Speaker 1: Life Uncut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose lands
Speaker 1: were never seated. We pay our respects to their elders
Speaker 1: past and present.
Speaker 2: Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was
Speaker 2: recorded on Cameragle Land.
Speaker 1: Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life
Speaker 1: fun Cut. I'm Brittany and I'm Laura, and it is
Speaker 1: therapy Thursday. Ask guncut and you're writing you deep as
Speaker 1: dark as burning questions. We do our best answer them.
Speaker 1: Before that, Laura, you.
Speaker 3: Are being taken down on social media. I'm not being
Speaker 3: taken down. Yes bye. If you guys have followed.
Speaker 2: Me on social media, I mean, if you haven't, it's
Speaker 2: at lad in Cat, please go and follow me with
Speaker 2: a few extra bones.
Speaker 1: Brittany underscore Hockley, You've got way more than me.
Speaker 3: Do you think that's the man? You motherfuckers?
Speaker 1: Pha, you've grown astronomically.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: But I don't post very often.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I just get in moods.
Speaker 4: Where I'm like, I don't want to be a slave
Speaker 4: to this algorithm.
Speaker 3: The last thing I posted was.
Speaker 4: My rag on video.
Speaker 2: I'll be honest, though, Keisha is like wrapping Tony Mayhead's
Speaker 2: toe and every so often she'll post her rings, or
Speaker 2: she'll post some piece of jewelry that she has.
Speaker 3: The engagement. This girl has brands.
Speaker 2: If you were out there, I've got the micro influencer
Speaker 2: of the year for you right here, Keisha Pettitt.
Speaker 4: He she is. I just I don't know if this
Speaker 4: is imposter syndrome, but I just don't I don't know
Speaker 4: why anyone would want that. Does that make sense?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I guess it's a little bit of a weird conundrum
Speaker 4: because I see you guys, and you guys are obviously
Speaker 4: very good at what you do, and I just kind
Speaker 4: of feel like the little do you know what I
Speaker 4: feel like? Do you remember that time that we got
Speaker 4: off the plane. We'd been on an awesome trip to
Speaker 4: the Great Barrier Reef. This was a life on Cut trip.
Speaker 4: It was a life on cut little holiday. And we
Speaker 4: got off the plane and we were walking back through
Speaker 4: the airport and there was a paparazzi there and he
Speaker 4: was there to photograph one of the bachelors.
Speaker 3: There was like a new season of The Bachelor. I
Speaker 3: do remember that. So we got off the plane and
Speaker 3: the paparazzi was there, not for us. Not for us,
Speaker 3: but they were like two for one.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was a toofa. We were walking in a line.
Speaker 4: The three of us were in a horizontal line. It
Speaker 4: went Laura, myself, brit And in the article it says
Speaker 4: and their producer.
Speaker 3: Keisha was trailing behind.
Speaker 4: I was like, I am not trailing, I'm just shorter.
Speaker 4: I just look as I'm further away.
Speaker 1: That's also okay, Like you can still trail and do
Speaker 1: brand collapse.
Speaker 3: You can trail on hock rings.
Speaker 1: All right, maybe you'll start.
Speaker 3: I'll start with Tony May. I'll start paying you everyone.
Speaker 3: Tony May a new collection.
Speaker 1: So I'm starting a brand, just like an advertise on
Speaker 1: these podcasts because I feel like I'm missing out.
Speaker 3: How did we get here? We got we got here?
Speaker 3: I don't know why.
Speaker 2: But where we're heading towards is so Matt and I
Speaker 2: have had some we've had some fiery discussions recently, one
Speaker 2: might call them arguments, because we're currently renovating a house
Speaker 2: so down the coast, so a La Dulla, which is
Speaker 2: where we got married. It's where we spend all of
Speaker 2: our family holidays anyway.
Speaker 1: So also where you're going to get divorced, probably where
Speaker 1: our relationship will end.
Speaker 2: We're currently renovating this place, and I know a lot
Speaker 2: of people talk about how if you get an Ikea
Speaker 2: flat pack, how that really tests your relationship, Like if
Speaker 2: you can make it through Ikea and you can come
Speaker 2: out as a strong United couple, then you're meant to
Speaker 2: be together. But I've realized that actually that's just that's
Speaker 2: a kid's play, that's entry level shit. If you want
Speaker 2: to really put your relationship to the test, try and
Speaker 2: renovate something together it is wild.
Speaker 1: Or try long distance relationship. We only see each other
Speaker 1: every three months. But yes, also where you've read what
Speaker 1: are the themes of.
Speaker 2: The arguments the things of the arguments is more so
Speaker 2: that we just creatively have different we have different visions.
Speaker 2: It's been an interesting voyage on social media so far,
Speaker 2: because we don't want a house that is white or
Speaker 2: like your very typical white, beautiful beige think three birds,
Speaker 2: it is gorgeous.
Speaker 3: I have nothing against those homes.
Speaker 1: I would get off on that would if I could
Speaker 1: walk into a house and need to wear sunglasses because
Speaker 1: the natural light beams so hard off the white walls
Speaker 1: and I'm blind.
Speaker 3: Goals, you're like the beige.
Speaker 1: Regress I want to be like, oh my god, the
Speaker 1: light the white walls are so bright.
Speaker 3: That's what I want, your own reflector.
Speaker 4: It is like my flighting is so good, I don't
Speaker 4: need a ring lfe mate.
Speaker 3: That's exactly it. That's my mood board.
Speaker 1: It's just I have a white board that's got nothing
Speaker 1: on it, and I'm like, that's my mood people, Just.
Speaker 2: What's the issue is that it's everyone's mood board. So
Speaker 2: I think, like most people, we've been conditioned to think
Speaker 2: that like white on white and linen and an olive tree,
Speaker 2: like that is like the aesthetic that everyone has pinned.
Speaker 1: I have an olive tree in my house and I'm
Speaker 1: wearing basically all the same beige color.
Speaker 3: I feel very attacked. However, our aesthetic for this house
Speaker 3: is very colorful. It's like maximnimalist. Is that the right
Speaker 3: word for it?
