1 00:00:00,400 --> 00:00:04,440 Speaker 1: The Rise and Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of 2 00:00:04,519 --> 00:00:07,840 Speaker 1: the land which this episode is being recorded. We further 3 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:12,120 Speaker 1: acknowledge country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea 4 00:00:12,280 --> 00:00:15,600 Speaker 1: and community. We pay our respect to their elders past 5 00:00:15,720 --> 00:00:19,400 Speaker 1: and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and 6 00:00:19,480 --> 00:00:32,640 Speaker 1: terrestrid Islander peoples. Today. Hello and welcome back to the 7 00:00:32,760 --> 00:00:36,400 Speaker 1: Rise and Conquer Podcasts. This is the podcast for ordinary 8 00:00:36,440 --> 00:00:50,320 Speaker 1: people who want to do extraordinary things. Hello and welcome 9 00:00:50,360 --> 00:00:53,440 Speaker 1: back to the Rise and Conquer Potty. Today we have 10 00:00:53,600 --> 00:00:57,560 Speaker 1: a fun Friday app with a twist. It's not a hotline, 11 00:00:58,080 --> 00:01:03,200 Speaker 1: it's actually just an all webisode, but it's a pep 12 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:07,000 Speaker 1: talk and you guys love pep talks and it's about manifesting. 13 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:09,200 Speaker 1: So I feel like this is very exciting. It is 14 00:01:09,240 --> 00:01:14,119 Speaker 1: like my favorite piece of content produce is So guys, 15 00:01:14,240 --> 00:01:19,400 Speaker 1: Today we are talking about the missing factor, which is 16 00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 1: this is the part that often people they know about, 17 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:27,680 Speaker 1: they just don't do very well. So true, it's hard, 18 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:32,679 Speaker 1: It's really hard. Today we are chatting surrender. Why why 19 00:01:32,760 --> 00:01:37,600 Speaker 1: it is so important? And I really try and give 20 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:40,360 Speaker 1: you some great examples of surrender. So you can really 21 00:01:40,480 --> 00:01:45,440 Speaker 1: understand honestly, when you can master this part of manifesting. 22 00:01:45,959 --> 00:01:51,400 Speaker 1: Oh dare I say you don't need the rest? No, 23 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:54,080 Speaker 1: that's not true, but it does make it a lot 24 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:58,200 Speaker 1: of ye. So I'm so excited to share this episode 25 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:00,480 Speaker 1: with you guys and get into it, because yeah, when 26 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:03,560 Speaker 1: you know how to do this step, it is monumental 27 00:02:04,160 --> 00:02:08,480 Speaker 1: in your manifesting practices. But before we get into the episode, 28 00:02:08,760 --> 00:02:13,240 Speaker 1: weekly recommendation A tear, what's yours? You go first? This 29 00:02:13,400 --> 00:02:16,960 Speaker 1: wreck has been I'm on a bit of a challenge 30 00:02:17,320 --> 00:02:22,519 Speaker 1: adventure right now where I'm trying to find what works 31 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:25,239 Speaker 1: for me to shift me out of my energy state 32 00:02:25,440 --> 00:02:30,839 Speaker 1: of work life to mumlife. Because there it probably wasn't 33 00:02:30,880 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 1: last week. It was the week before. I just had 34 00:02:32,440 --> 00:02:33,959 Speaker 1: a really tough week where I had a lot of 35 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:36,519 Speaker 1: stuff going on at work, some like you know, quite 36 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:39,400 Speaker 1: full on stuff, and I was really bringing work home 37 00:02:40,000 --> 00:02:42,080 Speaker 1: and it was just not great for Tim and Ivy 38 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:44,200 Speaker 1: and I felt really bad about it. And I just 39 00:02:44,320 --> 00:02:47,320 Speaker 1: realized how much my energy was like leaking and I 40 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:51,240 Speaker 1: wasn't being intentional enough, and so I was like, no, 41 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:53,800 Speaker 1: I've got to make sure, like I, you know, focus 42 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 1: on this because it's what's best for the VAM. And 43 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:00,799 Speaker 1: the latest thing that I found so I actually do 44 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:04,280 Speaker 1: is I literally put a timer on for five minutes 45 00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:06,680 Speaker 1: when I get in my car. And this might be 46 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 1: at the warehouse or it might be when I get home, 47 00:03:08,440 --> 00:03:11,040 Speaker 1: just depends and I just sit there and I just 48 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:15,680 Speaker 1: do some deep belly breathing and that has been really helpful. 49 00:03:16,080 --> 00:03:18,840 Speaker 1: And then so something else too is me and Ivy 50 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:22,600 Speaker 1: have dance parties. Oh so so cute. There's this a 51 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:29,079 Speaker 1: kid's channel called kids Bops Kids. I think that's it. 52 00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:33,040 Speaker 1: There's like these little kids that were like a group 53 00:03:33,120 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 1: of dances and they do dances to like really familiar 54 00:03:38,760 --> 00:03:42,600 Speaker 1: I love it so much, actually so funny. But Ivy's obsessed. 