WEBVTT - The F*ckboy Theory 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.160 I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:06.640 land on which this episode is being recorded, the Komboom 0:00:06.720 --> 0:00:10.520 Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present 0:00:10.600 --> 0:00:14.319 and emerging and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and 0:00:14.360 --> 0:00:22.639 Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, 0:00:22.760 --> 0:00:30.200 and this is the Rise and Conco podcast. This is 0:00:30.240 --> 0:00:33.199 the podcast where we ch have mindset, self development and 0:00:33.240 --> 0:00:37.120 becoming your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs, 0:00:37.240 --> 0:00:40.360 plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses 0:00:40.440 --> 0:00:43.800 and being among Think of us as the perfect combo 0:00:43.920 --> 0:00:47.479 of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No 0:00:47.520 --> 0:00:49.839 matter where you are in your journey, we're here to 0:00:49.920 --> 0:00:53.800 help you be curious, pull yourself out and embrace radical 0:00:53.920 --> 0:00:58.480 self awareness. If you're ready to get into the driver's 0:00:58.480 --> 0:01:01.320 seat of your own life and stop letting life pass 0:01:01.360 --> 0:01:11.960 you by, then you're in the right place. Hello everybody, 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:13.920 and welcome back to the podcast. 0:01:14.160 --> 0:01:20.760 Today. We have such a fun and amazing episode for you. Now, 0:01:20.840 --> 0:01:24.840 this episode is all about a theory that we have 0:01:25.040 --> 0:01:29.759 called the f boy theory. Now, the concept behind it 0:01:29.800 --> 0:01:32.800 is we all have that friend that, no matter how 0:01:32.840 --> 0:01:38.040 hard she tries, she always ends up in a bad relationship. 0:01:38.800 --> 0:01:41.240 Maybe you might be that friend if you don't have 0:01:41.280 --> 0:01:45.800 that friend. But basically who this episode is for is 0:01:46.120 --> 0:01:50.640 if you're struggling to find aligned friends, an aligned partner, 0:01:51.120 --> 0:01:55.600 an aligned job, anything of that sort, and you just 0:01:55.760 --> 0:02:01.240 seem to keep attracting the wrong kind of people, you're 0:02:01.280 --> 0:02:03.720 going to want to listen to this. So it is 0:02:03.880 --> 0:02:07.160 a solo pep talk from G on the energetics of 0:02:07.280 --> 0:02:12.440 attracting aligned, high vibe people into your life. If you 0:02:12.520 --> 0:02:14.560 feel like you're currently on a bit of a hamster 0:02:14.600 --> 0:02:17.119 wheel when it comes to things like that, and you're 0:02:17.160 --> 0:02:21.440 struggling to create deep connections with those around you, or 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:24.800 maybe you just are at the point where your current 0:02:24.840 --> 0:02:28.960 relationships aren't quite the vibe that you want them to be, 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:33.120 then you're going to love today's episode. G takes you 0:02:33.240 --> 0:02:37.280 through exactly how you can change your current behaviors so 0:02:37.320 --> 0:02:41.200 that the people around you either rise to meet the 0:02:41.240 --> 0:02:46.040 new standard or fall away. So if that sounds like you, 0:02:46.600 --> 0:02:49.160 and honestly I think it is all of us in 0:02:49.200 --> 0:02:51.519 some aspect of our life, then you're going to love 0:02:51.560 --> 0:02:55.280 today's episode. But before we get into it, I obviously 0:02:55.680 --> 0:02:58.880 want to give you a weekly recommendation. G is away 0:02:59.080 --> 0:03:02.320 living it up in Europe, so it's just me, but 0:03:03.000 --> 0:03:06.640 I do have two really good recommendations for you guys. 0:03:06.639 --> 0:03:11.000 So number one is a new book slash audiobook I've 0:03:11.000 --> 0:03:13.720 been reading and listening to, and that is Green Lights 0:03:13.760 --> 0:03:16.720 by Matthew McConaughey. I think we have recommended it on 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:19.799 the podcast before, but I finally started it and got 0:03:19.800 --> 0:03:21.880 into