WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - Who's Your Donor? 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.800 Life Uncut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose lands 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:06.520 were never seated. We pay our respects to their elders 0:00:06.559 --> 0:00:07.600 past and present. 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:11.399 Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:24.440 recorded on Drug Wallamuta Land. Hi guys, and welcome back 0:00:24.440 --> 0:00:27.720 to another episode of Life Uncut. I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:31.520 and it is Thursday, and on Thursdays we wear green. 0:00:31.800 --> 0:00:34.360 Britt and I, from across the other sides of the 0:00:34.360 --> 0:00:36.440 world have managed to rock up today wearing almost the 0:00:36.479 --> 0:00:37.240 exact same thing. 0:00:37.760 --> 0:00:40.880 And you know what's ridiculous is you and I don't 0:00:40.960 --> 0:00:42.760 wear a lot of color in the day to day, 0:00:42.840 --> 0:00:45.720 Like we're pretty plain. You probably wear slightly more than me. 0:00:45.840 --> 0:00:47.680 I did try and have my year of color last year, 0:00:47.680 --> 0:00:49.800 but I ended up going back to beij But this 0:00:49.920 --> 0:00:52.600 happens so often when we decide to actually wear a color, 0:00:52.640 --> 0:00:54.360 we turn up in the same thing. 0:00:54.560 --> 0:00:57.000 This probably sounds like if it's very uninteresting and wear 0:00:57.000 --> 0:01:01.440 across that we're wearing bright green, the exact same color 0:01:01.520 --> 0:01:03.960 bright green. This also reminds me of that it was 0:01:03.960 --> 0:01:05.920 a a Channel nine reporter. I can't remember her name. 0:01:05.959 --> 0:01:08.560 He was like, you can't wear the white jacket. 0:01:08.680 --> 0:01:09.720 So we're having shirtgate. 0:01:09.840 --> 0:01:11.280 Yeah, it's shirtgate anyway. 0:01:11.319 --> 0:01:13.959 Look, this is our ask uncut episode where we answer 0:01:14.240 --> 0:01:17.880 you're deep, you're dark, and you're burning dirty, sometimes dirty, 0:01:17.920 --> 0:01:22.160 sometimes not questions. But today's episode almost didn't happen because 0:01:22.200 --> 0:01:24.479 I almost died on the way to work today. What 0:01:24.959 --> 0:01:27.319 I know, I like to make that sound dramatic, but 0:01:27.400 --> 0:01:28.840 it actually was kind of dramatic. 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:31.080 So I was running and literally we nearly lost you, 0:01:31.120 --> 0:01:32.399 and Cash nearly had to step in. 0:01:32.720 --> 0:01:34.840 When we talked about this on Tuesday's episode, you could 0:01:34.880 --> 0:01:37.480 have done the recording from my funeral once again. 0:01:37.560 --> 0:01:39.640 Oh my god, good for the downloads. 0:01:40.000 --> 0:01:40.640 What happened? 0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:42.720 So I had to drop the kids off to daycare 0:01:42.760 --> 0:01:45.160 this morning. Usually Matt on a Monday and Wednesday, which 0:01:45.160 --> 0:01:47.520 our recording days, Matt kind of does the heavy lifting. 0:01:47.840 --> 0:01:50.240 But he was out the door first thing this morning 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:52.040 to go to the airports. He was flying to Melbourne. 0:01:52.080 --> 0:01:54.960 So I'm running around. This is why I look the 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:57.080 way I look because of everything they had to do 0:01:57.200 --> 0:01:59.320 this morning. So I get the kids ready, I threw 0:01:59.360 --> 0:02:01.680 them in the car, get them to daycare, and I'm 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:02.440 walking out of daycare. 0:02:02.440 --> 0:02:03.560 I've got a coffee in one hand. 0:02:03.600 --> 0:02:05.440 I've got my phone in one hand, and right in 0:02:05.440 --> 0:02:08.160 front of the daycare is like a pedestrian crossing. I 0:02:08.240 --> 0:02:10.600 wasn't paying any attention. I had my face in my phone, 0:02:10.600 --> 0:02:12.200 which is stupid, but also. 