WEBVTT - MINI: Lola's Dummy Fairy Update!

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<v Speaker 1>Brit Laura, I think it's a bit too early to tell,

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<v Speaker 1>or only a couple days in, but I think I

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<v Speaker 1>have cracked the code for parents out there who want

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<v Speaker 1>to get their kids off the.

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<v Speaker 2>Dummy, the dummy fairy, the dummy fairy. So HiT's a

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<v Speaker 2>few days ago.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, my daughter, she's four years old, Lola. There

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<v Speaker 1>has never been a child that's more obsessed with their

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<v Speaker 1>dummy than Lola. Like, it has been an obsession since

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<v Speaker 1>the day she was born. And she was a very, very,

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<v Speaker 1>very fussy baby. She didn't sleep in a cot. She

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<v Speaker 1>only slept in a carrier with me, sitting upright with

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<v Speaker 1>her on me. And that was the first six weeks

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<v Speaker 1>of her life. Like, it was hard work. And the

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<v Speaker 1>only thing in her, like you know, little four years

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<v Speaker 1>of life, that has ever brought her comfort is her dummy.

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<v Speaker 1>She will happily take a dummy over being cuddled. She

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<v Speaker 1>will take her dummy over her dad, like, she will

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<v Speaker 1>take a dummy over anything. She loves it so much.

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<v Speaker 1>If you ask her her favorite thing, she will say

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<v Speaker 1>her dummy. So we've tried quite a few times getting

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<v Speaker 1>her off it.

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<v Speaker 2>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>She turned four in February, so we tried when she

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<v Speaker 1>was two. We tried when she was three. You remember

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<v Speaker 1>it was like I was rough man. Yeah, it was

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<v Speaker 1>like she turned into a dementor.

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<v Speaker 2>She's my contraception.

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<v Speaker 1>She screamed NonStop for six weeks. Anyway, we've gotten to

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<v Speaker 1>a point where we were like, she's four years old.

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<v Speaker 1>This is getting embarrassing. Now she's going to school next year,

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<v Speaker 1>she's got a boyfriend, she's moving out of home.

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<v Speaker 2>We've got to get her off the dummy at university.

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<v Speaker 1>So we decided it was time to implement the dummy Fairy. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>the dummy Fairy seems to do different things in different households,

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<v Speaker 1>but in our household we have had four nights now

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<v Speaker 1>of no crying, no dummy huge and it has been

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<v Speaker 1>a raving success.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, then tell us the people in the car that

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<v Speaker 3>might be wanting the dummy Fairy to come to their house,

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<v Speaker 3>what did your dummy fairy do?

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<v Speaker 1>You've got a call her. She's got to call the

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<v Speaker 1>dummy Fairy on the phone. You gotta give he a

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<v Speaker 1>ring because she needs to know when you're ready for

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<v Speaker 1>her to come.

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<v Speaker 2>She doesn't dumb fairy.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's not like Santa Claus change that and it's

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<v Speaker 1>not like the Easter of my they don't have it.

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<v Speaker 1>She doesn't have a set date. She'll come when you're

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<v Speaker 1>ready for her to come. So you make sure that

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<v Speaker 1>you've set the date, You've got a planned out on

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<v Speaker 1>a calendar, you do the countdown.

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<v Speaker 2>It's really exciting.

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<v Speaker 1>The dummy Fairy coming is an exciting thing like Christmas.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's like you're going.

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<v Speaker 1>To get a present from the dummy Fairy for giving

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<v Speaker 1>away your dummies. And yeah, we replaced it. So we

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<v Speaker 1>made like a little ceremony about it. We got all

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<v Speaker 1>the dummies together, we put them outside. There was five

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<v Speaker 1>we collected them for around the house.

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<v Speaker 3>She's been stashing them like under pillows.

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<v Speaker 1>Well it's just in case we lose one, o case

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<v Speaker 1>she doesn't have five at a time, So we put

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<v Speaker 1>them all outside.

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<v Speaker 2>We made a little letter to the dummy Fairy.

