WEBVTT - "I Make Them Send Me Their License Before The Date" 😗🚘🧡 0:00:01.520 --> 0:00:03.480 Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. 0:00:03.600 --> 0:00:05.480 This is the Flex and Frooms catch. 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:08.480 Up podcast, Sweeties, Douce per Favor and Tell a French 0:00:08.480 --> 0:00:10.280 Tell a Friend that Flex and Frooms are running for 0:00:10.320 --> 0:00:12.040 president twenty forty eight. 0:00:12.560 --> 0:00:15.840 Not sure if Biden mentioned it, but this is Flex. 0:00:15.480 --> 0:00:19.959 And Frooms on Cater. Last week we posted a video 0:00:20.040 --> 0:00:23.400 on the internet about HR and how HR is a conspiracy. 0:00:23.440 --> 0:00:25.560 This is from my own brain. I need to preface 0:00:25.600 --> 0:00:28.120 it by saying I'm not speaking about my personal experience 0:00:28.160 --> 0:00:31.720 at Cater, but in experiences more generally. It has nothing 0:00:31.760 --> 0:00:33.720 to do with people in culture at Cater. Thank you. 0:00:34.000 --> 0:00:38.080 I pose the concept that HR is not there to 0:00:38.159 --> 0:00:41.879 help the employer. HR is there to help the employer. 0:00:42.000 --> 0:00:46.040 Tell you why hundreds of thousands of views, rapturous applause 0:00:46.080 --> 0:00:49.159 in the comments section, Okay, most of the comments. I 0:00:49.200 --> 0:00:52.120 will say, we're a men's sister type thing. Slay, the 0:00:52.159 --> 0:00:54.960 boots down of the category of Amen's sister, all that 0:00:55.080 --> 0:00:58.880 kind of nonsense. Running Someone said the other day, is 0:00:58.920 --> 0:01:02.360 Amen like sligh? She was like, oh man, it's neither 0:01:02.360 --> 0:01:03.400 here nor theirth always it. 0:01:04.480 --> 0:01:05.840 I would say it is here, and. 0:01:10.400 --> 0:01:15.360 I didn't say it. Heymen, I thought damn. 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:19.440 You said, not a teachable moment. Please continue. 0:01:19.640 --> 0:01:20.880 It's not my cross to bear. 0:01:21.280 --> 0:01:21.920 Put it that way. 0:01:22.280 --> 0:01:26.119 Nice. There was some conjecture in my comments, I'll put 0:01:26.120 --> 0:01:28.200 it that way. But my favorite comment on this video 0:01:28.400 --> 0:01:33.520 was hr is the companies what property managers are to landlords? 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:37.559 Can I get a sleigh on that sleigh? Other people 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:40.280 will like to me, this is so obvious, like dr 0:01:40.440 --> 0:01:43.040 someone said to me DURR, and I happened to reply 0:01:43.080 --> 0:01:45.760 to the DIR. Yeah. Look, I don't know if a 0:01:45.840 --> 0:01:49.200 reply thought, but this one hit me different because I 0:01:49.240 --> 0:01:52.840 thought it's not DIR. Actually, I didn't know about this 0:01:52.960 --> 0:01:55.280 until I knew about it, That's what I replied. And 0:01:55.360 --> 0:01:57.680 I think I'm happy to put my back out, get 0:01:57.680 --> 0:01:59.640 my pointers out. I was pointing as well, which I 0:01:59.680 --> 0:02:01.520 think is quite unbecoming of a young woman. And yeah, 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:06.160 I was fired up. However, if there is ever a 0:02:06.240 --> 0:02:11.960 legal crisis, perhaps an unfair dismissal, or you have experienced 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:14.520 some untoward behavior, it's always good to get a second 0:02:14.520 --> 0:02:17.280 opinion for free as part of your union, as long 0:02:17.320 --> 0:02:19.880 as you pay a yearly subscription fee. Am I part 0:02:19.880 --> 0:02:22.399 of the union right now? No? Because I'm a boss. 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:29.120 I need you to if you just hustle and got together, 0:02:29.360 --> 0:02:30.359 this would impact you. 0:02:31.880 --> 0:02:36.320 Through MENO, through me, boommmy lexmm. 