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Speaker 4: You're listening to Flex and Frooms. What the frick now? FLEXI.
Speaker 3: As you know, when you google your name, stuff comes
Speaker 3: up when you google flex, Mummy, what comes up?
Speaker 4: While we're waiting? I must submit. I'm prone to a
Speaker 4: little Google of frooms. It's only natural.
Speaker 1: You need to keep the hygiene popping on the Googles.
Speaker 4: Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: For many years when I googled my name, it was
Speaker 1: nothing but fantastic results.
Speaker 4: My TikTok. I don't Google anymore.
Speaker 5: We've got flex mummy, boyfriend controversy, Hobart Croox, jewelry podcasts,
Speaker 5: Sydney makeup.
Speaker 4: I want to hear about this. Controverts not bad, It's
Speaker 4: not bad boys. So mine's always been.
Speaker 3: Frooms age, listening to Froomes not my real name, Listen.
Speaker 4: To price A, it is your real name. Listen to firms.
Speaker 3: Price and A Haunted. I would call it haunted. Originally,
Speaker 3: new Google search came up.
Speaker 4: Froom's weight game did come up? Came up? It did,
Speaker 4: It'd be like.
Speaker 3: That out here, and my initial feeling I was actually
Speaker 3: texting my friend Ricky, who's here, but I won't point
Speaker 3: her out, Are we sure?
Speaker 4: Okay?
Speaker 3: Well she's in the white sunnies. That's Ricky, a count
Speaker 3: very funny person, and she's like, for me, I want
Speaker 3: you to send me your sandwich guide. I've done a
Speaker 3: sandwich guide to Melbourne and Sydney, as one does when
Speaker 3: they gain weight, and I google Frooms to find my
Speaker 3: newsletter and it's the first thing that comes out Froom's Waycane. Obviously,
Speaker 3: my heart dropped, thinking what's going on here? If you've
Speaker 3: ever been through something like eating disorder, or you have
Speaker 3: body dysmorphia, or I guess everyone has a relationship to
Speaker 3: their body, and often, like I think, everyone thinks about,
Speaker 3: oh my god, what do I look like to other people?
Speaker 3: And for me it's extreme because you know, I've been
Speaker 3: thre eating disorder and we do this thing in the public,
Speaker 3: and so to have that come up it was very confronting.
Speaker 3: But the more I've had to sit with it, the
Speaker 3: more I think, and this isn't a Kumbaya way to
Speaker 3: think about it, but is it really that bad? Is
Speaker 3: it that bad that people are curious about these things?
Speaker 4: Because I think we all.
Speaker 3: Do it, Like I think when someone who's a movie
Speaker 3: star their body changes, I think you're prone to want
Speaker 3: to know about it. I know Jonah Hill, for example,
Speaker 3: talks about it a lot. There's been a preoccupation with
Speaker 3: his weight, yes, sir, and how you know, how he
Speaker 3: feels about that and how the people respond to it.
Speaker 3: So I guess for me, it's kind of like an
Speaker 3: adjustment thinking, maybe this is maybe it's relatable for people
Speaker 3: to gain weight, lose weight, all that stuff. Why does
Speaker 3: it have to be something that really upsets me? Because
Speaker 3: it's a fact of life. Why is it so upsetting?
Speaker 3: I'm I'm not okay with having a higher weight. What
Speaker 3: does that say about me and my relationship to other
Speaker 3: people's bodies?
Speaker 4: What do you think, FLEXI?
Speaker 5: I think it makes me feel of like the contradiction
Speaker 5: between like wanting to be seen but not wanting to
Speaker 5: be perceived. I think we want to be noticed and
Speaker 5: validated when it feels good and when it looks good,
Speaker 5: and when it strokes that part about ego that's like,
Speaker 5: yes they see me, Yes they notice me, but you
Speaker 5: never really take the time to be like, what are
Speaker 5: they really seeing? Are they really noticing? And being made aware?
Speaker 5: I was gonna use the word confronted, but it's not that.
Speaker 5: Just being aware of people's perceptions of you, especially in
Speaker 5: like a neutral environment like a search term.