Speaker 4: When you say ow is it actually our?
Speaker 3: Is it yours?
Speaker 2: Pinterest board is very colorful, it's very vibrant. It's lots
Speaker 2: of clashing prints. There's a lot going on.
Speaker 3: Now. I'm at about.
Speaker 2: Seventy percent of that matter is at one hundred and
Speaker 2: twenty percent. Matt wants every wall to be painted a
Speaker 2: different color. He wants a bright blue laundry.
Speaker 3: He wants like a Wiggles house.
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe that's what it is. Maybe he wants to
Speaker 2: he wants to create kid content. He wants to be
Speaker 2: the new fucking Blippy.
Speaker 3: He does. He's creating his own on set. That's what
Speaker 3: this is. I think he is.
Speaker 1: I think we've just made an in real time Discovery.
Speaker 1: He has been on play School and he doesn't have
Speaker 1: a kid's book and a kid's podcast.
Speaker 2: He has also mentioned a couple of times that if
Speaker 2: he was going to make a career pivot, he would
Speaker 2: create a kid's YouTube channel.
Speaker 1: They how have you not seen that until now? He's
Speaker 1: be creating a set.
Speaker 4: Those kids make bank. My brother has one on They
Speaker 4: make over thirty million dollars a year just from YouTube
Speaker 4: and they like unpack new toys and stuff.
Speaker 2: No, he doesn't want to hawk our family and make
Speaker 2: child influences out of them.
Speaker 1: Well he should.
Speaker 3: He wants to be like a Blippy.
Speaker 2: Parents will understand this, and parents will be like, fucking Blippy.
Speaker 2: Blippy is a guy in the US who doesn't have
Speaker 2: children himself. He has made no, he's made like eighty
Speaker 2: three million dollars from this blippy character. Anyway, we have
Speaker 2: gotten really off track. But the back on track version
Speaker 2: of this is that we are trying to renovate and
Speaker 2: we don't agree, and it has been a very interesting
Speaker 2: little pressure cooker on our relationship.
Speaker 1: I have an idea, why don't you give him like
Speaker 1: a part of the house, like a corner of the house.
Speaker 1: And you're like, do what you want you can. This
Speaker 1: can be your set, this can be whatever, make it
Speaker 1: whatever colors you want. Then lock that away. And when
Speaker 1: I say a corner of the house, I mean like
Speaker 1: a two by two, Like he's got a very small area.
Speaker 4: But you can't just do that in a house because
Speaker 4: you need it to flow, you need it to like
Speaker 4: work in together.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but if you're gonna go rogue in a room,
Speaker 1: it's a laundry, right because it's not like guess like, hey,
Speaker 1: you're just going to pop into the laundry.
Speaker 3: Is like I don't use it anyway, Well I'm just laughing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no one, You know, when you say something, I think,
Speaker 1: as I was coming out of Kish's mouth, she knew
Speaker 1: she shouldn't say, but she'd commit it.
Speaker 4: Why does Matt not get ownership of the kitchen it's
Speaker 4: the only one who uses.
Speaker 1: That's that's true.
Speaker 2: It's true, guys, it's true. I don't cook Matt Cook's
Speaker 2: and he does a lot of the clean He's the
Speaker 2: one who's going to enjoy that.
Speaker 3: Space, so he might as well. Paine of Blue, Sorry,
Speaker 3: I'm taking the.
Speaker 1: Like.
Speaker 4: I am aware of some of the comments that people
Speaker 4: have made to you regarding your renovations online, and they're cruel.
Speaker 2: This was one comment that I received. It stuck with me,
Speaker 2: and it hurt me. It doesn't mean that you know
Speaker 2: shit about interior design. And as someone who builds home
Speaker 2: for a living, I would absolutely not trust my arty
Speaker 2: friend who sometimes makes jewelry.
Speaker 3: Love your enthusiasm.
Speaker 1: Though, who sometimes makes Stewey. It's so cute, it's so bold,
Speaker 1: it's so unnecessary.
Speaker 3: Don't mean shit. They don't, though, I mean, to be fair,
Speaker 3: they don't. Like no one else has to live in
Speaker 3: the house. I just don't.
Speaker 4: Understand why people get so like sometimes. I think we
Speaker 4: need the reminder that inside thoughts don't need to be
Speaker 4: outside tight. They just don't need to be sent to
Speaker 4: the person. It's strange to me that someone feels that
Speaker 4: passionately about a space that they're arguably never gonna walk
Speaker 4: into that. They could set a message like that, like
Speaker 4: it's actually a bit odd.
Speaker 2: No, but also I do respect it. I was like, okay,
Speaker 2: well a little bit because I was like, how there.
Speaker 3: I have the.
Speaker 5: Audacity that I think I can do interior design, but
Speaker 5: I've never done it.
Speaker 3: I'm of imposter.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, what's time for vibes and unsubscribes.
Speaker 3: Key, she can kick us off. What do you buy?
Speaker 1: Mean?
Speaker 4: So my vibe this week is so Britney coded that
Speaker 4: I can't believe I beat you to it with this one.
Speaker 3: I bet you.
Speaker 1: I've listened to it, watched it, done it.
Speaker 4: Then it's on Disney Plus. It is a it's a
Speaker 4: docu series. It's three episodes and it's titled Perfect Wife.
Speaker 4: The Mysterious Disappearance of Sherry Peppinie.
Speaker 3: It's so good.
Speaker 4: Yes, So this one explores the kidnapping. I'm not going
Speaker 4: to give away any spoilers, but the kidnapping of Sherry
Speaker 4: Pepinie and this is the little byeline. One day in
Speaker 4: late twenty sixteen, Sherry disappeared, kicking off a nationwide search.
Speaker 4: About three weeks later, on Thanksgiving, Sherry turned back up.
Speaker 4: She claimed that she'd been abducted, branded and tortured by
Speaker 4: two Hispanic women before being released on the side of
Speaker 4: the road. This dockuseries, like I said, three episodes. It's
Speaker 4: quite a similar nature to American Nightmare. We got to
Speaker 4: interview Denise Huskins from American Nightmare.
