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<v Speaker 1>High Heart Podcasts, he More Kiss Podcast playlist and listen

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<v Speaker 1>Hockley and Laura Burn. Brady, your work, our windows down,

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<v Speaker 1>that's my worries in the dust. Only good fabs are

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<v Speaker 1>all down. I've done much now, but yeah, I know

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<v Speaker 1>I'll big get and what I want. It don't matter where.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the pickup. Hi, guys, you're listening to the

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<v Speaker 1>Pickup with Britt Hockey and Laura Burn. Welcome back again,

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to everyday. Yes, sis, Hey did you hear about?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I feel like it's come to an end

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<v Speaker 1>after a very long time. You know the bitcoin guy

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<v Speaker 1>in the UK, I know what you're gonna say, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>So if anyone hasn't heard this, there is a man

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<v Speaker 1>in the UK who for twelve years has been searching

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<v Speaker 1>for an SD card that he accidentally threw away. No,

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<v Speaker 1>his partner threw it away, did she know what? Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>we're reading different stories. So apparently he threw it away

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<v Speaker 1>because he mistook it for an old USB like he

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<v Speaker 1>didn't realize it was the one he needed to keep

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<v Speaker 1>hold of anyway. It had eight thousand bitcoins on it,

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<v Speaker 1>right he would have bought this back in the day

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<v Speaker 1>when it costs absolutely nothing to buy, but that eight

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<v Speaker 1>thousand bitcoins is now worth nine hundred and fifty million dollars.

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<v Speaker 1>And he knows that that SD card is sitting somewhere

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<v Speaker 1>in a tip in the UK. He knows the tip.

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<v Speaker 1>He's been petitioning to the Council to government to try

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<v Speaker 1>and allow him to like escavate the tip. He tried

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<v Speaker 1>to buy the tip.

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<v Speaker 2>I know it makes sense because imagine, if you bought it,

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<v Speaker 2>you could spend however many years going through it.

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<v Speaker 1>You could hire people to do it, but you could

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<v Speaker 1>spend so.

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<v Speaker 2>Much money trying to find it and never recoup that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Or imagine it's just been it's gone into the

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<v Speaker 1>back of a garbage truck and it's been compressed and damaged,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you find it after all those years and

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<v Speaker 1>you can't access the stuff anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>Imagine knowing you had nearly one billion dollars in your

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<v Speaker 2>hands and it's so floating around.

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<v Speaker 1>We all have regrets in life, don't we, And I

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<v Speaker 1>reckon none of that. Well, everyone's always got like some

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<v Speaker 1>little thing, not everyone whatever, Yeah, I got maybe one.

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<v Speaker 1>There's something like if you had to really dig for

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<v Speaker 1>like something that actually that probably wasn't a good idea

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<v Speaker 1>at the time. We can all find something. No one's

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<v Speaker 1>regret in life would ever surmount to this nine hundred

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<v Speaker 1>and fifty million.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so he's given up.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that the end of it? He's given Well, no,

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<v Speaker 1>it's he has to put it to bed. They won't

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<v Speaker 1>let him escavate the tip. It's done. He's walking away

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<v Speaker 1>fro nine hundred fifty million dollars. I feel he's pain.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but before that, you can win some therapy with

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<v Speaker 2>us here.

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<v Speaker 1>On our sun we get away for free.

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<v Speaker 3>Though.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't worry, it's Thursday.

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<v Speaker 2>We do this every week on our podcast Life Uncut

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<v Speaker 2>podcast where we help you with your biggest problems. And

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<v Speaker 2>today we have Tylia on the phone, who's having a

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<v Speaker 2>bit of a problem with a lover or an ex lover.

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<v Speaker 2>Should I say hi, Tyler, Hi, Tyler, Hey, what's their situation?

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<v Speaker 4>So my ex kid's blocking me and unblocking me. The

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<v Speaker 4>last time I was in Bali on a girl trip

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<v Speaker 4>with my friends for my birthday. I've been blocked for

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<v Speaker 4>about nine months this time, probably the longest dead and

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<v Speaker 4>he unblocked me sent me a message we spoke for

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<v Speaker 4>two days FaceTime said he missed me and worke up

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<v Speaker 4>blocked again?