Speaker 4: You're like, oh, that is the sum.
Speaker 5: Of me to people who are looking for me, like
Speaker 5: this is what they want to know.
Speaker 4: Fascinating. However, there is a final twist to the tail Ooh.
Speaker 3: Okay, so tm me saying, and it was a random
Speaker 3: man saying, Hey, Frooms, just want to let you know
Speaker 3: there's a cyclist called Chris Froom.
Speaker 4: Anyone know Chris from Paddle Up? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Around the back there cycling fan, and he said to me,
Speaker 3: I saw a recent story and it just so happens
Speaker 3: that Chris Froom, the cyclist has put on an inordinate
Speaker 3: inordinate amount of weight post cycling. It's because of Chris Froom,
Speaker 3: to which I thought, you know what, even if it
Speaker 3: is that, I'm gonna wear this.
Speaker 1: This is who I am.
Speaker 3: But if you want to google brown hair, frooms, hottie,
Speaker 3: go ahead.
Speaker 4: That's not that A few options, a few options to
Speaker 4: play with. Yeah, thank you for listening. It was an
Speaker 4: interesting moment for me.
Speaker 3: And now I feel totally kind of okay with it,
Speaker 3: which is a very interesting mindset when you're still totally
Speaker 3: cognizant of what it's like to not be fine with it.
Speaker 5: Do you feel neutral about it? Knowing that often you're
Speaker 5: googling similar things? I mean, like, what do they tell
Speaker 5: you when you google something?
Speaker 4: Simple? Search terms?
Speaker 5: Don't over complicate it, right? So if I was going
Speaker 5: to google like Drake Child, right, it's done neutral, there's
Speaker 5: no feeling towards it yet. Do you feel neutral about it?
Speaker 5: Or is some part of you like checking this seat?
Speaker 5: Like what else are people saying? What else do they
Speaker 5: want to know?
Speaker 3: I think there's two parts of me. One part it
Speaker 3: makes you spiral and think, what are people not? Are
Speaker 3: people not interested in what I have to say?
Speaker 4: People not interested in what I'm doing?
Speaker 3: Is it just about a look thing? Because that's always
Speaker 3: been like a touchy thing for me. But No, from
Speaker 3: a neutral perspective, I don't. I don't think it's neutral honestly,
Speaker 3: because I well, I guess they do it about men
Speaker 3: in the public eye.
Speaker 4: I don't know why it's so fascinating. It's kind of
Speaker 4: like I'm I'm not.
Speaker 3: I'm confused because I find I find it interesting, But
Speaker 3: then there's part of me that wishes it wasn't interesting
Speaker 3: because I'm on the receiving end. So what I do
Speaker 3: now is I don't google people wake, I don't seek
Speaker 3: out new information in case it's of no I do.
Speaker 3: I'm a turn a blind eye, nothing but positivity, flex
Speaker 3: and frooms.
Speaker 4: They're the best. What a chuo? Right now? It's am
Speaker 4: I the asshole? But live? So it's juicy.
Speaker 2: Am I the asshole for making my neighbor pay five
Speaker 2: thousand dollars for offense.
Speaker 4: Off the top?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 4: But I'm willing to have my mind changed.
Speaker 2: So me and my friends moved into a beautiful home.
Speaker 4: You yeah, this is your story, it's my real life story.
Speaker 4: It was a boy.
Speaker 2: Accordingly everyone, we introduced ourselves to our neighbors, as you
Speaker 2: do do, and we gave them our numbers. In the
Speaker 2: first week, we got a little bit too carried away
Speaker 2: and we made too much noise and we're playing with
Speaker 2: fire in the backyard and somebody called the cops on
Speaker 2: us anonymously a little bit. Do we know at the
Speaker 2: time that that started a feud with the next door neighbor.
Speaker 2: The next day we had a warning from the real
Speaker 2: estate threatening eviction.
Speaker 4: Oh whoa yikes.
Speaker 2: On occasion, my female housemates would be often topless in
Speaker 2: the backyard when we're by the pool or doing.
Speaker 4: Gardening as one does in their home. They don't like
Speaker 4: ten lines.
