1 00:00:03,320 --> 00:00:06,960 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the 2 00:00:07,040 --> 00:00:10,480 Speaker 1: time poor parent who just once answers, Now. 3 00:00:10,480 --> 00:00:13,520 Speaker 2: The are gorgement again. We're a team, right, and sometimes 4 00:00:13,720 --> 00:00:16,000 Speaker 2: I can't cope and you take over. 5 00:00:16,400 --> 00:00:18,600 Speaker 1: Sometimes Dad's just got to throw the frisbee with the kids. 6 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:22,080 Speaker 1: And now here's the stars of our show, my mum 7 00:00:22,160 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: and dad. Today. This is doctor Justin Coilson. 8 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:25,920 Speaker 3: I'm the author of six books about how to make 9 00:00:25,920 --> 00:00:30,640 Speaker 3: your family Happier and the webinar host of I've done 10 00:00:30,640 --> 00:00:34,559 Speaker 3: so many webinars lately about lightning the lockdown load. Because 11 00:00:35,240 --> 00:00:39,040 Speaker 3: half the country is currently in lockdown. We're going to 12 00:00:39,080 --> 00:00:41,920 Speaker 3: talk a bit about that today. And I'm the founder 13 00:00:41,920 --> 00:00:44,960 Speaker 3: of Happy Families dot com dot You here with Kylie, Hey, Kylie, 14 00:00:45,440 --> 00:00:48,720 Speaker 3: mum of our six kids, and we are talking I'll 15 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:52,080 Speaker 3: do better tomorrow as we finally crash into the weekend. 16 00:00:53,159 --> 00:00:56,320 Speaker 3: If you're doing lockdown right now, probably doesn't feel nearly 17 00:00:56,360 --> 00:00:58,080 Speaker 3: as exciting for the weekend to be here as it 18 00:00:58,120 --> 00:01:00,240 Speaker 3: does for those of us who are fortunate to be 19 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:03,279 Speaker 3: in states where we are not experiencing these stay at 20 00:01:03,280 --> 00:01:06,679 Speaker 3: home orders, these curfews, these We're going to lock the 21 00:01:06,680 --> 00:01:10,959 Speaker 3: parks and keep everybody away from everybody. We are so 22 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:13,120 Speaker 3: so sorry for those of you who are going through it, 23 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:15,559 Speaker 3: and we really hope that it ends soon. 24 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 1: Now, for those of you who are not familiar with 25 00:01:17,440 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 1: I'll do Better Tomorrow, if you've. 26 00:01:19,400 --> 00:01:22,800 Speaker 3: Just found our podcast Every Friday, Kylie and I get 27 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:26,480 Speaker 3: what word would you use, honey, get very serious about 28 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:28,279 Speaker 3: everything that's happened this week. 29 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:29,399 Speaker 2: We get reflected. 30 00:01:29,760 --> 00:01:30,840 Speaker 1: Oh good one. I like that. 31 00:01:30,920 --> 00:01:32,320 Speaker 3: I was going to say intentional, but I thought, no, 32 00:01:32,440 --> 00:01:34,319 Speaker 3: we can do better, and you just did. We get 33 00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:35,560 Speaker 3: reflective about the week that was. 34 00:01:35,680 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 1: How can we be better parents tomorrow? 35 00:01:37,720 --> 00:01:41,480 Speaker 3: Maybe we've had some wins, maybe we've made some mistakes, 36 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:44,720 Speaker 3: but our goal is to inspire you with our very 37 00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:47,360 Speaker 3: best efforts to also try to be better tomorrow, either 38 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:50,400 Speaker 3: by doing the stuff that we recommend or just reflecting 39 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:52,360 Speaker 3: and being introspective of yourself. 