WEBVTT - Why are you so triggered? 🧐 G's Hotline ☎️ 0:00:00.520 --> 0:00:03.640 I'd like to acknowledge the traditional owners on which this 0:00:03.720 --> 0:00:08.160 episode is being recorded, the combo marry people. We pay 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:12.360 our respects to elders past, present and emerging and extend 0:00:12.480 --> 0:00:16.520 that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples. 0:00:16.560 --> 0:00:24.279 Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, and this is the 0:00:24.400 --> 0:00:32.080 Rise and Conquer Podcast. This is the podcast where which 0:00:32.120 --> 0:00:36.560 have mindset, self development and becoming your higher self mix 0:00:36.640 --> 0:00:39.440 soon with a lot of laughs, plus behind the scenes 0:00:39.479 --> 0:00:43.040 of my life running two businesses and being among Think 0:00:43.080 --> 0:00:45.599 of us as the perfect combo of brunch with your 0:00:45.640 --> 0:00:49.239 besties mixed with self development. No matter where you are 0:00:49.320 --> 0:00:52.040 in your journey, We're here to help you be curious, 0:00:52.280 --> 0:00:57.880 pull yourself out, and embrace radical self awareness. If you're 0:00:57.920 --> 0:01:00.280 ready to get into the driver's seat of your own 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:03.760 life and stop letting life past you by, then you're. 0:01:03.640 --> 0:01:04.399 In the right place. 0:01:11.360 --> 0:01:14.400 Hi, everybody, Welcome back to the R and C Potty 0:01:14.560 --> 0:01:19.800 and Happy Friday. Today's episode is a geez hotline and 0:01:20.040 --> 0:01:23.679 oh gosh, do we have some amazing questions for you today. 0:01:23.959 --> 0:01:27.200 So today we are managing shame and guilt in relation 0:01:27.319 --> 0:01:31.640 to money and success in business. We then unpack a 0:01:31.760 --> 0:01:35.959 question we got in DMS from a listener who got 0:01:35.959 --> 0:01:39.399 triggered by me and my posts about going to the 0:01:39.400 --> 0:01:43.160 Morgan walln concept. Can I just say I loved this 0:01:43.240 --> 0:01:47.280 message so much. I loved unpacking it. I also really 0:01:47.319 --> 0:01:48.600 loved the first question, Hey. 0:01:48.560 --> 0:01:52.840 Tia, another amazing question. I think these are our best questions. 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:55.080 Literally, I'm gonna say one of the best hotlines, so 0:01:55.200 --> 0:01:58.680 strap in. She's a bit bloody fun. But before we 0:01:58.720 --> 0:02:01.640 get into it, of course, our week update a tear. 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:03.560 It's been so busy. 0:02:04.440 --> 0:02:08.600 What haven't we done this week? So we had a shoot, 0:02:09.600 --> 0:02:14.239 That's all we can say. It involved Ivy and it's 0:02:14.280 --> 0:02:17.000 so cute and it's really cute. You guys are gonna. 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:23.160 Love it all my boots and Ivy had little boots too, 0:02:24.639 --> 0:02:25.440 so cute. 0:02:25.639 --> 0:02:27.840 She didn't like them. She didn't like them one bit, 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:29.840 not at all. We actually had to take it, but 0:02:30.000 --> 0:02:32.440 we loved you. Yeah, we thought they were cute. And 0:02:32.480 --> 0:02:37.480 then also, guys you may have already seen, but we 0:02:37.800 --> 0:02:43.440 are launching limited edition Life Happens for Me journaling boxes. 0:02:43.200 --> 0:02:44.400 And they're the best ever. 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:48.639 So this is something we have been curating for a 0:02:48.760 --> 0:02:52.960 very long time and basically we were like, what's something 0:02:53.080 --> 0:02:58.600 we can give the RNC community that completely creates the vibe. 