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Speaker 4: This is the pickup. Hi guys, welcome back to the Pickup.
Speaker 4: It's Britt Hockey and Laura Burn and I am.
Speaker 3: Making great progress. Laura with my wedding planning, thrilled what's
Speaker 3: happened now? It's actually it's actually so funny.
Speaker 2: I feel like I need to start these conversations with
Speaker 2: how much I love my fiance and I can't wait
Speaker 2: to marry.
Speaker 3: Him, because I know a lot of the convos I've had.
Speaker 2: Surrounding wedding planning and my fiancee Ben have been around
Speaker 2: the fact that he hasn't been a great planner.
Speaker 1: This is exactly the type of caveat that mums put
Speaker 1: out there when they're like, I love my child, but
Speaker 1: being a parent sucks.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, but it's so rewarding.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's exactly that conversation.
Speaker 4: So patronizing is your husband.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 3: I am very excited to marry Ben.
Speaker 2: But it's been an interesting journey with the planning that
Speaker 2: he hasn't been overly involved in, but the things that
Speaker 2: have excited him have been very interesting. So one of
Speaker 2: his caveats for the wedding, the very first thing that
Speaker 2: we ever spoke about over a year ago.
Speaker 3: Was that he really wanted an ice cream cart at
Speaker 3: the wedding. That was it.
Speaker 2: It wasn't the location, it wasn't inside or outside, it
Speaker 2: wasn't where what country, It was just can we have
Speaker 2: an ice cream?
Speaker 1: I remember you sitting down and you were like, hey, honey,
Speaker 1: what are your man trees for the wedding? And he
Speaker 1: thought about it really, like really seriously. He took the
Speaker 1: question absolutely to heart. And then he stopped down and
Speaker 1: he said, I just think we need to have sorbet, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's it. And then did you have a moment where
Speaker 1: you were like, am I marrying a giant child?
Speaker 3: It was sort of where I knew he was actual.
Speaker 2: I was like, he's my penguin anyway, So Amelia, I
Speaker 2: went planner from Easy Weddings. We're in a group chat
Speaker 2: just me, Ben and Amelia, and I am the one
Speaker 2: that's always deep in there doing everything. So I saw
Speaker 2: some messages flying around last night and I noticed it
Speaker 2: was about the ice cream. So I checked out a bit.
Speaker 2: I was like, Oh, this is Ben's wheel his wheelhouse,
Speaker 2: he's got this cupboard. I checked back in a bit
Speaker 2: later and Amelia had asked Ben, Ben, the time has come,
Speaker 2: send through your ice cream picks for the ice Cream
Speaker 2: Crew top list. Yeah. Anyway, I see Ben sending through
Speaker 2: something that I see Amelia right back and say, oh,
Speaker 2: oh sorry, Ben, you need to just rephrase that you're
Speaker 2: only allowed eight ice creams. I was like, I said, sorry, Amelia,
Speaker 2: how many ice creams did Ben's pick?
Speaker 4: Sixteen ice creams?
Speaker 3: He wanted sixteen different ice cream.
Speaker 2: Flavors in one tiny cart at our wedding.
Speaker 1: Let the man live, Brittany.
Speaker 4: What are you going to do with soft china? Cont
Speaker 4: Do you know what the thing was?
Speaker 3: He goes, Babe, how am I going to cut this down?
Speaker 3: And I was like, okay, well, let's go through this.
Speaker 2: There's five different flavors of caramel, five salted caramel.
Speaker 4: Peanut butter caramel.
Speaker 3: I was like, Babe, let's cut the caramel.
Speaker 1: You're all say, like, then, if I've been able to
Speaker 1: make every other decision, I'm sure you can cut the
Speaker 1: ice crew down to five. Now, Britt, I want to
Speaker 1: talk about something that I feel like most parents have
Speaker 1: been faced with at one point in another, and.
Speaker 4: That is the poon armi. The poon armi with no tools.
Speaker 1: If you have little kids and you've forgotten a nappy,
Speaker 1: or you've forgotten wives, or it's been explosive and you've
Speaker 1: forgotten a change of clothes, everyone has had to deal
Speaker 1: with something going very wrong and having to come up
Speaker 1: with a quick and fast and hard solution.
Speaker 2: Okay, what is this one of your kids? They're not
Speaker 2: in nappies anymore, are they.
Speaker 1: No, I've got a five year old, four year old.
Speaker 1: It's been a long time since we've dealt with a
Speaker 1: poon army.
Speaker 4: This is off the back.
