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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the

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Speaker 1: time poor parent who just answers Now. So, about six

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Speaker 1: maybe twelve months ago, Kylie and I bought a new

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Speaker 1: car for our family, and we didn't buy anything flash,

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Speaker 1: but we just it's a station wagon and unfortunately for us,

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Speaker 1: it takes that premium ninety eight octane fuel. And when

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Speaker 1: I say unfortunately, you know what I mean, right, because

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Speaker 1: if you've had to fill up your car in the

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Speaker 1: last week, how much is that hurting right now? Ouch? Hello,

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Speaker 1: this is doctor Justin Coulson. I'm the founder of Happy

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Speaker 1: Families dot com dot au and I'm grateful to be

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Speaker 1: able to share this podcast with you today. Unfortunately, Kylie

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Speaker 1: can't be with me again because of the whole house

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Speaker 1: moving thing, and it's just well it's a little bit

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Speaker 1: taxing and a little bit challenging. But today I wanted to

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Speaker 1: just share one simple thought about making your family happier

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Speaker 1: now and then come across a statement, usually online on

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Speaker 1: social media, one of those things that you know when

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Speaker 1: you read it, just go oh wow, like oof sort

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Speaker 1: of thing. It kind of hurts a bit, maybe even

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Speaker 1: metaphorically knocks the wind out of you. At least psychologically

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Speaker 1: shakes you up, makes you evaluate how you're going and

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Speaker 1: where you can improve. And just recently I came across

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Speaker 1: one that did that to me. I had to share

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Speaker 1: it with you. It says, and I quote, when you

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Speaker 1: criticize a child, they don't stop loving you, they stop

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Speaker 1: loving themselves. I'll say that again, when you criticize a child,

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Speaker 1: they don't stop loving you, they stop loving themselves. Now,

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Speaker 1: I did a little search and scour of the internet

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Speaker 1: to try to find somebody that I could cite who

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Speaker 1: said it, but it seems to have been said by

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Speaker 1: a million people, which I think is kind of one

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Speaker 1: of those things that happens on social media. I want

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Speaker 1: to say that it comes from l. R. Nost because

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Speaker 1: she came up quite a lot with that one, but

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Speaker 1: it could be any number of others that also came

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Speaker 1: up with it. So I just want to acknowledge I

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Speaker 1: didn't make it up myself, but I'm not exactly sure

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Speaker 1: it came from. But a quick thought on that statement,

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Speaker 1: our children will often see themselves as as valuable or

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Speaker 1: otherwise based on how they're treated, particularly how they're treated

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Speaker 1: by us as their parents. So when they feel love

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Speaker 1: and acceptance. They feel lovable and they feel acceptable. But

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Speaker 1: when our love is contingent and conditional, they feel that

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Speaker 1: they're only valuable people when they're doing quote unquote the

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Speaker 1: right thing, and that promotes insecurity and feelings of self

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Speaker 1: loathing and pity. And then their behavior deteriorates. Why because

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Speaker 1: they feel like they're insecure and self loathing and they

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Speaker 1: don't feel like they're that good, and it reflects on

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Speaker 1: how they perceive their value. So what I thought would

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Speaker 1: be valuable is to flip that statement around give ourselves

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Speaker 1: a positive focus for the day or for the week.

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Speaker 1: When you help a child feel that they matter and belong,

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Speaker 1: not only are they drawn to you because of your love,

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Speaker 1: but they feel worthy of that love and they act accordingly.

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Speaker 1: There's something to think about as you go throughout your week.

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Speaker 1: It's their Happy Families podcasts for a happier family, Try

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Speaker 1: a Happy Families membership because a happy family just happened.

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Speaker 1: Details at happy families dot com dot au. It's the

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Speaker 1: Happy Families podcast, the podcast for the time poor parent

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Speaker 1: who just wants answers Now. Kylie will be back with

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Speaker 1: me tomorrow for our usual I'll do Better Tomorrow, which

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Speaker 1: is what happens every single Friday. But just before we

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Speaker 1: wrap up the podcast today, I wanted to make a

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Speaker 1: mention of something that so many people are finding incredibly valuable.

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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families memberships. Now, don't fast forward the podcast.

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Speaker 1: Hear me out for a second. If you're already a

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Speaker 1: Happy Family's member, you know how good this thing is

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Speaker 1: and you know how much value value it gives you

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Speaker 1: in your family. But for those of you who are not,

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Speaker 1: I want to just emphasize a couple of things that

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Speaker 1: we do in the membership to make your family happier.

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Speaker 1: When you take out a Happy Family's Premium membership, it's

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Speaker 1: like eighteen bucks a month one hundred and eighty dollars

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Speaker 1: for a year. We give you two months for free.

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Speaker 1: With the annual membership, Oh, you can do month by

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Speaker 1: month with a minimum of three. You get twenty percent

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Speaker 1: of our master classes. That's a really big saving because

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Speaker 1: those summits and master classes usually come in somewhere around

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Speaker 1: you are going to be stoked about. I can't wait

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Speaker 1: the summit. So one big summit coming up, big discounts

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Speaker 1: for all of our members. On top of that, though,

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Speaker 1: you get a monthly webinar, and if you're a Premium member,

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Speaker 1: you also get access to all of the previous webinars

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Speaker 1: that we've done. And I'm talking there's thousands of dollars

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Speaker 1: worth of webinars in that video library about every topic

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Speaker 1: it for the eighteen bucks a month or one hundred

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Speaker 1: would encourage you to do it, but you could sign

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Speaker 1: So I wanted to mention that we also do a

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Speaker 1: monthly Q and A and then every other week. Instead

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Speaker 1: of a Q and A, we do these things called

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Speaker 1: parent panels, and I bring in experts to do some

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Speaker 1: Q and A stuff as well. Now and then so

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Speaker 1: much value in the membership, so many other things that

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Speaker 1: we do on top of what I've just mentioned. And

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Speaker 1: if you haven't checked it out, can I just ask

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Speaker 1: you to have a look you don't, Actually, I just

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Speaker 1: want to raise it as something to look at. Happy

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Speaker 1: think that you'll get so much value out of it.

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Speaker 1: It really does make a difference. Testimonials galore from families

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Speaker 1: fortnightly and monthly reminders, plus the summits and the workshops

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Speaker 1: at such huge discounts. Anyway, that's it for today. I

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Speaker 1: can't wait for tomorrow's I'll do better tomorrow, Kylie and

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Speaker 1: I've got some great ideas to share with you about

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Speaker 1: how you can do better tomorrow in your family. As always,

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Speaker 1: we appreciate justin role on our producer from Bridge Media,

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Speaker 1: and Craig Bruce, our executive producer. If you'd like more

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