WEBVTT - AITA For Making My Old Neighbour Pay 5K For A Fence? 💵

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<v Speaker 4>You're listening to Flex and Frooms. What the frick now? FLEXI.

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<v Speaker 3>up when you google flex, Mummy, what comes up?

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<v Speaker 4>While we're waiting? I must submit. I'm prone to a

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<v Speaker 1>You need to keep the hygiene popping on the Googles.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 1>For many years when I googled my name, it was

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<v Speaker 1>nothing but fantastic results.

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<v Speaker 4>My TikTok. I don't Google anymore.

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<v Speaker 5>We've got flex mummy, boyfriend controversy, Hobart Croox, jewelry podcasts,

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<v Speaker 5>Sydney makeup.

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<v Speaker 4>I want to hear about this. Controverts not bad, It's

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<v Speaker 4>not bad boys. So mine's always been.

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<v Speaker 3>Frooms age, listening to Froomes not my real name, Listen.

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<v Speaker 4>To price A, it is your real name. Listen to firms.

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<v Speaker 3>Price and A Haunted. I would call it haunted. Originally,

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<v Speaker 3>new Google search came up.

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<v Speaker 4>Froom's weight game did come up? Came up? It did,

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<v Speaker 4>It'd be like.

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<v Speaker 3>That out here, and my initial feeling I was actually

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<v Speaker 3>texting my friend Ricky, who's here, but I won't point

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<v Speaker 3>her out, Are we sure?

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<v Speaker 4>Okay?

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<v Speaker 3>Well she's in the white sunnies. That's Ricky, a count

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<v Speaker 3>very funny person, and she's like, for me, I want

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<v Speaker 3>you to send me your sandwich guide. I've done a

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<v Speaker 3>sandwich guide to Melbourne and Sydney, as one does when

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<v Speaker 3>they gain weight, and I google Frooms to find my

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<v Speaker 3>newsletter and it's the first thing that comes out Froom's Waycane. Obviously,

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<v Speaker 3>my heart dropped, thinking what's going on here? If you've

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<v Speaker 3>ever been through something like eating disorder, or you have

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<v Speaker 3>body dysmorphia, or I guess everyone has a relationship to

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<v Speaker 3>their body, and often, like I think, everyone thinks about,

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<v Speaker 3>oh my god, what do I look like to other people?

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<v Speaker 3>And for me it's extreme because you know, I've been

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<v Speaker 3>thre eating disorder and we do this thing in the public,

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<v Speaker 3>and so to have that come up it was very confronting.

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<v Speaker 3>But the more I've had to sit with it, the

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<v Speaker 3>more I think, and this isn't a Kumbaya way to

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<v Speaker 3>think about it, but is it really that bad? Is

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<v Speaker 3>it that bad that people are curious about these things?

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<v Speaker 4>Because I think we all.

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<v Speaker 3>Do it, Like I think when someone who's a movie

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<v Speaker 3>star their body changes, I think you're prone to want

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<v Speaker 3>to know about it. I know Jonah Hill, for example,

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<v Speaker 3>talks about it a lot. There's been a preoccupation with

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<v Speaker 3>his weight, yes, sir, and how you know, how he

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<v Speaker 3>feels about that and how the people respond to it.

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<v Speaker 3>So I guess for me, it's kind of like an

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<v Speaker 3>adjustment thinking, maybe this is maybe it's relatable for people

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<v Speaker 3>to gain weight, lose weight, all that stuff. Why does

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<v Speaker 3>it have to be something that really upsets me? Because

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<v Speaker 3>it's a fact of life. Why is it so upsetting?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm I'm not okay with having a higher weight. What

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<v Speaker 3>does that say about me and my relationship to other

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<v Speaker 3>people's bodies?

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<v Speaker 4>What do you think, FLEXI?

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<v Speaker 5>I think it makes me feel of like the contradiction

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<v Speaker 5>between like wanting to be seen but not wanting to

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<v Speaker 5>be perceived. I think we want to be noticed and

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<v Speaker 5>validated when it feels good and when it looks good,

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<v Speaker 5>and when it strokes that part about ego that's like,

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<v Speaker 5>yes they see me, Yes they notice me, but you

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<v Speaker 5>never really take the time to be like, what are

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<v Speaker 5>they really seeing? Are they really noticing? And being made aware?

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<v Speaker 5>I was gonna use the word confronted, but it's not that.

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<v Speaker 5>Just being aware of people's perceptions of you, especially in

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<v Speaker 5>like a neutral environment like a search term.