Speaker 1: There's a woman who's going viral online because she has
Speaker 1: shared what seemingly is quite a resourceful solution to a
Speaker 1: poon army that she experienced.
Speaker 4: However, the whole city is the full.
Speaker 1: Situation sounds like an absolute disaster if you ask me so.
Speaker 1: They're on an international flight, it is three thirty in
Speaker 1: the morning, and she has realized that she didn't pack
Speaker 1: span now for her one and a half year old,
Speaker 1: This little kid looks.
Speaker 3: Like on an overnight flight.
Speaker 1: On an overnight imagine waking up at three thirty in
Speaker 1: the morning to a turd and being like, oh God,
Speaker 1: here we go, here we go, Code brown everyone. So
Speaker 1: what she did is she didn't have a nappy. She
Speaker 1: had wipes, but she had panty liners like her own
Speaker 1: panty liners. So she slid a panty liner into the nappy.
Speaker 1: I'm guessing to try and absorb as much of the
Speaker 1: excess fluid and everything else as possible.
Speaker 4: No, which you know what I heard about.
Speaker 1: Like, I read this and I was like, I guess
Speaker 1: it would kind of work, but I'm left with a
Speaker 1: lot of questions.
Speaker 2: I feel very sorry for her because I can't imagine.
Speaker 2: I have not been in that position. But I would
Speaker 2: imagine on a flight, like an overseas overnight flight, there
Speaker 2: are a lot of people on there.
Speaker 3: There is guaranteed to be other families with kids.
Speaker 2: I'd be patrolling those aisles until I found like another
Speaker 2: mum and begging for a nappy.
Speaker 3: That's what I'd be doing.
Speaker 1: You know what that is that is spoken like a
Speaker 1: true dog mum who's gotten to the dog park and
Speaker 1: didn't have a bag. That is a true dog mum response,
Speaker 1: because I didn't even clock that one.
Speaker 3: I would That seems like the most obvious solution.
Speaker 4: Do you know why?
Speaker 1: Because I think if you went and asked someone else
Speaker 1: for a nappy, the judgment of like, why didn't you
Speaker 1: pack enough nappies? Like I just wouldn't even think to
Speaker 1: ask someone for a nappy.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't you just say, hey, they've pood wait more
Speaker 2: than I would have thought. That's also what dog people say,
Speaker 2: so when like your dog is poody, you've run out
Speaker 2: of back like sorry that they usually do one, they've
Speaker 2: done like.
Speaker 4: Four, But realistically you just left with one rogue bag.
Speaker 4: And I was it. I will never forget.
Speaker 1: I was on a flight and it was it was
Speaker 1: an international flight, but it was a day flight.
Speaker 4: We're going to Balley and you know that's a six
Speaker 4: hour flight.
Speaker 1: And the family that was sitting directly in front of
Speaker 1: me had a little baby, and I also had my
Speaker 1: kids with me, so like we were surrounded by kids
Speaker 1: and their little daughter. I think she must have been
Speaker 1: about maybe two, so that's not like baby baby, like
Speaker 1: two is that's that is full blown toddler territory, and
Speaker 1: everyone could smell that someone had pooed their pants, like
Speaker 1: it was very evident in the whole of that area
Speaker 1: of the seating, and so everyone was kind of quietly
Speaker 1: being like, oh, who is And I sniffed both my
Speaker 1: kids and I was like, my kids, it's not me,
Speaker 1: it's the you know, I'm not responsible for this anyway.
Speaker 1: Ten minutes later, the family in front, she just lays
Speaker 1: the little girl down on the seat and uses the
Speaker 1: seat that's right next to her as the change table
Speaker 1: to change the nappy, like starts fully changing the nappy
Speaker 1: in the middle of her.
Speaker 3: Is that like a no, go? I don't know.
Speaker 1: No, you have to take them to the toilet and
Speaker 1: use their fold out change it. I think it's okay
Speaker 1: to change a nappy in lots of places, like I'm
Speaker 1: a change nappy on the go kind of goal, but
Speaker 1: absolutely not in a packed flight where every single other
Speaker 1: person has to sit there and smell your kid like
Speaker 1: that's to me that was writ.
Speaker 3: Them down on someone's lap.
Speaker 1: Nah. No, absolutely not anyway, so much so that the
Speaker 1: air flight hostess came over and she was like, I'm
Speaker 1: really sorry, but you cannot do that there you have
Speaker 1: to go to the toilet, like, yeah, that's fair, She
Speaker 1: looked horrified.
