WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: This woman accidentally called her boss a **** 0:00:10.379 --> 0:00:14.219 Hi Heart Podcasts, heem More Kiss Podcast playlist and listen 0:00:14.259 --> 0:00:16.099 live on the Free iHeart app. 0:00:19.499 --> 0:00:23.018 Good pickup with Britt Hockley and Laura Ben Bady. 0:00:23.139 --> 0:00:27.219 Your work, our windows done, that's my world. Rison the 0:00:27.379 --> 0:00:32.179 dust only good fabs all down. I've done much. 0:00:32.059 --> 0:00:34.219 Now, but yeah, I know I'll. 0:00:34.139 --> 0:00:37.179 Big get and what I want. It don't matter where. 0:00:37.699 --> 0:00:41.419 This is the pickup. Hi guys, welcome back to the Pickup. 0:00:41.459 --> 0:00:43.859 It's Britt Hockey and Laura Burn and I am. 0:00:43.739 --> 0:00:48.939 Making great progress. Laura with my wedding planning, thrilled what's 0:00:48.939 --> 0:00:52.699 happened now? It's actually it's actually so funny. 0:00:53.179 --> 0:00:55.299 I feel like I need to start these conversations with 0:00:55.339 --> 0:00:57.259 how much I love my fiance and I can't wait 0:00:57.299 --> 0:00:57.819 to marry. 0:00:57.619 --> 0:00:59.859 Him, because I know a lot of the convos I've had. 0:00:59.819 --> 0:01:03.379 Surrounding wedding planning and my fiancee Ben have been around 0:01:03.419 --> 0:01:05.819 the fact that he hasn't been a great planner. 0:01:05.938 --> 0:01:08.139 This is exactly the type of caveat that mums put 0:01:08.179 --> 0:01:10.499 out there when they're like, I love my child, but 0:01:10.539 --> 0:01:11.618 being a parent sucks. 0:01:11.739 --> 0:01:13.819 Yeah, exactly, but it's so rewarding. 0:01:14.219 --> 0:01:15.819 Yeah, it's exactly that conversation. 0:01:16.059 --> 0:01:18.139 So patronizing is your husband. 0:01:18.738 --> 0:01:18.938 No. 0:01:19.378 --> 0:01:20.898 I am very excited to marry Ben. 0:01:20.938 --> 0:01:23.139 But it's been an interesting journey with the planning that 0:01:23.179 --> 0:01:26.818 he hasn't been overly involved in, but the things that 0:01:26.818 --> 0:01:29.979 have excited him have been very interesting. So one of 0:01:29.979 --> 0:01:32.578 his caveats for the wedding, the very first thing that 0:01:32.658 --> 0:01:35.298 we ever spoke about over a year ago. 0:01:35.578 --> 0:01:38.139 Was that he really wanted an ice cream cart at 0:01:38.139 --> 0:01:40.018 the wedding. That was it. 0:01:40.018 --> 0:01:43.179 It wasn't the location, it wasn't inside or outside, it 0:01:43.219 --> 0:01:45.738 wasn't where what country, It was just can we have 0:01:45.779 --> 0:01:46.339 an ice cream? 0:01:46.458 --> 0:01:48.259 I remember you sitting down and you were like, hey, honey, 0:01:48.259 --> 0:01:49.819 what are your man trees for the wedding? And he 0:01:49.899 --> 0:01:52.899 thought about it really, like really seriously. He took the 0:01:52.979 --> 0:01:54.899 question absolutely to heart. And then he stopped down and 0:01:54.899 --> 0:01:58.178 he said, I just think we need to have sorbet, Like, yeah, 0:01:58.299 --> 0:01:59.978 that's it. And then did you have a moment where 0:01:59.979 --> 0:02:02.139 you were like, am I marrying a giant child? 0:02:02.259 --> 0:02:04.859 It was sort of where I knew he was actual. 