WEBVTT - MINI: 6 Word Year

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<v Speaker 1>God One a four point three Christian O'Connor show every

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<v Speaker 1>Monday on the show, and then we ask you to

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<v Speaker 1>tell us what happened to you over the weekend in

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<v Speaker 1>six words.

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<v Speaker 2>We could do something different.

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<v Speaker 1>This is something where even if you don't get involved

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<v Speaker 1>with this today, I really urge you do this over

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<v Speaker 1>the next couple of weeks with your family, friends and

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<v Speaker 1>your mates. I'm in our WhatsApp group with a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of buddies and I put it up there yesterday and

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<v Speaker 1>people started to go back and forth with it. And

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<v Speaker 1>even though I know those friends very very well, I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't realize some of the stuff I've obviously happened this year.

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<v Speaker 1>And oh I'm seeing some of them tonight. I've got

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<v Speaker 1>other areas to talk to them about. All it is

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<v Speaker 1>is your year, whatever this year is for you. How

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<v Speaker 1>would you actually tell somebody about that in six words?

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<v Speaker 1>And the thing to do with this rather than pick

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<v Speaker 1>six random words like if you've got a new cat

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<v Speaker 1>this year, as an cat moved and all that, actually

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<v Speaker 1>try and put it all together as a sentence. It

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<v Speaker 1>becomes like a mini story in a way, which is

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<v Speaker 1>what our lives are, aren't they full of the various

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<v Speaker 1>chapters what goes on in her life, and especially in

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<v Speaker 1>just a year, so as it does come to a

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<v Speaker 1>close over the next couple of weeks, this six word year,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a great thing to do. Patsy, what's it for you?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you have a couple of different things that you

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<v Speaker 1>went through?

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<v Speaker 3>No, it was really obvious. For me, it was top

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<v Speaker 3>of mind.

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 3>I thought about family life and all different aspects of

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<v Speaker 3>my life through twenty twenty three. But really for me,

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<v Speaker 3>the epitome is my acro win at the Radio Awards

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<v Speaker 3>in October, and I think the words for me are

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<v Speaker 3>I now appreciate my own worth And this, to be honest,

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<v Speaker 3>it seems really narcissistic, but it's my truth, and that

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<v Speaker 3>is you know, I've been doing radio, as we know,

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<v Speaker 3>for decades, and you know, people tell you you're good at

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<v Speaker 3>what you do, but I have probably the worst case

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<v Speaker 3>of imposter syndrome a lot of performers do, where you

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<v Speaker 3>really don't think you're that good. You're never good enough

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<v Speaker 3>in your own mind. You're a perfectionist and you're always

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<v Speaker 3>trying to do better and really hard on yourself. And

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<v Speaker 3>I'm very guilty of that, and so winning that it's

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<v Speaker 3>given me this renew good sense of worth and this

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<v Speaker 3>I really found. I really feel like I have found

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<v Speaker 3>myself these last few months that I feel so much

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<v Speaker 3>more comfortable in my skin and I continue to grow.

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<v Speaker 3>I've still got a lot to learn in what I do,

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<v Speaker 3>but I do I have this. It's not a complacency,

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<v Speaker 3>but just you know what, I'm okay and I'm enough.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think there's a certain amount as a woman

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<v Speaker 3>when you turn fifty. I felt that as well, where

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<v Speaker 3>you don't worry about so much what other people think.

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<v Speaker 3>But since this acro win, it's really made me professionally

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<v Speaker 3>more comfortable with what I'm doing and I feel like

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<v Speaker 3>I found myself and I feel that that will be

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<v Speaker 3>such a gift for Audrey to pass on to my

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<v Speaker 3>daughter as well, to teach her not to take no

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<v Speaker 3>for an answer, because if I took no for the

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<v Speaker 3>amount of people that said, oh, you'd never do that,

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<v Speaker 3>or you know, you know my careers teacher in year

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<v Speaker 3>ten set when I said I wanted to get into radio,

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<v Speaker 3>he said, oh, yeah, you won't do that. Not many

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<v Speaker 3>people do that. It's that awful, and that just makes

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<v Speaker 3>me more determined when people say you know, that's like, well,

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<v Speaker 3>actually no, I'll show you why not me? So, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I really feel like I've found my This is.

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<v Speaker 1>A start lovely to hear, Patsy. And do you know

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<v Speaker 1>when I first started here, I remember you saying to

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<v Speaker 1>me that you were actually on your way of just

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<v Speaker 1>giving up radio.