Speaker 2: Also, the walk of shame, like when you've got to
Speaker 2: then stand up with a stinky baby and everyone's like, oh,
Speaker 2: you're already because you're like you've already stunk out the cabin,
Speaker 2: and then you got to walk a shame like the
Speaker 2: next pits.
Speaker 4: The smell's got nowhere to go. It's got nowhere to go.
Speaker 3: We heard packing nappies and go to the toilet.
Speaker 4: I do feel sorry for it, because, like I said,
Speaker 4: I've been.
Speaker 1: Caught out before, and you really have to get resourceful,
Speaker 1: like you really have to think about like what is
Speaker 1: it that I can use? Do you water it down
Speaker 1: there with some toilet paper? Like what do you do
Speaker 1: to try and save your kid from a from a
Speaker 1: nappyless punami situation?
Speaker 2: For give me for taking this side step, but this
Speaker 2: is where my brain has gone.
Speaker 3: When you just said being resourceful.
Speaker 2: I do remember a time that you did a poop,
Speaker 2: So what yeah you, Laura, you did a poop and
Speaker 2: you Oh.
Speaker 1: This is really taking a side step, and I don't
Speaker 1: know if you need to talk about this on radio.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you already spoke about it on radio. You've just
Speaker 3: reminded me. You already forget that. You outed yourself.
Speaker 2: You did a poop and you there was any toilet paper,
Speaker 2: so you went into your handbag and you found one
Speaker 2: of the girl's socks.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that was That was a low point in my life.
Speaker 4: That was a low point.
Speaker 3: About talking about being resourceful. You've got to do what
Speaker 3: you've gotta do.
Speaker 4: Yeah, when when you're on the go.
Speaker 2: I was reading this Reddit thread Laura. That gave me
Speaker 2: a bit of a chuckle, and it reminded me of
Speaker 2: a couple of things I've done.
Speaker 3: In the past and something that I've heard you throw
Speaker 3: around a little bit.
Speaker 4: Okah, what have I done?
Speaker 1: Now?
Speaker 3: Well, this could go.
Speaker 2: Either way, but this woman was talking about this awkward
Speaker 2: encounter she had with her boss and the way she
Speaker 2: signed off a phone call.
Speaker 3: So this is her thread.
Speaker 2: I accidentally said I love you at the end of
Speaker 2: a call with an important client yesterday. I heard him
Speaker 2: giggle as I hung up, and I was absolutely mortified.
Speaker 2: Today I received an email from him. Now, imagine the
Speaker 2: fact that you've had this awkward moment you said I
Speaker 2: love you to someone. You absolutely shouldn't and then you
Speaker 2: see an email pop up you're like.
Speaker 1: Don't do you not just like hit that one on
Speaker 1: the head and be like, sorry, that was I don't
Speaker 1: actually love you?
Speaker 4: Is that I don't love you?
Speaker 3: Actually don't have feelings for you? Like, no, I don't know.
Speaker 2: I think it's better that you don't try to pretend
Speaker 2: it didn't happen.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so this is the email.
Speaker 2: Hey, Sarah, just wanted to say that I didn't mean
Speaker 2: to laugh at you when you accidentally signed off on
Speaker 2: our call with I love you.
Speaker 5: Oh.
Speaker 1: He was just worried about getting in trouble from HH.
Speaker 1: He's like, oh God, here we go. Now someone's gonna complain.
Speaker 2: I just found it funny because I've definitely done that before,
Speaker 2: and I know it happens. I'm glad you have enough
Speaker 2: love in your life that the response comes naturally.
Speaker 3: If anything, you should be proud of that smiley face.
Speaker 2: Have a great weekend, and we'll follow up about my
Speaker 2: call with Chris on Wednesday as discussed, no I love
Speaker 2: you sign off. Would you want that response or would
Speaker 2: you want just like to pretend it didn't happen.
Speaker 1: I've done some doozies. Actually, just the other day, our
Speaker 1: radio boss Tony walked into the office. We're having a chat,
Speaker 1: and then I caught him honey by accident, and we
Speaker 1: just steamrolled like it wasn't even a thing.
Speaker 4: He didn't even notice. Thanks honey.
Speaker 3: Oh he noticed.
Speaker 4: He looked at me and winked.
Speaker 1: Ill.
Speaker 2: I was I must have been in that moment. I
Speaker 2: was in the room, and I did just be really uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: I'm a words of affirmation kind of person, like I'm
Speaker 1: an endearing term.