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:13.639 It's so unlike you, Laura. 0:02:13.800 --> 0:02:18.120 In my defense, it's a pedestrian crossing. You just expect 0:02:18.120 --> 0:02:20.880 people are gonna stop. So I'm walking along and then 0:02:20.919 --> 0:02:22.960 I could just oud in my periphery. I was like, 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:26.520 that car feels like it's going dangerously fast for a 0:02:26.560 --> 0:02:29.239 car that should be stopping. And I look up, wait 0:02:29.320 --> 0:02:31.880 for it. The car fangs it through the pedestrian crossing. 0:02:32.120 --> 0:02:35.440 It is an old lady in her nineties driving a 0:02:35.440 --> 0:02:37.040 Mercedes with the windows down. 0:02:37.360 --> 0:02:40.200 She had she probably having a flag out the window. 0:02:40.280 --> 0:02:41.280 She's having a great old time. 0:02:41.360 --> 0:02:44.320 She's got like what's that John Laws on the radio. 0:02:46.320 --> 0:02:48.120 I was like, this is one of two things. 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:51.080 Either she's senile and she didn't actually see me and 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:54.160 she can't drive and probably should lose her license. Or two, 0:02:54.520 --> 0:02:57.040 she's so old she doesn't give a single fuck anymore 0:02:57.080 --> 0:02:58.320 and she's like, I don't have time. 0:02:58.120 --> 0:03:00.919 To stop at pedestrian crossings. Take you down, bitch. It 0:03:00.960 --> 0:03:02.200 was one of the to be. 0:03:02.440 --> 0:03:05.800 She probably hasn't gone for her itest for driving for 0:03:05.840 --> 0:03:06.880 like twenty five years. 0:03:07.000 --> 0:03:09.200 She probably can't see. She probably got tunnel vision. I 0:03:09.320 --> 0:03:09.919 very much agree. 0:03:09.919 --> 0:03:12.160 But anyway, to the point where I'm standing on the 0:03:12.200 --> 0:03:15.000 pedestrian crossing, She's driving through it with her windows down, 0:03:15.240 --> 0:03:16.600 and I'm talking to her. 0:03:16.520 --> 0:03:18.440 Through the window, like what the fuck are you doing? 0:03:18.680 --> 0:03:21.120 And she just looked at me, but it still didn't 0:03:21.160 --> 0:03:22.600 register that she'd done something wrong. 0:03:22.680 --> 0:03:23.840 She's just happy. 0:03:23.880 --> 0:03:26.560 You like, don't get your eyes off the road, keep driving, 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:32.320 I keep looking forward. Well, I'm glad you made it. 0:03:32.520 --> 0:03:34.360 Finally died while I was on holiday. 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:36.080 Too, Stop being a storytop I what happened to you? 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:38.920 Oh, I've nearly got eaten by a shark. 0:03:39.160 --> 0:03:41.200 There we go, So glad you made it. It's one 0:03:41.240 --> 0:03:42.000 of those sharks. 0:03:42.000 --> 0:03:44.120 It has no teeth, like it nearly sucked me to death. 0:03:44.200 --> 0:03:50.640 It wouldn't be a bad way to go. It could 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:51.120 be worse. 0:03:51.480 --> 0:03:53.560 Brittany has a new fetish and it's being sucked off 0:03:53.560 --> 0:03:56.240 by a gummy shark in the mountains too far. 0:03:56.400 --> 0:03:56.560 Yeah. 0:03:56.560 --> 0:03:58.000 When you guys said was it romantic? 0:03:58.040 --> 0:04:03.400 Boy? Was it romantic? Ben was like, Hey, what's gone 0:04:03.440 --> 0:04:03.840 on down there. 0:04:03.880 --> 0:04:06.640 I want a piece of that, all right, Okay. We 0:04:06.800 --> 0:04:10.520 spoke about this on Tuesday's episode. Normally on Thursdays we. 0:04:10.440 --> 0:04:13.600 Get sidetracked, We talk about lots of other things before 0:04:13.640 --> 0:04:16.320 we get to unpacking your questions. And we had been 0:04:16.360 --> 0:04:19.159 receiving some feedback last year that maybe we should focus 0:04:19.240 --> 0:04:21.760 on answering more questions rather than talking about ourselves for 0:04:21.760 --> 0:04:23.400 so long, So we're going to take that on board. 