0:02:04.499 --> 0:02:08.219 I was like, he's my penguin anyway, So Amelia, I 0:02:08.299 --> 0:02:10.299 went planner from Easy Weddings. We're in a group chat 0:02:10.339 --> 0:02:13.258 just me, Ben and Amelia, and I am the one 0:02:13.259 --> 0:02:15.018 that's always deep in there doing everything. So I saw 0:02:15.059 --> 0:02:17.939 some messages flying around last night and I noticed it 0:02:17.978 --> 0:02:19.779 was about the ice cream. So I checked out a bit. 0:02:19.819 --> 0:02:22.379 I was like, Oh, this is Ben's wheel his wheelhouse, 0:02:22.379 --> 0:02:24.779 he's got this cupboard. I checked back in a bit 0:02:24.859 --> 0:02:29.579 later and Amelia had asked Ben, Ben, the time has come, 0:02:29.739 --> 0:02:32.578 send through your ice cream picks for the ice Cream 0:02:32.619 --> 0:02:36.059 Crew top list. Yeah. Anyway, I see Ben sending through 0:02:36.099 --> 0:02:38.178 something that I see Amelia right back and say, oh, 0:02:38.339 --> 0:02:40.458 oh sorry, Ben, you need to just rephrase that you're 0:02:40.459 --> 0:02:43.499 only allowed eight ice creams. I was like, I said, sorry, Amelia, 0:02:43.499 --> 0:02:45.059 how many ice creams did Ben's pick? 0:02:45.579 --> 0:02:47.059 Sixteen ice creams? 0:02:47.219 --> 0:02:49.898 He wanted sixteen different ice cream. 0:02:49.698 --> 0:02:52.659 Flavors in one tiny cart at our wedding. 0:02:52.779 --> 0:02:54.299 Let the man live, Brittany. 0:02:53.939 --> 0:02:55.779 What are you going to do with soft china? Cont 0:02:56.219 --> 0:02:57.179 Do you know what the thing was? 0:02:57.379 --> 0:02:59.018 He goes, Babe, how am I going to cut this down? 0:02:59.339 --> 0:03:01.019 And I was like, okay, well, let's go through this. 0:03:01.258 --> 0:03:07.259 There's five different flavors of caramel, five salted caramel. 0:03:06.379 --> 0:03:07.258 Peanut butter caramel. 0:03:07.258 --> 0:03:08.739 I was like, Babe, let's cut the caramel. 0:03:09.059 --> 0:03:10.619 You're all say, like, then, if I've been able to 0:03:10.619 --> 0:03:12.979 make every other decision, I'm sure you can cut the 0:03:13.219 --> 0:03:17.659 ice crew down to five. Now, Britt, I want to 0:03:17.698 --> 0:03:20.179 talk about something that I feel like most parents have 0:03:20.258 --> 0:03:22.578 been faced with at one point in another, and. 0:03:22.538 --> 0:03:25.898 That is the poon armi. The poon armi with no tools. 0:03:26.179 --> 0:03:28.379 If you have little kids and you've forgotten a nappy, 0:03:28.499 --> 0:03:31.538 or you've forgotten wives, or it's been explosive and you've 0:03:31.538 --> 0:03:34.779 forgotten a change of clothes, everyone has had to deal 0:03:35.179 --> 0:03:37.779 with something going very wrong and having to come up 0:03:37.819 --> 0:03:39.499 with a quick and fast and hard solution. 0:03:39.739 --> 0:03:41.899 Okay, what is this one of your kids? They're not 0:03:41.899 --> 0:03:42.859 in nappies anymore, are they. 0:03:42.979 --> 0:03:44.259 No, I've got a five year old, four year old. 0:03:44.259 --> 0:03:45.579 It's been a long time since we've dealt with a 0:03:45.619 --> 0:03:46.139 poon army. 0:03:46.499 --> 0:03:47.219 This is off the back. 0:03:47.219 --> 0:03:49.659 There's a woman who's going viral online because she has 0:03:49.699 --> 0:03:53.939 shared what seemingly is quite a resourceful solution to a 0:03:53.939 --> 0:03:55.339 poon army that she experienced. 0:03:55.339 --> 0:03:57.618 However, the whole city is the full. 0:03:57.459 --> 0:04:00.499 Situation sounds like an absolute disaster if you ask me so. 0:04:01.259 --> 0:04:04.219 They're on an international flight, it is three thirty in 0:04:04.299 --> 0:04:07.779 the morning, and she has realized that she didn't pack 0:04:08.019 --> 0:04:10.619 span now for her one and a half year old, 0:04:10.659 --> 0:04:11.579 This little kid looks. 0:04:11.499 --> 0:04:12.819 Like on an overnight flight. 