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<v Speaker 2>You just had enough of ignored.

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<v Speaker 1>For other jobs, and you would have been a huge loss.

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<v Speaker 1>It's been a great joy through doing the show for

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<v Speaker 1>me over the last couple of years to see your

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<v Speaker 1>rise and rise and rise actually in your fullness, Patsy.

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<v Speaker 1>You are so gifted, You're so good. It's such a

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<v Speaker 1>big part of this show. Whatever the show is, it's

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<v Speaker 1>a huge parts of Patsy. And I'm really excited about

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<v Speaker 1>what all this is going to mean next year when

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<v Speaker 1>you launch your new podcast as well. I think that's

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<v Speaker 1>going to be a game change and actually a gift

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<v Speaker 1>for so many women as well.

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<v Speaker 2>Patsy.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I procrastinated for so long, and Chris was on

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<v Speaker 3>my back. My husband's like, you've got to do a podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't want to just do a podcast because I

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<v Speaker 3>should do it, because I'm in radio and everyone was

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<v Speaker 3>doing it. I didn't want to do it just because

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<v Speaker 3>I wanted it to mean something and I wanted it

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<v Speaker 3>to be here comes the perfectionist to me again. But

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<v Speaker 3>I wanted it to be something I was really proud

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<v Speaker 3>of and not just like cookie Cutter. Just get it

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<v Speaker 3>out there. And Christian, you have also encouraged me to

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<v Speaker 3>the nth degree to do it, and so I'm finally

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<v Speaker 3>doing it, and I'm really really excited about it. It's

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<v Speaker 3>going to be about menopause, and why I'm doing it

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<v Speaker 3>is because I want to try, in my little bit,

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<v Speaker 3>just to change the narrative around it. I want to

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<v Speaker 3>remove or help remove the stigma because we don't talk

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<v Speaker 3>about it enough and I want to start talking about it.

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<v Speaker 3>So it's raw, it's honest, it's open. If you're listening

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<v Speaker 3>and you're going through it or your partner's going through it,

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<v Speaker 3>message me if you've got any ideas of what topics

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<v Speaker 3>you might like to touch on, or if you want

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<v Speaker 3>to share your experiences, please hit me up on Instagram

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<v Speaker 3>because it's all part of a community that I'm trying

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<v Speaker 3>to build to support all of us as we try

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<v Speaker 3>and navigate the you roade of menopause. So I'm really.

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<v Speaker 1>Exc My wife Sarah honestly will be your first listener.

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<v Speaker 1>And she was saying the other day when I was

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<v Speaker 1>saying that you started to make some episodes, that it

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<v Speaker 1>is all her and her friends talk about because actually

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<v Speaker 1>no one talks about it.

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<v Speaker 3>That's it. Why don't we talk?

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<v Speaker 2>And if it was us guys that went through it,

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<v Speaker 2>you'd hear a lot about it.

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<v Speaker 3>But you do go through it.

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<v Speaker 2>If I was going through you know, my six world

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<v Speaker 2>would just be menopause.

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<v Speaker 4>And we're doing menopause.

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<v Speaker 3>But you are going through it because you know, you're

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<v Speaker 3>supporting people, are supporting partners as well. It affects everyone,

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<v Speaker 3>millions of women around the world, millions. So let's start

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<v Speaker 3>the conversation. Let's not make it a dirty word. Let's

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<v Speaker 3>let's share and help and support.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think it's much needed, Patsy, and there's no

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<v Speaker 1>one better to do it than you.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so stay tuned. I'm very excited. I've got about

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<v Speaker 3>five episodes in the bag, so hopefully about March we'll

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<v Speaker 3>get that launch and I'll be able to tell you more.

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<v Speaker 1>Song you can hear what this is opened up and Patsy,

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<v Speaker 1>from just six words, right, it does it. It really

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<v Speaker 1>gets you thinking about what's happened this year and what

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<v Speaker 1>did it really mean to as you leave the years,

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<v Speaker 1>Jackie boy, what's it for you this year? Big year

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<v Speaker 1>for you in your family?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I've written priorities, change, accepting, fatherhood, deeper enjoyment.

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<v Speaker 2>So what does that mean for you? Then?