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:26.240 We have extra questions on today's episode, so this is 0:04:26.240 --> 0:04:28.159 going to be like a media ask gun cut. But 0:04:28.320 --> 0:04:31.000 also because we've been on holidays for the past four weeks, 0:04:31.000 --> 0:04:34.240 we have received so many questions and like I'm talking 0:04:34.320 --> 0:04:37.039 hundreds of questions, so to anyone who sent them in, like, 0:04:37.120 --> 0:04:37.800 thank you so much. 0:04:37.839 --> 0:04:39.440 We're doing our best to get through all of them. 0:04:39.640 --> 0:04:41.240 And I feel like today like we've got such a 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:43.840 good mix because they're so different and they're so varied. 0:04:44.240 --> 0:04:46.840 We have some pretty hectic, devisive ones today as well, 0:04:46.880 --> 0:04:47.159 don't we. 0:04:47.320 --> 0:04:50.080 We already had like a little bit of a fight beforehand, 0:04:50.080 --> 0:04:50.560 because we did. 0:04:50.920 --> 0:04:53.880 It was not a fight, but it was just a fight. 0:04:54.080 --> 0:04:59.200 Sometimes Laura and I go very different paths to get somewhere, 0:04:59.240 --> 0:05:01.839 and sometimes just like some wrestling and jiu jitsu along 0:05:01.839 --> 0:05:03.680 the way. But usually we get to like we get 0:05:03.680 --> 0:05:06.080 to the endpoint. But it's how different brains work and 0:05:06.120 --> 0:05:09.159 how different thought processes work. I think it's also healthy 0:05:09.160 --> 0:05:10.680 to have disagreements sometimes. 0:05:10.880 --> 0:05:13.160 Also, I do think that we are both, in our 0:05:13.200 --> 0:05:15.560 own ways quite stubborn, So when we don't agree with 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:18.720 each other, we fight harder to like get our point 0:05:18.720 --> 0:05:20.840 across in order for the other person to understand why 0:05:20.839 --> 0:05:21.839 we feel the way that we feel. 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:25.760 Yeah, I'm like, I'm hearing you and I feel you, Laura, 0:05:25.839 --> 0:05:26.440 but you're wrong. 0:05:27.560 --> 0:05:30.880 That's pretty much how it goes down. No, we're joking. 0:05:31.240 --> 0:05:33.080 But before we get into answering your questions, we are 0:05:33.120 --> 0:05:36.719 still doing our vibes and unsubscribes of the Week produce a. 0:05:36.760 --> 0:05:39.320 Keisha Welcome, Welcome back. 0:05:39.440 --> 0:05:42.000 We do have a little life update from producer Keisha. 0:05:42.160 --> 0:05:44.000 Produce Kisha, would you like to talk to us about 0:05:44.040 --> 0:05:45.480 you take her the next step? 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:48.000 I love that. I said to you, guys, we had 0:05:48.000 --> 0:05:50.360 a planning meeting last week before you know, we came 0:05:50.400 --> 0:05:52.400 back to work for the year, and I was like, guys, 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:55.279 I have one life update, and both of you were like, 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:56.440 what is it, and I was like, well, I'm not 0:05:56.480 --> 0:05:58.240 going to tell you because I want to tell you 0:05:58.279 --> 0:05:59.880 on the podcast, and then both of you are like, 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:00.840 fucking know what it is. 0:06:02.080 --> 0:06:04.200 The jig is up. The gig is up. 0:06:04.320 --> 0:06:07.440 So for the course of the last ten months, it 0:06:07.520 --> 0:06:09.159 has been a bit of a running joke on the 0:06:09.200 --> 0:06:13.880 podcast that my boyfriend Toblerone, who we call toablerone, because unlike. 0:06:13.680 --> 0:06:17.000 Us, he's a very private He's a very private person, 0:06:17.480 --> 0:06:19.880 can't relate. None of us were all over share. 