40 00:01:52,960 --> 00:01:57,280 Speaker 2: Well, I'm really grateful for tomorrow's yes, because my yesterdays 41 00:01:57,320 --> 00:01:59,080 Speaker 2: weren't particularly good this week. 42 00:01:59,200 --> 00:02:02,760 Speaker 3: Okay, so we'll with your negative Nelly, I'll do better tomorrow, 43 00:02:02,800 --> 00:02:04,920 Speaker 3: and then we'll move on to I think I've got 44 00:02:04,920 --> 00:02:06,800 Speaker 3: some cool stuff to talk about, so let's dive into it. 45 00:02:06,960 --> 00:02:08,960 Speaker 1: Why do you need to do better? Tomorrow. What happened 46 00:02:09,000 --> 00:02:11,239 Speaker 1: this well, actually I know what happened this week. 47 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:14,200 Speaker 3: We haven't talked about this in any detail in advance, 48 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:16,080 Speaker 3: but I think based on what you've said that I 49 00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:17,080 Speaker 3: know what you're going to say. 50 00:02:18,160 --> 00:02:21,799 Speaker 2: Let's just say there's a cycle that all women go 51 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:24,840 Speaker 2: through and. 52 00:02:23,800 --> 00:02:26,560 Speaker 1: Its people differently. Though it does. 53 00:02:26,880 --> 00:02:29,800 Speaker 2: It does, and sometimes you get through it without any hassles, 54 00:02:29,800 --> 00:02:32,680 Speaker 2: and other times it's a big mess. And this week 55 00:02:32,880 --> 00:02:34,280 Speaker 2: was a really big mess. 56 00:02:34,320 --> 00:02:38,080 Speaker 3: Can I just without sounding patronizing or condescending or anything 57 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:39,480 Speaker 3: like that, can I just say this week has been 58 00:02:39,560 --> 00:02:43,519 Speaker 3: really hard for you and therefore for the whole family. 59 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:45,799 Speaker 1: It's been a tough week. How much do you want 60 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 1: to go into this? 61 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:49,000 Speaker 2: Look, the first thing I'm going to say is find 62 00:02:49,000 --> 00:02:52,680 Speaker 2: yourself a good hormone doctor. If you are struggling in 63 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:56,960 Speaker 2: this area every four weeks, really important to go and 64 00:02:57,000 --> 00:02:59,840 Speaker 2: find somebody who can help. I have found someone who 65 00:02:59,840 --> 00:03:02,440 Speaker 2: can help, I just haven't followed her instructus. 66 00:03:02,480 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 1: Well, that's what I was going to say. Finding the 67 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:06,680 Speaker 1: doctor's one thing. Doing what the doctor says is another thing. 68 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:09,560 Speaker 2: You get a little bit complacent. We've had about nearly 69 00:03:09,560 --> 00:03:13,480 Speaker 2: twelve months of bliss since I found her, and I 70 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:16,080 Speaker 2: guess I've just got a little bit complacent and stopped 71 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:18,960 Speaker 2: doing a few of the things that she has suggested, 72 00:03:19,520 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 2: and we're really seeing the repercussions of that over the 73 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 2: last few months. 74 00:03:24,560 --> 00:03:27,120 Speaker 3: It's been a rough week. I might actually just mention 75 00:03:27,200 --> 00:03:28,079 Speaker 3: something about that hormone. 76 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:28,280 Speaker 1: Doctor. 77 00:03:28,320 --> 00:03:30,519 Speaker 3: So I've got a PhD in psychology, I'm a doctor, 78 00:03:31,040 --> 00:03:33,240 Speaker 3: but in psychology, I don't know about the medical stuff. 79 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 3: I certainly don't know anything about the hormone issue that 80 00:03:36,200 --> 00:03:38,240 Speaker 3: you've been dealing with. What I do know, though, is 81 00:03:38,240 --> 00:03:40,640 Speaker 3: that PMS affects different people in different ways, and some people, 82 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 3: like you said, they sail through. For other people, it's 83 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:45,920 Speaker 3: one crazy I was going to say period, but that's 84 00:03:45,920 --> 00:03:47,000 Speaker 3: got two meanings right there. 