Speaker 3: Shortly after that.
Speaker 4: Dockuseries went on Netflix. Very different outcome, but very very
Speaker 4: interesting exploration into the psychology of the way that people
Speaker 4: think and the reasons that they do the things that
Speaker 4: they do.
Speaker 1: I also really like the fact that the whole way,
Speaker 1: you think you know what is happening and what's happened
Speaker 1: in the outcome, and then you switch and then you're like, oh,
Speaker 1: this definitely happened. Then you're like, oh my god, no
Speaker 1: it didn't. This happened, and it keeps you on your
Speaker 1: toes the whole way. Like sometimes when you watch those
Speaker 1: sort of things, you know from the very beginning. But
Speaker 1: this I felt like took a lot of twists and turns. Well.
Speaker 4: I was a little silly because I don't like to
Speaker 4: waste my time watching something new if I don't think
Speaker 4: I'm going to be into it. And I'm not a
Speaker 4: big true crime person. So I actually googled the story
Speaker 4: because it's a real story, and because it was in
Speaker 4: twenty sixteen, they have so much footage that was actually
Speaker 4: recorded as a part of the investigation, and they've been
Speaker 4: allowed to use every single part of that. It was
Speaker 4: really good to have that insight of this actually happened.
Speaker 4: They didn't have to reenact anything because they had footage
Speaker 4: of the whole thing.
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, it's great, it's great, dog go Yeah. So
Speaker 1: I had actually googled.
Speaker 4: What happened beforehand, so I did go in knowing regardless.
Speaker 3: It was very, very interesting.
Speaker 4: So Disney plus it is called Perfect Wife, the Mysterious
Speaker 4: Disappearance of Sherry Peppini, and three episodes. I think collectively
Speaker 4: it would be about two and a half hours of
Speaker 4: content loss.
Speaker 2: Well, now that we're speaking about renovation content and that's
Speaker 2: what inspires my entire life, I am recommending something that's
Speaker 2: design based because I'm a designer.
Speaker 3: Everyone.
Speaker 2: This is something that I have found very very useful
Speaker 2: in the last couple of years, especially if you're somebody
Speaker 2: who works within digital design. So if you're creating, and
Speaker 2: I think everybody these days is kind of a bit
Speaker 2: of a digital designer in terms of like doing things
Speaker 2: on canber or there's this expectation that you're able to
Speaker 2: Why you laughing.
Speaker 3: Because I'm so bad.
Speaker 4: I just use the templates that you set up for.
Speaker 1: I'm bad at Canva two.
Speaker 2: I make the templates and then every so often I
Speaker 2: have to jump in and be like Kisha, you've changed
Speaker 2: it too much.
Speaker 3: All over the rules. It's a true crime.
Speaker 4: Again.
Speaker 3: It's like dun, dun, Why is everything black and red?
Speaker 2: This is something if you're a designer, you would already
Speaker 2: be familiar with this platform, but something that is specific
Speaker 2: on it that I find very useful. It's called Figma
Speaker 2: dot com, but it is their color wheel. It's very
Speaker 2: accurate and it's very good. So if you are creating
Speaker 2: a logo or you're creating a story set or something
Speaker 2: and you're hell bent on using one color, the purpose
Speaker 2: of this is to tell you the complementary colors that
Speaker 2: will match the color that you're using in a way.
Speaker 2: So for us, I've been using it with the house,
Speaker 2: so we know that we have a blue laundry, for example,
Speaker 2: I'll type in the specific color of blue that we
Speaker 2: want to be using, and it will give me the
Speaker 2: complementary colors to make sure that everything else with them
Speaker 2: that space is matching.
Speaker 1: Does it just come up and say don't do it?
Speaker 3: Someone say that's fucked. Go beige and you can. I'd
Speaker 3: of roll through.
Speaker 2: So for example, you know, you might pick a purple
Speaker 2: and then it might give you a complimentary green. If
Speaker 2: you're not happy with that complimentary green, you can go
Speaker 2: through and choose other the closest to complimentary colors. It's
Speaker 2: really really useful if you're someone who enjoys doing little
Speaker 2: bits of design yourself, but maybe need a little bit
Speaker 2: more support or helping hands. So that's Figma dot com.
Speaker 2: I'm specifically recommending the color wheel, which is an extension
Speaker 2: on this website, but there is if you're a designer.
Speaker 3: This is a very very useful website to use. Great
Speaker 3: do you reckon?
Speaker 1: I could put my hair color in orange and then
Speaker 1: see what I could wear with it, like.
Speaker 3: Well, patches, yeah, blues? Oh okay, I like blue? You
Speaker 3: look better in blue. Great, you'll suit my laundry perfectly.
Speaker 1: Over okay, Well I will go something completely superficial. Then.
Speaker 1: Because you guys did great more in depth intelligent recommendations
Speaker 1: this week.
Speaker 3: This is what I have been using. It's like I
Speaker 3: use soap. It's great.
Speaker 1: No, it's just a little product that I use in
Speaker 1: winter when I love a turtleneck.
Speaker 3: You blank it.
Speaker 1: Sorry, I'll stop, okay, bitch, when in winter I've been
Speaker 1: wearing it, or sometimes when you want to pick me up.
Speaker 1: So I now do not ever go into the sun.
Speaker 1: I never go into the sun. If I ever have
Speaker 1: a tan, it's fake. But in winter when you completely covered.
Speaker 1: It's from Tanologist is the brand, and it's a self
Speaker 1: tan drop that you mix into your face moisturizer and
Speaker 1: you just put it on your face and neck, so
Speaker 1: you guys wouldn't even know. You probably thought I had
Speaker 1: a tan in the last couple of weeks when I
Speaker 1: was wearing my turtleneck.
Speaker 3: I didn't.
Speaker 1: I had a very white body and I had a
Speaker 1: face tan because it's the only part you can see.
Speaker 1: So it's for those really lazy times where you don't
Speaker 1: want a tan, like put a whole fake tan on.
