Speaker 1: So basically I spoke to the little soul and I
Speaker 1: was just like, I just was like, it's okay, you
Speaker 1: can leave, Like I don't need you to stay, because
Speaker 1: I think sometimes like you can kind of hold energy
Speaker 1: there because you feel attached to it. And so I
Speaker 1: almost I almost just like gave this sort of soul
Speaker 1: permission to leave and to like, you know, go off.
Speaker 1: And I also remember saying something like, you know, like
Speaker 1: come back to me when it's the right time. Welcome
Speaker 1: back to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. I'm your host,
Speaker 1: Georgie Stevenson, former lawyer turned entrepreneur, social media personality and
Speaker 1: personal development junkie. This podcast is for my girl gang
Speaker 1: who want to feed their mind with positive and expansive
Speaker 1: thoughts to help them step into their power and live
Speaker 1: their most authentic life. We chat a variety of topics
Speaker 1: including mindset, business, relationships, health, and so much more. Basically,
Speaker 1: wherever you are on your journey, I want to help
Speaker 1: you feel inspired and empowered to rise up and conquer
Speaker 1: your next bold move. I know that's going to look
Speaker 1: different for everyone, but just no, I'm right here by
Speaker 1: your side and that you have the RNC community behind you.
Speaker 1: Let's do this. Hey guys, I just want to start
Speaker 1: this episode with a trigger warning. In this episode, I
Speaker 1: do talk about my miscarriage and loss. You know, if
Speaker 1: you're currently experiencing this, first of all, sending you so
Speaker 1: much love and so much support, But this might be
Speaker 1: a bit of a hard episode to listen to if
Speaker 1: it's super fresh for you. Yeah, just wanted to put
Speaker 1: a trigger warning in there, and yeah, send you hips
Speaker 1: a love. Hello, and welcome back to the Rise and
Speaker 1: Conquer Podcast. It is your host, Georgie Stevenson, and today
Speaker 1: I have a solo episode for you. You probably already
Speaker 1: know by the title it is. It's a sensitive one
Speaker 1: and I've honestly been meaning to do this for a
Speaker 1: while and then, like every time, I kind of just
Speaker 1: can't bring myself to do it. But I did realize
Speaker 1: it is it's either now it's coming up in a
Speaker 1: few days that it's six months since I personally had
Speaker 1: my miscarriage, and I do have an episode on that
Speaker 1: right at the start that I recorded. Honestly can't remember
Speaker 1: what I said, but I guess I just wanted to
Speaker 1: do an episode because, like I said in my first podcast,
Speaker 1: I think it's something that happens to a lot of women,
Speaker 1: but it's not necessarily something that we talk about. I
Speaker 1: think there's a lot of shame around the topic, and
Speaker 1: I think women, you know, have to deal with this
Speaker 1: almost by themselves. And I really want to speak on
Speaker 1: it because, yeah, I want more people to be aware.
Speaker 1: I want to validate your feelings if you are going
Speaker 1: through something similar. And also this episode might be helpful
Speaker 1: if maybe you aren't going through something like this but
Speaker 1: you have a friend, because my friends and family at
Speaker 1: the time were so crucial to know how I coped.
Speaker 1: So it's just going to be a bit of an episode,
Speaker 1: almost like a bit of closure on the topic. I
Speaker 1: feel like I can speak on it a bit more
Speaker 1: in depth now that it's you know, it's still fresh.
Speaker 1: I guess six months isn't that long. But I definitely
Speaker 1: do feel like a completely different person too late last year,
Speaker 1: so I guess the backstory. And again, I don't think
Speaker 1: I spoke about this on the podcast. I think I
Speaker 1: kind of asked everyone just to like not ask me
Speaker 1: questions about it, and I was just probably very vague,
Speaker 1: And that's just because Tim and me always just wanted
Speaker 1: to you know, I share so much with you guys.
Speaker 1: I share so much of my personal life on Instagram
Speaker 1: and here in YouTube, and I love it and that's
Speaker 1: my choice. And it's not like I don't want to
Speaker 1: do that, but they're just ask certain things that I
Speaker 1: guess I just don't feel. It's not so much comfortable,
Speaker 1: but it's like there's just certain things I want to,
Speaker 1: you know, we want to deal with, and yeah, be
Speaker 1: in private. You get the gist. I feel like I
Speaker 1: don't have to explain that, so I guess the first thing,
Speaker 1: and honestly, I don't. I don't think it matters either way.