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:03.120 The vibe but for manifesting your dream life, for unpacking 0:03:03.160 --> 0:03:07.000 those triggers, for doing all the things. And so, as 0:03:07.040 --> 0:03:09.800 you guys know, we launched the Life Happens for Me 0:03:09.960 --> 0:03:13.840 journals previous this year and they sold out so quickly, 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:19.000 you guys are obsessed. It's a six month journaling manifestation journal, 0:03:19.560 --> 0:03:22.360 and we just thought we're going to create the whole experience. 0:03:23.000 --> 0:03:28.240 So the Life Happens for Me boxes include Life Happens 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:33.240 for Me Journal, a Life Happens for Me, cute glass tumbler. 0:03:33.160 --> 0:03:34.520 And it's it's the best thing. 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:37.760 It's the bubble mug. If you haven't seen the hints 0:03:37.800 --> 0:03:40.320 we've been giving you a lot, it's a cute little 0:03:40.320 --> 0:03:42.840 pink bubble mug you may have seen around. It can 0:03:42.960 --> 0:03:46.840 hold cold or hot liquid. I personally love putting my 0:03:47.040 --> 0:03:52.840 ice coffee in that. I love doing like cute little juices. Wait, 0:03:52.880 --> 0:03:55.840 are you doing coffee anymore? No? I am, but just 0:03:56.520 --> 0:03:59.520 not really, Yeah you're not, okay, I drink. 0:03:59.280 --> 0:04:00.960 Clarity coffee of course. 0:04:02.280 --> 0:04:07.240 Of course we also have a gorgeous butterfly diffuser, so 0:04:07.280 --> 0:04:11.400 We chose the butterfly because it represents growth and the 0:04:11.640 --> 0:04:14.400 RNC signature scent and. 0:04:14.280 --> 0:04:15.040 She's pretty good. 0:04:15.400 --> 0:04:16.960 Oh my god, she's amazing. 0:04:17.200 --> 0:04:18.400 Literally the best sent ever. 0:04:18.600 --> 0:04:21.480 A couple of drops and fuck she's powerful. Yeah, she's 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:23.800 like how would you describe the scent etia. 0:04:23.839 --> 0:04:26.840 It's so weird because every time I explain it, I 0:04:26.839 --> 0:04:31.080 feel like I'm contradicting myself. But it's so calming but 0:04:31.320 --> 0:04:34.680 so energizing. Like it's a very soft energy and it's 0:04:34.720 --> 0:04:36.200 exactly what you want when you journal. 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:39.760 It's activating. Yeah, Like I smell it and I'm like, 0:04:39.920 --> 0:04:43.760 I feel activated, but not in an anxiety. I've just 0:04:43.800 --> 0:04:47.040 had a coffee way activated in a grounded way. Yes, 0:04:47.200 --> 0:04:49.320 So that's why I completely know what you're saying. And 0:04:49.400 --> 0:04:51.640 until you smell it, you won't get it. Yeah, and 0:04:51.760 --> 0:04:54.400 you'll be like that makes no sense, but trust us. 0:04:55.040 --> 0:05:00.080 So these boxes are going online next week next Wednesday. 0:05:00.279 --> 0:05:04.279 They are limited edition. Also, something really special about these 0:05:04.320 --> 0:05:07.840 boxes is ten dollars from every box will be going 0:05:07.880 --> 0:05:12.320 to Pink Elephants Support Network. So basically, this is an 0:05:12.360 --> 0:05:17.800 amazing charity who supports females going through early pregnancy loss. 0:05:18.120 --> 0:05:20.880 So obviously this is very special to my heart as 0:05:20.920 --> 0:05:24.800 I experience a miscarriage before Ivy Girl, and it is 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:29.120 it's a really it's a really hard and confusing time, 0:05:29.520 --> 0:05:31.720 and it's a subject that not a lot of people 0:05:32.120 --> 0:05:35.479 even speak about, and it can feel very. 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:36.799 Taboo and. 0:05:38.480 --> 0:05:41.280 It can even feel like a shameful because no one's 0:05:41.279 --> 0:05:45.560 speaking about it. And so, yeah, so this charity is 0:05:45.600 --> 0:05:49.520 so beautiful. They help, you know, mums going through this 0:05:50.440 --> 0:05:54.640 have support and have a network. And yeah, so we're 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:58.200 really proud to be partnering with Pink Elephants and a 0:05:58.279 --> 0:06:00.919 tear do and explain why it's called pink elephants. So 0:06:01.520 --> 0:06:04.560 they're called pink elephants because it's believed that when a 0:06:04.600 --> 0:06:08.200 mother elephant loses her baby, the elephant stand in a 0:06:08.240 --> 0:06:11.600 circle around her, allowing her all the time she needs 0:06:11.640 --> 0:06:12.679 to grieve and mourn. 