85 00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 1: One very crazy and challenging time insert eyrol. I'm so sorry. 86 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:56,840 Speaker 3: Serious anyway, So it's a really rough time. And about 87 00:03:56,840 --> 00:04:00,520 Speaker 3: a year ago, we went through a situation with you 88 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:03,119 Speaker 3: for maybe four or five months in a row where 89 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:05,520 Speaker 3: when your cycle hit, you went from being the client 90 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:10,160 Speaker 3: that everyone knows and loves, the absolutely insatiably delightful human 91 00:04:10,200 --> 00:04:13,040 Speaker 3: being that we know and love, to someone that I 92 00:04:13,080 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 3: didn't recognize. You didn't even recognize you and you hated 93 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:18,520 Speaker 3: who you were, and it's like, how do you describe it? 94 00:04:18,600 --> 00:04:20,479 Speaker 1: Like you knew what you were doing, and you knew 95 00:04:20,520 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 1: that it. 96 00:04:20,800 --> 00:04:24,440 Speaker 3: Was all wrong, irrational, irrational, but it didn't stop you. 97 00:04:24,960 --> 00:04:26,960 Speaker 1: It was just it was chaos. It was. 98 00:04:27,320 --> 00:04:30,880 Speaker 3: So we found this amazing doctor who so some doctors 99 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:33,960 Speaker 3: will actually say there's no such thing as PMS or 100 00:04:33,960 --> 00:04:36,040 Speaker 3: anything to do with menstrual hormones and all that sort 101 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:36,719 Speaker 3: of stuff. 102 00:04:36,440 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 2: And that's what I dealt with her for a lot 103 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:41,440 Speaker 2: of years. Yeah, and when I found this doctor for 104 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:44,040 Speaker 2: her to literally say, do you know why you feel 105 00:04:44,080 --> 00:04:44,600 Speaker 2: the way you do? 106 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:45,680 Speaker 1: I can tell you. 107 00:04:45,720 --> 00:04:49,400 Speaker 2: She had all of these answers and solutions and solutions, 108 00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:51,160 Speaker 2: and we've had a really, really good run with it 109 00:04:51,279 --> 00:04:53,400 Speaker 2: until the last few months. So I'm back on the 110 00:04:53,440 --> 00:04:55,679 Speaker 2: bandwagon and I'm doing everything she told. 111 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:59,520 Speaker 1: Me to do, taking every single supplement because altering the do. 112 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:02,479 Speaker 2: Really really has impacted our family over the last at 113 00:05:02,480 --> 00:05:04,560 Speaker 2: a while. And so this last week has been it's 114 00:05:04,600 --> 00:05:07,560 Speaker 2: been hard. It's been really really hard. And the challenge 115 00:05:07,600 --> 00:05:11,480 Speaker 2: that we have is when I say we, yeah, I'm 116 00:05:11,520 --> 00:05:14,480 Speaker 2: making assumptions that there are lots of other women out there. 117 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:17,200 Speaker 1: Like me, Okay, I'm not alone. 118 00:05:17,400 --> 00:05:21,080 Speaker 3: You've had enough conversations with women who can confirm that 119 00:05:21,839 --> 00:05:22,800 Speaker 3: you're not on your own here. 120 00:05:23,360 --> 00:05:26,680 Speaker 2: But what happens when you start to feel a little 121 00:05:26,720 --> 00:05:31,039 Speaker 2: bit low is often you feel like there's a bit 122 00:05:31,080 --> 00:05:34,320 Speaker 2: of a dark cloud over your head, and then you 123 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:40,200 Speaker 2: start thinking all of these irrational, stinking thinking thoughts. Yeah, 124 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:44,560 Speaker 2: and it just compounds on top of each other, over 125 00:05:44,600 --> 00:05:47,800 Speaker 2: and over again until what started off