Speaker 1: You just mix it into your moisturizer at night the
Speaker 1: day before go to bed, and it's just a beautiful,
Speaker 1: gradual tan on your face.
Speaker 2: I've used face drops before from a different brand, and
Speaker 2: I found that they made me break out, so I
Speaker 2: stopped using them. I loved like the I love the
Speaker 2: instant effect. Any more than two days in a row
Speaker 2: looked very orange, but the one day glow was great. Well,
Speaker 2: the breakout was not great.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so well, it's called tanologists. You can get it
Speaker 1: from loads of different places online, Revolve a zoss, but
Speaker 1: you can also get it from price line. So that
Speaker 1: is my reco. Use it every couple of days. Definitely,
Speaker 1: don't do it. Laura didn't like, do it every single day.
Speaker 3: Don't back it up.
Speaker 1: My only advice is I put it on my face
Speaker 1: the first day and I was like, it probably doesn't
Speaker 1: work that much, and I forgot to wash my hands.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, no, I was about to say, I've got
Speaker 4: a further reco based off of this.
Speaker 1: My hands I look like a mime that would like
Speaker 1: that was bright orange hands just like all around. I
Speaker 1: could have done like finger painting. So that's my reco
Speaker 1: for off the back of that, make sure you wash
Speaker 1: your hands. Mine.
Speaker 4: On top of that, I specifically use the Barley Body
Speaker 4: one and they have a brush and it's meant to
Speaker 4: be to brush your tan into your body, but I
Speaker 4: actually use it on my face to avoid it getting
Speaker 4: on my hands. And also because then you can get
Speaker 4: into the little like right up to your hairline, because
Speaker 4: if you don't get it right up to the line,
Speaker 4: you get this like halo ring of ten and then
Speaker 4: you've got this little white line before your hair reaches
Speaker 4: your face.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So yeah, I have a further recommendation. It is use
Speaker 4: a brush to put the tan, even if you're doing
Speaker 4: it with your moisturizer.
Speaker 3: All right, well, let's get into the questions.
Speaker 1: One of my closest friends is getting married in Canada.
Speaker 1: I am one of her bridesmaids and I am so
Speaker 1: stoked for it. Obviously, to go to the wedding, my
Speaker 1: partner and I have booked flights over there which are
Speaker 1: not cheap, and also booked a hotel which was chosen
Speaker 1: for by the wedding party, also not so cheap. I
Speaker 1: don't mind about these costs because it's my close friend
Speaker 1: and it's a holiday to Canada. It's like a two
Speaker 1: in one. My partner and I have debated whether we
Speaker 1: should get them a wedding gift or not. I don't
Speaker 1: mind getting one. I do like giving gifts, but my
Speaker 1: partner thinks we've already spent a lot of money going
Speaker 1: to the wedding. So I'm curious to know what you
Speaker 1: guys think. Do you have to get a wedding gift
Speaker 1: for someone if you've already invested around four thousand dollars
Speaker 1: to get to the destination wedding.
Speaker 2: I may be on my own with this answer, but
Speaker 2: I don't think you need to get a present if
Speaker 2: you're spending heaps of money to go to a destination wedding.
Speaker 3: No, I don't.
Speaker 1: I think you're on your own.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm not good because I'm either having said.
Speaker 3: That, he's like, buy me a present.
Speaker 1: I am having a destination wedding and I would love
Speaker 1: you to give me a present. No, I mean as
Speaker 1: someone that is having a destination wedding, I don't want
Speaker 1: gifts from anyone for me. So cringe. I'm gonna say this.
Speaker 1: The gift is your presence. All the people that I
Speaker 1: love are making the effort to travel to Bali. Then like,
Speaker 1: that is it for me? You do not need to
Speaker 1: give me a gift if you are loaded and you
Speaker 1: want to. That was a joke, but we said this
Speaker 1: the other week.
Speaker 2: I was like, God, we we need to normalize having
Speaker 2: very public conversations around weddings and expectations because everyone's confused.
Speaker 2: No one knows what the norm is, No one knows
Speaker 2: how much is an acceptable amount of money? Like what
Speaker 2: am I supposed to wear? What am I supposed to do?
Speaker 2: How do I behave as a bridesmaid? What can I
Speaker 2: say no to?
Speaker 3: And it's hard and it costs so much.
Speaker 2: And I think that we have, like I said the
Speaker 2: other week, and I'm getting passionate about it again, some
Speaker 2: really unrealistic expectations that are placed on us when it
Speaker 2: comes to weddings.
Speaker 3: And if you are.
Speaker 2: Spending four thousand dollars, four thousand dollars, even if that
Speaker 2: means you're going on a holiday to somewhere that you've
Speaker 2: always wanted to go, But if you're spending four thousand
Speaker 2: dollars to stay in the hotel they want to stay in,
Speaker 2: to buy the dress that they want you to buy,
Speaker 2: to go to an event that they are putting on,
Speaker 2: then no, you don't have to get a present.
Speaker 3: I would recommend getting a card.
Speaker 2: Though, Write a beautiful, heartfelt card that says you know
Speaker 2: how you feel about them and everything, and then pop
Speaker 2: it in. You can also ask. You can also say
Speaker 2: to your friend. If you guys are close enough, you're
Speaker 2: in the bridal party, say to your best friend, Hey, honey,
Speaker 2: I just want to get your gauge because I'm not
Speaker 2: sure what the expectation is. We've spent quite a bit
Speaker 2: of money on the wedding so far. Do you expect
Speaker 2: a present? Do you expect present?
Speaker 1: I don't even think you need to have that. I'd
Speaker 1: be awkward if my friends came and said that. But
Speaker 1: the answer is no. But you might say yes, like
Speaker 1: you just did.
Speaker 3: You made a joke. Now I'm gonna get your present
Speaker 3: fucking else.
Speaker 1: Not I will have at my wedding like a box
Speaker 1: for cars uds because I think that's great. Write me
Speaker 1: fucking wedding advice, give me good wishes, put the luck
Speaker 1: on me, give me the love like I would love
Speaker 1: to read your cards because you're important to me. Am
Speaker 1: I going to be shaking them to see if cash
Speaker 1: comes out? No?