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<v Speaker 4>You're like, oh, that is the sum.

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<v Speaker 5>Of me to people who are looking for me, like

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<v Speaker 5>this is what they want to know.

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<v Speaker 4>Fascinating. However, there is a final twist to the tail Ooh.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so tm me saying, and it was a random

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<v Speaker 3>man saying, Hey, Frooms, just want to let you know

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<v Speaker 3>there's a cyclist called Chris Froom.

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<v Speaker 4>Anyone know Chris from Paddle Up? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Around the back there cycling fan, and he said to me,

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<v Speaker 3>I saw a recent story and it just so happens

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<v Speaker 3>that Chris Froom, the cyclist has put on an inordinate

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<v Speaker 3>inordinate amount of weight post cycling. It's because of Chris Froom,

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<v Speaker 3>to which I thought, you know what, even if it

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<v Speaker 3>is that, I'm gonna wear this.

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<v Speaker 1>This is who I am.

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<v Speaker 3>But if you want to google brown hair, frooms, hottie,

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<v Speaker 3>go ahead.

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<v Speaker 4>That's not that A few options, a few options to

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<v Speaker 4>play with. Yeah, thank you for listening. It was an

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<v Speaker 4>interesting moment for me.

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<v Speaker 3>And now I feel totally kind of okay with it,

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<v Speaker 3>which is a very interesting mindset when you're still totally

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<v Speaker 3>cognizant of what it's like to not be fine with it.

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<v Speaker 5>Do you feel neutral about it? Knowing that often you're

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<v Speaker 5>googling similar things? I mean, like, what do they tell

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<v Speaker 5>you when you google something?

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<v Speaker 4>Simple? Search terms?

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<v Speaker 5>Don't over complicate it, right? So if I was going

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<v Speaker 5>to google like Drake Child, right, it's done neutral, there's

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<v Speaker 5>no feeling towards it yet. Do you feel neutral about it?

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<v Speaker 5>Or is some part of you like checking this seat?

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<v Speaker 5>Like what else are people saying? What else do they

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<v Speaker 5>want to know?

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<v Speaker 3>I think there's two parts of me. One part it

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<v Speaker 3>makes you spiral and think, what are people not? Are

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<v Speaker 3>people not interested in what I have to say?

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<v Speaker 4>People not interested in what I'm doing?

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<v Speaker 3>Is it just about a look thing? Because that's always

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<v Speaker 3>been like a touchy thing for me. But No, from

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<v Speaker 3>a neutral perspective, I don't. I don't think it's neutral honestly,

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<v Speaker 3>because I well, I guess they do it about men

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<v Speaker 3>in the public eye.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know why it's so fascinating. It's kind of

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<v Speaker 4>like I'm I'm not.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm confused because I find I find it interesting, But

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<v Speaker 3>then there's part of me that wishes it wasn't interesting

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<v Speaker 3>because I'm on the receiving end. So what I do

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<v Speaker 3>now is I don't google people wake, I don't seek

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<v Speaker 3>out new information in case it's of no I do.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm a turn a blind eye, nothing but positivity, flex

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<v Speaker 3>and frooms.

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<v Speaker 4>They're the best. What a chuo? Right now? It's am

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<v Speaker 4>I the asshole? But live? So it's juicy.

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<v Speaker 2>Am I the asshole for making my neighbor pay five

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<v Speaker 2>thousand dollars for offense.

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<v Speaker 4>Off the top?

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<v Speaker 3>No?

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<v Speaker 4>But I'm willing to have my mind changed.

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<v Speaker 2>So me and my friends moved into a beautiful home.

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<v Speaker 4>You yeah, this is your story, it's my real life story.

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<v Speaker 4>It was a boy.

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<v Speaker 2>Accordingly everyone, we introduced ourselves to our neighbors, as you

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<v Speaker 2>do do, and we gave them our numbers. In the

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<v Speaker 2>first week, we got a little bit too carried away

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<v Speaker 2>and we made too much noise and we're playing with

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<v Speaker 2>fire in the backyard and somebody called the cops on

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<v Speaker 2>us anonymously a little bit. Do we know at the

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<v Speaker 2>time that that started a feud with the next door neighbor.

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<v Speaker 2>The next day we had a warning from the real

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<v Speaker 2>estate threatening eviction.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh whoa yikes.

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<v Speaker 2>On occasion, my female housemates would be often topless in

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<v Speaker 2>the backyard when we're by the pool or doing.

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<v Speaker 4>Gardening as one does in their home. They don't like

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<v Speaker 4>ten lines.