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<v Speaker 1>Who did breaking up in this situation? He did, so

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<v Speaker 1>he broke up with you, then he blocked you, and

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<v Speaker 1>now he just unblocks you and reblocks you and messages

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<v Speaker 1>you sporadically.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, just sporadically.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh nice?

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<v Speaker 2>Is your question like, is this has this confused you now?

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<v Speaker 3>Like?

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<v Speaker 1>Does he like me? What do I do?

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<v Speaker 2>Like?

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<v Speaker 1>What's what? How's it made you feel? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>When we first broke up, it was a lot of

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<v Speaker 4>on and off blocking back and forth, and then it's

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<v Speaker 4>just nine months, so it's.

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<v Speaker 1>A long ridiculous you know, from.

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<v Speaker 4>A bit because just now that he came out of nowhere,

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<v Speaker 4>we spoke so nicely for two days, had a nice

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<v Speaker 4>face time, and then I don't know what I did

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<v Speaker 4>to get blocked together.

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<v Speaker 1>Cayl you been doing. Yeah, you did nothing to get blocked,

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<v Speaker 1>and you have done nothing to receive like the hot

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<v Speaker 1>and cold back and forth. It is so much more

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<v Speaker 1>of a reflection of where he's at, and that is

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<v Speaker 1>like he's lonely, he wants attention. It sounds like it's

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<v Speaker 1>a validation thing as well, maybe power, and he probably

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<v Speaker 1>knew you were in Bali. He probably saw that you

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<v Speaker 1>were having the time of your life, so then he

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<v Speaker 1>felt a little bit jealous, thought he'd reach out, and

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<v Speaker 1>then he was like, oh no, no, no, I'm good,

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<v Speaker 1>and then blocked again him, Like you need to if

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<v Speaker 1>he messages you, ignore him.

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<v Speaker 2>Does he block you on like everything he blocked on Instagram?

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<v Speaker 4>And find everything I'm blocked on Gmail.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry that I'm not laughing at you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm also not laughing with you. So okay, here's what

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<v Speaker 1>you need to do.

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<v Speaker 2>It's purely a control attention thing, Like he has had

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<v Speaker 2>the control from day one, since he broke up with you.

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<v Speaker 2>He controls if you have contact, what you can see,

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<v Speaker 2>when you can see it. I would just block him

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<v Speaker 2>so that the next time he goes to contact you,

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<v Speaker 2>he literally can't and he will be the control's taken

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<v Speaker 2>away from him. He'll have such a shock and like,

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<v Speaker 2>you cannot waste another moment thinking about this idiot. And

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<v Speaker 2>I hope no matter what happens in the future, you

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<v Speaker 2>don't ever get back with him. Me too, Like, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know if that's brutal, but no, it's not brutal.

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<v Speaker 1>I also think like I mean, even if he did

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<v Speaker 1>turn around in a month's time and was like, I've

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<v Speaker 1>changed my mind and I love you again and I

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<v Speaker 1>want to be with you. Do you really want to

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<v Speaker 1>be with someone who, after nine months has been he

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<v Speaker 1>has been like hot and cold and blocking you and

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<v Speaker 1>unblocking you and like treating you in a disposable way,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I just I think that. I mean, I wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>be giving it another chance, and I wouldn't be giving

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<v Speaker 1>him the opportunity to try and weasele his way back

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<v Speaker 1>in again.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, definitely only poor thing.

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<v Speaker 2>But you're better than that. I don't even have to

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<v Speaker 2>know you to know you better than that.

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<v Speaker 1>He's a weezy. We actually don't know this guy. He

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<v Speaker 1>could actually be fine. I have one question, though, why

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<v Speaker 1>do you reply? Why? Like? What is it about him

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<v Speaker 1>when he unblocks you and messages you like? Why are

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<v Speaker 1>your face timing? What's going on?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh?

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<v Speaker 4>He just got one of those ones that has a

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<v Speaker 4>bit of a hold over me.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Everyone I've dated since just hasn't quite compared, unfortunately, And

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<v Speaker 4>I think because we had quite a messy break up,

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<v Speaker 4>hence the Gmail blocking. I kind of just want to

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<v Speaker 4>read these good books again. I don't want him to

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<v Speaker 4>think I'm the crazy one.

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<v Speaker 1>No, don't. I mean I really hate this.

