WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: We LOVE Love! 0:00:01.360 --> 0:00:02.000 Are you ready? 0:00:02.480 --> 0:00:05.439 Good pickup with Britt Hogley and Laura ben. 0:00:05.640 --> 0:00:08.640 Brady or what our windows down? 0:00:09.119 --> 0:00:09.600 My world? 0:00:09.640 --> 0:00:11.480 Reason the dust only good? 0:00:11.560 --> 0:00:12.640 Bab Doug all down? 0:00:13.640 --> 0:00:17.759 I don't much, but yeah I'm our big get and 0:00:17.880 --> 0:00:18.639 what I want. 0:00:18.920 --> 0:00:21.840 It don't matter where does this is the pickup? 0:00:22.520 --> 0:00:22.680 Hi? 0:00:22.800 --> 0:00:25.120 Guys, it's the pick up with Bret Happily and Laura 0:00:25.120 --> 0:00:27.520 burn and Happy Valentine's Day, everybody. 0:00:27.720 --> 0:00:30.640 Valentine's Day, the day of love. You either love it 0:00:30.760 --> 0:00:31.680 or you hate it. 0:00:31.760 --> 0:00:33.839 I know it really is polarizing, isn't it. You love 0:00:33.880 --> 0:00:36.040 it if you're in a relationship. Otherwise you're like, oh way, 0:00:36.400 --> 0:00:37.080 well no, But I. 0:00:37.040 --> 0:00:38.879 Think we can flip this on its head. I think 0:00:38.920 --> 0:00:40.559 you can love it no matter who you are. You 0:00:40.640 --> 0:00:42.600 just have to redefine what it means. You can have 0:00:42.720 --> 0:00:44.519 Gallantine's Day with your friends. 0:00:44.840 --> 0:00:46.640 You can have dog and Tinne's Day we talked about 0:00:46.680 --> 0:00:47.200 the other day. 0:00:47.360 --> 0:00:49.760 If you're you're me as in a relationship, you don't 0:00:49.760 --> 0:00:51.400 ever see the person and you just live with your dog, 0:00:51.479 --> 0:00:53.560 you can have dog Day. There's loads of things you 0:00:53.600 --> 0:00:55.320 can do, but you also don't need to make it 0:00:55.400 --> 0:00:58.320 like this big cringey thing like if you don't froth 0:00:58.400 --> 0:01:00.640 it and you think it is just like a money maker. 0:01:01.200 --> 0:01:03.200 Use it as a day just to like tell someone 0:01:03.240 --> 0:01:05.440 you love them. You don't have to go send them 0:01:05.480 --> 0:01:08.640 like Teddy Bear flowers. You can just lean into the 0:01:08.680 --> 0:01:09.880 real rule passion. 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:12.640 So don't lean into the commercialization you're saying, lean into 0:01:12.680 --> 0:01:14.120 the feeling side. 0:01:14.160 --> 0:01:15.959 What it's about cute love. 0:01:16.480 --> 0:01:19.559 Well, look, considering that it is Valentine's Day, we wanted 0:01:19.560 --> 0:01:21.640 to make a show that is all about love. And 0:01:21.680 --> 0:01:23.760 the reason for that is because we have a podcast 0:01:23.760 --> 0:01:27.480 it's called Life on Cut and our main tagline for 0:01:27.520 --> 0:01:28.720 that podcast is we. 0:01:28.560 --> 0:01:31.240 We love Love. So there's no way that. 0:01:31.200 --> 0:01:34.319 We could get away without making today's show completely about love. 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:36.440 And finally the Boss's letters, so we're doing it. But 0:01:36.520 --> 0:01:37.440 also we wanted. 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:40.160 To highlight exactly like Britz said, all of the different kinds, 0:01:40.240 --> 0:01:43.080 Like there's people who are in long distance relationships, there's 0:01:43.120 --> 0:01:47.400 people who are in long term relationships and relationships yeah, 0:01:47.440 --> 0:01:50.160 and I mean also people who are single who maybe 0:01:50.440 --> 0:01:52.680 don't have a romantic love in their life but have 0:01:52.800 --> 0:01:56.440 found the most fulfilling loves is that of their friends 0:01:56.560 --> 0:01:58.840 or that of their pets. Like whatever it looks like 0:01:58.920 --> 0:02:01.080 to you, we want to be able to celebrate that 0:02:01.120 --> 0:02:03.760 Today's a day for really