55 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:49,760 Speaker 1: She's like and then she's like the podcast, I don't 56 00:03:49,800 --> 00:03:56,200 Speaker 1: know what you're doing. Quick for me. She dances and 57 00:03:56,240 --> 00:03:58,120 Speaker 1: it's so cute. And I did that, actually did that 58 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:00,560 Speaker 1: last night and it was so good. So yeah, that's 59 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 1: like my recommendation because I think even if you're not 60 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:05,160 Speaker 1: a mom, I used to struggle with this and I 61 00:04:05,160 --> 00:04:08,160 Speaker 1: wish I implemented this before of I would one hundred 62 00:04:08,160 --> 00:04:11,680 Speaker 1: percent take work home with me and like let it 63 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:15,080 Speaker 1: affect my mood, especially with Tim or even what then 64 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:17,919 Speaker 1: would happen is I'd think about something, I'd jump on 65 00:04:17,960 --> 00:04:20,600 Speaker 1: my computer, you'd do it. Whereas if you've got like 66 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:23,960 Speaker 1: a clear boundary of like no shifting the energy. And 67 00:04:24,080 --> 00:04:26,320 Speaker 1: after that dance party, I did not want to go 68 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:28,520 Speaker 1: on my phone or my laptop or anything, and I 69 00:04:28,560 --> 00:04:30,320 Speaker 1: just wanted to like be there in the moment. So 70 00:04:31,200 --> 00:04:33,800 Speaker 1: that's something I'm being like very intentional on. And I 71 00:04:33,800 --> 00:04:36,560 Speaker 1: feel like, you know, people can definitely better fit from 72 00:04:36,600 --> 00:04:38,600 Speaker 1: because we're all, you know, married to our work. 73 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:42,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think especially I've struggled with that boundary 74 00:04:42,360 --> 00:04:44,440 Speaker 2: when I work from home, Like it's just so easy 75 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:45,640 Speaker 2: to do one more thing. 76 00:04:45,920 --> 00:04:46,679 Speaker 1: So easy. 77 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 2: So it's like having that strict. 78 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:52,080 Speaker 1: I hate break unpopular opinion. I hate working from home. 79 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:53,840 Speaker 1: Hate it. 80 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:57,680 Speaker 2: I get so much done though that's my thing. 81 00:04:57,920 --> 00:04:59,719 Speaker 1: It's kind of different for me now. I feel like 82 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:03,720 Speaker 1: back in the day, loved it, but now more distracted 83 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:05,560 Speaker 1: because Tim and Ivy are like playing and I want 84 00:05:05,560 --> 00:05:07,880 Speaker 1: to go play with them. And I very much associate 85 00:05:07,920 --> 00:05:11,040 Speaker 1: my home esp actually my new house, to relaxing. 86 00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:14,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, so you don't want that energy? 87 00:05:14,480 --> 00:05:18,320 Speaker 1: No, fair enough, what's your recommendation Tea. 88 00:05:18,480 --> 00:05:22,720 Speaker 2: My recommendation, no context recommendation, make sure you have a 89 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:23,560 Speaker 2: fire extinguisher. 90 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:25,800 Speaker 1: I feel like you have to give them a context 91 00:05:25,880 --> 00:05:29,799 Speaker 1: because like, what are you talking about? Okay? 92 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:34,359 Speaker 2: Context for that one is a bit of an eventful 93 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:37,200 Speaker 2: Friday night. One of my neighbor's cars ended up on 94 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:39,800 Speaker 2: fire and we tried putting the fire out with a 95 00:05:39,839 --> 00:05:43,080 Speaker 2: host pipe, which didn't work. But luckily someone who's a 96 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:46,240 Speaker 2: trade who it's actually I think compulsory for them to 97 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:48,520 Speaker 2: have like the first aid kit and a fire extinguisher 98 00:05:48,600 --> 00:05:50,840 Speaker 2: in their car. He had one and he got it 99 00:05:50,839 --> 00:05:52,479 Speaker 2: out and it actually that was the only thing that 100 00:05:52,520 --> 00:05:56,039 Speaker 2: put the fire of the car out. So I reckon 101 00:05:56,120 --> 00:05:57,800 Speaker 2: that's just like a good safe thing to have in 102 00:05:57,839 --> 00:05:59,479 Speaker 2: your house because you can't always no. 103 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:01,960 Speaker 1: One has one. That's such a good like like no 104 00:06:02,040 --> 00:06:04,560 Speaker 1: one has. I also can't believe your neighbor's car was 105 00:06:04,600 --> 00:06:06,560 Speaker 1: set on fire by like a car bomb or what? 106 00:06:06,600 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 1: I what? What neighborhood? That's my initial thoughts. Okay, are 107 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:24,039 Speaker 1: you saying the place? I know? That's what's concerning, like 108 00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:27,280 Speaker 1: no one's safe. Oh look, I come from a neighborhood 109 00:06:27,279 --> 00:06:29,880 Speaker 1: when your car stolen, so don't worry. 