WEBVTT - Ask Uncut - the not so purrrfect Met Gala

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<v Speaker 1>Life Uncut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose lands

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<v Speaker 1>were never seated. We pay our respects to their elders

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<v Speaker 1>past and present.

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<v Speaker 2>Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was

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<v Speaker 2>recorded on de rug Wallamuta Land.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey guys, and we'll welcome back to another episode of

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<v Speaker 1>Life Uncut.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm Brittany, I'm Laura. You don't want to keep talking

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<v Speaker 3>about my crooks.

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<v Speaker 1>No, you've already offended me in my fashion today, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to talk about it.

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<v Speaker 3>I said, your shoes look like the inside of a big.

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<v Speaker 1>No, you cook your quote. So what the fuck are they?

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<v Speaker 1>They are the ugliest things I see. They look like

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<v Speaker 1>a whitehead pimple. And I said, these are my five

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<v Speaker 1>dollar slides from cotton on body and I love them.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what they say, you can't buy taste. I

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<v Speaker 1>love that This is coming from Laura, at the least

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<v Speaker 1>fashionable person in the world. Okay, before we get into

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<v Speaker 1>the episode, I'm unwell and I know I sound unwells.

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<v Speaker 1>I want you guys to know that I know that

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<v Speaker 1>you know that I know that I'm unwell and sound

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<v Speaker 1>needs you.

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<v Speaker 3>Actually, I'm fine, not.

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<v Speaker 1>In my ears. And also Keisha told me to, and

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<v Speaker 1>she's the producer, so I trust him.

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<v Speaker 3>Moll, Yeah, I don't trust anything.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like we pay her, so I need to

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<v Speaker 1>listen to what she says. I think I'm an unhealthy person.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't really eat vegetables lately. I don't think I've

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<v Speaker 1>been looking after myself, and I think that this is

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<v Speaker 1>my body being like pull your finger out, because I

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<v Speaker 1>just feel like I hit the my mid thirties and

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<v Speaker 1>I got really lazy. And I've never been that person.

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<v Speaker 1>I've always been like so into my health, so into

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<v Speaker 1>my fitness, and all of a sudden, you hit mid

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<v Speaker 1>thirties and you're like, I don't want to get up

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<v Speaker 1>early and.

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<v Speaker 3>Go to the gym anymore. Who does, though?

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<v Speaker 1>But I think I need to do.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what it is.

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<v Speaker 2>The reason why it's stopped for you now is not

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<v Speaker 2>because you hit your mid thirties. It's because you're in

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<v Speaker 2>a happy relationship. It's like as soon as you bag it,

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<v Speaker 2>as soon as you get one and you've got them

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<v Speaker 2>locked in, then you're like a hahf fuck yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>But I meaning the gym for not me.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm in a relationship with someone whose job it is

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<v Speaker 1>to be fit and healthy.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, it's good that he's doing it for both of you,

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<v Speaker 3>That's what I said. I was speaking of Si.

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<v Speaker 2>I just went into the bathroom. This is way too

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<v Speaker 2>much information. Yeah, okay, so we work. We're recording this

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<v Speaker 2>at our a RN offices and this is like a

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<v Speaker 2>shared communal studio. He has three cubicles. There's three toilets,

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<v Speaker 2>and I went in and I was like, I need

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<v Speaker 2>to go to the bathroom.

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<v Speaker 3>Walked into the middle one and.

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<v Speaker 2>Somebody had absolutely decimated it, like it's not functioning. I

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<v Speaker 2>had to go and speak to the lady at reception, Daisy,

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<v Speaker 2>who we love, and explain that it wasn't me, in

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<v Speaker 2>front of an entire group of people who had done that,

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<v Speaker 2>and just to report it, you know, because that's the

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<v Speaker 2>right thing to do.

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<v Speaker 1>People see you go into the bathrooms as well.

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<v Speaker 3>So yeah, I walked in.

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<v Speaker 2>I was the last person to come out, and everyone's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna think that that was me. And this is me

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<v Speaker 2>just putting it out there to the world. Daisy, if

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<v Speaker 2>you're listening to this, I didn't do that, But then

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<v Speaker 2>I felt like I was justifying it, and then I

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<v Speaker 2>over justified it, and now I'm in this organisation where

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<v Speaker 2>I spoke for so long about not doing it that

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<v Speaker 2>everyone thinks I did.

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<v Speaker 1>That is something that someone that decimated a toilet would say,

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<v Speaker 1>that's the problem if you did that. I mean, if

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<v Speaker 1>I did that, I would do the same thing. I'd

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<v Speaker 1>be like, just so you know that was not me?

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<v Speaker 2>Like, what's the perfect amount of under explaining something so

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<v Speaker 2>that you don't take responsibility for it? Like you want

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<v Speaker 2>to acknowledge that it's happened, but you don't want people

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<v Speaker 2>to think it was you. How far do you go

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<v Speaker 2>with the explaining You're just like, hey, guys, there's something

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<v Speaker 2>wrong with cubicle number two?

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<v Speaker 1>Double down on the decimation? Were you like, I sorry, clogged,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to commit to it.

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<v Speaker 2>I went I wanted to deep explanation around how it

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't me, which made everyone stand there thinking it, well, like, how.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know you so much about it? How much

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<v Speaker 1>time to expect it? The decimated toilet?

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, look, it looks like this color on

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<v Speaker 2>the bottom and then this color on top, and then

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<v Speaker 2>there's lots of toilet paper and I don't know how

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<v Speaker 2>it's happened, but somebody left it like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I swear it wasn't me. How funny is it that

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<v Speaker 1>it is awkward moments. You've really got to be thinking

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<v Speaker 1>of a toilet cubicle now. But when like there's a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of cubicles and two people walking at the same time,

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<v Speaker 1>but no one wants to do anything because the other

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<v Speaker 1>person's there and it's dead silence.

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<v Speaker 3>I will hold.

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<v Speaker 2>I will sit on the toilet and not wea until

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<v Speaker 2>that person has finished, wiped their ass, flushed, and walked out.

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<v Speaker 3>I will wait.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I got I was in a standoff the other

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<v Speaker 1>day in the same cubicle. I was in a standoff

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<v Speaker 1>toilet stand off. There was someone in one no one

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<v Speaker 1>in the middle, and I was in the other one

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<v Speaker 1>and we're both holding it. And she'd been in before me.

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<v Speaker 1>She was in there.

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<v Speaker 3>You're like, come on, just finished, You've got to finish that.

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<v Speaker 1>I held for a minute and I was like, she'll

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<v Speaker 1>be out any minute. You could just hear like little

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<v Speaker 1>scuffs and stuff, but no noise from either rest of

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<v Speaker 1>And then I was like, it is so awkward now

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<v Speaker 1>that I can't do it. And I ended up just

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<v Speaker 1>not doing it, holding, flushing, pretending I did, pretending I

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<v Speaker 1>did all because you didn't want to wait in front

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<v Speaker 1>of her. It was just too It was just too awkward.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like a Mexican stand off.

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<v Speaker 2>You do have to kind of try and time it

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<v Speaker 2>so that you're not leaving your cubicle at the same

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<v Speaker 2>time you wait for You're like, oh, is that a

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<v Speaker 2>toilet paper rustle? Okay, I know I have about twenty seconds,

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<v Speaker 2>or are they flushing?

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<v Speaker 3>You can time somebody else.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you don't want to meet each other. You don't

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<v Speaker 1>meet each other at the hand washing station.

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<v Speaker 3>But also i'd be like, I know what you were doing.

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<v Speaker 1>How annoying is that when you flushed, because you're like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>this is my out.

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<v Speaker 3>I've got my out.

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<v Speaker 1>So you flushed and then they flush right after. You're like,

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<v Speaker 1>you heard me flush. Wait the obligatory twenty seconds before

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<v Speaker 1>you flushed, you just sit there and waited out. You

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<v Speaker 1>do not flush one second after someone else's flushes. So

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<v Speaker 1>the hand was in station also known as the tap.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so glad that we all we all know this,

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<v Speaker 1>that there is just like an uns spoken etiquette about

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<v Speaker 1>timing of going to a public toilet, but obviously some

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<v Speaker 1>people don't know it. People gotta be like, what the

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<v Speaker 1>hell does do we need to do and get out?

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<v Speaker 3>No, I don't think so.

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<v Speaker 1>I think most people awkwardly time it to make sure

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<v Speaker 1>that they're not doing it at the same time as

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<v Speaker 1>the person in.

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<v Speaker 3>The room next door.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, if you walk into a cubicle and you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you walk in, shut the door, go it under your pants,

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<v Speaker 2>and then realize that actually the toilet is not really usable,

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<v Speaker 2>like my situation today, I was like, oh man, that's

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<v Speaker 2>no one's going to use that. Do you pull your

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<v Speaker 2>pants back up and walk out or do you just

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<v Speaker 2>kind of leave them unbuttoned and then walk into the

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<v Speaker 2>next cubicle.

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<v Speaker 1>I would definitely use my spidy senses to assess the

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<v Speaker 1>situation and be like, Okay, I don't think I heard

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<v Speaker 1>anyone else coming in. I just leave them down out

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<v Speaker 1>of laziness, and I would just walk out into the

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<v Speaker 1>next cube. Because it also depends our cubicles. Here there's

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<v Speaker 1>three toilets. If you're at like a concert this or

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<v Speaker 1>at airport there's like thirty cubicles, you can't. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>you're really risking walking around with your pants under.

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<v Speaker 2>But imagine if you walked out of one that had

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<v Speaker 2>been decimated with your pants hunter.

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<v Speaker 3>And when it looks like you.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I still think you get it.

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<v Speaker 3>You're like, I'm ready for number two.

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<v Speaker 1>Talk about Laura's Like, how much do you try and

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<v Speaker 1>say before people realize it was you. You've been banging

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<v Speaker 1>on about it on the pod for twenty minutes. You

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<v Speaker 1>decimated the toilet, We've solved the problem, inspected Brittany and

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<v Speaker 1>so had ah. Fuck all right, well anyway, Look, there's

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<v Speaker 1>lots of things that we want to talk about in

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<v Speaker 1>today's episode. Obviously we want to answer your questions because

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<v Speaker 1>that's what you all came here for. But let's talk

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<v Speaker 1>about the thing that every single person on the whole

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<v Speaker 1>of the internet on Instagram. You can't even open up

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<v Speaker 1>your phone without seeing it. The bet Gala, oh the Mega.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I have mixed feelings. I still because you hate it.

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<v Speaker 3>I fucking hate it.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it. Obviously it's a massive costume party. When

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<v Speaker 1>I say I love it, I don't actually love it.

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<v Speaker 1>But I do enjoy doing a twenty minute scroll of

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<v Speaker 1>what everyone wore this Mechala. Everyone is naked. It's almost

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<v Speaker 1>a competition at how little you can wear, how see

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<v Speaker 1>through can it be? How small can your underpants be?