Speaker 3: Like I don't.
Speaker 1: And also if it's a destination wedding, people don't want
Speaker 1: you to take a frying pan over there, Like people
Speaker 1: don't want to bring their gifts back from Canada. They're
Speaker 1: not going to want fifty eighty one hundred people bringing
Speaker 1: them a gift. Gifts at weddings are still one hundred
Speaker 1: percent of thing in this situation. For me, they're not
Speaker 1: like it's a destination wedding overseas that you're spending bank on,
Speaker 1: so for me it doesn't fit.
Speaker 3: I totally agree.
Speaker 2: I also think that if you're having a destination wedding
Speaker 2: and you expect as a bride that your family and
Speaker 2: friends are all going to also give you a gift,
Speaker 2: I think you are expecting too much and that it
Speaker 2: should be something that you come to terms with that
Speaker 2: if you have made that choice, then you should not
Speaker 2: expect the people in your life to go the extra mile.
Speaker 2: Because they really have contributed so much to physically be
Speaker 2: there to celebrate with you, to make you feel special
Speaker 2: in the day, that should be enough.
Speaker 1: I do want to say this question like there were
Speaker 1: so many of them. We have had so many of
Speaker 1: them coming about destination weddings and or a destination wedding
Speaker 1: even within Australia, like one that you have to travel
Speaker 1: to Australia is so big that half the time it's
Speaker 1: still classified as destination wedding. You're still booking flights and
Speaker 1: a calm somewhere so it's a really common thing.
Speaker 3: I agree.
Speaker 1: The end presence presence, his presence, presence.
Speaker 3: My presence is your present.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm expecting one from you.
Speaker 3: It's coming from life on cars. It's gonna put on
Speaker 3: the company car. So I'm paying for it myself.
Speaker 1: Ye. Can I pay for my own wedding out of
Speaker 1: life on cart Absolutely?
Speaker 3: Not too far.
Speaker 2: Too far. You can pay for your fifty percent and
Speaker 2: then reimburse me. I don't know how the taxman.
Speaker 1: Would feel about that, so yeah, he'd be on me.
Speaker 3: Okay, next question.
Speaker 2: My now ex boyfriend broke up with me a few
Speaker 2: months ago after I found it he was cheating on me.
Speaker 2: It was awful, as we lived together and we went
Speaker 2: to UNI together. Not only do I go to UNI
Speaker 2: with him, but also with the other women he was
Speaker 2: cheating on me with. We were together for three years.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 2: Another guy I also go to UNI I used to
Speaker 2: date five years ago. My ex was aware of him,
Speaker 2: and we've all been really good friends. He also broke
Speaker 2: up with his girlfriend that he dated for a similar
Speaker 2: amount of time. We have always been friends ever since
Speaker 2: the breakup, and I was also friends with his ex girlfriend.
Speaker 2: Sounds like a very close group of lots of ex'es
Speaker 2: and they're all still friends.
Speaker 3: Good for them.
Speaker 2: Fast forward to now, I am now a lawyer and
Speaker 2: finished with UNI and don't have to see my ex
Speaker 2: that often except on social occasions. I've caught up with
Speaker 2: this other guy a couple of times and we have
Speaker 2: had a real vibe for about a month now. On
Speaker 2: Saturday night, he invited me to his house with a
Speaker 2: bunch of our lawyer friends from UNI, including my ex,
Speaker 2: and after a lot of alcohol, my ex and the
Speaker 2: other people all left and then this one guy asked
Speaker 2: me to stay over the night to.
Speaker 3: Chat, which I did. I don't know why the ex
Speaker 3: was imperative to this conversation. He has nothing to do with. Also,
Speaker 3: the old stayed chat with our private parts.
Speaker 2: One thing led to another and we had sex and
Speaker 2: it was really great.
Speaker 3: He also said that he enjoyed it. I stayed the night.
Speaker 2: We hugged, He made me coffee and breakfast in the
Speaker 2: morning if they had sex, oh, but and hugged we
Speaker 2: had sex.
Speaker 1: I then hugged, sorry you left that part out.
Speaker 3: You just said I stayed the night and hugged. I
Speaker 3: was like wow rr.
Speaker 2: A few hours after he dropped me off I messaged
Speaker 2: him and said, thank you for dropping me off and
Speaker 2: I had fun last night.
Speaker 3: He read the message. He still hasn't replied.
Speaker 2: In the whole five years I have known him, he
Speaker 2: has never ever left me on red. I don't want
Speaker 2: to come across as desperate, but do I double message
Speaker 2: him now? I still have his clothes and don't know
Speaker 2: what to do. It's also not like we're not going
Speaker 2: to see each other again. We are literally in the
Speaker 2: same friendship group and are both invited to another party
Speaker 2: this coming weekend.
Speaker 3: Please help.
Speaker 1: I asked Ben about this because we can give advice
Speaker 1: as women on like how we feel double texting, what
Speaker 1: the situation was, like, what it means.
Speaker 3: We read into a lot.
Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, I wanted a
Speaker 1: man's opinion to be like, Okay, you've done this, You've
Speaker 1: banged it, chick. You know what, it's been a couple
Speaker 1: of days. She wrote to you to thank you after
Speaker 1: you made a breakfast. Does she message you again?
Speaker 4: Like?
Speaker 1: What would happen if she got a double text? And
Speaker 1: why didn't you respond? So Ben said two things. He said,
Speaker 1: you are getting mixed signals for sure, because the making
Speaker 1: of the breakfast and coffee in the morning.
Speaker 3: Ough totally is like is I really did enjoy that?
Speaker 3: And like you?
Speaker 1: I want you to hang around and want to be
Speaker 1: respectful in all of that. But then also the leaving
Speaker 1: you on red and not responding to a message that
Speaker 1: specifically about the night you spent together, is you know,
Speaker 1: giving you the opposite message of saying like, I'm not
Speaker 1: that interested. I have written back.