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<v Speaker 2>One day, the mom from next door starts hurdling abuse

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<v Speaker 2>at us. She's saying things like, we have a seven

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<v Speaker 2>and nine year old they can see outside those windows.

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<v Speaker 4>This was during school hours as well.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know where you are, we know who to call,

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<v Speaker 2>we know who to call, and I'm sure you guys

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<v Speaker 2>are used to podiums. We suspected it was insecurity from

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<v Speaker 2>the husband from her for the husband because his office

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<v Speaker 2>looked out to our backyard. Yes, the morning after my

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<v Speaker 2>birthday party, they were totally abused at us again and

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<v Speaker 2>the mom said, I feel like I'm living next to

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<v Speaker 2>a frat house. And I thought this was so ironic

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<v Speaker 2>because if you've seen the movie Bad Neighbors, which you

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<v Speaker 2>probably have, that's exactly how the conflict happens. So the

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<v Speaker 2>next day we received another warning from the real estate

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<v Speaker 2>threatening eviction, three strike strikes and you're out.

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<v Speaker 4>How do they know your real estate? Oh? They were

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<v Speaker 4>like tight with the.

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<v Speaker 2>Old landlord, but he was just getting so tired of

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<v Speaker 2>them because he had they had their numbers, and basically

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<v Speaker 2>the real estate was just like, look, we're gonna cancel this. Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>because they actually lied to the real estate on a

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<v Speaker 2>legal document, which we should never ever do. They said

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<v Speaker 2>that the jumping castle was on for twenty four to seven.

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<v Speaker 2>They said that the music was too loud and the

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<v Speaker 2>police had to come, which they did not. And then

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<v Speaker 2>on the cherry on the top they said that the

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<v Speaker 2>neighbors who lived in front of them they had to

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<v Speaker 2>go to a hotel because we were too loud. Oh ok, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>So thankfully the warning after pardon and need take a

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<v Speaker 2>scripture course.

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<v Speaker 5>It after oh yeah, they need to add some realistic

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<v Speaker 5>stuff to this.

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<v Speaker 4>Email thankfully got revoked.

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<v Speaker 2>And then when we spoke to the real estate she

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<v Speaker 2>was like, don't worry about it. The owner's just annoyed

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<v Speaker 2>because they're trying to split the cost with him. A

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<v Speaker 2>few weeks later, the construction of a fifty meter fence

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<v Speaker 2>that was about yeah, hi, less than a meter had begun.

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<v Speaker 2>Hashtag free the nipple?

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<v Speaker 4>Am I the asshole? Oh?

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<v Speaker 3>I think I get it. They constructed a fence.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, it was ridiculous.

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<v Speaker 4>It was petty, so we won in the end, and.

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<v Speaker 5>They wanted you to split the cost of the fence

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<v Speaker 5>and their kids couldn't see your house made nipples.

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<v Speaker 4>With the landlord.

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<v Speaker 5>Ah, how do people have time in the day to

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<v Speaker 5>do this? If I have to work a full time

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<v Speaker 5>job and beef with my neighbors, I don't think I

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<v Speaker 5>could do it.

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<v Speaker 4>So who is the asshole?

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<v Speaker 5>I just think by virtue of proximity to us, you

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<v Speaker 5>could never be the asshole.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm a right or die, so i'mer back you to

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<v Speaker 4>the end.

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<v Speaker 5>But also I just worry about the It's like there's

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<v Speaker 5>something about this ownership people feel over the things in

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<v Speaker 5>proximity to them, like it's not even in your house, babe.

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<v Speaker 4>Get a hobby. It's so tiring.

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<v Speaker 5>But also what really spooks me is the length they're

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<v Speaker 5>going to to prove a point, because that you should

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<v Speaker 5>be worried about. I'm always so like fearful of people

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<v Speaker 5>who won't just let things go and who also can't

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<v Speaker 5>humanize you as people who pay to live next door.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 5>We've all seen it out, We've all seen it, we

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<v Speaker 5>know where this goes.

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<v Speaker 4>Stay safe, babe.

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<v Speaker 5>Brent's Rights flicks, and it's time to ask the big

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<v Speaker 5>question of the day. What is the etiquette if you

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<v Speaker 5>were told that someone was gonna get you a gift

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<v Speaker 5>and they didn't give it to you, what.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you do? Then?

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<v Speaker 5>Number one, what is a scenario when this would happen.