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<v Speaker 2>I hate that you're still thinking about it and trying

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<v Speaker 2>to get back in his You know.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, I'm curious as to what you said on gmails

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<v Speaker 1>to sell me a hundred messages. What abuse did you

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<v Speaker 1>send him in like the absolute depths of crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm assuming that he blocked you on Instagram and your phone,

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<v Speaker 2>so then you emailed him correct, which is okay, because

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<v Speaker 2>there's nothing worse than like really desperately wanting to get

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<v Speaker 2>some closure and you're not being able to get it.

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<v Speaker 1>So like, I'm on your side for that, but you

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<v Speaker 1>need to let dead dogs lie.

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<v Speaker 2>You need to move on. He's in your past and

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<v Speaker 2>you need to find whatever else is out there for you.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not going to come to you while you were

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<v Speaker 2>hanging on to this.

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<v Speaker 1>Twat. No, nothing is crossed, blocked, uncross your fingers and

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<v Speaker 1>go on blocking. Thanks Tahlia. Matt might need to go

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<v Speaker 1>into chemist ware house soon after the conversations we've been

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<v Speaker 1>having in our.

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<v Speaker 2>House around his rashes. Ill.

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<v Speaker 1>No, he's fine. No, yesterday we were talking about the

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<v Speaker 1>male contraceptive pill, which is coming out apparently at the

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<v Speaker 1>end of next year early twenty twenty seven. Yeah, which

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<v Speaker 1>is like fascinating, and you know, I know it's something

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<v Speaker 1>that's been kind of in development for a really long time,

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<v Speaker 1>but something that's been around for a very, very, very

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<v Speaker 1>long time is va sectomies. And off the back of

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<v Speaker 1>that chat that we had yesterday, I went home and

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<v Speaker 1>spoke to my husband, Matt. I'm currently pregnant with my

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<v Speaker 1>third child, and we're both very much on the same

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<v Speaker 1>page that this is going to be our last baby,

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<v Speaker 1>and so knowing that this is going to be our

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<v Speaker 1>last one, I went home and had the conversation with Matt,

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<v Speaker 1>my husband, and I was like, how do you feel

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<v Speaker 1>about getting a vasectomy after this? And I genuinely thought

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<v Speaker 1>that he would be like, yeah, one hundred percent, like

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<v Speaker 1>I've already got it booked in, Like I actually thought

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<v Speaker 1>he would have jumped through hoops to go and get

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<v Speaker 1>it done. And I was surprised by his resistance to it.

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<v Speaker 1>So he said, I don't know how I feel about that.

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<v Speaker 2>They get this weird, like it's a weird feeling about

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<v Speaker 2>their manhood being changed, like their masculinity.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know why, just because it's about their junk.

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<v Speaker 1>It's weird. I don't know if that was it? He first,

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<v Speaker 1>what else would it be? Well, that's why I said.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, well, do you want to have more kids? Like?

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<v Speaker 1>Are we not calling it at three? And he was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, not about the kids. Think He's like,

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<v Speaker 1>I just feel weird about getting a vasectomy. And I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, okay, well, look, unless you plan on having

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<v Speaker 1>more children with your next wife, if it's not going

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<v Speaker 1>to be with me, so I reckon, you should go

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<v Speaker 1>and get one because I'm not going to go back

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<v Speaker 1>on the pill. So then that feels like a real rodeo.

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<v Speaker 1>If it's a real role of the nys. Maybe me

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<v Speaker 1>see what's going to happen.

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<v Speaker 2>When he says, no, I don't feel good about it,

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<v Speaker 2>you didn't dig deeper.

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<v Speaker 1>He made the cardinal sin as a man. Unfortunately, this

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<v Speaker 1>is if you ever want to one oh one and

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<v Speaker 1>what not to say to a woman. He said he

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know if he wanted to have it because he

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<v Speaker 1>just didn't quite understand the impact it would have on

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<v Speaker 1>his body. But he kind of meant like on his hormones.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, talk to me about that feeling.

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<v Speaker 1>Tell me more and he's like, you know, like, what's

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<v Speaker 1>it going to impact long term? And I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>do you mean like on the pill for fifteen years

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<v Speaker 1>and having my hormones turn into or being pregnant three times,

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<v Speaker 1>or giving birth or menopause. I was like, which one

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<v Speaker 1>of those? Do you our whole life as a woman.

