1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,960 Speaker 1: If you're listening to Will and Woody Woods was on 2 00:00:04,000 --> 00:00:06,000 Speaker 1: the Kickpot, which you can get wherever you get your podcast. 3 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:07,800 Speaker 1: Steph clear to me I from Laura Henshaw do a 4 00:00:07,800 --> 00:00:11,000 Speaker 1: wonderful job. There wonderful women that is both on the show. 5 00:00:11,560 --> 00:00:13,640 Speaker 1: And they're the best, great chicks, aren't they. 6 00:00:13,920 --> 00:00:14,160 Speaker 2: Yeah? 7 00:00:14,160 --> 00:00:16,840 Speaker 1: Absolutely, And they asked some great questions. I mean, this 8 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:18,440 Speaker 1: is happ't been me as well. They get all our 9 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:20,360 Speaker 1: good gear and all of a sudden, you and I 10 00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:23,280 Speaker 1: find ourselves getting sloppy seconds on the radio show. Just 11 00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:25,680 Speaker 1: give it to me, bro, just give me the hot gear. 12 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:27,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, well you should have asked the right questions. 13 00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 1: Will replaying stuff. But look, if you're just joining us, 14 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:36,360 Speaker 1: we're picking it up at the point where Woods is 15 00:00:36,360 --> 00:00:38,199 Speaker 1: talking about the need to play a role, to be 16 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:41,199 Speaker 1: sunshine in people's lives. That's what you feel you need 17 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:44,080 Speaker 1: to do for people, and no one can do that, 18 00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:47,400 Speaker 1: No one is that way, And as a result, you're 19 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:49,640 Speaker 1: suppressing your emotions to try and be like that. 20 00:00:50,040 --> 00:00:54,920 Speaker 3: Well I could do it when and yeah, when I 21 00:00:54,960 --> 00:00:57,400 Speaker 3: was single, pretty much I could because you could. 22 00:00:57,400 --> 00:00:58,840 Speaker 1: But hey, on a sec I've known you and you 23 00:00:58,920 --> 00:01:01,440 Speaker 1: a single and when you're saying you could do it, 24 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:04,520 Speaker 1: the suppressing would be like, oh what, he's just vanished 25 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:05,120 Speaker 1: for two days. 26 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:06,520 Speaker 2: So that's why that's how I got through. 27 00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:11,880 Speaker 3: I would anytime if I'd get I'd just I'd literally disappear, 28 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:14,080 Speaker 3: and then I'd come back and I'd be okay. 29 00:01:14,720 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 2: And it's just not it wasn't. I don't know in 30 00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:19,200 Speaker 2: what world I thought I could just continue to do that. 31 00:01:20,240 --> 00:01:22,560 Speaker 1: So what's the hard thing about? Because I'm sure there 32 00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 1: are lots of other people who suppress emotions. We're going 33 00:01:25,680 --> 00:01:27,120 Speaker 1: to talk a little bit more about the cost of 34 00:01:27,160 --> 00:01:31,920 Speaker 1: it shortly, But what do you find what's the hardest 35 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:34,840 Speaker 1: part about expressing how you feel at the time? What 36 00:01:34,880 --> 00:01:35,800 Speaker 1: do you think you're doing wrong? 37 00:01:36,040 --> 00:01:40,400 Speaker 3: It's it's it's really not knowing how I'm actually feeling. 38 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:43,320 Speaker 3: I feel like I've got so good at suppressing how 39 00:01:43,319 --> 00:01:46,160 Speaker 3: I actually feel that it's not like I'm saying to 40 00:01:46,160 --> 00:01:48,600 Speaker 3: you right now, oh yeah, like I'm suppressing emotion right now. 41 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:50,840 Speaker 3: I might be, but I have no idea because when 42 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:53,520 Speaker 3: I'm in it, I'm just doing what I've been doing 43 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:54,440 Speaker 3: my entire. 44 00:01:54,200 --> 00:01:55,800 Speaker 2: Life, and that's the only way to do it. 45 00:01:56,280 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 3: And what happens with me is obviously I'm suppressing because 46 00:01:59,680 --> 00:02:02,600 Speaker 3: then something small will happen and it will break me. 47 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:04,320 Speaker 2: Wow, and I'll go and. 48 00:02:04,520 --> 00:02:06,320 Speaker 3: Then all of a sudden, because I go from zero 49 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:07,680 Speaker 3: to one hundred very very quickly. 