is just I'm 126 00:05:47,839 --> 00:05:51,320 Speaker 2: feeling a little bit flat to now I'm either raging 127 00:05:51,640 --> 00:05:56,680 Speaker 2: or I'm so incredibly sad that it feels overwhelming. And 128 00:05:56,760 --> 00:05:59,200 Speaker 2: that's probably the biggest challenge I've had this week, is 129 00:05:59,279 --> 00:06:03,159 Speaker 2: just being piled up with all of this stinking thinking 130 00:06:03,279 --> 00:06:05,440 Speaker 2: because I was already feeling low, and then it started 131 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:08,680 Speaker 2: to rain, and you know, all of those things, and 132 00:06:08,839 --> 00:06:12,520 Speaker 2: the compound effect of having negative thought after negative thought 133 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:17,599 Speaker 2: after negative thought leaving me feeling just so completely irrational. 134 00:06:18,279 --> 00:06:20,320 Speaker 2: And that's what it came down to, just feeling completely 135 00:06:20,320 --> 00:06:23,400 Speaker 2: irrational and knowing that all of those thoughts are irrational. 136 00:06:23,920 --> 00:06:27,560 Speaker 2: That's the tricky Parting. 137 00:06:26,560 --> 00:06:27,800 Speaker 1: Thoughts are thoughts, not. 138 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:30,440 Speaker 2: Facts, and I know that they're irrational, But when you're 139 00:06:30,440 --> 00:06:33,320 Speaker 2: in that space, it's so hard to get out of it. 140 00:06:33,360 --> 00:06:40,599 Speaker 2: So my take home, because it's not all abouts, it 141 00:06:40,640 --> 00:06:42,520 Speaker 2: was just the acknowledgment that it was a really, really 142 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:45,960 Speaker 2: hard week this week. And I got to Tuesday and 143 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:48,200 Speaker 2: I just thought, you know what, I can't do this. 144 00:06:48,279 --> 00:06:50,560 Speaker 2: I can't do life right now. I'm not being the 145 00:06:50,600 --> 00:06:52,599 Speaker 2: person I want to be, and I just need to 146 00:06:52,600 --> 00:06:55,159 Speaker 2: get everybody outside because if we stay here, I'm probably 147 00:06:55,200 --> 00:06:59,480 Speaker 2: going to hurt someone and or maybe worse, I don't know. 148 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:02,159 Speaker 2: And so I just said, we're going to the park. 149 00:07:02,920 --> 00:07:04,680 Speaker 3: Can I just restate what you said? Because you didn't 150 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:06,800 Speaker 3: say we're going to the park. You said get in 151 00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:08,440 Speaker 3: the car, We're going to the park. 152 00:07:08,480 --> 00:07:11,840 Speaker 1: I did. I literally did. Everyone was like okay, the 153 00:07:11,920 --> 00:07:12,880 Speaker 1: kids were, and you. 154 00:07:12,840 --> 00:07:15,440 Speaker 2: Said I might come to just to make sure everybody's safe. 155 00:07:16,480 --> 00:07:18,480 Speaker 1: So we took the dog, and the dog got to 156 00:07:18,480 --> 00:07:19,440 Speaker 1: have a walk and the kids. 157 00:07:19,440 --> 00:07:21,320 Speaker 2: We took the kids too, and the kids came along 158 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:23,400 Speaker 2: and they got to play frisbee with you. 159 00:07:23,880 --> 00:07:24,400 Speaker 1: I didn't. 160 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:26,080 Speaker 2: I didn't mix in with that space. 161 00:07:26,200 --> 00:07:28,200 Speaker 1: No, you completely just you left, You took the dog 162 00:07:28,240 --> 00:07:28,720 Speaker 1: and off you went. 163 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:32,640 Speaker 2: But it gave me the time that I needed to 164 00:07:32,720 --> 00:07:35,120 Speaker 2: kind of come back and be half human and the 165 00:07:35,200 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 2: kids had an absolute ball and you know the acknowledgment again, 166 00:07:38,960 --> 00:07:42,120 Speaker 2: we're a team, right, And sometimes I can't cope and 167 00:07:42,400 --> 00:07:43,320 Speaker 2: you take over. 168 00:07:43,520 --> 00:07:45,760 Speaker 1: And sometimes Dad's just got to throw the frisbee. 