Speaker 1: Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms.
Speaker 2: This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.
Speaker 3: Oh Sweety Pies. It is Wednesday, the eleventh of October.
Speaker 3: I don't want to be the person who says spring
Speaker 3: has sprung, and for that reason life is good. But
Speaker 3: spring has in fact sprung. If you're in Sydney currently
Speaker 3: and dealing with a fly infestation, I really do feel
Speaker 3: for you. The videos I have seen are breaking my heart.
Speaker 3: I can't stand a fly, I really cannot. It's also
Speaker 3: if you're in New York experiencing flooding that and the
Speaker 3: right infestation, it's not looking good. I did have a
Speaker 3: nightmare about living in a basement apartment that was flooding
Speaker 3: because I saw a TikTok that was like, oh my god,
Speaker 3: if you live in basement apartments, this is why they
Speaker 3: go for so cheap in New York, because if it floods,
Speaker 3: you're the first one to go. Anyway, wanted to figure
Speaker 3: out should your rich friends cover the bill when you
Speaker 3: go out to dinner?
Speaker 4: Not quite sure. We'll figure it out together. Here's the party.
Speaker 4: You're listening to Flex and Frooms on Kita.
Speaker 3: It's been three weeks in a row of me talking
Speaker 3: about all the ways we're doing life wrong. And that's
Speaker 3: just because it's what's on my timeline right. But water
Speaker 3: in particular, I don't know if it's the FBI agent
Speaker 3: in my phone or water is trending, but I have
Speaker 3: been saying on and off for months now that I
Speaker 3: don't recall ever feeling hydrated, no matter how much water
Speaker 3: I do or don't drink, I just don't feel like
Speaker 3: I'm getting the real benefits of water drinking. And that
Speaker 3: led to a bunch of videos on my feed popping
Speaker 3: up of different ways to drink.
Speaker 4: Water and to be hydrated. When we talked about last week.
Speaker 3: Was putting a little bit of salt, a little bit
Speaker 3: of sugar, a little bit of a citrus, whether it's
Speaker 3: a lime or a lemon, and that works well for hydration.
Speaker 4: Have I tried it?
Speaker 2: No, No, nor have I No.
Speaker 4: I'm not picking up a new.
Speaker 3: Skill of hobby to drink some water this week. Though
Speaker 3: this insights come from a real pharmacist. It's a megamind
Speaker 3: pharmacist on TikTok site. Your sources always and they've said this, what.
Speaker 5: We call chugging or sculling water is not the right
Speaker 5: way to drink water when you're really thirsty. You see,
Speaker 5: the fast flow of water through your mouth actually removes
Speaker 5: the saliva from there, leaving the mouth feeling dry after
Speaker 5: you've had a whole cup of water. And this is
Speaker 5: why you continue to feel thirsty after drinking so much
Speaker 5: water when you're already thirsty. You should sip instead of skull.
Speaker 2: Are you serious?
Speaker 3: Where is gonna tell us this? And that's what's really
Speaker 3: pissing me off. We've spoken before about is there such
Speaker 3: as they're being too much information that we.
Speaker 4: Know what to do with them. We're getting every day
Speaker 4: on my feet. People are talking about how are the
Speaker 4: pyramids even really built?
Speaker 3: Don't even worry about that then, because we haven't even
Speaker 3: covered the basics. We're not drinking water right at our
Speaker 3: big age. Don't skull since when I.
Speaker 2: Thought that's the most best way to get high.
Speaker 4: No one's saying sip, sip, sip, sip sip. They're saying skull, skull, skull.
Speaker 2: No, they're saying, sip, don't skull.
Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying. We don't have a chance for sipping.
Speaker 4: Why are people leading us astray?
Speaker 5: Like?
Speaker 3: Why does it seem that everything that we've been taught
Speaker 3: to do is directly in opposition of what's necessary to
Speaker 3: be healthy and well speak on it.
Speaker 4: How can you.