it, and it is honestly one of the most 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:26.880 beautifully written books. And it's a memoir, but it's not 0:03:26.960 --> 0:03:29.800 a memoir. And the way he writes and his tone 0:03:29.919 --> 0:03:32.720 is incredible, and if you do like listening to his voice, 0:03:32.720 --> 0:03:37.279 the audiobook is also amazing. And then my second recommendation, 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:41.680 which was also in our little Recommendations newsletter that went 0:03:41.880 --> 0:03:46.080 out last week, is to have a little bit of 0:03:46.120 --> 0:03:49.240 a dance with your friends and family. It's so much fun. 0:03:49.360 --> 0:03:52.960 I'll link a playlist I love in the show notes. 0:03:53.080 --> 0:03:55.680 It is one from a girl who I follow on TikTok. 0:03:55.760 --> 0:03:58.760 Her name's Alexa Williams. If you ever just want like 0:03:58.840 --> 0:04:01.080 a little bit of a high vibe space to go 0:04:01.160 --> 0:04:04.560 to her TikTok is amazing. It's literally just her dancing 0:04:04.720 --> 0:04:08.360 around in her bathroom mainly to just go great songs. 0:04:08.800 --> 0:04:12.640 So that is a little bit of a positive note too, 0:04:12.760 --> 0:04:14.920 So I'll pop the link to her TikTok and the 0:04:14.960 --> 0:04:17.279 playlist in the show notes, and also the link to 0:04:17.320 --> 0:04:21.159 green Lights in the show notes. But just before we 0:04:21.200 --> 0:04:23.440 get into the episode, I do want to remind you 0:04:23.560 --> 0:04:26.160 that Big Cut is open for the last time ever 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:29.200 for the Rise and Conker Project. So if you are 0:04:29.320 --> 0:04:33.240 currently feeling a pull, now is the time because we 0:04:33.320 --> 0:04:36.400 will be taking it off the website. If you feel 0:04:36.400 --> 0:04:38.760 like you're meant for more, or you're feeling a little 0:04:38.800 --> 0:04:42.159 bit stuck or unclear on what you want, and you 0:04:42.440 --> 0:04:45.359 just know that something big is coming, or you have 0:04:45.480 --> 0:04:48.680 the potential to live a really, really big life, then 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:52.120 you will absolutely love the Rise and Conker Project. It 0:04:52.279 --> 0:04:56.320 is Georgie's signature manifestation formula that she has used to 0:04:56.360 --> 0:04:59.720 attract everything in her life, and she still uses it 0:04:59.760 --> 0:05:02.760 too through this day. If you do have any questions, 0:05:03.080 --> 0:05:05.680 come in the Facebook group, send us an email. We 0:05:05.720 --> 0:05:08.520 are here to help and we are so so excited 0:05:08.560 --> 0:05:11.640 for this round. It is going to be amazing and 0:05:11.680 --> 0:05:14.120 I won't keep you for any longer we'll get straight 0:05:14.160 --> 0:05:22.520 into the episode now. So in the project I talk 0:05:22.600 --> 0:05:29.200 about this concept called energetic minimums, and basically this is 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:34.080 a theory that you can use with any sort of 0:05:34.240 --> 0:05:38.080 avenue or thing in your life. But in this episode 0:05:38.080 --> 0:05:43.080 we're going to really obviously been talking about relationships, you know, friendships, 0:05:43.680 --> 0:05:48.080 any sort of people around you. So the basis of 0:05:48.160 --> 0:05:55.640 this theory is basically, what you accept will continue, what 0:05:55.760 --> 0:05:59.240 you will allow will. 0:05:59.000 --> 0:06:04.880 Continue, and like the minimum of what you accept is 0:06:04.960 --> 0:06:10.240 basically what you're going to get. So if you, for example, 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:17.000 in a friendship, accept low vibe behavior, accept the friend 0:06:17.279 --> 0:06:23.000 constantly gossiping, being judgmental, talking about other people being judgmental 0:06:23.080 --> 0:06:28.240 to you, you accept these low vibe behaviors, that is 0:06:28.279 --> 0:06:31.839 what is going to continue in your friendships. And also 0:06:32.360 --> 0:06:36.360 you're then going to attract other people where that is 0:06:36.400 --> 0:06:40.159 