0:04:12.899 --> 0:04:15.419 On an overnight imagine waking up at three thirty in 0:04:15.459 --> 0:04:18.979 the morning to a turd and being like, oh God, 0:04:19.219 --> 0:04:23.859 here we go, here we go, Code brown everyone. So 0:04:24.579 --> 0:04:26.459 what she did is she didn't have a nappy. She 0:04:26.499 --> 0:04:29.459 had wipes, but she had panty liners like her own 0:04:29.499 --> 0:04:33.459 panty liners. So she slid a panty liner into the nappy. 0:04:33.499 --> 0:04:36.219 I'm guessing to try and absorb as much of the 0:04:36.339 --> 0:04:39.099 excess fluid and everything else as possible. 0:04:39.579 --> 0:04:41.899 No, which you know what I heard about. 0:04:41.979 --> 0:04:43.419 Like, I read this and I was like, I guess 0:04:43.459 --> 0:04:45.939 it would kind of work, but I'm left with a 0:04:45.939 --> 0:04:46.859 lot of questions. 0:04:47.299 --> 0:04:49.539 I feel very sorry for her because I can't imagine. 0:04:49.579 --> 0:04:52.019 I have not been in that position. But I would 0:04:52.059 --> 0:04:56.459 imagine on a flight, like an overseas overnight flight, there 0:04:56.459 --> 0:04:57.419 are a lot of people on there. 0:04:57.459 --> 0:05:00.819 There is guaranteed to be other families with kids. 0:05:00.859 --> 0:05:04.619 I'd be patrolling those aisles until I found like another 0:05:04.699 --> 0:05:06.779 mum and begging for a nappy. 0:05:06.819 --> 0:05:07.499 That's what I'd be doing. 0:05:07.579 --> 0:05:09.459 You know what that is that is spoken like a 0:05:09.499 --> 0:05:11.339 true dog mum who's gotten to the dog park and 0:05:11.379 --> 0:05:14.099 didn't have a bag. That is a true dog mum response, 0:05:14.139 --> 0:05:15.459 because I didn't even clock that one. 0:05:15.579 --> 0:05:18.379 I would That seems like the most obvious solution. 0:05:18.379 --> 0:05:18.979 Do you know why? 0:05:19.099 --> 0:05:21.339 Because I think if you went and asked someone else 0:05:21.339 --> 0:05:23.659 for a nappy, the judgment of like, why didn't you 0:05:23.659 --> 0:05:26.099 pack enough nappies? Like I just wouldn't even think to 0:05:26.139 --> 0:05:26.979 ask someone for a nappy. 0:05:27.179 --> 0:05:29.579 I wouldn't you just say, hey, they've pood wait more 0:05:29.619 --> 0:05:31.979 than I would have thought. That's also what dog people say, 0:05:32.019 --> 0:05:34.459 so when like your dog is poody, you've run out 0:05:34.459 --> 0:05:36.339 of back like sorry that they usually do one, they've 0:05:36.339 --> 0:05:36.699 done like. 0:05:36.659 --> 0:05:39.379 Four, But realistically you just left with one rogue bag. 0:05:39.419 --> 0:05:41.339 And I was it. I will never forget. 0:05:41.419 --> 0:05:43.859 I was on a flight and it was it was 0:05:43.899 --> 0:05:45.379 an international flight, but it was a day flight. 0:05:45.419 --> 0:05:47.179 We're going to Balley and you know that's a six 0:05:47.219 --> 0:05:47.699 hour flight. 0:05:48.259 --> 0:05:50.899 And the family that was sitting directly in front of 0:05:50.979 --> 0:05:52.979 me had a little baby, and I also had my 0:05:53.099 --> 0:05:55.019 kids with me, so like we were surrounded by kids 0:05:55.619 --> 0:05:59.539 and their little daughter. I think she must have been 0:05:59.579 --> 0:06:02.899 about maybe two, so that's not like baby baby, like 0:06:02.939 --> 0:06:06.659 two is that's that is full blown toddler territory, and 0:06:06.979 --> 0:06:10.979 everyone could smell that someone had pooed their pants, like 0:06:11.059 --> 0:06:13.659 it was very evident in the whole of that area 0:06:13.659 --> 0:06:15.739 of the seating, and so everyone was kind of quietly 0:06:15.739 --> 0:06:18.419 being like, oh, who is And I sniffed both my 0:06:18.499 --> 0:06:19.899 kids and I was like, my kids, it's not me, 0:06:19.979 --> 0:06:22.299 it's the you know, I'm not responsible for this anyway. 