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Speaker 1: This is the pickup. Hi, guys, you're listening to the
Speaker 1: Pickup with Britt Hockey and Laura Burn. Welcome back again,
Speaker 1: Welcome back to everyday. Yes, sis, Hey did you hear about?
Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like it's come to an end
Speaker 1: after a very long time. You know the bitcoin guy
Speaker 1: in the UK, I know what you're gonna say, all right,
Speaker 1: So if anyone hasn't heard this, there is a man
Speaker 1: in the UK who for twelve years has been searching
Speaker 1: for an SD card that he accidentally threw away. No,
Speaker 1: his partner threw it away, did she know what? Maybe
Speaker 1: we're reading different stories. So apparently he threw it away
Speaker 1: because he mistook it for an old USB like he
Speaker 1: didn't realize it was the one he needed to keep
Speaker 1: hold of anyway. It had eight thousand bitcoins on it,
Speaker 1: right he would have bought this back in the day
Speaker 1: when it costs absolutely nothing to buy, but that eight
Speaker 1: thousand bitcoins is now worth nine hundred and fifty million dollars.
Speaker 1: And he knows that that SD card is sitting somewhere
Speaker 1: in a tip in the UK. He knows the tip.
Speaker 1: He's been petitioning to the Council to government to try
Speaker 1: and allow him to like escavate the tip. He tried
Speaker 1: to buy the tip.
Speaker 2: I know it makes sense because imagine, if you bought it,
Speaker 2: you could spend however many years going through it.
Speaker 1: You could hire people to do it, but you could
Speaker 1: spend so.
Speaker 2: Much money trying to find it and never recoup that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Or imagine it's just been it's gone into the
Speaker 1: back of a garbage truck and it's been compressed and damaged,
Speaker 1: and then you find it after all those years and
Speaker 1: you can't access the stuff anyway.
Speaker 2: Imagine knowing you had nearly one billion dollars in your
Speaker 2: hands and it's so floating around.
Speaker 1: We all have regrets in life, don't we, And I
Speaker 1: reckon none of that. Well, everyone's always got like some
Speaker 1: little thing, not everyone whatever, Yeah, I got maybe one.
Speaker 1: There's something like if you had to really dig for
Speaker 1: like something that actually that probably wasn't a good idea
Speaker 1: at the time. We can all find something. No one's
Speaker 1: regret in life would ever surmount to this nine hundred
Speaker 1: and fifty million.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so he's given up.
Speaker 1: Is that the end of it? He's given Well, no,
Speaker 1: it's he has to put it to bed. They won't
Speaker 1: let him escavate the tip. It's done. He's walking away
Speaker 1: fro nine hundred fifty million dollars. I feel he's pain.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but before that, you can win some therapy with
Speaker 2: us here.
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Speaker 3: Though.
Speaker 1: Don't worry, it's Thursday.
Speaker 2: We do this every week on our podcast Life Uncut
Speaker 2: podcast where we help you with your biggest problems. And
Speaker 2: today we have Tylia on the phone, who's having a
Speaker 2: bit of a problem with a lover or an ex lover.
Speaker 2: Should I say hi, Tyler, Hi, Tyler, Hey, what's their situation?
Speaker 4: So my ex kid's blocking me and unblocking me. The
Speaker 4: last time I was in Bali on a girl trip
Speaker 4: with my friends for my birthday. I've been blocked for
Speaker 4: about nine months this time, probably the longest dead and
Speaker 4: he unblocked me sent me a message we spoke for
Speaker 4: two days FaceTime said he missed me and worke up
Speaker 4: blocked again?
Speaker 1: Who did breaking up in this situation? He did, so
Speaker 1: he broke up with you, then he blocked you, and
Speaker 1: now he just unblocks you and reblocks you and messages
Speaker 1: you sporadically.
Speaker 4: Yeah, just sporadically.
Speaker 1: Oh nice?