the energetic minimum. So in the project, I talk about 0:06:40.200 --> 0:06:45.800 the concept. Like a great example is I use it 0:06:45.839 --> 0:06:48.960 every single time, and I laugh every time. But you 0:06:49.040 --> 0:06:54.160 know the friend who constantly attracts f boys, fuck boys? 0:06:54.800 --> 0:06:55.120 I do. 0:06:56.960 --> 0:07:01.920 I do, And like like from outside you can see it. 0:07:02.000 --> 0:07:06.760 You're like, you'll stop accepting this low vibe behavior, stop 0:07:06.920 --> 0:07:10.960 accepting less love than you deserve. And it's so clear 0:07:11.400 --> 0:07:16.480 to the outside people, but you know, the person currently 0:07:16.720 --> 0:07:21.360 in that vortex in that world, they are like they 0:07:21.400 --> 0:07:25.000 can't see. Of course they can see things wrong with it, 0:07:25.080 --> 0:07:28.520 but it's like that's all they think they deserve, that's 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:31.800 all they think they can have, and so they will 0:07:31.840 --> 0:07:36.760 consistently attract these low vibe you know, behaviors, these boys 0:07:36.760 --> 0:07:40.840 who treat them like crap. So that is an energetic minimum. 0:07:41.440 --> 0:07:46.120 So again, this concept isn't just in romantic partners. It's 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:50.880 in friendship, sin, it's in colleagues, it's in anyone around you. 0:07:51.480 --> 0:07:54.800 And it's a really cool concept to think about because 0:07:55.520 --> 0:07:59.960 you know, you could have this desire for these really 0:08:00.680 --> 0:08:05.880 deep connections, these really beautiful friendships where you know, these 0:08:05.920 --> 0:08:10.920 fellow feminine energies like light you up and inspire you 0:08:11.000 --> 0:08:13.920 and make you feel safe and held and motivate you 0:08:14.520 --> 0:08:17.080 and have so much empathy, and like, this is what 0:08:17.120 --> 0:08:21.000 you're desiring. But then at the same time, you have 0:08:21.120 --> 0:08:26.840 these low vibrational friendships that you are still entertaining. And 0:08:26.920 --> 0:08:30.520 so you know, the law of the universe is you 0:08:30.600 --> 0:08:34.559 cannot have both. You can only pick one. And that's 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:37.240 why we talk a lot about in the project of 0:08:37.800 --> 0:08:42.360 you know, releasing limiting beliefs, releasing things that no longer 0:08:42.440 --> 0:08:47.800 serve you. Because as an energetic being, there is a capacity. 0:08:47.920 --> 0:08:51.400 So if you want something different, you have to release 0:08:51.600 --> 0:08:56.679 what you're currently holding onto that is creating your current reality. 0:08:57.120 --> 0:08:59.880 If you want a different reality, you need to have 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:02.800 different beliefs, you need to have different standards, you need 0:09:02.840 --> 0:09:06.320 to have different behaviors that you allow. That's the only 0:09:06.360 --> 0:09:09.800 way you're going to get there. So often, and it's 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:14.880 funny because I guarantee you the energetic minimums. If you 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:20.320 accept in one avenue of your life something really like 0:09:20.440 --> 0:09:24.760 only so high vibe, but then in another area of 0:09:24.800 --> 0:09:28.280 your life you accept something that's quite low vibe, you 0:09:28.320 --> 0:09:31.800 will always it always kind of evens up, and it's 0:09:31.840 --> 0:09:35.040 like you will always experience life in this like middle 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:39.040 range where things aren't too bad, but things aren't amazing. 0:09:39.880 --> 0:09:43.080 And so what you can, like a really key thing 0:09:43.200 --> 0:09:46.680 that you can do in just like creating a dream 0:09:46.760 --> 0:09:50.640 reality is check in with all avenues of your life 0:09:50.679 --> 0:09:53.679 and like, where is my energetic minimum? Like you might 0:09:53.720 --> 0:09:57.760 have a great energetic minimum with friends and relationships, but 0:09:57.840 --> 0:10:01.319 with money it's really low and what's the crazy thing 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:04.480 is when you increase your energetic minimum in all avenues 0:10:04.520 --> 0:10:08.440 of your life, everything gets better. It has this like 0:10:08.480 --> 0:10:13.680 beautiful compounding compounding effect. But again I'm getting ahead of myself. 