Speaker 4: Everyone's honey or darling or something.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 4: I did it didn't mean to it was not intentional.
Speaker 2: Also, no offense, Tony. If you're listening, Tony doesn't give honey.
Speaker 2: He's not a honey.
Speaker 1: He's gonna hate that, poor Tony. Tony could be a
Speaker 1: honey to someone you're not.
Speaker 2: You do you know what I'm really guilty of and
Speaker 2: I probably have to work on it. I throw kisses
Speaker 2: around day, mean nothing, like they don't though what they
Speaker 2: do to me. But whoever I'm emailing, it doesn't matter
Speaker 2: whether it's like the finance guy or the boss or
Speaker 2: it's it's a client.
Speaker 3: I just throwing kisses and I'm like, I don't know
Speaker 3: if you can do that.
Speaker 1: I have one other example. There's many of them, but
Speaker 1: this one just lives rent free in my mind. So, like,
Speaker 1: I run another business where I was talking to a
Speaker 1: client of mine and she had wanted to get a
Speaker 1: piece of jewelry made specifically for her mom for Mother's Day.
Speaker 1: It was a custom piece, and like, I'd not been
Speaker 1: on comms at all. My sister, who's my business partner,
Speaker 1: had been managing it. And I just chimed in because
Speaker 1: I was like, Hi, so lovely, he's so excited, And
Speaker 1: I signed off with have a lovely Mother's Day with
Speaker 1: your bum scent. Oh my god, I have a great
Speaker 1: time with your bum anyway.
Speaker 2: So she wrote that obviously she could between the lines,
Speaker 2: but that's a typo.
Speaker 3: It does rhyme with mum and these two letters that
Speaker 3: they shares the word.
Speaker 1: I know, but really sometimes the autocorrect does you dirty,
Speaker 1: because there's not it's not an incorrect spelling. But you
Speaker 1: would think that AI would be intelligent enough by now
Speaker 1: that it would go you've said mother's day, you probably don't.
Speaker 4: Want to refer to your butt.
Speaker 1: So no, because a lot of it's going to guess
Speaker 1: that this is a mum, or like what are you
Speaker 1: doing on your mother's Everyone needs to enjoy themselves in
Speaker 1: different ways, don't they?
Speaker 2: But play on Monday? All right, Hey, the lines are
Speaker 2: going off. We've got Sarah on the phone. Hey Sarah, what.
Speaker 3: Did you accidentally do to your boss?
Speaker 5: As I was leaving, I blew her a kiss?
Speaker 3: Well, okay, so it's a female. We've got that, and
Speaker 3: so you.
Speaker 6: Want some contact, Yes, we do.
Speaker 1: So.
Speaker 5: I'm a disability support worker and it's not unusual for
Speaker 5: when I leave for my client to blow me a kiss,
Speaker 5: but this particular day she didn't, and I it wasn't
Speaker 5: her though. I walked outside of her bedroom and her
Speaker 5: parents were there, and I blew them kisses as I.
Speaker 2: Like, man, you're just giving these kisses out left arn Zetnah,
Speaker 2: who does it?
Speaker 3: I'd be offended if I didn't get a kiss. Yeah,
Speaker 3: bless you. I feel like you can get away with it.
Speaker 3: Do you say anything alfterwards?
Speaker 4: Did you just leave it? Just walk away?
Speaker 5: I didn't say anything to them. I just walked out
Speaker 5: the door and I got out there and I just died,
Speaker 5: and I thought, Oh, there's no way that they haven't
Speaker 5: just turned to each other and gone, what the hell?
Speaker 2: Just happened.
Speaker 3: Oh you're just a loving, caring person. Good on you.
Speaker 4: Thanks, thank you.
Speaker 3: Hey, Kasha, what did you accidentally say to your boss?
Speaker 6: I accidentally sent my boss a message saying she's being
Speaker 6: an absolute sea bomb today, accidentally sin that.
Speaker 3: I feel like this pretty well thought out.
Speaker 6: I was sending it to one of the girls that
Speaker 6: wasn't at work, and.
Speaker 1: No, did she have her emails forward it? Or did
Speaker 1: you actually just see ce in your boss?
Speaker 5: Just so?
Speaker 4: Can you get the memo?
Speaker 6: It was a text message, so I sent it straight
Speaker 6: to her.
Speaker 2: Oh, oh my god, you were doing the old like
Speaker 2: when you're thinking of someone so you go and text
Speaker 2: typing that message instead?
Speaker 3: Oh did she write back? Are you fired?
