00.960 I'm just like, oh, it's fine, Like I'm not gonna 0:20:01.000 --> 0:20:03.560 let this worry me. So it's like you can surrender 0:20:03.880 --> 0:20:07.240 very small moments like that or in the really big 0:20:07.400 --> 0:20:12.479 moments and they're both going to It just adds to 0:20:12.520 --> 0:20:15.680 your like quality of life. Quality of life, like, because 0:20:15.720 --> 0:20:18.760 do you want to go through life stressing out? Yeah, 0:20:18.800 --> 0:20:21.560 being fucking stressed all the time, or do you want 0:20:21.600 --> 0:20:27.960 to be like, ah, it's all good. That's like that's 0:20:28.000 --> 0:20:31.000 what I think about. And I'm like, oh, that feeling 0:20:31.560 --> 0:20:34.800 of not being stressed and really believing that things get 0:20:34.880 --> 0:20:37.480 to work out, things get to be better than I 0:20:37.520 --> 0:20:42.159 could have imagined has helped me so much in my 0:20:42.240 --> 0:20:45.480 personal development and just in life. So guys, if you're 0:20:45.480 --> 0:20:48.520 listening to this episode and you're like, look, I love 0:20:48.520 --> 0:20:50.240 what you're talking about, but I just like I don't 0:20:50.280 --> 0:20:54.040 trust or like I can't step into that. I get that, 0:20:54.320 --> 0:20:56.560 and that's what we teach you in the project. So 0:20:56.720 --> 0:21:00.720 come and join us. Yeah, because when you can live 0:21:00.840 --> 0:21:04.439 your life in that way, in that shift, and you 0:21:04.480 --> 0:21:06.600 can and it's not so much like you're just like 0:21:06.640 --> 0:21:10.399 ah whatever, like airy fairy lucky goes happy, nothing affects you. 0:21:10.840 --> 0:21:13.880 Things still affect me and I've got to work through them. 0:21:14.240 --> 0:21:16.919 But it's just having the tools to work through the 0:21:17.040 --> 0:21:20.639 thing and sit in that surrender feeling. It's a skill, 0:21:21.200 --> 0:21:24.160 it's a skill. It's a learned skill like anything. But 0:21:24.280 --> 0:21:27.960 once you were able to do it, it's seriously it 0:21:28.240 --> 0:21:31.160 armed you. It arms you, and you're able to go 0:21:31.280 --> 0:21:35.040 through life in a completely different energy because also tear 0:21:35.160 --> 0:21:38.119 like the energy of I feel like even like you know, 0:21:38.160 --> 0:21:42.320 the people of when their energy is oh, I don't 0:21:42.359 --> 0:21:44.800 really care if I get that thing or not, compared 0:21:44.840 --> 0:21:48.440 to I must get that thing. Yeah, how much does 0:21:48.480 --> 0:21:51.080 the energy of oh I must get that thing repel 0:21:51.200 --> 0:21:54.760 you so much? It's like iky, it's oh, don't try, 0:21:57.680 --> 0:22:00.320 you know. Like let's say imagine a friend and then like, oh, 0:22:00.359 --> 0:22:02.040 he's texting you to hang out and they're like really 0:22:02.040 --> 0:22:03.280 like I want to do this, I want to do that, 0:22:03.280 --> 0:22:06.960 and you're like stop, give me my space. Compared to 0:22:06.960 --> 0:22:10.040 the person who's like they're confident in themselves, they catch 0:22:10.080 --> 0:22:12.080 up some types and they're like, beautiful energy to be 0:22:12.119 --> 0:22:14.280 around you. Yeah, I want to hang out with that person. 0:22:15.200 --> 0:22:18.399 And I think so much if you go through life 0:22:18.560 --> 0:22:23.119 really having attached energy to the things you want, you 0:22:23.160 --> 0:22:26.879 are honestly going to repel people and the things that 0:22:26.960 --> 0:22:27.399 you want. 0:22:27.800 --> 0:22:32.560 It's almost like surrenders. The difference between working hard for 0:22:32.640 --> 0:22:35.680 something and attracting it to you it. 0:22:35.720 --> 0:22:38.920 Is it's like the difference like think it's the difference 0:22:38.960 --> 0:22:44.160 between like hustle culture and like goddess energy. Yeah, which 0:22:44.320 --> 0:22:47.920 in saying that, I really want to stress that it's 0:22:48.040 --> 0:22:51.280