WEBVTT - 👧 The Inbetween Girl 👧

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<v Speaker 1>Clea Flex and Frooms Flex and Frooms. This is the

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It is Flexing Rooms on Kita. I just it sucks

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<v Speaker 2>to come with the bad news, but you do need

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<v Speaker 2>to clean your dishwasher. It doesn't clean itself no matter

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<v Speaker 2>what the settings tell you. And also your washing machine.

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<v Speaker 2>And to be fair, there's a celebrity brand that you

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<v Speaker 2>won't hate that's just launched and it's not who you

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<v Speaker 2>think it's gonna be. It's not a Kardashian, it's not

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<v Speaker 2>a musician, it's an actor.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, enjoyed the shapeless girl. You're listening to Flex and

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<v Speaker 1>Frooms on Kita.

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<v Speaker 2>If you didn't grow up in a dishwasher household, I

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<v Speaker 2>recoon there's some shame there. I definitely grew up being

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<v Speaker 2>like way you guys had these. You guys had these,

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<v Speaker 2>and so in my late twenties now I have graduated

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<v Speaker 2>to a dishwasher household. There are a few things that

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<v Speaker 2>I did not understand about the process and the journey,

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<v Speaker 2>Like number one, you gotta clean your dishwasher.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I didn't know that. Did you know that, Mickey? No?

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<v Speaker 2>And we you didn't have a dish wash growing up,

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<v Speaker 2>so I'm not surprised one of mine. It was a

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<v Speaker 2>hand washed type of thing. And it's interesting though, because

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<v Speaker 2>it makes sense in theory that the thing that cleans

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<v Speaker 2>needs to be clean. Yes, but why aren't we cleaning them?

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<v Speaker 1>Because you can't be bothered?

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<v Speaker 2>No? Is that what it is like? For example, do

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<v Speaker 2>you know washing machines have to be cleaned? Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>And I clean mine because I bought it in new

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<v Speaker 1>and it's mine. How do you clean yours? Are you

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<v Speaker 1>put a rint through? Like there's a rinse that you

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<v Speaker 1>buy and then you put it on the rint setting.

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<v Speaker 2>But how are you draining it?

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<v Speaker 1>It all does it itself? It's got like a cleaning function.

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<v Speaker 2>What there is a separate filter. I'm not talking the

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<v Speaker 2>dry filter. I'm not talking the rint thing. There's a

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<v Speaker 2>little little plug at the bottom you gotta and there's

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<v Speaker 2>a different catch.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so scary. The man who sold it to me,

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<v Speaker 1>it didn't tell me.

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<v Speaker 2>What's it gonna tell you? Hey, with this thing that

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<v Speaker 2>you're about to buy, this extra maintenance, it's about to

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<v Speaker 2>be ature, not a convenience. And then I was thinking, so.

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<v Speaker 1>No, no, no, no no no so so no no no

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<v Speaker 1>no no no no no, no, no paid. Oh the thousand

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<v Speaker 1>dollars for that one?

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<v Speaker 2>Is it a Samsung? You've had a thousand dollars? You

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<v Speaker 2>got a discount the second hand? First up, I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like you lied. That felt like a lie you said

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<v Speaker 2>for the first up.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I bought a new I was very proud of

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<v Speaker 1>myself you.

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<v Speaker 3>Hello, lovely.

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<v Speaker 1>Another day, another time to dissect dating culture, because it

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<v Speaker 1>is all around us. We were discussing it today. How

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<v Speaker 1>there you can buy premium Tinder for five hundred dollars

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<v Speaker 1>a month. That is allegedly going to work. But we'll

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<v Speaker 1>see about that. Today we have a cent in message

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<v Speaker 1>question from a dear listener, and I'm just gonna get

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<v Speaker 1>straight to it. Hey, gremlins, I'm coming to you from

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<v Speaker 1>unfortunate circumstances for which I require your feedback. Hunting. I

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<v Speaker 1>have been on a lot of dates this year and

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<v Speaker 1>have stuck in what I would say, three or four situationships.

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<v Speaker 1>With every situationship comes that little heartbreak you experience, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the glimpse of fope that this person might be different,

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<v Speaker 1>and then the situation proves to end like all the others.

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<v Speaker 1>Babes that I really like you, but I'm not ready,

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<v Speaker 1>la la la la la, or it's not you, it's me,

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<v Speaker 1>et cetera, et cetera. Hitting some home truths there, my friend.