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<v Speaker 1>Because underpants are pants now.

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<v Speaker 2>Apparently except for if you're Rihanna, Can someone please explain

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<v Speaker 2>to me? While she dressed up like a giant tampas, it.

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<v Speaker 1>Was a vibe, wasn't it like? Wasn't it a vibe?

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<v Speaker 1>Is in like? The theme of the night seemed to

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<v Speaker 1>be quite mean?

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<v Speaker 2>Only her and then Olivia Wild She had this thing

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<v Speaker 2>like it was like an armor down the front of herself.

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<v Speaker 2>But if you just focused on the gold thing on

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<v Speaker 2>her belly, it looked like she was wearing a.

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<v Speaker 1>Bad But also, speaking of that, so awkward, imagine going

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<v Speaker 1>to the mechala and turning up in the same dress

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<v Speaker 1>as someone It's Fashion's night of night. Somebody else wore

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<v Speaker 1>that pad dress as well in black? What yep, yep,

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<v Speaker 1>exactly exactly the dress. I thought that if you were

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<v Speaker 1>going to the met gala, you got something custom made.

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<v Speaker 3>I thought they all spent like four million dollars on

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<v Speaker 3>their cloth.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Vogue's China editor, Margaret Zang, and they both

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<v Speaker 1>looked stunning like they did both look beautiful, But she

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<v Speaker 1>had the black version and Olivia had the white version,

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<v Speaker 1>and it was identical. I would be beside myself if

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<v Speaker 1>I cared enough to go to that event.

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<v Speaker 3>I just don't understand why.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't understand why it's so popular, Like why does

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<v Speaker 2>it stop the world.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not even happening in our country. Why do we

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<v Speaker 3>care so much?

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<v Speaker 1>We have a weird obsession with celebrity, and then we

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<v Speaker 1>have a weird obsession with fashion, So you put fashion

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<v Speaker 1>on celebrity and it's the night of nights. That's how

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<v Speaker 1>it's created. Like no one cares about the event, no one.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the dumbest charity.

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<v Speaker 2>Also, no one actually understands what the event is. We

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<v Speaker 2>only know about the red carpet.

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<v Speaker 3>Like where do they do?

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<v Speaker 2>They go and sit in the hall? Do they have dinner?

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<v Speaker 2>They do they go for a dance? Like what do

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<v Speaker 2>they do in their outfits?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, don't you remember last year?

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<v Speaker 3>No, I can't remember. Yesterday there was.

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<v Speaker 1>Heap, so the behind the scenes stuff was leaked and

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<v Speaker 1>apparently it was awful. Like they are spending thousands and

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<v Speaker 1>thousands to get a ticket to go to a table

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<v Speaker 1>because it's raising money for the Metgala costumes, that's what

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<v Speaker 1>it is. So they're raising like between seventeen and twenty

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<v Speaker 1>five million dollars or something, which is ludicrous for the costumes.

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<v Speaker 1>But all this footage was leaked last year from people

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<v Speaker 1>that went about the food that were served and what

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<v Speaker 1>actually happens on the inside, and it looked grim, grim,

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<v Speaker 1>It looked terrible. It looked like, you cannot believe that's

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<v Speaker 1>what people paying that much money literally to be seen

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<v Speaker 1>on the red carpet, which I get because if you're

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<v Speaker 1>a budding actor, actress, model, whoever you are, it is

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<v Speaker 1>the place to be seen. It is going to get

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<v Speaker 1>you in all the tabloids. So I understand why people

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<v Speaker 1>are wanting to go. I totally understand it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, they're getting into tabloids and they look stupid.

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<v Speaker 1>Some No. I love looking at the fashions. Some of

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<v Speaker 1>them were absolutely incredible.

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<v Speaker 2>Some of them were beautiful, beautiful, beautif who name one.

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<v Speaker 1>Kylie Jenner's outfit is one of the best I've seen

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<v Speaker 1>her in. I think she looked stunning. Kylie. Yeah, wait,

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<v Speaker 1>the one that was all the red one? I thought

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<v Speaker 1>I was thinking the black Topsino. Don't know who's who?

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<v Speaker 1>So why is there two that never go? Do they

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<v Speaker 1>just not get invited?

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<v Speaker 2>Does Courtney in whatever it name, Courtney and Chloe they

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<v Speaker 2>never get invites?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think they do know.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh Keisha saying they got invited.

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<v Speaker 2>Keisha is actually up to date with someone's happening in

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<v Speaker 2>the kadashi in world. I mean got invited last year,

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<v Speaker 2>but this year they didn't make the cut guys because

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<v Speaker 2>the met color is very exclusive and there was only

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<v Speaker 2>room for three.

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<v Speaker 3>Katashy was at that table. How devoed would you be?

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<v Speaker 1>Will you just know where you sit in the pecking

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<v Speaker 1>order like they already know, but then you really know

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<v Speaker 1>and the world knows you sick and you don't get

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<v Speaker 1>an invite to the met gal Yeah, speaking of the

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<v Speaker 1>pecking order, it's like recently where you got invited to

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<v Speaker 1>that huge charity event to host it. I didn't even

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<v Speaker 1>get invited to go. Everyone's like, oh, you couldn't make it.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, no, I didn't get an invite. I did,

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<v Speaker 1>I was in it and I couldn't even invite it. Wild.

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<v Speaker 2>Look, it was a very very important cause, unlike the

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<v Speaker 2>met Gala, which was actually for no cause at all.

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<v Speaker 2>The metal I mean, I know you mentioned it Britain,

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<v Speaker 2>We spoke about it last year. The money literally goes

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<v Speaker 2>to a fashion costume institute, So think about raising seventeen

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<v Speaker 2>million dollars for a costume box.

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<v Speaker 1>I understand it because it's the fashion I tonight, but

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<v Speaker 1>there's a lot that's wrong with it. And speaking of

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<v Speaker 1>a lot that's wrong with it, we did want to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about something that we you know, we were alerted

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<v Speaker 1>to this. I didn't actually know this.

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<v Speaker 3>No one alerted to us.

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<v Speaker 1>Were no, we were a love Jamila Jamil called me

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<v Speaker 1>up and she's like, brit, I don't know if she no.

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<v Speaker 2>She's like, I don't know what you're talking about on

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<v Speaker 2>your Thursday episode, but this needs to be for discussed.

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<v Speaker 1>With Jamila Jamil. Now she's I guess she's Hollywood's ultimate feminist, right.

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<v Speaker 2>She's a writer, she is a podcaster, she is a

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<v Speaker 2>I say actor.

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<v Speaker 1>So one thing we haven't mentioned yet about the mcgalor

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<v Speaker 1>is that every year there's a theme. Well, the theme

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<v Speaker 1>was Carl Lagerfield. He passed recently. He was the creative

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<v Speaker 1>mind behind Chanel.

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<v Speaker 2>So he's been the creative director of Chanelle since nineteen

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<v Speaker 2>eighty three, literally up until when he died. But he

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<v Speaker 2>also had his own clothing lines and accessory lines and

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<v Speaker 2>fashion lines as well.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I and everyone knows.

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<v Speaker 3>He was the King of Fashion.

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<v Speaker 2>He also in the later years of his life, it

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<v Speaker 2>became quite evident how controversial he was. But I wonder

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<v Speaker 2>whether he was just controversial in his later years or

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<v Speaker 2>whether it became more publicized, because prior to that, I

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<v Speaker 2>think it was more focused on his fashion. And then

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<v Speaker 2>as social media grew and as access to people's individual

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<v Speaker 2>opinions became more public, we started to see more of

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<v Speaker 2>the things that he would say. So to give you

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<v Speaker 2>some context around that, some of his controversial views are

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<v Speaker 2>about things like Syrian refugees, around weight and body image,

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<v Speaker 2>making the comment that fat people shouldn't be wearing fashion,

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<v Speaker 2>or fashion's not made for people who got a fat phobia,

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of fat phobia. He also had some pretty

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<v Speaker 2>shocking comments around the Me Too movement. In twenty eighteen,

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<v Speaker 2>he said to Numeror magazine that he was fed up

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<v Speaker 2>with it, and this is a direct quote. What shocks

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<v Speaker 2>me most in all of this are the starlets who

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<v Speaker 2>have taken twenty years to remember what happened, not to

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<v Speaker 2>mention the fact that there are no prosecution witnesses. If

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<v Speaker 2>you don't want your pants pulled about, don't become a model.

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<v Speaker 2>Join a nunnery It's actually wild, isn't it, Especially the

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<v Speaker 2>fact that he's saying it took them twenty years to remember.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure there's not a day that they've ever oh

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<v Speaker 2>for boss like this has nothing to do with memory.

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<v Speaker 2>It's actually so dismissive and crazy that he's saying these

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<v Speaker 2>things and people are brushing it under the carpet. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I think there's definitely been some commentary around

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<v Speaker 2>how it was a very unusual choice to make this

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<v Speaker 2>met gala the theme around Carl Lagerfield. But Jamila Jamil

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<v Speaker 2>came out with a statement about it, and I think,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, mostly everyone has been looking at the beautiful costumes,

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<v Speaker 2>I being questionable whether they're beautiful. But this was the

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<v Speaker 2>first person who I've seen actually put it into words

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<v Speaker 2>why it's so problematic.

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<v Speaker 1>This is what she said last night. Hollywood and Fashion

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<v Speaker 1>said the quiet part out loud. When a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>famous feminists chose to celebrate at the highest level a

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<v Speaker 1>man who was so publicly cruel to women, to fat people,

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<v Speaker 1>to immigrants, and to sexual assault survivors, and all of

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<v Speaker 1>the women's publications and spectators online chose to gleefully ignore it.

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<v Speaker 1>Suddenly your appetite to find someone's tweets from when they

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<v Speaker 1>were twelve has gone. Nobody has perfect morals, least of

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<v Speaker 1>all me but Jesus Christ. We had a year to

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<v Speaker 1>course correct here and not award the highest on a

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<v Speaker 1>possible to a known bigot, and everyone just decided all

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<v Speaker 1>of a sudden, we can separate the art from the

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<v Speaker 1>artists when convenient. And it's one rule for us and

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<v Speaker 1>another rule for everyone else. Last night we relinquished our

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<v Speaker 1>right to be taken it all seriously about anything important.

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<v Speaker 1>That was something she'd written in a notes basically and

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<v Speaker 1>she'd posted. But then she went on to say, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not about cancel culture. It's not even about Kyle himself.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just about showing how selective cancel culture can be.

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<v Speaker 1>And then then she went on to get into politics, actually,

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<v Speaker 1>which I lost.