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:17.880 Let's stick to relationships in this episode. And so what 0:10:17.920 --> 0:10:22.079 I want you to think about currently is what are 0:10:22.120 --> 0:10:27.280 you accepting and what are you allowing in your current relationships. 0:10:27.600 --> 0:10:32.520 So I also want to preface this with you know, 0:10:32.559 --> 0:10:37.160 when I'm talking about this, you're all emotionally intelligent, amazing people, 0:10:37.600 --> 0:10:41.160 and you do need to use discernment because, for example, 0:10:41.840 --> 0:10:46.680 I have had, you know, behaviors in you know, my 0:10:46.800 --> 0:10:52.080 current relationship with my husband that I accepted previously that 0:10:52.160 --> 0:10:55.720 I would never accept now. But you know, we're still 0:10:55.760 --> 0:10:59.120 together and we've grown together. So a big thing is 0:10:59.440 --> 0:11:02.280 you don't have to completely get rid of this person, 0:11:03.280 --> 0:11:07.120 completely cut them from your life, but it's just looking 0:11:07.280 --> 0:11:10.960 at where are you accepting that behavior. So for example, 0:11:11.320 --> 0:11:14.160 maybe you do have a friend who loves to gossip, 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:20.360 and you know my opinion about gossiping basically you, me 0:11:20.440 --> 0:11:23.320 and Ty have had numerous conversations on this podcast about 0:11:23.360 --> 0:11:26.520 gossiping and how we even stop listening to like pop 0:11:26.559 --> 0:11:30.120 culture and like gossip y podcast because it can really 0:11:30.360 --> 0:11:35.320 give your brain a lot of evidence that things don't 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:38.439 work out, that things go wrong, that you will always 0:11:38.520 --> 0:11:42.920 be judged. And I personally just don't subscribe to gossip. 0:11:42.960 --> 0:11:46.280 And also, you know, if you are someone who has 0:11:46.840 --> 0:11:48.719 big goals in this life and you want to live 0:11:48.760 --> 0:11:52.760 this big life, I guarantee you it's quite different and 0:11:52.800 --> 0:11:56.960 it might be a bit unconventional, and you know it's 0:11:57.000 --> 0:12:00.920 going to require you to really step up. It's going 0:12:01.000 --> 0:12:05.040 to require different behavior. So if you're around someone who 0:12:05.080 --> 0:12:09.080 constantly puts other people down for like living a different life, 0:12:09.120 --> 0:12:12.800 because that's all gossiping is. It's you saying whatever that 0:12:12.840 --> 0:12:15.800 person is doing, I don't agree with it, And you're 0:12:15.840 --> 0:12:18.000 allowed to have your opinions, you're allowed to have your 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:21.320 values as a human. But when you're constantly around someone 0:12:21.400 --> 0:12:25.120 who's constantly judgmental, constantly puts other people down, it's going 0:12:25.160 --> 0:12:29.119 to give you that evidence that you shouldn't step outside 0:12:29.600 --> 0:12:32.000 you know, the box, you shouldn't draw outside the lines 0:12:32.080 --> 0:12:35.079 because you will be judged. So it was a big grant. 0:12:35.200 --> 0:12:39.319 But that's why I don't subscribe to that sort of situation. 