0:06:22.739 --> 0:06:26.339 Ten minutes later, the family in front, she just lays 0:06:26.419 --> 0:06:29.219 the little girl down on the seat and uses the 0:06:29.339 --> 0:06:32.179 seat that's right next to her as the change table 0:06:32.219 --> 0:06:34.939 to change the nappy, like starts fully changing the nappy 0:06:34.979 --> 0:06:35.779 in the middle of her. 0:06:36.099 --> 0:06:37.619 Is that like a no, go? I don't know. 0:06:38.139 --> 0:06:40.539 No, you have to take them to the toilet and 0:06:40.659 --> 0:06:43.299 use their fold out change it. I think it's okay 0:06:43.339 --> 0:06:45.939 to change a nappy in lots of places, like I'm 0:06:45.979 --> 0:06:48.059 a change nappy on the go kind of goal, but 0:06:48.259 --> 0:06:51.339 absolutely not in a packed flight where every single other 0:06:51.379 --> 0:06:53.459 person has to sit there and smell your kid like 0:06:53.499 --> 0:06:56.859 that's to me that was writ. 0:06:56.419 --> 0:06:57.779 Them down on someone's lap. 0:06:58.339 --> 0:07:01.459 Nah. No, absolutely not anyway, so much so that the 0:07:01.739 --> 0:07:03.699 air flight hostess came over and she was like, I'm 0:07:03.699 --> 0:07:05.579 really sorry, but you cannot do that there you have 0:07:05.659 --> 0:07:07.379 to go to the toilet, like, yeah, that's fair, She 0:07:07.579 --> 0:07:08.419 looked horrified. 0:07:09.099 --> 0:07:11.059 Also, the walk of shame, like when you've got to 0:07:11.059 --> 0:07:13.219 then stand up with a stinky baby and everyone's like, oh, 0:07:13.299 --> 0:07:15.139 you're already because you're like you've already stunk out the cabin, 0:07:15.179 --> 0:07:16.299 and then you got to walk a shame like the 0:07:16.339 --> 0:07:16.699 next pits. 0:07:16.899 --> 0:07:18.779 The smell's got nowhere to go. It's got nowhere to go. 0:07:19.059 --> 0:07:21.819 We heard packing nappies and go to the toilet. 0:07:22.099 --> 0:07:23.859 I do feel sorry for it, because, like I said, 0:07:23.899 --> 0:07:24.419 I've been. 0:07:24.299 --> 0:07:27.819 Caught out before, and you really have to get resourceful, 0:07:27.859 --> 0:07:29.379 like you really have to think about like what is 0:07:29.419 --> 0:07:31.339 it that I can use? Do you water it down 0:07:31.379 --> 0:07:33.219 there with some toilet paper? Like what do you do 0:07:33.339 --> 0:07:35.779 to try and save your kid from a from a 0:07:35.859 --> 0:07:37.459 nappyless punami situation? 0:07:37.619 --> 0:07:40.499 For give me for taking this side step, but this 0:07:40.539 --> 0:07:41.579 is where my brain has gone. 0:07:41.579 --> 0:07:43.019 When you just said being resourceful. 0:07:43.659 --> 0:07:45.619 I do remember a time that you did a poop, 0:07:45.939 --> 0:07:48.019 So what yeah you, Laura, you did a poop and 0:07:48.059 --> 0:07:48.579 you Oh. 0:07:48.459 --> 0:07:50.059 This is really taking a side step, and I don't 0:07:50.099 --> 0:07:51.459 know if you need to talk about this on radio. 0:07:51.579 --> 0:07:53.419 Yeah, you already spoke about it on radio. You've just 0:07:53.459 --> 0:07:55.899 reminded me. You already forget that. You outed yourself. 0:07:56.059 --> 0:07:58.459 You did a poop and you there was any toilet paper, 0:07:58.539 --> 0:08:00.219 so you went into your handbag and you found one 0:08:00.219 --> 0:08:01.059 of the girl's socks. 