110 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:33,400 Speaker 2: It was so funny because after I looked at my parents, 111 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:35,520 Speaker 2: I'm like, do you ever just wonder if it was 112 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:36,440 Speaker 2: worth moving here. 113 00:06:36,760 --> 00:06:44,360 Speaker 1: Stuff like this? They're like, shut up, like, look at 114 00:06:44,360 --> 00:06:49,520 Speaker 1: your life. It's great. You're a great life. All right, 115 00:06:49,600 --> 00:07:00,880 Speaker 1: let's get into the episode. All right, let's chat Surrender. 116 00:07:01,680 --> 00:07:04,800 Speaker 1: I wanted to chat about surrender because obviously, as you 117 00:07:04,839 --> 00:07:08,880 Speaker 1: guys know, the project is available and the card is open, 118 00:07:09,320 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 1: and it is a manifesting course, and the biggest part 119 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:17,920 Speaker 1: of manifesting that I feel like most people get tripped 120 00:07:18,040 --> 00:07:22,160 Speaker 1: up on is the surrender part, which is kind of 121 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:24,760 Speaker 1: like the end part. Obviously there's you know, a bit 122 00:07:24,760 --> 00:07:27,080 Speaker 1: more to it, and so I wanted to spend some 123 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:31,400 Speaker 1: time today just really talking about like what surrender is, 124 00:07:31,680 --> 00:07:36,040 Speaker 1: what it looks like, and why it is so important 125 00:07:36,760 --> 00:07:41,280 Speaker 1: to really like lock into and trust and believe, because guys, 126 00:07:41,320 --> 00:07:46,080 Speaker 1: if you don't surrender, you will not manifest. And I'm 127 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:51,720 Speaker 1: loving my relationship with surrender because it's really evolving. So 128 00:07:52,080 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 1: how I used to look at surrender and really like 129 00:07:55,320 --> 00:07:58,280 Speaker 1: lock into it is really changing. And then even I've 130 00:07:58,280 --> 00:08:02,680 Speaker 1: been very open about like, like my relationship with surrendered 131 00:08:02,720 --> 00:08:05,360 Speaker 1: this year is really like going to a whole new 132 00:08:05,480 --> 00:08:09,480 Speaker 1: level because I'm doing something. If you guys listen to 133 00:08:09,840 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 1: like our New Year's Resolutions episode, my whole like resolution 134 00:08:15,440 --> 00:08:17,720 Speaker 1: almost like planned for the year to not have a 135 00:08:17,800 --> 00:08:21,080 Speaker 1: plan so I don't limit myself so I can completely 136 00:08:21,120 --> 00:08:24,640 Speaker 1: like surrender to like the universe's plan. And if you 137 00:08:24,680 --> 00:08:27,400 Speaker 1: would have told me that I'm seeing like saying these 138 00:08:27,440 --> 00:08:30,280 Speaker 1: words just you know, even last year or the year before, 139 00:08:30,400 --> 00:08:32,839 Speaker 1: I would be like, no, that is what I would 140 00:08:32,880 --> 00:08:36,000 Speaker 1: never do that because I am a control freak and 141 00:08:36,040 --> 00:08:40,960 Speaker 1: I love planning, and I think as humans we love 142 00:08:41,040 --> 00:08:45,680 Speaker 1: this concept of knowing the future, knowing an outcome, knowing 143 00:08:45,760 --> 00:08:49,319 Speaker 1: I can do this action and have this outcome. But 144 00:08:49,400 --> 00:08:53,040 Speaker 1: what's so beautiful about surrender is if you can really 145 00:08:53,040 --> 00:08:56,240 Speaker 1: trust and lock in, it's going to be better than 146 00:08:56,280 --> 00:08:59,679 Speaker 1: you could have imagined. And that's why I really this 147 00:08:59,800 --> 00:09:05,280 Speaker 1: year and like next level surrendering if that's even a word, 148 00:09:05,360 --> 00:09:08,480 Speaker 1: or to yah, I'm in this, like yeah, I'm on this, 149 00:09:08,600 --> 00:09:11,960 Speaker 1: like this journey of surrendering and bringing it to a 150 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:14,400 Speaker 1: whole new level, which is going to be very very 151 00:09:14,600 --> 00:09:15,160 Speaker 1: hard for me. 152 00:09:15,760 --> 00:09:19,480 Speaker 2: But anyway, enough about me, what sort of like made 153 00:09:19,520 --> 00:09:25,240 Speaker 2: you want to make that your news resolution almost well. 154 00:09:25,280 --> 00:09:29,280 Speaker 1: The catalyst was last year, I planned my whole year, 155 00:09:29,440 --> 00:09:31,360 Speaker 1: so I kind of knew exactly how it was going 156 00:09:31,400 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 1: to go for work. And I did that because it 157 00:09:34,520 --> 00:09:36,720 Speaker 1: was my first year as a mom, and I very 158 00:09:36,840 --> 00:09:40,840 Speaker 1: much was trying to control something of my life because 159 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:43,320 Speaker 1: I knew the year of being a first time mom, 160 00:09:43,360 --> 00:09:45,480 Speaker 1: I didn't know what that would hold, so I was 161 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:47,480 Speaker 1: trying to control saying so like I locked in all 162 00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:51,320 Speaker 1: these things. And even though i accomplished so much, and 163 00:09:51,360 --> 00:09:53,520 Speaker 1: I'm so proud of my achievements and I'm so proud 164 00:09:53,559 --> 00:09:55,880 Speaker 1: of my year, and again, I would never change anything. 