0:12:39.440 --> 0:12:42.800 So let's say you do have that friend, you can 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:44.480 totally cut them out of your life, like that is 0:12:44.520 --> 0:12:47.480 an option. You're your own person. But I think like 0:12:47.520 --> 0:12:51.040 a more like emotionally intelligent way to go about it 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:55.440 is to, for example, when they're talking about that, you know, 0:12:55.480 --> 0:12:58.520 you could say, oh, that's a very interesting opinion. You know, 0:12:58.679 --> 0:13:01.840 could it also be that this could be the case 0:13:02.080 --> 0:13:04.160 or that could be the case, or I'd love to 0:13:04.200 --> 0:13:07.280 open this up and have a conversation about that, like 0:13:07.400 --> 0:13:10.520 why do they have the beliefs that that person shouldn't 0:13:10.559 --> 0:13:14.080 do it? And open it up and it might even 0:13:14.120 --> 0:13:17.720 be a really interesting conversation and that's amazing. You could 0:13:17.800 --> 0:13:21.160 then do another step where it's like, hey, just letting 0:13:21.160 --> 0:13:23.520 you know, I really don't want to like talk about 0:13:23.559 --> 0:13:27.120 other people, Like I just I just don't want it anymore. 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:29.200 I know I have in the past, and I know 0:13:29.280 --> 0:13:33.439 I've entertained that conversation, but moving forward, I really don't 0:13:33.480 --> 0:13:36.520 want to talk about other people, you know, I want 0:13:36.559 --> 0:13:40.240 to talk about ideas and my future and how I'm 0:13:40.280 --> 0:13:43.120 feeling and how you're feeling and how you're going, and 0:13:43.600 --> 0:13:46.120 you know, what's in our world. I just I don't 0:13:46.200 --> 0:13:51.160 think there's anything to gossiping and judging other people, and 0:13:51.240 --> 0:13:53.240 like saying that to them, I guarantee you that's gonna 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:57.240 like they're gonna beally what the help, which is perfect 0:13:57.320 --> 0:14:00.480 because if you want different, you need to move different. 0:14:00.720 --> 0:14:03.280 So like, even look at the conversations you're having with 0:14:03.320 --> 0:14:07.240 your friends. Maybe they're not gossiping about other people, but 0:14:07.360 --> 0:14:10.040 maybe they're constantly complaining. 0:14:11.400 --> 0:14:14.199 I feel like everybody can think of someone when you. 0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:16.680 Say that, oh, and I I'm yeah, I've got someone 0:14:16.679 --> 0:14:19.479 of my back as soon as I said it. Constantly 0:14:19.520 --> 0:14:25.479 complaining or constantly in a victim mindset or constantly insecure. 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:28.400 That's like another one where I'm like, I do not 0:14:28.560 --> 0:14:32.119 have the energy to constantly pep you up, Like absolutely 0:14:32.160 --> 0:14:34.960 I will do it. But and I'm talking about like 0:14:35.040 --> 0:14:37.760 this is them like majority of the time. Obviously we 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:40.400 all need to have rents and we all need to 0:14:40.560 --> 0:14:43.600 express ourselves and have moments where we are the victim 0:14:43.920 --> 0:14:46.640 and that's really healthy. But I am like, use your 0:14:46.680 --> 0:14:49.440 discernment here, guys. I'm talking about those friends where it's 0:14:49.480 --> 0:14:53.760 like every single time, yeah, and even say to them 0:14:53.800 --> 0:14:58.400 like I think it's a beautiful when you don't put 0:14:58.520 --> 0:15:01.240 them down and blame them and make it about them. 0:15:01.240 --> 0:15:04.680 I think it's really beautiful when you can, you know, 0:15:04.760 --> 0:15:07.760 make it about you in the way of like, hey, 0:15:08.400 --> 0:15:12.760 I've I've actually myself because the only reason why a 0:15:12.840 --> 0:15:15.400 victim mentality will trigger you is if you're also in 0:15:15.400 --> 0:15:19.840 a victim mentality. So that's something to think about if 0:15:19.840 --> 0:15:22.120 you also and we all do it, we all get 0:15:22.120 --> 0:15:25.880 in those mentalities. So you know, you could say something like, hey, 0:15:26.680 --> 0:15:29.200 I've actually been, you know, in a bit of a 0:15:29.280 --> 0:15:32.440 victim mentality and I've been thinking, you know, some negative 0:15:32.440 --> 0:15:36.320 thoughts and I'm really trying my best that my dominant 0:15:36.360 --> 0:15:40.120 thought is you know, positive, and it is optimistic. So 0:15:41.200 --> 0:15:43.440 I would love to have this conversation with you, but 0:15:43.600 --> 0:15:45.800 can you know, can we turn. 0:15:45.640 --> 0:15:46.000 It to. 0:15:47.680 --> 0:15:51.760 Like constructive? Can we make it constructive instead of just complaining? 