0:06:20.000 --> 0:06:21.560 Is you know what I think is so interesting about this, 0:06:21.720 --> 0:06:25.200 Like Toblarone is very private, but Keisha has no issue 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:27.880 with sharing all of his things on the podcast. She 0:06:28.040 --> 0:06:30.160 just does it with him under the guise of the 0:06:30.240 --> 0:06:31.160 name Toblerone. 0:06:31.480 --> 0:06:34.360 Yeah, but then she tags him on Instagram. It doesn't 0:06:34.360 --> 0:06:38.560 make any sense to me either. She's like, what ever, 0:06:41.520 --> 0:06:42.440 I don't understand. 0:06:42.560 --> 0:06:44.920 I don't understand why there is a difference between social 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:47.760 media and the podcast, but it is what he has requested. 0:06:47.800 --> 0:06:49.880 And I kind of go, well, I don't really get 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:52.279 to make you know, I don't get to make those decisions. 0:06:52.320 --> 0:06:53.680 You've told me what you're okay with, and I've just 0:06:53.720 --> 0:07:00.159 gott to play on so we have finally dropped the album, finally. 0:06:59.760 --> 0:07:00.839 Said I love you. 0:07:01.600 --> 0:07:05.240 Okay, Well, okay, so we did speak about this on 0:07:05.279 --> 0:07:08.040 the podcast because you know, we're all about feminism, and 0:07:08.279 --> 0:07:10.520 but the reason that I had felt it for so 0:07:10.640 --> 0:07:12.400 long and then I didn't say it to him and 0:07:12.440 --> 0:07:13.840 I was waiting for him to say it to me. 0:07:14.440 --> 0:07:16.480 I guess, if I'm being completely honest, like there would 0:07:16.520 --> 0:07:18.800 have been a percentage of ego involved in it, but 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:21.440 it wasn't entirely ego based. It was more so that 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:24.600 I'm a very expressive person. I'm a words of affirmation girlie, 0:07:24.720 --> 0:07:27.680 and I just know that he's not like that. I 0:07:27.760 --> 0:07:31.160 know that he's slower to get to the point at 0:07:31.160 --> 0:07:34.360 which he would be comfortable, and so no part of 0:07:34.400 --> 0:07:36.640 me wanted to make him feel as though I was 0:07:36.640 --> 0:07:39.160 like pressuring him into it or rushing him into it. 0:07:39.200 --> 0:07:41.560 And I also felt like if I were to say it, 0:07:41.840 --> 0:07:44.680 even though I wholeheartedly meant it and he wasn't at 0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:46.360 the point where he was ready to say it yet, 0:07:46.440 --> 0:07:48.480 I feel like it could have changed this dynamic in 0:07:48.520 --> 0:07:51.120 our relationship, and I just I didn't want that to 0:07:51.160 --> 0:07:51.720 be the case. 0:07:51.760 --> 0:07:55.080 So I waited. But when it actually happened. 0:07:55.120 --> 0:07:58.360 Brittany, I have an absolute bone to pick without shared 0:07:58.440 --> 0:08:00.800 child Delilah. 0:08:00.160 --> 0:08:02.680 Because she nearly nearly nearly ruined it. 0:08:03.280 --> 0:08:06.440 So we were spending Christmas apart because he's not from him, 0:08:06.760 --> 0:08:08.840 and so we had this kind of like pre Christmas 0:08:09.280 --> 0:08:11.000 dinner booked and it was meant to be this really 0:08:11.040 --> 0:08:13.560 beautiful thing, and so I had Delilah with me because 0:08:13.560 --> 0:08:15.920 you're over in Scotland. For a couple of days leading 0:08:16.000 --> 0:08:18.080 up to it, it had just been absolutely pouring down 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:19.960 with rain, and if you have an active dog, you 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:23.360 know how detrimental that is to your well being because 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:25.560 you can't take them out for runs and wear them out. 0:08:25.800 --> 0:08:27.640 So this day it was just pouring down with more 0:08:27.640 --> 0:08:29.240 and more rain, and I was like, look, I'm just 0:08:29.240 --> 0:08:31.560 gonna take her to the beach. We're gonna go for 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:34.080 a run. We're gonna get wet. Like I've just accepted, 0:08:34.120 --> 0:08:36.560 we're both gonna be drowned. Rats, I'm gonna come home. 