50 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:08,160 Speaker 2: Yeah. 51 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 3: So that's why I'm not very good in any conversation 52 00:02:11,639 --> 00:02:15,680 Speaker 3: which might be emotion inducing, because I'm not good at 53 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 3: delivering a stable emotion. I go from like very light 54 00:02:20,800 --> 00:02:22,720 Speaker 3: and bubbly, and then as soon as I feel like 55 00:02:22,760 --> 00:02:25,239 Speaker 3: there's confrontation or emotion attached, I go to a billion. 56 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:30,400 Speaker 3: And just because I'm really not good at this point 57 00:02:30,480 --> 00:02:32,520 Speaker 3: on a journey, I'm going to get better. I'm just 58 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:35,400 Speaker 3: not good at sitting with emotion that I would deem 59 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:40,120 Speaker 3: as negative. So that could be sadness, anger, frustration. 60 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:42,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, I just like I don't want have anything to 61 00:02:42,919 --> 00:02:43,120 Speaker 1: do with it. 62 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, but again I don't deliberately bottle it, 63 00:02:46,240 --> 00:02:46,919 Speaker 3: just it just happens. 64 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:50,679 Speaker 1: That's your coviing mechanism. Yeah, and some of those coming 65 00:02:50,720 --> 00:02:55,079 Speaker 1: meanism would be getting angry, retaliating, ignoring whatever, consciously ignoring 66 00:02:55,120 --> 00:02:59,520 Speaker 1: whatever they're doing. The cost of that, though, is where 67 00:02:59,520 --> 00:03:01,400 Speaker 1: we're going to pick this up in this interview. And 68 00:03:02,040 --> 00:03:04,360 Speaker 1: again you can listen an interview wherever you get your podcasts, 69 00:03:04,960 --> 00:03:08,639 Speaker 1: check out the kickpod. But this is the bit that 70 00:03:08,720 --> 00:03:10,600 Speaker 1: I think really hurts you, and that is that you 71 00:03:10,840 --> 00:03:14,480 Speaker 1: turn on You're capable of turning on this joyful jesture 72 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 1: around people that you feel you need to have that 73 00:03:17,880 --> 00:03:19,359 Speaker 1: face for because you don't want to let them in, 74 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:20,880 Speaker 1: because you don't want to be vulnerable around them. You 75 00:03:20,919 --> 00:03:22,440 Speaker 1: don't want to show them the other side of yourself. 76 00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:25,840 Speaker 1: And then the one person that you care most about 77 00:03:26,280 --> 00:03:30,000 Speaker 1: as you partner, mem and because you have been so 78 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 1: vibrant and buoyant around everybody else, she's the one who 79 00:03:34,880 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 1: gets to see the real you, and it depleted you 80 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:40,160 Speaker 1: because you've had to be that person for so many 81 00:03:40,200 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 1: other people throughout the day. 82 00:03:42,000 --> 00:03:44,040 Speaker 3: She's amazing with it, but like, it's just so not 83 00:03:44,200 --> 00:03:47,560 Speaker 3: fair that you're the person I care about, like the 84 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 3: absolute most everyone. She sees how much effort that I 85 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 3: make for, you know, make those people feel better, And 86 00:03:54,000 --> 00:03:57,240 Speaker 3: then she'd never say this, but it's kind of not 87 00:03:57,360 --> 00:03:59,960 Speaker 3: fair that I would make so much effort there for effective. 88 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:03,000 Speaker 3: I appreciate that they're a fan, but I don't know 89 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 3: that person. I don't know them, I don't care about 90 00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:07,160 Speaker 3: them as much as I care about mim, but then 91 00:04:07,240 --> 00:04:08,880 Speaker 3: Mim is the one who's going to get the person 92 00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:11,920 Speaker 3: who who needs to be just nothing. 93 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:13,040 Speaker 2: Just like just flat. 94 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:21,600 Speaker 1: You told me before that you and Mim listen to 95 00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:22,159 Speaker 1: this together. 