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<v Speaker 4>It means that this year for me being a dad

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<v Speaker 4>has really clicked. And that's something I'm really proud of

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<v Speaker 4>because last year I found it a real challenge when

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<v Speaker 4>Gordy came into our life, I just wasn't ready for

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<v Speaker 4>some aspects of it. I was so used to Bianca

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<v Speaker 4>and I being the only priority. I was used to

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<v Speaker 4>the freedom, the autonomy, being able to do what you want,

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<v Speaker 4>and then all of a sudden, somebody comes along and

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<v Speaker 4>I wasn't expecting to feel this resistance to he needs

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<v Speaker 4>our attention, he needs to be the number one priority.

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<v Speaker 4>And obviously, consciously I could go, I know he needs

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<v Speaker 4>that and I need to give it to him. But

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<v Speaker 4>it felt like something I was forcing, I was pushing against.

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<v Speaker 4>Whereas I compare this year to last year, and now

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<v Speaker 4>that feeling is effortless for me, it just is him

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<v Speaker 4>being the number one priority doesn't feel like something I

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<v Speaker 4>have to push against a force. It just is and

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<v Speaker 4>I'm so thankful for that. And I thought it might

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<v Speaker 4>come straight away. I thought the day he was born

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<v Speaker 4>that would come naturally. It didn't come naturally for me

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<v Speaker 4>straight away, but I'm so glad that it's here now.

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<v Speaker 4>And yeah, I just now, I don't feel like I'm

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<v Speaker 4>making a sacrifice. There's nothing I feel like I'm missing on.

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<v Speaker 4>There's no loss. Just the joy and the love that

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<v Speaker 4>he brings to us is all that I need. And honestly,

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<v Speaker 4>the Wiggles tomorrow is a great example of that. If

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<v Speaker 4>you told me, honestly two years ago that I would

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<v Speaker 4>sit through a concert of the Wiggles just so my

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<v Speaker 4>son could enjoy it, I would think, God, what a

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<v Speaker 4>burden and a sacrifice. Sure, I'll do it for him,

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<v Speaker 4>but wow, what a pain. Now, I couldn't be more

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<v Speaker 4>excited to go to that concept. And even if I

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<v Speaker 4>don't watch a minute on stage, and I just spent

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<v Speaker 4>the whole time looking at him and seeing his reaction,

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<v Speaker 4>that for me, I just yeah, I just I'm amazed

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<v Speaker 4>at where I was to compare to this year.

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<v Speaker 1>What had a beautiful journey You've gone. No one ever

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<v Speaker 1>can describe what your personal experience is going to be

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<v Speaker 1>like when you become a father or a parent, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's a beautiful thing of limitless, deep deep love. And

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<v Speaker 1>you're constantly surprised at the joy you can find in

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<v Speaker 1>these tiny little moments that are They're like explosive. It's

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<v Speaker 1>like a super nova. You go. I didn't realize just

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<v Speaker 1>holding your hand, it could be the deepest thing of

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<v Speaker 1>love I've ever received in my life.

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<v Speaker 2>It's incredible. What do you want?

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<v Speaker 1>Last year, I actually just felt nothing, but I felt

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<v Speaker 1>so much sorry for you last year, Jack, because actually

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<v Speaker 1>I knew that better times would come. They were because

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<v Speaker 1>it is such a It's a gift being a parent.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the greatest journey in my life as much as

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<v Speaker 1>I've loved. Yesterday was twenty five years in radio, which

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<v Speaker 1>has been an amazing journey in study is to end

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<v Speaker 1>up you know where it is now here in Australia

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<v Speaker 1>with you guys. But that's nothing compared to actually what

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<v Speaker 1>it's really been about, which is that as a parent

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<v Speaker 1>and what it studies unfolding for you Patty as well.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was so lovely yesterday Jack and I was

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<v Speaker 1>in that I got a lift with Jack to go

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<v Speaker 1>and do a Holy Moly golf.

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<v Speaker 2>And in the car, I cannot tell you how happy

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<v Speaker 2>it was. You were just.

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<v Speaker 1>Saying, I'm really looking forward to seeing the Wiggles in

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<v Speaker 1>two days time, and you really meant it. And a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of weeks ago, Gordon came in right and if me,

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<v Speaker 1>Kaylyn Andria went for a drink after Hodly Modi essay,

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<v Speaker 1>and we're all actually saying how lovely it was to

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<v Speaker 1>see your love and actually keme and said I've never

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<v Speaker 1>seen him like that.

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<v Speaker 2>And at one.