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<v Speaker 1>I told her that, you know, the dummy Fairy is

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<v Speaker 1>going to take them to castle. And the story just

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<v Speaker 1>kept getting bigger and more elaborate. But Laurla got really

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<v Speaker 1>excited about it, and she knew that she was going

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<v Speaker 1>to get rewarded for giving away something that was really important.

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<v Speaker 1>But it really was the cutest little thing. I'll play

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<v Speaker 1>you this.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, Lola, who's coming tonight?

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<v Speaker 1>Every Are you ready to say bye bye bye bye dummies?

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<v Speaker 2>Give you them a kiss? Oh ball, bye bye dummies.

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<v Speaker 2>So she made out with that last watch. She really

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<v Speaker 2>didn't want to get that one out. She kissed them awklebye.

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<v Speaker 2>We put them in a bowl.

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<v Speaker 1>I put her to bed, and I gave her a

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<v Speaker 1>present from me and Dad for her to go to

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<v Speaker 1>bed with that night, because I was like, I know

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<v Speaker 1>you're going to be really sad. He's a little toy

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<v Speaker 1>from mummy and daddy for you to cuddle when you

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<v Speaker 1>feel sad.

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<v Speaker 2>And she woke up in the morning she got her presence.

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<v Speaker 1>We made it like a really special time and she

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<v Speaker 1>was so stoked. So I thought, Okay, day one that

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<v Speaker 1>was going to be easy. Day two is gonna be hard.

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<v Speaker 1>Day two's gonna suck. Anyway, Day two rolled around completely fine.

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<v Speaker 1>She said one thing to me where I put it

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<v Speaker 1>to bed and she had it like her two little

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<v Speaker 1>toys that she got, the one from the dummy fairy

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<v Speaker 1>and the one from me, and she goes, Mom, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>thinking And I was like, what are you thinking about?

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<v Speaker 1>She goes, I'm thinking a dummy would be pretty nice,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, sweetheart, we don't have any. The

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<v Speaker 1>dummy fairy took them, and she goes, I know that's

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<v Speaker 1>why I said, I'm just thinking it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not doing it. I'm thinking it. She's just more

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<v Speaker 2>self aware now. And that was it.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I genuinely thought it was going to be a

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<v Speaker 1>horror show and it's been four days now and it

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<v Speaker 1>has just been weirdly amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>It's because.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like I've got kids, It's because she's twenty five.

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<v Speaker 2>It's because this.

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<v Speaker 3>Time she came to the conclude she's old enough to

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<v Speaker 3>come to the conclusion of making it herself. And she

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<v Speaker 3>I think she's just because she doesn't feel like you

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<v Speaker 3>guys are taking something from her. She made the decision

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<v Speaker 3>like she's like, cool, I'm ready and I understand what

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<v Speaker 3>this exchange is.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but I think that that's it. I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>the secret in the thoughts, right, Like, my.

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<v Speaker 3>Secret is not to let your kids still have DUMBI no,

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<v Speaker 3>do not shamey. I'm not shaming you, but I don't

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<v Speaker 3>want the listeners to be like, hey, Laura.

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<v Speaker 2>Said, the secret is to keep a dummy to your

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<v Speaker 2>foot sounds for shaming.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's about letting the kids have a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit of sense of control and feeling as though you're

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<v Speaker 1>not just taking away from them, but that it's something

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<v Speaker 1>to be excited about when the dummy fairy comes that

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<v Speaker 1>even though they're losing that thing they want, they feed

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<v Speaker 1>off how you react to something. And the other times

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<v Speaker 1>it's been super stressful, it's been like a countdown and

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<v Speaker 1>then it's like, Okay, no more dummy, and it felt

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<v Speaker 1>like a punishment.

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<v Speaker 2>Whereas this felt like a reward.

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<v Speaker 1>I know I'm too early to tell you exactly how

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<v Speaker 1>it's going to go down, but it has been surprisingly

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<v Speaker 1>amazing so far.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm happy for you, and I'm actually more happy for

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<v Speaker 3>Lola same and.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm happy for our dental bills for the future the Veneers.

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<v Speaker 2>She doesn't need to get now.