WEBVTT - Bobo's 👩‍🏫 Wise Words 📚 To Flexiana

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms. Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch up podcast. Ladies and gentlemen, it's time

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<v Speaker 1>for Flexi's Big Question of the Week. Had Flexi's Big

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<v Speaker 1>Question is back in a big way. It's where I

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<v Speaker 1>pose a question of the week to help you understand

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<v Speaker 1>what you think, why you think it, and who is

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<v Speaker 1>influencing the way that you think. A couple of days go,

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<v Speaker 1>I pose the question what's the life experience that you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have that you need? And the questions and responses

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<v Speaker 1>we got out of this world. If you ever feel

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<v Speaker 1>like you want to answer some of these questions but

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<v Speaker 1>can't get a hold of us, we do put a

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<v Speaker 1>little question box on our Instagram story, so it's up there.

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<v Speaker 1>You put your answers in that, and then we chat

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<v Speaker 1>about it on air. It's all really funny games. And

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<v Speaker 1>also if you want to extend the conversation further, don't

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<v Speaker 1>come to me in frooms, Go to your friends, go

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<v Speaker 1>to your loved ones. That's what this is all about.

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<v Speaker 1>Sharing the information. Let's read it a bunch of answer.

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<v Speaker 1>We're not going to read out any names. Just gets

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<v Speaker 1>too confusing. But we've got some kind of social sport, dating, travel,

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<v Speaker 1>traveling solo, a relationship, a driver's license, living on my own,

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<v Speaker 1>traveling dating women, living abroad, financial security, the ability to

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<v Speaker 1>actually be good at my job, owning a home, having

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<v Speaker 1>a baby, living overseas. This person wants to do a

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<v Speaker 1>twelve day silent retreat in the poll. I've heard of

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<v Speaker 1>that being able to drive, dating, rooting, being mutually in falling,

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<v Speaker 1>mutually in obsessive love, firing someone in a humane way,

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<v Speaker 1>being filthy, rich with their responsibilities. Parenting question mark I

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<v Speaker 1>guess dan being broken up with I must remind you

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<v Speaker 1>I'm reading our answers to a question. I pose that

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<v Speaker 1>is what a life experience you don't have that you need. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>people are saying here they feel like they naive but

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<v Speaker 1>don't know how to fix it. They don't know how

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<v Speaker 1>to choose loved ones and friends appropriately. They don't have

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<v Speaker 1>the knowledge they need to change careers. Listen. I think

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<v Speaker 1>this is where we've gotten a bit confused about information.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think a lot of us are considering that

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<v Speaker 1>part of living life is living life like. We can't

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<v Speaker 1>have the rule book for every decision we need to make.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes you just got to do it. Sometimes life is

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<v Speaker 1>not a game of monopoly where everybody is sat at

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<v Speaker 1>the table at the same time, with the same intention,

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<v Speaker 1>with the same rules, with the same outcome. Sometimes you

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<v Speaker 1>got to play all the parts. You're gonna be your

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<v Speaker 1>own advisor, your own therapist, your own doctor, your own

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<v Speaker 1>confident and then build your book of life experiences because

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think anyone can ever give you the information

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<v Speaker 1>that you'll need. I mean, that's the point of the question, right,

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<v Speaker 1>It was a trap. I said, what life experience do

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<v Speaker 1>you need? The answer is in the question, you need

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<v Speaker 1>the life experience. And also, yeah, babe, I would say

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<v Speaker 1>that even the phrase need, like what life experience do

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<v Speaker 1>you need? I won't say it's a fallacy in itself,

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<v Speaker 1>but like we are the ones to determine what information

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<v Speaker 1>we need and don't need, and we determine the level

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<v Speaker 1>of comfort we need before we make any decisions. But

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<v Speaker 1>that's the whole point. Like, a lot of the things

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<v Speaker 1>that limit us from doing stuff is self imposed. And

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<v Speaker 1>there are obviously things like gender RaSE, glass ceilings, social contracts,

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<v Speaker 1>geographical locations. It means that you can't do what you

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<v Speaker 1>want to do. But for the most part, a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of the things that we need to do. We just

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<v Speaker 1>have to do. That's so boring, I know, what the hell,

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<v Speaker 1>But realistically, it's like it kind of adds up. Everybody

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<v Speaker 1>I know that is so wise. I'm talking like boundless

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<v Speaker 1>when it comes to it's not about age, Like I

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<v Speaker 1>talk to twenty year old who are so wise, and

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<v Speaker 1>fifty year old who are so wise, and nine year

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<v Speaker 1>olds are so wise, and the only thing they all

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<v Speaker 1>have in common, so they're constantly doing they always reference

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<v Speaker 1>their own life when giving advice, or they reference their

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<v Speaker 1>own experiences, their own trials, their own tribulations, and it's like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's it. Like I think we've over resource

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<v Speaker 1>asking everybody else for help. It's like, you gotta do

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<v Speaker 1>a bit of the work yourself. She's saying we should

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<v Speaker 1>have trials. Absolutely, jem should definitely in avoiding what Bobo,

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<v Speaker 1>my friend and ex podcast host said. It's a really

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<v Speaker 1>great quote and I don't know if she made it up,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's sat with me for years. And she says,

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<v Speaker 1>the walls that you build to protect you are the

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<v Speaker 1>same walls that ended up trapping you. So these narratives

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<v Speaker 1>you create around why you can't or won't do something

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<v Speaker 1>feel really good and they protect you, but they also

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<v Speaker 1>trap you in a state of stagnancy because you wait

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<v Speaker 1>to feel comfortable before you do stuff, and then, to

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<v Speaker 1>my surprise, comfort is a luxury. There are people who

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<v Speaker 1>are uncomfortable all day, every day and just do stuff

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<v Speaker 1>because what's worse than being uncomfortable? Regret? Yeah, speak on it. Sis.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna leave you with that. Miss you, Dealey. Be great.

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