0:02:38.000 --> 0:02:41.040 You're listening to Flex and Frooms on kit. 0:02:41.840 --> 0:02:44.000 Never in my whole entire life did I think I'd 0:02:44.040 --> 0:02:47.280 be having this conversation on air in twenty twenty three, 0:02:47.639 --> 0:02:51.600 and especially not to a group and a demographic of adults. 0:02:51.680 --> 0:02:56.480 Oh okay, I need you to listen to this TikTok. 0:02:56.880 --> 0:02:59.240 Need you to say out loud what is wrong with it? 0:02:59.400 --> 0:03:01.320 Right after? Don't wait for my prompting. 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:04.360 Okay. You know how I let men pick me up 0:03:04.400 --> 0:03:06.840 for a date, even men that I meet online, And 0:03:06.880 --> 0:03:08.880 the way that I feel comfortable is that I make 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:10.480 them send me their driver's license. 0:03:10.720 --> 0:03:14.000 I just a city about this last week, and all 0:03:14.040 --> 0:03:16.600 of a sudden, these guys are suddenly. 0:03:16.160 --> 0:03:18.560 Not wanting to give their driver's license to me. I 0:03:18.639 --> 0:03:20.959 swear in going on so many dates where so many 0:03:20.960 --> 0:03:24.800 guys text me their license. I've maybe had two guys 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:27.000 say no, they're not going to send me their license, 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:28.720 and I just don't go on a date with them. 0:03:28.840 --> 0:03:30.560 I think it's a fantastic idea. 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:31.639 This is sickening. 0:03:33.560 --> 0:03:35.440 Stranger danger is a real thing. 0:03:35.720 --> 0:03:42.360 I fear that the conversation about equity and equality and 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:48.120 heterosexual dating has found itself in a very fantastical place. Okay, 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:52.840 anyone you meet on a dating app that you don't 0:03:52.880 --> 0:03:55.000 know is a stranger. 0:03:55.160 --> 0:03:56.800 Stranger danger. Yeah. 0:03:56.840 --> 0:04:02.600 And although we have normalized interactions with rangers, basing safety 0:04:02.600 --> 0:04:05.440 and security on things like, oh, but they dress well 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:07.800 and they're hot, and they're hot, and we like to 0:04:07.800 --> 0:04:10.880 go to the same places. That is not effective. Am 0:04:10.880 --> 0:04:13.000 I saying not to online date? That's not saying that 0:04:13.040 --> 0:04:15.440 at all. No, not saying that at all. What I 0:04:15.520 --> 0:04:19.560 am saying is you're not in your hypergamy dating up 0:04:19.600 --> 0:04:22.320 bag because you can get a guy to drive from 0:04:22.360 --> 0:04:24.480 his house to your house to take you on a date. 0:04:24.600 --> 0:04:25.440 What's hypergamy? 0:04:25.480 --> 0:04:30.160 Hypergamy is dating up, you know, dating luxuriously, or picking 0:04:30.200 --> 0:04:33.640 a partner primarily for what they can offer you. 0:04:33.640 --> 0:04:35.800 You know, materially sounds good to me. 0:04:36.080 --> 0:04:38.080 People like to brag like, oh my god, he didn't 0:04:38.120 --> 0:04:39.640 pick you up, he didn't pick you up. No, because 0:04:39.680 --> 0:04:40.400 I don't know that man. 0:04:40.920 --> 0:04:43.520 And then you say, what about Uber? What about Uber? 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:46.400 There is a whole system in place. You think Uber 0:04:46.560 --> 0:04:49.719 wants the legal ramifications of you're not getting to A 0:04:49.839 --> 0:04:54.520 and B safely. No, get yourself to and from your dates. 0:04:54.600 --> 0:04:57.040 It's the very least you can do. Meet in a 0:04:57.200 --> 0:04:59.480 public area. 0:04:59.080 --> 0:04:59.919 Suss ot the exit. 