making the people that you 0:02:03.800 --> 0:02:06.440 love the most feel incredibly appreciated, and that's what it's 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:10.639 all about. Well, speaking of Valentine's Day, and since everything 0:02:10.840 --> 0:02:13.960 on this show is centered around love, this conversation is 0:02:13.960 --> 0:02:15.839 going to be for anyone who is in a long 0:02:15.919 --> 0:02:18.960 term relationship. Maybe you've got kids, maybe you're in the 0:02:19.040 --> 0:02:21.600 trenches and things just aren't as magical as what once 0:02:21.680 --> 0:02:24.080 upon a time they were. I feel like it happens 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:28.240 to all long term couples, Like keeping with me. Yeah, well, 0:02:28.280 --> 0:02:30.320 long distance kind of changes things a little bit, but 0:02:30.400 --> 0:02:33.359 trying to keep like that long term spark is really 0:02:33.400 --> 0:02:36.320 really hard. But it's interesting for me because the women 0:02:36.360 --> 0:02:38.760 that we're about to speak to, Tara Pavlovich. Once upon 0:02:38.800 --> 0:02:41.080 a time I was in competition with her for the 0:02:41.080 --> 0:02:43.560 Heart of a Man on a reality TV show, and 0:02:43.600 --> 0:02:45.720 now I just love watching everything that she puts out 0:02:45.720 --> 0:02:47.160 in the world on social media. 0:02:47.320 --> 0:02:49.400 Tara, Welcome to the show. 0:02:49.720 --> 0:02:55.360 Hello, Laura, arguably the fan favorite of whatever season we 0:02:55.360 --> 0:02:56.120 were of The Bachelor. 0:02:56.280 --> 0:02:59.000 Look, guys, the competition's over. You're both married with kids. 0:02:59.080 --> 0:03:01.840 Let's leave that one in the six year past, but Tyre, 0:03:02.120 --> 0:03:03.000 it's so cool. 0:03:03.120 --> 0:03:05.760 I was like reading your posts on Instagram just saying that, hey, 0:03:05.800 --> 0:03:08.880 let's normalize couples counseling. You know, we're trying to get 0:03:08.880 --> 0:03:10.680 our connection back and do all these things and it 0:03:10.680 --> 0:03:13.680 doesn't have to mean that life is over. What made 0:03:13.760 --> 0:03:15.919 you start going to therapy and what made you want 0:03:15.919 --> 0:03:16.760 to speak about it? 0:03:17.360 --> 0:03:20.680 Yeah, so I think therapy is something that like everyone 0:03:20.800 --> 0:03:24.200 can benefit from singly or as a couple. Even if 0:03:24.560 --> 0:03:27.079 we went because we needed a lot of help Black 0:03:27.120 --> 0:03:29.320 things were really bad. But then once I went, I 0:03:29.360 --> 0:03:31.160 was like, wait a minute, I think I want to 0:03:31.200 --> 0:03:33.640 do this even now things are good because it really 0:03:33.680 --> 0:03:37.440 does help the connection because they're so trained in helping 0:03:37.520 --> 0:03:40.960 couples and they know so many ways to get you 0:03:41.040 --> 0:03:43.720 both to understand each other a little bit more. So 0:03:43.880 --> 0:03:46.640 it's just good to go and have a little refresher 0:03:46.680 --> 0:03:50.240 and kind of understand each other all because in reality, 0:03:50.400 --> 0:03:52.920 like you're always going to have little issues and you're 0:03:52.960 --> 0:03:55.600 never going to completely understand each other, like when you're 0:03:55.640 --> 0:03:58.880 married with kids, it's hard, like stuff changes all the time. 0:03:58.960 --> 0:04:02.720 You're forever evolved. So it's just about going and having 0:04:02.760 --> 0:04:06.160 a little refresher and finding that connection again. 