WEBVTT - MINI! Do ultimatums work in a relationship? 💑

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<v Speaker 1>Monday afternoon. It is the Pickup with Britt, Laura and

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<v Speaker 1>Mitch rushing to Chemists Warehouse Now to get a half

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<v Speaker 1>price off the Nature's Own Vitamin range. It excludes both sizes. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>Chemist Warehouse, great savings every day. You know, I'm obsessed

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<v Speaker 1>with the Netflix show The Ultimatum.

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<v Speaker 2>It's all you've been talking about, but it's this. You're

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<v Speaker 2>you're obsessed with the Queen one, right.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, the Ultimatum Queen Love. It's for gay couples, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's like perfect and I'm just in it. I'm freshly

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<v Speaker 1>out of a five year monogamous relationship, so this is like,

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<v Speaker 1>it's perfect for me because what it is is they

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<v Speaker 1>get a queer couple and one of them is like

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<v Speaker 1>biting itching to get married and the other is kind

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<v Speaker 1>of not really sold on the fact, dragging their feet

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit. Yeah, a little bit like that. And

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<v Speaker 1>the premise of the show is just that it's an ultimatum.

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<v Speaker 1>It's they spend a couple of weeks together on this

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<v Speaker 1>reality show and either at the end of it they

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<v Speaker 1>decide to get married or they decide to break up.

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<v Speaker 3>I think if you have to give your romantic partner

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<v Speaker 3>an ultimatum about marriage. It's probably not the best decision, and.

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<v Speaker 1>On a reality show, and that's a very difference situation.

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<v Speaker 2>But the craziest thing about this reality show is they

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<v Speaker 2>don't just go away for eight weeks and like work

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<v Speaker 2>on themselves in therapy. They go onto this show and

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<v Speaker 2>swap couples. They go and date someone else.

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<v Speaker 1>The perfect way to figure out if you want to

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<v Speaker 1>marry it. No, it's kind of I kind of back

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<v Speaker 1>it because it's a nice way of going if you're

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<v Speaker 1>the one that really wants to get married, it's a

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<v Speaker 1>nice way of going, let me just see if there's

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<v Speaker 1>anyone else out there. And it's also good for the

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<v Speaker 1>other partner to get some perspective to go. Actually, what

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<v Speaker 1>I've got is amazing. I'm not going to drag my

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<v Speaker 1>feet anymore. I get the mentality.

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<v Speaker 2>They have a trial marriage with a new partner.

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<v Speaker 3>It's why wait, so, how do they have to just

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<v Speaker 3>live with the other partner do like they share a

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<v Speaker 3>bed with them.

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<v Speaker 1>Mobs, it's their big brother house. It's like maps but

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<v Speaker 1>gay on steroids with their.

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<v Speaker 3>Other partner partners and they're all together living in the

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<v Speaker 3>one house, or they go to different houses.

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<v Speaker 1>So they enter a trial a trial marriage with a

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<v Speaker 1>new partner from one of the other pairings. So the

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<v Speaker 1>possibilities really are endless. You can jump and change move around.

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<v Speaker 1>It's great.

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<v Speaker 3>I love that they won't even marry their own partners,

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<v Speaker 3>but they'll have a trial marriage with someone they don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>But at the end of the day of the day,

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<v Speaker 1>you have to choose either break up or marry your partner.

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<v Speaker 1>They're the only options.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you ever had an ultimatum in your relationship, Mitch

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<v Speaker 2>Things and you're so obsessed with the show?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean yeah. So I gave my partner an

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<v Speaker 1>ultimatum to get his driver's license because I'm the only

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<v Speaker 1>one who can drive, and we're twenty seven and I

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<v Speaker 1>was over driving absolutely everywhere, and I said, you've got

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<v Speaker 1>to get your ls so you can be a man.

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<v Speaker 1>And the ultimatum work and he went and got his ol.

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<v Speaker 3>There is nothing sexier than having your adult male partner

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<v Speaker 3>get their l Oh yeah, in the bedroom, take them

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<v Speaker 3>for a.

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<v Speaker 1>Driving in the bedroom. I'm like, you'd be good, or

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to sign your log books.

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<v Speaker 2>What was the ultimatum that you'd break up if you

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<v Speaker 2>didn't get his license?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so it was over it. It was fine.

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<v Speaker 2>So it wasn't just that you have to get the bus.

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<v Speaker 1>It was pretty extreme.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not like the ultimatum is you don't get your license,

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<v Speaker 2>you get in the bus.

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<v Speaker 1>It's I'm out at all.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, because Mitch had the absolute dick from having a

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<v Speaker 3>boyfriend who didn't have his license at the rivaled age

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<v Speaker 3>of twenty seven.

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<v Speaker 1>That thing gets me going more than slapping on a

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<v Speaker 1>magnetic l plate to a holden Marina.

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<v Speaker 2>At least the magnetic now, not the paper once to

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<v Speaker 2>go on to the plate, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, look, I feel like ultimatums are bad. I

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<v Speaker 3>say this, and then I realized we just call them

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<v Speaker 3>a bribery in our house, Like we use ultimatums for

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<v Speaker 3>pretty much everything. It's like stop kicking your sister. There's

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<v Speaker 3>an ultimatum, if you don't eat your peas. There's an

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<v Speaker 3>ultimatum if you won't get in the shower. There's an

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<v Speaker 3>ultimatumas just for Matt. Yeah, and then sometimes I do

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<v Speaker 3>it for my children as well. But no, I pretty

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<v Speaker 3>I'm pretty sure that every single parent out there uses

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<v Speaker 3>ultimatums or bribery as a way to get them to

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<v Speaker 3>do what you need them to do.

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<v Speaker 1>Has anyone given you Brittin, Have you been given one

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<v Speaker 1>or Laura in a relationship?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think so. I mean, like there was the whole,

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<v Speaker 2>like if you're going to marry the other person, I

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<v Speaker 2>probably won't be here anymore. When my Psycho X was

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<v Speaker 2>married two people at the one time.

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<v Speaker 1>But besides that, it's probably what I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>I I did give on to my ex. I said,

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<v Speaker 3>if you don't stop cheating on me, I'm gonna leave you,

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<v Speaker 3>and then I left him and now I'm married to

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<v Speaker 3>someone else.

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<v Speaker 1>So it turned out. Did you get given an ultimatum?

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<v Speaker 1>Or what was yours? We love to know best ultimatum

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<v Speaker 1>or best story will give five hundred bucks at chemist

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<v Speaker 1>good one, guys, say guys. Hey,