0:06:13.720 --> 0:06:17.040 My whole heart, I know, it's so beautiful. I love elephants. 0:06:17.160 --> 0:06:21.120 I'm gonna cry what elephants. 0:06:21.800 --> 0:06:24.320 Yeah, so we're really proud to be giving ten dollars 0:06:24.360 --> 0:06:27.520 away from every single box. So it's a really really 0:06:27.600 --> 0:06:32.680 exciting launch for us because it's about really curating your environment. 0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:38.760 You have this whole you know, process and really beautiful 0:06:39.120 --> 0:06:42.560 ritual for journaling. And yeah, it's all in this beautiful 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:44.839 box that it looks like a coffee table book, doesn't 0:06:44.839 --> 0:06:45.240 it to er? 0:06:45.440 --> 0:06:47.920 It does, and I can't wait to like keep mine 0:06:47.920 --> 0:06:50.120 on my bedside table because it's also like such a 0:06:50.120 --> 0:06:52.000 good reminder. When you look at it, you'll go, oh, 0:06:52.040 --> 0:06:53.560 I have to do my journaling today. 0:06:53.839 --> 0:06:55.760 And that's what I wanted. I was like, keep the 0:06:55.800 --> 0:06:58.360 box out, you can have all your beautiful little things 0:06:58.400 --> 0:07:01.520 in it, because I really love it too, because yeah, 0:07:01.600 --> 0:07:04.440 you have this beautiful box. It's like coffee table vibes. 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:06.840 So wanted to make sure you could keep that and 0:07:06.920 --> 0:07:09.600 style it. And then it's beautiful because you can rich 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:12.680 literally put all the products back in and it's like 0:07:12.880 --> 0:07:14.520 you can create the ritual wherever. 0:07:14.920 --> 0:07:19.920 Yeah, on the go, on the go, get your diffuse 0:07:20.000 --> 0:07:21.440 it out, get you to fuse it out. 0:07:21.600 --> 0:07:24.080 Oh my god, we're so funny. But go and check 0:07:24.200 --> 0:07:26.800 out our social media because we have all the information 0:07:26.840 --> 0:07:29.520 there and they're so body cute. And I do want 0:07:29.520 --> 0:07:32.280 to stress they are limited edition. Once they are gone, 0:07:32.680 --> 0:07:36.680 they are gone, very very limited. Yeah. Look, well we 0:07:36.800 --> 0:07:39.200 just this is you know, we wanted to do something 0:07:39.760 --> 0:07:43.200 that create an amazing experience few but also has a 0:07:43.240 --> 0:07:47.680 really impactful message and so to partner with Pink Elephants 0:07:47.680 --> 0:07:50.840 Support Network on this and ten dollars from every single 0:07:50.880 --> 0:07:53.800 box go to them is just it's incredible, but they 0:07:53.840 --> 0:07:57.160 are limited. So if you do want your own rn C, 0:07:57.520 --> 0:08:02.160 life happens for me, a journaling bob makes your you know, 0:08:02.360 --> 0:08:04.920 makes you got your alarm on, said you. And it's 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:09.280 also a beautiful gift so true. It's like the perfect 0:08:09.360 --> 0:08:11.880 gift box, Like if you have a bestday's birthday coming 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:15.760 up or your own the perfect gift, especially if she's 0:08:15.800 --> 0:08:18.920 trying to get into self development, it's yeah, or like 0:08:19.080 --> 0:08:22.840 just start journally, I tear what the perfect Mother's day gift? 0:08:23.280 --> 0:08:24.600 Yeah it is. 0:08:24.720 --> 0:08:25.560 I didn't think about that. 0:08:26.280 --> 0:08:30.240 Love that for us by self owned box. 0:08:30.320 --> 0:08:36.800 Yeah, before we get into that. 0:08:36.840 --> 0:08:39.080 Oh okay, yeah, what are we doing? 