0:04:06.600 --> 0:04:08.680 Tara, you and Neck have been together for a while now, 0:04:08.800 --> 0:04:11.400 and obviously you've got two beautiful children, But did you 0:04:11.440 --> 0:04:14.640 feel that your relationship just completely shifted after having kids. 0:04:15.280 --> 0:04:17.960 Oh it's so hard when you have kids. You just 0:04:18.000 --> 0:04:21.839 don't have that time to connect anymore. And that's what 0:04:21.839 --> 0:04:23.760 the therapist helped us with because we're broth up, but 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:25.560 we don't have time and she's like, no, but you do, 0:04:25.839 --> 0:04:28.159 and here's how you can have it, you know. So 0:04:28.880 --> 0:04:31.520 it's hard with kids because they don't even let you speak, 0:04:31.680 --> 0:04:35.479 like honest, like I'm hiding outside right now, like to 0:04:35.560 --> 0:04:37.440 speak on the phone, because you know, when Laura you 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:39.440 messaged her, I was like, no, I can't talk to you, 0:04:39.520 --> 0:04:42.279 like I've got children at me. It's the same here. Literally, 0:04:42.320 --> 0:04:44.800 if we even look at each other, they're like, no, 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:47.560 you do not, Like how dare you we are here? 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:49.920 Like when you talked about wanting to go and see 0:04:50.000 --> 0:04:52.599 a counselor or do couples counseling with either of you, 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:54.599 apprehensive because I think there is still a lot of 0:04:54.600 --> 0:04:56.839 stigma around it, Like a lot of people interpret that 0:04:56.880 --> 0:04:59.359 as oh, well, we must be at doomsday when it 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:00.760 comes to our relation ship, if you want to go 0:05:00.839 --> 0:05:01.560 and see a counselor. 0:05:02.320 --> 0:05:04.479 I know it is like that, and that's why I'm 0:05:04.520 --> 0:05:07.000 so open about it because I want people to know that, like, 0:05:07.120 --> 0:05:10.359 it's not doom and gm. I honestly think that the 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:13.320 strongest couples go and seek it because it's like, we 0:05:13.360 --> 0:05:16.159 will do anything for this to work. When we first 0:05:16.360 --> 0:05:18.760 saw the counselor, we were like, it was kind of 0:05:18.800 --> 0:05:21.800 like the last resort type thing. We really needed to 0:05:21.839 --> 0:05:24.320 go there. But after going, we were like, wait, this 0:05:24.480 --> 0:05:28.600 is actually like pretty good and so useful. 0:05:29.200 --> 0:05:31.839 It's so good Because I am with one of my ex's. 0:05:32.000 --> 0:05:35.000 We were doing therapy individually and then I said, hey, 0:05:35.080 --> 0:05:37.320 I think we need to go together and he refused 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:39.279 because I think the next step is a couple was 0:05:39.279 --> 0:05:42.160 something different for him. You know, he could understand going individually, 0:05:42.200 --> 0:05:44.160 there was still this stigma for the couple's therapy. 0:05:44.400 --> 0:05:45.200 He refused to. 0:05:45.120 --> 0:05:46.680 Go and now that worked out and he got me. 0:05:46.760 --> 0:05:47.800 Yeah, that was my point. 0:05:47.880 --> 0:05:50.360 Laura, how are you and Nick now, like after all 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:52.359 of this and everything that you guys have weathered with 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:54.600 having kids and come back together, Like, how do you 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:55.960 feel your relationship is now? 0:05:56.760 --> 0:06:00.800 Oh? Definitely after that therapy session, we've been a looser, 0:06:01.040 --> 0:06:03.599 So it's helped us so much. It was only like 0:06:03.760 --> 0:06:06.880 a couple of months ago, and it's definitely made such 0:06:06.920 --> 0:06:09.279 a difference. So I'm going to go again and have 0:06:09.400 --> 0:06:12.719 another refresher and learn some more little things from her 0:06:12.960 --> 0:06:16.160 because it's really just helped a lot. Like just having 0:06:16.160 --> 0:06:19.320 the reminder and the conversation with her was so helpful. 