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<v Speaker 3>She lost me.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I think the big question here is is that

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<v Speaker 2>can you celebrate Karl for being an incredible fashion like

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<v Speaker 2>he was the cornerstone of world fashion with what he

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<v Speaker 2>created in Channel? Can you celebrate his legacy in terms

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<v Speaker 2>of a fashion legacy and extract his personal views and

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<v Speaker 2>the way he saw the world, like do those things

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<v Speaker 2>live as silos? Or do we now in today's culture,

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<v Speaker 2>anybody who has had a significant impact on society and culture,

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<v Speaker 2>or anybody who we hold up as a celebrity status,

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<v Speaker 2>does the person always come with the art, which is

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<v Speaker 2>exactly what they've said, the art with the artist. Are

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<v Speaker 2>those things inextricable that we can't celebrate one without acknowledging

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<v Speaker 2>the other?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, there was something interesting that I did read in

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<v Speaker 1>response to that, and Jamila's post really prompted some thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>for me because I always knew very surface level that

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<v Speaker 1>Karl was inappropriate, but I never knew in depth the

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<v Speaker 1>things he was actually saying. So I'd always read that,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, he said in a probe career, he'd said

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<v Speaker 1>something that was wrong, but I'd never done a deep

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<v Speaker 1>dive into it because fashion is not my world, right,

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<v Speaker 1>But after seeing Jimil's posts, I did do a proper

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<v Speaker 1>deep dive and it is very disturbing. But one thing

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<v Speaker 1>I do want to say is that there were a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of people that attended the megala that they're saying

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<v Speaker 1>attended as a fuck you to Carl. They were taking

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<v Speaker 1>the piss to Carl. Now one of those people is Lizzo.

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<v Speaker 1>Why would they be attending as a fuck you, though,

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<v Speaker 1>because you still want to go to the Night of Nights,

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<v Speaker 1>but you want to make I get it. You want

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<v Speaker 1>to go to the Night of Nights like you.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't want to be excluded because like it's going to

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<v Speaker 2>be a fun body in Hollywood.

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<v Speaker 1>But you want to do a fuck you. So Lizzo went,

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<v Speaker 1>and what they're saying is she purposely wore a lega

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<v Speaker 1>Field silhouette dress so it was lovely and beautiful and tight.

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<v Speaker 1>But then she posted and posed eating French fries because

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<v Speaker 1>Carl always talked about you know, we just spoke about

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<v Speaker 1>this fat phobia. He always talked about it should only

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<v Speaker 1>be skinny people. His outfit should have only been worn

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<v Speaker 1>on those ludicrously thin and she.

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<v Speaker 3>Was like, he'll be rolling in his grill right now.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes here, I am with my big mac. You fuck exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>So there are some subtle things like that that I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, Lizzo, fucking yes, Well, I think as well,

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<v Speaker 1>because I mean, on one hand, there's the whole conversation

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<v Speaker 1>like is a boycott the best way of protesting something

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<v Speaker 1>like if all the celebrities were.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, we're not gonna go because we don't agree with it.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you can go and support an event, but

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<v Speaker 2>I do love the idea that like Lizzo was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I want to go because I want to be at

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<v Speaker 2>this and I like fashion, but this is gonna be

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<v Speaker 2>a fuck you to the legacy, not the legacy of fashion,

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<v Speaker 2>but the legacy of bigotry that was left behind. And

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<v Speaker 2>I also think that this is quite interesting because so

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<v Speaker 2>Barry Humphries, as we all know he recently passed away.

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<v Speaker 2>Barry Humphries was Dame Edna and he was a huge

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<v Speaker 2>Australian comedian and you know, mostly I think across Australia

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<v Speaker 2>I beloved Australian comedian. However, he had some extremely controversial

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<v Speaker 2>views when it came to trans people.

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<v Speaker 3>And was very discriminatory.

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<v Speaker 2>I think sometimes we give people a bit of a

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<v Speaker 2>pass card when they get old. We're like, oh, it's

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<v Speaker 2>not as bad when like an eighty year old said

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<v Speaker 2>crazy bigoted things as what it is when someone in

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<v Speaker 2>their thirties does yes.

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<v Speaker 1>Because it's almost like this, well, you should know better

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<v Speaker 1>in this generation.

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<v Speaker 3>Totally.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what slapped with this generation, as in like you

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<v Speaker 1>can't teach an old dog new tricks, and.

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<v Speaker 2>We kind of give older people who have grown up

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<v Speaker 2>in past generations a little bit more of a free pass.

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<v Speaker 2>And I say this because, like, fuck, my grandparents have

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<v Speaker 2>said questionable things. Do I hold them to the same

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<v Speaker 2>standard that I hold my friends.

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<v Speaker 1>No.

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<v Speaker 2>But the reason for that is because they grew up

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<v Speaker 2>in a very, very different time. And I'm not going

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<v Speaker 2>to try and educate my eighty six year old grandma

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<v Speaker 2>who has dementia on why what she's saying is inappropriate.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just gonna let that pass. But would I say

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<v Speaker 2>something to my friend. Absolutely. But the reason why I

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<v Speaker 2>bring out Barry Humphries as an example is because so

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<v Speaker 2>in twenty nineteen, and this is before he passed away, obviously,

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<v Speaker 2>he was stripped of the comedy award that he had.

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<v Speaker 2>He had like a big name. It was called the

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<v Speaker 2>mcf's Main Award. I don't know what that is, but

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<v Speaker 2>if you're a comedy person you might It was named

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<v Speaker 2>after him. It was the Barry Humphreys Award, and he

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<v Speaker 2>was stripped of that because of the things that he

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<v Speaker 2>had said about trans people. I don't think in today's

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<v Speaker 2>society that you're able to extrapolate art from the artist,

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<v Speaker 2>especially in terms of something like fashion, which fashion permeates

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<v Speaker 2>so much of our culture. It permeates body image, It

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<v Speaker 2>permeates the way that fifteen year old girls view themselves.

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<v Speaker 2>It is aspirational. It also is reflected back in music,

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<v Speaker 2>in movies.

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<v Speaker 3>In film.

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<v Speaker 2>So I think when you are creating and you have

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<v Speaker 2>such a strong and powerful hold over something that is

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<v Speaker 2>actually so important in society, when you have problematic views

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<v Speaker 2>like you are fat phobic or you are racist, those

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<v Speaker 2>things permeate into that as well. And I think that

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<v Speaker 2>from a top down you can't say, well, let's celebrate

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<v Speaker 2>the artist but ignore the fact that he's done and

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<v Speaker 2>said all these things.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't get my head around what is happening in

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<v Speaker 1>cancel culture in Hollywood.

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<v Speaker 3>Because this is very selective.

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<v Speaker 1>But this is why I think Jamila's post is so

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<v Speaker 1>thought provoking, because it is selective, and I've never thought

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<v Speaker 1>of it really until then. I've thought we've always wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to jump on as a society cancel culture. We have

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<v Speaker 1>spoken before that we don't really like cancel culture. We

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<v Speaker 1>don't believe in it. I never want to be a

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<v Speaker 1>part of it. I find discussions around it interesting. But

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<v Speaker 1>Jamila's whole post is so interesting because she says, this

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<v Speaker 1>isn't about cancel culture, and it isn't about Karl. It's

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<v Speaker 1>about why we're so selective with who we want to

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<v Speaker 1>cancel and when we want to cancel them, and should

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<v Speaker 1>we be doing that? And I find that an interesting

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<v Speaker 1>discussion because it's very easy to just, in sort of

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<v Speaker 1>addition to something you just said, Laura, but it's very

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<v Speaker 1>easy to just hold on to something negative or something

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<v Speaker 1>bad that someone has done or said, or a mistake

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<v Speaker 1>they've made or whatever. I'm not making any specific examples here,

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<v Speaker 1>but then forget every good thing that they've ever done,

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<v Speaker 1>or every nice thing they've ever done, or every positive thing,

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<v Speaker 1>or every contribution to society or their industry. It's very

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<v Speaker 1>easy to forget all of that as soon as somebody

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<v Speaker 1>slips up and makes a mistake.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you think that there are some people who are

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<v Speaker 2>actually so powerful that they're exempt from cancel culture, or

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<v Speaker 2>that they get to a status where they're so prolific

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<v Speaker 2>in their field or whatever it is, and they have

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<v Speaker 2>been so innovative in that field that therefore they're not cancelable.

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<v Speaker 1>Interestingly, if you ask me this one year two years ago,

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<v Speaker 1>I would have said, yes, there absolutely are there are

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<v Speaker 1>people that are untouchable, but I don't think there are now.

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<v Speaker 1>I think society has changed now where people are like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't give a fuck who you are anymore, which

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<v Speaker 1>is why it's so interesting that Kyl's been celebrated. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like Carl part of it as well, as

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<v Speaker 2>is because he's a bit eccentric and baddie and it's

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<v Speaker 2>it's cute. It's eccentricity that makes people go and go, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, but he's harmless, and I think that that

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<v Speaker 2>plays a part in why he's kind of forgiven. Like

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<v Speaker 2>he is this sort of like eccentric storyteller, and we

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<v Speaker 2>have seen that as endearing and people have wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>be close to him because then his immense spotlight is

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<v Speaker 2>shined on them as well. Models want to wear his clothes,

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<v Speaker 2>people want to work with him in fashion editorial. Like

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<v Speaker 2>he was such a huge and prolific person within the

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<v Speaker 2>fashion industry that I think his eccentricness and his creativity

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<v Speaker 2>almost was the exemption for his bad behavior. And I

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<v Speaker 2>mean we do see it in sport people who are

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<v Speaker 2>incredible in their field. Incredible sportsmen are often given the

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<v Speaker 2>exemption pass when they behave badly because they're fucking amazing

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<v Speaker 2>sports people.

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<v Speaker 3>So I do think we see.

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<v Speaker 2>It, but it is, as Jamilla said, it is incredibly selective.

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<v Speaker 2>Before we get into answering, you're deep, you're ducking, you're

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not unsubscribing from anything, but I do.

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<v Speaker 1>Never unsubscribed for anyth because we're just always so positive.

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<v Speaker 3>I've got one.

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<v Speaker 2>I've got one got an unsubscribed I'm unsubscribing from the

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<v Speaker 2>MyGov website.

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<v Speaker 3>It actually got hacked the other day, Willge, there you go,

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<v Speaker 3>there you go. It is so bad trying to find

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<v Speaker 3>anything on that website.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, I don't have to click into twenty five

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<v Speaker 1>tabs to get I did the same thing the other day.

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<v Speaker 1>Now that you say that, actually it was like you've

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<v Speaker 1>got a message or something and I had to action

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<v Speaker 1>something and I had to go to twenty five different

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<v Speaker 1>tabs to find it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like mining for gold. Like, literally, you go there

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<v Speaker 2>with a purpose.

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<v Speaker 3>But you may or may not find something, and who knows.