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<v Speaker 1>What has really been getting me through, though, is that

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<v Speaker 1>all the guys seem to get in relationships quickly after

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<v Speaker 1>anything's with me, whether it's getting back with an X

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<v Speaker 1>or a whole new girl. I am sadly the in

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<v Speaker 1>between girl right now, and it's left me feeling like

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<v Speaker 1>shite tbh. My self confidence is my self confidence is

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<v Speaker 1>through the floor right now. Please help, sincerely, the in

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<v Speaker 1>between girl. Aya ya ya yaii. Listen. I'm unsure we're

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<v Speaker 1>to start with this, but I'm sure we will get

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<v Speaker 1>to the bottom of it for you because I feel

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<v Speaker 1>for you, and I think there is a way to

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<v Speaker 1>circumvent this problem and this feeling. I will start by saying,

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<v Speaker 1>if you start dating somebody and they say I really

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<v Speaker 1>like you butt or I'm not ready, you have to

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<v Speaker 1>take that as truth. I feel like it's so easy

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<v Speaker 1>to be like, oh, but you know they might change,

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<v Speaker 1>or if I stick around long enough, and I have

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<v Speaker 1>to say I speak on behalf of everybody. Ever, I

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<v Speaker 1>think everyone's done that, because when you really like someone,

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<v Speaker 1>you're like, well, I really like them, we really get along,

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<v Speaker 1>so why are they of course they're going to change.

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<v Speaker 1>I can convince them, and that just serves to really

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<v Speaker 1>hurt you in the end. So what I would do

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<v Speaker 1>if I were in your position, young Gremlin, is the

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<v Speaker 1>minute that I hear someone say, oh, I'm not ready

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<v Speaker 1>for something. If I'm ready for something, you have to

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<v Speaker 1>just attach, like you literally have to cut that off immediately,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's so easy to it's so easy for them.

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<v Speaker 1>What they've essentially done is given themselves an out so

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<v Speaker 1>they can still enjoy spending time with you, hanging out

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<v Speaker 1>with you, and yeah, like they might develop feelings, but

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<v Speaker 1>if they don't, and they keep hanging out with you,

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<v Speaker 1>getting all the good things about you, they can easily

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<v Speaker 1>just say, oh, you know, I told you that I

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't interested anyway. So I think they've got too much

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<v Speaker 1>power over you right now, And even for your own sake,

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<v Speaker 1>I think it could be interesting and sometimes it's a

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<v Speaker 1>bit of an ego boost where you just let them

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<v Speaker 1>go and then see what they do. Like, think of

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<v Speaker 1>it as a fun game. If they're gonna play games

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<v Speaker 1>with you, play a game back, and meanwhile, try and

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<v Speaker 1>find a new a new friend to hang out with

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<v Speaker 1>that but I feel you, this is really hard. But yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>My biggest advice is when someone tells you how they feel,

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<v Speaker 1>understand that it would have been hard for them to

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<v Speaker 1>even send that message, so they mean it. Okay, you're

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<v Speaker 1>listening to Flex and Rooms on Kaita.

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<v Speaker 2>People are getting increasingly sick of celebrity brands, but is

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<v Speaker 2>this one different? Listen to this video from lux Collective.

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<v Speaker 3>Angelina Julie is opening her own create your own Clothes

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<v Speaker 3>store in New York.

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<v Speaker 1>Well does that even mean? So?

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<v Speaker 3>The concept originated us twenty years of covering humanitarian stories.

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<v Speaker 3>She had uncovered some of the horror and effects of

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<v Speaker 3>the fashion industry and the environment, and also in the

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<v Speaker 3>lack of recognition to the people who actually make the clothes.

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<v Speaker 3>And so Angelina Jolie is open in this workshop so

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<v Speaker 3>that the tailors and artisans receive the credit they deserve.

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<v Speaker 3>So you can take in your clothes to get them

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<v Speaker 3>refit or reimagined and not cycled into something new, and

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<v Speaker 3>they'll only be using leftover quality, vintage materials or dead

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<v Speaker 3>stock to reduce the waste and be more sustainable.

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<v Speaker 1>That is so impressive. I can't point together.