0:15:51.760 --> 0:15:53.480 And that's going to really help me and I can 0:15:53.560 --> 0:15:56.280 really be my best self in this conversation if we 0:15:56.400 --> 0:15:59.280 do that, you know, even having that and because they 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:01.600 might be like like, oh, wow, yeah, I have been 0:16:01.600 --> 0:16:04.240 complaining a lot. Yeah, and they might need the check in, 0:16:04.520 --> 0:16:07.000 or you could even say that you'd be like, hey, 0:16:07.160 --> 0:16:09.760 like I have noticed you have been super negative, you've 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:13.720 been super down lately, and you're absolutely allowed to have 0:16:13.760 --> 0:16:16.680 those moments, but like, is there anything I can do 0:16:16.720 --> 0:16:19.280 that can help you through this moment or like have 0:16:19.400 --> 0:16:21.560 you thought about you know, blah blah blah and like 0:16:21.720 --> 0:16:24.920 helping them and shining a light on that. But I 0:16:25.000 --> 0:16:30.120 think again, you need to disrupt your current reality. That's 0:16:30.160 --> 0:16:32.880 like the huge thing then, And that's like I think 0:16:32.920 --> 0:16:36.280 a big thing with energetic minimums is the only way 0:16:36.440 --> 0:16:40.320 you get like break past that minimum is if you 0:16:40.400 --> 0:16:41.080 shoot up. 0:16:41.560 --> 0:16:42.600 So if you have. 0:16:42.640 --> 0:16:46.960 Those hard conversations, if you make those big moves, that's 0:16:47.240 --> 0:16:51.240 how you break an energetic minimum. And what's great about 0:16:51.240 --> 0:16:54.440 it an energetic minimum is once you break through to 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:58.840 the next notch, the next level, you stay there. It's 0:16:59.000 --> 0:17:04.439 so much easier to hold that energetic minimum once you're 0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:07.800 you know, increasing it and you break through. So there's 0:17:07.800 --> 0:17:10.440 always going to be that initial where things feel a 0:17:10.520 --> 0:17:13.200 bit hard, they feel uncomfortable, but once you break through, 0:17:13.600 --> 0:17:17.399 Like even what I notice now is like I just 0:17:17.800 --> 0:17:23.119 because I've really lifted my energetic minimum with like friendships, 0:17:23.160 --> 0:17:25.680 I actually lost a lot of friendships a couple of 0:17:25.760 --> 0:17:29.359 years ago, and it's because I obviously I changed a 0:17:29.400 --> 0:17:31.960 lot about my lifestyle. I stopped partying, I stopped going 0:17:32.000 --> 0:17:36.399 out a lot, I stopped gossiping, and people naturally fell 0:17:36.440 --> 0:17:40.160 away or I had to make those hard decisions. But 0:17:40.200 --> 0:17:45.520 what's really like mind blowing now is I just never 0:17:46.119 --> 0:17:50.240 tracked in low vibrational people. It's like they just miss me, 0:17:50.480 --> 0:17:53.520 like we're just it's like we're not in the same world. 0:17:53.880 --> 0:17:56.800 Like I know that sounds so weird, but that's what 0:17:56.840 --> 0:18:00.439 I mean. Is like, once your energetic minimum lifts, the 0:18:00.560 --> 0:18:03.440 people who were low vibe, they almost and I'm using 0:18:03.480 --> 0:18:05.440 my hands here and you can't see me, but they 0:18:05.440 --> 0:18:08.760 don't touch you. They're down here. And yes, of course 0:18:08.800 --> 0:18:11.159 you might have you know, you might bump into people 0:18:11.240 --> 0:18:14.120 and you might have you know, I'm not saying. 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:15.919 Someone drive past you on the road and flip your off. 0:18:16.200 --> 0:18:19.080 Yeah, Like you're never gonna not experience a low vibrational person. 