0:06:19.400 --> 0:06:22.080 Obviously there's things that we both do every day that 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:24.640 were just like, okay that, like that's annoying, goal away, 0:06:24.760 --> 0:06:28.000 like you're so annoying. But yeah, but you know, I 0:06:28.040 --> 0:06:31.480 think it's important to remember that that's completely normal. And 0:06:31.520 --> 0:06:34.080 like what we're seeing on Instagram with couples and everything 0:06:34.200 --> 0:06:38.360 isn't the whole picture. Like everyone has little bickers every 0:06:38.440 --> 0:06:41.000 day and you piss each other off and that's normal. 0:06:41.200 --> 0:06:41.440 Yeah. 0:06:41.600 --> 0:06:44.080 Absolutely a Tara, You're a breath of fresh air. I 0:06:44.120 --> 0:06:46.719 love watching your Instagram post for anyone who hasn't followed 0:06:46.760 --> 0:06:50.280 Tara Tara Pavlovich on Instagram, Like you're very relatable with 0:06:50.320 --> 0:06:53.800 all of your very funny updates around parenting and relationships, 0:06:53.839 --> 0:06:55.320 and I feel like you just say it as it is, 0:06:55.640 --> 0:06:56.480 which you always. 0:06:56.600 --> 0:06:59.920 Laura appreciate you and my you and my egg. 0:07:00.320 --> 0:07:07.160 Well yeah, well, happy Valentine's Day, Tara. 0:07:06.000 --> 0:07:06.280 Thank you. 0:07:06.360 --> 0:07:07.480 Happy Valentine's Day. 0:07:07.520 --> 0:07:07.839 Guys. 0:07:07.880 --> 0:07:10.920 I hope it's amazing, Sita, Bye. 0:07:11.160 --> 0:07:12.000 It's so nice. 0:07:12.040 --> 0:07:15.040 It's such a nice reminder, isn't it. Like your brain 0:07:15.640 --> 0:07:18.560 is also a muscle. We exercise our like our body 0:07:18.600 --> 0:07:20.760 and where we do our squats, we want great legs 0:07:20.840 --> 0:07:22.600 or whatever it is, but we forget that our brain 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:24.040 is something that needs to be exercised too, And I 0:07:24.080 --> 0:07:26.320 think is a really good reminder of like you can't 0:07:26.360 --> 0:07:28.320 just forget it until it shrivels away and be like, 0:07:28.360 --> 0:07:31.120 oh yeah, now it's time to. 0:07:31.000 --> 0:07:31.920 Try and work it back up. 0:07:33.440 --> 0:07:36.640 Well, we are doing a dedicated show today to. 0:07:36.760 --> 0:07:40.360 Love because it is Valentine. We love, we love love, 0:07:40.400 --> 0:07:41.840 but we love all kinds of love. 0:07:41.880 --> 0:07:44.640 We didn't want it to be just like romantic relationships 0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:47.240 because so many people aren't in that situation right now, 0:07:47.280 --> 0:07:48.560 and that is okay, yeah. 0:07:48.360 --> 0:07:50.480 But also because Valentine's Day can be really hard for 0:07:50.520 --> 0:07:53.200 people who've gone through breakups or who are single, and 0:07:53.760 --> 0:07:56.680 you know, we put so much emphasis on romantic relationships. 0:07:56.720 --> 0:07:59.760 Well, one person that is also in this situation where 0:07:59.800 --> 0:08:02.080 they are single and they are not in a romantic 0:08:02.080 --> 0:08:05.840 relationship after a very difficult public split. Is our homegrown 0:08:05.880 --> 0:08:09.720 Aussie Isla Fisher. So Isla Fisher and Sasha Baron Cohen 0:08:09.840 --> 0:08:12.840 were together for over twenty years I think almost twenty 0:08:12.880 --> 0:08:15.520 four years or something, married for about thirteen years. They've 0:08:15.520 --> 0:08:18.560 got kids, and two years ago they announced that they 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:19.720 were going through their breakup. 