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<v Speaker 1>Point we were all talking to your wife and now

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<v Speaker 1>you'd gone how often you just drift off and you

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<v Speaker 1>go and take yourself off to do something right?

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<v Speaker 2>You are actually I came to find you check you right.

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<v Speaker 1>You were playing hide and seek around the corner with

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<v Speaker 1>Gordon and it was just like, oh, I duck back

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<v Speaker 1>out the way. I didn't want to interrupt to talk

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<v Speaker 1>to you. It was I was like, God, if I

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<v Speaker 1>could take a polaroid for that and showing you a

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<v Speaker 1>year ago what you could actually do. But you're a

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<v Speaker 1>credit to Gordon. One day you're going to tell him

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<v Speaker 1>about the first eighteen months and why you felt like

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<v Speaker 1>that job what do you think's changed it was?

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<v Speaker 4>It's a slow thing. It's not like one day I

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<v Speaker 4>wake up and I'm like, oh god, this is easy

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<v Speaker 4>for being there.

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<v Speaker 1>So there be people listening right now and they might

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<v Speaker 1>feel where you are, Jack, you've got something that you've

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<v Speaker 1>learned for this because some things have changed.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you actually think it is?

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<v Speaker 4>I wish I could say, you know, there's no recipe

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<v Speaker 4>or magic bullet for it, but I guess over time,

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<v Speaker 4>just accepting the new reality.

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<v Speaker 2>Thing in life is actually an acceptance resistance.

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<v Speaker 4>You know what, like realizing your part in it. Very

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<v Speaker 4>at the start, I was like, why is this little

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<v Speaker 4>baby miserable?

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<v Speaker 2>Why is he doing it?

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<v Speaker 4>He's not doing anything, He's so innocent. So finding out

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<v Speaker 4>doing the work to find out like, well, what parts

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<v Speaker 4>of it is me? What am I holding on to?

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<v Speaker 4>What issues do I have to solve in my life

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<v Speaker 4>to accept what's going on here? So that's been a long,

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<v Speaker 4>honestly a long journey, but acceptance that I just.

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<v Speaker 2>Want to say, well done.

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<v Speaker 1>You want to see the work that Jack's done in

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<v Speaker 1>in therapy, which isn't easy. Jack, and we also use

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<v Speaker 1>sort of notes like you don't want to go and

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<v Speaker 1>do that honestly right, you don't want to go and

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<v Speaker 1>do some of that deep excavation sometimes into yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to go back in why is it

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<v Speaker 2>still childhood? While he's talking about when I was ten?

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<v Speaker 2>What's that got to do with.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I'm fifty? But the work you've done for that

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<v Speaker 1>and also fixing a sleep change your life. If you'd

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<v Speaker 1>have done that last year, you didn't have last year.

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<v Speaker 1>But you don't know what you know.

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<v Speaker 4>I want to thank you guys as well. This whole

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<v Speaker 4>team gave me so much love over the last twelve

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<v Speaker 4>and eighteen months. And Christian you especially like show me

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<v Speaker 4>that it's all right to be vulnerable and to talk

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<v Speaker 4>about that those sort of things.

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<v Speaker 1>It's actually only strengthened our relations, brought us coach and

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<v Speaker 1>I know that laugh for listeners actually they feel they

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<v Speaker 1>know the real youth. There was nothing wrong with you.

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<v Speaker 1>You were in a certain night, Gordy's in a sittany

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<v Speaker 1>born you weren't. But what a journey you've been on.

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<v Speaker 1>As much as it was breaking you last year, what

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<v Speaker 1>has actually done is broken you wide open to more

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<v Speaker 1>joy and more love. Yes, the Wiggles tomorrow, I wish

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<v Speaker 1>I was there with you, okay, because to see you

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<v Speaker 1>and Gordy's face tomorrow will be an awesome Get me

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<v Speaker 1>and pots both of your faces tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 4>I'll watch Gordy's face, you watch my Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, we're talking about back with Patsy's news, so

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<v Speaker 1>keep this coming. Then, what is this year for you?

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<v Speaker 1>As you could see even just want the Jack's Sharon

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<v Speaker 1>and Patsy's Those six words do so much. Like Kate Dix,

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<v Speaker 1>who's just texted me right now, I'm blessed my husband

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<v Speaker 1>is alive. Right, we don't know the full story, but wow, Kate,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm glad that your husband is alive too. One an

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<v Speaker 1>amazing thing for you to say about whatever that must

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<v Speaker 1>have been like to go through all of that.

