Speaker 1: Flex and Frooms. Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex
Speaker 1: and Frooms catch up podcast. Ladies and gentlemen, it's time
Speaker 1: for Flexi's Big Question of the Week. Had Flexi's Big
Speaker 1: Question is back in a big way. It's where I
Speaker 1: pose a question of the week to help you understand
Speaker 1: what you think, why you think it, and who is
Speaker 1: influencing the way that you think. A couple of days go,
Speaker 1: I pose the question what's the life experience that you
Speaker 1: don't have that you need? And the questions and responses
Speaker 1: we got out of this world. If you ever feel
Speaker 1: like you want to answer some of these questions but
Speaker 1: can't get a hold of us, we do put a
Speaker 1: little question box on our Instagram story, so it's up there.
Speaker 1: You put your answers in that, and then we chat
Speaker 1: about it on air. It's all really funny games. And
Speaker 1: also if you want to extend the conversation further, don't
Speaker 1: come to me in frooms, Go to your friends, go
Speaker 1: to your loved ones. That's what this is all about.
Speaker 1: Sharing the information. Let's read it a bunch of answer.
Speaker 1: We're not going to read out any names. Just gets
Speaker 1: too confusing. But we've got some kind of social sport, dating, travel,
Speaker 1: traveling solo, a relationship, a driver's license, living on my own,
Speaker 1: traveling dating women, living abroad, financial security, the ability to
Speaker 1: actually be good at my job, owning a home, having
Speaker 1: a baby, living overseas. This person wants to do a
Speaker 1: twelve day silent retreat in the poll. I've heard of
Speaker 1: that being able to drive, dating, rooting, being mutually in falling,
Speaker 1: mutually in obsessive love, firing someone in a humane way,
Speaker 1: being filthy, rich with their responsibilities. Parenting question mark I
Speaker 1: guess dan being broken up with I must remind you
Speaker 1: I'm reading our answers to a question. I pose that
Speaker 1: is what a life experience you don't have that you need. Okay,
Speaker 1: people are saying here they feel like they naive but
Speaker 1: don't know how to fix it. They don't know how
Speaker 1: to choose loved ones and friends appropriately. They don't have
Speaker 1: the knowledge they need to change careers. Listen. I think
Speaker 1: this is where we've gotten a bit confused about information.
Speaker 1: I don't think a lot of us are considering that
Speaker 1: part of living life is living life like. We can't
Speaker 1: have the rule book for every decision we need to make.
Speaker 1: Sometimes you just got to do it. Sometimes life is
Speaker 1: not a game of monopoly where everybody is sat at
Speaker 1: the table at the same time, with the same intention,
Speaker 1: with the same rules, with the same outcome. Sometimes you
Speaker 1: got to play all the parts. You're gonna be your
Speaker 1: own advisor, your own therapist, your own doctor, your own
Speaker 1: confident and then build your book of life experiences because
Speaker 1: I don't think anyone can ever give you the information
Speaker 1: that you'll need. I mean, that's the point of the question, right,
Speaker 1: It was a trap. I said, what life experience do
Speaker 1: you need? The answer is in the question, you need
Speaker 1: the life experience. And also, yeah, babe, I would say
Speaker 1: that even the phrase need, like what life experience do
Speaker 1: you need? I won't say it's a fallacy in itself,
Speaker 1: but like we are the ones to determine what information
Speaker 1: we need and don't need, and we determine the level
Speaker 1: of comfort we need before we make any decisions. But
Speaker 1: that's the whole point. Like, a lot of the things
Speaker 1: that limit us from doing stuff is self imposed. And
Speaker 1: there are obviously things like gender RaSE, glass ceilings, social contracts,
Speaker 1: geographical locations. It means that you can't do what you
Speaker 1: want to do. But for the most part, a lot
Speaker 1: of the things that we need to do. We just
Speaker 1: have to do. That's so boring, I know, what the hell,
Speaker 1: But realistically, it's like it kind of adds up. Everybody
Speaker 1: I know that is so wise. I'm talking like boundless
Speaker 1: when it comes to it's not about age, Like I
Speaker 1: talk to twenty year old who are so wise, and
Speaker 1: fifty year old who are so wise, and nine year
Speaker 1: olds are so wise, and the only thing they all
Speaker 1: have in common, so they're constantly doing they always reference
Speaker 1: their own life when giving advice, or they reference their
Speaker 1: own experiences, their own trials, their own tribulations, and it's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I think that's it. Like I think we've over resource
Speaker 1: asking everybody else for help. It's like, you gotta do
Speaker 1: a bit of the work yourself. She's saying we should
Speaker 1: have trials. Absolutely, jem should definitely in avoiding what Bobo,
Speaker 1: my friend and ex podcast host said. It's a really
Speaker 1: great quote and I don't know if she made it up,
Speaker 1: but it's sat with me for years. And she says,
Speaker 1: the walls that you build to protect you are the
Speaker 1: same walls that ended up trapping you. So these narratives
Speaker 1: you create around why you can't or won't do something
Speaker 1: feel really good and they protect you, but they also
Speaker 1: trap you in a state of stagnancy because you wait
Speaker 1: to feel comfortable before you do stuff, and then, to
Speaker 1: my surprise, comfort is a luxury. There are people who
Speaker 1: are uncomfortable all day, every day and just do stuff
Speaker 1: because what's worse than being uncomfortable? Regret? Yeah, speak on it. Sis.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna leave you with that. Miss you, Dealey. Be great.
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