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<v Speaker 1>You could see as soon as I started listing, like

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<v Speaker 1>I like rattle listed off all the things that you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we have to do to obviously try and minimize the

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<v Speaker 1>risk of getting pregnant, and you could just see he

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<v Speaker 1>had this moment where he's like, I said the wrong thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe now maybe he doesn't have to. Maybe he can

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<v Speaker 2>hold out. If you guys can just not do.

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<v Speaker 1>The deed for eighteen months, Yeah, don't act that shocked.

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<v Speaker 1>N he can do it one year anyway, for pregnant

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<v Speaker 1>every time. We're actually to have a healthy sex life

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<v Speaker 1>for a couple that's been together for eight years.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe maybe he can just wait for the for the

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<v Speaker 2>male contraceptive pill. And then it's like, because at the

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<v Speaker 2>end of the day, it's an awkward one. You can

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<v Speaker 2>ask him to do it, you can't force him, but

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<v Speaker 2>then then it falls back onto you again.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I can't force him. I mean, I've left him

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<v Speaker 1>with the threat, and so it's not a loose threat.

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<v Speaker 1>Like we seem to be a pretty fertile couple, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I'm not going on the pill. So that

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<v Speaker 1>you want to roll that risk and you want to

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<v Speaker 1>run that rodeo, go for golf gold.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's on you then too, you're running the risk.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, maybe we're gonna have four kids.

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<v Speaker 2>No, you're absolutely not.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll take him to his appointment. I'll drive him my side.

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<v Speaker 1>I think he will change his mind. Do you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I need? I need other men who have had

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<v Speaker 1>vasectomies to come forward and either tell him that it's

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<v Speaker 1>going to be fine or like, has it been good?

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<v Speaker 1>Is it liberating? Was it the best decision you've ever made?

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<v Speaker 1>I think my dad had a sex Dudes don't talk

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<v Speaker 1>about the thing is is women talk about stuff like

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<v Speaker 1>we all share. We share everything, you know, we're chatterboxes.

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<v Speaker 1>But like, I don't think men share that as much.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I know one of Matt's really good friends

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<v Speaker 1>has had of viseectomy, but apart from that, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>really know many. I just love to hear you guys

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<v Speaker 1>slide into the Dan, you know what, I send me a.

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<v Speaker 2>Photo, I think more of them than they're having.

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<v Speaker 1>Do not send the photos. You do not want them.

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<v Speaker 1>I know they're solicited now we still don't want them.

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<v Speaker 1>Grace our producer, she really wants to kind of feel

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<v Speaker 1>through it all.

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<v Speaker 2>No, gross, Laura, do you remember the supermodel in America,

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<v Speaker 2>Christie Brinkley, Like she's seventy now, but she was like

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<v Speaker 2>an el McPherson all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>That you asked me so specifically, knowing that I just

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<v Speaker 1>googled who she was in the break Yeah, it was.

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<v Speaker 2>Just generally more for the listeners, Laura, but thank you

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<v Speaker 2>for pointing that out.

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<v Speaker 1>I do know who she is now after looking at

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<v Speaker 1>photos of her, and she is. She's seventy one and

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<v Speaker 1>she's stunnying. She was like the Elmy person. She is

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<v Speaker 1>absolutely beautiful.

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<v Speaker 2>She is single, and she's going back into dipping her

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<v Speaker 2>toes into the world of online dating.

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<v Speaker 1>She's having a bit.

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<v Speaker 2>Of trouble, but her trouble isn't something that I think

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<v Speaker 2>many people experience when they go into the dating world.

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<v Speaker 1>Have listened to this.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not on any kind of dating app like that,

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<v Speaker 3>but my daughter's sailor she's so mischievous. She created she

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<v Speaker 3>wanted to see what kind of guys and she put

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<v Speaker 3>like for like an hour or something. She put me

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<v Speaker 3>up there with her name, and she said, Mom, you're

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<v Speaker 3>right not to go on it because the same guys

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<v Speaker 3>that you know said yes to me saying yes to you.

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<v Speaker 2>I couldn't help it. I couldn't help that interviewer. So

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<v Speaker 2>Christy's seventy one and her daughter, Sailor is twenty seven,

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<v Speaker 2>and Saylor just thought it would be funny to put

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<v Speaker 2>her on and try and match with some people.