165 00:09:56,720 --> 00:10:01,600 Speaker 1: I just I guess I didn't feel how I thought 166 00:10:01,679 --> 00:10:03,719 Speaker 1: I would. And I got to the end of the 167 00:10:03,800 --> 00:10:05,960 Speaker 1: year and I felt quite burnt out, and I felt 168 00:10:06,000 --> 00:10:09,040 Speaker 1: quite exhausted, and I felt like I had taken on 169 00:10:09,160 --> 00:10:12,080 Speaker 1: all these things and it wasn't really in line with 170 00:10:12,480 --> 00:10:15,079 Speaker 1: my values and how I wanted to shot. So I 171 00:10:15,160 --> 00:10:17,920 Speaker 1: knew I had to make some shifts. So the biggest 172 00:10:18,000 --> 00:10:21,840 Speaker 1: kind of aha moment when I realized my blind spot 173 00:10:21,920 --> 00:10:25,800 Speaker 1: in life is I try and plan everything. But when 174 00:10:25,840 --> 00:10:29,000 Speaker 1: you try and plan everything, you're not leaving room for 175 00:10:29,120 --> 00:10:34,080 Speaker 1: any you know, beautiful miracles or beautiful you know, things 176 00:10:34,080 --> 00:10:35,480 Speaker 1: to fall into place. 177 00:10:35,720 --> 00:10:38,120 Speaker 2: You're almost blocking it, blocking. 178 00:10:37,720 --> 00:10:41,040 Speaker 1: It, and I like, I had this like aha moment 179 00:10:41,080 --> 00:10:44,440 Speaker 1: where I was like, I really wonder what could have 180 00:10:44,760 --> 00:10:48,920 Speaker 1: unfolded this year if I just completely surrendered and I 181 00:10:49,080 --> 00:10:52,719 Speaker 1: just like leant into what's the decision I want to 182 00:10:52,760 --> 00:10:55,480 Speaker 1: make right now in the next you know, two to 183 00:10:55,520 --> 00:10:59,120 Speaker 1: four weeks rather than four months down the track. And 184 00:10:59,160 --> 00:11:01,760 Speaker 1: so I don't know, it's like it's in my evolution. 185 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:03,880 Speaker 1: And I know a lot of people maybe are listening 186 00:11:03,960 --> 00:11:06,280 Speaker 1: and just like I can't even comprehend that, And that 187 00:11:06,440 --> 00:11:09,280 Speaker 1: was I completely get that. But for me, I'm just 188 00:11:09,360 --> 00:11:11,720 Speaker 1: really excited to like lean into a whole new level 189 00:11:11,760 --> 00:11:15,480 Speaker 1: of surrender. But a lot of people get tripped up 190 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:20,920 Speaker 1: on surrender and they're like we always have if you're 191 00:11:20,920 --> 00:11:23,480 Speaker 1: in control freak and if you like I don't like 192 00:11:23,880 --> 00:11:26,400 Speaker 1: you know, if you're a planner and you know someone 193 00:11:26,440 --> 00:11:28,560 Speaker 1: who has order and you love structure and you love 194 00:11:29,200 --> 00:11:31,840 Speaker 1: calendars and all those things, you're not gonna love surrender. 195 00:11:32,000 --> 00:11:33,880 Speaker 1: And it's just it is what it is. But it's 196 00:11:33,920 --> 00:11:36,040 Speaker 1: fine because I'm gonna chat to you about it today 197 00:11:36,080 --> 00:11:38,200 Speaker 1: so you can get more comfortable with that and just 198 00:11:38,559 --> 00:11:43,000 Speaker 1: be open minded. So surrender is kind of the last 199 00:11:43,040 --> 00:11:47,559 Speaker 1: stage of manifesting after you have done all the previous steps, 200 00:11:47,559 --> 00:11:49,240 Speaker 1: and it's kind of like you would have heard on 201 00:11:49,280 --> 00:11:52,880 Speaker 1: social media, it's like, you know this or something better. 202 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:55,920 Speaker 1: I guess you end it on this or something better. 203 00:11:56,000 --> 00:11:59,960 Speaker 1: So you try and not attach yourself to the outcome. 204 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:02,760 Speaker 1: That is like a huge, huge thing. So I want 205 00:12:02,840 --> 00:12:06,640 Speaker 1: you guys to think of and you know, we got 206 00:12:06,760 --> 00:12:10,080 Speaker 1: I got literally a beautiful DM just on the holidays 207 00:12:10,080 --> 00:12:13,280 Speaker 1: of someone you know, expressing that this really amazing thing 208 00:12:13,360 --> 00:12:16,040 Speaker 1: had happened for them and then it was taken away. 209 00:12:16,320 --> 00:12:18,800 Speaker 1: And she's just like, how can I surrender in this 210 00:12:18,920 --> 00:12:22,280 Speaker 1: moment because it just feels so cruel and it feels 211 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:24,920 Speaker 1: so why would the universe do this for me? Yeah, 212 00:12:24,960 --> 00:12:27,040 Speaker 1: and I you know, sent her this voice in just 213 00:12:27,200 --> 00:12:29,480 Speaker 1: was like, honestly, I know it's so hard to think 214 00:12:29,520 --> 00:12:32,120 Speaker 1: of think of it now, but it's like, these are 215 00:12:32,120 --> 00:12:35,560 Speaker 1: the moments where we need to surrender the most. And 216 00:12:35,679 --> 00:12:38,160 Speaker 1: let me just explain you. So I love to look 217 00:12:38,200 --> 00:12:45,080 Speaker 1: at surrender like the relationship of a parent and child. Oh, 218 00:12:45,160 --> 00:12:48,800 Speaker 1: so think of the universe like the parent and you 219 00:12:49,160 --> 00:12:52,960 Speaker 1: as the child. So for example, let's just say, and 220 00:12:53,000 --> 00:12:54,800 Speaker 1: I can I feel like I can relate to this 221 00:12:54,920 --> 00:12:57,760 Speaker 1: so much more now being a parent. But like, let's 222 00:12:57,800 --> 00:13:01,679 Speaker 1: just say. You know, me and Ivy, we're marking around 223 00:13:01,920 --> 00:13:05,760 Speaker 1: and I can see she's getting a bit tired, and 224 00:13:05,920 --> 00:13:08,880 Speaker 1: so I'm like, all right, Ivy, like, let's here's your bottle. 