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<v Speaker 2>And when you do, you're so excited because you're like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh God, that was as hard as I thought it

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<v Speaker 2>was going to be. You know that if you have

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<v Speaker 2>to log onto the MyGov website and do anything on

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<v Speaker 2>my guve, that that's like half an hour of your

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<v Speaker 2>life is gone. It's a very stressful situation. I have

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<v Speaker 2>no idea where my superannuation is or who it is

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<v Speaker 2>or what it is. And someone was like, you can

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<v Speaker 2>figure it anyway. Apparently who knows. I still don't know

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<v Speaker 2>if you can figure it out through my guve. That's

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<v Speaker 2>man subscribed.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, what's your subscribe?

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<v Speaker 3>My subscribe my vibe.

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<v Speaker 2>I have the worst eyelashes, and the reason for that.

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<v Speaker 1>Is, oh, I reckon, I'm run you for that title.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I like to keep them, don't fall out

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<v Speaker 2>or anything. But the reason Whylshes are listening.

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<v Speaker 3>Ash, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>You were trying to tell me on Tuesday's episode that

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<v Speaker 2>if I don't talk nicely to my plants, they're gonna die.

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<v Speaker 3>So maybe my eyelashes, your.

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<v Speaker 1>Plants are alive. It's a living organism.

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<v Speaker 3>True.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't wear mascara even though it's like the one

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<v Speaker 2>thing that makes me look awake. And the reason for

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<v Speaker 2>that is because I always get black, like the black

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<v Speaker 2>fall above and below my eyes. My eyelashes touched the

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<v Speaker 2>top of my eyelids, so.

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<v Speaker 1>I get those black shots saying that your eyelashes are

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<v Speaker 1>too long. What a problem to have, Laura.

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<v Speaker 3>It's horrible.

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<v Speaker 2>But I finally came across the mescar, which I'm loving

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<v Speaker 2>because sometimes the tubulum mascars this makes me sound so basic,

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<v Speaker 2>but I don't even care. Sometimes the tubulum mascars are

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<v Speaker 2>too watery and they don't actually make your lashes look

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<v Speaker 2>thick enough. But I found one that is like makes

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<v Speaker 2>everything look thick and beautiful. And also it doesn't give

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<v Speaker 2>you like mascaraful around your eyes, so don't look at Panda.

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<v Speaker 1>Well I need that.

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<v Speaker 2>It's called well, it's the Laurel, but it is their

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<v Speaker 2>lash Paradise muscaa black. It comes in a pink tube.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm reading it, so that's why it sounds. Yeah, it

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<v Speaker 2>sounds sponsored, even though it's not. Yeah, it's fucking great.

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<v Speaker 2>I've got brought two tubes, and I gave one to

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<v Speaker 2>my sister. Yeah, right, from chemist, from the chemist.

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<v Speaker 3>From chemist.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been going between eyelashes, fake eyelash extensions and not,

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<v Speaker 1>and every time I do it, I like every couple

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<v Speaker 1>of months, I get them and I'm like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>I look so much better. They make such a difference

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<v Speaker 1>to your face, Like eyelashes change everything. But then I

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<v Speaker 1>get lazy. I don't want to go back and in

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<v Speaker 1>fill them. Then they fall out and I have one

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<v Speaker 1>mega long lash for a long time. So I definitely

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<v Speaker 1>need to pick a lane with my eyelashes.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm off flash extensions because it looks great for

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<v Speaker 2>twos and then you look like as some sort of

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<v Speaker 2>like half bald chicken when like chickens get mites and

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<v Speaker 2>they've like lost half their feathers, that's what you look like.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well, my vibe is this is a question I

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<v Speaker 1>genuinely get assalot. It's not me saying like you all

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<v Speaker 1>want to know. I genuinely ask about my hair a

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<v Speaker 1>lot now. In case you don't know, I'm very open

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<v Speaker 1>about it. I post about it in case you don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I have hair extensions. I have great length hair extensions.

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<v Speaker 1>I have short, thin hair. I don't have luscious natural hair,

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<v Speaker 1>so I get hair extensions more times than not. I

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<v Speaker 1>have hair extensions in sometimes I have them out. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think I've.

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<v Speaker 2>Seen you without hair extensions in a long time, like

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<v Speaker 2>a long time though. I don't remember who you are

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<v Speaker 2>without hair extensions.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, well, that's a good thing to know, because

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<v Speaker 1>it wasn't that long ago I didn't have for me.

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<v Speaker 1>But anyway, hair extensions mean for me, I can wake

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<v Speaker 1>up out of bed and your hair generally just falls nicely,

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<v Speaker 1>like it's always looks good, it always looks healthy. People

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<v Speaker 1>always like, what do you use for your hair? It's

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<v Speaker 1>so healthy and lush. It's not I don't use anything.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just I use someone else's. It's just hair extensions.

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<v Speaker 1>I obviously get good shampoo and condition but that's my vibe.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm outing myself. I have hair extensions. This is

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<v Speaker 1>not real, and I will when I take them out, eventually,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll show you the difference. But I've got heaps of

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<v Speaker 1>reels on my Instagram page of before and after hair extensions.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you do want to have a look, go

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<v Speaker 1>have a little look. See Keisha actually has a vibe. Keisha,

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<v Speaker 1>what's the vibe this week.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, given that yours was Masca, it wasn't bringing a

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<v Speaker 4>little bit of our class to theocast.

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<v Speaker 1>Their extensions are class.

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<v Speaker 4>I listened to an episode of The Daily It's a

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<v Speaker 4>podcast by the New York Times. This is we're really

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<v Speaker 4>like upping the intelligence of the vibes this week.

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<v Speaker 3>He waited, all right, fucking flex.

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<v Speaker 4>It's called the Ballad of the Deep Fake Drake. Do

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<v Speaker 4>you guys remember I think it was maybe two or

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<v Speaker 4>three weeks ago. This ghost writer was their name. They

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<v Speaker 4>were basically an artificial intelligence music producer, completely anonymous, and

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<v Speaker 4>they basically made a fake artificial intelligence song that sounded

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<v Speaker 4>exactly like Drake, and it started charting. It was all

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<v Speaker 4>over all of our social media, so TikTok and Instagram,

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<v Speaker 4>and it was all a little bit of fun and

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<v Speaker 4>games where it was like, oh, artificial intelligence, like it's

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<v Speaker 4>taking over so much of the world, and particularly with

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<v Speaker 4>like photos and what we can do, But how is

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<v Speaker 4>it impacting the music industry? Basically the music labels, like

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<v Speaker 4>you think about Universal Music, who Drake is signed by.

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<v Speaker 4>It was a song that kind of imitated Drake and

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<v Speaker 4>the weekend they essentially got involved because this song was

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<v Speaker 4>going to start making money. It was on YouTube, it

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<v Speaker 4>was on Spotify, and it was actually bringing in revenue.

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<v Speaker 2>And then it's like, who is the one who owns it?

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<v Speaker 2>But obviously, I mean, I think that the answer is

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<v Speaker 2>pretty obvious. But I'm obviously not someone who works in

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<v Speaker 2>any sort of AI law. But surely it's Drake because

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<v Speaker 2>the reason why it should be Drake is because the

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<v Speaker 2>only reason why it's making money is off his image.

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<v Speaker 2>If it was just some Joe Blow from the local

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<v Speaker 2>service station who released that same song, it wouldn't be

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<v Speaker 2>charting and it wouldn't make money.

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<v Speaker 4>As it turns out, no, that's not the case. So

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<v Speaker 4>artificial intelligence means that you can take the sound of someone,

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<v Speaker 4>but you also think about in the music industry of

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<v Speaker 4>like the songwriter or who creates the music behind it,

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<v Speaker 4>who creates the riffs. If you think about it in

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<v Speaker 4>terms of photos, it's like, we have this really when

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<v Speaker 4>social media blew up who owns an image and they

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<v Speaker 4>ended up kind of landing on well, the person who

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<v Speaker 4>took the photo is the person who owns the image.

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<v Speaker 4>But this is a whole new world with music and

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<v Speaker 4>the labels. They're not trying to get ahead of it

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<v Speaker 4>and stop it because they know that they can't. They're

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<v Speaker 4>basically trying to be like, Okay, well, if you're going

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<v Speaker 4>to use our artists, you need to give us a

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<v Speaker 4>portion of the cut.

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<v Speaker 3>One hundred percent.

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<v Speaker 2>Imagine if someone was like, oh, hey, it's not the

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<v Speaker 2>real Taylor Swift, but like, here is a whole new

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<v Speaker 2>album that she's created and it sounds like her, and

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<v Speaker 2>it looks like her, and it moves like her, and

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<v Speaker 2>it shakes like her, and then she's not making a

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<v Speaker 2>single dollar from it.

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<v Speaker 3>This does, interestingly, some artists are on board with it.

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<v Speaker 4>And this is what this whole podcast, this is why

0:27:36.840 --> 0:27:41.119
<v Speaker 4>it's actually like wildly interesting because people like Grimes are saying,

0:27:41.320 --> 0:27:42.600
<v Speaker 4>you can totally use my voice.

0:27:42.640 --> 0:27:44.239
<v Speaker 3>This is the way that the world's going, and I'm

0:27:44.280 --> 0:27:44.880
<v Speaker 3>okay with it.

0:27:44.880 --> 0:27:49.359
<v Speaker 1>To be clear, what's the vibe the podcast? It's like,

0:27:49.560 --> 0:27:52.320
<v Speaker 1>we've just that whole podcast episode. What is the vibe?

0:27:52.400 --> 0:27:52.680
<v Speaker 3>Kisha?

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<v Speaker 4>The specific podcast episode by The Daily called the Ballad

0:27:55.640 --> 0:27:57.400
<v Speaker 4>of Deep Fake Drake, And I just find it very

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<v Speaker 4>interesting that, like, you know, if someone had said something

0:27:59.840 --> 0:28:02.720
<v Speaker 4>of music, AI would have been like fucking boring, But

0:28:03.000 --> 0:28:05.200
<v Speaker 4>I was well interested by this whole episode, and I

0:28:05.200 --> 0:28:06.119
<v Speaker 4>think it's the future.

0:28:06.240 --> 0:28:08.600
<v Speaker 2>Did anybody see the article that came out not so

0:28:08.680 --> 0:28:11.160
<v Speaker 2>long ago and it was an interview with Michael Schumacher,

0:28:11.359 --> 0:28:14.440
<v Speaker 2>So you know Michael Schumacher, who obviously is has been

0:28:14.480 --> 0:28:17.040
<v Speaker 2>in a coma and has not done any media since

0:28:17.080 --> 0:28:20.760
<v Speaker 2>his horrific accident because he's unable to from his injuries.

0:28:21.240 --> 0:28:24.800
<v Speaker 2>There was an AI created interview with him that was like,

0:28:24.880 --> 0:28:27.280
<v Speaker 2>these are the answers he would have given if he could.