0:08:39.280 --> 0:08:42.760 We have our little Friday segment and today's segment is 0:08:42.760 --> 0:08:50.040 a manifesting story. Ooh Jordie, this is insane. How insane 0:08:50.040 --> 0:08:52.560 scale I one to text, I think you're gonna scream. Okay, 0:08:52.679 --> 0:08:56.040 So this is from our project Facebook group and I 0:08:56.080 --> 0:08:58.439 couldn't get over it because I don't think i'd react 0:08:58.480 --> 0:09:00.240 as well as this person as so. 0:09:00.320 --> 0:09:02.720 Is this the round that just had has been? 0:09:02.920 --> 0:09:03.199 Yeah? 0:09:03.320 --> 0:09:06.600 Round seeks it just finished? Tell me, tell me, tell me, okay, 0:09:06.640 --> 0:09:07.079 I'm ready. 0:09:07.280 --> 0:09:11.480 So last week I bought a two dollars scratchy, read 0:09:11.480 --> 0:09:16.320 the instructions, scratched away, thought oh, how cool if I 0:09:16.400 --> 0:09:19.000 get this other one I just won twenty five k, 0:09:19.480 --> 0:09:22.080 didn't get what I thought I needed, and threw it 0:09:22.120 --> 0:09:24.559 away like if she scratched another symbol she'd get twenty 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:24.920 five k. 0:09:25.080 --> 0:09:25.880 Oh okay yah ya. 0:09:26.240 --> 0:09:30.520 This week I was given basically the same Scratchy, read 0:09:30.559 --> 0:09:34.760 the instructions and realized I did, in fact win twenty 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:39.080 five thousand dollars on the one I threw away also 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:42.679 happens to be the exact value I'm currently manifesting. 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:46.000 Annoying, but that's what it has. 0:09:45.960 --> 0:09:48.920 Taken for me to realize I do still have limiting 0:09:48.960 --> 0:09:52.320 beliefs around that I thought I had worked through. I 0:09:52.440 --> 0:09:55.720 read the instructions maybe five times before I threw it 0:09:55.800 --> 0:10:00.319 out because it can't be that easy. Quote unquote here 0:10:00.320 --> 0:10:03.800 we are, thank you, Universe. Message received. The money will 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:06.240 show up for me in another way. 0:10:07.160 --> 0:10:16.280 No a tea, no this sing I do because I'm 0:10:16.280 --> 0:10:21.480 so fucking like not observant. Yeah, oh my god, no, 0:10:21.760 --> 0:10:22.319 is she sure? 0:10:22.840 --> 0:10:23.680 Yeah? 0:10:24.120 --> 0:10:28.240 Oh I love like I love her reaction. 0:10:28.040 --> 0:10:31.120 Me too, Fuck me, it was like I'd be diving 0:10:31.120 --> 0:10:31.520 in the bin. 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:35.960 Yeah, I'd be. It's giving me the vibes where Tim 0:10:36.000 --> 0:10:38.360 nearly threw out my wedding dress, I nearly died. 0:10:41.840 --> 0:10:44.160 No, But also I. 0:10:44.080 --> 0:10:44.719 Love that for her. 0:10:45.000 --> 0:10:47.040 I love that she just got twenty five k like that. 0:10:47.559 --> 0:10:51.840 Yeah, it felt too easy, you know, that's so interesting. 0:10:51.920 --> 0:10:55.200 I had the exact same experience when someone I knew 0:10:55.760 --> 0:10:59.160 won a lot of money, and I in my head, 0:10:59.240 --> 0:11:03.000 I was just like, wow, I have this full belief 0:11:03.040 --> 0:11:05.160 that no, you have to work really really hard for 0:11:05.200 --> 0:11:08.520 your money and you get to have a lot of money, 0:11:08.600 --> 0:11:10.640 but it's like, you gotta work really hard, and it's 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:14.360 also got to just come through my business. And I 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:16.719 had a huge moment of like, oh, I do have 0:11:16.760 --> 0:11:20.520 some limiting beliefs around money. So that's incredible. Fuck she 0:11:20.520 --> 0:11:21.920 she took that, well she did. 0:11:22.679 --> 0:11:23.680 Oh, that's a different word. 