0:18:19.600 --> 0:18:24.280 But in regards to attracting beautiful friendships, you'll find it 0:18:24.359 --> 0:18:27.399 literally just gets easier. Yeah, and you have to get 0:18:27.480 --> 0:18:30.560 through that uncomfortable first bit, but it is. I was 0:18:30.600 --> 0:18:33.359 like thinking about this, I was like, Wow, it just 0:18:33.720 --> 0:18:36.680 gets easier if I keep up leveling, if I keep 0:18:36.680 --> 0:18:40.480 pushing my energetic minimum, I just don't get those people 0:18:40.520 --> 0:18:43.960 coming in. It's literally like universe spirit is just like 0:18:44.160 --> 0:18:47.520 keeping me protected. And they're like, nah, can't you can't 0:18:47.520 --> 0:18:50.080 go near it, And I'm like, that's so cool. 0:18:50.240 --> 0:18:52.919 It is I can second that because I feel like 0:18:53.080 --> 0:18:55.320 a similar thing happened with me where a few years ago, 0:18:55.480 --> 0:18:58.399 I had some hard conversations and I just changed a 0:18:58.400 --> 0:19:01.440 lot about the way I did things and put boundaries 0:19:01.440 --> 0:19:04.480 in place with people, and the boundaries upset some people, 0:19:04.520 --> 0:19:08.480 but I upheld the boundary and they disappeared. But now 0:19:08.760 --> 0:19:10.520 I was literally thinking about the other day. I'm like, 0:19:10.520 --> 0:19:14.520 all my friends are like, amazing, Yes this is, and 0:19:14.560 --> 0:19:16.520 this is and there's just more and more of them coming. 0:19:17.119 --> 0:19:19.000 This is honestly, you know what. This is a tire. 0:19:19.080 --> 0:19:23.280 This is getting into it. That's what quantum jumping is. Wow, 0:19:23.320 --> 0:19:27.679 you have literally quantum jumped into a new reality. So 0:19:27.840 --> 0:19:32.119 in that new reality, those people simply cannot exist. And 0:19:32.160 --> 0:19:34.200 I know that's like that's a wild thing to say 0:19:36.000 --> 0:19:42.920 hash tag scited quantum physics. No, but seriously, when you 0:19:43.119 --> 0:19:47.520 quantum leap, you break through an energetic minimum. The people 0:19:47.600 --> 0:19:52.520 around you they either rise or they fall away, Like 0:19:52.600 --> 0:19:57.120 the there's nothing in between Like, that's what happens. And 0:19:57.160 --> 0:20:01.440 that's what's so incredible about having these hard conversations about 0:20:01.520 --> 0:20:05.080 getting clear on the relationships you want, about getting clear 0:20:05.080 --> 0:20:07.880 on like who you want to be in the relationships. 0:20:08.359 --> 0:20:12.320 You do that, and then literally you watch people rise 0:20:12.560 --> 0:20:13.359 or they fall away. 0:20:14.119 --> 0:20:17.520 I remember the story you told about Manifestation babe and 0:20:17.960 --> 0:20:21.800 how she almost energetically broke up with her boyfriend because 0:20:21.800 --> 0:20:23.080 he hadn't proposed yet. 0:20:23.560 --> 0:20:25.240 No, no, he broke up with him. 0:20:25.800 --> 0:20:26.760 Oh she dumped him. 0:20:27.040 --> 0:20:29.480 No energetically, yeah, yeah. 0:20:29.160 --> 0:20:31.880 And she energetically made that decision. And a few weeks ago, 0:20:32.040 --> 0:20:34.399 I was having a thing where I had noticed I 0:20:34.920 --> 0:20:40.119 with a friend was the one constantly initiating and initiating 0:20:40.160 --> 0:20:44.240 what like, conversation, let's catch up. You were, she was, 0:20:44.400 --> 0:20:47.520 I was you were yeah, and which is fine here 0:20:47.560 --> 0:20:50.040 and there, but it was like starting to become It 0:20:50.040 --> 0:20:52.480 didn't feel equal, it didn't feel equal, it didn't feel 0:20:52.560 --> 0:20:56.320 like a fair transaction. And I got to a point 0:20:56.320 --> 0:21:00.280 where I was like, no, like, I'm not this is 0:21:00.280 --> 0:21:02.840 not something I'm interested in, this is not something I'm entertaining. 0:21:02.880 --> 0:21:05.200 And I didn't say anything, and I didn't even need 0:21:05.240 --> 0:21:08.679 to say anything, just energetically. I made the decision of like, 0:21:08.880 --> 0:21:14.040 I'm not entertaining friendships that aren't equal in every way, 0:21:15.240 --> 0:21:18.840 and literally she fixed it, ah, and I had to 0:21:18.880 --> 0:21:23.520 say nothing. There was no uncomfortable conversation, There was no like, oh, 0:21:23.560 --> 0:21:25.639 I feel like you're not really here at the moment, 0:21:26.200 --> 0:21:28.199 and it was just like an energetic thing for me 0:21:28.240 --> 0:21:30.760 where I was like, this is the barrier. 0:21:30.480 --> 0:21:31.560 Yeah, and the boundary. 