0:28:27.440 --> 0:28:31.400
<v Speaker 2>It's so respect it's so exploitive. Anyway, that's yeah, Look,

0:28:31.400 --> 0:28:35.320
<v Speaker 2>that's a whole other conversation for all other day. All Right,

0:28:35.359 --> 0:28:36.560
<v Speaker 2>it is time to answer.

0:28:36.920 --> 0:28:37.320
<v Speaker 3>Finally.

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<v Speaker 2>You're deep, you're dark, and you're burning questions. I'm gonna

0:28:40.080 --> 0:28:42.800
<v Speaker 2>hit it off. I have a request for all of

0:28:42.840 --> 0:28:46.560
<v Speaker 2>you dog owners out there. How many how many of

0:28:46.600 --> 0:28:49.760
<v Speaker 2>you let your dog sleep on your bed? If so,

0:28:50.440 --> 0:28:53.880
<v Speaker 2>how do you have sex solo or with a partner?

0:28:54.640 --> 0:28:56.600
<v Speaker 2>Is it a bit of a moodkiller having to stop

0:28:56.760 --> 0:28:59.120
<v Speaker 2>lock your dog outside, listen to a cry for being

0:28:59.120 --> 0:29:01.960
<v Speaker 2>locked outside, do your thing, and then just let it

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<v Speaker 2>back in the bed when you should be spooning. Do

0:29:04.480 --> 0:29:06.680
<v Speaker 2>you bone with We've talked about this, put it outside.

0:29:06.840 --> 0:29:10.000
<v Speaker 1>So funny that you wrote this question. I don't have sex,

0:29:10.040 --> 0:29:14.280
<v Speaker 1>so I haven't actually had sex at home in a

0:29:14.320 --> 0:29:18.040
<v Speaker 1>long time. But I would rather I don't want my

0:29:18.080 --> 0:29:20.400
<v Speaker 1>dog in there, but I'm lucky that my dog wouldn't

0:29:20.400 --> 0:29:21.680
<v Speaker 1>sit at the door and cry either.

0:29:21.800 --> 0:29:24.080
<v Speaker 3>But if my dog, oh, Keisha says, yes, she does.

0:29:24.200 --> 0:29:26.080
<v Speaker 2>Keisha has told a whole story on this podcast before

0:29:26.120 --> 0:29:30.320
<v Speaker 2>about how she was getting railed and Delilah was outside, Like, I.

0:29:30.280 --> 0:29:33.440
<v Speaker 1>Think that has more to do with Keisha's sound effects

0:29:33.440 --> 0:29:35.040
<v Speaker 1>than anything. So I probably thought she was part of

0:29:35.080 --> 0:29:36.880
<v Speaker 1>the club and they're all like howling together.

0:29:36.920 --> 0:29:40.280
<v Speaker 3>Like maybe she thought you were getting murdered, she thought

0:29:40.320 --> 0:29:40.959
<v Speaker 3>you were dying.

0:29:41.240 --> 0:29:45.080
<v Speaker 1>She was worried about you, that's all. It was anxiety.

0:29:45.360 --> 0:29:47.600
<v Speaker 1>But I would rather if the choices are your dogs

0:29:47.600 --> 0:29:50.680
<v Speaker 1>sitting there staring at you, watching you go health for leather,

0:29:51.440 --> 0:29:55.600
<v Speaker 1>or sitting outside crying, I'd rather them quietly watch me

0:29:56.200 --> 0:29:56.600
<v Speaker 1>get raal.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I would rather watch my dog's very quiet busters

0:30:00.080 --> 0:30:03.360
<v Speaker 2>he's so he's so silent, He's just like the sweetest,

0:30:03.680 --> 0:30:05.720
<v Speaker 2>most silent. He could walk into a room and you

0:30:05.760 --> 0:30:07.719
<v Speaker 2>wouldn't even know that he's there, even though he's a giant.

0:30:08.040 --> 0:30:09.840
<v Speaker 2>Many times he's just walked in and sat there and

0:30:09.840 --> 0:30:11.440
<v Speaker 2>you finished, and he's just sitting there watching, like what

0:30:11.480 --> 0:30:11.680
<v Speaker 2>do you do?

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<v Speaker 1>It's the awkward thing. That's a bone I only learned

0:30:15.000 --> 0:30:18.400
<v Speaker 1>this week is that dogs actually do judge their owners

0:30:18.400 --> 0:30:21.200
<v Speaker 1>on their behavior, the way they act, empathy, selfishness, it's

0:30:21.240 --> 0:30:23.160
<v Speaker 1>actually a thing. So when you think that your dog

0:30:23.240 --> 0:30:26.480
<v Speaker 1>is there watching you, they are. They're genuinely judging your

0:30:26.520 --> 0:30:27.560
<v Speaker 1>maneuvers in the bedroom.

0:30:27.640 --> 0:30:30.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't think they're judging your performance. They might judge

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<v Speaker 2>as a person.

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<v Speaker 1>Like girl, get out of stuffish, you need.

0:30:34.200 --> 0:30:36.240
<v Speaker 2>To actually start doing something, Get up on your hands

0:30:36.240 --> 0:30:39.160
<v Speaker 2>and knees and give this work like I do it.

0:30:39.520 --> 0:30:42.200
<v Speaker 2>He's like, this is how it's done. I think it

0:30:42.360 --> 0:30:45.160
<v Speaker 2>is fine to have sex with your dog in the room.

0:30:45.840 --> 0:30:47.200
<v Speaker 2>Should your dog be on the bed?

0:30:47.400 --> 0:30:49.680
<v Speaker 1>No? No, it's weird, especially if they start like licking

0:30:49.720 --> 0:30:51.760
<v Speaker 1>a limb or something. Okay, what if it's that was

0:30:51.800 --> 0:30:53.400
<v Speaker 1>licking your little toe or something, Well.

0:30:53.320 --> 0:30:54.520
<v Speaker 3>Then how do you know who it is?

0:30:54.520 --> 0:30:57.840
<v Speaker 1>Maybe you think your partner's face is in your face

0:30:57.960 --> 0:30:59.200
<v Speaker 1>or a bit down there, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's fine.

0:31:00.200 --> 0:31:01.840
<v Speaker 2>I think look if they're gonna sit at the door

0:31:01.880 --> 0:31:04.240
<v Speaker 2>and scream and cry, that's a child. If they're gonna

0:31:04.280 --> 0:31:06.440
<v Speaker 2>sit at the door and how that is a bit

0:31:06.440 --> 0:31:08.600
<v Speaker 2>of a moodkiller. But why don't you if you know

0:31:08.680 --> 0:31:10.400
<v Speaker 2>that you're gonna have someone over and have sex with them,

0:31:10.440 --> 0:31:13.800
<v Speaker 2>why don't you like create some sort of distraction for

0:31:13.840 --> 0:31:15.280
<v Speaker 2>your dog, Get them a treat, get one of those

0:31:15.280 --> 0:31:18.040
<v Speaker 2>stupid dummy thingies that you shot peanut butter in the

0:31:18.120 --> 0:31:18.720
<v Speaker 2>coom things.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but that takes away if you're spontaneously the moment

0:31:21.640 --> 0:31:23.200
<v Speaker 1>having sex, You're like, hang on, let me peet up,

0:31:23.240 --> 0:31:27.080
<v Speaker 1>Butter up this com let me. It's a bit of

0:31:27.120 --> 0:31:29.040
<v Speaker 1>a moment killer, isn't it. Yeah, But you get a

0:31:29.040 --> 0:31:31.640
<v Speaker 1>peanut butter out and they're like, oh yeah, shit's gone down.

0:31:31.680 --> 0:31:34.080
<v Speaker 1>And then you just start wiping on a salavery dog toy.

0:31:33.960 --> 0:31:35.320
<v Speaker 3>And then go wash your hands and come back to

0:31:35.320 --> 0:31:36.239
<v Speaker 3>the bedroom. I don't know.

0:31:36.360 --> 0:31:38.400
<v Speaker 2>I just think there's no one way that is going

0:31:38.480 --> 0:31:40.760
<v Speaker 2>to be the most romantic way with this situation. Like,

0:31:40.800 --> 0:31:42.960
<v Speaker 2>if you've got a dog that has like attachment issues

0:31:42.960 --> 0:31:44.920
<v Speaker 2>and wants to be in the bedroom with you, you're always

0:31:44.920 --> 0:31:46.760
<v Speaker 2>gonna have to deal with that, just like if you've

0:31:46.800 --> 0:31:48.640
<v Speaker 2>got kids and they've got attachment issues. You've got to

0:31:48.680 --> 0:31:51.200
<v Speaker 2>try and organize the time of which you have sex

0:31:51.240 --> 0:31:52.920
<v Speaker 2>so that your kids aren't standing at the door.

0:31:52.800 --> 0:31:54.760
<v Speaker 3>Going mommy and daddy, what are you tearing?

0:31:55.280 --> 0:31:57.040
<v Speaker 2>I think it's just kind of maybe a little bit

0:31:57.040 --> 0:31:59.320
<v Speaker 2>of forward planning. Maybe the spontaneity of sex can't be

0:31:59.360 --> 0:32:00.640
<v Speaker 2>there as much what you would like.

0:32:00.640 --> 0:32:02.440
<v Speaker 1>All right, Well, Ben's here in three weeks, so i'll

0:32:02.480 --> 0:32:05.560
<v Speaker 1>update you the sex with a dog thing. See how

0:32:05.600 --> 0:32:09.120
<v Speaker 1>Delilah goes down. Compare it to Keisha's situation when she

0:32:09.200 --> 0:32:10.080
<v Speaker 1>has let's.

0:32:09.920 --> 0:32:12.600
<v Speaker 3>Just be very clear, sex with the dog in the house,

0:32:12.840 --> 0:32:13.360
<v Speaker 3>in the room.

0:32:13.840 --> 0:32:15.560
<v Speaker 1>I really think we needed to clarify it.

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<v Speaker 2>The next thing, there's a Daily Mail article and it's

0:32:19.200 --> 0:32:21.400
<v Speaker 2>like Britney's updating us on sex with the dog.

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<v Speaker 4>Ah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yo, wouldn't surprise me, all right?

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<v Speaker 2>Would you date someone with the same name as your

0:32:26.760 --> 0:32:29.400
<v Speaker 2>sibling or dad? I previously dated a guy with the

0:32:29.560 --> 0:32:32.600
<v Speaker 2>same name as my brother, and if that wasn't awkward enough,

0:32:32.720 --> 0:32:34.280
<v Speaker 2>I met a guy on the weekend and we had

0:32:34.320 --> 0:32:36.520
<v Speaker 2>an amazing time together. But I don't think I can

0:32:36.560 --> 0:32:39.040
<v Speaker 2>take it any further simply because he has the same

0:32:39.120 --> 0:32:41.800
<v Speaker 2>name as my dad. Is this robbing myself of my

0:32:41.920 --> 0:32:44.680
<v Speaker 2>time with someone who could be a potential partner or

0:32:44.720 --> 0:32:45.560
<v Speaker 2>is it too weird?