Speaker 2: Is your question like, is this has this confused you now?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 1: Does he like me? What do I do?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: What's what? How's it made you feel? Yeah?
Speaker 4: When we first broke up, it was a lot of
Speaker 4: on and off blocking back and forth, and then it's
Speaker 4: just nine months, so it's.
Speaker 1: A long ridiculous you know, from.
Speaker 4: A bit because just now that he came out of nowhere,
Speaker 4: we spoke so nicely for two days, had a nice
Speaker 4: face time, and then I don't know what I did
Speaker 4: to get blocked together.
Speaker 1: Cayl you been doing. Yeah, you did nothing to get blocked,
Speaker 1: and you have done nothing to receive like the hot
Speaker 1: and cold back and forth. It is so much more
Speaker 1: of a reflection of where he's at, and that is
Speaker 1: like he's lonely, he wants attention. It sounds like it's
Speaker 1: a validation thing as well, maybe power, and he probably
Speaker 1: knew you were in Bali. He probably saw that you
Speaker 1: were having the time of your life, so then he
Speaker 1: felt a little bit jealous, thought he'd reach out, and
Speaker 1: then he was like, oh no, no, no, I'm good,
Speaker 1: and then blocked again him, Like you need to if
Speaker 1: he messages you, ignore him.
Speaker 2: Does he block you on like everything he blocked on Instagram?
Speaker 4: And find everything I'm blocked on Gmail.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry that I'm not laughing at you.
Speaker 1: I'm also not laughing with you. So okay, here's what
Speaker 1: you need to do.
Speaker 2: It's purely a control attention thing, Like he has had
Speaker 2: the control from day one, since he broke up with you.
Speaker 2: He controls if you have contact, what you can see,
Speaker 2: when you can see it. I would just block him
Speaker 2: so that the next time he goes to contact you,
Speaker 2: he literally can't and he will be the control's taken
Speaker 2: away from him. He'll have such a shock and like,
Speaker 2: you cannot waste another moment thinking about this idiot. And
Speaker 2: I hope no matter what happens in the future, you
Speaker 2: don't ever get back with him. Me too, Like, I
Speaker 2: don't know if that's brutal, but no, it's not brutal.
Speaker 1: I also think like I mean, even if he did
Speaker 1: turn around in a month's time and was like, I've
Speaker 1: changed my mind and I love you again and I
Speaker 1: want to be with you. Do you really want to
Speaker 1: be with someone who, after nine months has been he
Speaker 1: has been like hot and cold and blocking you and
Speaker 1: unblocking you and like treating you in a disposable way,
Speaker 1: Like I just I think that. I mean, I wouldn't
Speaker 1: be giving it another chance, and I wouldn't be giving
Speaker 1: him the opportunity to try and weasele his way back
Speaker 1: in again.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, definitely only poor thing.
Speaker 2: But you're better than that. I don't even have to
Speaker 2: know you to know you better than that.
Speaker 1: He's a weezy. We actually don't know this guy. He
Speaker 1: could actually be fine. I have one question, though, why
Speaker 1: do you reply? Why? Like? What is it about him
Speaker 1: when he unblocks you and messages you like? Why are
Speaker 1: your face timing? What's going on?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 4: He just got one of those ones that has a
Speaker 4: bit of a hold over me.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Everyone I've dated since just hasn't quite compared, unfortunately, And
Speaker 4: I think because we had quite a messy break up,
Speaker 4: hence the Gmail blocking. I kind of just want to
Speaker 4: read these good books again. I don't want him to
Speaker 4: think I'm the crazy one.
Speaker 1: No, don't. I mean I really hate this.
Speaker 2: I hate that you're still thinking about it and trying
Speaker 2: to get back in his You know.
Speaker 1: Now, I'm curious as to what you said on gmails
Speaker 1: to sell me a hundred messages. What abuse did you
Speaker 1: send him in like the absolute depths of crazy.