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:39.240 We gonna wash her. It'll be fine. Da Lala and 0:08:39.320 --> 0:08:41.040 I go to the beach. We're running up and down 0:08:41.040 --> 0:08:43.000 the beach. She's having the best time of her life. 0:08:43.240 --> 0:08:45.079 We're about to get back to the car and I'm 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:46.880 about to drive home, and she looked at me and 0:08:46.920 --> 0:08:48.040 she made eye contact. 0:08:49.080 --> 0:08:52.120 Oh, she really gosh, and she was like, I'm gonna 0:08:52.160 --> 0:08:53.880 fuck your life. She's like, what can I do to 0:08:53.880 --> 0:08:54.600 make your life hell? 0:08:54.800 --> 0:08:57.840 She took off. She found a bunch of dead birds. 0:08:58.160 --> 0:09:00.720 She was rolling around in these things, trying to cover 0:09:00.760 --> 0:09:04.600 every orifice of her body in dead bird scent. I 0:09:04.760 --> 0:09:07.439 eventually got to her. So she's now soaking wet. I'm 0:09:07.480 --> 0:09:10.040 soaking wet. She's in dead wet bird and I have 0:09:10.080 --> 0:09:12.120 to get her back into the car. I get back 0:09:12.160 --> 0:09:15.120 to Tablaren's house. I'm washing her head to doe. She's 0:09:15.160 --> 0:09:18.000 hating life. I blow dried her at home, and by 0:09:18.040 --> 0:09:19.600 the time I got back, I was like, you know, 0:09:19.720 --> 0:09:21.600 I just actually can't be bothered. I cannot be bothered 0:09:21.600 --> 0:09:24.440 to do this nice dinner, Like my energy is completely gone. 0:09:24.720 --> 0:09:26.080 So we ended up getting. 0:09:25.760 --> 0:09:28.840 Takeaway and we had this really boring dinner at home. 0:09:29.240 --> 0:09:32.679 I was in the filthiest mood you could ever imagine, 0:09:33.120 --> 0:09:37.599 and he turns to me and he's like, I love you, sweetheart. 0:09:37.679 --> 0:09:40.880 It just came out of absolutely nowhere in my mind, 0:09:40.960 --> 0:09:43.320 Like I was just something that I hadn't expected. 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:45.960 What was that? Was it? 0:09:45.960 --> 0:09:48.040 It was like, because he had been planning on doing 0:09:48.080 --> 0:09:50.280 this really nice Christmas dinner, you know. He said that 0:09:50.320 --> 0:09:52.240 he'd been thinking about it for quite a while and 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:55.680 that he wanted it to be this really nice special moment, but. 0:09:55.640 --> 0:09:59.640 It wasn't act the way you said it. I guess 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:02.880 it's time. Ah, I love you, sweetie. 0:10:02.920 --> 0:10:05.200 I think it was because of how bad my mood was, 0:10:05.360 --> 0:10:07.400 Like I was just so pissed off at the. 0:10:07.400 --> 0:10:11.040 Well, it was it a proper love declaration or it's 0:10:11.040 --> 0:10:13.200 almost sounding a bit like it was looking at you 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:15.200 like a bit sympathetic, like you're in the bad moting 0:10:15.440 --> 0:10:16.800 I love you, okay, you know, like you know. 0:10:16.840 --> 0:10:19.200 How's a different tone? Has he said it more than 0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:23.520 once since? Yes? Yes, blood, so bloodgates are open. 0:10:23.640 --> 0:10:23.840 Yeah. 0:10:23.880 --> 0:10:25.800 I turned him and I was like, I've been waiting 0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:27.760 a long time to say that to you, and he's like, look, 0:10:27.800 --> 0:10:29.160 I have as well. But I wanted it to be 0:10:29.200 --> 0:10:31.640 a nice moment, and I just kind of resorted to 0:10:31.640 --> 0:10:33.920 the fact that that wasn't going to happen tonight as 0:10:33.960 --> 0:10:37.760 I had initially planned. But yes, to summarize, we have 0:10:37.880 --> 0:10:41.200 now said I love you. We've also now moved in together. 