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<v Speaker 5>I've had people go overseas and be like, oh my goodness,

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<v Speaker 5>I want to get you some when I get back,

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<v Speaker 5>like oh I'm going to Panama, I'm gone your so

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<v Speaker 5>and so and so I'm going to do this, or

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<v Speaker 5>when they miss your birth baby, like oh no, I

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<v Speaker 5>gotta get you a gift.

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<v Speaker 4>I missed your birthday?

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<v Speaker 5>What is the etiquette there? Would you follow up a

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<v Speaker 5>little hush hush in the gallery?

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<v Speaker 4>Please?

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<v Speaker 3>Folk for what I'm about to say, I've been on

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<v Speaker 3>both ends. I got a friend whose birthday are missed,

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<v Speaker 3>and she's really got it picking presents, and I say

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<v Speaker 3>I'll take her out for dinner.

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<v Speaker 4>Never do. I've also a Peter offender. It's happened multiple times,

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<v Speaker 4>not only once.

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<v Speaker 3>But I've been in a situation where I might have

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<v Speaker 3>told you this story before.

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<v Speaker 4>That's fine.

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<v Speaker 3>I did ice skating as a small child, and I

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<v Speaker 3>met this chick from school and I took her ice skating.

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<v Speaker 3>We did a lap and she goes, my mum's in

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<v Speaker 3>the car outside and she's got a baby born.

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<v Speaker 4>She's going to give you a baby born. I remember this.

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<v Speaker 4>I do remember the story.

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<v Speaker 3>I do.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course, there was no baby born in the car,

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<v Speaker 1>and I never.

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<v Speaker 3>Saw her again, and I knew how that felt doing

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<v Speaker 3>those laps and laps around the ice skating ring thing

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<v Speaker 3>life in anticipation.

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<v Speaker 4>Your friend has brought me a baby born. Yeah, I'm sorry, baby,

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<v Speaker 4>So I think it's a terrible thing to do, Like

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<v Speaker 4>that's a core memory for me. Yeah, that's crazy. Okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 4>well let's take it to the crowd.

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<v Speaker 5>I want someone to feels confident enough to articulate themselves

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<v Speaker 5>on this topic.

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<v Speaker 4>What is the etiquette if someone's promised you a gift and.

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<v Speaker 5>The gift has not arrived, tuddle up and we'll get

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<v Speaker 5>a microphone at you.

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<v Speaker 4>There we go. That was a strong paddle in the front,

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<v Speaker 4>the gorgeous That was so quick. Okay. I think if

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<v Speaker 4>someone says that they're going to get you a gift,

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<v Speaker 4>they're not getting you.

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<v Speaker 1>A gift like straight off the back.

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<v Speaker 4>Because if you're going to get someone a gift, you're

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<v Speaker 4>not gonna tell them.

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<v Speaker 1>You're gonna want to surprise them with it.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I know, thanks, that's show.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't tell I want to hear from you more. The

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<v Speaker 3>fluorescent yellow head angel in the back.

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<v Speaker 4>There, please year more of that.

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<v Speaker 6>I think the way to bring it up is like

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<v Speaker 6>kind of as a joke, like you'll be like, you'll

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<v Speaker 6>just bring it up. Someone will be like, oh, talking

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<v Speaker 6>about like something kind of related but it kind of not,

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<v Speaker 6>and you, yeah, remember that gift you're meant to get.

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<v Speaker 4>Me or something.

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<v Speaker 6>I think that's probably the best way, and then you

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<v Speaker 6>can eat either the option to laugh it off or

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<v Speaker 6>like kind of confront them about it.

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<v Speaker 4>This is okay.

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<v Speaker 5>You've got a great comedic timing for that, because otherwise

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<v Speaker 5>it's passive aggressive.

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<v Speaker 2>You know.

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<v Speaker 6>But I'm twelve.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know anybody else's got an opinion. I'm intrigued. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>up from here.

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<v Speaker 2>I reckon you should be impeccable with your word. If

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<v Speaker 2>you say you're going to do something, go ahead with it.

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<v Speaker 2>Otherwise you will lose your credibility.

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<v Speaker 4>Absolutely so.

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<v Speaker 5>If you're on the receiving end of somebody who promised

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<v Speaker 5>to get you a gift and didn't, what are you doing, then.

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<v Speaker 2>Bring it up, be transparent and if they get your gift,

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<v Speaker 2>you get your gift.

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<v Speaker 4>Life's unfair.

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<v Speaker 5>And this is why I ask these questions because like

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<v Speaker 5>we've had three, three similar ish answers, but it begs

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<v Speaker 5>the question, why aren't we impeccable with our word?