Speaker 2: One day, the mom from next door starts hurdling abuse
Speaker 2: at us. She's saying things like, we have a seven
Speaker 2: and nine year old they can see outside those windows.
Speaker 4: This was during school hours as well.
Speaker 2: I don't know where you are, we know who to call,
Speaker 2: we know who to call, and I'm sure you guys
Speaker 2: are used to podiums. We suspected it was insecurity from
Speaker 2: the husband from her for the husband because his office
Speaker 2: looked out to our backyard. Yes, the morning after my
Speaker 2: birthday party, they were totally abused at us again and
Speaker 2: the mom said, I feel like I'm living next to
Speaker 2: a frat house. And I thought this was so ironic
Speaker 2: because if you've seen the movie Bad Neighbors, which you
Speaker 2: probably have, that's exactly how the conflict happens. So the
Speaker 2: next day we received another warning from the real estate
Speaker 2: threatening eviction, three strike strikes and you're out.
Speaker 4: How do they know your real estate? Oh? They were
Speaker 4: like tight with the.
Speaker 2: Old landlord, but he was just getting so tired of
Speaker 2: them because he had they had their numbers, and basically
Speaker 2: the real estate was just like, look, we're gonna cancel this. Oh,
Speaker 2: because they actually lied to the real estate on a
Speaker 2: legal document, which we should never ever do. They said
Speaker 2: that the jumping castle was on for twenty four to seven.
Speaker 2: They said that the music was too loud and the
Speaker 2: police had to come, which they did not. And then
Speaker 2: on the cherry on the top they said that the
Speaker 2: neighbors who lived in front of them they had to
Speaker 2: go to a hotel because we were too loud. Oh ok, yeah,
Speaker 2: So thankfully the warning after pardon and need take a
Speaker 2: scripture course.
Speaker 5: It after oh yeah, they need to add some realistic
Speaker 5: stuff to this.
Speaker 4: Email thankfully got revoked.
Speaker 2: And then when we spoke to the real estate she
Speaker 2: was like, don't worry about it. The owner's just annoyed
Speaker 2: because they're trying to split the cost with him. A
Speaker 2: few weeks later, the construction of a fifty meter fence
Speaker 2: that was about yeah, hi, less than a meter had begun.
Speaker 2: Hashtag free the nipple?
Speaker 4: Am I the asshole? Oh?
Speaker 3: I think I get it. They constructed a fence.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, it was ridiculous.
Speaker 4: It was petty, so we won in the end, and.
Speaker 5: They wanted you to split the cost of the fence
Speaker 5: and their kids couldn't see your house made nipples.
Speaker 4: With the landlord.
Speaker 5: Ah, how do people have time in the day to
Speaker 5: do this? If I have to work a full time
Speaker 5: job and beef with my neighbors, I don't think I
Speaker 5: could do it.
Speaker 4: So who is the asshole?
Speaker 5: I just think by virtue of proximity to us, you
Speaker 5: could never be the asshole.
Speaker 4: I'm a right or die, so i'mer back you to
Speaker 4: the end.
Speaker 5: But also I just worry about the It's like there's
Speaker 5: something about this ownership people feel over the things in
Speaker 5: proximity to them, like it's not even in your house, babe.
Speaker 4: Get a hobby. It's so tiring.
Speaker 5: But also what really spooks me is the length they're
Speaker 5: going to to prove a point, because that you should
Speaker 5: be worried about. I'm always so like fearful of people
Speaker 5: who won't just let things go and who also can't
Speaker 5: humanize you as people who pay to live next door.
Speaker 4: Do you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5: We've all seen it out, We've all seen it, we
Speaker 5: know where this goes.
Speaker 4: Stay safe, babe.
Speaker 5: Brent's Rights flicks, and it's time to ask the big
Speaker 5: question of the day. What is the etiquette if you
Speaker 5: were told that someone was gonna get you a gift
Speaker 5: and they didn't give it to you, what.
Speaker 4: Do you do? Then?
Speaker 5: Number one, what is a scenario when this would happen.