Speaker 1: I think a miscarriage is such a huge loss and
Speaker 1: such a trauma that it doesn't matter if you were
Speaker 1: trying or not. Personally, me and Tim were trying, which
Speaker 1: is something I didn't really tell anyone. So I guess
Speaker 1: a bit of a backstory is me and Tim had
Speaker 1: been trying for quite some time, and I know when
Speaker 1: I did record the podcast, I kind of said that
Speaker 1: it was a surprise, and it was and that's just
Speaker 1: because you know, me and Tim had been trying for
Speaker 1: some time and it wasn't happening. And I'm I'm a
Speaker 1: very proactive person. As you can probably imagine, and so I,
Speaker 1: you know, it wasn't happening, and so I went for
Speaker 1: like six months or so, let's just say. And then
Speaker 1: so I went to the doctors, you know, just to
Speaker 1: get some tests done. And that's actually when I found
Speaker 1: out about my order immune condition, which is called Hashi motos,
Speaker 1: which is basically an audio immune condition of the thyroid,
Speaker 1: and it just means I had undirected thyroid. I also
Speaker 1: had really high antibodies, which is something that live in
Speaker 1: your body that kind of attack your immune system or
Speaker 1: just attack random things in your body because it thinks
Speaker 1: it's like yeah, like it's in an immune response. And
Speaker 1: so what was happening is my thyroid was getting attacked
Speaker 1: and it's like, clearly my thiroid is part of my body,
Speaker 1: but my body was commune confused and that's an autoimmune reaction. Wow,
Speaker 1: tongue died. So that's when I found out about that,
Speaker 1: and that actually made so much sense because I had
Speaker 1: all the symptoms for years and no one could really
Speaker 1: figure it out. And so from that point, I you know,
Speaker 1: went and saw doctors had a whole sorry, from that point,
Speaker 1: I went and saw specialists and was looking into it
Speaker 1: and you know, a couple of weeks before we found
Speaker 1: out we were pregnant, I actually had been told by
Speaker 1: an endocrinologist, which is a hormone specialist, that I was infertile.
Speaker 1: So she just said, look, your body would not be
Speaker 1: able to you know, produce a baby, hold a baby
Speaker 1: because my hormones were crazy and yeah, it's just like
Speaker 1: my thyroid wasn't producing the right hormones and it was underactive.
Speaker 1: And basically she was like, look, your body would never
Speaker 1: allow a pregnancy because it's kind it's like, you know, barely,
Speaker 1: it's barely surviving itself. It's not going to be able
Speaker 1: to yeah, host survivor pregnancy. So that's what I had
Speaker 1: been told, and so I kind of completely shifted my
Speaker 1: mind away from yeah, any thoughts of trying or anything
Speaker 1: like that, and really focused on the health issues. That's
Speaker 1: also when I started to look into you know, breast
Speaker 1: implant illness, and I saw so many ladies who developed
Speaker 1: autoimmune conditions then got their implants out and were so
Speaker 1: much healthier. And so that's when I had really like
Speaker 1: set into motion that I was going to get my
Speaker 1: implants out. So I booked a consultation. I booked my
Speaker 1: surgery and they actually had a cancelation so I could
Speaker 1: get in literally within two weeks, and so that was like,
Speaker 1: you know, my current reality. And then we found out
Speaker 1: we were pregnant, and so you can imagine my mental
Speaker 1: state of going through this whirlwind of a year of
Speaker 1: really wanting a pregnancy, trying so hard, then finding out
Speaker 1: I was infertile at that point and you know, there's
Speaker 1: no point, and then literally a couple weeks later finding
Speaker 1: out I was in fact pregnant. It really felt like
Speaker 1: a mirror, like a miracle, Like it really felt like,
Speaker 1: you know, we were given this thing and it was
Speaker 1: so special and it wasn't meant to happen, but it
Speaker 1: had happened for us that sort of scenario. So I
Speaker 1: wasn't very far along when I miscarried. I think it
Speaker 1: was only you know, like seven weeks. But in saying
Speaker 1: that too, that's something else I really want to validate
Speaker 1: is it does not matter how far along you are.
Speaker 1: I think when you find out you're pregnant and you
Speaker 1: know you do want that pregnancy, it's like it sparks
Speaker 1: this like and especially because I'm like a planner and
Speaker 1: a visionary sort of person, like I had already planned
Speaker 1: my whole fucking next couple of years and envision what
Speaker 1: life would be like, and you know, in vision and
Speaker 1: to him as a father and all these things, like
Speaker 1: you just you kind of do it instantly, And miscarriages
Speaker 1: really wasn't something that were talked about for me personally.