225 00:13:09,040 --> 00:13:11,600 Speaker 1: Let's go to sleep, have a sleep, and then you'll 226 00:13:11,640 --> 00:13:14,160 Speaker 1: wake up and we'll go for a swim and we'll 227 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:17,000 Speaker 1: have it. We'll have a great time. But Ivy's like, no, 228 00:13:17,080 --> 00:13:20,439 Speaker 1: I just want to play. Yeah, And I'm like, I 229 00:13:20,480 --> 00:13:23,439 Speaker 1: know you want to play, but trust me, you're tired, 230 00:13:23,480 --> 00:13:26,920 Speaker 1: you're cranky, you're having tantrums. Let's just have you know 231 00:13:27,040 --> 00:13:29,000 Speaker 1: your bottle and let's go to sleep, and you're going 232 00:13:29,000 --> 00:13:31,520 Speaker 1: to feel so much better. And she's like, no, I 233 00:13:31,640 --> 00:13:34,640 Speaker 1: want to play. So she's chucking in tantrum, she's being crazy, 234 00:13:35,000 --> 00:13:36,720 Speaker 1: and then we both end up in tears, and it's 235 00:13:36,760 --> 00:13:40,800 Speaker 1: this whole big thing. Yeah, think of that. So as 236 00:13:40,920 --> 00:13:44,280 Speaker 1: you know, mere little as humans, we like to control 237 00:13:44,320 --> 00:13:47,280 Speaker 1: things and we like to plan. So you're like, no, no, no, 238 00:13:47,360 --> 00:13:50,720 Speaker 1: I have this plan. Yeah, And the universe, as the parent, 239 00:13:50,840 --> 00:13:53,520 Speaker 1: is like no, no, no, trust me, just take a 240 00:13:53,600 --> 00:13:56,200 Speaker 1: nap and everything's going to be better. And you're like, 241 00:13:56,640 --> 00:13:59,040 Speaker 1: I don't want to take a nap. I have my plan. 242 00:13:59,280 --> 00:14:03,120 Speaker 1: I have my and the universe is going just fucking 243 00:14:03,160 --> 00:14:08,079 Speaker 1: trust me. I know what's good for you. Yeah, And 244 00:14:08,360 --> 00:14:10,959 Speaker 1: like I think of it that way. So I love 245 00:14:11,040 --> 00:14:14,120 Speaker 1: that example when you're like, no, I have a plan. 246 00:14:14,160 --> 00:14:17,600 Speaker 1: It's supposed to be like this. You have to trust that. 247 00:14:17,679 --> 00:14:22,360 Speaker 1: The universe is like, trust me, just do this thing now. 248 00:14:22,480 --> 00:14:25,760 Speaker 1: Whatever happens, happens, and hold on because it's going to 249 00:14:25,800 --> 00:14:27,400 Speaker 1: be better. You're going to wake up, you're going to 250 00:14:27,400 --> 00:14:29,880 Speaker 1: be happy. We'll have more food, We'll go see dad, 251 00:14:29,920 --> 00:14:32,520 Speaker 1: we'll go in the sprinklers like it's going to be amazing. Yeah, 252 00:14:32,800 --> 00:14:35,760 Speaker 1: or like we'll go see your friend. Where's Ivy who 253 00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:39,000 Speaker 1: can't comprehend that. And she can't understand that because she's 254 00:14:39,040 --> 00:14:42,200 Speaker 1: a baby. Yeah, she's like she's just she's like, no, 255 00:14:43,000 --> 00:14:44,720 Speaker 1: I want to play now. I want to play now. 256 00:14:45,600 --> 00:14:48,480 Speaker 1: And that is how I kind of love to explain 257 00:14:48,560 --> 00:14:51,120 Speaker 1: like surrendering, because as humans, we think we know it 258 00:14:51,160 --> 00:14:53,080 Speaker 1: all and we're like, no, but I have this plan. 259 00:14:53,120 --> 00:14:55,160 Speaker 1: I want to do this thing. But what we don't 260 00:14:55,240 --> 00:14:59,480 Speaker 1: realize is there is a much bigger plan happening that 261 00:14:59,520 --> 00:15:03,000 Speaker 1: we can't but see right this moment. That is like, 262 00:15:03,120 --> 00:15:05,000 Speaker 1: it's going to be better for us in the long run. 263 00:15:05,080 --> 00:15:07,760 Speaker 1: It's going to be bigger and better and more in 264 00:15:07,880 --> 00:15:10,400 Speaker 1: lined and totally us and it's gonna make us feel 265 00:15:10,440 --> 00:15:13,560 Speaker 1: so good. But we're so focused on no I want 266 00:15:13,640 --> 00:15:16,920 Speaker 1: to play even though we're fucking tired and exhausted and 267 00:15:16,960 --> 00:15:21,000 Speaker 1: throwing tantrums, that we're missing the whole thing. And it's 268 00:15:21,080 --> 00:15:25,320 Speaker 1: like it's going to go that way either like either 269 00:15:25,440 --> 00:15:29,080 Speaker 1: or so you most will enjoy the ride, and so Ivy, 270 00:15:29,160 --> 00:15:31,280 Speaker 1: most will just go to sleep and have a great sleep. 271 00:15:31,480 --> 00:15:32,200 Speaker 2: Yeah. 272 00:15:32,280 --> 00:15:35,760 Speaker 1: So who is that kind of a good explanation of surrender? 273 00:15:36,120 --> 00:15:38,800 Speaker 1: Very very good because I feel like a lot of 274 00:15:38,840 --> 00:15:42,600 Speaker 1: the time too, like so many things have happened to 275 00:15:42,640 --> 00:15:45,400 Speaker 1: my life where I'm like, in that moment, I could 276 00:15:45,480 --> 00:15:49,040 Speaker 1: have never have known, so like, in that moment, I 277 00:15:49,080 --> 00:15:51,160 Speaker 1: wish I could just go back and be like, trust me, 278 00:15:51,560 --> 00:15:54,360 Speaker 1: enjoy the ride, don't even let this worry you. Keep 279 00:15:54,400 --> 00:15:57,400 Speaker 1: going because it's going to get, like, you know, even better. Yeah, 280 00:15:57,440 --> 00:15:59,760 Speaker 1: And of course we can never go back to those moments, 281 00:15:59,800 --> 00:16:03,400 Speaker 1: and of course in those moments we're angry and we're upset, 282 00:16:03,400 --> 00:16:07,360 Speaker 1: and it's good to feel those feelings. But if we 283 00:16:08,280 --> 00:16:12,560 Speaker 1: can trust that the universe as a parent is supporting us, 284 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:15,640 Speaker 1: is loving us, and knows what's best for us in 285 00:16:15,680 --> 00:16:20,280 Speaker 1: a higher self sense and just like completely has our back, 286 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:24,840 Speaker 1: imagine that feeling. Imagine doing life in that feeling instead 287 00:16:24,880 --> 00:16:30,880 Speaker 1: of you know, throwing a tantrum m. That's a good bike. 288 00:16:33,640 --> 00:16:36,600 Speaker 1: So that's kind of like if I'm going through moments 289 00:16:36,720 --> 00:16:39,080 Speaker 1: and this is another thing, is like when life's feeling 290 00:16:39,160 --> 00:16:42,240 Speaker 1: like hard and difficult, I'm like, what that fuck? I 291 00:16:43,000 --> 00:16:45,320 Speaker 1: literally take a step back or write on my journal 292 00:16:45,320 --> 00:16:50,000 Speaker 1: and I'm like, where am I not surrendering? Where am 293 00:16:50,040 --> 00:16:55,359 Speaker 1: I actually going against the grain making things harder for myself? 294 00:16:55,760 --> 00:16:59,760 Speaker 1: And where am I not letting go and trusting that 295 00:16:59,800 --> 00:17:02,720 Speaker 1: it's going to be better than I could have imagined. 296 00:17:02,880 --> 00:17:11,000 Speaker 1: I asked myself that I love that. Let's just talk 297 00:17:11,040 --> 00:17:13,640 Speaker 1: about some times in my life. I'm very open about 298 00:17:14,040 --> 00:17:17,720 Speaker 1: a couple of years ago before we had Ivy, me 299 00:17:17,760 --> 00:17:21,320 Speaker 1: and Tim had a long trying to conceive journey for 300 00:17:21,320 --> 00:17:23,680 Speaker 1: about a year, which when you're trying for a baby, 301 00:17:23,680 --> 00:17:26,800 Speaker 1: it feels like an eternity because you know everyone else 302 00:17:26,840 --> 00:17:29,880 Speaker 1: is getting pregnant, and every single month you're waiting, you're 303 00:17:29,920 --> 00:17:32,959 Speaker 1: trying to get this specific time, and it's a bit 304 00:17:33,000 --> 00:17:35,000 Speaker 1: of a mind fuck. But yeah, we tried for a 305 00:17:35,080 --> 00:17:37,879 Speaker 1: very long time and then we had a miscarriage and 306 00:17:38,160 --> 00:17:41,600 Speaker 1: very much felt like, what the fuck? How could you 307 00:17:41,640 --> 00:17:43,199 Speaker 1: give us something and then take it away? It's so 308 00:17:43,359 --> 00:17:48,800 Speaker 1: cruel and what could ever be, you know, the beautiful 309 00:17:48,840 --> 00:17:51,560 Speaker 1: side of this or the better that I could have imagined. 310 00:17:52,359 --> 00:17:54,960 Speaker 1: And so of course, in that moment, like I let 311 00:17:54,960 --> 00:17:58,159 Speaker 1: myself have the feelings and saden that. But then you know, 312 00:17:58,359 --> 00:18:02,199 Speaker 1: like with hindsight, you noise see a clearer picture. But 313 00:18:02,320 --> 00:18:06,040 Speaker 1: it's like if I, if I didn't have a miscarriage, 314 00:18:06,119 --> 00:18:09,840 Speaker 1: like we wouldn't have IVY. Yeah, just like you know, 315 00:18:09,960 --> 00:18:14,879 Speaker 1: situations like that, and even I thought, I remember when 316 00:18:14,920 --> 00:18:18,679 Speaker 1: COVID hit like Naked Harvest was like we had literally 317 00:18:18,720 --> 00:18:22,879 Speaker 1: and he just started Naked Harvest. It was maybe a 318 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:25,879 Speaker 1: year old, so it's very much in its infancy. 319 00:18:26,119 --> 00:18:27,200 Speaker 2: That's so nerve wracking. 320 00:18:27,359 --> 00:18:31,240 Speaker 1: And I remember crying and some of my best friends 321 00:18:31,240 --> 00:18:33,200 Speaker 1: coming over and being like, you know, what's wrong, And 322 00:18:33,240 --> 00:18:36,600 Speaker 1: I was like beside myself because I was so worried 323 00:18:37,080 --> 00:18:40,400 Speaker 1: and I remember I had to really journal and be like, Okay, 324 00:18:40,520 --> 00:18:43,680 Speaker 1: I trust that, you know, I trust that it's going 325 00:18:43,720 --> 00:18:45,520 Speaker 1: to work out. I trust this is going to be 326 00:18:45,520 --> 00:18:47,320 Speaker 1: better than I could have imagined. And I had to 327 00:18:47,359 --> 00:18:51,320 Speaker 1: really let go. I was very like, very emotional and 328 00:18:51,440 --> 00:18:54,199 Speaker 1: very beside myself, and then like covid ended up being 329 00:18:54,200 --> 00:18:56,720 Speaker 1: one of the best things for most e commerce stores. Yeah, 330 00:18:57,320 --> 00:19:03,959 Speaker 1: so like just different scenarios like that is just in 331 00:19:04,000 --> 00:19:07,000 Speaker 1: those moments when things don't work, you've just got to 332 00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:09,480 Speaker 1: trust and surrender. And even in little moments like the 333 00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:12,359 Speaker 1: other day, me and Ellie were trying to book in 334 00:19:12,480 --> 00:19:17,760 Speaker 1: We're getting a tattoo, and they kept like changing the 335 00:19:17,880 --> 00:19:20,000 Speaker 1: dates and it was all hard, and then we finally 336 00:19:20,000 --> 00:19:22,000 Speaker 1: got this date and I was like, yeah, yeah, yeah, 337 00:19:22,119 --> 00:19:24,000 Speaker 1: just book it in. I paid the deposit, and then 338 00:19:24,040 --> 00:19:26,159 Speaker 1: like I realized in my calendar we had like a 339 00:19:26,240 --> 00:19:30,560 Speaker 1: very important interview and I was like fuck, and then 340 00:19:30,600 --> 00:19:32,600 Speaker 1: I just kind of left it. And I literally remember 341 00:19:32,600 --> 00:19:35,800 Speaker 1: saying it's fine, it'll work