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<v Speaker 2>We've got to see no complaints about this one. We've

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<v Speaker 2>got to see this one viral sold out, lines out

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<v Speaker 2>the door. It is everything that people are claiming to want,

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<v Speaker 2>and so this is it. In practice. We talk about

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<v Speaker 2>over consumption, we talk about sustainability, and we also talk

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<v Speaker 2>about celebrities having a responsibility to do better by themselves,

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<v Speaker 2>by their audiences and buy the world give them the

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<v Speaker 2>amount of power that they do have. They mentioned that

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<v Speaker 2>Angelina Jolie has spent a lot of time utilizing her

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<v Speaker 2>likeness and her brand too. I wouldn't say, but to

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<v Speaker 2>raise awareness about humanitarian crisis crises either way. So I

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<v Speaker 2>imagine this will go really well. It does worry me though,

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<v Speaker 2>because this brand has been out for about two or

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<v Speaker 2>three months now, and have you heard it about it?

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<v Speaker 2>For me? No, just come on your timeline. Are called

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<v Speaker 2>it's called Itelier Jolie. It sounds luck it sounds really beautiful.

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't seen I tried to google actual people who

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<v Speaker 2>have used the service, not just talking about what the

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<v Speaker 2>service is. You haven't seen that come through yet. I

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<v Speaker 2>was reading some of the comments on this video and

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<v Speaker 2>they were talking about there were a few people who

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<v Speaker 2>said that when they were studying business that they had

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<v Speaker 2>pitched a similar idea and their lecture had been like

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<v Speaker 2>that would never work. That's a bad business model. There's

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<v Speaker 2>no growth in it. And perhaps it is. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe this isn't something that is going to be her

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<v Speaker 2>next cash cow. But I think this in itself could

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<v Speaker 2>start a trend. I mean, we've seen a ton of

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<v Speaker 2>other brands like coach Hose, coach Topia, where they're taking

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<v Speaker 2>their recycled they're taking older bags and dead stock bags,

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<v Speaker 2>ripping them apart, and you can make your own one

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<v Speaker 2>of a kind bad cool. So it's happening slowly, but surely.

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<v Speaker 2>I just think that there's a bit of a marketing

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<v Speaker 2>problem with these things. They feel quite underground in the know.

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<v Speaker 2>You have to know to know, or be really interested

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<v Speaker 2>in just the news cycle to be across it. It's

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<v Speaker 2>not really going viral like I would have assumed it would,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'll keep you posted on how it goes, and

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<v Speaker 2>hopefully this time next week I can find someone who's

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<v Speaker 2>actually been before.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes please, type of FLEXI is a big question.

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<v Speaker 2>Where I pose the question. It helps you unpack what

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<v Speaker 2>you think, why you think it, and who is influencing

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<v Speaker 2>the way that you think. I rip these questions from

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<v Speaker 2>my conversation card game reflex because why think about them

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<v Speaker 2>from scratch when I already thought about them once before.

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<v Speaker 2>This is a really good one. It's a bit of positivity.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to do that because positivity gets boring sometimes.

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<v Speaker 2>But question of the week, what keeps you hopeful when

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<v Speaker 2>everything around you is falling apart? I feel as though

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<v Speaker 2>when we look at people who we perceive to be optimistic,

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<v Speaker 2>they're mostly into in a way that just serves to

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<v Speaker 2>hurt them in future. Like people who are so in

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<v Speaker 2>denial about everything around them. You're like, Okay, your time

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<v Speaker 2>is coming. But when you're actively aware of the world, life, society,

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<v Speaker 2>what keeps you hopeful and in a good mood. Kind

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<v Speaker 2>of reminds me of that conversation we have with Clementine Ford,

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<v Speaker 2>and she was talking about how cis hat women feel

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<v Speaker 2>hopeful about marriage and it working out for them because

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<v Speaker 2>even though the stats say otherwise, they see a depiction

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<v Speaker 2>of romance or a depiction of union, and they think, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>that could be memm hmm, Clementine. The gift that keeps

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<v Speaker 2>on giving anyway, if you want to answer this question.

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<v Speaker 2>Go to our Instagram story it's Flex and Frooms. There'll

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<v Speaker 2>be a question box. Put your answer in there, and

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<v Speaker 2>then on Thursday, I'll read out a few anonymously and

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<v Speaker 2>we shall discuss anxiety with Flex and Firms on CADA.

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