0:08:01.539 --> 0:08:03.739 Yeah, that was That was a low point in my life. 0:08:04.099 --> 0:08:05.859 That was a low point. 0:08:05.739 --> 0:08:08.059 About talking about being resourceful. You've got to do what 0:08:08.059 --> 0:08:08.459 you've gotta do. 0:08:08.979 --> 0:08:11.379 Yeah, when when you're on the go. 0:08:12.779 --> 0:08:14.859 I was reading this Reddit thread Laura. That gave me 0:08:14.899 --> 0:08:16.659 a bit of a chuckle, and it reminded me of 0:08:16.699 --> 0:08:17.779 a couple of things I've done. 0:08:17.659 --> 0:08:20.139 In the past and something that I've heard you throw 0:08:20.179 --> 0:08:20.939 around a little bit. 0:08:21.019 --> 0:08:21.819 Okah, what have I done? 0:08:21.859 --> 0:08:22.019 Now? 0:08:22.099 --> 0:08:24.899 Well, this could go. 0:08:24.859 --> 0:08:28.379 Either way, but this woman was talking about this awkward 0:08:28.419 --> 0:08:30.179 encounter she had with her boss and the way she 0:08:30.259 --> 0:08:31.259 signed off a phone call. 0:08:31.739 --> 0:08:32.739 So this is her thread. 0:08:33.059 --> 0:08:35.459 I accidentally said I love you at the end of 0:08:35.458 --> 0:08:38.458 a call with an important client yesterday. I heard him 0:08:38.499 --> 0:08:41.499 giggle as I hung up, and I was absolutely mortified. 0:08:41.819 --> 0:08:44.899 Today I received an email from him. Now, imagine the 0:08:44.899 --> 0:08:47.179 fact that you've had this awkward moment you said I 0:08:47.179 --> 0:08:49.899 love you to someone. You absolutely shouldn't and then you 0:08:49.899 --> 0:08:51.578 see an email pop up you're like. 0:08:51.779 --> 0:08:53.459 Don't do you not just like hit that one on 0:08:53.459 --> 0:08:55.139 the head and be like, sorry, that was I don't 0:08:55.139 --> 0:08:55.699 actually love you? 0:08:55.779 --> 0:08:56.899 Is that I don't love you? 0:08:57.379 --> 0:09:00.139 Actually don't have feelings for you? Like, no, I don't know. 0:09:00.179 --> 0:09:01.779 I think it's better that you don't try to pretend 0:09:01.899 --> 0:09:02.499 it didn't happen. 0:09:02.699 --> 0:09:04.539 Yeah, so this is the email. 0:09:04.939 --> 0:09:07.458 Hey, Sarah, just wanted to say that I didn't mean 0:09:07.499 --> 0:09:09.779 to laugh at you when you accidentally signed off on 0:09:09.779 --> 0:09:10.979 our call with I love you. 0:09:11.019 --> 0:09:11.179 Oh. 0:09:11.179 --> 0:09:13.099 He was just worried about getting in trouble from HH. 0:09:13.819 --> 0:09:16.339 He's like, oh God, here we go. Now someone's gonna complain. 0:09:17.019 --> 0:09:19.659 I just found it funny because I've definitely done that before, 0:09:19.859 --> 0:09:22.059 and I know it happens. I'm glad you have enough 0:09:22.099 --> 0:09:24.579 love in your life that the response comes naturally. 0:09:26.219 --> 0:09:28.979 If anything, you should be proud of that smiley face. 0:09:29.619 --> 0:09:31.539 Have a great weekend, and we'll follow up about my 0:09:31.539 --> 0:09:34.059 call with Chris on Wednesday as discussed, no I love 0:09:34.099 --> 0:09:36.899 you sign off. Would you want that response or would 0:09:36.939 --> 0:09:39.578 you want just like to pretend it didn't happen. 0:09:40.059 --> 0:09:42.819 I've done some doozies. Actually, just the other day, our 0:09:42.899 --> 0:09:45.459 radio boss Tony walked into the office. We're having a chat, 0:09:45.459 --> 0:09:47.619 and then I caught him honey by accident, and we 0:09:47.739 --> 0:09:49.499 just steamrolled like it wasn't even a thing. 0:09:49.579 --> 0:09:51.579 He didn't even notice. Thanks honey. 0:09:51.659 --> 0:09:52.379 Oh he noticed. 