0:10:41.559 --> 0:10:43.440 Things happen in a weird order in our. 0:10:43.360 --> 0:10:47.160 Relations an hour, doesn't it crawling. 0:10:46.800 --> 0:10:49.760 To the line, or it's the fastest thing you've ever experienced. 0:10:49.800 --> 0:10:52.000 So that is my life update. And thank you to 0:10:52.040 --> 0:10:54.319 all of the very beautiful people who have messaged me 0:10:54.360 --> 0:10:56.200 throughout the course of the last ten months telling me 0:10:56.240 --> 0:10:58.040 how long it took for your partner to tell you 0:10:58.080 --> 0:11:00.760 that they love you, because I felt that I really 0:11:00.800 --> 0:11:03.079 felt supported by all of your messages. 0:11:02.800 --> 0:11:03.640 In a de validation. 0:11:04.800 --> 0:11:07.480 Well, guys, let's get into vibes and unsubscribes the week, 0:11:07.640 --> 0:11:10.640 because I have an unsubscribed this week, which is controversial, 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:11.880 but I have strong feelings about it. 0:11:12.160 --> 0:11:13.360 Keisha, what is your vibe? 0:11:13.440 --> 0:11:15.520 Well, my vibe for this week comes off of the 0:11:15.559 --> 0:11:17.839 back of you, guys speaking with Mark Manson. So I've 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:20.240 started listening to his podcast and there's someone who joins 0:11:20.280 --> 0:11:22.719 him on his podcast a lot, and that guy's. 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:23.560 Name is Drew Bernie. 0:11:23.960 --> 0:11:26.440 Now, Drew used to be a behavioral neuroscientist and he 0:11:26.480 --> 0:11:29.200 now calls himself a content nerd for Mark Manson. So 0:11:29.240 --> 0:11:32.160 he's worked for Mark since twenty fourteen. They have a 0:11:32.200 --> 0:11:36.240 really close relationship and so much of what he was 0:11:36.240 --> 0:11:38.000 saying on the podcast, I was like, Wow, this guy 0:11:38.040 --> 0:11:40.520 has like an amazing amount of insight. I find everything 0:11:40.559 --> 0:11:44.160 he says really interesting and quite nuanced, Like he often 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:46.760 has a different perspective to what I naturally would have thought, 0:11:46.840 --> 0:11:48.480 similar to Mark though, you know, like he tells it 0:11:48.520 --> 0:11:50.079 how it is, but it's not always what you think 0:11:50.120 --> 0:11:53.080 you're gonna hear. Drew actually has a newsletter of his 0:11:53.160 --> 0:11:55.920 own and it is called Traction, and the latest one 0:11:55.920 --> 0:11:58.400 that he dropped was titled do it your damn self, 0:11:59.160 --> 0:12:00.559 And there was this part of it and he said, 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:03.120 going through the struggle is where the rewards lie, not 0:12:03.200 --> 0:12:05.360 just the money and the recognition, but the feeling you 0:12:05.400 --> 0:12:07.960 get when you see something come together that you did 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:12.080 your damn self. So it's about that satisfaction you get 0:12:12.120 --> 0:12:14.719 out of something when you really feel like you've earned it, 0:12:14.760 --> 0:12:16.600 and how you can sit in that joy of it 0:12:16.640 --> 0:12:18.319 for so much longer when. 0:12:18.360 --> 0:12:21.319 You truly feel like not so much that. 0:12:21.280 --> 0:12:23.360 You've earned it, I guess, but that you've done so 0:12:23.520 --> 0:12:25.600 much in order to put yourself in that position. 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:28.160 Well, I guess it's this idea right of when you 0:12:28.480 --> 0:12:31.600 have done it your damn self. It broadens your perception 0:12:31.640 --> 0:12:33.880 around what you're able to achieve. You're like, oh, okay, 0:12:33.920 --> 0:12:35.600 I didn't think I could do that thing. Whether it 0:12:35.640 --> 0:12:37.720 mean I mean for some people, it could be something stupid, 0:12:37.760 --> 0:12:40.839 like installing a mirror. That's my next DIY project is 0:12:40.840 --> 0:12:42.280 I'm going to install this mirror in my house. 