0:08:19.800 --> 0:08:22.760 Well, Isla has just come out and done. She's starting to. 0:08:22.720 --> 0:08:25.480 Do like her first interviews where she's talking about single 0:08:25.520 --> 0:08:28.800 life and getting back into the dating scene, and recently 0:08:28.880 --> 0:08:31.320 when she was asked if she is dating, she had 0:08:31.320 --> 0:08:34.200 this really amazing response that I just loved. 0:08:34.480 --> 0:08:36.400 She's been in this relationship for twenty years. 0:08:36.400 --> 0:08:38.079 You'd think that she'd be wanting to get out there 0:08:38.120 --> 0:08:40.120 and go for it and meet new people and have 0:08:40.240 --> 0:08:41.040 some sexy time. 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:42.480 Like, oh my god, I feel the opposite. 0:08:42.480 --> 0:08:44.120 I feel like if I was married for twenty years 0:08:44.120 --> 0:08:47.080 and I got divorced, I wouldn't want to see another man. 0:08:47.240 --> 0:08:49.079 Oh I think I'd be the opposite. I think I 0:08:49.120 --> 0:08:50.880 would want to be like what else is out there? 0:08:50.920 --> 0:08:53.640 Like I've only known one thing for twenty five years. Oh, 0:08:53.679 --> 0:08:56.080 I'd not I'd be exhausted. I'd be back out there 0:08:56.120 --> 0:08:58.680 for sure, but way we're all different. 0:08:59.080 --> 0:09:01.400 But she she basically came out and said. 0:09:01.240 --> 0:09:03.160 You know, her split was the most difficult thing she's 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:06.240 ever been through, and now she just wants to focus 0:09:06.320 --> 0:09:08.600 on the women in my life that have held me, 0:09:09.160 --> 0:09:11.960 she said, the female relationships that I have cultivated in 0:09:12.000 --> 0:09:14.880 our business. Those women have been there for me. I'm 0:09:14.880 --> 0:09:17.400 actually going to get emotional. I'm only sitting here today 0:09:17.400 --> 0:09:20.120 because of them. She goes on to say, I've learned 0:09:20.160 --> 0:09:22.920 so much about the power of female friendship, and I've 0:09:23.040 --> 0:09:25.319 just learned that I do have resilience, who I am 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:28.040 outside of a partnership and what my values are, and 0:09:28.080 --> 0:09:30.120 that she wants to focus on these women in her 0:09:30.160 --> 0:09:34.000 life now and those relationships as opposed to dating and 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:35.400 romantic relationships. 0:09:35.440 --> 0:09:37.200 I love this, and I also think that this is 0:09:37.240 --> 0:09:39.600 something and a conversation that needs to be had more 0:09:39.720 --> 0:09:43.840 because we put so much emphasis on romantic relationships, like 0:09:44.120 --> 0:09:45.400 we do throughout our whole life. 0:09:45.400 --> 0:09:46.400 We kind of hold it up. 0:09:46.320 --> 0:09:48.480 As like the beacon of what is the most important 0:09:48.520 --> 0:09:52.520 relationship that and potentially parenthood or motherhood. But what we 0:09:52.600 --> 0:09:57.120 don't talk about is friendship as being something that is 0:09:57.160 --> 0:10:00.120 equally as important because in the instance like this with 0:10:00.160 --> 0:10:03.120 Eila Fisher, in the instance that your romantic relationship is 0:10:03.160 --> 0:10:05.240 no longer there for you, who is it that holds 0:10:05.280 --> 0:10:05.640 you through that? 0:10:05.720 --> 0:10:07.440 Who is it that supports you through that? 0:10:07.840 --> 0:10:09.560 And you know, we had a we had a really 0:10:09.600 --> 0:10:14.880 interesting conversation recently about something that radio presenter Tanya Hennessy 0:10:14.920 --> 0:10:17.160 talked about. She was talking about the catch up trap 0:10:17.200 --> 0:10:19.679 when it comes to being friends and how we get 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:21.720 to a point in life. And I know it's something 0:10:21.720 --> 0:10:24.319 I really resonate with where you're no longer making new 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:27.840 