0:09:52.419 --> 0:09:53.259 He looked at me and winked. 0:09:54.339 --> 0:09:54.579 Ill. 0:09:56.299 --> 0:09:58.659 I was I must have been in that moment. I 0:09:58.699 --> 0:10:01.659 was in the room, and I did just be really uncomfortable. 0:10:01.779 --> 0:10:04.299 I'm a words of affirmation kind of person, like I'm 0:10:04.299 --> 0:10:05.219 an endearing term. 0:10:05.299 --> 0:10:07.059 Everyone's honey or darling or something. 0:10:07.539 --> 0:10:07.699 You know. 0:10:08.179 --> 0:10:10.299 I did it didn't mean to it was not intentional. 0:10:10.379 --> 0:10:14.019 Also, no offense, Tony. If you're listening, Tony doesn't give honey. 0:10:14.459 --> 0:10:15.499 He's not a honey. 0:10:15.499 --> 0:10:17.659 He's gonna hate that, poor Tony. Tony could be a 0:10:17.659 --> 0:10:19.099 honey to someone you're not. 0:10:19.179 --> 0:10:23.339 You do you know what I'm really guilty of and 0:10:23.379 --> 0:10:25.499 I probably have to work on it. I throw kisses 0:10:25.539 --> 0:10:29.459 around day, mean nothing, like they don't though what they 0:10:29.499 --> 0:10:32.179 do to me. But whoever I'm emailing, it doesn't matter 0:10:32.179 --> 0:10:34.458 whether it's like the finance guy or the boss or 0:10:34.579 --> 0:10:35.899 it's it's a client. 0:10:36.259 --> 0:10:38.939 I just throwing kisses and I'm like, I don't know 0:10:38.979 --> 0:10:39.699 if you can do that. 0:10:39.939 --> 0:10:42.099 I have one other example. There's many of them, but 0:10:42.139 --> 0:10:44.619 this one just lives rent free in my mind. So, like, 0:10:44.659 --> 0:10:46.899 I run another business where I was talking to a 0:10:46.939 --> 0:10:50.259 client of mine and she had wanted to get a 0:10:50.259 --> 0:10:53.059 piece of jewelry made specifically for her mom for Mother's Day. 0:10:53.059 --> 0:10:55.458 It was a custom piece, and like, I'd not been 0:10:55.499 --> 0:10:57.539 on comms at all. My sister, who's my business partner, 0:10:57.579 --> 0:10:59.939 had been managing it. And I just chimed in because 0:10:59.939 --> 0:11:02.619 I was like, Hi, so lovely, he's so excited, And 0:11:02.699 --> 0:11:05.419 I signed off with have a lovely Mother's Day with 0:11:05.459 --> 0:11:09.379 your bum scent. Oh my god, I have a great 0:11:09.459 --> 0:11:12.179 time with your bum anyway. 0:11:12.339 --> 0:11:16.259 So she wrote that obviously she could between the lines, 0:11:16.259 --> 0:11:16.899 but that's a typo. 0:11:16.939 --> 0:11:18.779 It does rhyme with mum and these two letters that 0:11:18.859 --> 0:11:19.579 they shares the word. 0:11:19.939 --> 0:11:22.699 I know, but really sometimes the autocorrect does you dirty, 0:11:22.739 --> 0:11:24.979 because there's not it's not an incorrect spelling. But you 0:11:24.979 --> 0:11:27.338 would think that AI would be intelligent enough by now 0:11:27.379 --> 0:11:30.139 that it would go you've said mother's day, you probably don't. 0:11:29.939 --> 0:11:30.979 Want to refer to your butt. 0:11:31.059 --> 0:11:32.979 So no, because a lot of it's going to guess 0:11:33.019 --> 0:11:34.739 that this is a mum, or like what are you 0:11:34.779 --> 0:11:37.059 doing on your mother's Everyone needs to enjoy themselves in 0:11:37.059 --> 0:11:37.939 different ways, don't they? 0:11:37.979 --> 0:11:40.819 But play on Monday? All right, Hey, the lines are 0:11:40.859 --> 0:11:43.579 going off. We've got Sarah on the phone. Hey Sarah, what. 0:11:43.459 --> 0:11:45.059 Did you accidentally do to your boss? 0:11:46.259 --> 0:11:49.539 As I was leaving, I blew her a kiss? 0:11:49.979 --> 0:11:55.939 Well, okay, so it's a female. We've got