0:32:45.880 --> 0:32:47.800
<v Speaker 3>What are your thoughts? Would you date someone with the

0:32:47.800 --> 0:32:49.040
<v Speaker 3>same name as your dad?

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<v Speaker 1>Bro? If you are excluding people from your dating lineup

0:32:54.520 --> 0:32:56.840
<v Speaker 1>because they have the same name as so in your family,

0:32:57.360 --> 0:32:57.960
<v Speaker 1>that is crazy.

0:32:57.960 --> 0:33:02.000
<v Speaker 2>Okay, but picture this picture this. Imagine you're like, they're

0:33:02.040 --> 0:33:04.960
<v Speaker 2>on top of you, they're deep inside you, and then

0:33:05.000 --> 0:33:07.560
<v Speaker 2>you're like, yeah, fuck me, Tony, I don't have.

0:33:07.480 --> 0:33:10.560
<v Speaker 1>To imagine it. I've dated multiple people with my brother's name.

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<v Speaker 4>This just screams to me that you don't have daddy

0:33:12.760 --> 0:33:15.120
<v Speaker 4>issues in the way that I Also.

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<v Speaker 1>It's someone's name. You guys are crazy if you've met

0:33:18.040 --> 0:33:19.920
<v Speaker 1>the love of your life or someone that could be

0:33:19.920 --> 0:33:22.360
<v Speaker 1>your partner and you don't date them because they have

0:33:22.480 --> 0:33:24.680
<v Speaker 1>the same name. I have dated so my brother's name

0:33:24.720 --> 0:33:28.280
<v Speaker 1>is a Mitch and Dane. I've dated three mitches. She

0:33:28.360 --> 0:33:30.920
<v Speaker 1>got brother issues and had a huge Well, it's a

0:33:31.040 --> 0:33:33.640
<v Speaker 1>very common name, guy, it's a very common name. And

0:33:33.800 --> 0:33:37.400
<v Speaker 1>also had crushes on people with the name Dane in

0:33:37.440 --> 0:33:38.920
<v Speaker 1>the past. I never dated a day did.

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<v Speaker 2>Can I just say this, Dane is such a naughty

0:33:40.720 --> 0:33:43.040
<v Speaker 2>boy name, like all Danes A naughty.

0:33:43.120 --> 0:33:45.640
<v Speaker 1>He was naughty by Dane's very naughty.

0:33:45.720 --> 0:33:48.320
<v Speaker 2>I've never met a Dane who's actually turned out to

0:33:48.320 --> 0:33:50.280
<v Speaker 2>not be a naughty kid or like a naughty adult.

0:33:50.440 --> 0:33:52.920
<v Speaker 1>They're always naughty. My brother, Dane's naughty. But I think

0:33:52.960 --> 0:33:55.120
<v Speaker 1>this is dumb. I think it's hard enough to meet

0:33:55.240 --> 0:33:57.959
<v Speaker 1>your person or somebody that you actually vibe and connect with,

0:33:58.040 --> 0:34:01.440
<v Speaker 1>and if you're adding their name as a red flag

0:34:01.440 --> 0:34:03.320
<v Speaker 1>to your list, then I think that that's ridiculous. You're

0:34:03.320 --> 0:34:06.400
<v Speaker 1>shooting yourself in the foot. That's my opinion. I've done this,

0:34:07.760 --> 0:34:09.960
<v Speaker 1>explains why, explains why? Wait?

0:34:10.000 --> 0:34:11.960
<v Speaker 3>I think more context of this. Okay, I think it's different.

0:34:12.239 --> 0:34:13.719
<v Speaker 2>She's like met him already and then she had a

0:34:13.719 --> 0:34:17.520
<v Speaker 2>beautiful time fucking date your dad. It's fine, But if

0:34:17.520 --> 0:34:19.560
<v Speaker 2>you were on Tinder and you haven't met them yet,

0:34:19.560 --> 0:34:21.719
<v Speaker 2>you have no connection to them. They're just hot. And

0:34:21.760 --> 0:34:25.120
<v Speaker 2>then Terry comes up. I'm not gonna click on Terry.

0:34:25.239 --> 0:34:26.600
<v Speaker 2>All I can think of is my dad out in

0:34:26.600 --> 0:34:28.400
<v Speaker 2>a fishing bow. I wouldn't click on Terry, but not

0:34:28.440 --> 0:34:30.480
<v Speaker 2>because of the dad, true, it's just.

0:34:30.520 --> 0:34:32.640
<v Speaker 3>What if he is really hot and his name's Terrence,

0:34:32.760 --> 0:34:35.200
<v Speaker 3>this is oh god, it's my dad genuinely.

0:34:35.239 --> 0:34:36.640
<v Speaker 4>I think I was on a dating app and my

0:34:36.680 --> 0:34:39.839
<v Speaker 4>dad's name is Craig, and someone super attractive came up

0:34:39.840 --> 0:34:42.200
<v Speaker 4>and I was like, he is a magical creature.

0:34:42.760 --> 0:34:45.000
<v Speaker 3>Saw the name and I was like, noupe Keisha, this

0:34:45.120 --> 0:34:45.600
<v Speaker 3>is Keisha.

0:34:45.880 --> 0:34:48.680
<v Speaker 1>I don't know why I'm single anyone. Also, Keisha, don't

0:34:48.760 --> 0:34:50.160
<v Speaker 1>like the name. Don't like the name.

0:34:50.200 --> 0:34:52.040
<v Speaker 2>Oh god, that guy looks like he probably gets up

0:34:52.040 --> 0:34:53.799
<v Speaker 2>at five am in the morning this.

0:34:53.800 --> 0:34:55.400
<v Speaker 1>Morning about a date she went on, and she's like,

0:34:55.560 --> 0:34:56.920
<v Speaker 1>you should have seen the shoes he wore, though, And

0:34:56.960 --> 0:34:59.960
<v Speaker 1>I was like, Keisha, rate it in with he disciple shoes,

0:35:00.120 --> 0:35:01.160
<v Speaker 1>which is the name.

0:35:01.440 --> 0:35:04.160
<v Speaker 2>Unless he's wearing shoes that have like the toes in them,

0:35:04.239 --> 0:35:06.120
<v Speaker 2>that's probably where you can draw a line with just.

0:35:06.080 --> 0:35:07.040
<v Speaker 1>Weary balanced shoes.

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<v Speaker 4>We're getting very off track, Akay. I want to know

0:35:09.640 --> 0:35:11.960
<v Speaker 4>whether you'll date your dad. Apparently BRIT's fine with that.

0:35:11.960 --> 0:35:13.160
<v Speaker 3>That is not the question.

0:35:13.280 --> 0:35:15.000
<v Speaker 1>The question is not what you date your dad.

0:35:15.120 --> 0:35:16.400
<v Speaker 3>The question is what you date.

0:35:16.320 --> 0:35:18.680
<v Speaker 1>Someone that has the same name as someone in your family.

0:35:18.800 --> 0:35:22.200
<v Speaker 1>And if you are ruling out these people, I personally,

0:35:22.360 --> 0:35:27.719
<v Speaker 1>unless you absolutely detest or have a very traumatic association

0:35:27.880 --> 0:35:29.920
<v Speaker 1>with that name, like It's crazy to me if you're

0:35:30.000 --> 0:35:31.840
<v Speaker 1>ruling out people because they have a name similar to

0:35:31.880 --> 0:35:33.640
<v Speaker 1>someone in your family. If it's deeper than that, I

0:35:33.719 --> 0:35:35.759
<v Speaker 1>totally understand it. If every time you think of that

0:35:35.840 --> 0:35:38.319
<v Speaker 1>name or say it, it triggers you, that is the

0:35:38.320 --> 0:35:40.920
<v Speaker 1>only time I can understand it. But if you're just

0:35:40.920 --> 0:35:44.080
<v Speaker 1>like an average go get a family, and you're ruling

0:35:44.080 --> 0:35:46.759
<v Speaker 1>those people out, I mean, your own worst enemy is

0:35:46.800 --> 0:35:47.600
<v Speaker 1>what I think. I mean.

0:35:47.640 --> 0:35:50.400
<v Speaker 3>I do like how you've taken the questions so seriously.

0:35:50.520 --> 0:35:53.200
<v Speaker 1>I am. I take this. I take my advice to

0:35:53.200 --> 0:35:56.120
<v Speaker 1>you listeners very seriously. And I love love and I

0:35:56.160 --> 0:35:57.680
<v Speaker 1>want you to all fall in love, and I don't

0:35:57.680 --> 0:35:59.920
<v Speaker 1>want you to be excluding people because of their name.

0:36:00.160 --> 0:36:01.759
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but to be fair, I reckon your dad would

0:36:01.760 --> 0:36:03.959
<v Speaker 2>have been hot when he was younger. He was hot, yeah, yeah,

0:36:04.080 --> 0:36:04.879
<v Speaker 2>caring as well.

0:36:04.920 --> 0:36:07.920
<v Speaker 1>My dad was like a lifeguard you've try athlete. He

0:36:07.960 --> 0:36:11.719
<v Speaker 1>had long blonde tip. You probably still would sick.

0:36:12.040 --> 0:36:12.239
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:36:12.280 --> 0:36:14.319
<v Speaker 2>So see, you have no problems with dating someone named Terry,

0:36:14.360 --> 0:36:15.440
<v Speaker 2>I mean Tony, I.

0:36:17.560 --> 0:36:18.320
<v Speaker 3>Have daddy issues.

0:36:18.320 --> 0:36:20.760
<v Speaker 1>Sorry, what's your dad's name, Craig.

0:36:21.520 --> 0:36:22.719
<v Speaker 3>We established that, so.

0:36:22.719 --> 0:36:24.960
<v Speaker 1>You've not wouldn't dated Craig.

0:36:25.440 --> 0:36:27.600
<v Speaker 2>No, there's not many thirty year olds walking around with

0:36:27.600 --> 0:36:29.719
<v Speaker 2>the name Craig. Though my brother's name is Kai, and

0:36:29.719 --> 0:36:33.080
<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't date a Kai either. It's just too weird

0:36:33.160 --> 0:36:35.040
<v Speaker 2>for me. Like to me, I'm like, there's just too

0:36:35.160 --> 0:36:36.200
<v Speaker 2>much connection, Shase.