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<v Speaker 2>For you this year.

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<v Speaker 1>So thank you very much, all these sharings you're doing

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<v Speaker 1>at the moment. When you start doing this, right, here's

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<v Speaker 1>what happens. First of all, you just start with like

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<v Speaker 1>what i'd call the flim flam and the froth of life.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm ashamed to say that I actually started with John

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<v Speaker 1>Wick four.

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<v Speaker 4>I started with Golf.

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<v Speaker 2>Because we like those movies. The image you're a grown up, for.

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<v Speaker 1>God, damn, it, there's been a lot more going on

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<v Speaker 1>that it's almost a thing where are you going to

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<v Speaker 1>have a real conversation with yourself? And most of the

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<v Speaker 1>times we're actually we're not very good friends to our house,

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<v Speaker 1>whether we're crawled to our house, that internal critic that

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<v Speaker 1>in a dialogue, what are you doing that for?

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<v Speaker 2>You dummy?

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<v Speaker 1>You'd never speak to another per in your life the

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<v Speaker 1>way that actually talked itself day.

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<v Speaker 2>And day out.

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<v Speaker 1>It's shocking, actually what you would say to yourself in

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<v Speaker 1>the day. You never have a partner, you'd be the

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<v Speaker 1>loneliest person in the world if you spoke to another

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<v Speaker 1>person the way that you think it's okay to talk

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<v Speaker 1>to Well, so anyway, the first thing I got to

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<v Speaker 1>because it's a bit about massive, massive year for us

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<v Speaker 1>and for me, first thing I got was but the

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<v Speaker 1>first three words were daughter left home because Ruby left

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<v Speaker 1>homeless year. And then for about half an hour afterwards,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I don't know what the next words are,

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<v Speaker 1>and I thought, even that's revealing because I don't actually

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<v Speaker 1>know what the next bit is.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm still figuring out. You know.

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<v Speaker 1>The reason why I'm doing a woodwork course in January

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<v Speaker 1>is I don't know what to looking for answers there

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<v Speaker 1>maybe under lathe or something about what I should do

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<v Speaker 1>with the next.

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<v Speaker 2>Bit of my life.

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<v Speaker 1>So it started with daughter left home, and I couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>find the next three words, which does actually say I

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<v Speaker 1>am still trying to figure out what is coming next

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<v Speaker 1>to me now as daughter to number two loves to

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<v Speaker 1>be leaving the year's time. But actually what it was

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<v Speaker 1>for me, if I could sum it all up in

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<v Speaker 1>just six words, it'll be this is what it is

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<v Speaker 1>to be I think a human being. It is an

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<v Speaker 1>endless work in progress. You know the age of your

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<v Speaker 1>actors here in your sharing Jackie boy, here, you're still

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<v Speaker 1>just figuring out out, aren't we. I think on my deathbed,

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<v Speaker 1>I think as I as I draw my last few bits,

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<v Speaker 1>I think, actually I'll be thinking.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I'm just trying to get the hang of it.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought when I was a kid, if I reached

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<v Speaker 1>a grand old age of fifty, I'd be a black

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<v Speaker 1>belt of life, like some gonna zen master. Not so

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<v Speaker 1>actually still a hot mess at fifty. So for me

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<v Speaker 1>it would be my six words this year there would

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<v Speaker 1>be turn fifty, still figuring life out, and that's what

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<v Speaker 1>it should be. We're still figuring out. And if we

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<v Speaker 1>can if we can figure forgive ourselves all the mistakes

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<v Speaker 1>and bits of resistance where we're not quite being what

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<v Speaker 1>we think we should be in a day to day

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<v Speaker 1>moment of that, we're all just a life in progress.

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<v Speaker 1>And if we see dance out for our life like that,

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<v Speaker 1>like an unfolding. And actually, the great thing about doing

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<v Speaker 1>the six word thing is like so much of our

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<v Speaker 1>lives now and my Instagram feed, it's all this stuff

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<v Speaker 1>about meaning and purpose.

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<v Speaker 2>What am I here to do? What is my meaning?

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<v Speaker 1>And what is my purpose? Actually, your life is constantly

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<v Speaker 1>showing you where meaning is, where your purpose is. You

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<v Speaker 1>just got to sit down and look back at it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's all black four ye