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:24.160 I don't know. 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:26.800 It's a bit of a different manifesting story. But I 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:29.280 thought it'd be a fun story for everyone to hear. 0:11:29.679 --> 0:11:30.600 Life happens for me. 0:11:30.760 --> 0:11:32.439 Yeah, that's what she's saying. 0:11:35.679 --> 0:12:01.760 Let's get into the episode. 0:11:49.600 --> 0:11:50.440 Our first question. 0:11:51.040 --> 0:11:53.679 I own a beauty salon with a team of six 0:11:53.800 --> 0:11:57.640 incredible therapists. I've owned my own salon for years now 0:11:57.840 --> 0:12:00.040 and have worked extremely hard to get it to the 0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:03.600 point that it's at long twelve hour days, six days 0:12:03.600 --> 0:12:06.640 a week kind of things. However, for the last two 0:12:06.720 --> 0:12:10.360 years I have not been working on the floor in 0:12:10.440 --> 0:12:13.480 my salon as I had two babies quite close together. 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:17.400 I work on the business now and not in the business. 0:12:18.280 --> 0:12:21.439 Where my limiting belief comes into this is I always 0:12:21.480 --> 0:12:25.160 feel ashamed and embarrassed and lessen my achievements or money 0:12:25.200 --> 0:12:30.080 I've made down since stepping off the floor. I'm so 0:12:30.760 --> 0:12:33.520 consumed by what I think my team think of me 0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:36.840 if I make good money whilst not physically working in 0:12:36.920 --> 0:12:40.080 the cell on seeing clients. I have once had a 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:42.679 team member comment on what I was wearing and how 0:12:42.760 --> 0:12:46.040 much it would have cost. She has also commented during 0:12:46.080 --> 0:12:49.040 team meetings that I only care about making money and 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:53.240 that why we have targets in place. I then feel 0:12:53.280 --> 0:12:55.040 like I need to say that I'm not getting a 0:12:55.080 --> 0:12:58.400 wage from the business, which I am, and that my 0:12:58.520 --> 0:13:01.400 husband buys me nice things, just so I don't feel 0:13:01.400 --> 0:13:04.360 embarrassed by it. I know this is a huge block 0:13:04.400 --> 0:13:07.840 for me now, but I'm not sure how to overcome 0:13:07.880 --> 0:13:11.000 it and own what I have around my team members. 0:13:12.360 --> 0:13:15.480 Oh's a good one. I love this question. 0:13:15.720 --> 0:13:18.280 First of all, like, thank you for being so honest 0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:22.600 and transparent and so vulnerable. Yeah, I really appreciate this, 0:13:22.640 --> 0:13:24.680 and I think this is like I feel like a 0:13:24.679 --> 0:13:28.360 lot of people would be able to resonate with this. So, 0:13:28.480 --> 0:13:31.480 first of all, something that came up for me is 0:13:32.440 --> 0:13:37.000 like the first thing here is you're projecting onto your 0:13:37.120 --> 0:13:44.120 staff about what they think, Like you're making assumptions and 0:13:44.400 --> 0:13:48.280 if you live your life like projecting and making assumptions 0:13:48.960 --> 0:13:52.760 and they're like not that great. It's kind of like 0:13:53.920 --> 0:13:58.480 what's that saying where it's almost like worrying about the 0:13:58.520 --> 0:14:00.960 anxiety before the thing even happens. 