Speaker 3: He thinks you are.
Speaker 1: Over reacting in this situation, like overthinking it. He thinks
Speaker 1: you can one hundred percent double text to tease, like
Speaker 1: even if you like a girl, sometimes you get busy
Speaker 1: and you don't respond for whatever reason. He's like, so
Speaker 1: a double text is fine. Absolutely never unequivocally do not
Speaker 1: triple text, was Pen's advice, Like a double is done.
Speaker 1: The breakfast making in this situation could be because you
Speaker 1: are friends. He does respect you, but maybe he doesn't
Speaker 1: want anything else. So long story short, you're fucked. There's
Speaker 1: no right answer now until this weekend. So I would
Speaker 1: just play it off. You know you're seeing him in
Speaker 1: a couple of days time, Just be cool, don't overthink it,
Speaker 1: see him at the party and get the vibe of
Speaker 1: what happens.
Speaker 2: I one hundred percent fucking good advice. Oh he really
Speaker 2: nailed it today. Okay, So I think that you hit
Speaker 2: the nail on the head. I think he very much
Speaker 2: wanted to have sex with you. He doesn't necessarily want
Speaker 2: a relationship with you, but he respects you as a
Speaker 2: friend and therefore felt that the after care was important,
Speaker 2: but doesn't want to necessarily message you back about the
Speaker 2: sex with enthusiasm that would give you the idea that
Speaker 2: he's invested beyond it just being something that is casual,
Speaker 2: which is shit. Because my big thing here is is like,
Speaker 2: don't fuck your friends if it's going to fuck your friendship,
Speaker 2: which this might do if there's been intense flirting for
Speaker 2: a period of time, And I just think it's so unnecessary.
Speaker 2: There's so many other people you can have sex with, Like,
Speaker 2: don't ruin your friendship group, especially if you think someone
Speaker 2: might want more than just like a casual hangs and bangs. Anyway,
Speaker 2: now they've got that part out of the way, I agree,
Speaker 2: the only thing that you can do is just send
Speaker 2: another message, gauge the response, play it cool, and play
Speaker 2: it cool on the weekend. Because just because he did
Speaker 2: have sex with you and it did something happened. That
Speaker 2: wasn't a confirmation of anything to come either. So I
Speaker 2: don't want you to catastrophize the situation. I don't want
Speaker 2: you to kind of get ahead of yourself. I don't
Speaker 2: want your self sabotage the situation either. Just don't think
Speaker 2: too much about the second text, you know, like looking
Speaker 2: forward to seeing you this weekend.
Speaker 3: I mean, what would you write for the second text,
Speaker 3: question mark.
Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't second text, because you know you've seen
Speaker 1: him now.
Speaker 2: My second text would be like, hey, whatevery day is
Speaker 2: I have your clothes?
Speaker 3: Do you want me to drop them around? Or shall
Speaker 3: I give them to you this weekend?
Speaker 2: Lol, I'll meet you the car parks that you don't
Speaker 2: you know, we can do the exchange under the cloud
Speaker 2: of darkness.
Speaker 1: That's a good one for sure. But yeah, the thing
Speaker 1: for me is or maybe you don't do that. Maybe
Speaker 1: you take the clothes in the car, and that is
Speaker 1: your way of being like, hey, I have the clothes
Speaker 1: in the car if you want to grab them, and
Speaker 1: then you can hook up again later if you want it.
Speaker 1: But I think you're overthinking this. And the last thing
Speaker 1: I want to say is and I'm only touching on
Speaker 1: it because you've specifically put it in here, because I
Speaker 1: know we think it means something. It doesn't. You said
Speaker 1: we hugged through the night, like we cuddled through the night.
Speaker 1: We put so much emphasis on that, Like we think
Speaker 1: that if a man's not interested, he won't touch us
Speaker 1: all night, but if he cuddles us in bed, like
Speaker 1: you know, he cuddled me the whole night, like it
Speaker 1: was really something, it's not. We love human connection and
Speaker 1: whether it's just for twenty four hours. Like the first
Speaker 1: time I saw Ben, I didn't think I was gonna
Speaker 1: see him again. I was holding we were holding hands,
Speaker 1: walking around, thinking that it was nothing, but I was like,
Speaker 1: this is a nice moment to feel some love, affection, connection.
Speaker 1: It doesn't necessarily mean what you think it means.
Speaker 2: Men love to treat you like your their girlfriend when
Speaker 2: you're not their girlfriend. They want nothing from you. Yeah,
Speaker 2: they don't want a commitment. They'll do it for years
Speaker 2: and not commit. Not all men, I should say, I
Speaker 2: know there will be some offended listeners. Some men love
Speaker 2: all of the things that come with feeling like you
Speaker 2: have a girlfriend without the responsibility. That is the cuddling,
Speaker 2: the handholding, the introducing to your friends, the making weekend plans,
Speaker 2: the doing dinners.
Speaker 3: There are people who.
Speaker 2: Will treat you exactly like you are their girlfriend, except
Speaker 2: they won't put a label on it.
Speaker 3: Run for the fucking hell.
Speaker 1: No, I want to say, I want to defend men here,
Speaker 1: I've done that totally.
Speaker 3: Do it like I care more because I've been on
Speaker 3: the receiving end of it. I've also done it to people.
Speaker 1: I have been the giver hardcore, Like the guy that
Speaker 1: used to turn up at my house at four am
Speaker 1: with flowers, the widow I kept him around because.
Speaker 2: I liked he wasn't a weirdo. Brit You did that
Speaker 2: to him, you made him a weirdo. He was invested and.
Speaker 3: You were like, I don't know.
Speaker 1: But there are times that you know that something is
Speaker 1: not going to be for doesn't mean you're not enjoying
Speaker 1: the moment and enjoying.
Speaker 3: What it is.
Speaker 1: Like. I love people that date not just for an
Speaker 1: end goal. Sometimes you date for a period of your
Speaker 1: life because they're not your penguin, but you're learning something
Speaker 1: from it, You're enjoying it, you're having fun. There's physicality,
Speaker 1: there's intimacy, but it doesn't have to be your Penguin.