Speaker 2: I'm assuming that he blocked you on Instagram and your phone,
Speaker 2: so then you emailed him correct, which is okay, because
Speaker 2: there's nothing worse than like really desperately wanting to get
Speaker 2: some closure and you're not being able to get it.
Speaker 1: So like, I'm on your side for that, but you
Speaker 1: need to let dead dogs lie.
Speaker 2: You need to move on. He's in your past and
Speaker 2: you need to find whatever else is out there for you.
Speaker 2: It's not going to come to you while you were
Speaker 2: hanging on to this.
Speaker 1: Twat. No, nothing is crossed, blocked, uncross your fingers and
Speaker 1: go on blocking. Thanks Tahlia. Matt might need to go
Speaker 1: into chemist ware house soon after the conversations we've been
Speaker 1: having in our.
Speaker 2: House around his rashes. Ill.
Speaker 1: No, he's fine. No, yesterday we were talking about the
Speaker 1: male contraceptive pill, which is coming out apparently at the
Speaker 1: end of next year early twenty twenty seven. Yeah, which
Speaker 1: is like fascinating, and you know, I know it's something
Speaker 1: that's been kind of in development for a really long time,
Speaker 1: but something that's been around for a very, very, very
Speaker 1: long time is va sectomies. And off the back of
Speaker 1: that chat that we had yesterday, I went home and
Speaker 1: spoke to my husband, Matt. I'm currently pregnant with my
Speaker 1: third child, and we're both very much on the same
Speaker 1: page that this is going to be our last baby,
Speaker 1: and so knowing that this is going to be our
Speaker 1: last one, I went home and had the conversation with Matt,
Speaker 1: my husband, and I was like, how do you feel
Speaker 1: about getting a vasectomy after this? And I genuinely thought
Speaker 1: that he would be like, yeah, one hundred percent, like
Speaker 1: I've already got it booked in, Like I actually thought
Speaker 1: he would have jumped through hoops to go and get
Speaker 1: it done. And I was surprised by his resistance to it.
Speaker 1: So he said, I don't know how I feel about that.
Speaker 2: They get this weird, like it's a weird feeling about
Speaker 2: their manhood being changed, like their masculinity.
Speaker 1: I don't know why, just because it's about their junk.
Speaker 1: It's weird. I don't know if that was it? He first,
Speaker 1: what else would it be? Well, that's why I said.
Speaker 1: I was like, well, do you want to have more kids? Like?
Speaker 1: Are we not calling it at three? And he was like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, not about the kids. Think He's like,
Speaker 1: I just feel weird about getting a vasectomy. And I
Speaker 1: was like, okay, well, look, unless you plan on having
Speaker 1: more children with your next wife, if it's not going
Speaker 1: to be with me, so I reckon, you should go
Speaker 1: and get one because I'm not going to go back
Speaker 1: on the pill. So then that feels like a real rodeo.
Speaker 1: If it's a real role of the nys. Maybe me
Speaker 1: see what's going to happen.
Speaker 2: When he says, no, I don't feel good about it,
Speaker 2: you didn't dig deeper.
Speaker 1: He made the cardinal sin as a man. Unfortunately, this
Speaker 1: is if you ever want to one oh one and
Speaker 1: what not to say to a woman. He said he
Speaker 1: didn't know if he wanted to have it because he
Speaker 1: just didn't quite understand the impact it would have on
Speaker 1: his body. But he kind of meant like on his hormones.
Speaker 1: And I was like, talk to me about that feeling.
Speaker 1: Tell me more and he's like, you know, like, what's
Speaker 1: it going to impact long term? And I was like,
Speaker 1: do you mean like on the pill for fifteen years
Speaker 1: and having my hormones turn into or being pregnant three times,
Speaker 1: or giving birth or menopause. I was like, which one
Speaker 1: of those? Do you our whole life as a woman.
Speaker 1: You could see as soon as I started listing, like
Speaker 1: I like rattle listed off all the things that you know,
Speaker 1: we have to do to obviously try and minimize the
Speaker 1: risk of getting pregnant, and you could just see he
Speaker 1: had this moment where he's like, I said the wrong thing.