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<v Speaker 1>But they were just matching with.

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<v Speaker 2>The same candidates, their online candidate.

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<v Speaker 1>I failed to see what the issue is here. It

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<v Speaker 1>seems like Sailor doesn't want the competition. Well, the issue

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<v Speaker 1>with the Sailor not for Christian. But like when she says, Mom,

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<v Speaker 1>you shouldn't go on there, you're right. It's not the place.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds like sixty but exactly the place for her

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<v Speaker 1>live your best life, Christie.

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<v Speaker 2>That also means that there are interestingly like men on

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<v Speaker 2>there that have got their age gap. Because you put

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<v Speaker 2>your preferences in when you're online dating what you're looking for,

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<v Speaker 2>they've got their age gap set obviously as low as

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to assume twenty six. If twenty seven has

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<v Speaker 2>fallen in up to seventy two, that's a pretty cut

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<v Speaker 2>large casting net.

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<v Speaker 1>I would go so far as to say they don't

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<v Speaker 1>have an age net if they're going to open, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think they've put in an age demographic at all.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, there's I mean, there's lots of people

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<v Speaker 1>out there who love a cougar and excuse me, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a cougar. No, but like she's ridiculously good looking, like

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<v Speaker 1>there is nothing about her. No, but you're not a cougar,

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<v Speaker 1>you're thirty eight, thirty seven. Oh, cougar is just some

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<v Speaker 1>woman that dates young guy. Doesn't have to be an

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<v Speaker 1>age there.

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<v Speaker 2>I know.

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<v Speaker 1>But I mean, like for someone who's early thirties to

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<v Speaker 1>date a woman who's thirty eight, that's not a big deal.

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<v Speaker 1>But for someone who's early thirties to date a woman

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<v Speaker 1>who is seventy, that's a pretty massive gap. Like someone

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<v Speaker 1>who could be their mum's literal age. She just looks

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<v Speaker 1>so amazing that I feel like she can kind of

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<v Speaker 1>cut a few corners and boycott, boycott the normal rules.

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<v Speaker 1>I think most of us have to subscribe to.

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<v Speaker 2>Different But you and I have matched the same people

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<v Speaker 2>online dating, like it happens.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not my mom, That's what I'm saying. That's what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. I was like, we've we've been there, We've

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<v Speaker 1>we've doubled dinner. Yeah, we've been on dates with the

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<v Speaker 1>same people only to find out afterwards. Yeah we intention

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<v Speaker 1>I dated a guy for a little bit, discovered some

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<v Speaker 1>issues there, and then Britt was like, I'm going on

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<v Speaker 1>a date with this person. I was like, oh, if

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<v Speaker 1>I don't do that, I still went on the date.

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<v Speaker 2>You were like, I'll save it. See you want to

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<v Speaker 2>do some research, you like, see if the issues are

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<v Speaker 2>still there.

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<v Speaker 1>What would you do though, if you were, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>sharing dating apps, like your mum was in the dating

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<v Speaker 1>scene and she was you looked at their Tinder and

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<v Speaker 1>I know that this is kind of a different one

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<v Speaker 1>because Saylor set it up for her mum, so like

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<v Speaker 1>she also set up the age categories as well. But

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<v Speaker 1>what would you do if you're both on a dating

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<v Speaker 1>app and you discovered that you were matching with the

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<v Speaker 1>same men? How would that make you feel? I'm quite

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<v Speaker 1>quite altruistic, so I'd be like, get it, Mum. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like, go get it. I'll sacrifice them for you

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<v Speaker 1>one hundred percent. I've got years ahead of me. God

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<v Speaker 1>knows how long my mum would have if she was

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<v Speaker 1>in the seventies. That's really kind, wouldn't you. I tap

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<v Speaker 1>that mom? I was like, that's what i'd say.

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<v Speaker 2>But my mom has been married for fifty years. She's

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<v Speaker 2>not tapping anything.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. No, Look, I actually can't imagine my mum on

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<v Speaker 1>a dating app, but like, never say never. Hey, weird

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<v Speaker 1>things about all right? Well, on that note, let's get

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<v Speaker 1>out of here. Seeing a guy