Speaker 2: Do you know who gave the absolute best advice Matthew
Speaker 2: Hussey on this exact kind of topic. And I know
Speaker 2: we've gotten a little bit ahead of ourselves. But for
Speaker 2: anyone who's questioning whether they're in a situationship and that
Speaker 2: person is ever going to give them the things that
Speaker 2: they want, he was, like, the time that you should
Speaker 2: believe what someone says over their actions is in the
Speaker 2: instance that a person that you are seeing is saying
Speaker 2: to your face, I don't want to be in a
Speaker 2: relationship with you. I'm not ready for a relationship. But
Speaker 2: they're still doing all the things that would make you
Speaker 2: think that actually maybe they might change their mind. And
Speaker 2: the reason for that is is because it is a
Speaker 2: great inconvenience to them to say the words and to
Speaker 2: tell you that they don't want something from you, because
Speaker 2: they could lose all that intimacy, you could walk away.
Speaker 2: They are giving you verbally every opportunity to make a decision.
Speaker 2: They then still have the get out of jail free card,
Speaker 2: the mental get out of jail free card.
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I told.
Speaker 2: You I didn't want anything. You can't be angry at
Speaker 2: me that we cuddled. You can't be angry at me
Speaker 2: that I introduce you to my mum and brought you
Speaker 2: over Christmas. I told you I wasn't ready for a relationship.
Speaker 2: So in those instances, if you find yourself in that
Speaker 2: place where someone is verbally saying to you something that
Speaker 2: isn't convenient to them, believe that over any of their actions.
Speaker 2: And I know that that's a little bit of a
Speaker 2: head in this situation, but when he said that, I
Speaker 2: was like, oh my god.
Speaker 1: I think just at the end of the day, my
Speaker 1: number one piece of advice when dating or relationships is,
Speaker 1: don't overthink something like triple text is quad driple text,
Speaker 1: turn up at the house. If they don't respond, break
Speaker 1: and enter, think.
Speaker 3: About it, just do it. Go through impulses.
Speaker 1: Anyway, let us know how Saturday night goes, though, Like
Speaker 1: give us an art math without a few aftermaths coming in,
Speaker 1: So send us what happens on Saturday night, because I
Speaker 1: think this just came in and so let us know.
Speaker 2: Could I also say one other option that could be
Speaker 2: he might like you, he might want something, but he
Speaker 2: might not be ready to kind of deal with what
Speaker 2: that might mean from transitioning the friendship to something that
Speaker 2: could be more again, we're overthinking it.
Speaker 3: He just hasn't texted you back yet and might need
Speaker 3: some processing time not thinking about it yet.
Speaker 1: He knows he's seeing you on the weekend.
Speaker 3: That's what I think. I think you fucked.
Speaker 1: He made your breakfast, your friends.
Speaker 3: You're seeing him on the weekend like cruise, Yeah, cruise cruise, Brittany.
Speaker 1: Question number three, I've always been curious how females maintain
Speaker 1: pubicare My husband says he doesn't care whether it's bear
Speaker 1: or harry or whatever.
Speaker 3: Good on your husband, Yeah, how it should be.
Speaker 1: But I still can't figure out what I prefer either.
Speaker 1: What is the norm these days? Completely bear or hairy
Speaker 1: and unmaintained. Please let us know what you and how often.
Speaker 1: I think this is a great question.
Speaker 3: You're a laser well, I think it's a great question
Speaker 3: out you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, thanks, thanks, Laura.
Speaker 3: Said what mine was, you're a laser bit. I actually
Speaker 3: laser evil. I have laser booked in tomorrow.
Speaker 1: No. I think it's a great question because at the
Speaker 1: end of the day, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter
Speaker 1: what you want. If you want to be unmaintained, Harry,
Speaker 1: you want a landing strip. Care remember when landing strips
Speaker 1: were in. I had one. I think people still have them, yeah,
Speaker 1: but they went through a real hot craze when people
Speaker 1: would do like love hearts and like triangles and like
Speaker 1: different like I won perfectly manicure little grass patch above
Speaker 1: your Yeah, what do you call it?
Speaker 5: Your slip that's too gruffy the lips, but it's the
Speaker 5: top of it, like a little perfectly.
Speaker 1: I'll never forget, so in and I had one, right,
Speaker 1: so it's like where you're all ball for those that
Speaker 1: don't know, you're all ball, shaved, wax lasered, whatever you want.
Speaker 1: And then there was a tiny thin strip that came
Speaker 1: from the top of the lips up. But I'll never forget.
Speaker 1: It was on this podcast when somebody wrote in and
Speaker 1: they got a reverse landing strip because they didn't know,
Speaker 1: so they were opposite. They were all hairy, and they
Speaker 1: just shaved a strip, which actually makes sense, like when
Speaker 1: you think of what a landing strip is.
Speaker 3: They shave like a jungle.
Speaker 2: They shaved one perfect rectangle of bear skin.
Speaker 3: It was the reverse strip, so fucking good.
Speaker 1: But I think at the end of the days, whatever
Speaker 1: you want, whatever you want to talk to your partner.
Speaker 1: I genuinely think it's okay, and there's a lot of
Speaker 1: women out there they're going to be like, fuck, no,
Speaker 1: do what you want. I don't think it's the end
Speaker 1: of the world to also ask your partner and have
Speaker 1: that discussion, like do you have a preference of what
Speaker 1: you like? You know, at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: if their head's going to be down there all the time,
Speaker 1: maybe they have a preference. You don't have to listen
Speaker 1: to what they say. But for me, I mean, I
Speaker 1: have a laser booked in tomorrow. This is probably my
Speaker 1: fourth laser and you're completely bald eagle. I am bald eagle, baby,
Speaker 1: I am complete Brazilian. I actually get the Hollywood, which
Speaker 1: is that hill as well?
Speaker 3: You have mentioned that.
Speaker 1: I've mentioned the Hollywood, but that's just what I prefer personally.