0:36:36.280 --> 0:36:39.560
<v Speaker 1>So you're penguin waddles along and the name's Craig. You

0:36:39.600 --> 0:36:42.359
<v Speaker 1>could not have written or put this creature together more

0:36:42.400 --> 0:36:44.840
<v Speaker 1>perfectly for you. You would not date him because his

0:36:44.920 --> 0:36:45.399
<v Speaker 1>name's Craig.

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<v Speaker 3>Has he got a middle name? Could we get by that? Can?

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<v Speaker 2>I like, I mean, here's a bit of self admission, Like,

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<v Speaker 2>my father's name is Matt, and I'm married to a Matt.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, then why are you taking the pin?

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<v Speaker 2>Because I think my brother's real name's Matthias. But I

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<v Speaker 2>don't look at Matt. And at no point was I like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my god, that's my brother's name. But if I

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<v Speaker 2>did meet someone, because that's so common, Matt is the

0:37:03.520 --> 0:37:05.680
<v Speaker 2>most common name. But if I did meet a guy

0:37:05.760 --> 0:37:08.239
<v Speaker 2>named Terry and I was dating him, I think it

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<v Speaker 2>depends on how old manish the name is.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but that's I can't even have a conversation with

0:37:13.040 --> 0:37:15.480
<v Speaker 1>you a lot. You're just contradicting yourselves. That has to

0:37:15.480 --> 0:37:17.799
<v Speaker 1>do with their age, not their name. You just admit it.

0:37:17.800 --> 0:37:19.239
<v Speaker 1>You just went against it, laughing, and then you're like, well,

0:37:19.239 --> 0:37:21.799
<v Speaker 1>actually I am dating my process. No no, no, I know

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<v Speaker 1>the prime exemple.

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<v Speaker 2>No no, no, no, no, you've misunderstood. I have no issue

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<v Speaker 2>with brothers.

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<v Speaker 3>It's dads. I have an issue with.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god. Well, look, the answer for me is

0:37:31.360 --> 0:37:34.000
<v Speaker 1>to date the date who. Yes, date somebody with the

0:37:34.080 --> 0:37:35.920
<v Speaker 1>name similar unless it's really going to triger you. But

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<v Speaker 1>it shouldn't be triggering you because they share the same name.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's get into the next question.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, last question. I am nineteen years of age and

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<v Speaker 1>currently working childcare full time. My workplace is all female

0:37:47.440 --> 0:37:49.960
<v Speaker 1>who the majority are mums. I work in the same

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<v Speaker 1>room as this thirty seven year old who acts like

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<v Speaker 1>she's in high school. She gossips, she bags and talkshit

0:37:55.239 --> 0:37:58.360
<v Speaker 1>about other workers, and she loves to be overly overpowering

0:37:58.480 --> 0:38:01.640
<v Speaker 1>in the workplace. Me being the overthinking person I am,

0:38:02.000 --> 0:38:04.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm constantly worried she's talking shit and it's affecting my

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<v Speaker 1>confidence in my ability at work. I feel so much

0:38:07.880 --> 0:38:10.840
<v Speaker 1>toxicity in my workplace, but I can't financially take the

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<v Speaker 1>risk and leave. What should I do?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, firstly, I would just be applying for other jobs.

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<v Speaker 2>That would be what I would start, I think at nineteen,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, this is probably one of your first full time,

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<v Speaker 2>like full time serious jobs and careers. I don't think

0:38:25.840 --> 0:38:28.080
<v Speaker 2>you need to stay or work in a place where

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<v Speaker 2>you feel like the culture is terrible and there's like

0:38:30.320 --> 0:38:33.240
<v Speaker 2>crippling toxicity because I actually think that that's a culture

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<v Speaker 2>that's too hard to change and unless you address the situation,

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<v Speaker 2>which can be very challenging with your employer.

0:38:39.520 --> 0:38:39.799
<v Speaker 3>You can go.

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<v Speaker 2>Obviously, you can speak to a employer, you can explain

0:38:42.000 --> 0:38:45.360
<v Speaker 2>to them what's happening with this woman. But to change

0:38:45.360 --> 0:38:47.600
<v Speaker 2>that will take a lot of time. And is that

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<v Speaker 2>going to change?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

0:38:49.200 --> 0:38:51.800
<v Speaker 2>I would say for me, I would probably start putting

0:38:51.800 --> 0:38:55.040
<v Speaker 2>feelers out for other places to work, because you should

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<v Speaker 2>never work in an environment where you feel that it

0:38:58.520 --> 0:39:01.640
<v Speaker 2>is that toxic that you have anxiety about going to work.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree, But what I'm going to say is not

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<v Speaker 1>necessarily something I agree with, because I don't. But it's

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<v Speaker 1>something that I've learned in my thirty five years and

0:39:09.280 --> 0:39:11.279
<v Speaker 1>working in a lot of workplaces. I have left a

0:39:11.320 --> 0:39:13.920
<v Speaker 1>workplace before. I quit because of workplace bullying, because of

0:39:13.920 --> 0:39:16.800
<v Speaker 1>the toxic environment. And I'm a confident person in myself

0:39:16.840 --> 0:39:19.400
<v Speaker 1>and my abilities, so no one just to put it

0:39:19.400 --> 0:39:22.719
<v Speaker 1>out there, no one is necessarily exempt from feeling that way.

0:39:22.760 --> 0:39:24.319
<v Speaker 1>So I don't want you to think that it's you

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<v Speaker 1>at all, because it's not. I felt the environment was

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<v Speaker 1>so bad. I always felt like I and other people

0:39:29.840 --> 0:39:32.319
<v Speaker 1>were being judged. People would be in tears. It wasn't nice.

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<v Speaker 1>And I told the boss when I left. She said,

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<v Speaker 1>can I ask why you're leaving? You know, obviously it's

0:39:36.440 --> 0:39:38.680
<v Speaker 1>sad to lose you, And I said, in complete honesty,

0:39:38.800 --> 0:39:41.080
<v Speaker 1>it's the environment. There are some real bullies here and

0:39:41.160 --> 0:39:43.839
<v Speaker 1>I don't like it, and I don't feel comfortable. Unfortunately,

0:39:44.120 --> 0:39:46.920
<v Speaker 1>don't think people ever grow out of it. I have

0:39:47.080 --> 0:39:50.880
<v Speaker 1>friends in their fifties and sixties who have spoken to

0:39:50.920 --> 0:39:53.760
<v Speaker 1>me not that long ago about the same thing, bullying

0:39:53.880 --> 0:39:56.000
<v Speaker 1>and bitching in an environment, and I said to them,

0:39:56.040 --> 0:39:59.120
<v Speaker 1>I was like, wow, I always just thought I needed

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<v Speaker 1>a couple more years and to grow out of that.

0:40:00.760 --> 0:40:02.200
<v Speaker 1>Like it gets to a point where you're an adult

0:40:02.239 --> 0:40:04.560
<v Speaker 1>and you think that adults act like adults, but they don't,

0:40:04.680 --> 0:40:06.960
<v Speaker 1>and one thing I did learn is that it doesn't

0:40:06.960 --> 0:40:10.919
<v Speaker 1>necessarily matter where you work or how old you are. Unfortunately,

0:40:11.000 --> 0:40:12.520
<v Speaker 1>there are always going to be these kind of people

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<v Speaker 1>in an environment. If it's pushing you to the point

0:40:14.760 --> 0:40:16.920
<v Speaker 1>where you just you're beside yourself and you can't go

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<v Speaker 1>to work one hundred percent, leave and find another environment

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<v Speaker 1>because they're not all. When I say bitchiness, you don't

0:40:22.920 --> 0:40:26.000
<v Speaker 1>grow out of it. That doesn't necessarily mean people constantly

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<v Speaker 1>take it to work. But what I'm saying is it's

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<v Speaker 1>not necessarily something where you're like, I'm going to go

0:40:30.239 --> 0:40:32.080
<v Speaker 1>work with people that are in their fifties because they're

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<v Speaker 1>going to be better. They probably will be better in

0:40:34.040 --> 0:40:36.960
<v Speaker 1>a big capacity. But I think it's something that we

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<v Speaker 1>have to accept in ourselves sometimes that I'm not going

0:40:39.600 --> 0:40:42.840
<v Speaker 1>to let somebody else make me feel uncomfortable. I know

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<v Speaker 1>my worth, I know what I do, I know what

0:40:44.800 --> 0:40:47.480
<v Speaker 1>I bring to the job, and it's easier said than

0:40:47.520 --> 0:40:49.279
<v Speaker 1>done to internalize that and say I'm just going to

0:40:49.320 --> 0:40:51.040
<v Speaker 1>put my head down and do it. I'm not saying

0:40:51.080 --> 0:40:53.360
<v Speaker 1>that's the answer. I'm just saying there does come a

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<v Speaker 1>time where you have to accept that some people are

0:40:55.160 --> 0:40:57.319
<v Speaker 1>always going to be those people. Some people are never

0:40:57.320 --> 0:40:59.080
<v Speaker 1>going to outgrow that bitchiness.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I I agree that there are people who are

0:41:01.360 --> 0:41:02.680
<v Speaker 2>never going to outgrow the bitchiness.

0:41:02.719 --> 0:41:04.040
<v Speaker 3>I absolutely agree.

0:41:04.080 --> 0:41:05.720
<v Speaker 2>But I do think it comes down to the culture

0:41:05.719 --> 0:41:08.080
<v Speaker 2>in a workplace, and it also comes down to who

0:41:08.239 --> 0:41:10.799
<v Speaker 2>is in senior management in that place. Is this person

0:41:10.840 --> 0:41:13.280
<v Speaker 2>who works in this childcare center, being that she's thirty seven,

0:41:13.560 --> 0:41:15.799
<v Speaker 2>has she been there for a lot longer? Is she

0:41:15.920 --> 0:41:18.480
<v Speaker 2>the director of the childcare center? Is she the manager

0:41:18.520 --> 0:41:21.680
<v Speaker 2>of the room. The problem is is that, of course

0:41:21.719 --> 0:41:25.120
<v Speaker 2>in workplaces, these things shouldn't exist, but they do exist

0:41:25.160 --> 0:41:28.440
<v Speaker 2>in some places, and it is really, really fucking hard,

0:41:28.719 --> 0:41:30.799
<v Speaker 2>especially when you're at the bottom of the rank. When

0:41:30.840 --> 0:41:32.760
<v Speaker 2>you're at the bottom of the rank, you can't change

0:41:32.760 --> 0:41:35.480
<v Speaker 2>the culture of a company. You can't change the culture

0:41:35.640 --> 0:41:38.879
<v Speaker 2>of your employment. It has to come from the top down,

0:41:38.960 --> 0:41:41.200
<v Speaker 2>so you can make them aware of it, but your

0:41:41.239 --> 0:41:44.080
<v Speaker 2>ability to change it is very, very small. And I think,

0:41:44.480 --> 0:41:46.799
<v Speaker 2>and I speak of this from my own experience. When

0:41:46.840 --> 0:41:50.239
<v Speaker 2>I worked before I started my own businesses, I worked

0:41:50.520 --> 0:41:52.040
<v Speaker 2>for a company.