Speaker 2: Maybe now maybe he doesn't have to. Maybe he can
Speaker 2: hold out. If you guys can just not do.
Speaker 1: The deed for eighteen months, Yeah, don't act that shocked.
Speaker 1: N he can do it one year anyway, for pregnant
Speaker 1: every time. We're actually to have a healthy sex life
Speaker 1: for a couple that's been together for eight years.
Speaker 2: Maybe maybe he can just wait for the for the
Speaker 2: male contraceptive pill. And then it's like, because at the
Speaker 2: end of the day, it's an awkward one. You can
Speaker 2: ask him to do it, you can't force him, but
Speaker 2: then then it falls back onto you again.
Speaker 1: No, I can't force him. I mean, I've left him
Speaker 1: with the threat, and so it's not a loose threat.
Speaker 1: Like we seem to be a pretty fertile couple, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not going on the pill. So that
Speaker 1: you want to roll that risk and you want to
Speaker 1: run that rodeo, go for golf gold.
Speaker 2: But it's on you then too, you're running the risk.
Speaker 1: Well, maybe we're gonna have four kids.
Speaker 2: No, you're absolutely not.
Speaker 1: I'll take him to his appointment. I'll drive him my side.
Speaker 1: I think he will change his mind. Do you know
Speaker 1: what I need? I need other men who have had
Speaker 1: vasectomies to come forward and either tell him that it's
Speaker 1: going to be fine or like, has it been good?
Speaker 1: Is it liberating? Was it the best decision you've ever made?
Speaker 1: I think my dad had a sex Dudes don't talk
Speaker 1: about the thing is is women talk about stuff like
Speaker 1: we all share. We share everything, you know, we're chatterboxes.
Speaker 1: But like, I don't think men share that as much.
Speaker 1: And so I know one of Matt's really good friends
Speaker 1: has had of viseectomy, but apart from that, I don't
Speaker 1: really know many. I just love to hear you guys
Speaker 1: slide into the Dan, you know what, I send me a.
Speaker 2: Photo, I think more of them than they're having.
Speaker 1: Do not send the photos. You do not want them.
Speaker 1: I know they're solicited now we still don't want them.
Speaker 1: Grace our producer, she really wants to kind of feel
Speaker 1: through it all.
Speaker 2: No, gross, Laura, do you remember the supermodel in America,
Speaker 2: Christie Brinkley, Like she's seventy now, but she was like
Speaker 2: an el McPherson all the time.
Speaker 1: That you asked me so specifically, knowing that I just
Speaker 1: googled who she was in the break Yeah, it was.
Speaker 2: Just generally more for the listeners, Laura, but thank you
Speaker 2: for pointing that out.
Speaker 1: I do know who she is now after looking at
Speaker 1: photos of her, and she is. She's seventy one and
Speaker 1: she's stunnying. She was like the Elmy person. She is
Speaker 1: absolutely beautiful.
Speaker 2: She is single, and she's going back into dipping her
Speaker 2: toes into the world of online dating.
Speaker 1: She's having a bit.
Speaker 2: Of trouble, but her trouble isn't something that I think
Speaker 2: many people experience when they go into the dating world.
Speaker 1: Have listened to this.
Speaker 3: I'm not on any kind of dating app like that,
Speaker 3: but my daughter's sailor she's so mischievous. She created she
Speaker 3: wanted to see what kind of guys and she put
Speaker 3: like for like an hour or something. She put me
Speaker 3: up there with her name, and she said, Mom, you're
Speaker 3: right not to go on it because the same guys
Speaker 3: that you know said yes to me saying yes to you.
Speaker 2: I couldn't help it. I couldn't help that interviewer. So
Speaker 2: Christy's seventy one and her daughter, Sailor is twenty seven,
Speaker 2: and Saylor just thought it would be funny to put
Speaker 2: her on and try and match with some people.