Speaker 1: But there's like, there's nothing wrong with whatever you decide.
Speaker 2: I don't think bald is as common as it used
Speaker 2: to be.
Speaker 3: I think ten years.
Speaker 2: Ago volvers were absolutely hairless and that was kind of
Speaker 2: the what was in. But you know what, when it
Speaker 2: comes to pubic hair, I think it goes in rotation
Speaker 2: as well and say, way, ah, I'm lazy, that's what
Speaker 2: I am.
Speaker 1: I am lazier as well, which is why I get
Speaker 1: the laser.
Speaker 2: I do not laser. I shave because I find to shave.
Speaker 2: I don't get any ingrownd hairs or anything. No, some
Speaker 2: people can't shave because they get ingrown hairs. I can't
Speaker 2: wax because I get fucking ingray hair.
Speaker 1: I could wax a Brazilian two minutes flat. If I
Speaker 1: was a world championship.
Speaker 5: My whole volver would look like a pimply sixteen year
Speaker 5: old like it would be straight back there.
Speaker 2: It'd be so tough for me anyway, no waxing for me.
Speaker 2: Shaving great, but look I used to have absolutely no
Speaker 2: hair ten years ago.
Speaker 5: Now, I mean I have no hair for once a
Speaker 5: month when I can be bothered to shave it, and
Speaker 5: then all of a sudden it's back.
Speaker 3: But like it does that, it does that.
Speaker 2: I think it's Firstly, it shouldn't be something that's admirable.
Speaker 2: It shouldn't be something that we're like, oh, good on
Speaker 2: your husband, But it is great that you have a
Speaker 2: partner who doesn't care, who doesn't put forward their preferences
Speaker 2: and make you feel as though you have to maintain
Speaker 2: some sort of level of something that you don't care
Speaker 2: to maintain for me. Also, I feel so grateful to
Speaker 2: be in a relationship. And once again I don't say
Speaker 2: grateful because it sounds stupid, but it's great to be
Speaker 2: in a relationship with someone who finds me attractive whatever
Speaker 2: I'm doing, do you know what I mean? Because the
Speaker 2: people believe it or not like you for you not
Speaker 2: your puby care, so your fucking puber care.
Speaker 3: It's hair.
Speaker 2: And also it's natural, there's no I just hate the
Speaker 2: double standard of it. There's no woman out there who's
Speaker 2: saying to their health. Maybe there is, but very few
Speaker 2: who are saying to their husband, you need to be
Speaker 2: completely bulled.
Speaker 3: Bullsack ass crack asshole dick. I want it all gone.
Speaker 3: Like no one's saying that.
Speaker 1: I actually think. I mean, I disagree. I think people
Speaker 1: are saying that, and I think it's absolutely okay if
Speaker 1: a man expects a woman, and I do think it
Speaker 1: if you are wanting to your partner to go down
Speaker 1: you all the time and they're constantly getting pubic hair
Speaker 1: in their mouth, they're pulling it out of their teeth,
Speaker 1: it's in their throat, Like, I think it's absolutely okay
Speaker 1: to say, well, if you want me to do all
Speaker 1: the time. You're gonna have to maintain it. I think
Speaker 1: that that's fine. I think trimp.
Speaker 2: But there's a difference between maintained and expecting someone to
Speaker 2: be completely bored as an expectation. That's two different things. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I agree with you, Britt. Maybe there are some women
Speaker 2: who ask for it. But the volume of women who
Speaker 2: expect their men to be completely hairless verse the volume
Speaker 2: of men who expect their women to be completely hairless,
Speaker 2: we don't even need to a poll on that. That
Speaker 2: would be like an incomparable number.
Speaker 1: But I think a lot of the pressure this is
Speaker 1: just my thought, This is an assumption, not based on
Speaker 1: any kind of fact. I think a lot of the
Speaker 1: pressure that women feel to maintain it and look a
Speaker 1: certain way comes from ourselves. I think a lot of
Speaker 1: it comes from other women or the expectations, maybe what
Speaker 1: we see in porn, what we think the man is
Speaker 1: going to want because of what we know he sees
Speaker 1: in porn. I tell you, we put it on.
Speaker 2: Ourselves my level of maintenance, and this is maybe too
Speaker 2: much information, but I don't really care, because you guys know,
Speaker 2: everything about me is so long as it's maintained within
Speaker 2: a bikini line.
Speaker 3: I'm satisfied.
Speaker 2: And I usually only know that it's not maintained between
Speaker 2: a bikini line because.
Speaker 5: I'm at the beach and I'm like, shit, should have
Speaker 5: done that before I got here. It's like a monthly
Speaker 5: realization that I need to just kind of fix up
Speaker 5: the sides. I you know, scary movie when she looks
Speaker 5: great and then they take the undies off and the
Speaker 5: bushes pushes.
Speaker 3: Into the root. It's me, I don't care.
Speaker 1: And then he has to get the chainsaw out and
Speaker 1: hack down on the pubicula.
Speaker 3: She's laughing. Laura's got no idea.
Speaker 1: It's a iconic scene. Yeah, I don't care. I've got hair,
Speaker 1: not as much as full bush, but I do have hair.
Speaker 1: It genuinely doesn't matter. I'm only lasering to be honest,
Speaker 1: not for esthetics. It's so that once it's gone, I
Speaker 1: never have to do it again. It's a laziness thing.
Speaker 1: I'm not being lazy now, so I can be lazy
Speaker 1: for the rest of my life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I have hair out of laziness as well,
Speaker 2: because I can't be bothered to do anything the end. Also,
Speaker 2: why should I have to yeah, preach, preach, Well, that
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, right now, I'm getting a perfect view
Speaker 2: straight up, Brittie Klucker.
Speaker 3: I get that. Can you see that? Not entirely, no,
Speaker 3: it's but it's very directional right up there.
Speaker 1: I do have short shorts on, but my legs have
Speaker 1: been crossed. My legs to the camera have been crossed.
Speaker 1: So you're gonna make people want to actually, yeah, that's
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