Speaker 1: I actually had my best friend had a miscarriage, so
Speaker 1: I didn't know about it. But I also, like my family,
Speaker 1: I have three older brothers who all have like three kids,
Speaker 1: who had kids, you know, when they were twenty one,
Speaker 1: who have like or had you know what I know
Speaker 1: of healthy pregnancies or fallen pregnant very fast. So I
Speaker 1: kind of didn't even think about, you know, miscarriage being
Speaker 1: a possibility, and it's not like something you really want
Speaker 1: to think about. But yeah, so when you know, we
Speaker 1: did find out we were miscarrying, because I wasn't as
Speaker 1: far as long it could just all happen naturally, so
Speaker 1: I didn't have to get a DNC or anything like that.
Speaker 1: But still it was just like one of the most
Speaker 1: traumatic and hard experiences I have ever been through. And still,
Speaker 1: you know, still to this day, it gets me upset,
Speaker 1: and I think that's why I have put off you
Speaker 1: know this podcast, but in saying that, I think it's
Speaker 1: really important to talk about it because I chose to
Speaker 1: share this on my social media and the like, the like,
Speaker 1: the love and support I received was so huge, and
Speaker 1: it was like it was really it was really helpful
Speaker 1: for me at that time because not only, you know,
Speaker 1: did I receive a lot of love and support, but
Speaker 1: I also could talk to other females who had gone
Speaker 1: through what I had gone through because I don't know
Speaker 1: the feelings that you feel. It's like and this is
Speaker 1: also something I want to touch on and I could
Speaker 1: literally do a whole Another episode is like, you know,
Speaker 1: when you're trying to get pregnant and it's not happening
Speaker 1: and you're seeing all these other pregnancy announcement like one
Speaker 1: of my pet hates, like Presley was like you would
Speaker 1: hear other influencers literally say it took them one try,
Speaker 1: like the first month and they were pregnant, and you're
Speaker 1: just sitting there going are you fucking serious? Like it
Speaker 1: was the most triggering thing for me. Okay, r n C, fam,
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Speaker 1: back into the show and like to be completely honest,
Speaker 1: like when you're trying and it's not happening, like you
Speaker 1: can feel like shame around that because it's kind of like,
Speaker 1: you know, this is what I'm this is what my
Speaker 1: body is meant to do. And yeah, like I said,
Speaker 1: that's a whole nother podcast in itself. So then when
Speaker 1: it does happen and it doesn't work out, there's just
Speaker 1: so many feelings of shame. What did I do? You know,
Speaker 1: why can't my body hold this pregnancy? And it's really
Speaker 1: I guess it's really validating when you speak to other
Speaker 1: people and their feelings, which really helped me. And so
Speaker 1: obviously you know you have to feel completely comfortable, but
Speaker 1: I do encourage you to reach out to other people
Speaker 1: or talk about it. It was, Yeah, it was really
Speaker 1: helpful for me personally to kind of I guess just
Speaker 1: like no other people are in the same boat, go
Speaker 1: through the same things. And for me, what was very
Speaker 1: helpful is like to see people say like, you know,
Speaker 1: they got through it, They're okay now. So yeah, I
Speaker 1: think also like a huge thing that helped me was
Speaker 1: just like I'm a huge introvert, so I love being
Speaker 1: by myself. Is like I just took a couple of
Speaker 1: weeks off, well I kind of had to because I
Speaker 1: then had my implant removal surgery literally I think a
Speaker 1: week later, which was honestly kind of good because I
Speaker 1: was recovering from that also. And so I think sometimes
Speaker 1: with a miscarriage, you know, it can just feel like
Speaker 1: mental but it's like you need to take time off,
Speaker 1: you need to feel your feelings. And yeah, so I
Speaker 1: really encourage you to like feel your feelings, take time off,
Speaker 1: like take time off work. I saw the other day
Speaker 1: that just Cinder the New Zealand, I think prime minister,
Speaker 1: I think that's what they call well, I'm so bad
Speaker 1: with politics. They have just implemented a new rule where
Speaker 1: it's like anyone who has a miscarriage is entitled to
Speaker 1: leave off work. And yes, it's so important because when
Speaker 1: you're trying to deal with your feelings and then it'll
Speaker 1: also like show up normal for other people, it's like
Speaker 1: you just can't. So it was really helpful. Just the
Speaker 1: first couple of weeks is I literally did no work.