Speaker 3: Say you need to adopt technology so you're not left behind,
Speaker 3: and now you want to turn around and saying if
Speaker 3: you use technology, you're going to be depressed.
Speaker 4: I don't want to hear it anymore.
Speaker 1: I I was probably still gonna be chugging water. Nothing
Speaker 1: better when you when you're thirsty.
Speaker 4: I just had a sip just then. Everyone was it good?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 4: It was great.
Speaker 3: Did say earlier in the show that the girlies were
Speaker 3: in distress. I meant the girlies who are in charge
Speaker 3: of writing articles on the internet. There's been an undertone
Speaker 3: of chaos in the best way possible. Now, we were't
Speaker 3: name and shame where these articles come from because it's
Speaker 3: all content, but I will say that it started a
Speaker 3: very important conversation of when is it okay to get
Speaker 3: back with your ex? And we want to know not
Speaker 3: when is it okay? That feels a bit bland, but
Speaker 3: when is it beneficial? When is it appropriate? When is
Speaker 3: it the desired outcome? When is it like the most
Speaker 3: obvious next step. That's what I'm looking for. I did
Speaker 3: skim read a few articles. The advice was kind of like,
Speaker 3: in the middle of nowhere, do whatever feels right for you, boob,
Speaker 3: because you've been doing up until this point. Going The
Speaker 3: way that I was approaching this break in particular, was
Speaker 3: thinking about if my friend came to me and said
Speaker 3: I was considering getting back with my ex, what would
Speaker 3: I say or do to help them make the decision.
Speaker 3: Now we've talked about the slippery slope of giving advice
Speaker 3: or giving feedback, and how you don't want to become
Speaker 3: responsible for the outcome that happened, and you don't want
Speaker 3: to be the person who's always having had a hard
Speaker 3: conversation with their friends. However, this is what I would do.
Speaker 3: I would give them these five questions to ask themselves,
Speaker 3: and I wouldn't workshop it with them. I would just
Speaker 3: ask the question and let them kind of lead themselves
Speaker 3: to the answers. Are you ready for the five questions?
Speaker 3: Listening to open comprehension, hats on? The first thing to
Speaker 3: ask yourself for going back to your ex is what
Speaker 3: actually ended the relationship, because I feel like when a
Speaker 3: couple months goes by, you kind of glaze over the
Speaker 3: details and you're stuck in the illusion of how good
Speaker 3: it once was. Let's get to the specifics. What ended
Speaker 3: the relationship? Was it a li of collaboration? Was it conflict?
Speaker 3: Was it infidelity? Was it a lack of trust? Was
Speaker 3: it poor timing? Was it distance? What was it?
Speaker 4: Actually?
Speaker 3: Which part of the breakup was your fault? We just
Speaker 3: need to know because if you say, actually, when I
Speaker 3: look back, the person was amazing, but I was just
Speaker 3: emotionally unavailable and that reflected in me being hot and
Speaker 3: cold cool, maybe you're like, my fault was that I
Speaker 3: didn't realize they were a loser to begin with, and
Speaker 3: that put a lot of pressure on me, and then
Speaker 3: I ended up resenting them.
Speaker 4: Who knows. Then you need to figure out what part of
Speaker 4: the breakup.
Speaker 3: Was their fault or what actions did they take or
Speaker 3: not take that led you to the outcome of not
Speaker 3: being together. The next question you need to ask yourself
Speaker 3: is what traits do you have now that you didn't
Speaker 3: have before that would make this work better. I feel
Speaker 3: like people go back to old situations not realizing that
Speaker 3: they're different and the person is different and the circumstances
Speaker 3: are different, which means that the outcome could be different.
Speaker 3: But if you haven't changed, and they haven't changed. It's
Speaker 3: just different times.
Speaker 2: Then you do people change?
Speaker 3: Well, I think life gives you perspective and you learned
Speaker 3: from other people's experiences, and so you might say this
Speaker 3: time last year, I believed in modding bills, and this
Speaker 3: time this year I don't split bills anymore. Or this
Speaker 3: time last year I believed in non monogamy, and this
Speaker 3: time this year I believe in monogamy, whatever it might be.