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:03.520 It's on your own advocate for your own safety. You 0:05:03.640 --> 0:05:06.640 having this image is giving you such a futile illusion 0:05:07.000 --> 0:05:10.200 that like danger suddenly disappears because you have a driver's license. 0:05:10.680 --> 0:05:14.800 People go through dangerous situations, have the CCTV footage, sixty 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:19.480 five witnesses, and you know a written witness statement, and 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:22.960 still don't get the help they need. Your image isn't 0:05:23.000 --> 0:05:24.400 saving you from what's happening. 0:05:24.600 --> 0:05:27.159 I disagree. I've told you this before, Flakes. I don't 0:05:27.200 --> 0:05:30.160 like it when guys want to add me on Instagram 0:05:30.600 --> 0:05:33.240 while we're talking on an app. But let's say I 0:05:33.279 --> 0:05:35.120 get it my way and we stay on the app 0:05:35.360 --> 0:05:39.039 until we've met. People can easily if they do something untoward, 0:05:39.120 --> 0:05:41.440 you just delete everything and then you can't find them. 0:05:41.480 --> 0:05:44.279 Like this is something that happens often in cases where 0:05:44.520 --> 0:05:47.880 untoward things are done, the person who did the untoward 0:05:47.920 --> 0:05:49.520 thing can simply block you. And it's very hard. 0:05:49.640 --> 0:05:51.040 But it's with every situation. 0:05:51.360 --> 0:05:56.000 Like I understand inviting more safety precautions, but you are 0:05:56.560 --> 0:06:00.640 introducing this minor safety precaution and inviting a a big one. 0:06:00.680 --> 0:06:03.279 I think it's a massive Having someone's licenses you got 0:06:03.320 --> 0:06:04.120 with they live. 0:06:04.360 --> 0:06:07.120 Nothing about you. Being in a car with this strange 0:06:07.160 --> 0:06:12.039 person is a better safety precaution than you're just not 0:06:12.120 --> 0:06:14.160 being in their car at all and meeting in a 0:06:14.279 --> 0:06:17.720 common place with cameras and witnesses and people who can 0:06:17.839 --> 0:06:18.719 test to your existence. 0:06:19.440 --> 0:06:20.919 Okay, I don't know. 0:06:20.960 --> 0:06:21.719 I think it's a good idea. 0:06:21.760 --> 0:06:23.800 Did you also hear when she said that once she 0:06:23.880 --> 0:06:26.280 had made that statement on the internet, suddenly guys don't 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:28.719 want to send their licenses to them. I think that, 0:06:28.839 --> 0:06:34.000 like the safety you think it's affording you is no 0:06:34.160 --> 0:06:36.839 more less dangerous than the reality of what you're doing anyway, 0:06:37.080 --> 0:06:39.400 Like whether or not you have the license, you're getting 0:06:39.400 --> 0:06:43.360 in this car regardless. Just meet at the date, whether 0:06:43.440 --> 0:06:45.720 or not they can delete or not delete, because what 0:06:45.839 --> 0:06:47.760 the way that she's framed these videos. This is my 0:06:47.880 --> 0:06:50.480 number one tip. Always get the guy to pick you up, 0:06:50.760 --> 0:06:53.000 like it's like on that like bad bitch, Like you know, 0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:55.800 don't go to the date yourself, like we don't do that. 0:06:55.920 --> 0:06:58.080 Ladies like you have to buy your makeup and buy 0:06:58.200 --> 0:07:01.440 or whatever. They should pick you up. They should not because, 0:07:02.440 --> 0:07:04.560 like I said, for all these things that you're registering 0:07:04.600 --> 0:07:07.599 as like signals that this is a good person, it's 0:07:07.680 --> 0:07:08.520 not real. 