that, and 0:11:55.979 --> 0:11:56.699 so you. 0:11:56.659 --> 0:11:58.499 Want some contact, Yes, we do. 0:11:59.219 --> 0:11:59.339 So. 0:11:59.499 --> 0:12:03.699 I'm a disability support worker and it's not unusual for 0:12:03.819 --> 0:12:07.219 when I leave for my client to blow me a kiss, 0:12:07.459 --> 0:12:13.458 but this particular day she didn't, and I it wasn't 0:12:13.539 --> 0:12:16.539 her though. I walked outside of her bedroom and her 0:12:16.579 --> 0:12:19.939 parents were there, and I blew them kisses as I. 0:12:19.939 --> 0:12:23.819 Like, man, you're just giving these kisses out left arn Zetnah, 0:12:24.299 --> 0:12:24.699 who does it? 0:12:24.779 --> 0:12:28.699 I'd be offended if I didn't get a kiss. Yeah, 0:12:28.859 --> 0:12:30.939 bless you. I feel like you can get away with it. 0:12:32.339 --> 0:12:33.539 Do you say anything alfterwards? 0:12:33.619 --> 0:12:35.139 Did you just leave it? Just walk away? 0:12:35.459 --> 0:12:37.779 I didn't say anything to them. I just walked out 0:12:37.819 --> 0:12:41.619 the door and I got out there and I just died, 0:12:41.699 --> 0:12:44.059 and I thought, Oh, there's no way that they haven't 0:12:44.099 --> 0:12:46.939 just turned to each other and gone, what the hell? 0:12:47.019 --> 0:12:47.579 Just happened. 0:12:47.899 --> 0:12:50.219 Oh you're just a loving, caring person. Good on you. 0:12:50.619 --> 0:12:51.419 Thanks, thank you. 0:12:52.019 --> 0:12:54.259 Hey, Kasha, what did you accidentally say to your boss? 0:12:55.059 --> 0:12:59.819 I accidentally sent my boss a message saying she's being 0:12:59.859 --> 0:13:04.499 an absolute sea bomb today, accidentally sin that. 0:13:04.619 --> 0:13:06.619 I feel like this pretty well thought out. 0:13:09.539 --> 0:13:11.139 I was sending it to one of the girls that 0:13:11.539 --> 0:13:12.578 wasn't at work, and. 0:13:13.699 --> 0:13:16.099 No, did she have her emails forward it? Or did 0:13:16.139 --> 0:13:17.699 you actually just see ce in your boss? 0:13:17.739 --> 0:13:17.939 Just so? 0:13:18.059 --> 0:13:18.819 Can you get the memo? 0:13:19.699 --> 0:13:21.859 It was a text message, so I sent it straight 0:13:21.899 --> 0:13:22.218 to her. 0:13:22.379 --> 0:13:24.659 Oh, oh my god, you were doing the old like 0:13:24.779 --> 0:13:27.299 when you're thinking of someone so you go and text 0:13:27.339 --> 0:13:28.578 typing that message instead? 0:13:28.739 --> 0:13:31.059 Oh did she write back? Are you fired? 0:13:31.619 --> 0:13:35.779 She pulled me into her office and yeah. I try 0:13:35.859 --> 0:13:39.099 to tell her that it was an accident and though 0:13:39.099 --> 0:13:42.259 it was actually aimed towards a friend called Tracy, but 0:13:42.419 --> 0:13:48.259 she was on me. She wasn't impressed at all. 0:13:48.419 --> 0:13:52.338 So, oh my god, Oh, thank you so much. I'm 0:13:52.339 --> 0:13:53.179 glad you're still there. 0:13:53.899 --> 0:13:55.339 Thank you, Thanks Casha. 0:13:56.939 --> 0:13:59.139 Now, okay, Britt, how do you feel about small talk 0:13:59.259 --> 0:14:01.979 in general? Small talk makes me feel uncomfortable because I 0:14:02.019 --> 0:14:03.499 always wonder where am I going to take it? 0:14:03.539 --> 0:14:04.819 And then I feel like I'm on the spot. 0:14:04.939 --> 0:14:07.499 I could small talk my way out of anything. I 0:14:07.539 --> 0:14:09.379 don't love it, I don't get anything from it. I'd 0:14:09.499 --> 0:14:11.779 rather avoid it, but it doesn't make me uncomfortable. 