0:12:42.600 --> 0:12:43.880 I know that's where my brain went to. 0:12:44.000 --> 0:12:46.360 But like you know me, four years ago, if you'd said, Laura, 0:12:46.440 --> 0:12:47.959 you need to drill a hole and do X y Z, 0:12:48.080 --> 0:12:50.400 I would have been like, Ah, that's outside of my remit. 0:12:50.800 --> 0:12:53.559 But I think anytime you expose yourself to doing something 0:12:54.040 --> 0:12:56.680 that you've never done before that was a little bit challenging, 0:12:56.720 --> 0:12:58.720 you learn a new skill. You can then sit in 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:01.440 the reward of being like, ah, okay, I'm really confident 0:13:01.440 --> 0:13:03.800 in the fact that I can do things I didn't 0:13:03.800 --> 0:13:05.640 know how to do, and I can do things I 0:13:05.640 --> 0:13:06.240 thought were hard. 0:13:06.480 --> 0:13:10.079 Yeah. Absolutely. So that's what this particular newsletter was about. 0:13:10.080 --> 0:13:12.360 I know that we all love Mark Manson's newsletter, and 0:13:12.400 --> 0:13:14.640 so Drew has one of his own. I'll link it 0:13:14.679 --> 0:13:16.600 in the show notes for you. It is called Traction, 0:13:16.800 --> 0:13:18.760 and I really think that you guys will enjoy it. 0:13:19.000 --> 0:13:21.760 Okay, Well, my vibe is you guys know, I'm a 0:13:21.800 --> 0:13:25.320 true crime junkie. I'm sick for it. So there's a 0:13:25.360 --> 0:13:29.199 Netflix documentary. It's a docuseries three parts that's going bonkers 0:13:29.240 --> 0:13:32.480 at the moment. It's called American Nightmare. So it's a 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:35.960 true story about a couple named Denise and Aaron. I 0:13:35.960 --> 0:13:39.559 won't go too much into it, but they're dubbed the 0:13:39.600 --> 0:13:42.840 real life Gone Girl. So you remember the movie Gone 0:13:42.840 --> 0:13:45.839 Girl that went viral. Basically, she is kidnapped from her 0:13:45.880 --> 0:13:49.880 home one night and completely gone missing in the most 0:13:50.160 --> 0:13:54.240 unusual of ways. Like the kidnapping is something that feels 0:13:54.240 --> 0:13:57.080 like it should be a made up story. All eyes 0:13:57.080 --> 0:13:59.760 go on to the boyfriend, Aaron. He swears to God 0:13:59.760 --> 0:14:01.440 that he had nothing to do with it, and then 0:14:01.640 --> 0:14:06.400 it goes into depth about the police investigation and where 0:14:06.440 --> 0:14:08.360 things went wrong and what really happened. And I don't 0:14:08.360 --> 0:14:09.880 want to tell you too much because I don't want 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:11.520 to spoil it because I hate a spoiler. But I 0:14:11.600 --> 0:14:14.360 was hooked the entire three episodes and at the end, 0:14:14.559 --> 0:14:19.440 I was just left furious, Like I was absolutely furious 0:14:19.800 --> 0:14:21.560 at the police department in America. 0:14:21.840 --> 0:14:23.400 I've seen the first episode of this and I know 0:14:23.720 --> 0:14:26.120 producer Keisha's also watched quite a bit of it. It 0:14:26.360 --> 0:14:29.440 is brilliant and I think the thing that is like 0:14:29.640 --> 0:14:32.320 what you touched on, Bret, but it's the malpractice of 0:14:32.320 --> 0:14:35.080 the police, and it's this idea that people are coming 0:14:35.080 --> 0:14:37.920 forward with their story and that they're not being believed 0:14:37.920 --> 0:14:40.240 by the police because they have an agenda around it. 0:14:40.440 --> 0:14:43.400 And the docuseries is actually them telling their story, so 0:14:43.520 --> 0:14:46.080 it's not like it's from a narration from someone else 0:14:46.120 --> 0:14:46.880 telling a story. 0:14:47.000 --> 0:14:47.520 It's them. 