0:41:52.160 --> 0:41:53.680
<v Speaker 3>It was a printing company in Epping.

0:41:53.880 --> 0:41:55.440
<v Speaker 2>I worked for them for quite a long time and

0:41:55.480 --> 0:41:58.759
<v Speaker 2>it was horrendously toxic, and because it was my very

0:41:58.800 --> 0:42:03.040
<v Speaker 2>first real experience of employment outside of university, I thought

0:42:03.200 --> 0:42:05.200
<v Speaker 2>that that was kind of normal and that I had

0:42:05.200 --> 0:42:07.200
<v Speaker 2>to just GrITT and bear it. And I did gritten

0:42:07.200 --> 0:42:08.960
<v Speaker 2>bear it for two years and then I quit and

0:42:09.000 --> 0:42:12.720
<v Speaker 2>I eventually started working somewhere else, and it was almost

0:42:12.760 --> 0:42:14.719
<v Speaker 2>like someone had turned the fucking lights on. I was like,

0:42:14.760 --> 0:42:16.560
<v Speaker 2>oh my god, this is what it is to work

0:42:16.600 --> 0:42:19.719
<v Speaker 2>in a company who appreciates me and doesn't treat me

0:42:19.960 --> 0:42:22.520
<v Speaker 2>as though like they're doing me a favor by employing me.

0:42:22.920 --> 0:42:24.640
<v Speaker 2>So I really do think that if you're going to

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<v Speaker 2>work and it's causing you constant anxiety, nobody is paying

0:42:27.880 --> 0:42:29.640
<v Speaker 2>you enough for that. Like that there is no job

0:42:29.680 --> 0:42:31.200
<v Speaker 2>that's giving you. I mean maybe if it's millions and

0:42:31.200 --> 0:42:32.440
<v Speaker 2>millions of dollars, but I'm going to guess that if

0:42:32.440 --> 0:42:35.000
<v Speaker 2>you're working in childcare, you're not making that much money

0:42:35.040 --> 0:42:37.960
<v Speaker 2>in comparison to the amount of stress that it's causing you,

0:42:38.000 --> 0:42:39.880
<v Speaker 2>and so you shouldn't be taking that home. You shouldn't

0:42:39.880 --> 0:42:42.280
<v Speaker 2>be worried about coming to work and working alongside these people.

0:42:42.840 --> 0:42:45.600
<v Speaker 2>So I would say, if you feel confident enough, the

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<v Speaker 2>first thing is to speak to someone who maybe is

0:42:48.600 --> 0:42:52.120
<v Speaker 2>in a HR position, but if it's a very small business,

0:42:52.200 --> 0:42:54.319
<v Speaker 2>it may not even have a HR position. So I

0:42:54.360 --> 0:42:56.719
<v Speaker 2>think sometimes the best thing to do is start to

0:42:56.719 --> 0:42:58.440
<v Speaker 2>look at what other opportunities exist.

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<v Speaker 4>I think also in those situations when you're talking about

0:43:01.320 --> 0:43:04.480
<v Speaker 4>someone's behavior at work, especially with something that's like a bitchy,

0:43:04.560 --> 0:43:08.319
<v Speaker 4>toxic vibe, it's so hard to put into words because

0:43:08.320 --> 0:43:09.799
<v Speaker 4>a lot of the time it's like, oh, it's the

0:43:09.920 --> 0:43:12.040
<v Speaker 4>way she said it. It's not like she's turning up

0:43:12.080 --> 0:43:14.480
<v Speaker 4>to work late or going home early, or like treating

0:43:14.520 --> 0:43:16.600
<v Speaker 4>a kid bad in the daycare center. So if you're

0:43:16.920 --> 0:43:19.239
<v Speaker 4>going to someone in a position of management or whatever

0:43:19.280 --> 0:43:21.319
<v Speaker 4>and being like I just think she's a bit of

0:43:21.320 --> 0:43:23.719
<v Speaker 4>a cow. She speaks badly about people, they're going to

0:43:23.760 --> 0:43:25.520
<v Speaker 4>be like, well, what are some examples of this. It's

0:43:25.520 --> 0:43:28.640
<v Speaker 4>actually something that's quite hard to say because a lot

0:43:28.640 --> 0:43:29.520
<v Speaker 4>of it is implication.

0:43:29.640 --> 0:43:31.880
<v Speaker 3>You know, in those situations, otherwise you just sound.

0:43:31.719 --> 0:43:34.279
<v Speaker 4>Like you're complaining about these very menial things, but when

0:43:34.600 --> 0:43:36.960
<v Speaker 4>they're happening to you every day, they really add up.

0:43:37.239 --> 0:43:39.440
<v Speaker 4>And the only thing that I would gives advice, like

0:43:39.520 --> 0:43:41.319
<v Speaker 4>whether you're able to get another job or not.

0:43:41.480 --> 0:43:42.200
<v Speaker 3>I think that with.

0:43:42.239 --> 0:43:45.640
<v Speaker 4>People like that in the workplace, the most that you

0:43:45.680 --> 0:43:47.799
<v Speaker 4>can distance yourself personally from them.

0:43:47.880 --> 0:43:49.719
<v Speaker 3>So all of your conversation, just keep it.

0:43:49.760 --> 0:43:52.480
<v Speaker 4>Very professional about work because the less they know about

0:43:52.560 --> 0:43:54.680
<v Speaker 4>you and the less they know about your personal life,

0:43:55.040 --> 0:43:56.440
<v Speaker 4>the less they can use against you.

0:43:56.640 --> 0:43:59.640
<v Speaker 1>I was gonna say the same thing. Bullying and being

0:43:59.640 --> 0:44:03.000
<v Speaker 1>on com an environment is subjective, right, It's different for everyone,

0:44:03.040 --> 0:44:05.120
<v Speaker 1>And like you to say, Keisha sometimes and sometimes for

0:44:05.200 --> 0:44:08.040
<v Speaker 1>me in the past, it's been nothing I can put

0:44:08.040 --> 0:44:10.040
<v Speaker 1>my finger on. It's the way someone looks at you.

0:44:10.280 --> 0:44:11.839
<v Speaker 1>It's a look, and what are you gonna You can't

0:44:11.880 --> 0:44:13.839
<v Speaker 1>go and say, oh, I just like that looked at

0:44:13.840 --> 0:44:16.080
<v Speaker 1>me funny today. So it's been at the end of

0:44:16.080 --> 0:44:18.960
<v Speaker 1>the day, it's what makes you feel uncomfortable if you

0:44:19.080 --> 0:44:22.200
<v Speaker 1>know that she's talking inappropriately about other people. Even if

0:44:22.200 --> 0:44:24.120
<v Speaker 1>you know you're gonna leave one hundred percent and go

0:44:24.160 --> 0:44:26.360
<v Speaker 1>and tell the boss. There is a manager at the

0:44:26.440 --> 0:44:27.920
<v Speaker 1>end of the day, even if there's three people that

0:44:27.960 --> 0:44:29.960
<v Speaker 1>work there, there's a manager. There is someone you can

0:44:30.000 --> 0:44:32.560
<v Speaker 1>go and tell, Go and tell them that you're uncomfortable

0:44:32.600 --> 0:44:34.680
<v Speaker 1>by what they're saying. It is their job to then

0:44:34.719 --> 0:44:36.640
<v Speaker 1>go and speak to that person and they do not

0:44:36.760 --> 0:44:39.040
<v Speaker 1>have to say there is a level of anonymity. They

0:44:39.040 --> 0:44:41.120
<v Speaker 1>do not have to go and say Sarah came and

0:44:41.160 --> 0:44:43.759
<v Speaker 1>said you've been talking badly. They're not going to do that.

0:44:43.760 --> 0:44:45.400
<v Speaker 1>They're gonna say, look, there's been a complaint that you've

0:44:45.400 --> 0:44:48.000
<v Speaker 1>been saying. It's been appropriate things. I think you shouldn't

0:44:48.000 --> 0:44:49.839
<v Speaker 1>be forced out yet. There are steps to take.

0:44:49.880 --> 0:44:50.120
<v Speaker 3>First.

0:44:50.200 --> 0:44:53.120
<v Speaker 1>I would make an official complaint that you are uncomfortable

0:44:53.120 --> 0:44:55.839
<v Speaker 1>by things that they're saying. If it doesn't get better,

0:44:55.920 --> 0:44:57.719
<v Speaker 1>of course, look for something different. No one goes to

0:44:57.760 --> 0:45:00.279
<v Speaker 1>work and feels uncomfortable. You do what is right for

0:45:00.280 --> 0:45:01.560
<v Speaker 1>you at the end of the day. But I wouldn't

0:45:01.600 --> 0:45:03.560
<v Speaker 1>go in. I mean, like, and I'm gonna say this,

0:45:03.640 --> 0:45:07.080
<v Speaker 1>in today's economy, you can't. Unfortunately, not many people are

0:45:07.080 --> 0:45:08.879
<v Speaker 1>in a position whether they can go and quit without

0:45:08.880 --> 0:45:11.239
<v Speaker 1>another job. So put your feelers out now, start having

0:45:11.280 --> 0:45:12.960
<v Speaker 1>a look because you want to go and you want

0:45:12.960 --> 0:45:15.399
<v Speaker 1>to be comfortable in your environment. But do not leave.

0:45:15.560 --> 0:45:17.640
<v Speaker 1>I mean this is just me. Do not leave without

0:45:17.880 --> 0:45:20.720
<v Speaker 1>telling them why, because otherwise we don't break the cycle,

0:45:20.760 --> 0:45:22.680
<v Speaker 1>do we. The next person, The next young girl that's

0:45:22.760 --> 0:45:24.880
<v Speaker 1>nineteen and fresh out of UNI or school comes in

0:45:24.920 --> 0:45:27.040
<v Speaker 1>and the same thing happens. So even if you did

0:45:27.040 --> 0:45:29.640
<v Speaker 1>what I did, where I never made an official complaint.

0:45:29.880 --> 0:45:31.560
<v Speaker 1>I was lucky enough to find another job, but I

0:45:31.760 --> 0:45:34.000
<v Speaker 1>one hundred percent told them the honor's true as why

0:45:34.000 --> 0:45:35.759
<v Speaker 1>I was leaving, because I wanted that to be known.

0:45:35.920 --> 0:45:36.200
<v Speaker 1>All right.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, that is it from us.

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<v Speaker 2>the Facebook discussion group Black on Cut Discussion group.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't forget to you mum, to your dad, tell you dog,

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<v Speaker 1>te your friends, and share the love because we'll love.

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<v Speaker 3>Welcome baby,