0:14:11.779 --> 0:14:13.619 The problem is this, Sometimes I think that I become 0:14:13.619 --> 0:14:16.299 the interviewer in a small talk situation where I always 0:14:16.419 --> 0:14:19.219 I just keep asking questions, asking questions, asking questions, and 0:14:19.259 --> 0:14:21.299 then eventually I run out of questions to ask and 0:14:21.419 --> 0:14:23.019 waiting for the conversation to. 0:14:22.979 --> 0:14:24.299 Circle back around. But it doesn't. 0:14:24.299 --> 0:14:26.339 So I try and avoid it because and when I 0:14:26.339 --> 0:14:28.059 say avoid it, you can never avoid small talk. I 0:14:28.099 --> 0:14:31.099 try and avoid situations that put me into making small 0:14:31.139 --> 0:14:33.139 talk because I find it uncomfortable. 0:14:33.459 --> 0:14:34.139 Yeah, well, I. 0:14:34.099 --> 0:14:36.099 Mean no one loves it, no one. There is no 0:14:36.139 --> 0:14:38.659 one that's like, oh, can't wait to go small talk tonight. 0:14:39.059 --> 0:14:42.219 Like, but some people maybe don't really know how to 0:14:42.379 --> 0:14:44.299 avoid it or how to like escalate it to a 0:14:44.339 --> 0:14:45.499 medium talk or Yeah. 0:14:45.539 --> 0:14:48.259 But also some people are like super extroverted and so 0:14:48.379 --> 0:14:50.939 like they don't even quote unquote, making small talk doesn't 0:14:50.979 --> 0:14:51.899 touch the sides for them. 0:14:52.099 --> 0:14:53.179 I think I'm a hybrid. 0:14:53.219 --> 0:14:55.939 I definitely would call myself an extrovert in some things. 0:14:56.299 --> 0:14:59.219 But when it's new people and new environments, I'm quite 0:14:59.299 --> 0:15:01.739 happy to take the back seat if someone else is 0:15:01.859 --> 0:15:03.059 wanting to step into that. 0:15:03.339 --> 0:15:07.419 I've never seen you take the back seat anywhere anywhere. 0:15:07.659 --> 0:15:10.299 It's not what it is, no, But I don't enjoy 0:15:10.339 --> 0:15:12.499 it at all. Like I do really feel like it 0:15:12.619 --> 0:15:15.539 is a task to make small talk and to keep 0:15:15.539 --> 0:15:19.219 the conversation going. But sometimes I feel as though I 0:15:19.339 --> 0:15:21.699 have to. And sometimes I also maybe this is in 0:15:21.699 --> 0:15:24.979 my own insecurities. I think as though it's almost expected 0:15:25.059 --> 0:15:27.299 because we work in a role where we talk all 0:15:27.339 --> 0:15:29.299 the time, so people are like, oh, well, Laura can 0:15:29.339 --> 0:15:30.899 do this, and so I feel as though I walk 0:15:30.899 --> 0:15:33.699 into some of those environments where it's like new people 0:15:33.819 --> 0:15:35.699 or it's a work thing, and I'm like, I'm on 0:15:35.899 --> 0:15:38.339 and I'm singing and dancing, and I go home and 0:15:38.339 --> 0:15:41.499 a crash because I'm so overstimulated by having to like 0:15:41.659 --> 0:15:42.379 put on a show. 0:15:42.699 --> 0:15:43.579 Yeah that makes sense. 0:15:43.659 --> 0:15:43.939 Yeah. 0:15:43.979 --> 0:15:45.259 Well. The reason why I want to bring this up 0:15:45.339 --> 0:15:48.779 is because firstly, I think a lot of people like 0:15:49.019 --> 0:15:52.299 struggle to get conversations out of the small talk conversation 0:15:52.979 --> 0:15:55.899 purgatory and into something that feels a little bit more 0:15:55.939 --> 0:15:57.659 meaty or it feels like it's a back and forth. 0:15:58.059 --> 0:16:00.819 But there is a guy named Charles Jewick. Now he's 0:16:00.859 --> 0:16:04.739 a Politzer Prisman. He's also coined a super communicator. We 0:16:04.859 --> 0:16:08.499 recently interviewed him on our podcast Life on Cut podcast. 0:16:08.099 --> 0:16:10.899 He's brilliant. If you want to communicator, if you want 0:16:10.939 --> 0:16:11.739