Speaker 5: I've had people go overseas and be like, oh my goodness,
Speaker 5: I want to get you some when I get back,
Speaker 5: like oh I'm going to Panama, I'm gone your so
Speaker 5: and so and so I'm going to do this, or
Speaker 5: when they miss your birth baby, like oh no, I
Speaker 5: gotta get you a gift.
Speaker 4: I missed your birthday?
Speaker 5: What is the etiquette there? Would you follow up a
Speaker 5: little hush hush in the gallery?
Speaker 4: Please?
Speaker 3: Folk for what I'm about to say, I've been on
Speaker 3: both ends. I got a friend whose birthday are missed,
Speaker 3: and she's really got it picking presents, and I say
Speaker 3: I'll take her out for dinner.
Speaker 4: Never do. I've also a Peter offender. It's happened multiple times,
Speaker 4: not only once.
Speaker 3: But I've been in a situation where I might have
Speaker 3: told you this story before.
Speaker 4: That's fine.
Speaker 3: I did ice skating as a small child, and I
Speaker 3: met this chick from school and I took her ice skating.
Speaker 3: We did a lap and she goes, my mum's in
Speaker 3: the car outside and she's got a baby born.
Speaker 4: She's going to give you a baby born. I remember this.
Speaker 4: I do remember the story.
Speaker 3: I do.
Speaker 1: Of course, there was no baby born in the car,
Speaker 1: and I never.
Speaker 3: Saw her again, and I knew how that felt doing
Speaker 3: those laps and laps around the ice skating ring thing
Speaker 3: life in anticipation.
Speaker 4: Your friend has brought me a baby born. Yeah, I'm sorry, baby,
Speaker 4: So I think it's a terrible thing to do, Like
Speaker 4: that's a core memory for me. Yeah, that's crazy. Okay, okay,
Speaker 4: well let's take it to the crowd.
Speaker 5: I want someone to feels confident enough to articulate themselves
Speaker 5: on this topic.
Speaker 4: What is the etiquette if someone's promised you a gift and.
Speaker 5: The gift has not arrived, tuddle up and we'll get
Speaker 5: a microphone at you.
Speaker 4: There we go. That was a strong paddle in the front,
Speaker 4: the gorgeous That was so quick. Okay. I think if
Speaker 4: someone says that they're going to get you a gift,
Speaker 4: they're not getting you.
Speaker 1: A gift like straight off the back.
Speaker 4: Because if you're going to get someone a gift, you're
Speaker 4: not gonna tell them.
Speaker 1: You're gonna want to surprise them with it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I know, thanks, that's show.
Speaker 3: Don't tell I want to hear from you more. The
Speaker 3: fluorescent yellow head angel in the back.
Speaker 4: There, please year more of that.
Speaker 6: I think the way to bring it up is like
Speaker 6: kind of as a joke, like you'll be like, you'll
Speaker 6: just bring it up. Someone will be like, oh, talking
Speaker 6: about like something kind of related but it kind of not,
Speaker 6: and you, yeah, remember that gift you're meant to get.
Speaker 4: Me or something.
Speaker 6: I think that's probably the best way, and then you
Speaker 6: can eat either the option to laugh it off or
Speaker 6: like kind of confront them about it.
Speaker 4: This is okay.
Speaker 5: You've got a great comedic timing for that, because otherwise
Speaker 5: it's passive aggressive.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 6: But I'm twelve.
Speaker 5: I don't know anybody else's got an opinion. I'm intrigued. Yeah,
Speaker 5: up from here.
Speaker 2: I reckon you should be impeccable with your word. If
Speaker 2: you say you're going to do something, go ahead with it.
Speaker 2: Otherwise you will lose your credibility.
Speaker 4: Absolutely so.
Speaker 5: If you're on the receiving end of somebody who promised
Speaker 5: to get you a gift and didn't, what are you doing, then.
Speaker 2: Bring it up, be transparent and if they get your gift,
Speaker 2: you get your gift.
Speaker 4: Life's unfair.
Speaker 5: And this is why I ask these questions because like
Speaker 5: we've had three, three similar ish answers, but it begs
Speaker 5: the question, why aren't we impeccable with our word?