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:12.680 Protect yourselves, I will say. The only guys that want 0:07:12.680 --> 0:07:17.280 to pick yours up on ones that have BMW's, specifically 0:07:17.320 --> 0:07:20.160 that car. My friend went on a date the other 0:07:20.240 --> 0:07:24.200 day and the guy insisted on picking her up, but 0:07:24.240 --> 0:07:26.240 it was an issue because she lives at her parents house. 0:07:26.480 --> 0:07:28.960 So they were both at a stalemate and he refused 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:29.760 to not pick her up. 0:07:29.960 --> 0:07:32.760 Oh okay, because you have an M three wait for 0:07:32.800 --> 0:07:36.160 the Netflix documentary. 0:07:37.720 --> 0:07:40.520 You're listening to Flex and Rooms on Kaita. 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:44.120 Is being a celebrity a title that you're given or 0:07:44.160 --> 0:07:46.760 a title that you can give yourself. That's the question 0:07:46.800 --> 0:07:50.679 we're answering today on Flex and Rooms. Julia Fox, known 0:07:50.760 --> 0:07:58.560 as Friend, Uncles, Uncut Jams, has recently come out and 0:07:58.560 --> 0:08:00.680 says she doesn't identify as a celebrity. 0:08:00.680 --> 0:08:03.440 Listen to this, like, I don't identify as a celebrity. 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:06.440 This was all very accidental. I didn't like set out 0:08:06.440 --> 0:08:07.760 like I want to be an actress. I'm going to 0:08:07.760 --> 0:08:09.840 get an agent and note that actually fell in my 0:08:09.960 --> 0:08:12.680 lab like this life chose me, you know, so like 0:08:12.760 --> 0:08:15.840 I'm just showing up for it at the best to 0:08:15.880 --> 0:08:18.120 my abilities. I can like pretty much do anything in 0:08:18.160 --> 0:08:20.160 a weird way. I just do it, and I feel 0:08:20.160 --> 0:08:23.560 like that's actually what more people should be like. 0:08:25.120 --> 0:08:30.320 I can understand not self identifying as a thing you 0:08:30.320 --> 0:08:33.560 don't want to claim. For example, back in the days 0:08:33.760 --> 0:08:36.760 when I was just a DJ and a TV presenter, 0:08:36.760 --> 0:08:38.160 I was like, no, those are my two things. I'm 0:08:38.160 --> 0:08:40.200 not an influencer. I'm those two things. It's like, you 0:08:40.240 --> 0:08:43.560 can't choose your perception. It's out of your control. Your 0:08:43.600 --> 0:08:46.920 perception is what other people perceive. Therefore, if they say 0:08:47.000 --> 0:08:50.160 you are, you must be. To a point, I think 0:08:50.160 --> 0:08:52.840 it can be trickering someone in a position like Julia. 0:08:53.040 --> 0:08:55.400 Let's define celebrity. 0:08:56.040 --> 0:08:57.679 Define celebrity. 0:08:58.200 --> 0:09:01.079 The definition of a celebrity is a famous person. 0:09:01.559 --> 0:09:03.040 Okay, well, that's a whole other word. 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:07.480 And given that the idea of fame and who gets 0:09:07.480 --> 0:09:10.760 to be famous is convoluted due to the fact that 0:09:10.800 --> 0:09:13.760 we get to idolize people in a far closer way. 0:09:13.960 --> 0:09:16.559 You know, you can go to your favorite athletes TikTok 0:09:16.600 --> 0:09:18.200 and feel like you know them, or go to your 0:09:18.200 --> 0:09:20.800 favorite chess players TikTok and feel like you know them, 0:09:20.880 --> 0:09:23.520 or the fact that people can be famous in niche spaces. 0:09:23.920 --> 0:09:27.800 I can understand saying it's not something that I was 0:09:27.840 --> 0:09:31.439 on a path to acquire, and therefore I don't resonate with. 0:09:31.440 --> 0:09:33.520 How people perceive celebrities. 0:09:34.200 --> 0:09:37.840 It's such a futile statement to make, given the space 0:09:37.880 --> 0:09:39.839 that she takes up and the space that she occupies. 0:09:40.640 --> 0:09:43.320 I also think that, like, I never trust anyone who's 0:09:43.360 --> 0:09:46.560 an actar that says, oh, like I just fell into it. 