itself out. It's fine. I like, 342 00:19:35,840 --> 00:19:38,639 Speaker 1: I'll deal with this later, and it's not about neglecting things, 343 00:19:38,640 --> 00:19:40,960 Speaker 1: but I was just like, oh, look, it's fine, we'll 344 00:19:41,040 --> 00:19:42,960 Speaker 1: sort it out. We'll sort it out. I'm not gonna 345 00:19:43,280 --> 00:19:45,200 Speaker 1: I'm not going to get into TV about it. And 346 00:19:45,359 --> 00:19:47,240 Speaker 1: I just didn't have time at that moment to sort out. 347 00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:49,359 Speaker 1: So I'm like, it was I'll sort out. Literally, like 348 00:19:49,400 --> 00:19:51,800 Speaker 1: a couple of days later, that interview got canceled and 349 00:19:51,840 --> 00:19:55,760 Speaker 1: put to another day, and I just went life happens 350 00:19:55,760 --> 00:19:58,840 Speaker 1: for me. Life happens for me. And because I just surrendered, 351 00:19:58,880 --> 00:20:00,960 Speaker 1: I'm just like, oh, it's fine, Like I'm not gonna 352 00:20:01,000 --> 00:20:03,560 Speaker 1: let this worry me. So it's like you can surrender 353 00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:07,240 Speaker 1: very small moments like that or in the really big 354 00:20:07,400 --> 00:20:12,479 Speaker 1: moments and they're both going to It just adds to 355 00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:15,680 Speaker 1: your like quality of life. Quality of life, like, because 356 00:20:15,720 --> 00:20:18,760 Speaker 1: do you want to go through life stressing out? Yeah, 357 00:20:18,800 --> 00:20:21,560 Speaker 1: being fucking stressed all the time, or do you want 358 00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:27,960 Speaker 1: to be like, ah, it's all good. That's like that's 359 00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:31,000 Speaker 1: what I think about. And I'm like, oh, that feeling 360 00:20:31,560 --> 00:20:34,800 Speaker 1: of not being stressed and really believing that things get 361 00:20:34,880 --> 00:20:37,480 Speaker 1: to work out, things get to be better than I 362 00:20:37,520 --> 00:20:42,159 Speaker 1: could have imagined has helped me so much in my 363 00:20:42,240 --> 00:20:45,480 Speaker 1: personal development and just in life. So guys, if you're 364 00:20:45,480 --> 00:20:48,520 Speaker 1: listening to this episode and you're like, look, I love 365 00:20:48,520 --> 00:20:50,240 Speaker 1: what you're talking about, but I just like I don't 366 00:20:50,280 --> 00:20:54,040 Speaker 1: trust or like I can't step into that. I get that, 367 00:20:54,320 --> 00:20:56,560 Speaker 1: and that's what we teach you in the project. So 368 00:20:56,720 --> 00:21:00,720 Speaker 1: come and join us. Yeah, because when you can live 369 00:21:00,840 --> 00:21:04,439 Speaker 1: your life in that way, in that shift, and you 370 00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:06,600 Speaker 1: can and it's not so much like you're just like 371 00:21:06,640 --> 00:21:10,399 Speaker 1: ah whatever, like airy fairy lucky goes happy, nothing affects you. 372 00:21:10,840 --> 00:21:13,880 Speaker 1: Things still affect me and I've got to work through them. 373 00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:16,919 Speaker 1: But it's just having the tools to work through the 374 00:21:17,040 --> 00:21:20,639 Speaker 1: thing and sit in that surrender feeling. It's a skill, 375 00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:24,160 Speaker 1: it's a skill. It's a learned skill like anything. But 376 00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:27,960 Speaker 1: once you were able to do it, it's seriously it 377 00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:31,160 Speaker 1: armed you. It arms you, and you're able to go 378 00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:35,040 Speaker 1: through life in a completely different energy because also tear 379 00:21:35,160 --> 00:21:38,119 Speaker 1: like the energy of I feel like even like you know, 380 00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:42,320 Speaker 1: the people of when their energy is oh, I don't 381 00:21:42,359 --> 00:21:44,800 Speaker 1: really care if I get that thing or not, compared 382 00:21:44,840 --> 00:21:48,440 Speaker 1: to I must get that thing. Yeah, how much does 383 00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:51,080 Speaker 1: the energy of oh I must get that thing repel 384 00:21:51,200 --> 00:21:54,760 Speaker 1: you so much? It's like iky, it's oh, don't try, 385 00:21:57,680 --> 00:22:00,320 Speaker 1: you know. Like let's say imagine a friend and then like, oh, 386 00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:02,040 Speaker 1: he's texting you to hang out and they're like really 387 00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:03,280 Speaker 1: like I want to do this, I want to do that, 388 00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:06,960 Speaker 1: and you're like stop, give me my space. Compared to 389 00:22:06,960 --> 00:22:10,040 Speaker 1: the person who's like they're confident in themselves, they catch 390 00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:12,080 Speaker 1: up some types and they're like, beautiful energy to be 391 00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:14,280 Speaker 1: around you. Yeah, I want to hang out with that person. 