0:14:01.280 --> 0:14:04.120 Oh, like, don't worry about things because you're just putting 0:14:04.120 --> 0:14:05.720 yourself through the pain twice kind of. 0:14:05.720 --> 0:14:09.640 But yeah, so it's like you're projecting that you know 0:14:09.720 --> 0:14:13.480 your staff see you in the light where you're potentially greedy, 0:14:13.640 --> 0:14:17.480 you potentially don't work hard for your money. And this 0:14:17.559 --> 0:14:21.520 is such an interesting thing because if you don't do 0:14:21.600 --> 0:14:26.000 the work on yourself and where these projections are coming from. 0:14:26.520 --> 0:14:29.560 This is not only going to limit you from making 0:14:29.640 --> 0:14:34.920 more money and actually enjoying your wealth and what you 0:14:35.000 --> 0:14:38.000 have created, but it's also just taking up a lot 0:14:38.040 --> 0:14:42.400 of like rent in your brain, Yeah, like rent space 0:14:42.480 --> 0:14:45.040 in your brain. And it's like, do you want to 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:48.840 like live a life where you project that people see 0:14:48.880 --> 0:14:51.480 you in a certain way? And I totally get like 0:14:51.600 --> 0:14:55.520 there was a comment there, and that makes that makes sense. 0:14:55.560 --> 0:14:59.040 But also for example, if someone was to comment to 0:14:59.120 --> 0:15:01.960 me about the car drive or the clothes that I wear, 0:15:02.400 --> 0:15:05.160 my reaction is, yeah, I work fucking hard for this, 0:15:05.320 --> 0:15:08.000 and you know, yeah, like yeah, of course I fucking 0:15:08.040 --> 0:15:12.240 bought a Tessa. Yeah, why wouldn't you. Yeah, And if 0:15:12.280 --> 0:15:15.600 you've got a problem, that that's your problem, not mine. Yeah, 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:18.920 And then like you're not then wasting the energy of 0:15:19.000 --> 0:15:20.960 being like, oh but do they think I'm greedy? 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:22.600 You know what? 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:26.480 Do they think I've been carelessly? Do you think I'm materialistic? 0:15:26.760 --> 0:15:28.840 And like all that energy where it's like that could 0:15:28.880 --> 0:15:31.280 go somewhere else. And then also the limitation here is 0:15:31.560 --> 0:15:33.680 you will find you get to a point where you 0:15:33.720 --> 0:15:36.720 won't be able to make a certain amount, like you 0:15:36.760 --> 0:15:38.560 will get to a point story where you won't be 0:15:38.720 --> 0:15:42.680 able to make more than a certain amount because your 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:45.160 subconscious will be like, if I make more than this, 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:48.960 I am more alienated, I am more frowned upon, I 0:15:49.000 --> 0:15:52.080 am more blah blah blah. So it's like energetically, you 0:15:52.120 --> 0:15:55.480 would never go past that. So you would then limit 0:15:55.560 --> 0:16:00.480 yourself because that's like the energetics of money. If you 0:16:00.560 --> 0:16:03.240 think people that earn the money that you're earning a 0:16:03.360 --> 0:16:05.880 quote unquote greedy, all that sort of thing is, it's 0:16:05.920 --> 0:16:09.360 going to be hard to evolve from that level of wealth. 0:16:09.960 --> 0:16:12.640 So that's kind of talking like money manifestation. 0:16:13.080 --> 0:16:15.240 I'd say more what came through for me was like 0:16:15.480 --> 0:16:19.120 a weave. It's almost like her money limiting beliefs and 0:16:19.320 --> 0:16:23.000 her self trust and is like woven in and they're 0:16:23.040 --> 0:16:25.880 like all interlinked, all these like few limiting beliefs on 0:16:26.320 --> 0:16:29.560 she feels guilty for having money. She feels she's obviously 0:16:29.600 --> 0:16:31.600 got a limiting belief in that you have to work 0:16:31.640 --> 0:16:33.520 hard to have money because she feels like she's not 0:16:33.600 --> 0:16:37.160 working hard huge But also I would say, you're probably 0:16:37.200 --> 0:16:40.200 working hard because you're working on the business, just because 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:44.320 you're not physically serving customers, doesn't mean you're not doing invoicing. 