Speaker 6: She pulled me into her office and yeah. I try
Speaker 6: to tell her that it was an accident and though
Speaker 6: it was actually aimed towards a friend called Tracy, but
Speaker 6: she was on me. She wasn't impressed at all.
Speaker 3: So, oh my god, Oh, thank you so much. I'm
Speaker 3: glad you're still there.
Speaker 6: Thank you, Thanks Casha.
Speaker 1: Now, okay, Britt, how do you feel about small talk
Speaker 1: in general? Small talk makes me feel uncomfortable because I
Speaker 1: always wonder where am I going to take it?
Speaker 4: And then I feel like I'm on the spot.
Speaker 2: I could small talk my way out of anything. I
Speaker 2: don't love it, I don't get anything from it. I'd
Speaker 2: rather avoid it, but it doesn't make me uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: The problem is this, Sometimes I think that I become
Speaker 1: the interviewer in a small talk situation where I always
Speaker 1: I just keep asking questions, asking questions, asking questions, and
Speaker 1: then eventually I run out of questions to ask and
Speaker 1: waiting for the conversation to.
Speaker 4: Circle back around. But it doesn't.
Speaker 1: So I try and avoid it because and when I
Speaker 1: say avoid it, you can never avoid small talk. I
Speaker 1: try and avoid situations that put me into making small
Speaker 1: talk because I find it uncomfortable.
Speaker 4: Yeah, well, I.
Speaker 3: Mean no one loves it, no one. There is no
Speaker 3: one that's like, oh, can't wait to go small talk tonight.
Speaker 2: Like, but some people maybe don't really know how to
Speaker 2: avoid it or how to like escalate it to a
Speaker 2: medium talk or Yeah.
Speaker 1: But also some people are like super extroverted and so
Speaker 1: like they don't even quote unquote, making small talk doesn't
Speaker 1: touch the sides for them.
Speaker 4: I think I'm a hybrid.
Speaker 1: I definitely would call myself an extrovert in some things.
Speaker 1: But when it's new people and new environments, I'm quite
Speaker 1: happy to take the back seat if someone else is
Speaker 1: wanting to step into that.
Speaker 2: I've never seen you take the back seat anywhere anywhere.
Speaker 1: It's not what it is, no, But I don't enjoy
Speaker 1: it at all. Like I do really feel like it
Speaker 1: is a task to make small talk and to keep
Speaker 1: the conversation going. But sometimes I feel as though I
Speaker 1: have to. And sometimes I also maybe this is in
Speaker 1: my own insecurities. I think as though it's almost expected
Speaker 1: because we work in a role where we talk all
Speaker 1: the time, so people are like, oh, well, Laura can
Speaker 1: do this, and so I feel as though I walk
Speaker 1: into some of those environments where it's like new people
Speaker 1: or it's a work thing, and I'm like, I'm on
Speaker 1: and I'm singing and dancing, and I go home and
Speaker 1: a crash because I'm so overstimulated by having to like
Speaker 1: put on a show.
Speaker 4: Yeah that makes sense.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Well. The reason why I want to bring this up
Speaker 1: is because firstly, I think a lot of people like
Speaker 1: struggle to get conversations out of the small talk conversation
Speaker 1: purgatory and into something that feels a little bit more
Speaker 1: meaty or it feels like it's a back and forth.
Speaker 1: But there is a guy named Charles Jewick. Now he's
Speaker 1: a Politzer Prisman. He's also coined a super communicator. We
Speaker 1: recently interviewed him on our podcast Life on Cut podcast.
Speaker 4: He's brilliant. If you want to communicator, if you want
Speaker 4: to learn a little bit.
Speaker 1: About communicating, that is the episode to go and listen to.
Speaker 1: But I actually found an article that he has been
Speaker 1: quoted in and it was talking about how to get
Speaker 1: deeper on a first date. Now I found this so
Speaker 1: funny because some of these questions, they've called them magical questions,
Speaker 1: magical questions that take small talk to deep talk.
Speaker 4: If someone asked me.
Speaker 1: These questions on a first date, I think I'd have
Speaker 1: to up and leave.
Speaker 2: So this article isn't just about generally taking chat to.
Speaker 3: The next level, you know what dates only.
Speaker 4: It doesn't just have to be first dates.
Speaker 3: But is that where he is saying it's first dates only?
Speaker 1: It was about how to connect on a deeper level.