Speaker 1: I just was at home. I really you know, relished
Speaker 1: in being by myself. And yeah, I guess like feeling
Speaker 1: the feelings was huge for me because I think sometimes
Speaker 1: you know, any sort of feelings, we don't necessarily want
Speaker 1: to feel them, but if we don't feel them, like
Speaker 1: we're not going to deal with them and we're just
Speaker 1: going to push them down and they're going to come
Speaker 1: out in other ways like anxiety and depression and whatnot.
Speaker 1: I think a huge feeling that I felt that I
Speaker 1: very much want to validate is like hopelessness, like you know,
Speaker 1: and oh my god, if you if you know someone
Speaker 1: who's going through this, the worst thing you can say
Speaker 1: is like, you know, don't worry, you can keep you
Speaker 1: can try. You know, you can try again. This is
Speaker 1: a good sign. Means you're fertile. Like I was literally
Speaker 1: just like shut the fuck up, like don't don't say
Speaker 1: any of that, like or even and this is like
Speaker 1: I know I say this all the time, but like,
Speaker 1: you know, everything happens for a reason, and don't get
Speaker 1: me wrong. Now I can look back that one hundred
Speaker 1: percent happened for a reason, and yeah, like if I
Speaker 1: hadn't had the miscarriage, I wouldn't been able to get
Speaker 1: the surgery and just a whole you know, list of things.
Speaker 1: So now that I'm like six months past, it is like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I can see the bigger picture and I can see that,
Speaker 1: but when you're in it, it's like the worst thing
Speaker 1: that people just being like, oh, you know, like everything
Speaker 1: happens for a reason, like obviously it wasn't meant to be,
Speaker 1: and you're literally like shut the fuck up. So if
Speaker 1: you're someone's friend, like don't do that. And yeah, you
Speaker 1: go through a lot of feelings, like there's shock and
Speaker 1: denial and I guess like the stages of grief like
Speaker 1: anger and guilt and depression to spare hopelessness, like feel
Speaker 1: of those feelings go through it. No, they are so valid,
Speaker 1: And like I said, it does not matter if it
Speaker 1: was four weeks, if it was you know, a small
Speaker 1: amount of time is like a pregnancy really signifies this
Speaker 1: like hope, this new beginning, this new chance, and then
Speaker 1: when that is taken it away, it's yeah, it's really
Speaker 1: it's really hard. It doesn't matter how early on in
Speaker 1: the pregnancy. Like don't get me wrong, I could imagine
Speaker 1: how fucking hard it would be if I was further along.
Speaker 1: But I also want to make sure I validate people
Speaker 1: who you know or even someone maybe you weren't trying
Speaker 1: and you had a miscarriage, Like that's still going to
Speaker 1: be so extremely hard because I'm sure there was a
Speaker 1: stage there where you you know, decided that you did
Speaker 1: want to keep it, and I think, you know, make sure,
Speaker 1: like talk to your partner. It was a little hard
Speaker 1: with me and Tim because Tim isn't a huge talker,
Speaker 1: and I feel like, you know, males are a little
Speaker 1: bit different. They're not carrying something inside them. Their body
Speaker 1: doesn't change, like they don't get the symptoms like I remember,
Speaker 1: I got pregnancy symptoms hardcore, like smell was making me
Speaker 1: feel sick and I was feeling very unware. Well, to
Speaker 1: be completely honest, it wasn't didn't seem like it was
Speaker 1: going to be a great pregnancy because I was so
Speaker 1: sick even right at the start. And yeah, so I
Speaker 1: think it was a little bit hard for Tim to resonate,
Speaker 1: but he was obviously so supportive. But you know, make
Speaker 1: sure you're leaning on your partner, talking to them and yeah,
Speaker 1: like I said, just like no, it's like I think
Speaker 1: it's like the statistic it's like one in four pregnancies
Speaker 1: and in miscarriage. So I guarantee you there's people around you.
Speaker 1: And that's like when I did the post on Instagram,
Speaker 1: there were so many people who I knew had experienced it,
Speaker 1: who I you know, didn't know how to experienced it.
Speaker 1: Speaking about it really helped me, but obviously that's such
Speaker 1: a personal choice. And then just like I know this
Speaker 1: is like so hard, but know that it's like time
Speaker 1: does heal all. For me, it was just about focusing
Speaker 1: on focusing on feeling my feelings, feeling it all, but
Speaker 1: also knowing that you know, I will feel happier one day.