392 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:18,399 Speaker 1: And I think so much if you go through life 393 00:22:18,560 --> 00:22:23,119 Speaker 1: really having attached energy to the things you want, you 394 00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:26,879 Speaker 1: are honestly going to repel people and the things that 395 00:22:26,960 --> 00:22:27,399 Speaker 1: you want. 396 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:32,560 Speaker 2: It's almost like surrenders. The difference between working hard for 397 00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:35,680 Speaker 2: something and attracting it to you it. 398 00:22:35,720 --> 00:22:38,920 Speaker 1: Is it's like the difference like think it's the difference 399 00:22:38,960 --> 00:22:44,160 Speaker 1: between like hustle culture and like goddess energy. Yeah, which 400 00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:47,920 Speaker 1: in saying that, I really want to stress that it's 401 00:22:48,040 --> 00:22:51,280 Speaker 1: not like manifesting is here wishing and just going I 402 00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:53,760 Speaker 1: don't care either way, I'm not gonna work for it. 403 00:22:54,240 --> 00:22:57,640 Speaker 1: There's still involves work. They're still like, of course, where 404 00:22:57,680 --> 00:23:00,080 Speaker 1: it's the law of doing, we have to do things. 405 00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:04,880 Speaker 1: But it can just feel so good. Yeah, And when 406 00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:08,320 Speaker 1: you truly sit in the feeling of I'm not attached 407 00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:11,760 Speaker 1: to that thing and it is not going to you know, 408 00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:15,520 Speaker 1: it's not and also like not attaching your self worth 409 00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:19,160 Speaker 1: to an outcome has been life changing for me. Sucked. 410 00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:22,760 Speaker 1: It's like it's soul crushing when you attach your worst 411 00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:25,240 Speaker 1: to an outcome and it doesn't go your way. It 412 00:23:25,359 --> 00:23:29,160 Speaker 1: is soul crushing. It is in Yeah, if you can 413 00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:32,280 Speaker 1: step away from that, And it's like, like I said, 414 00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:35,840 Speaker 1: you can feel the difference in people around you with 415 00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:39,640 Speaker 1: that attached energy compared to compared to like detachment, it's 416 00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:41,480 Speaker 1: like cool girl energy. Yeah. 417 00:23:41,680 --> 00:23:45,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, I was gonna say it's like when you're that kid, 418 00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:51,520 Speaker 2: because I was this kid in class that always wants 419 00:23:51,560 --> 00:23:55,200 Speaker 2: to answer the question and you're like, literally, like John's 420 00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:55,600 Speaker 2: about to. 421 00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:58,440 Speaker 1: Spit her water out? Why can I imagine this though? 422 00:23:58,840 --> 00:24:01,439 Speaker 2: Literally like Amione, that's the only way you can give 423 00:24:01,480 --> 00:24:04,880 Speaker 2: it Hermione Granger in Gray Potter is like like. 424 00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:07,240 Speaker 1: Waving her hand up so so annoying. 425 00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:09,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, literally, And then there's like a kid that like 426 00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:12,240 Speaker 2: half puts her hand up that knows the answer. The 427 00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:15,119 Speaker 2: teacher always picks a person with their hand half up, 428 00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:17,520 Speaker 2: never the person that wants to actually answer the question. 429 00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:19,679 Speaker 2: And I used to sit there going why is no 430 00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:22,760 Speaker 2: one taking me? Like I really want to answer this question? 431 00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:26,600 Speaker 1: And that's the difference. Yeah, step into surrender energy and 432 00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:31,880 Speaker 1: I always get pictured ow it's a bit honestly, it's 433 00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:34,760 Speaker 1: a different energy. It's a different way of doing things. 434 00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:37,960 Speaker 1: And when you can really yeah, step into that, you'll 435 00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:41,280 Speaker 1: find things just get attracted to you. You won't have 436 00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:44,159 Speaker 1: to try as hard. Yeah, And it's like, what a 437 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:47,320 Speaker 1: fucking beautiful energy to be in. It is. It's pretty good, 438 00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:52,960 Speaker 1: the energy of twenty twenty three surrender. So I hope 439 00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:55,760 Speaker 1: you enjoyed this really quick? Was it quicker? 440 00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:56,840 Speaker 2: Yeah? Ah? 441 00:24:57,080 --> 00:25:00,320 Speaker 1: All right, guys, I hope you enjoyed this quick episod 442 00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:03,440 Speaker 1: about surrender. 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