Speaker 1: But it was with people that you would be making
Speaker 1: small talk with. Right, So imagine going to a work party,
Speaker 1: you're making small talk, first date small talk. You're just
Speaker 1: in the getting to know each other phase and then
Speaker 1: someone throws out one of these questions. I'm going to
Speaker 1: ask you what a coin to the five Magical questions,
Speaker 1: and you can answer them as honestly or you can
Speaker 1: tell me where to go.
Speaker 3: All right?
Speaker 4: Question number one, what are you excited it about right now?
Speaker 3: My wedding?
Speaker 4: That's actually a good one because someone could get into
Speaker 4: more debt. What about your wedding?
Speaker 3: I'm actually I'm not getting married for On my first date,
Speaker 3: I was like.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Number two, if you could wake up tomorrow having
Speaker 1: gained any one quality or.
Speaker 4: Ability, what would it be to be able to fly?
Speaker 2: Great?
Speaker 1: Okay, but that doesn't feel particularly deep.
Speaker 4: He's take my answers.
Speaker 3: Don't ask me a question, then tell me my answer
Speaker 3: is wrong.
Speaker 4: What is it about flying? Okay?
Speaker 1: Number three, imagine someone who you don't know asking you this,
Speaker 1: when's the last time you cried in front of another person?
Speaker 3: I think that's a good question.
Speaker 2: I mean I cry all the time on the podcast
Speaker 2: in front of loads of people, like all the interviews
Speaker 2: that we do.
Speaker 3: You and I cry in front of each other all
Speaker 3: the time.
Speaker 4: Are you true? This is true? We do, But I
Speaker 4: mean like a real cry, like a oh my dog.
Speaker 3: I cry a lot in front of my dog, and
Speaker 3: then I say, don't.
Speaker 1: Tell anyone, Okay, I won't critique your answer. Question number four,
Speaker 1: do you have a secret hunch about where or how.
Speaker 4: You will die? Can we just stop down?
Speaker 1: This could be someone at a work party asking you these,
Speaker 1: and these feel deeply inappropriate.
Speaker 3: All the questions until now are fine.
Speaker 2: Asking someone about their like impending death is not okay
Speaker 2: when you don't even know that.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, this one's gonna really send you into out
Speaker 1: of space. How do you feel about your relationship with
Speaker 1: your mother?
Speaker 3: I love my mom. I have no trauma.
Speaker 4: Imagine I asked it though.
Speaker 1: Imagine if you did have trauma and some person who's
Speaker 1: read a super communicator's book who barely knows you and
Speaker 1: wants to take small talk to meetium talk, ask you
Speaker 1: out of nowhere about your relationship with your mum. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry.
Speaker 4: I think that small talk that has a purpose at
Speaker 4: a place.
Speaker 2: No, I think you can definitely look, I'm not a
Speaker 2: polite surprise winner Charles.
Speaker 1: Sorry, but I do love Charles as well, because just
Speaker 1: not criticizing him.
Speaker 2: But I feel like I'm good at this. I am
Speaker 2: the interviewer in every relationship I've got. When I went
Speaker 2: into the I'm Slebrity Jungle, no one even knew my name,
Speaker 2: but I asked everyone every single thing about them.
Speaker 3: I genuinely love it. I think the key to it
Speaker 3: is all you have to.
Speaker 2: Do is find common ground. So you need to find
Speaker 2: a common interest with someone. Then the second you have that,
Speaker 2: they're going to feel more comfortable, and then you ask
Speaker 2: questions about it.
Speaker 4: But not that.
Speaker 2: You just have to ask what is it about that
Speaker 2: that makes you excited?
Speaker 3: Or why?
Speaker 2: What is it about that that made you want to
Speaker 2: go into that industry? Or do you think you'll be
Speaker 2: in that industry forever? And if not, what would you
Speaker 2: do instead? There are so many questions that aren't like, hey,
Speaker 2: do you have some trauma bond with your mum?
Speaker 3: Like that's crazy to me to ask on a first
Speaker 3: diate or something to me.
Speaker 1: There are some things, yes, I mean everyone's heard the whole,
Speaker 1: like ask an open question that doesn't have a yes
Speaker 1: no answer, Like that's kind of like one oh one
Speaker 1: of interviewing. But there are some things, regardless of how
Speaker 1: magical a question might be, you should not ask if
Speaker 1: you don't know someone well enough, there's a level there's
Speaker 1: a level of depth that we just don't need with
Speaker 1: everyone because also no one cares.
Speaker 3: You don't care about if you're a stranger at a
Speaker 3: work party. You don't care what Sally's mom's doing.