Speaker 4: You know? Second to that, stop saying we're going to
Speaker 4: hang out if we're.
Speaker 5: Not going to hang out, simple as that, Simple as that.
Speaker 4: This is flex and frooms. We have a.
Speaker 3: Listener in South Korea. She says she misses the girl chat.
Speaker 3: So she says to us, we also have someone in Canberra.
Speaker 4: She said it was like South Korea.
Speaker 1: Anyone from Canberra here not what why would you?
Speaker 4: Ah? Yesha? Is she really? Oh? I saw an eye roll?
Speaker 4: I said, oh is that personal? Sorry?
Speaker 3: Guys, I'm a camera fan. Everyone that I know who's
Speaker 3: from Canberra rocks. But alas I digress. Me Lacunas and
Speaker 3: Ashton Kutcher the perfect couple in theory and on paper.
Speaker 3: But wait for's more FLEXI what are your opinions on
Speaker 3: pooing and also peeing?
Speaker 4: You said, no more pooh talk.
Speaker 5: I know, and I said, I'm not arguing with people
Speaker 5: about Hi June in twenty twenty three.
Speaker 3: I left that in last year. Well, unfortunately this calls
Speaker 3: for desperate measures.
Speaker 4: Okay, what's the question?
Speaker 3: Ashton Kutcha and me Lacunas have an open door toilet
Speaker 3: door policy in their household.
Speaker 4: His eyes not with guy, So.
Speaker 3: We're gonna need to get a little microphone over to
Speaker 3: our friend.
Speaker 4: What's your name, Susann? I have to be honest, guys.
Speaker 4: Pull stinks seriously like it calls for hail Blake. It's
Speaker 4: called opera, called doctor Phil.
Speaker 1: It's real.
Speaker 5: What about open door policy for just a simple number one.
Speaker 4: For a number one. I'm so sorry, I'm not doing that.
Speaker 3: Paddles are, paddles are Let's just let's just be real
Speaker 3: with one another for a quick second.
Speaker 4: Please everybody close your eyes.
Speaker 5: Is that a respector please close your eyes minor closed.
Speaker 3: The year is twenty twenty three February seventeen. Correct, and
Speaker 3: you've just gone to the club and you have met
Speaker 3: a man or a woman or whoever.
Speaker 4: That takes your fancy.
Speaker 3: I can see some open eyes down the back, close
Speaker 3: them up, you take them home, going well, best X of.
Speaker 4: Your life, if you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Correct, they do a number two in the toilet with
Speaker 3: the door ajar, Why because you're having the best You're
Speaker 3: having the best DNM you've ever had with another human being.
Speaker 3: Now open your eyes, it's on sweet. Will you see
Speaker 3: them again?
Speaker 4: Yes? You did? You just met.
Speaker 3: Let me get a straight You've just met your soul
Speaker 3: mate and the door is a jar because you are
Speaker 3: having a DNM the best person you've ever met in
Speaker 3: your life. I understand he doesn't mean to have it
Speaker 3: open a little bit.
Speaker 5: You know, look.
Speaker 4: What you've done.
Speaker 3: I mean it's a situation when the dms are hitting
Speaker 3: the dms are hitting and by DMS I mean dn MS.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so this.
Speaker 3: Has been an illuminating experience. That's about all I wanted
Speaker 3: to talk about. But just have a think about that again.
Speaker 3: If you were to meet your soulmate, what would actually
Speaker 3: turn you off?
Speaker 4: And I say this sort of same. I don't think
Speaker 4: that's correct. I shop with the door open.
Speaker 1: Okay, my three best friends at the back of saying say.
Speaker 5: My soulmate feels shame. My soulmate wouldn't do that to me.
Speaker 5: It's an odd thing to do. But I think later on,
Speaker 5: in another time, we should have a conversation about how
Speaker 5: people think that showing your worst self equals intimacy, showing
Speaker 5: your grossest self equals intimacy.
Speaker 4: I don't feel that way.
Speaker 5: I don't feel closer to a person because you can
Speaker 5: fight in front of me.
Speaker 4: That has nothing to do with me. That's all you.
Speaker 4: That's important.
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