experiences or really you're not really adding to the richness 0:10:27.840 --> 0:10:30.360 of your friendships, but you're just going through this constant 0:10:30.400 --> 0:10:32.839 catchup where you're just updating your friends on your life 0:10:32.920 --> 0:10:36.240 rather than really like deeply connecting with them. And I think, like, 0:10:36.320 --> 0:10:39.160 it's so nice to take stock and have a think, 0:10:39.400 --> 0:10:41.480 especially on Valentine's Day. Okay, well, what are those other 0:10:41.520 --> 0:10:44.520 relationships I have in my life that means so much 0:10:44.559 --> 0:10:46.680 to me and are so important to me? And have 0:10:46.760 --> 0:10:48.839 I given them time recently and have I told them 0:10:48.840 --> 0:10:50.600 how much I love them and appreciate them as well? 0:10:51.000 --> 0:10:53.240 It's also easy to forget that you need your friends. 0:10:53.280 --> 0:10:55.679 Where you've got a partner, it's easy to forget how 0:10:55.679 --> 0:10:56.679 important those people are. 0:10:57.240 --> 0:10:58.760 Usually when we get married, we. 0:10:58.760 --> 0:11:01.920 Think it's forever, and we know statistically that that is 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:06.520 not true. So what's happening is you're maybe subconsciously even 0:11:06.559 --> 0:11:07.680 neglecting other people. 0:11:07.480 --> 0:11:09.600 In your life. We do it by accident, don't we Yeah, 0:11:09.600 --> 0:11:09.880 we don't. 0:11:10.120 --> 0:11:11.160 It's not intentional at all. 0:11:11.200 --> 0:11:13.800 But you know, time is such a valuable commodity, and 0:11:13.840 --> 0:11:15.880 as adults we don't really have it. As parents, you 0:11:15.920 --> 0:11:17.840 don't really have it, So you give your time to 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:21.760 your family. If that breaks down, a lot of people 0:11:21.760 --> 0:11:23.920 find themselves with or hang on a minute, where's my people? 0:11:23.960 --> 0:11:25.000 Where's my group gone? 0:11:25.080 --> 0:11:25.160 Like? 0:11:25.280 --> 0:11:28.320 You know, an interesting statistic around this is that our 0:11:28.440 --> 0:11:32.480 friendship groups. So every seven years on average, our friendship 0:11:32.520 --> 0:11:34.760 group has so even though you're meeting new people and 0:11:34.800 --> 0:11:38.360 making new friends, the amount of friends you have continues 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:40.440 to reduce. And like, think about it when you're in school, 0:11:40.480 --> 0:11:42.480 or think about it when you're in Uni, how many 0:11:42.559 --> 0:11:45.160 friends you had, and then think about, okay, well what 0:11:45.240 --> 0:11:47.480 was that like ten years later or twenty years later? 0:11:47.760 --> 0:11:50.520 And I would say that for the big majority of us, 0:11:50.679 --> 0:11:52.640 we would look at our lives now and maybe think, Okay, 0:11:52.679 --> 0:11:54.480 we don't have as many people around us. And I 0:11:54.520 --> 0:11:56.920 know it's not necessarily about the volume of people. It's 0:11:56.960 --> 0:12:00.360 about the richness of those friendships. But I really think 0:12:00.360 --> 0:12:02.880 it's so important to take stock of okay, am I 0:12:02.920 --> 0:12:05.800 giving those friendships everything that they require to mean that 0:12:05.800 --> 0:12:06.960 they're going to be with me for the rest of 0:12:06.960 --> 0:12:07.600 my life. 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:09.079 I think it's a really important one. 0:12:09.120 --> 0:12:11.520 And if you do find yourself alone this Valentine's Day, 0:12:11.880 --> 0:12:14.080 make sure that you are spending it or at least 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:16.480 touching base with the people that you love the most. 0:12:18.040 --> 0:12:20.320 We have been talking about everything to do with love, 0:12:20.360 --> 0:12:23.120 but it would be remiss of us to talk about 0:12:23.120 --> 0:12:25.800 how sometimes love doesn't go exactly to plan. 0:12:26.280 --> 0:12:27.400 It never goes to plan. 