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Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the

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Speaker 1: Merry people. They've been having conversations and telling stories on

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Speaker 1: This is Rise and Conquer, the podcast where we strive

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Speaker 1: to become the highest version of ourselves through curious conversations,

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Speaker 1: healthy mindsets, laughter, connection, and a deep desire to evolve.

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Speaker 1: I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson. Join me as we explore parenthood, business, manifestation,

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Speaker 1: and so much more. It's positive, it's practical, and it's

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Speaker 1: about putting you in the driver's seat of your own life.

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Speaker 1: Are you ready?

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Speaker 2: Hey everyone, it's Cooper here. I am Georgia's brother. If

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Speaker 2: you didn't know, we've got a few businesses together. I'm

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Speaker 2: the co director of Rus and Conger as well. You

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Speaker 2: might have heard of me before. I am jumping on

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Speaker 2: and I'm going to be doing a solo episode, so

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Speaker 2: I hope you enjoy. First of all, I want to

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Speaker 2: tell a story and then we're gonna diagnose what kind

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Speaker 2: of happened. Because I got told from my good friend

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Speaker 2: my two little boys, Body and Billy, and it was

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Speaker 2: And he said that you'd done a really good job

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Speaker 2: and it was very big, and I thought it was

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Speaker 2: is the other weekend, I was just at home with

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Speaker 2: Then I don't press on it anymore. But in this

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Speaker 2: So when I said, hey, like I don't want to

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Speaker 2: the end of the day, the relationship is number one

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Speaker 2: that's what I've learned over this time, and I hope

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Speaker 2: you've enjoyed. I hope you have the best day, and

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Speaker 2: I will see you on the next podcast. Thanks.

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