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:50.800 I'm sorry if you've auditioned for something. If you've ever 0:09:50.880 --> 0:09:54.000 auditioned for something, you'll know how hard that is. That's hard. 0:09:54.040 --> 0:09:55.680 You don't just fall into that. It's like I remember 0:09:55.960 --> 0:09:57.199 when I was younger, I really wanted to go to 0:09:57.360 --> 0:09:59.959 nider at school, Like like, oh shit, how do I 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:01.400 I do it? Reading up all of it, about all 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:04.400 these stories and like I don't want to name the acticts. 0:10:04.400 --> 0:10:05.959 I don't remember it was him, but he's like, oh yeah, 0:10:06.000 --> 0:10:07.400 Like I was just out for a surf and then 0:10:07.400 --> 0:10:09.480 I just thought I'd like go in an audition. I'm like, babe, 0:10:10.040 --> 0:10:12.079 the stuff that you need to prepare that's a lie. 0:10:13.000 --> 0:10:15.440 And I don't like it when these actors like say, oh, 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:17.800 I just fell into it, because I feel like it 0:10:17.880 --> 0:10:21.240 degrades the fact that it's a skill and the fact that, 0:10:21.280 --> 0:10:24.320 like you do have to actually work hard to become 0:10:24.320 --> 0:10:25.880 a famous actor, like be serious. 0:10:26.160 --> 0:10:29.360 These are the discussions we need to have in conjunction 0:10:29.480 --> 0:10:33.360 with being post labeling things. If we, as an individual 0:10:33.679 --> 0:10:36.640 want to be regarded as an individual, then we need 0:10:36.679 --> 0:10:38.920 to be aware of the contradictions we make when trying 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:42.320 to separate ourselves from the thing we're being perceived as. 0:10:42.800 --> 0:10:46.880 I can't be on the internet doing what influencers do 0:10:47.200 --> 0:10:49.840 and being perceived as an influencer and then be confused 0:10:49.840 --> 0:10:52.840 when someone's like, hey, aren't you an influencer? Yeah, or 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:56.640 if you're not adjusted. It also makes me think how 0:10:56.720 --> 0:10:59.880 much power or agency does an individual have to just 0:11:00.000 --> 0:11:02.360 decide who they are in the eyes of everybody else. 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:06.080 Just because Julia Fox says today I'm not a celebrity, 0:11:06.679 --> 0:11:07.800 does that make it true? 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:11.160 It's not really up to the individual to degree we 0:11:11.200 --> 0:11:18.079 decide FLEXI that day, I went to go get myself 0:11:18.080 --> 0:11:21.040 a juice, a juice beverage, or perhaps a smoothie. We 0:11:21.120 --> 0:11:23.679 will keep that under wraps. Because what I'm about to 0:11:23.679 --> 0:11:26.400 say is potentially incriminating. I want to go get myself 0:11:26.400 --> 0:11:28.480 a juice. I'm starving. I'm a ravenous in the morning. 0:11:28.559 --> 0:11:32.280 Need my juice now, Betty kneed juice. The chick takes 0:11:32.320 --> 0:11:35.920 my order up at the cash register. Gloves on. Yep, 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:38.840 that'd be thirteen dollars and ninety five cents. Why are 0:11:38.840 --> 0:11:43.559 her fingers tapping the phone? Why her fingers tapping the 0:11:43.679 --> 0:11:46.720 f BOS machine? I thought, you know what, maybe she'll 0:11:46.720 --> 0:11:49.199 take the gloves off and then go and make the smoothie. 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:53.080 Why does she then go touching the cash register all 0:11:53.080 --> 0:11:55.440 the way back to grab the banana, grab the protein, 0:11:55.920 --> 0:11:59.120 put it into the thing, put the lid on it, give. 0:11:59.000 --> 0:12:03.280 It to me a second. If the gloves are clean. 