0:21:31.880 --> 0:21:34.640 I'm if this means I don't see you ever again 0:21:34.720 --> 0:21:36.639 because you don't message me, that's fine. 0:21:37.000 --> 0:21:39.639 Yeah, well that's even Like so the story that A 0:21:39.680 --> 0:21:43.879 Tear is talking about with Manifestation Babe, she was telling 0:21:44.000 --> 0:21:47.679 us how basically talking about energetic minimums, and she was 0:21:47.720 --> 0:21:51.480 saying how in her relationship before she was engaged and married, 0:21:51.840 --> 0:21:54.840 she would often show her partner these engagement rings and 0:21:54.920 --> 0:21:57.879 she was all about him and all about getting married. 0:21:58.280 --> 0:22:00.399 And she did it one night and he kind of 0:22:00.440 --> 0:22:04.280 turned around and was like, oh, like, if you're lucky, 0:22:04.400 --> 0:22:06.439 you'll get an engagement ring or I don't know, just 0:22:06.600 --> 0:22:10.800 said something like that, and that night she kind of 0:22:10.800 --> 0:22:14.560 had this moment where she was like, no, I'm not 0:22:14.840 --> 0:22:18.960 allowing someone to treat me like this, and so she 0:22:19.000 --> 0:22:23.639 didn't say anything to him. Energetically, she broke up with 0:22:23.760 --> 0:22:27.600 him and was like, no, you either meet me and 0:22:27.640 --> 0:22:31.400 you come where we are like equal in this relationship. 0:22:31.800 --> 0:22:35.120 Otherwise I'm out. And she told, you know, spirit universe 0:22:35.200 --> 0:22:40.320 that and then she's like, no joke, Like it's it's 0:22:40.359 --> 0:22:43.200 like he felt that, and then he just started coming 0:22:43.240 --> 0:22:46.199 to the table, started being a lot more nicer, started 0:22:46.200 --> 0:22:49.120 being like whatnot, and then he proposed like I think 0:22:49.160 --> 0:22:52.000 like a month or two later, and she was like, yeah, 0:22:52.200 --> 0:22:54.760 that's how it should be. But in saying that, when 0:22:54.840 --> 0:22:58.880 you energetically break up with that person or separate from 0:22:58.880 --> 0:23:02.600 that person, you also have to be ready to go 0:23:02.680 --> 0:23:05.359 through with it. Don't just do it because you want 0:23:05.400 --> 0:23:08.240 the other person to come back to you, because that 0:23:08.520 --> 0:23:11.879 is manipulation. It's not going to work. So for example, 0:23:12.080 --> 0:23:15.320 if he didn't come to the table, she was ready 0:23:15.400 --> 0:23:17.800 that that's it. I don't want to be with someone 0:23:17.840 --> 0:23:22.000 who doesn't meet me. And that's what that's the energy 0:23:22.040 --> 0:23:23.800 you need to be in, and that's what you have 0:23:23.880 --> 0:23:28.000 to be strong with because again it's like if you're 0:23:28.119 --> 0:23:32.480 the one who's constantly going the extra mile, constantly meeting them, 0:23:32.960 --> 0:23:36.920 constantly like sticking up for them or having excuses for them. 0:23:37.600 --> 0:23:42.080 That's just what's going to continue. And often we complain 0:23:42.160 --> 0:23:44.760 about that, we get annoyed by that, but it's like 0:23:44.880 --> 0:23:49.440 we're the ones accepting that behavior. So it's really about 0:23:49.480 --> 0:23:54.960 taking like ownership and responsibility in all your relationships. So 0:23:55.440 --> 0:23:58.080 on that note, I'm actually going to get I'm going 0:23:58.160 --> 0:24:01.000 to give you guys a couple of journal pro so 0:24:01.359 --> 0:24:04.639 you can start thinking about because let's say you do 0:24:04.720 --> 0:24:08.239 have a beautiful relationship with you know, your partner, but 0:24:08.280 --> 0:24:12.480 there are just some like energetic minimums that you're like, oh, 0:24:12.600 --> 0:24:15.280 I want these lifted in regards to the relationship or 0:24:15.280 --> 0:24:18.800 even a friendship or family member, and it's like you 0:24:19.320 --> 0:24:21.680 want them to stay in your life, but you want 0:24:21.680 --> 0:24:25.600 things to get better. Honestly, all you need to do, 0:24:25.840 --> 0:24:28.600 and I talk about this concept of like keep your 0:24:28.800 --> 0:24:33.359 side of the street clean, you need to firstly get 0:24:33.480 --> 0:24:37.359 clear on who you want to be and who you 0:24:37.400 --> 0:24:40.600