169 00:07:45,440 --> 00:07:47,760 Speaker 2: With the kids, and other times it's you, and it's 170 00:07:47,800 --> 00:07:51,200 Speaker 2: so good to know that we've got each other. 171 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:52,800 Speaker 1: So the take our message is this. 172 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:56,520 Speaker 3: Number One, menstrual stuff really does happen, and it can 173 00:07:56,600 --> 00:07:59,160 Speaker 3: be really hard. And number two, even when that's happening, 174 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:03,520 Speaker 3: in fact, because that's happening, you dug deep found something 175 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:06,760 Speaker 3: extra and made sure that everybody was okay, even though 176 00:08:06,760 --> 00:08:08,000 Speaker 3: it was the last thing you wanted to do. 177 00:08:08,200 --> 00:08:09,679 Speaker 1: You didn't really want to go to the park. 178 00:08:09,880 --> 00:08:11,920 Speaker 3: You didn't want to go to the park with everybody else, 179 00:08:12,440 --> 00:08:13,520 Speaker 3: but you made it happen. 180 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:15,200 Speaker 1: So that's what I'm sort of taking is to take 181 00:08:15,200 --> 00:08:15,680 Speaker 1: home message. 182 00:08:15,720 --> 00:08:19,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, as a result, everyone actually had a great afternoon, 183 00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 2: Whereas if we had have stayed at home, I would 184 00:08:21,320 --> 00:08:24,400 Speaker 2: have just been at everybody because you're in my space 185 00:08:24,440 --> 00:08:26,360 Speaker 2: and I'm just not coping. 186 00:08:26,120 --> 00:08:28,720 Speaker 1: And we've already had a few days of that. It 187 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:30,800 Speaker 1: was rough. I'm just saying, which was. 188 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:33,400 Speaker 2: So I promise I would be better tomorrow. 189 00:08:33,600 --> 00:08:35,839 Speaker 1: I'm so so pleased. At least until next month. 190 00:08:37,040 --> 00:08:39,880 Speaker 3: Just do the dietary stuff, take the supplements and it's 191 00:08:39,880 --> 00:08:40,240 Speaker 3: just a secon. 192 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:43,080 Speaker 1: We're going to find out how what insights I've had. 193 00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:45,120 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast. 194 00:08:45,679 --> 00:08:48,920 Speaker 4: Imagine a home where discipline got results without anyone having 195 00:08:48,960 --> 00:08:51,360 Speaker 4: to feel bad or in trouble. The do's and don'ts 196 00:08:51,360 --> 00:08:54,000 Speaker 4: of discipline as a webinar to help parents set limits 197 00:08:54,000 --> 00:08:57,640 Speaker 4: with love, compassion and humanity. Find it now at happy 198 00:08:57,720 --> 00:09:00,560 Speaker 4: families dot com dot au slash. 199 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:03,000 Speaker 2: It's the Happy Families Podcast, the podcast for the time 200 00:09:03,040 --> 00:09:07,000 Speaker 2: poor parent who just wants answers now. And since I've 201 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:11,960 Speaker 2: shared my confession of a week, you better have a 202 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:12,600 Speaker 2: good story. 203 00:09:12,920 --> 00:09:14,280 Speaker 1: I don't know if I've got a great story. 204 00:09:14,360 --> 00:09:17,960 Speaker 3: Because you've been struggling and my workload has been overwhelming. 205 00:09:18,440 --> 00:09:20,880 Speaker 1: It's all let's just say it's all your fault then, right. 206 00:09:20,920 --> 00:09:24,120 Speaker 3: It's been a tough week, but there's been some really 207 00:09:24,160 --> 00:09:26,880 Speaker 3: strong positives as well. So this week I finished reading 208 00:09:27,080 --> 00:09:29,440 Speaker 3: a book series to a couple of the kids. It's 209 00:09:29,520 --> 00:09:34,760 Speaker 3: called The Keepers by Leanne Tanner and Leantanner is an 210 00:09:34,760 --> 00:09:39,000 Speaker 3: Australian author. It's a three book series about Goldie Roth 211 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:43,520 Speaker 3: and Toadspit and they end up being keepers in this 212 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:46,800 