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<v Speaker 4>You know? Second to that, stop saying we're going to

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<v Speaker 4>hang out if we're.

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<v Speaker 5>Not going to hang out, simple as that, Simple as that.

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<v Speaker 4>This is flex and frooms. We have a.

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<v Speaker 3>Listener in South Korea. She says she misses the girl chat.

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<v Speaker 3>So she says to us, we also have someone in Canberra.

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<v Speaker 4>She said it was like South Korea.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyone from Canberra here not what why would you?

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<v Speaker 4>Ah? Yesha? Is she really? Oh? I saw an eye roll?

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<v Speaker 4>I said, oh is that personal? Sorry?

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<v Speaker 3>Guys, I'm a camera fan. Everyone that I know who's

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<v Speaker 3>from Canberra rocks. But alas I digress. Me Lacunas and

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<v Speaker 3>Ashton Kutcher the perfect couple in theory and on paper.

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<v Speaker 3>But wait for's more FLEXI what are your opinions on

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<v Speaker 3>pooing and also peeing?

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<v Speaker 4>You said, no more pooh talk.

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<v Speaker 5>I know, and I said, I'm not arguing with people

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<v Speaker 5>about Hi June in twenty twenty three.

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<v Speaker 3>I left that in last year. Well, unfortunately this calls

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<v Speaker 3>for desperate measures.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, what's the question?

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<v Speaker 3>Ashton Kutcha and me Lacunas have an open door toilet

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<v Speaker 3>door policy in their household.

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<v Speaker 4>His eyes not with guy, So.

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<v Speaker 3>We're gonna need to get a little microphone over to

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<v Speaker 3>our friend.

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<v Speaker 4>What's your name, Susann? I have to be honest, guys.

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<v Speaker 4>Pull stinks seriously like it calls for hail Blake. It's

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<v Speaker 4>called opera, called doctor Phil.

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<v Speaker 1>It's real.

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<v Speaker 5>What about open door policy for just a simple number one.

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<v Speaker 4>For a number one. I'm so sorry, I'm not doing that.

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<v Speaker 3>Paddles are, paddles are Let's just let's just be real

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<v Speaker 3>with one another for a quick second.

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<v Speaker 4>Please everybody close your eyes.

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<v Speaker 5>Is that a respector please close your eyes minor closed.

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<v Speaker 3>The year is twenty twenty three February seventeen. Correct, and

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<v Speaker 3>you've just gone to the club and you have met

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<v Speaker 3>a man or a woman or whoever.

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<v Speaker 4>That takes your fancy.

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<v Speaker 3>I can see some open eyes down the back, close

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<v Speaker 3>them up, you take them home, going well, best X of.

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<v Speaker 4>Your life, if you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 3>Correct, they do a number two in the toilet with

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<v Speaker 3>the door ajar, Why because you're having the best You're

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<v Speaker 3>having the best DNM you've ever had with another human being.

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<v Speaker 3>Now open your eyes, it's on sweet. Will you see

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<v Speaker 3>them again?

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<v Speaker 4>Yes? You did? You just met.

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<v Speaker 3>Let me get a straight You've just met your soul

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<v Speaker 3>mate and the door is a jar because you are

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<v Speaker 3>having a DNM the best person you've ever met in

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<v Speaker 3>your life. I understand he doesn't mean to have it

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<v Speaker 3>open a little bit.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, look.

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<v Speaker 4>What you've done.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean it's a situation when the dms are hitting

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<v Speaker 3>the dms are hitting and by DMS I mean dn MS.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, so this.

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<v Speaker 3>Has been an illuminating experience. That's about all I wanted

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<v Speaker 3>to talk about. But just have a think about that again.

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<v Speaker 3>If you were to meet your soulmate, what would actually

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<v Speaker 3>turn you off?

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<v Speaker 4>And I say this sort of same. I don't think

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<v Speaker 4>that's correct. I shop with the door open.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, my three best friends at the back of saying say.

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<v Speaker 5>My soulmate feels shame. My soulmate wouldn't do that to me.

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<v Speaker 5>It's an odd thing to do. But I think later on,

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<v Speaker 5>in another time, we should have a conversation about how

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<v Speaker 5>people think that showing your worst self equals intimacy, showing

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<v Speaker 5>your grossest self equals intimacy.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't feel that way.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't feel closer to a person because you can

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<v Speaker 5>fight in front of me.

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<v Speaker 4>That has nothing to do with me. That's all you.

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<v Speaker 4>That's important.

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