Speaker 1: I will kind of get there. I just needed to
Speaker 1: go through this shitty part. And then also what I
Speaker 1: wanted to touch on. That's something that really helped me.
Speaker 1: So when me and him were trying, I was reading
Speaker 1: this book called Spirit Babies. Let me just google the author. Okay,
Speaker 1: So the book is called Spirit Baby is How to
Speaker 1: Communicate with the Children Child You're Meant to Have And
Speaker 1: it's by Walter Mick Hitchen and he is a clairvoyant.
Speaker 1: So super woo woo book. But you know, do you
Speaker 1: expect anything less from me? And so I had been
Speaker 1: recommended to read it, and I think I was listening
Speaker 1: to a podcast saying and she recommended it, and I
Speaker 1: do highly recommend, like if you are someone who is
Speaker 1: either trying and it's not happening, or going from a miscarriage.
Speaker 1: It was a really good book. So what I had
Speaker 1: been doing previously to you know what happened. I was
Speaker 1: doing these spirit baby meditations and look bet with me,
Speaker 1: And basically there were just meditations where I would connect
Speaker 1: with black I guess the soul of my future child
Speaker 1: and draw them in and just like establish that connection.
Speaker 1: So when it was time, you know, for the soul
Speaker 1: to come down and whatnot, it would all happen anyway.
Speaker 1: So in this book he just goes through all these
Speaker 1: scenarios of like, you know, people who were trying and
Speaker 1: what they needed to do differently, or if someone was
Speaker 1: having pregnancy complications and whatnot. And also in the book
Speaker 1: he explains that you know, everyone's on every soul on
Speaker 1: their carmic journey, so if the pregnancy does end in
Speaker 1: a miscarriage, that is what that soul has chosen and
Speaker 1: it's nothing to do with you. And I think that
Speaker 1: was just very helpful for me because because I felt
Speaker 1: like the pregnancy you know, didn't happen because of my
Speaker 1: thyroid issues, I just had a lot of guilt. It's like,
Speaker 1: you know, guilt that my body couldn't hold the pregnancy
Speaker 1: like I couldn't you know, hold the baby, and so
Speaker 1: it just it was just a lot, and so you know,
Speaker 1: to have that other perspective was just very helpful for me.
Speaker 1: And then the last thing I want to touch on
Speaker 1: and I'm definitely gonna cry even more because it's just
Speaker 1: like it was such a surreal experience. But something else
Speaker 1: that I very much encourage. And I was dming my
Speaker 1: friend Chloe Zepp on Instagram and she was open about
Speaker 1: having a miscarriage briefly, so we were dming. We have
Speaker 1: been friends for years because I know her sister Amy,
Speaker 1: and so we were dming and she was saying something
Speaker 1: that really helped her was getting a womb clearing, like
Speaker 1: an energy clearing by like an energy worker. I guess,
Speaker 1: like I think it's called Riki. I don't know if
Speaker 1: it's the same. So I had this girl called Danny
Speaker 1: do it, and oh my god, it was definitely needed
Speaker 1: and also helpful for me. And I'll put Danny's details
Speaker 1: in the show notes. She's obviously Gold Coast based, so
Speaker 1: if you're on the Gold Coast. But anyway, so I
Speaker 1: got a womb c and also, guys, that's not like
Speaker 1: a like a shout out or anything like that like
Speaker 1: obviously paid for her services. She was very good. But
Speaker 1: obviously if you need it, I think it would be
Speaker 1: super helpful where basically she goes in and she just
Speaker 1: clears any stagnant energy in your womb, if the spirit
Speaker 1: you know is still there, and any blocks, and that
Speaker 1: just helps you deal with you know, deal with the
Speaker 1: grief and deal with it so you can move on.