Speaker 3: But have you changed in any way that would make
Speaker 3: this a better circumstance for you? And the last one,
Speaker 3: and the most important one, the one that really really
Speaker 3: negates every other question you've answered thus far, Why are
Speaker 3: you actually considering circling back?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 4: Are they the right one for you?
Speaker 2: You dried up?
Speaker 4: Are you dried up? Are you a caucus? Are you
Speaker 4: just lonely?
Speaker 2: Are you a caucauss?
Speaker 4: What is it?
Speaker 3: And be honest, don't tell a really good story. Get
Speaker 3: to the root. Yeah, the reason why I didn't put
Speaker 3: that question first? I think that you could really glaze
Speaker 3: over the real reason. But you've done the assessment. You've
Speaker 3: asked these very four pointy questions to get to the
Speaker 3: fifth decider, Why are you actually considering circling back. Once
Speaker 3: you know and you're happy with that answer. You could
Speaker 3: tell a friend and not be embarrassed. You can tell
Speaker 3: a parent and not be ashamed. Then do what you
Speaker 3: need to do.
Speaker 2: Come to us.
Speaker 4: You're listening to flex and rooms.
Speaker 1: On Kita got a bit of a moral dilemma for you, Flexi.
Speaker 1: If you're out to dinner with a rich friend who
Speaker 1: is probably ten times wealthier than you, do you expect
Speaker 1: them to put the bill?
Speaker 2: Yes or no?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: This was covered in an article by Emily Vernon. She
Speaker 1: is a writer for Mom and Maya. The title is
Speaker 1: I expect my rich friends to pay for half of
Speaker 1: my dinner and you should too.
Speaker 2: Love a little bit of a sensation.
Speaker 1: She says that her friend is so wealthy that she
Speaker 1: doesn't like to dine at establishments at aren't a five
Speaker 1: star element. We're giving Sean's, we're giving Ursula's areas, justin
Speaker 1: Ham's areas.
Speaker 4: I don't know what you're talking about.
Speaker 1: Someone will and that's the time I've been going for anyway.
Speaker 1: She essentially says that she joked with her friend and said, oh,
Speaker 1: I'll come with you if you pay, and the friends
Speaker 1: said oh, I didn't want to impose on you and
Speaker 1: said that I will, but one hundred percent, I'm so happy.
Speaker 2: She got this. Friend is minted.
Speaker 1: What are the rules for covering dinner when you choose
Speaker 1: somewhere that you know your friend can't afford.
Speaker 2: We've been in this situation before.
Speaker 3: I'm sure I don't know the rules because I have
Speaker 3: generous friends and I'm a generous person. So it's like,
Speaker 3: whoever wants to pay pays, and often it's nice. I
Speaker 3: feel like my approach to paying for dinner it's like,
Speaker 3: oh my god, it's an appreciation of the experience I've
Speaker 3: just had, Like this was sick, it healed me.
Speaker 4: I've got it.
Speaker 2: But also like you didn't have it like that.
Speaker 4: I've got it like that.
Speaker 2: Can I have it like that?
Speaker 4: You gotta like that that.
Speaker 3: It's tricky because like different demographics, different tax brackets, whatever.
Speaker 3: But in this instance, this scenario says it all. Your
Speaker 3: friend insists on going five star. You don't have it
Speaker 3: like that, so clearly like they got it, so they
Speaker 3: should cover. But if you're just going somewhere that everybody
Speaker 3: has it like that, and it's chill bio and you're
Speaker 3: looking at the friend over there, this is yours. That's us.
Speaker 4: I like that.
Speaker 2: I couldn't add any more of that.
Speaker 4: Tech time, tech time, tech time. It's tech time with
Speaker 4: flexi prooms on kit. Yeah, we're about to get it.
Speaker 4: I found the future of dating.