96 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:27,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, we listened to it together, and we just we 97 00:04:27,320 --> 00:04:31,120 Speaker 3: just had to cry together listening to it, which yeah, 98 00:04:32,240 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 3: it's a yeah, it's something. 99 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:41,200 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I've just got it. I don't want to yeah, 100 00:04:41,200 --> 00:04:42,960 Speaker 2: I just really want to work on it because I see. 101 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:47,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, but it was nice that she just yea, she 102 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:48,800 Speaker 3: had a cry and had her hand on my leg 103 00:04:48,880 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 3: and she's like, I totally understand, and I love you, 104 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:58,600 Speaker 3: you know. She she'll say, it's it's really nice and 105 00:04:58,680 --> 00:05:01,320 Speaker 3: amazing what you do. She loves seeing that as well, 106 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:06,480 Speaker 3: which is really nice. Yeah, she also gets unfortunately the 107 00:05:06,600 --> 00:05:11,320 Speaker 3: version which and I even since having this chat, you know, 108 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:15,279 Speaker 3: I'll have mornings or days and I just can't. 109 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:15,480 Speaker 2: Talk to you. 110 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:19,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I suppose. I don't know if it's 111 00:05:19,880 --> 00:05:21,919 Speaker 1: any consolation. I don't know what goes on behind closed 112 00:05:21,920 --> 00:05:25,000 Speaker 1: doors with you and him, but like that's the deal, 113 00:05:25,160 --> 00:05:28,960 Speaker 1: Like that's what you buy into, right, yeah, and she 114 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:31,880 Speaker 1: wants to be that person for you. Yeah, yeah, ultimately 115 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:37,000 Speaker 1: right because she loves you, And can I just say 116 00:05:37,200 --> 00:05:40,480 Speaker 1: on behalf of everyone largely just in this team or 117 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:41,479 Speaker 1: everyone else that knows you. 118 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 2: Don't say something nice, sorry, but you are like just such. 119 00:05:49,400 --> 00:05:52,280 Speaker 1: You're truly like joy, like you are just bliss in 120 00:05:52,320 --> 00:05:56,840 Speaker 1: a bottle, And the fact that that hurts you sometimes 121 00:05:57,720 --> 00:05:59,479 Speaker 1: is the last thing that any of us would want 122 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:02,920 Speaker 1: that it's a reflex, and I know you can't control it, 123 00:06:03,120 --> 00:06:07,360 Speaker 1: but whenever you feel ready to walk in here and flip. 124 00:06:07,120 --> 00:06:12,400 Speaker 2: Some tables, I'm so ready for it. 125 00:06:12,960 --> 00:06:16,160 Speaker 1: I love you, Everyone loves you. You're doing a wonderful job. 126 00:06:16,279 --> 00:06:18,440 Speaker 1: You're doing a wonderful job. It's been amazing to watch 127 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:23,680 Speaker 1: recently how much attention and fame and content that you're 128 00:06:23,839 --> 00:06:25,840 Speaker 1: a part of, all this stuff you're doing on TV. 129 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:28,640 Speaker 1: And I know how I can't I don't know. I 130 00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:29,359 Speaker 1: can't only. 131 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:30,440 Speaker 2: Imagine how taxing that would be. 132 00:06:30,600 --> 00:06:34,599 Speaker 1: So whatever coping neck is you're using right now, it's fine, 133 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:37,240 Speaker 1: Like that's what you're using to get through and you 134 00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:39,040 Speaker 1: will get better, of course you will. Everybody will, but 135 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:41,600 Speaker 1: you're just getting through at the moment. And I think 136 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:43,480 Speaker 1: everybody who's in that sort of position is going to 137 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:45,760 Speaker 1: have something that's not going to be perfect, so get 138 00:06:45,800 --> 00:06:47,640 Speaker 1: around yourself as well. You're doing a really good job. 139 00:06:47,880 --> 00:06:50,400 Speaker 2: Thanks Mane. I appreciate that. Love you love you too. 140 00:06:50,600 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 1: It's really what hear. 141 00:06:52,320 --> 00:06:55,240 Speaker 2: More of the boys on the Full Show podcast, all 142 00:06:55,320 --> 00:06:58,680 Speaker 2: on the iHeartRadio, w ap oh wherever you get your podcasts.