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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the

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Speaker 1: time poor parent who just wants answers now.

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Speaker 2: Providing our kids with opportunities to actually brainstorm and come

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Speaker 2: up with solutions on their.

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Speaker 3: Own, collaborate.

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Speaker 4: It's so powerful.

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Speaker 1: And now here's the stars of our show, my mum

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Speaker 3: Well, another week is almost over Friday. It feels good.

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Speaker 5: It means that we get to be with our families, hopefully,

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Speaker 5: so long as you're not working this weekend. Hello, this

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Speaker 5: is doctor Justin Coulson. I'm here with my wife and

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Speaker 5: mum to our six kids. Kylie. How are you feeling, Kylie?

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Speaker 5: The countdown is really on for us. Our house is

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Speaker 5: about to be on the market, and hopefully I'm going

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Speaker 5: to be joining you and we'll be together again as

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Speaker 5: a family really soon, permanently.

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Speaker 2: I'm really looking forward to that. But there does doesn't

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Speaker 2: seem to be any light at the end of the

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Speaker 4: It's driving me crazy.

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Speaker 3: How many houses do you reckon? We've looked at so far.

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Speaker 4: Too many.

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Speaker 2: I actually I was speaking to an a and I said,

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Speaker 2: he said, I'm ringing up about blah blah blah house

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Speaker 2: and I said, oh, I said, I'm sorry. Until I'm

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Speaker 2: which house you're talking about. I've been inundated and he said,

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Speaker 2: what do you mean inundated?

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Speaker 4: He said, we.

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Speaker 2: Can't get enough houses to show people, and I said,

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Speaker 2: I am looking at every of them.

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Speaker 3: We are literally we've got six kids, right.

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Speaker 5: This is not what today's podcast is about, but today's

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Speaker 3: I'll do better tomorrow.

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Speaker 5: We'll get to that in a seg but we are

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Speaker 5: looking at everything from like three bedroom shacks right up

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Speaker 5: just want to find a house that's going to work

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Speaker 5: house isn't. But we're open to just about anything right now,

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Speaker 5: aren't we? And housing the housing market, for anyone who

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Speaker 5: is looking, we feel your pain. And for anyone who's selling,

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Speaker 5: good luck to you, Like you're going to do really well,

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Speaker 5: but then you're going to be looking and it's just unbelievable.

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Speaker 5: The Australian housing market generally, or at least hearing Southeast Queensland.

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Speaker 5: Holy smokes, holy smokes. And you know the scary thing.

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Speaker 5: I saw a house that sold the other day that

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Speaker 5: we're like, oh, maybe we're in with a shot.

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Speaker 3: They sold it for two.

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Speaker 4: Point four and didn't do a thing to it and don't.

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Speaker 3: Know what to do it in two years. It's like,

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Speaker 5: I mean, we could get onto the whole political and

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Speaker 2: Anyway, I'll do better tomorrow, Honey, have you done better

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Speaker 2: or have we got some learning?

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Speaker 3: The idea of I'll do better tomorrow.

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Speaker 5: Thanks for listening to our winge And how fortunate are we?

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Speaker 3: Honestly, let's not winge in one too much. How fortunate

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Speaker 5: Live in a country where where we actually do have

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Speaker 5: this country are just just wonderful. I'll Do Better Tomorrow

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Speaker 5: as a podcast that we do every Friday, where we

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Speaker 5: what worked, what didn't, how we can be better parents

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Speaker 5: next week. It's all about being better tomorrow. This week,

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Speaker 5: I had an experience that reminded me of the Space Shuttle.

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Speaker 4: Fly me to the Moon, let me play among the stars.

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Speaker 3: The Space Shuttle, and as you know, I'm anything but

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Speaker 5: Shuttle to get into orbit, it has to go twenty

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Speaker 5: The other thing about the Space Shuttle, though, is that

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Speaker 5: It goes through the average family swimming pool, like a

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Speaker 5: Yeah, those fuel tanks. Those fuel tanks, they're like multiple

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Speaker 5: Fuel, right, they're the boosters, all the fuels, and there

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Speaker 5: it's really not consuming any fuel. The Earth's gravitational pull

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Speaker 4: House cleaning too.

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Speaker 3: I think it works with just about anything.

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Speaker 5: And this is my point, So I need to make

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Speaker 5: years with our kids. I actually hate playing most games

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Speaker 4: You leave that up to me?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And what do I actually do?

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Speaker 4: You wingine, complain and then you disappear.

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Speaker 5: That's right. We've got strengths, we've got things that we

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Speaker 3: The thing that you.

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Speaker 5: because it might actually be way better than your thought.

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Speaker 5: You might find yourself in orbit, rocketing around the Earth

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Speaker 4: That's pretty cool.

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Speaker 3: Do you like that one?

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Speaker 5: We'll find out what your one is next with a

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Speaker 5: flashback a callback to our conversation on Wednesday about letting

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Speaker 5: kids find their own limits.

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Speaker 2: It's the Happy Families podcast, the podcast for the time

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Speaker 2: poor parent who just wants answers Now I don't have

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Speaker 2: a rocket ship analogy.

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Speaker 3: That we don't have time for another one that took

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Speaker 2: Days ago, we had a conversation about a beautiful little girl.

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Speaker 4: Who tried to pour herself a glass of juice.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, if you missed it Wednesday's podcast. It got

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