Speaker 3: The movies did prepare us for this, The TV shows
Speaker 3: prepared us for this, and we're still stuck in virtual
Speaker 3: texting real people and that's outdated as of today. There's
Speaker 3: so much to discuss, But most importantly, I saw this thing,
Speaker 3: this website, this surface. When Francesca Farrago from Too Hot
Speaker 3: to Handle did a sponsored TikTok about it, She's basically like,
Speaker 3: oh my goodness, Like, I know so much of you,
Speaker 3: so many of you guys want to talk to me,
Speaker 3: and like, I just love my fans so much and
Speaker 3: it pains me that we can't spend a lot of
Speaker 3: time together. But thanks to this app, you know, you
Speaker 3: can feel like you're talking to me anytime of the day.
Speaker 3: You can chat to me, you can call me. It's
Speaker 3: my voice, and it's programmed to be just like me,
Speaker 3: so you can spend time with me whenever you want.
Speaker 4: It's perfect. I went back and.
Speaker 3: She had deleted it, so I knew it was about
Speaker 3: to be some nonsense. So anyone who I grew up
Speaker 3: in like, I would say I grew up in the nineties,
Speaker 3: but I'm pretty sure this was around in the eighties.
Speaker 4: You'd remember those.
Speaker 3: Ads for those services on late night TV where you
Speaker 3: call this number and it's like a steamy hotline chat
Speaker 3: room type of thing before chat rooms. So basically that
Speaker 3: like they'd invite you to have steamy conversations, but really
Speaker 3: you were bait because you were racking up huge phone
Speaker 3: bill charges to do this. Anyway, So this app thing
Speaker 3: is called Forever Companion. It's the twenty twenty three version
Speaker 3: of that. They say they can be your loyal virtual friend.
Speaker 3: It's an AI powered bot to keep you company, engage
Speaker 3: in fun conversations, and be all go to buddy whenever
Speaker 3: you need someone to talk to, whether you want to
Speaker 3: share your thoughts, to receive heartwarming messages, or simply have
Speaker 3: a good laugh. Forever Companion, that name is always by
Speaker 3: your side, ready to make your day brighter and your
Speaker 3: conversation is more enjoyable.
Speaker 4: So I was like, what is this.
Speaker 3: I started relentlessly googling articles I wanted to hear about
Speaker 3: the CEO or some kind of product development. What are
Speaker 3: you offering here? Basically, they said, like, we're not just
Speaker 3: about technology, about connecting. Our mission is to redefine companionship
Speaker 3: in the digital age, blending advanced AI technology with the
Speaker 3: raw essence of human conversation. What do you mean, how
Speaker 3: are you dating these chatbots? They go on to say
Speaker 3: that dating an AI chatbot is as simple as connecting
Speaker 3: an account through the platform and choosing a chatbot you
Speaker 3: want to interact with based on different personalities. You want
Speaker 3: someone sassy, you want someone calming. They've got someone for you.
Speaker 3: But the kicker is they're not just using robots. They're
Speaker 3: getting adult like OnlyFans creators to sign up to this platform,
Speaker 3: give them their likeness and their voice, so it feels
Speaker 3: like you're talking to your favorite adult creator.
Speaker 4: Babes, I said, how much is this?
Speaker 3: Apparently the messages start from a dollar per minute of
Speaker 3: audio and go up to ten dollars per minute depending
Speaker 3: on what level of experience you want to have or
Speaker 3: is it small talk or is it like down and dirty?
Speaker 3: Is it steamy? Babes, So maybe I'll try this because
Speaker 3: I feel like I need to know is it actually
Speaker 3: money to be spent here or is it just one
Speaker 3: of those things were like, after a couple of minutes,
Speaker 3: You're okay, shut up, I'm done.
Speaker 4: I will try it. I will get back to you.
Speaker 3: I will confirm once and for all if you should
Speaker 3: all delete your dating apps and find a virtual boyfriend
Speaker 3: and girlfriend, I mean virtual partner, virtual datum.
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