Speaker 1: But they were just matching with.
Speaker 2: The same candidates, their online candidate.
Speaker 1: I failed to see what the issue is here. It
Speaker 1: seems like Sailor doesn't want the competition. Well, the issue
Speaker 1: with the Sailor not for Christian. But like when she says, Mom,
Speaker 1: you shouldn't go on there, you're right. It's not the place.
Speaker 1: It sounds like sixty but exactly the place for her
Speaker 1: live your best life, Christie.
Speaker 2: That also means that there are interestingly like men on
Speaker 2: there that have got their age gap. Because you put
Speaker 2: your preferences in when you're online dating what you're looking for,
Speaker 2: they've got their age gap set obviously as low as
Speaker 2: I'm going to assume twenty six. If twenty seven has
Speaker 2: fallen in up to seventy two, that's a pretty cut
Speaker 2: large casting net.
Speaker 1: I would go so far as to say they don't
Speaker 1: have an age net if they're going to open, I
Speaker 1: don't think they've put in an age demographic at all.
Speaker 1: But you know, there's I mean, there's lots of people
Speaker 1: out there who love a cougar and excuse me, I'm
Speaker 1: a cougar. No, but like she's ridiculously good looking, like
Speaker 1: there is nothing about her. No, but you're not a cougar,
Speaker 1: you're thirty eight, thirty seven. Oh, cougar is just some
Speaker 1: woman that dates young guy. Doesn't have to be an
Speaker 1: age there.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 1: But I mean, like for someone who's early thirties to
Speaker 1: date a woman who's thirty eight, that's not a big deal.
Speaker 1: But for someone who's early thirties to date a woman
Speaker 1: who is seventy, that's a pretty massive gap. Like someone
Speaker 1: who could be their mum's literal age. She just looks
Speaker 1: so amazing that I feel like she can kind of
Speaker 1: cut a few corners and boycott, boycott the normal rules.
Speaker 1: I think most of us have to subscribe to.
Speaker 2: Different But you and I have matched the same people
Speaker 2: online dating, like it happens.
Speaker 1: You're not my mom, That's what I'm saying. That's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. I was like, we've we've been there, We've
Speaker 1: we've doubled dinner. Yeah, we've been on dates with the
Speaker 1: same people only to find out afterwards. Yeah we intention
Speaker 1: I dated a guy for a little bit, discovered some
Speaker 1: issues there, and then Britt was like, I'm going on
Speaker 1: a date with this person. I was like, oh, if
Speaker 1: I don't do that, I still went on the date.
Speaker 2: You were like, I'll save it. See you want to
Speaker 2: do some research, you like, see if the issues are
Speaker 2: still there.
Speaker 1: What would you do though, if you were, you know,
Speaker 1: sharing dating apps, like your mum was in the dating
Speaker 1: scene and she was you looked at their Tinder and
Speaker 1: I know that this is kind of a different one
Speaker 1: because Saylor set it up for her mum, so like
Speaker 1: she also set up the age categories as well. But
Speaker 1: what would you do if you're both on a dating
Speaker 1: app and you discovered that you were matching with the
Speaker 1: same men? How would that make you feel? I'm quite
Speaker 1: quite altruistic, so I'd be like, get it, Mum. I
Speaker 1: feel like, go get it. I'll sacrifice them for you
Speaker 1: one hundred percent. I've got years ahead of me. God
Speaker 1: knows how long my mum would have if she was
Speaker 1: in the seventies. That's really kind, wouldn't you. I tap
Speaker 1: that mom? I was like, that's what i'd say.
Speaker 2: But my mom has been married for fifty years. She's
Speaker 2: not tapping anything.
Speaker 1: Yeah. No, Look, I actually can't imagine my mum on
Speaker 1: a dating app, but like, never say never. Hey, weird
Speaker 1: things about all right? Well, on that note, let's get
Speaker 1: out of here. Seeing a guy