Speaker 3: museum because they're thieves and they live in this utopia 213 00:09:46,920 --> 00:09:49,160 Speaker 3: that's not a utopia at all. It's really a dystopia 214 00:09:49,559 --> 00:09:53,400 Speaker 3: and it is just an extraordinarily good story. So it's 215 00:09:53,400 --> 00:09:57,640 Speaker 3: a three book series from this Australian author, Lean Tanner, 216 00:09:58,280 --> 00:10:01,319 Speaker 3: The Keepers. If you've got children between i'd say eight 217 00:10:01,480 --> 00:10:03,880 Speaker 3: and thirteen, perfect for them. 218 00:10:03,920 --> 00:10:05,880 Speaker 1: And the kids just loved it. 219 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:07,439 Speaker 3: So that was a bright spot there, and just the 220 00:10:07,559 --> 00:10:10,160 Speaker 3: joy of laying on the bed and reading the children 221 00:10:10,559 --> 00:10:12,360 Speaker 3: and trying to stay awake while you do it, of course, 222 00:10:12,400 --> 00:10:14,480 Speaker 3: because that's been tough for me this week, but that 223 00:10:14,600 --> 00:10:17,080 Speaker 3: was a really big win. The other really exciting thing 224 00:10:17,120 --> 00:10:19,480 Speaker 3: is that we've now moved on to Narnia. I'm reading 225 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:23,360 Speaker 3: The Magician's Nephew. We're starting the entire Narnia series as 226 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:25,520 Speaker 3: of now. I've been through this one a few times 227 00:10:25,520 --> 00:10:27,920 Speaker 3: with the kids, but they love it and we're going 228 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:30,800 Speaker 3: to do it again. But more than anything, I think 229 00:10:30,800 --> 00:10:34,520 Speaker 3: I actually want to highlight this was you and I together. 230 00:10:35,760 --> 00:10:37,719 Speaker 3: Sometimes you kind of look at each other and just 231 00:10:37,760 --> 00:10:41,200 Speaker 3: say we've got to do something, and it's got to 232 00:10:41,320 --> 00:10:44,040 Speaker 3: not involve staring at the TV or looking at a screen, 233 00:10:44,240 --> 00:10:46,440 Speaker 3: or I don't know, letting everyone just do their own thing. 234 00:10:46,480 --> 00:10:48,480 Speaker 3: We need to be together and do something. And one 235 00:10:48,559 --> 00:10:50,840 Speaker 3: night this week, when nothing was going right, I was 236 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:53,560 Speaker 3: in a pretty ordinary mood. You were obviously not doing 237 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:56,000 Speaker 3: particularly well. I looked at you and just said, we've 238 00:10:56,040 --> 00:10:57,000 Speaker 3: got to get out of the house. 239 00:10:57,400 --> 00:10:58,240 Speaker 1: I have no. 240 00:10:58,120 --> 00:10:59,960 Speaker 3: Idea what we can do, but we've got to get 241 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:03,120 Speaker 3: out of the house. And you said, let's put the 242 00:11:03,160 --> 00:11:04,760 Speaker 3: scooters and the bikes in the back of the car 243 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:07,600 Speaker 3: and take the kids on a little adventure. 244 00:11:07,840 --> 00:11:09,679 Speaker 1: Without hesitation, I'm like, let's do it. 245 00:11:09,800 --> 00:11:11,720 Speaker 3: Within five minutes, the scooters and the bikes were in 246 00:11:11,720 --> 00:11:13,160 Speaker 3: the back of the car, the kids were in the car. 247 00:11:13,480 --> 00:11:16,600 Speaker 3: We drove into town and again, fortunately because we're not 248 00:11:16,640 --> 00:11:19,920 Speaker 3: in a lockdown situation, we're able to have this additional flexibility. 249 00:11:19,920 --> 00:11:22,240 Speaker 3: But even in a lockdown situation you can still do this. 250 00:11:22,800 --> 00:11:25,080 Speaker 3: We got in the car, drove into town and we 251 00:11:25,200 --> 00:11:28,240 Speaker 3: rode bikes and scooters from the South Bank area across 252 00:11:28,280 --> 00:11:31,240 Speaker 3: the Goodwill Bridge into the Brisbane Botanic Gardens and then 253 00:11:31,280 --> 00:11:33,520 Speaker 3: back again. I think we were gone for an hour 254 00:11:33,520 --> 00:11:35,240 Speaker 3: and a half two hours the kids stopped at a park. 255 00:11:35,280 --> 00:11:38,200 Speaker 3: It was dark, it was eight pm, and they just 256 