0:12:06.800 --> 0:12:08.840 So what you're saying it's bad food safety. 0:12:08.559 --> 0:12:12.360 Pre That is food safety practice one oh one. What 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:14.840 not to do is use the gloves on the cash 0:12:14.880 --> 0:12:19.800 register into making me my premium large smoothie juice. 0:12:19.880 --> 0:12:21.840 So what you're advocating for is that she take this 0:12:21.880 --> 0:12:26.280 single use plastic off before she make you your smoothie. 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:27.880 Like, yeah, I actually would. 0:12:27.960 --> 0:12:30.160 I don't want to get no gloves for the register. 0:12:30.280 --> 0:12:32.400 Gloves on for the fruit, for the food prep. 0:12:32.920 --> 0:12:35.320 What I would mostly prefer. If we're thinking about plastic 0:12:37.280 --> 0:12:40.240 use tippity tappity, go wash your hands, give it a 0:12:40.240 --> 0:12:42.680 thirty second wash. Make the juice. 0:12:43.360 --> 0:12:47.800 Then again, dermatitis stick yourself. 0:12:47.840 --> 0:12:51.720 I have dermatitis because I'm that clean. I'm serious, guys, 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:56.080 look at the dermatitis that's giving clean Girl era clean 0:12:56.120 --> 0:12:56.440 Girl e. 0:12:56.880 --> 0:13:01.120 Skin hand is falling off Cleaner Era. 0:13:02.840 --> 0:13:05.400 But seriously, I have a problem with this. I drank 0:13:05.440 --> 0:13:09.360 it anyway, as I said, I was starving ravenous, and 0:13:09.440 --> 0:13:12.040 I thought, I'm ravenous. I'm not going to be grumpy 0:13:12.040 --> 0:13:13.439 about this. I just took my juice. 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:14.880 What would it take for you to say something. 0:13:16.400 --> 0:13:21.080 I have exited my Karen in public era for multiple reasons. 0:13:22.160 --> 0:13:26.080 For the optics, Oh, purely optics. I feel everything inside. 0:13:26.120 --> 0:13:29.400 It hasn't gone away. I didn't say anything. I have 0:13:29.480 --> 0:13:31.200 to dodger the time about it. At the time I went 0:13:31.280 --> 0:13:38.199 to a sandwich artist establishment. This is about twenty years ago, so. 0:13:39.840 --> 0:13:41.040 Literally we knew you were old. 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:48.560 The chick tariachy chicken, okay, with the cheddar cheese. Why 0:13:48.559 --> 0:13:49.600 does she put it in the oven? 0:13:50.640 --> 0:13:51.640 Takes it out of the oven. 0:13:52.440 --> 0:13:58.000 It flips under her arm, cheese and keriachy chicken, I'm 0:13:58.040 --> 0:13:59.360 gonna arm. 0:14:00.200 --> 0:14:02.520 She's got a third degree burn, making you a whatich 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:03.360 you're about to complain? 0:14:03.400 --> 0:14:06.960 What will happen next? Flaps it back. 0:14:07.800 --> 0:14:11.120 I had to say something. I said, listen, what did 0:14:11.160 --> 0:14:13.800 you took it away? I'm a school child, take it away? 0:14:15.000 --> 0:14:17.360 I better go back in. I said, I'm sorry, I'm 0:14:17.400 --> 0:14:18.640 in you And that dropped in your arm? 0:14:18.720 --> 0:14:20.880 Be serious? Serious? 0:14:21.080 --> 0:14:23.760 What's your arm? This hair on the arm? There was 0:14:23.800 --> 0:14:27.240 a hair on her arm, like it was one of 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:30.960 the would like. That's a core memory. I mean, still 0:14:31.000 --> 0:14:34.880 think about it twenty years on serious guys, you weren't 0:14:34.920 --> 0:14:36.160 joking about twenty years too. 0:14:37.920 --> 0:14:40.480 You've been listening to The Flex and Froom's daily podcast. 0:14:40.760 --> 0:14:44.360 For more, Tune Indicater on DAB or stream it on iHeartRadio.