0:16:44.360 --> 0:16:47.120 It doesn't mean you're not managing your team and doing 0:16:47.120 --> 0:16:49.440 the roster. And even if you're not doing the roster, 0:16:49.520 --> 0:16:53.840 you're doing your expansion plan like you're planning the future 0:16:53.880 --> 0:16:57.560 of the business. But also you work twelve hour days 0:16:57.560 --> 0:17:00.600 for six days a week, like taking as time luidly 0:17:02.320 --> 0:17:05.000 I know, And I think that's also like I for me, 0:17:05.040 --> 0:17:07.560 I feel like that part is irrelevant. Yeah, don't you 0:17:07.600 --> 0:17:12.119 reckon like, for example, a tear, even though you do 0:17:12.560 --> 0:17:15.119 see me face to face a lot. But it's like 0:17:15.240 --> 0:17:18.800 sometimes I won't be here or sometimes I'll be on 0:17:18.880 --> 0:17:21.720 holidays and everyone's working. Yeah, and it's like, do you think. 0:17:21.680 --> 0:17:24.639 I don't work on I know, not at all. Like 0:17:24.640 --> 0:17:24.960 that's I. 0:17:24.960 --> 0:17:27.679 Feel like that's not even a thought because I know 0:17:27.800 --> 0:17:30.959 that you are emotionally intelligent. 0:17:31.080 --> 0:17:31.359 Yeah. 0:17:31.400 --> 0:17:33.240 And also it's like. 0:17:33.320 --> 0:17:35.080 I don't give a fuck what you think about me 0:17:35.280 --> 0:17:35.880 now I do. 0:17:35.960 --> 0:17:36.320 I do it. 0:17:36.800 --> 0:17:37.679 I enjoy it. 0:17:37.760 --> 0:17:40.399 But it's like, you know, if I am going to 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:44.440 place my worth on like how many hours I work 0:17:44.560 --> 0:17:47.919 or what that means, I think it's also okay, So 0:17:48.000 --> 0:17:49.920 the big thing here that I can see I've just 0:17:49.960 --> 0:17:54.320 had something else. She hasn't evolved her identity, like she 0:17:54.920 --> 0:17:58.560 is stuck where she's like, because that's for instance, I've 0:17:58.600 --> 0:18:02.000 been in a similar situation where it's like, for example, 0:18:02.760 --> 0:18:04.720 you know, I've done the thing where it's like I 0:18:04.800 --> 0:18:07.800 post all my content for my own page and for 0:18:07.920 --> 0:18:11.199 Naked Harvest, I create, I edit, I post all my content. 0:18:11.680 --> 0:18:15.520 I don't do that anymore. But it's I don't think that, 0:18:15.960 --> 0:18:18.800 you know, I am all of a sudden working less 0:18:18.800 --> 0:18:21.800 because I don't do that specific job. I have just 0:18:22.080 --> 0:18:25.399 upgraded my identity of now I do different things in 0:18:25.400 --> 0:18:28.840 the business and also upgraded my identity where it's like, 0:18:29.000 --> 0:18:32.639 if the business doesn't have a visionary who's so clear 0:18:32.920 --> 0:18:36.280 on where the business is going and what's important to 0:18:36.320 --> 0:18:40.040 the team and how they want to lead, it's like 0:18:40.240 --> 0:18:43.280 it's not going to be a growing business. Yeah, And 0:18:43.359 --> 0:18:46.720 so I think it's like, you know, in her head, 0:18:47.000 --> 0:18:50.879 her identity is okay, So to work hard, I've got 0:18:50.920 --> 0:18:54.120 to work twelve hours days, six days a week. I've 0:18:54.119 --> 0:18:55.960 got to be on the floor. I've got to work 0:18:56.000 --> 0:18:58.480 really hard for my money. But it's like I need 0:18:58.520 --> 0:19:01.479 people to see me working hard for my yeah, but 0:19:01.520 --> 0:19:03.359 it's like that's not actually we all know that's not 0:19:03.400 --> 0:19:06.159 actually true because there's fucking billionaires out there just like 0:19:06.240 --> 0:19:08.840 taking a couple of calls and holidaying and you know, 0:19:09.119 --> 0:19:13.000 like really like doing things differently. Yeah, so of course 0:19:13.000 --> 0:19:14.040 you can do things differently. 