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:50.920 It is her sitting in what happened and reliving it. 0:14:51.080 --> 0:14:54.240 They have footage from the investigations and from the interviews 0:14:54.240 --> 0:14:58.520 and the interrogations, and it's truly one of the better 0:14:58.640 --> 0:15:00.640 true crime docuseries I've watched very long time. 0:15:00.760 --> 0:15:02.280 Do you know what I really love about it, and 0:15:02.320 --> 0:15:04.360 this is a little bit more from like a societal lens, 0:15:04.480 --> 0:15:06.120 is that I think we are seeing so much more 0:15:06.160 --> 0:15:11.320 content now that is this pushback to the whole believe victims. 0:15:11.600 --> 0:15:13.800 You know, I know it's something that we really have 0:15:14.120 --> 0:15:17.400 humongous issues with here in Australia and this is an 0:15:17.400 --> 0:15:21.760 American version of it, But for so long victims have 0:15:21.880 --> 0:15:24.280 not been believed and I think it's also a very 0:15:24.320 --> 0:15:28.640 interesting insight into the policing of police. We haven't had 0:15:28.760 --> 0:15:31.080 access to that for very long, you know. I think 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:34.280 it's really this introduction of social media and entertainment companies 0:15:34.400 --> 0:15:37.440 like Netflix that have taken the power back. If it 0:15:37.480 --> 0:15:41.880 weren't forth social media or Netflix shining a light on 0:15:42.000 --> 0:15:44.640 situations like this, I wonder how long we would have 0:15:44.680 --> 0:15:47.720 gone on with these corrupt systems and also victims spending 0:15:47.760 --> 0:15:50.640 so long not being believed and not being you know, 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:53.040 the air investigations not being taken seriously. 0:15:53.200 --> 0:15:56.120 So yeah, it's the visibility, right because back in the day, 0:15:56.200 --> 0:15:58.160 the only way that you would ever get your story out, 0:15:58.240 --> 0:16:00.680 Like I remember, like if something happen and someone was 0:16:00.720 --> 0:16:03.360 angry about something, it was like you write into the paper, 0:16:03.480 --> 0:16:06.240 or you write into the morning show or something to 0:16:06.280 --> 0:16:07.000 try and get. 0:16:06.840 --> 0:16:07.720 Your story out. 0:16:07.760 --> 0:16:07.840 That. 0:16:08.080 --> 0:16:10.160 The only other thing which I think is important to 0:16:10.200 --> 0:16:12.360 note is that it kind of ties into this idea 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:15.000 that when you're not a perfect victim, which we know 0:16:15.640 --> 0:16:19.040 that in cases of domestic violence, in cases of sexual assault, 0:16:19.480 --> 0:16:22.080 it is very rare that there is a perfect victim. 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:24.800 What this kind of unpacks is that when you are 0:16:24.920 --> 0:16:27.480 an imperfect victim. When you've done things that maybe the 0:16:27.560 --> 0:16:30.640 police see as being not exactly how you should or 0:16:30.680 --> 0:16:33.800 shouldn't have behaved, the likelihood of being believed is even lower. 0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:35.840 It's truly wild, and it's one of those things that 0:16:35.880 --> 0:16:37.120 you have to see to believe. 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:39.280 We'll link that in show notes. And that is on Netflix, 0:16:39.520 --> 0:16:40.280 the one that I went. 0:16:40.280 --> 0:16:42.240 And I'm going to keep this short and snappy because 0:16:42.520 --> 0:16:45.000 I feel like some people are going to agree and 0:16:45.040 --> 0:16:47.200 some people are going to deeply, deeply disagree. 0:16:47.240 --> 0:16:49.640 My unsubscribed for the week is Saltburn. 0:16:49.960 --> 0:16:52.800 I have watched it and I don't really care for it, 0:16:52.840 --> 0:16:55.720 and I think the grave scene and the bath scene 0:16:56.000 --> 0:16:58.600 just too weird for me. But second to that, I 0:16:58.680 --> 0:17:02.320