00:11:38,240 --> 00:11:39,840 Speaker 3: sort of layed on the park for half an hour 257 00:11:39,880 --> 00:11:42,360 Speaker 3: and we sat there and got to talk and golly, 258 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:43,160 Speaker 3: it felt good. 259 00:11:43,520 --> 00:11:45,320 Speaker 2: So you been giving me a hard time about how 260 00:11:45,440 --> 00:11:48,920 Speaker 2: bad my week is, but I just facilitated two amazing 261 00:11:49,080 --> 00:11:50,880 Speaker 2: family outings in spite of it all. 262 00:11:50,880 --> 00:11:53,079 Speaker 3: If I believed in praise and giving gold stars, you 263 00:11:53,200 --> 00:11:56,920 Speaker 3: get both of them right now. But I think the 264 00:11:56,960 --> 00:11:59,920 Speaker 3: central thing here is whether you're in a lockdown state 265 00:12:00,880 --> 00:12:06,360 Speaker 3: or not. Sometimes you know that everybody needs oxygen, everybody 266 00:12:06,400 --> 00:12:10,440 Speaker 3: needs nature, everybody needs outside, and even in states where 267 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:13,960 Speaker 3: lockdowns have been instituted, there are still ways that you 268 00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:19,520 Speaker 3: can legally have that experience as a family. And my goodness, 269 00:12:19,960 --> 00:12:23,240 Speaker 3: the intentionality around it. It requires so much effort and focus, 270 00:12:23,800 --> 00:12:27,280 Speaker 3: but it changed the feeling in the family in such 271 00:12:27,280 --> 00:12:30,720 Speaker 3: a significant way for that afternoon or that evening such 272 00:12:30,720 --> 00:12:33,320 Speaker 3: an important thing to do. So that's my take my message. However, 273 00:12:33,360 --> 00:12:36,679 Speaker 3: you can legally get out spend time with the kids, 274 00:12:36,760 --> 00:12:39,719 Speaker 3: be intentional, as simple as throwing the scooter in the 275 00:12:39,760 --> 00:12:41,000 Speaker 3: back of the car and going out of the local 276 00:12:41,040 --> 00:12:43,560 Speaker 3: park or riding on a nearby bike path. Whatever it 277 00:12:43,600 --> 00:12:44,959 Speaker 3: is that you can do, do. 278 00:12:45,000 --> 00:12:46,920 Speaker 1: It and follow the doctor's advice. 279 00:12:47,120 --> 00:12:48,920 Speaker 3: Well, I'm a doctor. You're saying to follow my advice. 280 00:12:49,120 --> 00:12:53,400 Speaker 3: You're still in the hormone doctor, aren't you. Hey, we 281 00:12:53,440 --> 00:12:55,560 Speaker 3: really hope that this has been helpful. I'll do better tomorrow. 282 00:12:55,559 --> 00:12:58,040 Speaker 3: We hope that the intention with which we try to 283 00:12:58,120 --> 00:13:01,000 Speaker 3: raise our family rubs off on you, and the ideas 284 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:02,440 Speaker 3: that we share a helpful in new being. 285 00:13:02,320 --> 00:13:04,559 Speaker 1: More intentional on the way that you raise your family. 286 00:13:04,800 --> 00:13:08,360 Speaker 3: The Happy Family's podcast is produced by Justin Ruhlan from 287 00:13:08,400 --> 00:13:12,320 Speaker 3: Bridge Media. Craig Bruce is our executive producer. Can I 288 00:13:12,360 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 3: just give a little plug for next week? Next week's podcast, 289 00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:19,280 Speaker 3: I think you're going to absolutely dead set faired Income 290 00:13:19,600 --> 00:13:22,600 Speaker 3: Love on Monday. We're going to be chatting about the 291 00:13:22,800 --> 00:13:25,800 Speaker 3: routine that I follow to be the best dad that 292 00:13:25,840 --> 00:13:28,520 Speaker 3: I can, and the routine that Kylie follows when she's 293 00:13:28,559 --> 00:13:31,960 Speaker 3: not pre menstrual to be the best mum that she can. 294 00:13:31,840 --> 00:13:33,960 Speaker 3: Don't cancel me for that. Don't come at me. I 295 00:13:34,000 --> 00:13:36,360 Speaker 3: was just Kylie's smiling at me. It was okay, it 296 00:13:36,400 --> 00:13:38,719 Speaker 3: was just a joke between Kylie and I. We'rel was 297 00:13:38,760 --> 00:13:40,400 Speaker 3: going to talk about the best toys to buy your 298 00:13:40,480 --> 00:13:43,560 Speaker 3: kids and why some toys are great and some toys 299 00:13:43,600 --> 00:13:48,040 Speaker 3: are not. 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