0:19:14.240 --> 0:19:14.520 Yeah. 0:19:14.560 --> 0:19:18.160 So it's like she needs to upgrade her identity about 0:19:18.240 --> 0:19:22.720 who she is. They're not letting things shake her when 0:19:22.760 --> 0:19:26.480 people are different. And also in this part too, I 0:19:26.520 --> 0:19:29.160 think there needs to be a point here where it's 0:19:29.359 --> 0:19:32.320 I personally have been looking too this core belief of 0:19:32.760 --> 0:19:36.359 I am generous with how people see me let me 0:19:37.560 --> 0:19:40.880 She's like, what that I'm trying to understand. So, for example, 0:19:41.000 --> 0:19:44.000 in this moment, I am going to be if I'm 0:19:44.040 --> 0:19:47.480 her sorry, yeah, I'm going to be generous that my team, 0:19:47.760 --> 0:19:51.600 if they see me not working, they trust that I'm 0:19:51.640 --> 0:19:54.800 actually like a key part of the business and I've 0:19:54.840 --> 0:19:57.439 got them. I'm going to be over generous with what 0:19:57.640 --> 0:20:01.760 I think they're like a lot I'm rejecting. So for example, 0:20:02.119 --> 0:20:04.200 like I just said before, like just because a tear 0:20:04.240 --> 0:20:07.080 doesn't see me in the office at the exact times 0:20:07.800 --> 0:20:11.600 she is, I'm gonna assume she knows I work really hard, 0:20:11.600 --> 0:20:14.639 and also she knows I'm a great leader. Yeah, because 0:20:15.600 --> 0:20:18.440 until we discuss otherwise, I'm not gonna assume the worst. 0:20:18.440 --> 0:20:21.720 I'm gonna assume the best. And like, imagine if you 0:20:21.800 --> 0:20:24.480 did that how And it's human nature we assume the 0:20:24.480 --> 0:20:27.080 worst so we can like fix the problem. But it's like, 0:20:27.320 --> 0:20:30.800 and that's even me and Ellie was thinking about something 0:20:30.840 --> 0:20:33.439 the other day. I kind of forget the context, but 0:20:33.680 --> 0:20:36.679 I just thought, Oh, it was like something on social 0:20:36.720 --> 0:20:40.320 media about someone posting or something like that, and I 0:20:40.440 --> 0:20:44.119 was like, oh, like, that's like it's not directed at me, Like, 0:20:44.240 --> 0:20:46.439 I don't assume that they're targeting me. Why would I 0:20:46.440 --> 0:20:46.719 think that? 0:20:47.000 --> 0:20:47.440 Yeah? 0:20:47.440 --> 0:20:49.159 And She's like, oh, no, I think they're talking you 0:20:49.400 --> 0:20:51.639 know what you're talking about. And I'm like, nah, I 0:20:51.960 --> 0:20:55.960 assume that person doesn't target me, Yeah, because why have 0:20:56.040 --> 0:20:59.160 your back? Why would they? Yes? And then I that's 0:20:59.200 --> 0:21:02.680 the world I live. Yeah, because also imagine because also 0:21:02.720 --> 0:21:05.280 I can't fucking do anything about whatever that person is 0:21:05.320 --> 0:21:07.920 doing or saying. Imagine living in a world where you're 0:21:07.920 --> 0:21:11.680 so vigi like vigilant too. Is that the word vigilant? 0:21:12.320 --> 0:21:15.800 No, I don't know what word vigilant. 0:21:15.960 --> 0:21:19.439 Vigilant you're just like very onto, like who's saying what 0:21:19.480 --> 0:21:19.840 about me? 0:21:20.000 --> 0:21:23.919 Yeah, vigilant, Why is it saying that? 0:21:24.040 --> 0:21:25.840 Don't doesn't mean I know, like. 0:21:25.840 --> 0:21:27.800 No one can see me. But it's if you go 0:21:27.880 --> 0:21:30.639 through life and you assume the worst that this person 0:21:30.720 --> 0:21:33.919 is saying bad things about you, this person was talking 0:21:33.960 --> 0:21:37.120 about you. It's almost like taking things really personally too. 0:21:37.440 --> 0:21:40.720 I love that, and it's almost like assume the best 0:21:41.160 --> 0:21:44.159 and if it's anything, but it's on them to communicate 0:21:44.200 --> 0:21:47.480 with that that with you, not your job to preemptively 0:21:47.520 --> 0:21:47.919 fix it. 0:21:48.240 --> 0:21:51.280 Yes, like I said at the start, like she's projecting 0:21:51.320 --> 0:21:54.040 that her staff don't think she works hard. Also just 0:21:54.080 --> 0:21:58.960 gonna bring something in so like bit of shadow work here. 0:21:59.720 --> 0:22:04.280 If if she is constantly having these feelings of my 0:22:04.400 --> 0:22:07.679 team think I'm greedy, my team think I don't work hard, 0:22:08.000 --> 0:22:12.320 where inside you do you actually feel greedy? Do you 0:22:12.440 --> 0:22:15.760