Speaker 1: So I probably got this done probably like four weeks
Speaker 1: after my miscarriage, so it wasn't like straight away. I
Speaker 1: definitely you know, left some time to feel and whatnot. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So she did this like energy womb healing, and since
Speaker 1: I've had that, I've actually had other energy clearings done
Speaker 1: because I just found it so helpful when you are
Speaker 1: feeling stagnant or stop sorry, stuck and like you do
Speaker 1: have a block in your body, getting someone to like
Speaker 1: clear the energy. Yeah, it can be good if you're
Speaker 1: into that sort of thing. So in this womb healing,
Speaker 1: she you know, she did some massive she did some things,
Speaker 1: but something that was really impactful for me is during
Speaker 1: she did this like visulation visualization exercise where I pictured
Speaker 1: I guess like speaking to the soul and also giving
Speaker 1: it permission to go all right, guys, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1: Let's just power through this because it's yeah. So basically
Speaker 1: I spoke to the little soul and I was just
Speaker 1: like I just was like, it's okay, you can leave,
Speaker 1: Like I don't need you to stay, because I think
Speaker 1: sometimes like you can kind of hold energy there because
Speaker 1: you feel attached to it, and so I almost I
Speaker 1: almost just like gave this little soul permission to leave
Speaker 1: and to like, you know, go off. And I also
Speaker 1: remember saying something like, you know, like come back to
Speaker 1: me when it's the right time. And I felt so
Speaker 1: much better after that because I think, like I said,
Speaker 1: I was just holding onto a lot of guilt around
Speaker 1: not being able to hold the pregnancy and feeling like
Speaker 1: really bad about that. And I think it's like, you know,
Speaker 1: even if you don't believe in like souls or anything else,
Speaker 1: like it was almost it was very freeing. It's almost
Speaker 1: like I was forgiving myself and like kind of letting
Speaker 1: myself be lack. It's okay, you can leave, we can
Speaker 1: move on. You tried your best sort of situation, and yeah,
Speaker 1: so that was super that was really helpful for me,
Speaker 1: and I know I'm like crying and probably upsetting some people,
Speaker 1: but honestly do Like I remember after that feeling so
Speaker 1: at peace, which was huge to me because before that,
Speaker 1: like I just didn't and so that was like a
Speaker 1: really big step for me. That was helpful. And then yeah,
Speaker 1: like even even though I am you know, crying, getting upset,
Speaker 1: I do feel really at peace with what happened. And
Speaker 1: I can now see the bigger picture of you know,
Speaker 1: my saying of life happens for me, not to me,
Speaker 1: And even though it's a really fucking terrible thing, I
Speaker 1: can see and it's also lack nothing had ever happened
Speaker 1: to me like that, Like I've had no one close
Speaker 1: to me pass away or you know, no huge trauma.
Speaker 1: And not that I'm saying we are supposed to have trauma,
Speaker 1: because I do not believe that. But it definitely changed
Speaker 1: me as a person. It definitely made me stronger. I
Speaker 1: definitely could see things a lot more clearly in regards
Speaker 1: to just everything. And yeah, it's like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: like it's a you know, milestone in my life where
Speaker 1: I will always kind of remember. And even though it's
Speaker 1: so painful, I don't like to see it as this
Speaker 1: negative thing. Obviously it's not a fucking positive thing. But
Speaker 1: I don't like to see it as this negative thing
Speaker 1: because yeah, like I said, now, looking back, I can
Speaker 1: see it all happen for a reason, and it very much, Yeah,
Speaker 1: made me stronger and really you know, pulled me and
Speaker 1: him together. We were a lot closer, and I had
Speaker 1: friends like who reached out, who were so supportive, who
Speaker 1: was so there for me, And yeah, anyway, I'm rambling,
Speaker 1: I'm going to finish this episode. I hope that was
Speaker 1: kind of helpful, and I really really hope I did
Speaker 1: not upset anyone. I just really wanted to kind of
Speaker 1: I guess have a close on that because I did
Speaker 1: say I was going to speak about it more and
Speaker 1: then I just couldn't really bring myself to do it
Speaker 1: until now. But yeah, it's six months down the track,
Speaker 1: and I do feel so much more at peace, and yeah,
Speaker 1: like it, like I said, time heals all. And I
Speaker 1: just want to just send so much love and support
Speaker 1: if any anyone is going through something similar or you
Speaker 1: know they know if they are, I know someone who is,
Speaker 1: and if you do know someone who is, like honestly,
Speaker 1: just be there for them, Just be supportive, don't say
Speaker 1: anything fucking stupid uh and you know they will get
Speaker 1: through it. But yeah, thanks for listening, guys, And like
Speaker 1: I said, a big thank you for the huge support
Speaker 1: when I did go through that late last year. My community.
Speaker 1: I say this all the time, but you guys are
Speaker 1: so oh you guys are just so amazing and I
Speaker 1: feel very, very lucky to have you guys. And yeah,
Speaker 1: so I really appreciate it. But enough of that. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna go get things a bit sorted, wipe these eyes,
Speaker 1: and get on my day. And I really hope you
Speaker 1: guys have an amazing day all night. Whatever you're listening.
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