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:29.760 Well, sometimes some people get their happy endings. 0:12:29.840 --> 0:12:32.840 And for those of you who are single, you'll be 0:12:32.880 --> 0:12:34.760 well aware if you're in the dating world that it 0:12:34.760 --> 0:12:37.640 can absolutely be a cess pool at the exact same time. 0:12:37.920 --> 0:12:40.120 And one thing that we do on our podcast Life 0:12:40.160 --> 0:12:42.360 on Cup podcast it's kind of become a namesake of 0:12:42.400 --> 0:12:47.520 the pod, is that we often get in your most embarrassing, hilarious, 0:12:47.559 --> 0:12:51.520 like worst dating stories when things just go absolutely not 0:12:51.800 --> 0:12:52.280 to plan. 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:55.000 I remember going on a lunch date with this guy. 0:12:55.400 --> 0:12:57.319 It was supposed to be a sandwich and a smoothie, 0:12:57.800 --> 0:13:01.000 and I took him to this play in my local suburb. 0:13:01.040 --> 0:13:01.640 He didn't know it. 0:13:01.679 --> 0:13:03.440 We got there, I went to pay with my bank 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:05.360 card and the place was like, oh, sorry, it's cash 0:13:05.360 --> 0:13:05.920 only and I. 0:13:05.840 --> 0:13:06.480 Didn't have cash. 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:08.400 He thought you were being a tight ask yeah, so 0:13:08.559 --> 0:13:09.920 I said, oh, sorry, do you have cash? 0:13:09.960 --> 0:13:11.520 And I don't know why I was paying anyway. He 0:13:11.559 --> 0:13:12.280 asked me on the date. 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:15.160 He was like, yeah, okay, are you just taking me 0:13:15.200 --> 0:13:17.320 to places where you don't have to pay? And I 0:13:17.360 --> 0:13:18.760 was like, this is so in my head, I was like, 0:13:18.800 --> 0:13:21.720 this is so weird. Bro, it's twenty five bucks. Anyway, 0:13:21.920 --> 0:13:24.800 he walked me to an ATM and I got a 0:13:24.880 --> 0:13:27.600 twenty dollar note out from the ATM and had to 0:13:27.600 --> 0:13:29.960 give it to him to repay him for the sandwich. 0:13:30.040 --> 0:13:30.600 That's soba. 0:13:30.720 --> 0:13:32.240 Then he tried to kiss me and said we had 0:13:32.240 --> 0:13:33.559 a connection. Can I see you again? 0:13:34.280 --> 0:13:37.839 I can you deal? I can I saw him again? 0:13:37.880 --> 0:13:39.679 Don't like? Because I can deal? 0:13:39.800 --> 0:13:42.720 Because I did a lot of dating before meeting my husband. 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:45.040 I reckon I dated three quarters of Sydney. You know 0:13:45.080 --> 0:13:47.760 when you're on Tinder so aggressively that you're swiping and 0:13:47.800 --> 0:13:50.120 swiping and it's like there's no one left in your location. 0:13:50.280 --> 0:13:52.360 I'm like, how have I gone through all of the men? 0:13:52.800 --> 0:13:54.560 When I was like in the throes of dating, Like, 0:13:54.600 --> 0:13:56.000 he was a guy who was kind of friends with 0:13:56.160 --> 0:13:58.000 I didn't even know it was a date. We were 0:13:58.000 --> 0:14:00.800 going to UNI together and he asked me around and 0:14:01.200 --> 0:14:03.000 I got to his house and it was like he 0:14:03.040 --> 0:14:06.000 had been watching too many teen rom com movies. He 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:09.160 walked out and he brought out literal apple pie that 0:14:09.200 --> 0:14:09.839 he had made. 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:11.320 He's watched American Pie. 0:14:11.760 --> 0:14:14.960 Oh yeah, it was American pie, wasn't it? With whipped 0:14:15.000 --> 0:14:16.360 cream on the apple pie? 0:14:16.400 --> 0:14:16.760 Completely? 0:14:16.840 --> 0:14:19.840 But as naked And I had zero sexual attraction to 0:14:19.880 --> 0:14:24.080 this man, Like it was repulsive to me. Anyway, you 0:14:24.120 --> 0:14:26.600 win some you lousum grace, which is a grace You've 0:14:26.640 --> 0:14:28.240 got a terrible first date story. 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:30.440 Yeah, back when I was like eighteen or nineteen, I 0:14:30.480 --> 0:14:32.800 was dating this guy for maybe three or four months. 0:14:32.800 --> 0:14:35.000 He'd met my family, I'd met his. We were like 0:14:35.360 --> 0:14:36.880 quite in it, and I was like, I'm going to 0:14:36.960 --> 0:14:38.840 plan this date. We're going to go to the aquarium 0:14:38.960 --> 0:14:40.480 just to look at fish. It's going to be lovely. 0:14:40.760 --> 0:14:43.120 He never turned up and I never heard from him again. 0:14:43.280 --> 0:14:47.000 You got ghosted at the aquarium, the saddest aquarium trip 0:14:47.000 --> 0:14:48.160 I've ever been on in my life. 0:14:48.200 --> 0:14:49.120 Did you still go through? 0:14:49.280 --> 0:14:52.840 I mean, yeah, I'm not an idiot by yourself crying 0:14:52.960 --> 0:14:53.720 looking at the fish. 0:14:54.000 --> 0:14:55.800 All right, Well, we've got some terrible ones from you 0:14:55.800 --> 0:14:58.400 guys that you've written in and like I said, we 0:14:58.440 --> 0:15:00.120 do do this on Life on Cut podcast. If you 0:15:00.120 --> 0:15:01.600 want to go have a listen to more there you can. 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:02.920 Here he goes. 0:15:03.120 --> 0:15:05.240 He spent the whole day telling me how good he 0:15:05.280 --> 0:15:07.840 is at dating and how he's really proficient at Tinder, 0:15:08.120 --> 0:15:09.720 and that he also applied for maths. 0:15:10.200 --> 0:15:12.280 Perfect well done, A plus. 0:15:12.320 --> 0:15:13.960 Am I like to say, a sexy one? 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:14.360 Yeah? 0:15:14.480 --> 0:15:16.040 Sure. We were on the first date. 0:15:16.040 --> 0:15:18.320 It was going really well and I was really attracted 0:15:18.320 --> 0:15:20.320 to him, so we decided to take it back to his. 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:22.680 House after one pump. 0:15:23.280 --> 0:15:26.480 Oh it ended everywhere and he said, I'm so sorry 0:15:26.520 --> 0:15:27.240 it's not happened. 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:30.320 I think it's because I'm in love with you. We'd 0:15:30.360 --> 0:15:31.320 been on one date. 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:36.520 This one's also bad. First date guy goes in for 0:15:36.560 --> 0:15:38.000 the kiss. I pull away. 0:15:38.360 --> 0:15:40.880 He says, oh wow, that was awkward, then goes in 0:15:40.920 --> 0:15:42.160 for a second one. 0:15:42.880 --> 0:15:45.440 Okay, I'm a vegetarian. So he took me to KFC. 0:15:45.840 --> 0:15:46.520 That's terrible. 0:15:47.360 --> 0:15:49.960 He obviously was just trying to see he doesn't want 0:15:49.960 --> 0:15:51.600 a date a vegetarian, and he was trying to see 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:53.800 if you would, like, you know, change your ways for him. 0:15:53.920 --> 0:15:55.520 This is a common theme that's come through. It took 0:15:55.520 --> 0:15:58.120 me to a steakhouse. I told him I was a vegetarian, Like, 0:15:58.240 --> 0:15:59.240 why are men doing that? 0:16:00.120 --> 0:16:02.400 Maybe they didn't they send very well, didn't read the 0:16:02.440 --> 0:16:04.120 text and they know what vegetarian is. 0:16:04.200 --> 0:16:06.840 But I think they do. I think they just don't care. Wait, 0:16:06.880 --> 0:16:07.320 what about this? 0:16:07.520 --> 0:16:09.680 He had a nosebleed while we were making out, and 0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:11.840